The Lost Lessons: Emotions

Emotional Intelligence & Self Awareness

GingerRRT — Wed, 21 Jan 2026 15:17:57 GMT

The abilities called here emotional intelligence, which include self-control, zeal and persistence, and the ability to motivate oneself. And these skills, as we shall see, can be taught to children, giving them a better chance to use whatever intellectual potential the genetic lottery may have given them.

Beyond this possibility looms a pressing moral imperative. These are times when the fabric of society seems to unravel at ever-greater speed, when selfishness, violence, and a meanness of spirit seem to be rotting the goodness of our communal lives. Here the argument for the importance of emotional intelligence hinges on the link between sentiment, character, and moral instincts. There is growing evidence that fundamental ethical stances in life stem from underlying emotional capacities. For one, impulse is the medium of emotion; the seed of all impulse is a feeling bursting to express itself in action. Those who are at the mercy of impulse—who lack self-control—suffer a moral deficiency:

The ability to control impulse is the base of will and character. By the same token, the root of altruism lies in empathy, the ability to read emotions in others; lacking a sense of another’s need or despair, there is no caring. And if there are any two moral stances that our times call for, they are precisely these, self-restraint and compassion.

The emotional/rational dichotomy approximates the folk (distinction between “heart” and “head”; knowing something is right “in your heart” is a different order of conviction—somehow a deeper kind of certainty—than thinking so with your rational mind. There is a steady gradient in the ratio of rational-to-emotional control over the mind; the more intense the feeling, the more dominant the emotional mind becomes—and the more ineffectual the rational. This is an arrangement that seems to stem from eons of evolutionary advantage to having emotions and intuitions guide our instantaneous response in situations where our lives are in peril —and where pausing to think over what to do could cost us our lives.

These two minds, the emotional and the rational, operate in tight harmony for the most part, intertwining their very different ways of knowing to guide us through the world. Ordinarily there is a balance between emotional and rational minds, with emotion feeding into and informing the operations of the rational mind, and the rational mind refining and sometimes vetoing the inputs of the emotions. Still, the emotional and rational minds are semi-independent faculties, each, as we shall see, reflecting the operation of distinct, but interconnected, circuitry in the brain.

In many or most moments these minds are exquisitely coordinated; feelings are essential to thought, thought to feeling. But when passions surge the balance tips: it is the emotional mind that captures the upper hand, swamping the rational mind.

Emotional skills include:

self-awareness; identifying, expressing, and managing feelings;
impulse control and delaying gratification; and

A key ability in impulse control is knowing the difference between feelings and actions, and learning to make better emotional decisions by first controlling the impulse to act, then identifying alternative actions and their consequences before acting.

handling stress and anxiety.

Many competences are interpersonal: reading social and emotional cues, listening, being able to resist negative influences, taking others’ perspectives, and understanding what behavior is acceptable in a situation.

These are among the core emotional and social skills for life, and include at least partial remedies for most.

THE ABC’S OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Understand that it is almost always a secondary reaction and to look for what’s underneath—are you hurt? jealous?

“Learn that you always have choices about how you respond to emotion, and the more ways you know to respond to an emotion, the richer your life can be.”

The topics needed to look at… include self-awareness, in the sense of recognizing feelings and building a vocabulary for them, and seeing the links between thoughts, feelings, and reactions; knowing if thoughts or feelings are ruling a decision; seeing the consequences of alternative choices; and applying these insights to decisions about such issues as drugs, smoking, and sex.

Self-awareness also takes the form of recognizing your strengths and weaknesses, and seeing yourself in a positive but realistic light (and so avoiding a common pitfall of the self-esteem movement).

Another emphasis is managing emotions: realizing what is behind a feeling (for example, the hurt that triggers anger), and learning ways to handle anxieties, anger, and sadness. Still another emphasis is on taking responsibility for decisions and actions, and following through on commitments.

A key social ability is empathy, understanding others’ feelings and taking their perspective, and respecting differences in how people feel about things.

Relationships are a major focus, including learning to be a good listener and question-asker; distinguishing between what someone says or does and your own reactions and judgments; being assertive rather than angry or passive; and learning the arts of cooperation, conflict resolution, and negotiating compromise.

Needed Skills

EMOTIONAL SKILLS

• Identifying and labeling feelings

• Expressing feelings

• Assessing the intensity of feelings

• Managing feelings

• Delaying gratification

• Controlling impulses

• Reducing stress

• Knowing the difference between feelings and actions

COGNITIVE SKILLS

• Self-talk—conducting an “inner dialogue” as a way to cope with a topic or challenge or reinforce one’s own behavior

• Reading and interpreting social cues—for example, recognizing social influences on behavior and seeing oneself in the perspective of the larger community

• Using steps for problem-solving and decision-making—for instance, controlling impulses, setting goals, identifying alternative actions, anticipating consequences

• Understanding the perspective of others

• Understanding behavioral norms (what is and is not acceptable behavior)

• A positive attitude toward life

• Self-awareness—for example, developing realistic expectations about oneself

BEHAVIORAL SKILLS

• Nonverbal—communicating through eye contact, facial expressiveness, tone of voice, gestures, and so on

• Verbal—making clear requests, responding effectively to criticism, resisting negative influences, listening to others, helping others, participating in positive peer group

START WITH:

Impulse control, is one of the first to learn self-control

STOPLIGHT

Red light. 1. Stop, calm down, and think before you act.

Yellow light

2. Say the problem and how you feel.

3. Set a positive goal. (Attitude)

4. Think of lots of solutions.

5. Think ahead to the consequences.

Green Light. 6. Go ahead and try the best plan.

Use with the 5 Agreements in knowing yourself and in updating your owner's manual.

EI Benefits

EMOTIONAL SELF-AWARENESS

• Improvement in recognizing and naming own emotions

• Better able to understand the causes of feelings

• Recognizing the difference between feelings and actions

MANAGING EMOTIONS

• Better frustration tolerance and anger management

• Fewer verbal put-downs, fights, and classroom disruptions

• Better able to express anger appropriately, without fighting

• Fewer suspensions and expulsions

• Less aggressive or self-destructive behavior

• More positive feelings about self, school, and family

• Better at handling stress

• Less loneliness and social anxiety

HARNESSING EMOTIONS PRODUCTIVELY

• More responsible

• Better able to focus on the task at hand and pay attention

• Less impulsive; more self-control

• Improved scores on achievement tests

EMPATHY: READING EMOTIONS

• Better able to take another person’s perspective

• Improved empathy and sensitivity to others’ feelings

• Better at listening to others

HANDLING RELATIONSHIPS

• Increased ability to analyze and understand relationships

• Better at resolving conflicts and negotiating disagreements

• Better at solving problems in relationships

• More assertive and skilled at communicating

• More popular and outgoing; friendly and involved with peers

• More sought out by peers

• More concerned and considerate

• More “pro-social” and harmonious in groups

• More sharing, cooperation, and helpfulness

• More democratic in dealing with others

Excerpts from:

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

WHY IT CAN MATTER MORE THAN IQ

DANIEL GOLEMAN

Disciplines of the Personality

GingerRRT — Sun, 07 Sep 2025 17:28:47 GMT

#1. The 4th Agreement

Willingness

try try try

Self-Discipline

Putting the 4 Agreements into daily use

Willfulness characterizes the unharnessed human will, whereas willingness identifies the strong will of a person willing to go where he or she is called or led by a higher power.

(I say willingness is the ability to say yes and try to change or reach a compromise….)

Emotional self-control is mind control

Always try your best… and keep trying again, again and again. (humans aren’t perfect) (practice gratitude)

You will fail often. Keep at it…… It’s a lifelong fight….

No one is perfect, keep trying even after each mistake….

Was what they said based on their ego?

Review what you said. Was it necessary to say what you said?

Was it based on the ego or love?

Could you have said nothing?

Use the POWER TOOLS until they become your automatic response, not your automatic reaction.

Watching people’s actions, words, and attitudes shows their character.

Learning is through experience because experience is the out-picturing or expression of consciousness. Their or your level of personality of vibration, or tone of God’s energy.

The Master of Transformation is also a Master of Love, or we might say a Master of Intent. These are synonymous terms.

The warrior learns that the truth is love.

Do a nightly life review to stay on track

Think through the day and review the spontaneous events that happened for which you could be considered a blessing. (For example, did you open the door for someone, or put extra money in the parking meter for the next car?)
Think over the spontaneous events of the day when someone else was a blessing in your life. Give thanks and take a very deep breath. You have now activated your spiritual recognition of the flow of divinity from the higher dimensions into this one.
Assess the events you feel you could have handled differently. Put yourself in the other person’s place to understand the other point of view. If applicable, forgive yourself and surround the situation with light. Assert to make any necessary amends. Do so without the ego that prevents many of us from being objective. The truth about your history is important in overcoming beliefs based on fear and shame, The bottom line is that if you don’t confront your history, it confronts you.”
Say your prayers (your willful, conscious intentions ) and go to sleep.
First thing in the morning, count your blessings. A conscious state of gratitude creates a vibratory magnetic field around you that will serve to attract more blessings throughout the day.

The goal of a daily life review is to evolve as a spiritual being. When you realize that there is more to you than what politics, economics, and religion are trying to force you to become, you grow stronger. When that happens, you find the most important truth at the core of all of us is that we are mighty spiritual beings. Most of us have forgotten that such a core is there.

Lost Lesson

The goal of the curriculum, regardless of the teacher you choose (ego or love), is “Know thyself.” There is nothing else to seek. Everyone is looking for themselves and for the power and glory they think he has lost. Whenever you are with anyone, you have another opportunity to find them. Your power and glory are in him because they are yours. The ego tries to find them in yourself alone, because it does not know where to look. To achieve the goal of the curriculum, then, you cannot listen to the ego.

The Holy Spirit teaches you that if you look only at yourself, you cannot find yourself, because that is not what you are.

The lesson is that your will and God’s cannot be out of accord because they are one. When you have learned that your will is God’s, you could no more will to be without Him than He could will to be without you. This is freedom, and this is joy. The recognition of God is the recognition of yourself. There is no separation of God and His creation. You will realize this when you understand that there is no separation between your will and God’s will.

The ego tries to teach that you want to oppose God’s Will.

You must ask what God’s Will is in everything, because it is yours. You do not know what it is, but the Holy Spirit remembers it for you. Ask Him, therefore, what God’s Will is for you, and He will tell you yours. It cannot be too often repeated that you do not know it. Whenever what the Holy Spirit tells you appears to be coercive, it is only because you have not recognized your will.

God has given you a place in His Mind that is yours forever. Yet you can keep it only by giving it, as it was given to you. Could you be alone there when it was given to you because God did not want to be alone? God’s Mind cannot be lessened. It can only be increased, for everything He creates has the function of creating. Love does not limit, and what it creates is not limited.

To give without limit is God’s Will for you, because only this can bring you the joy that is His and that He wills to share with you. Your love is as boundless as His because it is His.

Could any part of God be without His Love, and could any part of His Love be contained? God is your heritage, because His one gift is Himself. How can you give except like Him if you would know His gift to you? Give, then, without limit and without end, to learn how much He has given you. Your ability to accept Him depends on your willingness to give as He gives. Your fatherhood and your Father are One. God wills to create, and your will is His. It follows, then, that you will create, since your will follows from His. And being an extension of His Will, yours must be the same.

Reason

The introduction of reason into the ego’s thought system is the beginning of its undoing, for reason and the ego are contradictory. Nor is it possible for them to coexist in your awareness. For reasons, the goal is to make it plain and therefore obvious. You can see the reason. This is not a play on words, for here is the beginning of a vision that has meaning. Vision is sense, quite literally. If it is not the body’s sight, it must be understood. (seeing with love or God’s vision)For it is plain, and what is obvious is not ambiguous. It can be understood. And here reason and the ego separate, to go their separate ways.

The ego’s whole continuity depends on its belief that you cannot learn this course. Share this belief, and reason will be unable to see your errors and make way for their correction. For reasons, seeing through errors, telling you what you thought was real is not. Reason can see the difference between sin and mistakes, because it wants correction. Therefore, it tells you that what you thought was uncorrectable can be corrected, and thus it must have been an error. The ego’s opposition to correction leads to its fixed belief in sin and disregard of errors. It looks at nothing that can be corrected. Thus does the ego damn, and reason save.

Everything the body’s eyes can see is a mistake, an error in perception, a distorted fragment of the whole without the meaning that the whole would give. And yet mistakes, regardless of their form, can be corrected. Sin is but an error in a special form the ego venerates. It would preserve all errors and make them sins. For here is its stability, its heavy anchor in the shifting world it made; the rock on which its church is built, and where its worshippers are bound to bodies, believing the body’s freedom is their own.

Reason will tell you that the form of error is not what makes it a mistake. If what the form conceals is a mistake, the form cannot prevent correction. The body’s eyes see only form. They cannot see beyond what they were made to see. And they were made to look on error and not see past it

Emotional Guidance System

Follow your Emotions, Feelings, Beliefs

Life is Emotions

EMOTIONAL SELF-CONTROL

Life is about having joy. It’s about increasing our ability to give and receive love, and it’s about gaining all the knowledge we can. It’s also about serving others, feeling grateful for all that we have, and learning to create the life we want.

It’s the sweetness of your heart. Attitude, the energy you create….

The first key to a good relationship is….

You must have your own shit together before you can be a good partner. To have a successful team each teammate needs to build and maintain a strong foundation of their own personal house.

You must want to be the best you can be. This isn't for the lazy person. This is about improving your inner self. This is where we live and how we control our world. READ RELENTLESS and apply that mind set to improving your inner world.

** Several words from several authors to describe God and the the part of us that doesn’t die: soul/spirit; divine spark in all of us.. Love, Light, consciousness, Tao, Chi, ying and Yang source, vortex, unified field, creative source, life force- soul substance- matrix, creative substance, field of intention, Quantom field, zero point field, etc....

A lot of these videos are quacks pushing their books, products, etc.. I don’t believe a lot of what they state but do think certain points, techniques and explanations can help in understanding the emotional IQ area and in explaining the human instruction manual ......

Hard Work &

By the disciplines of the personality

knowledge of self, and
strengthening of will
acceptance of self
forgiveness of self, and the
direction of the will

this is the path towards the disciplined personality.

The heart of the discipline of the personality is threefold.

One, know yourself
Two, accept yourself
Three, change your thought system

The third step is that step which, when accomplished, renders one the most humble servant of all, transparent in personality and completely able to know and accept other selves. That we are in control of only ourselves.

Discipline, Discipline, Discipline

This is the technique….

The real way is through The Evolution of The Heart

It is one of complete universality of love. A giving without expectation of return

Love, Emotions, Perception, Feelings & Behavior

THE EIGHTFOLD PATH

WISDOM

Right View: seeing life as it truly is — impermanent, interconnected.

Right Intention: walking in renunciation, goodwill, and harmlessness.

ETHICAL CONDUCT

Right Speech: no lies, no harm with the tongue.

Right Action: respect for life, honesty, non-exploitation.

Right Livelihood: earning without causing harm.

MENTAL DISCIPLINE

Right Effort: cultivating what is wholesome, releasing what poisons.

Right Mindfulness: presence in body, mind, spirit.

Right Concentration: stillness, meditation, deep clarity.

BALANCE

Attaining a Balanced-Self....Mind, Body, Emotions & Energy

We will focus on re-building & maintaining emotional balance & self-discipline or self-awareness.

The basis of emotionally healthy living involves handling your own emotional inner world, before you can have a lasting relationship.

There are many inter-related parts to developing an emotionally healthy inner world.

The area we are focused on..........

✅ Personal Responsibility

This is the primary principle that guides. At first glance, this principle is sometimes hard to accept. It seems so much easier to accept even defeat if only one can blame the circumstances or bad luck or other people’s faults. Accepting the law of personal responsibility wipes out self-pity, resignation, passive endurance, smoldering resentments against the injustices of life, and the masochistic game of harping on one’s case against life...

You should never believe even for an instant that what you experience is unjust and unfair, no matter how much it may appear that way.

In the last analysis, in absolute truth and reality, you agreed to it or even caused it. You have to find the cause or the why and find a different way to come out of it than the direction you have taken so far.

3 steps to take.............

Step 1: “Practice Acceptance, meaning accept people, situations, circumstances and events as they occur. Know that this moment is as it should be, because the whole universe is as it should be.” When you feel frustrated or upset by a person or a situation, remember that you are not reacting to the person or the situation, but to your feelings about the person or the situation. These are your feelings, and your feelings are not someone else’s fault. When you recognize and understand this completely, you are ready to take responsibility for how you feel and to change it. And if you can accept things as they are, you are ready to take responsibility for your situation and for all the events you see as problems.

Step 2: “Take Responsibility for my situation and for all those events I see as problems. I know that taking responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for my situation.” No excuses... As you tend to your relationship between you (in your physical focus) and the Broader Perspective of your Inner Self, as you train yourself, as you come into alignment with who-you-really-are, as you learn to love yourself—the others with whom you interact will not be able to buck that current of Well-Being.

Step 3: “Defenselessness, I will feel no need to convince or persuade others to accept my point of view. I will remain open.” Your awareness is established in defenselessness, and you have relinquished the need to convince or persuade others of your point of view.

❌ Should

The moment should is in play, you have come to the small self and a reference point of what should is. The denial of God is what claims should. The Divine is always present, so you cannot label it with a should, because to make it should is to deny what it is. “It should be a better friendship, a better marriage, a better child-and-parent relation.” The moment the should is in play, the relationship is changed to a future expectation of what it should be.

When you decide things based on history, you accrue evidence of outcome. “This is what I will expect based on what I have known, this is how I will choose,” predicating an outcome that you foresee born in your agreement to what you have known. A decision born in knowing does not rely upon the old. The True Self, the aspect of self who knows, will accrue the evidence to support knowing.

Reality

Reality, as far as humans are concerned, consists of the things we experience. The universe is information. Everything in the universe consists of vibrational information... the basis of life is freedom; the result of life is expansion—and the purpose of life

All we know comes from our memories of our experiences. Everyone has their own personal, opinionated and very subjective experiences. To be in the "know" of life, to know the processes of life, to understand and perceive what life is about. Essentially, only what you perceive you know; the rest is all imagination. Whatever people cannot perceive right now, they are trying to imagine and believe.

Belief systems have created a phenomenal amount of division in humanity. Today, all the conflict on this planet is not between "good and evil" as people try to project; it is always about one man's belief versus another man's belief. You believe something, I believe something else. We are bound to fight some day; there is no question about it. It can’t be denied that reality only comes to us through subjective experience. Life is a set of experiences that align you to greater knowing.

Reality is created by each of us only by attention in our intentions. Our purpose is to remember that we need to think from our soul, the heart and love... and NOT to think from the ego of the mind and fear.

It is our soul purpose to remember who we really are and to remind others of who they are (Love)...

We are all creators not victims. To create and recreate ourselves. Thoughts and perception form the shape or the feelings that create the substance of who we are.

Life is about being the source, not in receiving. Seeing the good in everything and every event. Each experience is a hidden treasure.

What is good for you is good for another. What is bad for you is bad for another. Be Love, be who you want to be... to be true to yourself, always to be who you want to be, comes first. Sharing your love with another is giving back to yourself. Sharing Love with the other.... not for the other.

✅ I] Receptive and aware to the fact we are all connected to and by God

You must love God and understand God loves you.

Sometimes bad things happen to good people for no apparent reason, but for the most part...... The trained mind knows that every transaction must benefit every person who is in any way connected with the transaction, and any attempt to profit by the weakness, ignorance, or necessity of another will inevitably operate to his or her disadvantage. AKA-- The Golden Rule. When you understand your experiences, you are less likely to take them personally—to react with anger, righteous outrage, judgment, etc. (Remember: Judge not lest you be judged.

Reverence:

Our behavior and values are so much shaped by perceptions that lack reverence that we do not know what it is like to be reverent. One must have reverence. Reverence is simply the experience of accepting that all Life is, in and of itself, of value. Reverence is not respect. Respect is a judgment. Reverence is an attitude of honoring Life. The decision to become a reverent person is essentially the decision to become a spiritual person. Learning to think with your heart not your ego...

You can’t think your way out of difficult emotions. All that can ever accomplish is to feed the energy underlying the emotion and prolong your suffering.

✅ II] Having sense of being worthy or a healthy self-worth self-love

Many people lack a solid sense of themselves. They have no real sense of their own identity. One must have a certain amount of Self-Love. (learn to like and love themselves.)

Self-esteem, self-liking, or self-value—whatever you call it—is sorely lacking in every human being who experiences feelings of uncertainty, fear, insecurity, guilt, weakness, doubt, negativity, inadequacy, and inferiority. To the degree these feelings are present, self-esteem is inevitably lacking, only this is not directly recognized. They have no real sense of their own identity. Others get emotionally claustrophobic or overly dependent in committed relationships. Focusing on yourself...

• Or they're rigid, brittle, controlling, and bend their relationships to fit their own needs and wants

• They become increasingly dependent--emotionally fused--with their partner.

To the degree you lack a solid sense of self you depend on a reflected sense of self. You depend on getting a positive reflected sense of self from other people. Many people say they want intimacy, but what they're looking for is:

• Validation,

• Acceptance,

• Unconditional love

There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel validated, accepted and dearly loved. But if you depend on a reflected sense of self, you crash when these aren't forthcoming, and you spend lots of time talking about "safety and security," "abandonment," and vulnerability.

If you cannot love yourself, you cannot love others and you cannot stand to see others loved. If you cannot treat your own self kindly you will resent that treatment when you see it in anyone else. If you cannot love yourself, loving others becomes a very painful endeavor with only occasional moments of comfort.

The basis of loving is healthy self-love: If you are insecure, you cannot trust yourself. If you do not trust yourself, how can you love yourself? So you see, healthy self-love and inner security are directly linked. And since love for others is dependent on healthy self-love, the former is equally dependent on and connected with inner security.

Structure is the foundation of the personality. It includes your vision of life, your purpose for being here, your deepest goals, your view of physical existence, and your attitude. Why are you alive? What is your overall purpose? To what higher values have you offered your allegiance? These are structural questions, and when you can see them clearly, they bring their own answers. What are your goals, what do you want to achieve in life.

Self-image: You cannot possibly have a good relationship with others unless you first have a good relationship with yourself. These threefold aspects must first be applied to yourself.

1. How do you perceive yourself?

How do you react to what you perceive in yourself?
And how do you express that which you perceive in yourself?

If you are not at war with yourself, your perception will be clear. If you are at war with yourself by demanding to be other than you are now, you cannot perceive yourself correctly. For example, if you are unwilling, and therefore apparently incapable of, shedding your idealized self-image, if you insist on living up to its unreasonable demands, then your perception of yourself must be faulty and limited.

Are you expressing with love or one of negativity, hostility and rejection. Etc...... But if you perceive yourself in a more healthy way shedding your negativity, the threefold principle governing relationships will change from the negative to the positive. When you will perceive yourself correctly, you will react productively to what you perceive, and you will express it in a meaningful way.

Self-love and love for others are intricately connected. Self awareness is looking and examining self-image.

Love of self is first

Understanding that if you can’t love yourself first you can’t love another. Love resides within and to share our love with another is the goal, not for the other. Providing each individual their own personal freedom, growth and joy. Each person being their own source of love and happiness. To promise to accept one another as we are and as we evolve in life’s experiences. Sharing life’s up and downs and sharing all that is good within each individual.

Life is "for giving" and in order to do that, you need to be forgiving to others—especially those who did not give you what you thought you were going to get!

“Self-importance is man’s greatest enemy. What weakens him is feeling offended by the deeds and misdeeds of his fellow man. Self-importance requires that one spend most of one’s life offended by something or someone.” Basically, your feelings of self-importance are what make you feel special, so let’s deal with this concept of being special. It’s essential that you have a strong self-concept and that you feel unique. The problem is when you misidentify who you truly are by identifying yourself as your body, your achievements, and your possessions. With the self as the main focal point, you sustain the illusion that you are your body, which is a completely separate entity from all others...Ego stands for - Edge God Out

✅ III] Self-Awareness or self knowledge is a nonjudgmental witnessing viewing, or seeing of yourself and how you interact with your life.

Awareness of the creative conscious mind and the habitual or subconscious mind. (Emotional Awareness)

Many experts believe that insufficient self-knowledge is the most common cause of leadership failure. You must bring awareness to yourself and what you are doing or not doing that is straining or stressing any of your relationships.

Anyone can develop their sense of self-awareness by concentrating on what they are receiving through their five senses. Our physical senses derive their sensitivity from the sensitivity of our mind. In response to our sensory experience and our interpretation of that external experience with our feelings and desires, we decide to behave in certain ways. Simply put, stay present. When we are present, we are grounded and connected to what is happening now. There is a saying,

“When we are depressed, we are living in the past.
When we are anxious, we are living in the future, .
When we are calm, we are living in the present.”

The past is history, the future is a mystery, and this moment is a gift. That is why, this moment is called ‘the present’. ”When you are present in the moment, you are detached from your thoughts, feelings, and emotions and instead are aware of how they are moving and changing. This will help you to see yourself from an objective place and not through your emotions.

“Overall the phases are never that clearly defined. They overlap and there are many spirals within the spiral, yet the movement is not haphazard but an expression of such profound harmony and lawfulness in a larger scheme that the human consciousness can sense it only vaguely, at best.”

Awareness is about OBSERVING more then doing all of your nonsense. The less you do the more aware you become, "awareness is not something you do."

Attitude

All the actions of the mind are involved, as are all the desires or intentions of our love. So is all the thoughts that shape our perception. All the contents of our memory, all the images of our thinking that are closest to our speech, are also drawn from this source. It is necessary to first understand that all thoughts and feelings are powerful agents of creative energy, regardless of whether the thoughts are true and wise or false and limited.

Likewise, whether the feelings are loving or hateful, angry or benign, fearful or peaceful, their energy must create according to their nature. It is from these, focused into actions, that our deeds arise, deeds in whose outward form are so hard to see how or where they originated from. These sequences must be connected with, understood, and fully recognized. (self-awareness)

The outside emotional (the bodies’) experience, results in the minds’ thought or interpretation/perception, that mold your feelings. Feelings from within form attitude and beliefs which result in your behavior. This turns into your life.

Ever hear, “it’s all about your attitude”? That’s because it is... Attitude

.... Attitude is the combined thought, feelings and the resulting action you have attached to each subject, person, experience etc... gratitude is attitude ….Your ENERGY

Gary Zukav says it’s aligning your personality with your soul. When the energy of the soul is recognized, acknowledged, and valued, it begins to infuse the life of the personality. When the personality comes fully to serve the energy of its soul, that is authentic empowerment, or self-awareness/emotional intelligence.

The world’s wisdom traditions teach that there is no “I” except awareness, and what it happens to be doing, which is knowing and experiencing.

All experience happens in consciousness, which means that if you want to get at the source of love, truth, beauty, hope, aspirations, art, insight, intuition, and scientific hypothesizing itself, the proper field to explore is consciousness itself.

One needs to be aware or more in the moment. This means to act more consciously. To make your desire consciously. The intensity of desire.

So one needs to organize energy, mind, emotions, energy, and body and thus your actions into your desire. It is all internal. You whole world is your perception of the outside world. Thus your whole life actually happens inside you, from your perceptions. You need a stable base to perceive from love. Because love is boundless. It is not control of your mind, it is about liberating your mind.

Consciousness gives you the answers to questions about meaning and purpose, such as “Who am I?” and “Why am I here?”

Nothing happens in the physical plane without it occurring first on a level of consciousness or non-physical world.

There are many important steps in becoming self-aware.

Real truth and love, real power, come from within.

Emotional IQ...

Attempt Self-Mastery by becoming an observer of the self.

aspects of self-awareness: is organizing the body/emotions, mind/feelings into the energy of love[the heart or field]

intention: [consciousness] every thought, every, idea, every reason, and desire should be based only in the knowledge of goodness & love [from within]. From the heart [substance/love]not the ego or mind. All consequence is the effect of thought, because thought precedes action and thought precedes anything created. This process also includes free will, willpower, attention & determination(the entangled mind.) Self-will with the ability to focus on the intention and to make sure it is from the heart and love. Learning not to react to emotions but to master the pause and respond.
the experience(the present)
emotions...... Emotions are the bodies reaction to the experience. The motion of your bodies energy is called emotion.The 5 senses react to the main two emotions of fear and love. Ego leads to protection of the self, by the way of fear, selfishness, and pride.

Perception is the most important step in the thought process.

perception: your thought process or interpretation of the physical experience and your bodies emotional response. Our primary attention is on survival in the physical world, and on protecting your ego, your beliefs and perceptions. Mind consists of memory, perception and imagination. [our feelings come from within and reside in the subconscious.] Perception is Love of the Truth. The goal is to think from your heart or from the awareness of the field(soul/God). Intentions of Love and interpretation infused with wisdom. Because wisdom is what forms love. A major overlooked factor is one needs to strive for a non-judgmental & objective perspective. Attitude or your Perceptions form your.....
feelings which is the end byproduct of your conscious awareness and interpretation[thought] of one of the two main emotions itself, from the experience. Feelings are your feedback on what you are thinking about (the union of thought and emotion).... Feelings of love should lead you. Memory is a huge part of this. Understand that memory is not reality. It is about what is past, it does not reside in the present. Habitual mind(unconscious) controls your body and almost all feelings. Every decision you make in your life is based on how you feel. Feelings are from past thoughts. They are what form your mental images. Feelings attached with strong emotions are the most profound memories. Understand your impressed mental images & beliefs per your upbringing, your opinions, personality, etc... are mostly biased. We let these beliefs, perceptions and memory all act like a judge, deciding whether an experience is positive or negative, right or wrong, desirable or undesirable. That's why being objective is so important. You are, who you are, from what you believe. Emotions of fear or love is the ingredients for your Thoughts- thoughts about these 2 main emotions turn into feelings of (hate, sadness, joy, compassion) which are from the heart. Feelings from past experiences are impressed and stored into your soul as your....

beliefs, attitudes, opinions etc.. which is the end product used in our.... energy or behavior

1. The process starts with intentions hopefully infused with love, willpower
and focus. Thinking from the heart not the ego mind. The foundation!
The present event or experience happens.....
Your initial bodies emotion to the experience is based on fear or love...
Perception (thought process)of the experience and initial emotion is what molds our....
Feelings(thought and emotions) - feelings form our.....
Attitude, opinions or our beliefs which is the basis of all our....
End energy or behavior.... All are interrelated, entangled and one logically leads to another, but at times we may focus more on one than the other... self awareness...
Sensations, images, feelings, thoughts are entangled modifications of awareness. It’s about detangling or aligning thoughts, feelings and actions...... the thoughts you think, the images you visualize(imagination), and the actions you take. The thought or perception of the experience can be changed by the path you decide to take. The body has two emotions, love or fear. Is your base core from thoughts based the ego mind or from the field or your heart? In our quantum world, it is always your choice. It can be from your little ego. But the heart has a much bigger electric and magnetic field because of its connection to Gods quantum field. Thus perception comprised of the ego or the heart forms our feelings. Feelings are what determines our beliefs. This end choice or belief is the invisible energy wave that transforms into our words and actions and our resulting world.

The individual human mind is like a computer terminal connected to a giant database. The database is human consciousness itself, of which our own consciousness is merely an individual expression, but with its roots in the common consciousness of all mankind. This database is the realm of genius; because to be human is to participate in the database, everyone by virtue of his birth has access to genius. The unlimited information contained in the database has now been shown to be readily available to anyone in a few seconds, at any time and in any place. This is indeed an astonishing discovery, bearing the power to change lives, both individually and collectively, to a degree never yet anticipated.

It is awareness of both the creative conscious and the habitual or subconscious mind.

Being conscious means you are aware of and not reacting from old ego systems. It is conscious that is the creator of new thoughts, attitudes & intentions.... Ego or the feeling of the self often overcomes the souls energy and is why we don't express ourselves from our spiritual self, and the source energy.

Choice is an aspect and a by-product and an activity of the function of will, and will begins in consciousness. What you choose, what you choose is what you choose. Period. When you have a choice, in any moment, to go with the lower or the higher, you can choose the higher if you want to. And the results of your life, those things that respond to those choices, will become higher in accordance.

Once you change the thought from the mind to the heart this changes the feelings that consist of your opinion or attitude. Adding feeling to desire is what gives it power. Being passionate and using imagination. Intentions or thought impregnated with Love becomes invincible.

Desire is the blueprint we act upon.

Perception rules our actions

It also a choice to be open, unjudgemental and willing to change.... Most people aren't..

All human actions are motivated at their deepest level by one of two emotions—fear or love. In truth there are only two emotions—only two words in the language of the soul. These are the opposite ends of the great polarity which I created when I produced the universe, and your world, as you know it today.

Every human thought, and every human action, is based in either love or fear. There is no other human motivation, and all other ideas are but derivatives of these two. They are simply different versions—different twists on the same theme. The goal of action should always be contemplation—knowing and being rather than seeking and becoming.

These are the two points—the Alpha and the Omega—which allow the system you call “relativity” to be. Without these two points, without these two ideas about things, no other idea could exist.

Every single bit of our being is nothing but experiences, feelings and thought.... Joy, Truth and Love

Relationship is the very essence of life. Relationship is life.

No one is capable of living productively without warmth and love, without sharing and mutual understanding.

You will never find yourself in a point in time when the subject of relationships is not an active part of your now experience, for everything you perceive or notice or know is because of your relationship with something else. Without a comparative experience, you would be unable to perceive or focus any kind of understanding within yourself.

Therefore, it is accurate to say that without relationships you could not exist at all.

It is truly in the scheme of things of the universal creative spirit

Einsteins relativity theory is what life is about. You can only be who you are, relative to any relationship. You are who you are according to your responses to every relationship. Not what you can get out of it but what you can give to it and to the other. To decide and to be who you are or want to be. To experience who you are. The object is how well you live up to who you want to be. Each person needs to worry about self. It's not about how the other reacts it's how you react or respond. It's about you learning and growing in all your personal relationships. It's about being self conscious or self awareness.

That's why self love and self worth is so important. Worry about if you think and act from love. There are certain very basic aspects of relationship that are important to understand.

✅ A threefold principle exists that applies to all elements of any kind of relationship and determines its nature.

Thoughts (of love)
Perception made with wisdom/truth result in
Behavior or feelings from the heart (free will to think and act as you want)

This breaks down into

knowing
experience, and
being

Knowing is the memory of the experience and the being.

Thoughts and actions based on Love results in an experience that you live.

When done in love it becomes real knowledge and real truth.... Your purpose is to remember this and to remind others to think and act in love.

You remind others by your behavior...

When this threefold principle operates in health, truth, harmony and reality, then relationship must be fruitful and joyful. When these three aspects of relationship operate in a distorted, unrealistic, disharmonious way, relationship cannot possibly be fruitful or joyful. It's about your intent, your responsibility, your will, your effort.

If I don't act from within I go without.

You only have control over three things in your life - the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take.There are three distinctive, major facets that are direct manifestations of life or our consciousness.

They are: love, perception and free will...

✅ i) All thoughts should originate in LOVE:

Make sure you, See only love, Hear only love, Speak only love, and Feel only love with all your heart. Think only from your heart..

One must Start with all thoughts originating in LOVE. Thoughts create.. It all starts all with the thought. Even the most subtle thought has great power. Make sure your desires are from your heart and not rooted in selfishness, desires of money, power, etc.... Love is the raw material needed to make your end product or behavior. We can still see that love is the source because we all intend what we love and do not intend what we do not love. Intention, can be better understood as a field of energy to which every person is connected — that is, every one of us is able to harness its infinite potential. There is no question that we’re connected to the field of intention, because that bond already exists. The keys to intention lie in understanding the qualities of this remarkable field of energy and learning to live in harmony with this universal force. Every thought you have, as well as every object you see in the world, is a vibration of the universe.

Desires/Intentions: are usually expressed in terms of “I want . . . ,” “I wish . . . ,” “I hope . . . ,” or “I would like . . .” These desires often set the stage for our actions. Everything is born in intent. These desires may be long-range (“ I hope someday to be a millionaire”) or short-term (“ I would like to take Tuesday afternoon off and play golf”). In all areas of life, we are filled with desires. We desire certain material things, and we desire certain things in our marriage relationship. The desire itself brings forth the perceptions and thoughts. Desire, a matter of love, is actually the soul of your perceptions and thoughts. No one can perceive or think anything apart from desires, and all of us perceive and think in keeping with our desires. An assumption [ideas, thoughts, desires] is a certain motion of consciousness. This motion, like all motion, exercises an influence on the surrounding substance causing it to take the shape of, echo, and reflect the assumption. A change of fortune is a new direction and outlook, merely a change in arrangement of the same mind substance – consciousness.

Different thoughts create different feelings. Thoughts of vengeance, violence, and greed, or thoughts of using others, for example, create emotion such as fear, which give rise to the feelings of anger, hatred and jealousy.

Thinking with the heart not the ego is really living from the perspective at which you came from and returning to source really is an act of remembering, rather than an act of learning. "From the multisensory point of view, insights, intuitions, hunches, and inspirations are messages from the soul or the heart. Intuition is perception beyond the physical senses that is meant to assist you. It is that sensory system which operates without data from the five senses."~seat of the soul

Intentions gives the reason to act. We intend whatever we love, and whatever we love or intend we think about and justify by various means. Whatever we love or intend we call good, and whatever thoughts and various justifications we have we call true. Every action, thought, and feeling is motivated by an intention, and that intention is a cause that exists as one with an effect. If we participate in the cause, it is not possible for us not to participate in the effect. In this most profound way, we are held responsible for our every action, thought, and feeling, which is to say, for our every intention. You desire to blame because you do not desire to see yourself.

Becoming heart-centered is the start of choosing to think & act from loving parts of your heart instead of frightened parts of your personality or mind. In other words, moving from being unconsciously controlled by selfish or fearful emotions of your ego/personality to consciously choosing to act on loved-based emotions. The closer we are in harmony with the source, the more we regain the power of it — for the power of intention is the power to create and the power to manifest, the power to heal, the power to allow anything to come from the invisible world of spirit into the world of form...

At some point our intellect needs to recognize our less dominant spiritual self, incorporating the higher order of logic and understanding; the part of the soul that is capable of meaningful reflection, that comes from the heart (the spirit). The creation of this higher order of logic and understanding, therefore, requires close attention to desire. Desire is determined by the underlying attitude.

The way we think, influences the way we feel. For example, I have the choice in any situation to think the best of my spouse or to think the worst. Desires & thoughts that originate from your heart or soul that are made from the goodness of love, formed in the wisdom of love, results in an attitude of love. With the subsequent feelings of being in love...

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”~WDyer

There several triads and many dualities and polarities. The universe is a system of relativity.

There are two fundamental soul attitudes:

1. love(heart)

2. fear(personality)...

These 2 fundamental emotions create unlimited various sub-feelings from each main emotion. The introduction of consciousness(Self-awareness) into the cyclic process of creation allows you to change your intentions from fear to love.

Love is our life; choose your dominant love carefully. Most thoughts are from learned and unconscious behavior... Ones’ soul looks toward purpose. Develop your soul carefully in choosing your intentions, attitude & thoughts as this becomes our words, actions, instinct, habits and character. You create your reality with your intentions. There is no getting away from the Law of Love. Intent with feeling is the irresistible combination. Adding feeling to desire gives it power. Intentions or thought impregnated with Love becomes invincible.

By choosing your thoughts, and by selecting which emotional currents you will release and which you will reinforce, you determine the quality of your Light. You determine the effects that you will have upon others, and the nature of the experiences of your life.

It requires becoming aware moment to moment of your intentions, and the more aware you become of your experiences, the more connections you will see between them, and the more you will be able to consciously choose the experiences of your life that you want.

If you are governed by your emotions, conscious or unconscious, you lose control over your self and over your life. The same applies to your thought process. If you become master over your thoughts, you become master over your mind, and so you have mastery of your life.

If you have a belief about yourself —“ I am a this, I am a that”— remember you have free will and your reality will reflect the choice you make. The one who believes she is a this or that will find a this or that out-pictured all around her, which simply confirms the claim that she’s made. Whatever you may think of the question of free will, the truth is your experiences throughout your life are determined by your intentions –whether conscious or unconscious.

Your desires is the form of your feelings and thus your resulting behavior, based on your motive. Desire is the blueprint we act upon. “You are what your deepest desire is. As your desire is, so is your intention. As your intention is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny.”...

feeling is prayer:

Pay attention to your intentions. The key is to stay connected to the field. Determine what they mean, what feeling and attitude they represent, what thought pattern and type of desire they express. When we take on this ego consciousness, when we take on fear rather than love in our hearts, we create all of this divisiveness, and we create all of the problems, the struggles, the difficulties, the diseases, the poverty. When an intention comes from your heart, it brings the energy of your heart into your action and creates experiences for you. When your intention is not from your heart, it brings fear into your action and creates your experiences.

You must be aware of what you are feeling and thinking in order to recognize the differences.

Heart is open, accepting, creative, and grounded. It feels good and relaxes you....

Mind/Ego or Fear is impatient, righteous, closed, and defensive. It hurts and cannot tolerate differences.

Your heart includes. Fear excludes.

After 911, a grandfather was talking to his grandson, telling him, “I have two wolves barking inside of me. The first wolf is filled with anger, hatred, bitterness, and mostly revenge. The second wolf inside of me is filled with love, kindness, compassion, and mostly forgiveness.” “Which wolf do you think will win?” the young boy inquired. The grandfather responded, “Whichever one I feed.”

Thoughts and feelings are the language of the brain, emotions are the language of the body. The easiest way to start learning is to follow your bodies clues...........

✅ ii) Emotions/Body& Feelings,Beliefs/Mind

An emotion is a physiological experience (or state of awareness) that gives you information about the outside world.(body reaction) Emotions are chemicals released in reaction to our inteprtetation of a specific trigger. It takes our brains about 1/4 second to identify the trigger, and about another 1/4 second to produce the chemicals. By the way, emotion chemicals are released throughout our bodies, not just in our brains, and they form a kind of feedback loop between our brains & bodies. They last about 6 seconds. Test...

Emotional Guidance System

When people replace this very personal guidance by attempting to modify their behavior to please other people, they very soon discover the inconsistency of that guidance and soon find themselves confused about what to do. Many people have lost conscious Connection with their own Guidance Systems, and so instead of deliberately focusing their thoughts into harmony and alignment with their Source and their power—instead of making sure that they are steadily tuned to the Vibration of their clarity, love and power—they turn their attention to the results of what they and the people around them have been thinking. In other words, they examine and catalog and pigeonhole and evaluate and judge the results of the Frequency creating that is happening around them, putting those results into categories of good and bad, right and wrong. And in all of that data, they lose their way.

Emotions play out in the theater of the body.

When we are afraid of something, our hearts begin to race, our mouths become dry, our skin turns pale and our muscles contract. This emotional reaction occurs automatically and unconsciously. Emotions are a record of the past. The unconscious automated system. Emotions are physiological signalers/reactions of what’s going on in your outside world. Emotions are simply data; you are the interpreter of those data, and how you interpret and work with your emotions determines whether the outcome is rational or not. A huge part is controlling emotions, and understanding emotions.

The human emotional system can be broken down into roughly two main reactional elements: love and fear.

i) Love is of the (heart)soul; high-frequency currents of energy

ii) Fear is of the (ego)personality; low-frequency currents of energy. It used to be a fight or flight response was to an inement life threatening source, in today’s world it’s a threat to our ego.

See how the these main emotions corresponds to the main 2 attitudes that exist in everyone's personality.

On the one hand, there is the desire for love — to be loved and to love — both realistic and unrealistic, mature and immature. (heart/soul)
On the other hand, there is the aggressive tendency of desire for rulership, for mastery over others, for dominion - always being right, control over others, of not getting your way. (Ego/mind or body)

Feelings play out in the theatre of the mind. Feelings is your conscious awareness and interpretation of the emotion itself.

A feeling is the combination of a chosen thought(s) about a subject along with a positive or negative emotional perspective. The emotion of fear may generate feelings such as anger, rage, vengefulness, hatred, jealousy or envy, loneliness, spite, sorrow, despair, grief, regret, greed, lust, arrogance, alienation, self-pity, lethargy, guilt, resentment, and feelings of inferiority and superiority. There is almost unlimited feelings or interpretations of the basic emotion.

Jealousy, for example, can result in lying, or in ridicule, which are forms of manipulation, or in violence. Greed can result in impatience, which is a form of selfishness, in judging or using others.

Feelings occur after we become aware in our brain of such physical changes; only then do we experience the feeling of fear. (per the above example of being afraid or fear.)Feelings are the next thing that happens after having an emotion, involve cognitive input, usually subconscious, and cannot be measured precisely. There are very few life threatening events. But threats to our ego has never been so inement in today's very social, instant messaging society. So the emotion in the bodies fear of physical death is more a primary fear in the death of our ego. The majority of moderen day feelings are sparked by emotions and colored by the thoughts, memories, and images that have become “subconsciously linked with that particular emotion for you.”

Feelings are mental associations/portrayals of what is going on in your body and are the byproduct of your brain's perspective of subjective influences by personal experience, upbringing, social, and personal beliefs, and memories....

A feeling is the side product of your brain perceiving your bodies emotion and assigning a certain meaning to it. Take happiness may be different for everybody. What feelings do you associate with the basic emotion of happiness? There may be many things and events that are associated with happiness and vary greatly....

But it works the other way around too. For example, just thinking about something threatening can trigger an emotional fear response. While individual emotions are temporary, the feelings they evoke may persist and grow over a lifetime. Because emotions cause subconscious feelings which in turn initiate emotions and so on, your life can become a never-ending cycle of painful and confusing emotions which produce negative feelings which cause more negative emotions without you ever really knowing why. You’ll begin to believe that you can control your thoughts by paying attention to the way you feel.

We are attempting for you to become aware of your feelings/emotions. For you to understand if is this a feeling/emotion based from the heart or the ego....

Beliefs

A belief is a mental attitude of acceptance that something is true or exists, often without complete evidence

Feelings also help form what we call beliefs. A belief is a thought with feeling that is repeatedly thought about. A belief system is just feelings of what we believe is true that we identify with.

Remember that all thoughts has a feeling or emotion attached to it.There cannot be a thought—that does not also contain a feeling..

✅ The Gap

In the gaps between emotion, feeling, and thinking, we all have the power to change and direct our lives for the better. This is about pausing and getting in the GAP to think about a response and not react to our feelings/emotions....

Becoming self-aware or heart-centered means choosing to act from loving parts of your heart(soul) instead of frightened parts of your personality.(ego) The heart has no judgement or ego. In other words, moving from being unconsciously controlled by fearful emotions to consciously choosing to act on loved-based emotions. By understanding the difference between and becoming aware of your emotions and feelings, determining which is which and their root causes, and then inserting conscious thought followed by deliberate action, you can choose how you navigate and experience the world. Being able to do this means responding or reacting which can make the difference in a calm or chaotic life. The way of the heart is one of compassion and emotional perception. Understand or percive the experience from the heart. Replace the hurt with a blessing. Feeling is prayer, or pray with feeling is how to be heard in the field. Language of the heart...

Understanding your emotions and managing your emotions and feelings with conscious thinking (so your habitual brain doesn't hijack your brain) followed by conscious action.

1) It helps you learn to feel and identify your emotions, which helps you calm and focus yourself;

2) It helps you understand when, why, and how your emotions arise so that you become more emotionally aware, and;

3) It recruits your verbal skills to support and consult with the emotion so that you can learn from it and take constructive, emotionally appropriate action.

What is triggering me?

What am I afraid of?

What is underneath the fear?

What do I need to fix myself?

Science has proven that emotions like love and fear have very different vibrations. They can actually measure them. They are complex psychophysical processes that evoke positive or negative psychological responses (or both) and physical expressions, often involuntary.

Feelings are Attitude which is your energy

“Your feelings are the power of your thoughts and words. It’s what you feel that matters!”
The single motivating power of your entire life is your feelings!
Your feelings are your feedback on what you are thinking about or focused on.

✅ An important STEP of this process is to use your feelings as your internal guidance system.

You want to become aware of how you’re feeling, and get in tune with how you’re feeling, because it is the fastest way for you to know what you’re thinking.

1)Your feelings can be in conflict with another.
2)There is different levels of intensity of emotions.
3)There are 2 main emotions, positive or negative.
4) Feelings tend to come in groups, you can have more then one feeling at the same time.

Without an awareness of our emotions & feelings, we cannot associate the effects of anger, sadness, grief, and joy—within ourselves or others-with their causes. Your thoughts have no power at all in your life without your feelings. Your thoughts is nothing but the form of your feelings. Perhaps the most unique thing about us is our feelings.

Every decision you make in your life is based on how you feel. Just like speech is the the form of sound. Feelings come out in sound as much as thought comes out in the words or speech.

Feelings reflect intentions

Therefore, awareness of feelings leads to awareness of intentions. Identify the feeling that fuels the thought and this should lead you to identify the thought/intention you want to change.

Your feelings show you which parts of your personality are aligned with your soul and which parts are not. Without awareness of your emotions, you cannot see the dynamics that lie behind your emotions or the ends that these dynamics serve. Emotions are very powerful creative forces, because your unconscious affects the unconscious of the other person. This truth is perhaps most relevant to the discovery of how you call forth happenings in your life, good or bad, favorable or unfavorable. Sometimes an answer occurs in the form of a feeling—a yes feeling or a no feeling-sometimes in the form of a memory, or a thought that, at the time, seems random, sometimes in a dream and sometimes in the form of a realization that is prompted by an experience that will occur the next day.

"Feelings are choices.”

"The first step to this is becoming aware of what you are feeling.”

Following your feelings will lead you to their source. Only through feelings can you encounter the force field of your own soul(heart). That is the human passage in a word."~ seat of the soul...

How can you attain self-awareness unless you learn to cope with the realm of feelings? By learning to pause and respond from the heart and not to react to your feelings/emotions in the moment......

Will and Reason:

Your whole life is thought & feelings ..... The realm of feelings is the most alive and creative faculty. It is also self-perpetuating. As long as the feeling world is predominantly negative and destructive, its self-perpetuating nature creates highly damaging impulses and compulsions. Some are afraid to Love. This is why feelings is so feared. When impulses come to the surface, they dominate. Will and reason are underdeveloped and therefore cannot stem the flood of destructive emotions.

Once you realize that all you do is make matters worse by unconsciously reacting. The first thing we usually want to learn is the ability to hold and check your feelings in by the power to reason, to use the mind, and by the willpower to hold back and to discipline our most spontaneous impulses. Sometimes this is the start of self-awareness. It is the reactive response we want to stop... To witness or be the observer...to interpret the interaction or event.... To think with wisdom before we RESPOND.... To act with kindness

STEP BACK - Train yourself NOT TO REACT to your feelings (this is extremely hard to master) learning self-control... To do nothing in the moment. Learn to be an observer of the moment. Calm yourself till you can gather your composoure. Pause and REFLECT.... start to analyze why you're feeling the way you are. Don’t say or do anything till you can respond in wisdom not react.

One must use will and reason not to react to situations, words, or actions, learn to respond; this is hard to do. It also hard not to respond back with words, many think words are not that powerful and often say regrettable things without true thinking before saying words.......

Learn that you have the strength to endure a little foolishness. It's not about being right or in control. While we say words are powerful one needs to learn to not take words or actions so personal.

(#2) The calmer and the more relaxed you are lets you think with wisdom of your heart.....

Let your mind be passive and gentle. Use willpower to pause and be calm... Then speak from love or your heart not your ego.... Your power is in how you respond to the situation, not from reacting. Learn to shift feelings of being hurt or feeling bad, to one of Love. Disconnect from feelings of irritation, hurt, etc... to feelings from your inner peace. You can’t control every situation or be right. Make it the best you can by responding with energy of Love.

People sometimes say, “Think before you speak.” A wise intention, but we would take it further. We would suggest, “Think—and then evaluate the value of that thought by noticing how it feels; and do that often enough that you know, without question, that you are in alignment—then speak, then act, then interact.”

Respond don’t React...

How to start the process.....

You can immediately and very practically apply this process to exactly where you are on your path at this moment, provided you focus your attention on your awareness, on your emotions and soul movements(moods). The only way to go about it is to go into the experience.

The following procedure is indicated and most highly rewarding. When anything happens to you that you shrink back from, whether it causes mild annoyance or stark fright or anything in between, remain inwardly relaxed.

Observe the automatic reflex reaction in your soul movement, how it automatically tenses up. By remaining open and relaxed to the experience, no matter how painful or frightening it may appear, you allow it to happen to you.

You thus admit that it is yours anyway, and you proceed to find its origin in you. You declare in your mind to explore and understand its cause. And you also live up to this "declaration" with your emotional self by allowing the healthy pulse-beat of the psyche to continue its natural process. Thus you remain in an open state that enables you to comprehend and to respond in an infinitely more adequate way than when you are in a tense state of war and defense.

Let the inner movements occur in their own natural way, uninfluenced by this fearful level of your consciousness. Understand their meaning. Allow them to function naturally. Do not let fear cramp up the natural pulsation. Let the involuntary, self‐regulating lawfulness establish harmony within by not interfering with fear and resistance.

Simultaneously, cooperate with your whole being, with all your sincerity and integrity in your willingness to see the truth in you, in wanting to understand the connections between yourself and the unwelcome emotions and those outer conditions that cause these emotions. Do this ego cooperation in a firm, relaxed way. Relaxation must be combined with full commitment. Often, tension replaces a lack of such full commitment to the inner truth.

Using your will power and reason for honest and humble self-confrontation, you can safely allow yourself to feel what you feel, without having to act on the feeling. You can now recognize the feeling. You can now execute your relaxed willpower. This is where you are or where you could be.

The whole purpose is to learn not to let your feelings control you, but that you learn to control them.

One can put yourself in the feeling you want by controlling your intentions. You can add feelings to your intentions or desires to intensify or add conviction or power to the thought. Focus on the anger the sadness and your experiences will be more of the same.

Or have the intelligence and will to change them; If you feel sad think of something that makes you happy, focus your thoughts on the happy and your feelings will change. Every emotion that you feel is an indication of your relationship with your Spirit. When you feel confident, that means that your current thought is a perfect match to the way the Source within you, from inside your Inner Self, is feeling about you. When you feel embarrassed, that means that your current thought does not match the way the Source within you is feeling about you. So, when parents or teachers or friends project an attitude of disapproval toward you (in an effort to evoke a more-pleasing-to-them behavior from you), if you respond to their disapproval by modifying your thoughts, words, or behavior to please them, you have distracted yourself from your own true Guidance and from your own true Source of confidence.

Remember this: the soul creates, the mind reacts.

Feelings are the language of the soul, but you must make sure you are listening to your true feelings and not some counterfeit model constructed in your mind.

Some feelings are true feelings—that is, feelings born in the soul—and some feelings are counterfeit feelings. These are constructed in your mind.In other words, they are not “feelings” at all—they are thoughts. Thoughts masquerading as feelings. These thoughts are based on your previous experience and on the observed experience of others. You see someone grimace when having a tooth pulled, you grimace when having your tooth pulled. It may not even hurt, but you grimace anyway. Your reaction has nothing to do with reality, only how you perceive reality, based on the experience of others or on something that’s happened to you in the past.

The greatest challenge as human beings is to Be Here Now, to stop making things up!

Stop creating thoughts about a present moment (a moment you “sent” yourself before you had a thought about it). Be in the moment. Remember, you sent your Self this moment as a gift. The moment contained the seed of a tremendous truth. It is a truth you wished to remember. Yet when the moment arrived, you immediately began constructing thoughts about it. Instead of being in the moment, you stood outside the moment and judged it. Then you reacted. That is, you acted as you did once before.

Now look at these two words:

REACTIVE

CREATIVE

Notice they are the same word. Only the “C” has been moved! When you “C” things correctly, you become Creative, rather than Reactive.

The 4th Agreement

Willingness

try try try

Self-Discipline

Putting the 4 Agreements into daily use

Willfulness characterizes the unharnessed human will, whereas willingness identifies the strong will of a person willing to go where he or she is called or led by a higher power.

(I say willingness is the ability to say yes and try to change or reach a compromise….)

Emotional self-control is mind control

Always try your best… and keep trying again, again and again. (humans aren’t perfect) (practice gratitude)

You will fail often. Keep at it…… It’s a lifelong fight….

No one is perfect, keep trying even after each mistake….

Was what they said based on their ego?

Review what you said. Was it necessary to say what you said?

Was it based on the ego or love?

Could you have said nothing?

Use the POWER TOOLS until they become your automatic response, not your automatic reaction.

Watching people’s actions, words, and attitudes shows their character.

Learning is through experience because experience is the out-picturing or expression of consciousness. Their or your level of personality of vibration, or tone of God’s energy.

The Master of Transformation is also a Master of Love, or we might say a Master of Intent. These are synonymous terms.

The warrior learns that the truth is love.

Do a nightly life review to stay on track

Think through the day and review the spontaneous events that happened for which you could be considered a blessing. (For example, did you open the door for someone, or put extra money in the parking meter for the next car?)
Think over the spontaneous events of the day when someone else was a blessing in your life. Give thanks and take a very deep breath. You have now activated your spiritual recognition of the flow of divinity from the higher dimensions into this one.
Assess the events you feel you could have handled differently. Put yourself in the other person’s place to understand the other point of view. If applicable, forgive yourself and surround the situation with light. Assert to make any necessary amends. Do so without the ego that prevents many of us from being objective. The truth about your history is important in overcoming beliefs based on fear and shame, The bottom line is that if you don’t confront your history, it confronts you.”
Say your prayers (your willful, conscious intentions ) and go to sleep.
First thing in the morning, count your blessings. A conscious state of gratitude creates a vibratory magnetic field around you that will serve to attract more blessings throughout the day.

Lost Lesson Skill Set

The Holy Spirit teaches you that if you look only at yourself, you cannot find yourself, because that is not what you are.

The ego tries to teach that you want to oppose God’s Will.

To give without limit is God’s Will for you, because only this can bring you the joy that is His and that He wills to share with you. Your love is as boundless as His because it is His.

Reason

This is when we need our determination/will power and at the least, a little bit of intelligent reasoning. You will try many and fail times so we also need great amounts of the following traits that a part of our Intellect:

✅ You only have control over three things in your life - the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take.

There are three distinctive, major facets that are direct manifestations of life or our personality/consciousness.

They are: free will, perception, and love

✅ "Free Will"/freedom is the ability to do what is true and what is good.

Freedom is a function of love, because what we love we do with a sense of freedom. Therefore all of our freedom is connected with our will, because whatever we love we also will to do; and since our love and our will constitute our life, freedom too constitutes our life. This can show us what freedom is, namely, that it is a reflection of our love and our will and therefore our life. That is why anything we do freely seems to us to have come from ourselves. God has made perfect laws and given His children free will. If the laws could not be violated, then free will would not exist. Does not free will imply becoming a grown person who can make responsible decisions personally? Our free will allows our mind/intellect to override the spirit; to change the raw product and/or manufacturing process and thus the nature of our energy or final product.

The ability of choice. Intending and acting depend on our free will. When you choose the energy of your soul-when you choose to create with the intentions of love, forgiveness, humbleness, and clarity-you gain power.(opposite of self will) Your mind and your thoughts are also thoughts of the divine mind. Universal Spirit is in your thoughts and in your free will. When you shift your thoughts from Spirit to ego, you seem to lose contact with the power of intention. Choosing to learn through wisdom! So one level is consciousness, one level is intellect, and the other level, finally, is choice. Active soul choice. Even when you are being passive and you believe you are being dragged along in your life by the hair, you are choosing that. Do you know this? You are always in choice. Every second of the day, you are in choice.

Understand that free will, will power and self will, are all different. Self-will is the will of the little self, the little ego. Self-will strives to get what it wants, regardless of the consequences, regardless of harm that may be done to others and therefore ultimately also to the self. Selfwill comprises stubbornness, resistance, spite, defiance, rigidity. All these attitudes connote a stiffening against change, against expanding into new spiritual territory.

Only through responsible choice can you choose consciously to cultivate and nourish the needs of your soul, and to challenge and release the wants of your personality. This is the choice of clarity and wisdom, the choice of conscious transformation. It is the choice of the higher-frequency energy currents of love, forgiveness, and compassion.

Choice: while including logic, is not based solely in weighing the pros & cons and what is reasonable. It’s a choice to love someone, to hate to be happy or sad. It called FREE WILL. You make the choice on your individual life and your relationships.

Choice is an aspect and a by-product and an activity of the function of will, and will begins in consciousness. What you choose is what you choose is what you choose. Period. What you choose, with each thought and subsequent action, is an intention, a quality of consciousness that you bring to your thought.

Your intellect should be reasoned thinking. Each has his own free choice, responsibility, and power. The truth is that we do not create anything alone; we are all creatures with God. Our free will combines and redistributes what’s already created. You choose!

Free will means that you have the choice to connect to Spirit or not! Whatever you wish to accomplish is an existing fact, already present in Spirit. If left undisturbed in your mind and in the mind of intention simultaneously, it will germinate into reality in the physical world. In simpler words, “All things whatsoever ye pray and ask for, believe that ye have received them, and ye shall receive them” [Mark 11: 24]. In this scriptural quotation, you are told to believe that your desire has already been fulfilled, and then it will be accomplished. Know that your thought or prayer is already here. Remove all doubt so that you create a harmonious thought with universal mind or intention. When you know this beyond doubt, it will be realized in the future.

A responsible choice is a choice that takes into account the consequences of your choice. What intention you choose with each thought and each action, is a quality of consciousness that shows your character and resulting effect on others. A choice takes all of those pros and cons into account then makes a selection made after consideration that is reflective of love.

Our ability to intend on the basis of reason is our capacity to choose and to decide. Every decision that you make either moves you toward your personality, or toward your soul. Each decision that you make is an answer to the question “How do you choose to learn love?”, “How do you choose to learn authentic empowerment—through doubt and fear, or through wisdom?” An action, ges its reality from love and its quality from intelligence. Castaneda’s Power of Silence: “Having lost hope of ever returning to the source of everything, the average man seeks solace in his selfishness.”

It's all choice. One can change from the goodness and truth of love to intentions & actions of hate, evil, being self-centered, love of material things, power, etc......

So one needs..........

Fortitude:

Or the willpower or courage to act & stay true in the goodness of love. Develop the power of concentration, allowing you to exclude all thoughts except the ones which are associated with your purpose. This begins with our concentration/attention or ability to focus; intention governs attention.

... awareness and your mind ... and your inner awareness...

The natural and positive extension of will is courage. Both will and courage are active. In will there must be a strong active current. For every human being has a certain amount of strength, and it is entirely up to him or her in what direction to channel it. And where you do lack courage, you will always find that you must lack love as well. If you have courage, you need a great amount of will. Courage ascribes as much importance to a cause, to an issue, or to another person as to the self. Therefore courage and love, in the last analysis, are inseparable.

Willpower is a direct result of understanding, of knowledge, and of the corresponding decision; So to obtain willpower you have to, first, gain understanding and, second, make the decision that follows from it. Therefore, if you feel that you do not have enough willpower, you lack the illuminating understanding of what it is all about. Yes, you may have a vague sense of it, but your soul is not yet penetrated by it, maybe because something in you resists and clings to the comfortable, undisciplined old attitude. Another word discipline

The first step must be to deepen the superficial knowledge, to work on that first, so that the whole personality is penetrated by understanding.

Will and Understanding.

When you do this first—and you can if you take a little trouble and time-you will certainly make the decision and it will take huge willpower to direct your life and your energies toward the inner-self, recognizing and fully understanding that only in this way can you also solve the problems in your earthly life.

Consciousness is not only the power to think, to discriminate, but the ability to will. Will and understanding. They are distinguishable, but they are created to be one. When they are one, they are called the mind; so they are the human mind and it is there that all the life within us. Whatever is good in us resides in our will and whatever is true in us resides in our understanding. These two abilities, or these two living parts of ours, receive and are acted upon by what is good and true: our will receives and is acted upon by everything that is good, and our understanding receives and is acted upon by everything that is true. Goodness and truth can be found nowhere else in us but in these faculties. Will and understanding also form the human spirit, since they are where our wisdom and intelligence dwell—in general, where our life dwells. The body, [by contrast,] is simply a thing that follows orders. Willing is a very important aspect of consciousness. That is why truth turns into goodness when it becomes a matter of our love and will, or when we love and will it. Heaven’s light is the light that surrounds the inner self, and this world’s light is the light that surrounds the outer self. Heaven’s light is divine truth itself, which is the source of all intelligence....

There is a correspondence between what is in the inner self and what is in the outer, which means that what is in each comes out in a different guise in the other—so different that we cannot sort them out unless we know how this correspondence operates. Our will is the part of us that receives goodness and our understanding is the part of us that receives truth. Whether you say “truth” or “faith” it amounts to the same thing, because faith and truth are mutually dependent; and whether you say “goodness” or “love” it amounts to the same thing, because love and goodness are mutually dependent; whatever we believe we call true, and whatever we love we call good.

Whether you will with awareness or whether you disconnect from your will makes no difference. Your will is an aspect of your consciousness and hence of what you continually create. Willing is an ongoing process, just as knowing and feeling are. Where consciousness exists, knowing, feeling, and willing always exist as well. The will center is also the center of the ego, aggression, self-assertion, backbone and self-responsibility. Through concentration, deep thoughts, wise speech, and mighty deeds are accomplished. Prayer is a thought that possesses the quality of directed intention. It’s holding a specific outcome in our minds with the objective of connecting to a greater power for assistance. Because prayer and faith tend to go hand in hand, we next need to ask ourselves, what is faith? We could say that faith is believing in thought more than anything else—more than the current conditions in our present-personal reality or any challenges in our external environment. The intersection of faith[truth] and prayer probably needs to be addressed at this point. When used together to produce a specific outcome, we could say that when we get up from our prayer as if our desired outcome has already happened, we are in the right state of mind and body—in other words, we’re in a new state of being.

You only have control over three things in your life - the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take.

There are three distinctive, major facets that are direct manifestations of life or our personality/consciousness. They are: perception, free will, and love.

✅ Images and Perception:

If you have tried the above, you have to a degree, through will power & reason the ability, not to react so quickly with anger or negativity. Some peoples’ nature automatically fears confrontation and wants to avoid it..

Perceptions of time is before, now and after. There is past, present and future. It's also relative as to what your perspective is according to all your different learned attitudes or belief systems.

Perception

Projection makes perception. The world you see is what you gave it, nothing more than that. But though it is no more than that, it is not less. Therefore, to you it is important. It is the witness to your state of mind, the outside picture of an inward condition. As a man thinketh, so does he perceive. Therefore, seek not to change the world, but choose to change your mind about the world. Perception is a result and not a cause. And that is why order of difficulty in miracles is meaningless. Everything looked upon with vision is healed and holy. Nothing perceived without it means anything. And where there is no meaning, there is chaos.

One must get at the why you react the way you do. Getting at the why will help you to control and respond in a calmer matter. Remember it’s 100% about your response. You will fail many times and never completely master this but hopefully tame the beast within. When analyzing an event, first start to understand the truth of your feelings and thoughts. It’s easiest to start with your feelings and trace them back to the thought.

Reality is based on our perceptions and beliefs — all of which come from our past experiences....

Each of us perceives reality through the filter of a personal self, an “I” that is unique in the world, thanks to the unique experiences we’ve had since birth. We rely on “I” to be able to navigate through everyday situations, not realizing how limiting “I” actually is. It’s fair to say that few people realize how unstable and distorted their sense of self actually is.

To begin with, each of us filters out an enormous portion of the input we receive at a given moment. One we take into account the ways that “I” gets shaped–through filtering, interpretation, beliefs, memories, and all types of social conditioning–it’s inescapable that “I” is a rickety structure that we ourselves didn’t build of our own free will. With most people, “I” reflects forces outside their control since birth. Still, we all defend “I” and go to great lengths to identify with it. We perceive only through our 5 senses. This also is only done by comparison. Light vs dark, etc.. We learn through the mind and bodies experience of comparison. To enhance perception is important because what you perceive and know from experience is all that we know. How clearly you perceive is the most important thing, to develop clarity of perception.

The fundamental factor is again to get to know yourself, to ask yourself the pertinent questions. This is really very simple, once you decide to accept the unavoidable necessity of doing it. Each time you feel an unpleasant emotion like anger, anxiety, or resentment-and your days are often full of such emotions—stop rationalizing it away by thinking of the wrong attitudes of others. Instead, ask yourself, “What do I really want?” Who am I really?

Know that the moment there is emotion in you, there is something you want. Otherwise you would not feel that way. Are my actions supported by my feelings or do I have motives behind these actions that do not correspond to what I like to believe about myself or what I like other people to believe? Have I been honest with myself so far? What are my mistakes?”.

Reflect on where feelings are coming from, why are you feeling the way you are. What caused the emotions. Is it from my selfishness because I didn't get my way? etc.....In relationships ask for information from your partner to clarify. You are using the busy mind, the overemphasized reasoning faculty, to fit your feelings into pictures, to build theories about why you feel a certain way.

The base levels feelings are vulnerability, fear, aloneness, and a bracing against change. The most basic emotions are agitation and frustration, so we want to be very aware of these energies within the body.

You can only trace the emotion, feelings and reactions by applying certain methods in your work, by learning how to analyze your findings from a new angle. You will then find patterns of how you go on and on in subtle, hidden ways, provoking people and setting up negative situations, so that you can collect unhappy incidents, injustices, injuries, wrongs, and hurts.

Once you recognize how you have provoked all this in ever so subtle ways, you will also be able to find what you enjoy about it--no matter how much you loathe some aspects of it in your conscious mind. All this seldom happens in a very obvious way, although sometimes it is quite noticeable to others, but not to you. Most of the time, it happens so subtly that it completely escapes your attention, unless you truly wish to notice it.

The mind is so trained in overusing reason that you think you need a reason to feel a certain way. Thus, you'r real motives and the actual situation often escape you. Since you fear feelings and see reason as the saving measure, you concoct reasons for feeling. You are always full of explanations of why you feel a certain way, until no feeling remains-only theory and explanation. This is so important, my friends, because if you learn to see through these “explanations” it will teach you the art of self-observation.

Perceiving & understanding the whole experience, is the real reason why you feel the way you do. The intellect is meant to expand perceptions, to help you grow in perceptual strength and complexity, and not to do harm.

The importance of objectivity is so important, and overlooked. Subjectivity is how the majority of us perceive experiences. The ability in trying to be objective is the key in interpreting and perceiving all experiences. [“Our subjective approach to the world stays with us,” says lead author Jorge Morales, postdoctoral fellow and resident philosopher in the Perception & Mind Lab. “Even when we try to perceive the world the way it really is, we can’t completely discard our perspective.”]

To make sure you label your emotions into feelings that are objective... as your feelings impress an image onto your soul which forms your attitude, opinions, beliefs etc...

Self awareness and change:

1) Identify the faulty thought you want to change. This is tricky because you want to connect with the core negative thought that resonates with you at the deepest emotional level. This thought is challenging to identify because it is often a thought we reject or deny about ourselves. If we deny what we think something about our self, then we can’t own it. Learn to recognize your faults, your weaknesses, your shortcomings on the most superficial, the most obvious level.

2) Identify the (intention/desire)feeling that fuels the thought. Think of this as the gas that keeps the thought running. So, if a person believes that no one could ever love them and this thought is fueled by feelings of rejection, you may see them give up on love. If we take this a step further, every time they feel rejected, they give up.

There is always one main image or attitude/opinion which causes the most important unfulfillment in your life. Because of it you go through repeated disappointments. So we have to deal with the various wrong conclusions and pseudo-solutions which constitute the main image.

3) Ask yourself, “How/why do I do that?” This allows you to see the role you play in creating the situations that fuel the emotion, which validates the belief. So when it’s all said and done, you walk away with another experience that confirms the faulty thought. (perception of self and/or experience) Every time a faulty thought is confirmed, the truth of who you are and the power you have to create the life you want begins to disappear. Seeing the false ideas and the false concepts embedded in the negative attitude. Looking at conscious and unconscious levels. These must be very clearly articulated in your consciousness. Find and deal with your complexes, your images, your unconscious confusions and conflicts, your misconceptions -- without judging yourself, without moralizing, without evaluating the right and the wrong, the good and the bad from an ethical standpoint, but rather to evaluate these findings as to correctness in thinking.

4) Identify the truth, the faulty thought keeps you from seeing. For example, if all we see is how unlovable we are, it keeps us from seeing (and feeling) how loved we truly are. What you consent to can only be discovered by an uncritical observation of your reactions to life. Your reactions reveal where you live psychologically; and where you live psychologically determines how you live here in the outer visible world.

5) Release the faulty thought and replace it with love. Letting go of the faulty thought can only occur with self-awareness and realization of the role you play in sustaining it.

(free will/determination) There are many ways to release faulty thoughts. It is the change of intent, the attitude that clearly formulates the commitment from the negative to the positive.

Every day you make a choice—consciously or unconsciously—you’re creating your life and the experiences that fill it. Many of these choices are based on familiar past experiences. This is what our thoughts do in our brains when we become mired in a problem or a consistent way of being - they continuously travel down the most commonly fired and neurologically wired set of thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. In doing so, the repetition of that particular set of thoughts, behaviors, and emotions becomes a hardwired pattern, essentially causing us to biologically become our habits. Like software, common thoughts run in the background, behind the scenes of our awareness, causing us to unconsciously think, act, and/or feel in the same way over and over. Those habituations become engrained into your physical, neurochemical state of being causing you to literally become what you think.

Learn and contemplate new information. By adding new knowledge, we add a new stitch and build a bigger or different nest.
Change our energy via emotional adjustments within our inner world.
Mentally rehearse new ways of being. This transforms our brain’s neurochemical architecture, priming it to look like the desired outcome has already happened. (To do this requires focus, staying present with our attention, and repetition. Once we do it enough times, the brain changes by thought alone.)

First you "be" the thing called "happy" (or "knowing," or "wise," or "compassionate," or whatever), then you start "doing" things from this place of beingness—and soon you discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you've always wanted to "have."

The way to set this creative process (and that's what this is... the process of creation) into motion is to look at what it is you want to "have," ask yourself what you think you would "be" if you "had" that, then go right straight to being. In life, you do not have to do anything.

It is all a question of what you are being.

Happiness is a state of mind. And like all states of mind, it reproduces itself in physical form. There's a statement for a refrigerator magnet: "All states of mind reproduce themselves."

Act as if you are, and you will draw it to you. What you act as if you are, you become.

Whatever you choose for yourself, give to another.

If you choose to be happy, cause another to be happy.

If you choose to be prosperous, cause another to prosper.

If you choose more love in your life, cause another to have more love in theirs.

The very act of your giving something away causes you to experience that you have it to give away. Since you cannot give to another something you do not now have, your mind comes to a new conclusion, a New Thought, about you—namely, that you must have this, or you could not be giving it away.

This New Thought then becomes your experience. You start "being" that. And once you start "being" a thing, you've engaged the gears of the most powerful creation machine in the universe—yourSelf.

Whatever you are being, you are creating.

The circle is complete, and you will create more and more of that in your life. It will be made manifest in your physical experience. It is not uncommon for your body to want one thing, while your mind seeks another, and your spirit desires yet a third.

The choices of spirit are always the highest choices. All three must be in agreement. Take your mind. Your mind can, and does, make decisions and choices from one of at least three interior levels: logic, intuition, emotion—and sometimes from all three— producing the potential for even more inner conflict. And within one of those levels—emotion— there are five more levels. These are the five natural emotions: grief, anger, envy, fear, and love.

And within these, also, there are two final levels: love and fear.

The five natural emotions include love and fear, yet love and fear are the basis of all emotions. The other three of the five natural emotions are outgrowths of these two.

We have imprisoned our five natural emotions, repressing them and turning them into very unnatural emotions, which have brought unhappiness, death, and destruction to our world. The model of behavior for centuries on this planet has been: do not "indulge" your emotions. If you're feeling grief, get over it; if you're feeling angry, stuff it; if you're feeling envious, be ashamed of it; if you're feeling fear, rise above it; if you're feeling love, control it, limit it, wait with it, run from it—do whatever you have to do to stop from expressing it, full out, right here, right now.

Assume a different perspective and you will have a different thought about everything. In this way you will have learned to control your thought, and, in the creation of your experience, controlled thought is everything.

Creation follows thought, which follows perception. When you come from "happiness," you do certain things because you are happy— as opposed to the old paradigm in which you did things that you hoped would make you happy.

When you come from "wisdom," you do certain things because you are wise, not because you are trying to get to wisdom.

When you come from "love," you do certain things because you are love, not because you want to have love.

One must understand from the truth and goodness of LOVE.

If one thinks of humans as a manufacturing plant:

a. Manufacturing Process; the mind/perception: Wisdom is what forms our perception. Intelligence infused with wisdom consists of Loves ingredients or thoughts of goodness and truth. We use our free will, will power or attention to infuse our thoughts with intentions of love.(from our soul/heart).

A large factor is understanding and controlling your emotions... Learning not to react from emotions of the ego but learning to pause, think and respond(with feelings) from the heart. This means developing an objective Perception based on the wisdom of truth and goodness of love. This provides healthy ingredients when used with wisdom to form our feelings that impress into our attitudes, opinion, beliefs....which results in our memory of unconscious automatic responses... Being conscious or using creative mind makes sure you are thinking from your heart. Perception determines the final intentionand corresponding energy.

b. Raw Product: thoughts of Love or Fear from our heart or soul... [God is the source] according to your perspective or wisdom

c. Behavior: a Love based energy

Intent/desires thoughts starts in the mind or consciousness. Your subjective interpretation/l or perception of your experiences forms feelings that impresses images into your attitude, beliefs, (opinions) & outlook. This creates the final subconscious memory that will result in your automatic actions and resulting energy. Thoughts shape perception. Perceptions form feelings. Feelings create attitude/beliefs which becomes behavior.

One must realize love is the first and the greatest power. In the last analysis, it is the only power.

It’s not you think in your mind but what you believe in your heart....

.... are your beliefs wrong or right? With our mind we imagine our desires. To lock the desire into reality.... We give the possibility or desire life, by breathing life into the image of our mind, through the feeling in our heart... belief is a union of thought/image and emotion. The heart is the biggest electro-magnetic organ in our body and where our feelings reside, not the mind! The Stark efect, change the electro-magnetic field to change the result. The feelings of your belief creates the energy wave...

So far we have covered only some of the basics.

Discussion so far, has been on controlling your reactions by learning to respondby using your intellect, willpower or determination. Attempting to Master the Pause, not reacting but responding.

Repetition...

..... repetition...

Discipline of the Personality

One needs to be aware or more in the moment. This means to act more consciously. To make your desire consciously. The intensity of desire.

Many of you who now have the ability to acknowledge a negative trait. But are struggling with consistency. You keep tying to change or control it from causing more rift in your relationships. But it keeps reappearing and seems like it is a never ending and hopeless battle to overcome. You feel frustration and what seems like a lot of thought and will power has gone into to change your actions.

You know that by not reacting you can avoid confrontation. You keep your mouth shut, but haven’t really tried to change your attitude. But you still think the other person is stupid or that you are right. Also, this might really interest you or not, or it’s too easy not to practice. It’s hard to do this and is just too much work. If this sounds familiar, you have only acquired either none or a limited amount of real self-awareness of yourself and your world. It takes a lot of work and attention as to the why you act. Most human beings, only want to know a relatively small part of their total personality. Few practice true self awareness..

Experience by doing.... is how you will achieve and practice self awareness. You are a soul having experiences in a human body.

So far your true feelings or beliefs haven’t really changed. This is why you have so many repeated failures in the process. This is not just about retraining your behavior. If you change the behavior but you do not change the belief that acts as the catalyst for the behavior, the behavior is really not changed. What is needed is transformation. We have only touched on the importance of understanding your perception of the experience. Look at it from different perspectives not just your own. Is your images, opinions or belief, really objective? Is your actions based from fear, pride, selfishness or bad self image. Most often it happens only by looking back at the experience. After much practice you may occasionally be able to control your response in the present. repetition ......

How to make the shift to your higher self. Learning to be become objective. Developing new attitudes and belief systems. Learn to think from the heart.

It is essential to deal with confusions, inner misconceptions, misunderstandings, destructive attitudes, alienating defenses, negative emotions, and paralyzed feelings. To observe without judgement.

It starts with bodies emotional response to an experience. Then we must have the correct thoughts of love to form objective perceptions to create feelings https://www.theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/the-ultimate-test-of-emotional- from the heart on each experience or interaction. These feelings create the attitudes and beliefs that result in your behavior. This entangled system is our mind.

Emotional Intellect:

Our whole life is our feelings, think about it.... Ones life is based all on desire, emotions, thoughts, feelings. Many are not aware of their emotional currents, in their inner, emotional reactions. Unaware of the why they act or respond the way they do. This lack of inner awareness, expresses itself in problems apparently involving other people, but sometimes just per se, in inner attitude, feelings, and reactions.

The world is full of lots of opinionated people, who think they are right. Because from their perspective their biased impressions or beliefs, developed from their experiences is their own personal reality. They are too rigid to be objective and see it from another perspective. Everyone’s reality is from their own life’s experiences and perspective. Their beliefs, impressions and attitudes come from parents, schooling, society, and all other positive or negative life experiences that have touched them. The most common comment..... It’s not me, it is the other guys fault or problem. Unresolved experiences...

The Road Less Traveled:

Few receive any emotional education, understand or have emotional awareness or if they do they don’t apply it on a consistent basis.

Humans are naturally lazy, it takes great effort and time. We believe if a person has the want; one can gain self/emotional-awareness by consciously putting in the time and effort. A select few gain insight only from a life crisis that they experience.

“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”~WDyer

In the first section lesson, we learned that it takes great willpower, reflection, repetition and then application...

The intellect needs to be trained and used as one of the important tools. Without the intellect grasping and understanding these laws and processes the personality cannot even begin to approach the road into the inner self. If the mind does not know that an inner world to find and explore even exists, it can never recognize and remove the obstructions or recognize what is an aid. We gained the knowledge that thoughts and actions can be controlled by your conscious direction of will. However, you cannot directly control feelings.

What is really needed, is something that will and reason can’t bring about........Inner change of biased opinions, inaccurate beliefs or the deepest attitudes and feelings of an individual. It’s gaining the ability to see the experience from an objective perspective. "When you shift the level of your consciousness, you shift the frequency of your Light. It is at that level that the cause and effect of your intentions, the way that you choose to shape your energy, influences others. How does this happen? You are a system of Light, as are all beings.

The frequency of your Light depends upon your consciousness. When you shift the level of your consciousness, you shift the frequency of your Light. It means shifting yourself to a completely new dimension of experience and perception. If you choose to forgive someone who has wronged you, for example, rather than to hate that person, you shift the frequency of your Light. If you choose to feel affection, or kinship, with a person rather than distance or coldness, you shift the frequency of your Light.

Emotions are currents of energy with different frequencies. Emotions that we think of as negative, such as hatred, envy, disdain, and fear have a lower frequency, and less energy, than emotions that we think of as positive, such as affection, joy, love, and compassion. When you choose to replace a lower-frequency current of energy, such as anger, with a higher-frequency current, such as forgiveness, you raise the frequency of your Light. When you choose to allow higher-frequency currents of energy to run through your system, you experience more energy." ~ seat of the soul...

Between a wakeful person and an awakened or self-realized person, the difference is the intensity of awareness. An awakened person sleeps too, but because of a high level of awareness, some part of him does not sleep. The sense organs shut down, the body relaxes, but everything else is on. Awareness is a process of inclusiveness, of embracing this entire existence. You cannot do it, but you can set the right conditions so that it happens. If you bring body, mind and energies into alignment, awareness will blossom.

Being conscious ....
Repetition to create new habits, fake it till you make it....
Having the desire combined with emotion, belief....... zone focus at night as you fall asleep. Getting rid of mind viruses that make up you biased opinions, attitudes and belief systems. This cannot be brought about by the limited functions of your ego, and the intellects' use of reason and willpower. It takes your soul/spirit (tapping into the field) to actively control your perspectives and thus your opinions, attitudes and beliefs that determines your actions. The only fate governing your life is the fate determined by your own concepts, your own assumptions; for an assumption, though false, if persisted in, will harden into fact. It takes retraining or reprogramming your habitual mind.

Incorporating the 4 Agreements into your habits

Habits.....

Feelings from an experience leave an imprint or image on your soul. So this becomes an attitude, conviction, or bias etc... One of the most damaging factors in the general development of the personality is the influence of deeply ingrained.(images)prejudices and or habits. Habits are made and reside in the unconscious, from repeated thought, feeling & behavior. This is why this is such an important aspect of being.

By changing your attitudes, or belief system it becomes part of your habitual or subconscious mind which means you automatically respond from a different perspective. You then won’t have to worry so much about the willpower to consciously stop and think about an answer. This is not change but transformation, also the hardest part. This is hard for a majority of people as it takes it happening to them before they understand. reprogram.

You cannot make up your mind to be the good and loving person you want to be; to love, and have the humility and empathy to respond unconsciously with calmness & clarity from the heart or spirit.... It must be ingrained in your heart, not just in your mind and from will and reason. Then your reactions will be consistently more calm because it’s from the truth and goodness of Love.

We still think some habits can be changed from the intellect, will power, repetition and still reap some benefits without having to have a life crisis and transformation.

Most people live in the past and are inflexible in their objectiveness and ingrained belief system. Habit is subconscious programs. Habit is thoughts of these past experiences and interpretations/perceptions. The lens of your future is colored by your past memory. Your body is your unconscious mind. You will need less will and reason not to react in a negative or angry way, as it becomes imbedded in your subconscious from your reprogramed believes. The belief/thought becomes action, habit, character and then destiny.

One needs the realization the higher self is the fundamental road to learning. Making the shift... Self-awareness is about seeking the truth. True feelings warm the whole system, the whole person: body, mind, soul, and spirit. Truth is Love. Love is light. Knowledge is the ability to see the light; in understanding the truth of Love, Love then emits the warmth of the light.

The simple act of wanting the truth requires several conditions, the most important being the willingness to relinquish what one holds on to, whether this be a belief, a fear, or a cherished way of being. When I say relinquish, I merely mean questioning it and being willing to see that there is something else beyond this outlook.

"The higher self is the connecting link when the soul speaks to its personality. It is the dialogue between the personality and its immortal self. The personality-soul communication is the higher self experience. Communication between the personality and its soul is an in-house intuitive process. It is a process that is organic to your own internal system. For example, decision making, which is your process, can be an intuitive process in which you pull data from your mind, your heart, and your intuition, relying upon the guidance of your higher self. Each of these sources is part of your own system of energy. Your personality and your higher self are of your soul. The five-sensory personality is not aware of its soul or the guidance that it receives from its higher self and from more advanced souls. The multisensory personality is aware of its soul-it seeks to align itself with its soul, to become the physical embodiment of its higher self" ~Seat of the Soul

True Self knows, the small self thinks. Thought and will can only produce thought and will, they cannot produce something that has nothing to do with them. Love, transcendent understanding, and all other qualities of the real self, have nothing to do with thought and will. You know the truth—capital “K,” know, which means realize.

Valuable life lessons we can live by Wayne Dyer:

1. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

2. There are no justified resentments or judgments

3. What you think is what you become

4. Be open to everything and attached to nothing

5. Don’t die with the music in you

The real way is through The Evolution of The Heart

It is one of complete universality of love. A giving without expectation of return

To think spiritually is to think about actual things as they really are, seeing truths in the light of truth and perceiving what is good because we love it. It is seeing the qualities of things and perceiving their emotional impact apart from their material characteristics. Our spirit keeps right on thinking and intending and speaking and acting. Thinking and intending constitute the inner level of our spirit, while its speaking and acting constitute its outer level. Life is rooted in present experiences, the past of memory and the future of aspirations and imagination. It must be a healthy balance between the three. Handling your thought and emotions. Keeping your imagination and memories from being so compulsive.

It is realizing we have an inner self: The outer self was designed and created to serve the inner self. The inner self must be the master and the outer self and in a certain respect even a slave...

For most of us it is about survival in the physical world: “by mid age 95% of who we are is a set of unconscious thoughts, automatic programs, repetitive habits, emotional reactions, and memorized behaviors. These routine programs affect us mentally, spiritually, physically, energetically, chemically, biologically, and genetically, and they serve to keep us stuck in the past (after all, the brain is a record of the past, and when we live by familiar feelings, the body lives in the past).

When we’re entrenched in these life patterns, we might as well be a hamster on the proverbial wheel—and the only way to step off the wheel is to become aware you’re on it. In other words, the only mode to produce change is to bring conscious (awareness) to what we were unconscious to, and we do this by observing our thoughts, perceptions, behaviors, emotions, and actions. It is not the body that is conscious but the spirit within the body, and to the extent that it is in the body the spirit’s consciousness is coarse and cloudy and therefore in darkness. When one become aware that it is not in the body, the spirit’s consciousness can become clear and in the light. Unless our thinking is lifted out of sensory concerns we have little wisdom:

“To become a master of our emotions, thoughts, and feelings (which is how we master our energy, which is how we master our environment, which is how we master our destiny.)

The body/emotions, mind/feelings and the soul/spirit(tapping into the field).... These all are in entanglement. What you conceive, you can create, you have the experience. The soul concieves, the mind creates, the body experiences. The soul knows itself from the experience. If the soul doesn't like what it's experiencing, it wishes a different desire. This literally changes the mind and thus a new experience. Because mind then creates a new thought or intent and the body has a new and different experience. This is the cycle of life. The emotions, thoughts, your perceptions, feelings and beliefs, create your energy or your actions. Organize your body, emotions, mind(desires, intent and perception) and energy into one direction.

The characteristics of our physical world usually makes our fear based selfish ego aspect the quarterback (or the one calling the shots) of our mind. The ultimate goal is getting the

(1)mind to gain the rationality and understanding of the wisdom that the best possible outcomes will be experienced by the

(2)body only when the

(3)soul (thinking from the heart)becomes the quarterback.

3 aspects of the self. Each has a function but no function is greater then the other. They all need to work in tandem.

Experience produces concept of self.
Conception produces creation.
Creation produces the experience.

At some point you will ask the question. Who am I? Who do I want to be? Then you will start to think from your heart not your mind. By listening to the feelings of your heart.

The physical....

Body: physical or outer self, our 5 physical senses. Input for processing the information used in our daily life.

While alive, our psyche’s primary purpose is to control our physical world; by our body through its five senses that is in contact with the visible, touchable, tangible things of the material world. It’s the most outward and visible part of our being, and by it we exist and experience the things we do while our body is alive. We are primarily five-sensoryhuman beings. The sympathetic system sends out chemicals or hormones(examples like serotonin, melatonin, etc...)to the body to remember the event....creating emotions. Emotions are the end product of the bodies reactional experience. This is our built in basic self-protection survival system... the subconscious. The human body secretes and circulates some 50 different hormones. Hormones are special chemical messengers in the body that are created in the endocrine glands. These messengers control most major bodily functions, from simple basic needs like hunger to complex systems like reproduction, and even the emotions and mood.

Fear or Love. Fight or flight. Fear produces adrenaline (epinephrine) in the body. [Now days this is means something that threatens our ego...] This triggers a chain reaction which results in the release of the stress horm. This is why emotions are so hard to control, it's our bodies reactionary mechanism.

On the other hand when we feel good.... Love produces dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin, referred to as feel-good hormones. We even have an intestinal hormone called PYY—when it drops, you feel hungry. Your five senses provide your intellect information of the outside world -what you see, hear, taste, touch, and smell.....relationship

Body influences your mind by emotions. The body produces the initial emotions and automatic reaction from past experiences and perceptions. The logics and understandings of the five-sensory personality originate in the mind. It cannot comprehend information that does not come from your five senses.

Your mind (your inside-self) turns these raw body emotional signals into feelings from your perceptions of the emotion based event/experience. Your intellect compares and analyzes this emotional information from the body, deduces and concludes things about it, and tells you how to stay alive and comfortable.

This our main drive and instinct until one remembers the soul. Learning to pause and think from the heart not our minds and ego.

Self awareness is NOT living in unconsciousness, living on past outdated software programs. To pause and actively think, not to react but to respond. One needs to first learn to only think with Love... Love is expansion. It's breaking down the wall. It's something beyond survival. It's wanting to include someone else in your reality.... Love results from an action. Then the emotion is attached to this action. Yet they do not make you happy or complete you.

Realizing who you are inwardly. Being happy only comes from within.... Starting with learning to be good to yourself. If you love yourself, you know how to treat others.

Imagination is expansion, but... Most imagination comes from an exaggerated memory, which is not good, because you will be projecting the past into the future. We are twisting the past into various shapes and get excited about it – it is permutations and combinations of the past – so many that every time, it looks new and exciting to you. Maybe in a different form, in a different color, but many times your imagination is supported by your memory, and memory is past.

Embracing ones ignorance is expansion... Asking yourself is this really the truth, do I know everything there is to know? What I do not know is boundless, it is expansion. Being objective; as all attitudes, belief systems, etc... are learned experiences from the past. Making sure you have all the possible changes and updates to you software. One change much of this but what really needed is to become transformed.

So it’s important to realize the non physical or spiritual side of us. One must become open to realize and implement from our spiritual side. Thinking from our heart (or from the inside) in the desires and actions of love to balance out our minds selfish ego and protective desires of our daily survival and 5 senses(the outside world) that is usually the main drive.

Your feelings are where you live. If you have been able to assume the feeling within your heart and genuinely feel the love that this activity brings to you, you will, as Neville states, be in a place where your wish must be realized—such is the power of your feelings.

“A change of feeling is a change of destiny.”

The physical body is an outpicturing of the soul currents, and this outpicturing can occur in many ways.

The mind-body connection....

A main function of the mind is to record the past. Feelings are the end product of an emotional experience. We remember better from the more emotional experiences. Experience is from the body and outside world. Your body is your unconscious mind.

Emotions are the language of the body. The emotion is associated with the experience(the unconscious). The body/emotional response of the outside experience has a huge influence on the mind. All we know comes from our memories of our experiences.

We basically live in 3 worlds, thought, emotions and feelings. Thus most of us live in the past.

Our defense mechanism is the unconscious mind. The reactionary mind. We store the internal interpretation and associated feelings of the emotion attached to the outside experience as a memory that resides in the unconscious mind.

Thought is the language of the mind. Our perception or interpretation of the emotional experience shape our feelings. Living unconsciously is our main drive and instinct(protection of the ego). We live by the memory of the past.... until one can learn to tap into the energy of the soul.

Our goal is to

Master the pause, and use thoughts from the soul/heart not the body or the memory/mind. To have control of our emotional outbursts. Consciously changing our perception and feelings of the bodies emotional reaction to the present experience. To override the body/minds unconscious reaction with a response from the conscious heart. This is what it means to become aware or to be conscious. We want you to be consciously aware when the thought you are thinking right now harmonizes so completely with your Broader Perspective that the full knowledge of your Broader Perspective flows through you, causing you to feel enlivened, clear-minded, and joyous. And when you feel confused or angry, or uncomfortable in any way, we want you to recognize that the thought you are thinking is discordant and out of harmony with your Broader Non-Physical viewpoint. Talk about what you do want; and discontinue dialogue about any unwanted experiences, situations, or results. Monitoring thoughts can be tedious and tiring, so the best approach to deliberately change the direction of your thought is to reinforce your desire to feel good. Once you are determined to improve the way you feel, you will begin to catch yourself in the more early, subtle stages of negative attraction. Thoughts and feelings of goodness, truth and love are the language of the heart. The heart is the biggest electromagnetic organ in our physical body.
The ultimate goal is to create new thoughts in order to reprogram certain memories. To transform ones perceptions into new automated responses that reside in the unconscious mind.
You need to realize that while you are focused in your physical body, thinking thoughts, speaking words, involved in action . . . at the same time there is a Non-Physical aspect of you who exists in the Non-Physical realm from which you have come—and the Non-Physical aspect of you has expanded because of your physical experiences. Many people refer to their physical life experience as reality. You decipher your physical reality through your physical senses, and as you look around your planet at the places and people and experiences, you pronounce it reality. We want you to understand that even though you are seeing and hearing and tasting and smelling and touching the evidence of your physical reality, it is much more than the flesh, blood, and bone reality that you believe it is. Everything that you perceive here in your physical environment is Vibration, and the life you are living is your Vibrational interpretation.

Understanding the mind...

4 broad functions

1. intellect (the knife, dissecting, conscious) -

2. Ego, identity (hand that holds the knife, unconscious) -

3. body-memory(unconsciousness) -

4. Pure intelligence (LOVE - the field, the heart, your soul, conscious) becoming aware, being conscious, thinking with your heart!

What is Ego?... Don’t Let Your Ego Take Control Of Your Life.....

3 main functions areas of the mind brain, neocortex, cerebellum, limbic or emotional system ..

3 brains one mind....

All experience is from the body and outside world. Emotions are the language of the body... Your body is your unconscious mind, the subconscious has 95% control.... biological, social, and learned behavior. Its about our experiences, emotions, perceptions and resulting feelings that determine your Behavior......

Preprogrammed -

Heart is open, accepting, creative, and grounded, it Includes. It feels good and relaxes you. Thinking with your Mind or Ego is fearing, it Excludes. ....

We all have a story....

Learn from it. Conquer it. Own it. Grow up...

It’s about Reprograming - updating inept and outdated software programs -

which is the subconscious...Plus

It’s about the heart or soul (the field, connected) not the Ego (separate)or mind... How heart-brain connection works...

How to harmonize heart-brain - care, gratitude, appreciation, compassion...

organization of your mind...

Awareness is really 2 parts...

1st: awareness of the present and control of our emotions....

Living in the present moment. We have no control of the experience, any relationships or the outside world. We do have control of our inside world. Its our internal interpretation or perspective of the experience which result in our attitudes, opinions, habits that form our behavior.

Being conscious, thinking with the heart. Not the ego ... It’s how we respond not react

The 2nd part: Know yourself

attention or another word for it is concentration/focus ...

Attention to all that is important to you, a balance between outside and outside importance but mostly the inside and the inside importance....

Faith....

Mind & Consciousness

Life is rooted in present experiences, the past from our memory and the future in our aspirations and imagination. It must be a healthy balance between the three. Handling your thought and emotions. Keeping your imagination and memories from being so compulsive. Learning to be a little more in the moment....

conscious mind:

which represents the seat of our personal identity, source, or spirit—is the creative mind. It can see into the future, review the past, or disconnect from the present moment as it solves problems in our head. In its creative capacity, the conscious mind holds our wishes, desires, and aspirations for our lives. It is the mind that conjures up our “positive thoughts.”

In order to fully understand the power of your conscious & unconscious mind. We first need to understand the difference between our conscious and our unconscious.

Consciousness is our self aware, free will individual. The conscious is not the body, not the brain or the mind. It is energy.

The brain is the physical instrument of mind, not the mind itself. The brain is the physical instrument humans need to use and process thought, the machinery. Mind is the brain in action or at work. Mind is what the brain does. The brain is simply the retrieval and read-out mechanism (the receiver)of the ultimate storage medium.

✅ The mind and consciousness are two different things.

Mind is an activity of consciousness, like waves on the ocean.
Consciousness is the ocean itself.

Here are five reasons why this distinction should mean something to every person.

1. The mind wrestles with fear of death. Consciousness isn’t born and never dies.

2. Mind feels trapped in a physical body. Consciousness unites the two as different modes of experience.

3. Mind feels isolated and apart from other people. Consciousness erases all separation, because separation/duality is an illusion.

4. Mind sees the human race as an insignificant speck in the immense void of outer space. Consciousness has no need for time or space. As in a dream, they are merely useful constructs in the dual world, having no ultimate reality.

5. Mind is baffled by eternity and yet yearns for it as a haven of peace where suffering ends. Consciousness is already timeless; therefore, the world here and now is a haven of peace where suffering ends with a shift in awareness. Consciousness gives rise to the mind, not the brain. The experience of physical reality is a mode of consciousness; in fact, there is nothing real that isn’t made real by consciousness. 4 stages of conscious evolution ...

Consciousness is not a byproduct of matter. Consciousness exists independently of the physical world and always has. No form exists without consciousness. Energy is consciousness and consciousness is energy. In principle, consciousness and energy are one.

Reality is entirely experience-based. What we cannot experience doesn’t exist, not insofar as human awareness is concerned.
Each person creates reality, serving as a conscious agent who experiences, perceives, and interprets the contents of mind.
Everything in existence is a mode of consciousness interacting with itself.
The individual self or “I” participates in the cosmic mind

Consciousness is what manipulates the brain to produce mind.

Our Conscience is shaped by the principles we believe to be true that we have been taught. Thinking from an inner level is a conscience that is focused on what is spiritually good; its essence is truth. Thinking and acting from your heart. Consciousness is used to rewire or reprogramming your mind....

I) thoughts, desires, free will/choice.

ii) rationality/understanding or perceptions

iii) emotional self - imagination, habits, feelings

iv) observation, self-awareness (seldom used)

Intellect is your thought process, thought is just one dimension of your intelligence. Thought is only happening because of the data you have gathered in your mind. From memory, experience, your upbringing. You can't think about anything for which you have no data. If beliefs are just thoughts that we’ve had over and over, then our beliefs control our biology (whether or not these beliefs are true). Our thoughts produce the chemicals that influence the environment, therefore, our thoughts influence our health and happiness.

Human mind or intelligence is intellect, identity(ego), memory, [plus the field/spirit/soul]: again all are entangled.

Mind is also subdivided into unconscious and conscious....

Intellect/free will- want it sharp- used as a knife to dissect...used for survival. disects everything...it's designed for self preservation of the self ego. Good for some things but bad for others. Our physical world is goal oriented. We compare and judge everything. The thinking brain.... 5 senses gather the data needed for intellect from the physical outside world. Where we get the data is from our 5 senses, from outside of us or outward bound. Thinking mind process present experiences. Emotions are processed in this part of the brain. Intellect is always a slave to.....
Identity/ego - is what we identify with... values, belief systems. Whatever within the boundaries of my physical sensations is me. Your bodies raw chemical response or emotions is then interpreted into feelings (done all within.) Emotions create new feelings, reaction and memory/impression. If it's similar to past events most of us will react subconsciously from an already recorded automatic reaction... A process that relies on our personality, and ego related belief systems and values. Perception is our minds interpretation of all of our life's or bodies emotions or our final feelings of the emotional experience. These feelings are impressed into our memories. Feelings is what mold our beliefs, opinions and attitudes. Our main goal is to protect our body, our ego mind, our color or our skin, our culture, our religion, our sex, male or female.
Memory consists of our interpretations of experiences and used with the intellect(the knife) to protect itself. Identity(ego) is the hand that holds the knife.....Memory - is the data bank used for intellect. Whatever within the boundaries of my physical sensations is me. It's about just the self.... Building a wall, a coccon of saftey. This self protectionism comes from the memory. Protection of the ego...... Body memory and mind memory. Thus when we actively aren’t self aware of the present moment we react from our past ingrained software programs of self preservation or the bodies experiences. Memory resides in the subconscious. We mostly live from these subconscious software programs. We are who we are, from our memory. We are an automated species. Memory has boundaries. Memory is all from the past. It can be from education(knowledge), physical experiences, social, there are many types. Our beliefs, attitudes etc....The experience is from physical outside world, but our interpretations and memory is all done within. Our education from or parents, schools, our upbringing. Humans tend to project memories onto the future. So fear is often projected as a possible future from past bad experiences. Experience can become a wound or wisdom. Perceptions is made all from using the outside physical world of comparison. So to survive its purpose is good. In reality, all is experienced within. Think about it... It all happens within you. The brain is the record of the past. Things, events, people are attached to each memory. Each memory has an emotion & feeling attached to it. Feeling is the end product of past experiences. How you think and how you feel creates your present. Memory of the minds interpretation and resulting perception & feelings is a feedback system based on past emotional experiences that morphs into a protective automated response system. Most of us aren’t aware we are mainly creatures of the past. Human nature is habit.... It's living by habit, living on automated outdated software programs... Don't you want to make sure you have possible and current updates available to download. To really live life, to what it really can be. Without memory the intellect can’t function. Can it be trusted?

your soul... To operate more from the conscious not the wired unconscious automated programs. The real goal is to tap into the field. Learn to respond, have wisdom and when it's called for, to delink from the memory(and often outdated software). To think from the heart not from the body/minds physical emotions and protective ego. To control our body, our emotional outbursts. Updating outdated software and respond not react, you need knowledge from the the field. Learning to connect to the field, to think from your heart... The ultimate aim is to transform our automated ego based and outdated programs to updated love based programs. Life is joy. When you think thoughts during which you feel passionate or happy or loving or eager, you are choosing thoughts in which the larger part of you is also completely immersed; but instead of causing a separation between you and your Source(the field), you are now creating a partnership or relationship with power and clarity and Well-Being. You could say that, in any moment, you really only have access to two emotions: one that feels better and one that feels worse. If you will make a determination that, from wherever you stand and no matter what you are focusing upon, you will reach for the best-feeling thought you can find from where you are, then you will develop an ongoing relationship with your Inner Being, with Source, and with all that you desire—and your life will become consistently joyous. until you decide to focus your thoughts into alignment with the Source within you, you will not feel good. A joyful life is not about gaining control of the factors that surround you. A joyful life is about coming into alignment with who-you-are. Joy is not about controlling other people or circumstances. Joy is about controlling your own Vibrational relationship between the physical you and the Non-Physical You. It is alignment with the field that is joy or love or success or satisfaction.

What is the way to see the difference between the soul and the mind?

The mind is the process of observation. The soul is the observer. What is the physical reality including that of the body? It's the object of observation. You observe through your mind and you observe the body and you observe other bodies. But remember that other bodies and everything else that you observe are a translation of bodily processes in your own self by your nervous system. So when I observe you out there, actually I am observing bodily processes in my mind that I interpret as you.

So everything happens in our body, mind and soul. The observer is the soul, the process is the mind(brain), and the physical body is the object. Your skin is major receptor of the signals from the outside world of through our 5 senses; touch, sight, smell, sound etc... This sends a signal effector that produces an emotion. Perception is the the minds interpretation (thought with wisdom) of the bodies emotion reaction to the experience. The minds feelings made from your thought process or perception impress images that form or mold your belief system/attitudes which produces your behavior.

So perception controls behavior.

In contrast to your personal self, there is also an impersonal self that is with you for every moment of your existence in this lifetime. This impersonal self is NOT your intellect and body. It is the invisible intelligence that animates all of life. It is responsible for all of your deepest desires. It allows your fingernails to grow, your heart to beat, and it is the Force that supports all of life everywhere. To appreciate the presence of this Force, you must get away from the unconsciousness of your body, which have long held you enslaved.

I’m sure you can recall times when your conscious mind generated ideas and impressed those ideas on your subconscious mind. This is how you learned to drive a car, do yoga exercises, cook a soufflé, and everything else that requires a multitude of complex maneuvers to do without the aid of your conscious mind. Your mind receives these ideas and ultimately gives form and expression to them. You have thoughts about trying something and then proceed to consciously practice, and you may not even realize that you are implanting the know-how in your subconscious mind. Your conscious mind is responsible for only 5 percent of all of your actions, including what you manifest

A good way to imagine consciousness is to think of it as the internet. We all have computers that are separate from one another in physical spaces, just as each of us are our own person. But when we connect our computers to the internet, although they are in different locations, they are connected—and all information flows—through an information network. Consciousness is a global phenomenon that occurres everywhere in the body, and not simply in our brains. Consciousness, at its most basic, is coherent light. If this is the case with consciousness, consciousness is not confined inside the head, but a fundamental property of reality that spans time and space.

Balance:

Ego must know it is a servant. Ego's task is to formulate the thought, the intent, the decision. After the ego fulfills its task, it must step aside and allow the real self to come forth with its intuition and inspiration that sets the pace and directs the individual path.

Man’s problems and conflicts are always a result of either too big an ego or too small an ego. The personality/ego level is more accessible to you and you are more acutely and more directly aware of it. Understand, however, the ego cannot be dispensed with. To do so is another extreme which is damaging. To overemphasize, you become tired and exhausted. Fear of letting go, of giving up ego strength, you lose strength. A weak ego fears self responsibility and becomes completely disabled, neurotic or addicted. ..

The real self exudes and transmits a vital flow of energy, the life force, consciousness. Because it’s omnipresent, this energy field of consciousness is accessible to you after your physical arrival here on Earth! The only way you deactivate this dormant force is by believing that you’re separate from it. Ego is made of six primary ingredients that account for how we experience ourselves as disconnected. By allowing ego to determine your life path, you deactivate the power of intention. No matter how hard you try, the field can’t be accessed through ego.

Be a host to Love or to your ego. It's your choice. Life is about slaying your ego & replace it with Love ...

Dyer says ego stands for Edge God Out....

Ego is a collection of ideas...

I am what I have
I am what I do
I am what other people think of me
I am separate from everybody else
I am separate from everything missing in my life
I am separate from God

The ego is like a wild horse. One must not let it run wild but to train it.... Like an olimpic champion. No matter how hard you try, the field can’t be accessed through ego, so take some time to recognize and readjust any or all of these six beliefs. When the supremacy of ego is weakened in your life, you can seek the field and maximize your potential.

Breaking egos hold...

Stop being offended. The behavior of others isn’t a reason to be immobilized. That which offends you only weakens you. If you’re looking for occasions to be offended, you’ll find them at every turn. This is your ego at work convincing you that the world shouldn’t be the way it is. But you can become an appreciator of life and match up with the universal Spirit of Creation. You can’t reach the power of intention by being offended. By all means, act to eradicate the horrors of the world, which emanate from massive ego identification, but stay in peace. As A Course in Miracles reminds us: Peace is of God, you who are part of God are not at home except in his peace. Being offended creates the same destructive energy that offended you in the first place and leads to attack, counterattack, and war.
Let go of your need to win. Ego loves to divide us up into winners and losers. The pursuit of winning is a surefire means to avoid conscious contact with intention. Why? Because ultimately, winning is impossible all of the time. Someone out there will be faster, luckier, younger, stronger, and smarter—and back you’ll go to feeling worthless and insignificant. You’re not your winnings or your victories. You may enjoy competing, and have fun in a world where winning is everything, but you don’t have to be there in your thoughts. There are no losers in a world where we all share the same energy source. All you can say on a given day is that you performed at a certain level in comparison to the levels of others on that day. But today is another day, with other competitors and new circumstances to consider. You’re still the infinite presence in a body that’s another day (or decade) older. Let go of needing to win by not agreeing that the opposite of winning is losing. That’s ego’s fear. If your body isn’t performing in a winning fashion on this day, it simply doesn’t matter when you aren’t identifying exclusively with your ego. Be the observer, noticing and enjoying it all without needing to win a trophy. Be at peace, and match up with the field of energy. And ironically, although you’ll hardly notice it, more of those victories will show up in your life as you pursue them less.
Let go of your need to be right. Ego is the source of a lot of conflict and dissension because it pushes you in the direction of making other people wrong. When you’re hostile, you’ve disconnected from the power of intention. The creative Spirit is kind, loving, and receptive; and free of anger, resentment, or bitterness. Letting go of your need to be right in your discussions and relationships is like saying to ego, I’m not a slave to you. I want to embrace kindness, and I reject your need to be right. In fact, I’m going to offer this person a chance to feel better by saying that she’s right, and thank her for pointing me in the direction of truth. When you let go of the need to be right, you’re able to strengthen your connection to the power of intention. But keep in mind that ego is a determined combatant. I’ve seen people willing to die rather than let go of being right. I’ve seen people end otherwise beautiful relationships by sticking to their need to be right. I urge you to let go of this ego-driven need to be right by stopping yourself in the middle of an argument and asking yourself, Do I want to be right or be happy? When you choose the happy, loving, spiritual mode, your connection to intention is strengthened. These moments ultimately expand your new connection to the power of field. The universal Source will begin to collaborate with you in creating the life you were intended to live.
Let go of your need to be superior. True nobility isn’t about being better than someone else. It’s about being better than you used to be. Stay focused on your growth, with a constant awareness that no one on this planet is any better than anyone else. We all emanate from the same creative life force. We all have a mission to realize our intended essence; all that we need to fulfill our destiny is available to us. None of this is possible when you see yourself as superior to others. It’s an old saw, but nonetheless true: We are all equal in the eyes of God. Let go of your need to feel superior by seeing the unfolding of God in everyone. Don’t assess others on the basis of their appearance, achievements, possessions, and other indices of ego. When you project feelings of superiority, that’s what you get back, leading to resentments and ultimately hostile feelings. These feelings become the vehicle that takes you farther away from intention. Specialness always makes comparisons. It is established by a lack seen in another, and maintained by searching for, and keeping clear in sight, all lacks it can perceive.
Let go of your need to have more. The mantra of the ego is more. It’s never satisfied. No matter how much you achieve or acquire, your ego will insist that it isn’t enough. You’ll find yourself in a perpetual state of striving, and eliminate the possibility of ever arriving. Yet in reality, you’ve already arrived, and how you choose to use this present moment of your life is your choice. Ironically, when you stop needing more, more of what you desire seems to arrive in your life. Since you’re detached from the need for it, you find it easier to pass it along to others, because you realize how little you need in order to be satisfied and at peace. The universal Source is content with itself, constantly expanding and creating new life, never trying to hold on to its creations for its own selfish means. It creates and lets go. As you let go of ego’s need to have more, you unify with that Source. You create, attract to yourself, and let it go, never demanding that more come your way. As an appreciator of all that shows up, you learn the powerful lesson St. Francis of Assisi taught: “ . . . it is in giving that we receive.” By allowing abundance to flow to and through you, you match up with your Source and guarantee that this energy will continue to flow.
Let go of identifying yourself on the basis of your achievements. This may be a difficult concept if you think you are your achievements. God writes all the music, God sings all the songs, God builds all the buildings, God is the source of all your achievements. I can hear your ego loudly protesting. Nevertheless, stay tuned to this idea. All emanates from Source! You and that Source are one! You’re not this body and its accomplishments. You are the observer. Notice it all; and be grateful for the abilities you’ve been given, the motivation to achieve, and the stuff you’ve accumulated. But give all the credit to the power of intention, which brought you into existence and which you’re a materialized part of. The less you need to take credit for your achievements and the more connected you stay to the seven faces of intention, the more you’re free to achieve, and the more will show up for you. It’s when you attach yourself to those achievements and believe that you alone are doing all of those things that you leave the peace and the gratitude of your Source.
Let go of your reputation. Your reputation is not located in you. It resides in the minds of others. Therefore, you have no control over it at all. If you speak to 30 people, you will have 30 reputations. Connecting to intention means listening to your heart and conducting yourself based on what your inner voice tells you is your purpose here. If you’re overly concerned with how you’re going to be perceived by everyone, then you’ve disconnected yourself from intention and allowed the opinions of others to guide you. This is your ego at work. It’s an illusion that stands between you and the power of the field. There’s nothing you can’t do, unless you disconnect from the power source and become convinced that your purpose is to prove to others how masterful and superior you are and spend your energy attempting to win a giant reputation among other egos. Do what you do because your inner voice—always connected to and grateful to your Source—so directs you. Stay on purpose, detach from outcome, and take responsibility for what does reside in you: your character. Leave your reputation for others to debate; it has nothing to do with you. Or as a book title says: What You Think of Me Is None of My Business! The three major obstacles to your connecting to intention: your thoughts, your energy, and your self-importance. The ego is the part that thinks, acts, discriminates, and decides. It is how one expresses; it is the vehicle or form of our expression. This includes our various forms of thought and belief, emotions, and physical expression. It is governed by our attitude; feelings thoughts, and subconscious reactions(habit).

✅ Personality is developed by the situations and patterns of one's life

a)Temperament: refers to those traits that are predetermined.

b)Character: refers to a set of strengths and virtues (as well as weaknesses and vices) which we can consciously develop throughout life. (via our spirit)

Each of the next 3 is a key major component of your true character, your true personality. Each is also part of our temperament or predetermined attributes.

i) goals: Every personality has a goal (intention)in life. There is an overall direction we each want our life to take, a theme we want to pursue. The goal is the quality of life we seek to create for ourselves. Our goal is like an undercurrent that moves us through life, directly affecting the choices we make from one situation to the next. All adults have a primary character flaw which distorts their goal and related life decisions, plus a secondary one which distorts their attitude and hence internal perceptions of life. The why of our actions.

ii) attitude a major component of personality — the overall orientation of the mind, a fundamental mindset". Attitude is everything.....

Attitude, beliefs, etc...forms your energy. It helps to shape or form your thoughts... Attitude is an individual's predisposed state of mind regarding a value and it influences the individual's thought and action. It is your perception. Your dispositions and attitudes reflect your intentions. If you are angry, fearful, resentful, or vengeful, your intention is to keep people at a distance. Each of us has a mental framework which we use to frame our view of life, to give events and experiences a consistent meaning, that enables us to interpret reality in a consistent way. Think of it as the lens through which you see your life unfolding. Our response to life.

There are two general & powerful forces or attitudes in the universe and therefore in each ego/human personality.

On the one hand, there is the desire for love — to be loved and to love — both realistic and unrealistic, mature and immature.
On the other hand, there is the aggressive tendency of desire for rulership, for mastery over others, for dominion.

One must inevitably interfere with the other. One must exclude the other. Yet, unconsciously you think they can be combined. You try to make one serve for the other, and this attempt is bound to fail. It creates a tremendous conflict within.

As long as you are not acutely and specifically aware of these two currents, you cannot come to terms with life. As long as you try to struggle out of this conflict by blind and unconscious attempts to make two mutually exclusive forces serve the same end, you must inwardly be torn apart. Only conscious awareness of this conflict will show you the way to make peace within yourself, or how to integrate the two currents.

They must be in balance to be in harmony. The human mind is constantly groping to find the right balance of these all-important attitudes. Finding this balance is one of the great difficulties each person encounters on the path to harmonious interaction.

These soul movements are very subtle. Only this work you are doing can bring awareness of them into your consciousness.

“A main function of the ego is the instinct of self-preservation, to maintain and safeguard life. But we tend to distort the dangers, they are imagined and unrealistic. When a human being considers himself threatened by not being loved, admired, approved of or agreed with, this represents an unrealistic danger.”

Both distortions are intrinsically self-centered, the reaction on the personality must be of like nature. Self-centeredness brings frustration, anxiety, tension, compulsion, guilt, and insecurity, to name but a few of the negative emotions thus generated.

iii) personality type or mode of acting defines how you act rather than why. It is your outward approach to doing life, how you go about getting what you want out of life. And as your characteristic pattern or style of acting, your type is also the most visible aspect of your personality as it directly affects your output, your behaviour.

There are three basic types of personality.

i) The first type governs his or her life and reactions mainly with reason.

ii) The second type does so mainly with emotion, and

iii) the third does so with the will.

In other words, the three personality types are dominated by reason, by emotion, and by will. In your self-search it will be useful for you to find out which type you are. A personality is never completely one-sided; every person is a mixture of types, but one is always predominant. In some cases, the predominance is obvious; in others, the mixture is more complicated, and therefore the predominant type is more difficult to detect.

According to J.S.Benner, every one of us has both a personal self as well as an impersonal aspect to our being. Your personal self, or your personality, is being directed at all times by your mind and your five senses. When you approach your life from your Impersonal self, it is an opportunity to free yourself, now and forever, from the unhealthy and limiting domination of your personality, with its self-inflated and often self-sabotaging mind and intellect.

We all live primarily in the physical 5 senses world and survival mode, so the physical self or ego is our first and upmost concern of self protection of our identity ...

We rationalize through our ego or little self. We rarely use or practice self observation or awareness. So we usually react and live from past feelings, memories and outdated misperceived mind programs. The little self or your ego is usually what we listen to and use to program our subconscious. One must first understand what and who we are. As we covered before, we are not our ego...

Identity/ego/personality:

Ego is of the 5 sensory world. Your lower self or false self as the ego—a part of you that believes you’re defined by what you achieve, own, or win. It’s a belief that whatever status you’ve accumulated is proof that you’re a separate being possessing particular strengths or limitations. It probably isn’t a surprise that I suggest there are different beliefs that can and will put you on the path of happiness, success, and health that you desire. Begin to remove that ego burden from your shoulders and reconnect to the field of intention(consciousness). When you lay your ego aside and return to that from which you originally emanated, you’ll begin to immediately see the power of intention working with, for, and through you in a multitude of ways. It is self-evident that feelings cannot be controlled by the ego. Those who attempt this merely deceive themselves. They kill the spontaneity and freedom of the real self. This is why feelings can never respond to any must, issued either by other people or by the self. They come about indirectly and seem to have their own, independent life, their own laws, their own logic and wisdom...

The Subconscious or the habitual mind

the subconscious mind is primarily a repository of stimulus-response tapes derived from instincts and learned experiences. The subconscious mind is fundamentally habitual; it will play the same behavioral responses to life’s signals over and over again, much to our chagrin. How many times have you found yourself going ballistic over something trivial like an open toothpaste tube? You have been trained since childhood to carefully replace the cap. When you find the tube with its cap left off, your “buttons are pushed” and you automatically fly into a rage. You’ve just experienced the simple stimulus-response of a behavior program stored in the subconscious mind. When it comes to sheer neurological processing abilities, the subconscious mind is more than a million times more powerful than the conscious mind. If the desires of the conscious mind conflict with the programs in the subconscious mind, which “mind” do you think will win out? You can repeat the positive affirmation that you are lovable over and over or that your cancer tumor will shrink. But if, as a child, you repeatedly heard that you were worthless and sickly, those messages programmed in your subconscious mind will undermine your best conscious efforts to change your life. Remember how quickly your last New Year’s resolution to eat less food fell by the wayside as the aroma of the baking turkey dissolved your resolve?

I believe the greatest problem we face is that we think we are running our lives with the wishes, desires, and aspirations created by our conscious mind. When we struggle or fail to obtain our goals, we are generally led to conclude that we are victims of outside forces preventing us from reaching our destination. However, neuroscience has now established that the conscious mind runs the show, at best, only about 5 percent of the time. It turns out that the programs acquired by the subconscious mind shape 95 percent or more of our life experiences. (Szegedy-Maszak 2005) Since subconscious programs operate without the necessity of observation or control by the conscious mind, we are completely unaware that our subconscious minds are making our everyday decisions. Our lives are essentially a printout of our subconscious programs, behaviors that were fundamentally acquired from others (our parents, family, and community) before we were six years old. As psychologists recognize, a majority of these developmental programs are limiting and disempowering.

In reality, the subconscious is an emotionless database of stored programs, whose function is strictly concerned with reading environmental signals and engaging in hardwired behavioral programs, no questions asked, no judgments made. The subconscious mind is similar to a programmable “hard drive” into which our life experiences are downloaded. The programs are functionally equivalent to hardwired stimulus-response behaviors. Behavior activating stimuli may be signals the nervous system detects from the external world and/or signals that arise from within the body such as emotions, pleasure, and pain. When a stimulus is perceived, it will automatically engage the behavioral response that was learned when the signal was first experienced. In fact, people who realize the automated nature of this playback response frequently admit to the fact that their “buttons have been pushed.”

The subconscious mind, the most powerful information processor known, specifically observes both the surrounding world and the body’s internal awareness, reads the environmental cues, and immediately engages previously acquired (learned) behaviors—all without the help, supervision, or even awareness of the conscious mind.

Body produces Emotions from the experience then your Mind/perception form the Feelings which are impressed or makes your Memory of that experience. Memory is the end product from past experiences. Realize that feelings are learned from past experiences.

Every new or similar experience will bring up the thoughts that trigger the the emotions and then the feelings (attitudes) associated with old memories from similar experiences. Thoughts are feelings and feelings follow thoughts. Your body really is your habitual/unconscious mind, because 95% of the time we are in survival mode and we are wired to automatically react to the environment or experience from past memories that reside in the habitual/subconscious. So our reactions is based on the past. Most of us are really living in the past.

Our mind operates as a record of the past; the physical instrument. Memory is accumulated past, memory means information, memory means that which does not work exist, but acts as if it does. Memory can seem more real then present time. Everything in life is run by memory.... Our body is also a body of memory. Our Genes.... hot or cold, danger or love......our body is made of memories. Every cell in our body is a cell of memory..... We are a essentialy corrupt from our personal memory. When we live by the same feelings every day we are living in our past, which means more of our attention is in our past than in our future; External stimulation(5 senses) reminds us of who we think we are as a personality. (ego) Mind always uses discretion and dissection. It analyzes from comparison. Good or bad, beautiful or ugly, ect... And it learns and thinks from past experiences... The subconscious mind is an accumulation of outdated software programs.... Memory of life experiences, belief-systems, habits etc....

Experience is for the body, information or knowledge is for the mind. Knowledge is the precursor to the experience. Experience is the end product of when we apply knowledge. We can modify ourselves in a very short time by introducing new knowledge.

Many of us always blame the other, never changing stay-in in the 95% zone. Some of us only change from a crisis or trauma.....

After time one realizes some thoughts may not necessarily be true. Wanting to change is becoming conscious (Self-aware) of your thoughts that let you become aware of the present. What we want to do, is to observe or become self aware of the present. Trying to not always be in survival mode. In today's world we really aren't concerned with that many life threatening events in our daily routine.

Learning to pause, not to react to the bodies reaction to the experience but to respond and create new feelings, experiences and new memories from the heart.(new knowledge from the non physical world)... Not to react to the body that's in survival mode and from past memories and old programing of the habitual/subconscious. The goal is to become the observer, to update bad or outdated memories and programs. (and to keep the good ones.) To create new habits and reprogram the subconscious. (knowledge) Wanting to suppress the the physical brains little ego and to live, think and respond more from the non physical world and the heart. Not to let the outside world rule you. Thinking, responding and acting from within. You can amake a difference choice—you can choose to change your emotional reactions and habits and get beyond your mind and body. Instead of letting the program run itself, you can choose to think the thoughts you do want to fire and wire—the thoughts, actions, and feelings connected to your future. This is where you need to remember to be kind to yourself and understand that true, lasting change is a gradual process.

Ideas are impressed on the subconscious through the medium of feeling. No idea can be impressed on the subconscious mind until it is felt, but once felt—be it good, bad or indifferent. Feeling is the one and only medium through which ideas are conveyed to the subconscious. Your emotions happen in your body, where you live and breathe( from outside). Your feelings is your interpretation(perception)of events (from the inside). How you feel is your experience of life. These feelings flow from the thoughts you place in your imagination, and you are free to select any thought you desire.

Your unconscious mind is any information that is below the threshold of your current awareness. Subconscious mind accounts for some 95 percent or more of everything you do and everything you attract into your life. However, all things, including what you desire to manifest for yourself, evolve out of your thinking/ conscious mind, and must then be impressed upon your subconscious mind. This is the cycle, and without this precise sequencing nothing will be made. Your feelings are deeply involved in this sequence.

“In reality, the subconscious is an emotionless database of stored programs, whose function is strictly concerned with reading environmental signals and engaging in hardwired behavioral programs, no questions asked, no judgments made. The subconscious mind is a programmable ‘hard drive’ into which our life experiences are downloaded.” The automated reactionary part of our computer that allows us to act so fast.

Examples of your subconscious are memories, beliefs, fears and subjective maps of reality. The thing with your unconscious mind is it’s very powerful and can, without your awareness, direct the course of what you do in your life. But one can rewire your perceptions, beliefs and opinions.

Habit means you have learned to function in an automated way. That means you don't do things consciously. You are living unconsciously. Habit means - unconscious.

Apply awareness and use your power to be more objective. All things are possible with awareness. Because of this, you must learn to choose our thoughts effectively, because your thoughts, both conscious/creative and habitual, are what are creating your current experience of reality—including your level of success in every area of your life—work, financial, relationships, health, and happiness.

“The subconscious receives impressions only through the feelings of man and in a way known only to itself gives these impressions form and expression.” “The subconscious is the womb of creation. It receives the idea unto itself through the feelings of man. It never changes the idea received, but always gives it form.” Your feelings determine your reality because they’re impressed on the subconscious. The moment it receives a feeling impression, it takes action on working out the ways of its expression... understand your emotions...

Feeling is the one and only medium through which ideas are conveyed to the subconscious. Your subconscious impressions are reflected in the conditions of your world. The strange and wonderful thing about your subconscious mind is that it always accepts as true what you feel to be true. The key words here are feel to be true. Your feelings allow your subconscious mind to spring into action. Earlier I described intellectual understanding as tossing ideas around in your mind and drawing conclusions. Spiritual understanding differs in that it requires experiencing it. The way to understand something spiritually is through experiencing it. Your feelings are the tools you have for experiencing your subconscious mind and making it your reality. Every object and circumstance in this world is representative of a mental thought. All that now exists was once imagined—such is the power of the subconscious mind. But in order to partake of this incredible powerhouse of creation that you are, you must be able and willing to experience within yourself—in your mind—that which you wish to manifest. Thoughts become things when you feel them, and are able to impress them upon the subconscious mind, which will then take over.

The most powerful aspect in your life is the unconscious. It is where your habits resides. It’s also where we park our feelings, imagination and our memories. Everything favorable, pleasurable, advantageous, as well as your hardships, suffering, disappointments, unfulfillments, so-called “bad luck,” the repetition of unfavorable patterns — all are determined by your unconscious thinking and feeling. This comprises a great deal more than is commonly understood. When you speak of your fate, of what happens or does not happen to you as if by fate, the truth is that these events are caused by nothing else but the governing force of unconscious factors.

The unconscious is much stronger than the conscious mind because the absurdity of conscious misconceptions and unrealistic outlooks is more easily detectable and can therefore be corrected. Whatever is hidden from awareness continues to govern you without your being able, through your reason, to change it. Hence it is of utmost importance to detect such hidden erroneous outlooks.

Unconscious behavior: what we are really speaking of is the way behavior is informed by the patterning that you have inherited in your culture and through being raised with certain requirements and dictates about what is appropriate. And as you operate from that place of unknowing of what is conscious, you can delude yourself to the end of your experience by saying that you are choosing it in a conscious awareness of choice. The delinking of memory from intellect.

When man speaks of his fate, the fateful happenings and nonhappenings, the truth of the matter is that it is really nothing else but the governing force of unconscious factors. That which is hidden from awareness continues to govern you without your being able through your reason to change the unconscious outlook. Hence it is of utmost importance to detect such hindering outlooks hidden within.... reprogramming the subconscious:

95% of the interchanges that you have you are doing through programmed behavior that has very little to do with your own needs and awareness. This why why one needs to practice or impress the conscious to make it part of the subconscious, to make it an automatic response or habit....

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A negative image is made up of misconceptions, distorted feelings, and physical blocks. A conclusion drawn from distorted perception is a wrong conclusion; therefore images are actually wrong conclusions about the nature of reality that are so firmly embedded in a person’s psyche that they become behavior-controlling signals in life situations. A person may have several images, but underlying them all is a main image, which is the key to the basic negative attitude toward life. Your feelings happen in your body, where you live and breathe. How you feel is your experience of life. These feelings flow from the thoughts you place in your imagination, and you are free to select any thought you desire. Feeling any state you wish to achieve is the experience that impresses it on the subconscious. All transformation begins with an intense, burning desire to be transformed. The assumption of the feeling is the key to achieving. The desire which realizes itself is always a desire upon which attention is exclusively concentrated. Once again turning to Neville, he tells us, “The subconscious is the womb of creation. It receives the idea unto itself through the feelings of man. The subconscious mind accepts as true what you feel is true. Your feelings determine your reality because they’re impressed on the subconscious. Therefore, your attitude should be one of having the desire. You do this by assuming the feeling of your desire.

It is often forgotten that the unconscious does not only harbor petrified wrong conclusions, destructive behavior patterns resulting from images, and negative emotions due to unresolved problems, but it also contains utter wisdom, divine truth, and the most constructive elements in the universe, constantly building up in unending creativity and love. These wells of positive energy can be tapped to the degree that the obstructions are let out of their hiding place-the unconscious. Then, and then only, will all the productive elements which are still hidden rise to the surface.

The subconscious mind creates exactly what you believe in and can feel in your body.

Feelings are more habit-bound than outer tendencies; moreover, they are so elusive that in spite of your efforts, your old patterns may go right on and escape your attention. You are so used to shoving uncomfortable knowledge into your subconscious that you cannot get rid of the habit from one day to the next. Breaking the habit requires a great deal of training, concentration, and effort. New habit patterns have to be established until you recognize the signs of the hidden trends that must be made conscious. You have to develop a special sensitivity for them-and this takes time, of course....

Everything depends on your attitude towards yourself. To become conscious of your feelings, a great deal of self-knowledge is necessary; most people are unaware of their real feelings and emotional reactions and are thus slave to them; they are mastered by them, instead of controlling and mastering them. To achieve this mastery, self-observation, objectivity, and self-criticism are essential. And in understanding the conscious and unconscious mind...

You only have control over three things in your life - the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take.

✅Reprograming

You are personally responsible for everything in your life, once you become aware that you are personally responsible for everything in your life. One cannot be “guilty” or be “blamed” for being a poor parent unless one was already aware of the above-described information and disregarded it. Once you become aware of this information, you can begin to apply it to reprogram your behavior.

There are three distinctive, major facets that are direct manifestations of life or our personality/consciousness.

✅ They are: love, perception, and free will

Non-physical world..... The one thing we all know and understand is that we are all connected by…

✅LOVE

We all want to give and receive LOVE..... Your true energy.... and access to the field...

the unseen

✅ Soul or Heart

The soul is not physical, yet it is the force field of your being. The higher self is not physical, yet it is the living template of the evolved human, the fully awakened personality. You are a system of Light, as are all beings. A thought is energy, or Light, that has been shaped by consciousness. No form exists without consciousness. There is Light, and there is the shaping of Light by consciousness. This is creation. The frequency of your Light depends upon your consciousness. When you shift the level of your consciousness, you shift the frequency of your Light. “Light” represents consciousness. The vertical path is the path of awareness. It is the path of consciousness and conscious choice. The person who chooses to advance his or her spiritual growth, to cultivate awareness of his or her higher self, is on a vertical path. The vertical path is the path of clarity. The horizontal path is the path that satisfies your personality.

It’s a peculiar part of being human that we have both a mind and consciousness but cannot tell them apart. The difference is that the mind is constantly in motion, producing sensations, thoughts, images, and feelings, while consciousness is the basic “stuff” of the mind, which remains unchanged no matter how active the mind is. This inability to know the difference between mind and consciousness has created a trap that we all fall into. We create something from the “stuff” of consciousness and then forget that we created it. Nobody has ever known anything independent of consciousness. In other words, the entire history of human knowledge occurs in consciousness, without exception. What we categorize separately as religion, history, science, and technology are experienced in consciousness. YOU ARE free to choose the concept you will accept of yourself. Therefore, you possess the power of intervention.

Remember consciousness is also love, life force, field of intentions, God, etc.... The introduction of consciousness into the cyclical processes of creation at the point of intention, and at the point of reaction, allows choice. It permits the selection of alternatives. It brings consciousness to the process of evolution. Your intention and attention shape your experiences. What you intend, through the density of matter, through the densest level of Light, becomes your reality. Where your attention goes, you go.

Every experience, and every change in your experience, reflects an intention.

Communication of the mind with the soul by tapping or accessing pure intelligence/the field - (being aware, being conscious) there is much more then the 5 sensory body. Access beyond the intellect. One must become inward bound to gain this transformated knowledge and wisdom. Unbounded intelligence is what the field is made of. Understanding and experiencing that we are all really made from this one source of light energy. We are all connected by this frequency. This how we update our software programs.

Your conscious mind, as you go to sleep, is capable of impressing your subconscious mind, which is a sliver of the one all-creating subconscious mind. This one mind never sleeps because it is infinite and therefore everywhere and in everything—it is always in the process of creating and manifesting. Throughout those hours while your conscious mind is resting, your subconscious mind is receiving and processing all that you’ve downloaded into it, and getting ready to turn its impressions into form and circumstances.

Sleep is the door through which the conscious, waking mind passes to be creatively joined to the subconscious. Sleep conceals the creative act while the objective world reveals it. In sleep man impresses the subconscious with his conception of himself. One needs to look at your beliefs memories, and perception to get it to become habit from the subconscious. You must want to change your impressions, general attitudes and thus your associated feelings will change.

To become self aware is attempting to completely shed the lower self and understand the higher self...... To transform... To expand and not to live within the walls in the self preservation of your ego...

Let me state that being human, only a few saints can achieve this on a consistent basis. Most of us fail more then we achieve. But to be aware is the basis of our at least consistent trying...

Making the Shift:

The first shift that we all make takes us from nonbeing to being; from Spirit to form; from the invisible to our corporeal world of things.
The next shift is the phase I call Ambition where we take on an ego self that is the opposite of the place of Spirit from which we came. Ego in this context is our false self.

Unfortunately, for many people, Ambition is often the end of their life story, but there are two more shifts open to us!

We can all choose to make the leap past the second shift of ego-driven ambition.

We arrive at the third shift when we realize that we have an option to make a U-turn away from the false self. We can do an about-face and head back to the place of Spirit in a third shift.
And then, in the fourth shift, we achieve a life of Meaning and purpose by rededicating our Ambition to the fulfillment of our authentic self. We discover that the laws of the material world do not necessarily apply in the presence of the Meaning that is encouraged by our shift to Source.

Manifestations of miracles begin to populate the landscape of life.

Meaning is now what defines all the moments of our existence. We can fulfill our greatest calling when we consciously undertake the journey from Ambition to Meaning. We can transform our individual lives and influence the destiny of our sacred planet as well... a synopsis of the entirety of Dr. Dyer’s message over the years: that we are, each of us, connected to our Source and to one another. Gratitude.

“If you refuse to assume the responsibility of the incarnation of a new and higher concept of yourself, then you reject the means, the only means, whereby your redemption—that is, the attainment of your ideal—can be effected.”

Get this clearly in your head: A higher concept of yourself involves taking on new truths and shedding your old views of what you can achieve. This is the only way you can achieve your desires." To be transformed, the whole basis of your thoughts must change. But your thoughts cannot change unless you have new ideas, for you think from your ideas.” Self-transformation is not just about changing yourself. It means shifting yourself to a completely new dimension of experience and perception. Awareness is about observing more then doing all of your nonsense. The less you do the more aware you become, "awareness is not something you do."

Being aware/spiritual is not something you do. It's about what you do not do. It's about being less self protective. Being a flexible personality not a rigid identity. Everyone thinks it's OK to do what they like.. Life is so much about individual likes and dislikes. Think of yourself as an observer, contemplating and selecting thoughts that you choose from that never-ending stream of thoughts on your inner screen, 24/7/365. Watch thoughts stream by from wherever they originate, and observe them rapidly transitioning and combining and appearing and disappearing. Every thought going by has an imprint on your concept of yourself. First be the observer, and then the contemplator. Pick a thought.... Now become the choice maker who can consciously decide to put that thought back into the running stream and pick a different one, a thought that perhaps allows you to feel better.

Initiate a habit of choosing thoughts and ideas that support feeling good and powerful, and that elevate you to a higher level of consciousness. One must realize that I am an infinite being who originated not from my parents, but from a Source that is itself birthless, deathless, and changeless.

"Every physical form, as well as every nonphysical form, is Light that has been shaped by consciousness. No form exists apart from consciousness. There is not one planet in the Universe that does not have an active level of consciousness, although it may not be what we recognize as consciousness."~seat of the soul

You will still occasionally suffer from your own fluctuating moods which sometimes seem to come and go without any outer reason. Yet now you can no longer deceive yourself that someone or something else is inflicting suffering on you. You know it comes from your mood. You know by fighting it, you only stop the movement. By accepting it, you follow the movement, and it will carry you through. If you accept the pain and consciously connect with its meaning, it ceases to be pain. And so it is with the bleak or dark or negative mood. See it as a cloud and follow the movement that carries you, with the aim of comprehending its meaning. Each cloud is a meaning. You can commit yourself to comprehend the meaning of the mood, and your inner path will reveal the answer.

When you become conscious, you become completely free of these territorial compulsions. You are the universe, and the universe is you. Once this happens, you arrive at such a state of ease within yourself that people think something superhuman has been achieved.

Yet, your conscious right opinions and images are worth very little when they are undermined by your unconscious beliefs. You have to believe in what you are changing. Emotional knowledge is not gained, if you do not live, experience, and feel these right ideas, they are powerless. They are empty. Only when beliefs are incorporated at the emotional level, integrated in the whole character structure, will they have power.

Search deep within your inner conflicts, misconceptions, you see and determine where you are selfish, proud, fearful, withdrawn. You acknowledge that there are two distinct states - the ego state and the love state.

When you know you are really changing is when you start to experience a new way of perceiving and responding, a new way of knowing life, people, values, and events. Everything is endowed with a new luminosity and a deeper meaningfulness. Beliefs change, or they feel different. The scope of an opinion, conviction, or sensation widens and deepens. Everything becomes fuller. Only then do you truly understand and gain emotional knowledge.

This new perception brings about a whole gamut of new reactions to life. A deep inner sense of security arises because now one’s thoughts, desires, feelings, and attitudes are seen as the creative agents. Thus thoughts, opinions, beliefs, feelings, attitudes are no longer handled irresponsibly on the delusory premise that they do not count and are of no consequence. Your capacity to cope with the negativity of others grows only to the extent that you find your true self.

This new awareness brings with it a sense of your being a creator in the scheme of things. To find the balance, the love, and the truth of creative self-responsibility. The truth of self-responsibility can be regained on a new level. Instead of using this truth against others so as to set your little ego above them, the truth can be used on your own self. The truth of self-responsibility can be practiced not as a punitive accusation, but as the highest form of human dignity.

The past, present, and future are all properties of consciousness. The past is recollection, memory; the future is anticipation; the present is awareness.Therefore time is the movement of thought. Both past and future are born in the imagination; only the present, which is awareness, is real and eternal.

Choice or compulsion.

Important **

You only have control over three things in your life - the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take.

There are three distinctive, major facets that are direct manifestations of life or our personality/consciousness.

✅ They are: perception, free will, and love.

Perception/beliefs...

We are always the product, the sum total, of all of our past experiences. How this experience is assimilated and understood in terms of reality determines the character, the thoughts, emotions, feelings and the opinions/attitudes a person adopts. In other words, it determines the quality of ones life. The more realistically and truthfully experience is interpreted and assimilated, the more accurate will be perception; the freer the determination (the greater the scope and ease with which decisions can be made); the greater the capacity to love, to relate. Everyone has the ability to alter perception through active intention....

Perceptions come from inherited genes(instinct).

Second is from learned habits or experiences that reside in the subconscious mind.

The last place perceptions are created is from the conscious mind or our creative mind. It is the program to rewrite the software.

Sometimes people in this world have a perception of what is upright and equitable; they rarely have a perception of what is spiritually good or true. The light of perception is radically different from the light of conviction; the light of conviction may seem like perception to some people, but in fact it is not. Perception of of our raw bodies emotions is what forms our feelings. Feelings form our beliefs or our subconscious software programs....

People who have perception do not resort to logical argumentation to identify the truths, and if they were to use that sort of argumentation, they would lose their perceptiveness. True Perception is seeing what is true and good by means of an inflow from God(from within). So it starts with the thoughts from the raw product of Love.

If we believe that we are wise and knowledgeable on our own, we cannot have perception.

Perception is the minds interpretation (thought with wisdom) of the bodies emotion and the resulting minds' feeling. These feelings from your thought process form your belief system or attitudes which produces your behavior. So perception a major factor that controls behavior.

The problem with most perception is its done through our 5 senses by the comparison of two opposites. Eyesight-Light vs dark. Hearing-Sound vs no sound. Smell- it either smells good or terrible.... The higher the degree of consciousness, the wider the range of life, and the greater the freedom of determination. Your free will, or determination, will not be hindered by the inner fetters we are trying to find and dissolve. Your determination, is limited by your unconscious misconceptions. To the degree you are capable of assimilating experience according to reality, according to truth, to that degree can you perceive, determine and express your feelings of love. The experience of each individual is, as you already know, a result of his or her innermost beliefs, concepts, attitudes, feelings, and actions. It takes constant honest self-observation. If you don’t do enough work to bring clarity of perception, wisdom is an accident. If there is no clarity of perception you will see things in the way they are not. Once you see things in the way they are not, you will live a ridiculous life unknowingly.

Perception is selective & subjective. Society controls the sense of the possible. Your perception has been taught or controlled by society... your parents, schools(teachers), tv, politicians, church, DNA, etc... Don't you want true control of your own perceptions?? Perceptions make up memory, belief systems, attitudes. Perception of self, the ego. It is part of the thought process in deciding what is good what is bad etc.... Perception is the control factor of your software programming.

Perceptions come from DNA. They are also formed in learned behavior which reside in the subconscious. But one can overwrite learned behavior from the creative conscious mind. Everyone’s rationality shares one important trait: they involve individually prejudiced attitudes, particularly beliefs, memories, and desires. Your mental image of the person, of the situation, of yourself, of any subject, etc.. Your own perceptions, expectations and all the other sensations, feelings and other things unique to just you is what you end up with in your final analysis of the event or the total whole. Your assumptions determine not only what you see, but also what you do, for they govern all your conscious and subconscious movements towards the fulfillment of themselves. They affect your thoughts. Your particular relationship to another influences your assumption with respect to that other and makes you see in him that which you do see. If you can change your opinion of another, then what you now believe of him cannot be absolutely true but is only relatively true. Whatever you may think of the question of free will, the truth is your experiences throughout your life are determined by your assumptions –whether conscious or unconscious....

The world does not see the immensity of the state of ‘I do not know’. Those who destroy that state with beliefs and assumptions forget that ‘I do not know’ is a tremendous doorway -- the only doorway -- to knowing. The ability to look without motive is missing in the world today. But, everybody is a psychological creature, wanting to assign meaning to everything. Spirituality is not about looking for God, truth or the ultimate. It is about enhancing your perception, your very faculty of seeing.

The fact that you can never be anything that you are not already or experience anything not already existing explains the experience of having an acute feeling of having heard before what is being said, or having met before the person being met for the first time, or having seen before a place or thing being seen for the first time. What determines the events which you encounter, and outcomes? And the answer is your concept of yourself.

The perception of the human mind is specifically faulty in that you interpret what you see as being the whole, although you only see small segments......

Visible light or what one knows is a minuscule part of the whole universe. The importance this has on your intentions and connecting to the source energy is so great and often unrealized. All perceptions are untrustworthy because the main perception of life and self is off center.

There are countless influences that contribute to every idea and feeling, external & internal. You may see or experience the same event but have such a different perception, because of your taught or learned ideals. Convictions, conclusions, attitudes, images or preconceived ideas all need looked at to make sure there is no bias.

An important point is to make sure your interpretations is not subject to any of your personal biases/experiences, or pre-perceived opinions. This partial vision alters the nature of the perceived aspects of reality, and results in a totally different picture of life.....

Memories/Images

Memories and our belief systems are two big issues in our perceptions or self awareness. Our memories is what makes us "us". But being objective is paramount in calling up our memories. Plus one must realize memories are in the past. Whatever these things that have been imprinted in memory are still there. So much of your pain, and fear that you have endured, has been projection. What you are and all else is just an idea. Memory, we say, is an idea as well. This includes most memory of the past or ideas of the future made from memories past. Not that all memory is bad but a majority may be tainted. You have skewed vision, misperception, and misidentification of yourself and who and what others are. One must release yourselves from your present field of misinformation, false perception, false agreements made, that may be imprinted in your memory. You don’t need the misperception of memory that is creating your life. The ideas that you hold, in many ways, prescribe your experience of what is to follow. So long as you’re all investing in what was invented yesterday, what was taught yesterday, what you believed to be true yesterday, you cannot know what is today. You can only be in the present moment, you may only know in the present moment. Everything else is an idea....

Every personality forms certain impressions due to environmental influences or to sudden, unexpected experiences. These memories, impressions or attitudes usually take the form of conclusions in the mind of the person. Most of the time these conclusions are wrong. A lot of the time they are based off memory and/or experiences that may be biased. You see and experience something unfortunate, one of the unavoidable hardships of life, and you then make generalizations from them. These generalizations later establish themselves as preconceivepd ideas. They also can become habits that are hard to overcome.

The conclusions are not thought out; rather they are emotional reactions, that generate feelings & general attitudes toward life. Theses images or attitudes are imprinted on your mind or soul. They are not completely devoid of a certain logic, albeit limited and erroneous. As the years go by, these conclusions and attitudes sink more and more into the unconscious. From there, they mold the life of every person to some extent. Acknowledge them, and then have the courage to find what is actually true for you by taking off your blinders. Our memories are biased by our agendas and points of view. They are also from the past.

Prejudices are automatic assumptions of truth or fact. Be willing to become aware of your cultural and familial beliefs, prejudices & hidden agendas. Hidden agendas are often behind an unwanted behavior. Lear or watch for the hidden reasons. Agendas can also limit what we can see, fettering our interactions with others and with our environment. They do this because we are driven toward the completion of that goal and we become blinded.

One needs to have or develop.......

Objectivity for living in the present and in your memories is a must........... Objectivity is essential for the free and harmonious human being. Objectivity means truth.

Being objective also goes with...... NO judgment. Non-judgmental justice is a perception that allows you to see everything in life, but does not engage your negative emotions. Non-judgmental justice relieves you of the self-appointed job of judge and jury because you know that everything is being seen—nothing escapes the law of karma—and this brings forth understanding and compassion. Non-judgmental justice is the freedom of seeing what you see and experiencing what you experience without responding negatively. It allows you to experience directly the unobstructed flow of the intelligence, radiance, and love of the Universe of which our physical reality is a part. Non-judgmental justice flows naturally from understanding the soul and how it evolves. To be in observance means to see the things before you and understand the value you have given them. What you see before you is always a reflection of what you have imagined it to be. You have identified things based on what you were taught to see. So, if this is so, you actually have the right to change your mind and see things in a new light in accord with what they truly are and observance, we say—to be the one who sees—is a key action at this time. Where you stand right now has a habituation to it.

The capacity for wonder is snuffed out early by beliefs, assumptions and certainties that masquerade as knowledge. We forget that ‘I do not know’ is the doorway – the only doorway -- to knowing.

In observation is simply to see how you see and then lift the sight to the possibility that anything that is seen once may be seen again in a higher way. What we are not asking you to do at this juncture is to decide what you see in a new way, to make decisions about it. We are simply encouraging you to be the observant witness. Subjectivity means colored truth, half-truth at best, complete untruth in many cases. All this emanates from the emotional level of one’s being. That’s why perception is so important; have the courage to examine the subject, to review it freely and independently. If then you arrive at a different view and have the courage to live up to it. The more disharmonious you are, the less objective you will be. Contrary to a conscious lie, subjectivity results in unconscious or unintended untruth. Our interpretations of life’s experiences are influenced by our past experience, our present frame of mind, and our visions of the future. The key here is to make sure you are seeing, hearing, and understanding what is really going on and not being usurped by your emotions. By recognizing any hidden subjectivity, you automatically approach objectivity--and thereby truth and reality. You may not be able to feel differently as yet, but the remaining wrong reactions will already have a different effect on you-and on others, for now you have become your own observer. Your reactions reveal where you live psychologically; [Where you live psychologically determines how you live here in the outer visible world].

"How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours. With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.” ~ w Dyer

Every time you judge someone because they are not acting the way we want them to, we lose our connection or oneness with them. It’s what Mother Theresa meant when she said, “If you judge people, you don’t have time to love them.”

“The Toltec Wisdom Books”

❌We want to CONTROL or manage people or the situation.

The moment you release your judgment of others by releasing your expectations of them and allow yourself to truly sit with all those unwanted emotions that come up for you, you start to develop the capacity to start responding – instead of reacting – from a healthier, more loving part of your personality. This is the beginning of personal responsibility, the end of negative karma, and the first step towards emotional mastery.

Responding to life from a place of love, appreciation, compassion, understanding, and forgiveness is the fastest way to create deeper, more loving relationships in all areas of your life.

Identity:

There are three basic hindrances to human perfection which apply to everyone alike. Another triad..... All faults stem from three basic ones:

self-will (selfishness)
pride, and
fear

No matter which fault you take, examining it profoundly, you will always find that in the last analysis it comes from one or more of these. This stems with our survival instincts. The protection of the identity of the self. Pride & selfishness is one of the worst traits to have. Let go of the feeling that you are better or smarter then other people. Let go of the power of/or manipulation of others. Work on yourself, your responses, all of your behavior patterns, without judging. You must be willing to let go of the need to have the point of view that you are always right. It can dominate all aspects of your life. There can be many rights, depending on the view. This is especially challenging when you are, occasionally correct. But if you have to prove another is wrong, even if you win, you lose. In order to maintain your point of view, you must disregard all other points of view. Pride is always a compensation for feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. That the effects of your pride must lead to separateness is self-explanatory.

Your fight for approval, to prove something or other, makes you self-centered, proud, arrogant, superior — or unhealthily submissive, which is bound to make you resentful.

Pride, selfishness and fear are the crux of the outer or lower self. Each of these attitudes is a different form of denial and therefore even more dangerous to the soul than more overt forms of evil.

Pride says we are better than others so we have a right to our self-importance and specialness. “He who feels the humiliation of another person less than his own still have too much pride.” The antidotes to pride are honest self-confrontation and humble self-acceptance out of which real self-esteem comes.

Pride/Anger is always, in a sense, a lie. The original feeling is often one of hurt or frustration, selfishness, from not getting your way. If you owned up to the original feeling, you would not need to be angry. In pride, due to inferiority, you feel humiliated when you are hurt because you give someone else the power to hurt you. Therefore, you substitute anger for the original pain. Anger seems less shameful, setting you above the other person, rather than feeling your vulnerability, which seems an inferior place. Anger lifts you above the true position you find yourself in — that of being hurt. In pride, you lie about your real feeling. Thus, anger and pride are connected.

Self-will says we must get what we want when we want it, thereby justifying our egotism: ‘I want what I want when I want it’. Self-will is distinct from free will, which is simply the capacity of the entity to choose, to direct, to activate. Self-will occurs when free will is used in the service of the little self, the limited ego consciousness, in an attempt to control others and life.

Fear says we must protect ourselves so anything we feel we need to do for our own defense is justified. Look at your fears. To what extent are they caused by pride? To what extent are they a result of a rigid self-will, unwilling to bend, change, flow with the stream of ever changing life? The attitude of fear says ‘I will not trust’, and often also ‘if I am not special, or do not get my way, then something terrible will happen’. Fear both supports and results from the attitudes of pride and self-will. Fear keeps us restricted within the narrow boundaries of the little ego-self. The attitude of fear often makes us justify negative thoughts and acts which we never face directly because we are lost in the disorientation caused by fear. We need to bring the attitude of fear to the surface and understand the refusal to trust. This can result in impatience, which is a form of selfishness, or judging. Pride and selfwill are easily overcome when there is no more fear. If you are not afraid to have your dignity impaired, there will be no need for false pride. And if you are not afraid of being controlled by factors beyond your influence, you will have no need for selfwill. Fear is the great locked door which prohibits you from entering, right here and right now, into all that is immediately available the moment fear is uprooted from your heart and soul. Any system that perpetuates fear is created out of a need to control you. Lingering fear is the result of impressions made in the past that turn into conditioning. The fear is kept alive by lingering impressions.

Because you align to the old and you decide that it must be there, you witness it everywhere you see, and your confirmation of your small self. Because how you perceive anything claims it in manifestation. You call that man ugly, and you have made him so. You call those people evil, you have made them so. You decide that this is worthy, you have made that thing worthy. If you are not willing to release the ideas you’ve held that have operated in fear—have been your teachers, perhaps, but still seek to control you—you will not lift beyond the matrix of collective fear that has established itself very seriously in this plane. But true realization comes at the cost of the old, and the identities you have held, small ways and high ways, must be encountered in this transformation. Each encounter you have with any human being gives you an opportunity to know who you are, and perhaps know who they are as well in a higher octave. Everything you see before you is in vibrational accord to you, individually and collectively. You have decided it’s fearful if a relationship ends. You have decided it’s fearful if your child doesn’t do what you think he should. You have decided it’s terrible if you lose your job, or if she loses hers, or if this government topples, or that one rises. You have embellished these things with identity and meaning, just as you do the people that you see and decide upon. If you understand that each idealization that you bring to any encounter has its data in history, and you have been taught or learned to be afraid of this or that, or like this or that because you have been taught its value, you can begin to understand that, in almost all cases, what you witness is based on what you witness informed by history at the cost of what it truly is. When you decide that the life that you live has moved beyond the need for fear, you recognize the potential that can be claimed by you in all aspects of your life. So much of your life has been informed by fear that you take it as a companion. “Who would I be if I was not afraid? I take comfort in my fear. I know myself well as fearful, and consequently I will take it out to tea.” Your fear is your companion.

The way to bypass fear is to lift above it to the self that cannot agree to it, nor ever will. You define outcomes based upon the expectations of the culture you live in or family dynamics you were raised in. When you assume something to be a certain way, you have idealized something and you expect it to conform to your idea of it. fear. Only twenty percent of those things are claiming to be fear. The rest are masquerading as something else. Self-righteousness. The need to be safe. The need to be separate. The need to get your needs met through fear or manipulation. You agree to these things, as well, and assume that you don’t have responsibility to them. When you are operating in fear, you are immediately limited by the options you have. You will not attend to things that take you out of comfort unless you are thrust out or into a doorway that you wish you hadn’t chosen. Once you stop ascribing to what things should be, as they have been known, you can begin to experience what may be known that has yet gone unnamed. Do you understand this?” “You must be willing to begin to experience reality outside of your history and current perceptions. I am willing to know the realities that may be understood or experienced for my benefit. I am willing to see a different perception. Fear and love do not coexist.

One must realize that self-will, pride, and fear exist in you and to find out to what degree, how they interact, and how one is dependent upon the other. For only with this understanding of yourself will you be able to overcome the walls that stand in the way between you and your basic light.

If you try to formulate concisely an unpleasant inner reaction of yours, you will always come to the conclusion that most of the time there is an element of fear involved in it—fear that perhaps other people do not do what you wish or do not react according to your liking. In other words, if there is a strong self-will, the fear is there automatically that this self-will will not be gratified, or that your pride may be hurt. If you had no pride, you would not have to fear that it could be hurt. If you had no self-will, you would not have to fear that it would not be gratified. So you can see the connection. These subtle, smoldering fears are infinitely more frequent and also more harmful than the obvious and pronounced fears.

You must be willing to give up your illusions about yourself and your expectations-which come from your resistance to giving up self-delusions--of what others should do for you? Are you willing to shed your false fears about what feelings you should or should not, could or could not experience? Are my actions supported by my feelings or do I have motives behind these actions that do not correspond to what I like to believe about myself or what I like other people to believe? Have I been honest with myself so far? What are my mistakes?”

✅ belief systems:

This and your memory are two major things that need objectivity and close monitoring. The significance of misinterpreted material from the past cannot be stressed enough. The majority of human beings go through life never knowing to what extent they are influenced in all their present-day dealings by their past. Consciousness creates your reality.....

An individual who is what we call self-realized—is in truth. She or he does not know everything but has an open mind and is free from misconceptions. No false beliefs create fear, defensiveness, destructive emotions. Someone who is in truth perceives the benign nature of the universe. He or she is open, joyful, without a trace of apprehension, and therefore can expand in a harmonious way. In this light, unintense, undefended, relaxed state of body, mind and feelings, the centers are open. They allow the life force to flow smoothly and freely, and the centers distribute the right kind of energy into the organism wherever specific aspects of the great force are needed. There is no clogging, no blocking, since there is no fear. And fear cannot exist if there is no negativity or limitation of concept.

For according to your belief you must also experience. Your belief creates the condition. Thus, false belief must be proven true until one begins to perceive the relationship between belief and experience. If you accept that your inner, “invisible” belief creates the predicament of having to balance your advantage with that of others, you will have to deal with these self-created, limited conditions and handle each separately, with intelligence, whole investment and integrity. No fearful sentimentality must blur your view to your rights. No childish greed must rationalize your self-centeredness. You must see and overcome both tendencies; you thus will make many decisions, each different. Once, you will forsake your own advantage because you see that what is on the scale does not warrant self-gratification. At other times, you will waive altruism because what is on the scale does not warrant self-deprivation. Each loss will soon be discovered to be illusory.

Everything we see, hear, taste, touch, and smell is an environment. The music on your phone, the interior of your car, your social and business networks, each room of your house, the places you visit, every person in your life…your mind, body, feelings, and emotions—these are all environments that are working on us, whether we’re paying attention to them or not.

Many of us feel victims of our environments and thus use it as an excuse to give up on change. But what if instead of using willpower to change our behavior we designed our environments in such a way that they naturally caused us to be pulled towards the highest ideal of ourselves? This is creating our life by design, not by default.

To design not only the exterior, but also the interior of our lives, our environments need to reflect our values and beliefs. As we all know, values are the things that are consciously and subconsciously motivating us. Beliefs are feelings of certainty that we’ve acquired through past experiences—which we’ve proven ourselves to be true—that drive our behavior. If we don’t know our values and beliefs, and are thus not in tune with them, even the strongest among us will return to our old behaviors within six months.

By looking at our beliefs and values, we can decide how we want to live, and thus design our environments within these accords. Designing the exterior of our lives to mirror the interior will help pull us into the person we strive to be. To accomplish this we need to look at our homes, yards, networks, jobs, and many of the other peripheral corners of our lives. When looking at these environments, ask yourself, are these environments inspiring me or expiring me? Increasing my energy or decreasing my energy? Pulling me up or pulling me down?

When you start upgrading and redesigning your environments, you’re going to find that everything changes. By the mere fact that we’re aligning our environments to our values and beliefs, we are tuning into the frequency of the goals and outcomes we want to achieve. This is the difference between reminding ourselves of our predictable past and alerting (and entraining) ourselves to the possibility of a new future.

When one only acts in love, truth announces itself with impartiality, whereas love knows full well what is needed and it is expressed in every circumstance for the highest good of all. The frequency and amplitude of the vibration of love is all-encompassing. The depth of true love can not be described because there are no words. The depth of divine love that is cannot be articulated because it is so true, in such truth, that nothing else exists at that level of vibration.

The way we perceive life’s experiences and the way we respond to them are far more important than how we feel or what we desire. Experience of life happens from within. Only when you can admit you do not know, can you expand.

Belief....

What is a belief ?

Believe is from your childhood upbringing, your parents, school etc... Most belief is from others pasts. Their experiences. Their perceptions... But anyone can create their own belief, perceptions, experiences, life... What happens in your mind is only from your own making. Humans are the most sophisticated machine, don't you want to learn the instructions.

✅ What is belief?

Most surely belief is a certain way of thinking; it is an activity of consciousness. Belief is a thing of thought, and being a thing of thought we can change belief. And if what a man believes decides what is going to happen to him, the most important thing for him to do is regulate his belief so that what happens will be good for him, and he will be glad to have it happen, and joyously welcome it.

✅ Faith is an affirmative mode of thought. Faith says, "I can," rather than "I cannot" or "I shall not." We can learn to have faith in abundance rather than in poverty. We can change our thought in regard to lack. Faith is a certain definite mental attitude.

✅ Prayer is communion of the soul with the Oversoul, with the Divine Creative Presence which is not only in the soul but which is the soul.

It is more than an individualization; it is also a Universality.

Prayer in its truest sense is not a petition, not a supplication, not a wail of despair; it is rather an alignment, a unifying process which takes place in the mind as it reaches to its Divine Self and to that Power which is greater than human understanding.

In the act of such prayerful and reverent communion with God one senses the Unity of Good, the completeness of Life, and at times the veil of doubt is lifted and the face of Reality appears. This consciousness, which has been referred to as the Secret Place of the Most High, is an experience rising out of the conviction that God is all there is, beside Whom there is none else. Prayer, then, is communion, and this communion pronounces life to be Good. Prayerful communion ascends to that place where unity has not yet become variety, where the unformed One is ready to take any specific shape. In this act of communion the individual becomes copartner with the Eternal and gives birth to time, space, and conditions.

It is inconceivable that an individual could be unaffected by or indifferent to a deeply ingrained idea. And I do not mean merely conscious ideas and opinions. Even more important are the unconscious ones, because they are so hard to be reoriented. Every experience, and every change in your experience, reflects an intention. An intention is not only a desire. It is the use of your will. Intentions affect more than relationships. It essentialy an out-picturing of your consciousness.

You can release things through intention and through bringing your frequency to a higher level where they will not be out-pictured. You can remember things that scared you when you were a child. And you can remember that at a certain point your consciousness changed and they no longer became frightening. There wasn’t somebody under the bed. Your mother did come from the trip all safe and sound. Whatever it might be. And those fears that were operating at that level of consciousness changed. They no longer operate in the adult self that has come into a new understanding. So we will tell you this: That is exactly what we are saying here. As you move into higher frequency, your experience changes. Your consciousness is what is creating your life. Those things that you perceive yourself to be out of your freedom in limitation with can be transformed, first in consciousness, and then through the out-picturing of your experience of conscious intention. It's your freedom of choice to pick the higher frequency. There’s a big difference between oneness and sameness.

Oneness implies that we’re all connected and that we all come from the same source.
Sameness implies that we all have to do things and exactly think the same way as everybody else does...

And self-justification, we would say, is always the small self seeking to be right. When you release that need, the need to be right and for another to be wrong, you move toward a kind of liberation in your relationships. You are no longer bartering for who is right. You are no longer playing games of power. You are no longer deciding that your well-being is dependent upon another’s behavior. Nobody has to be right or wrong.

There cannot be a thought—that does not also contain feeling.

✅ Follow your Feelings, to see your thought and beliefs, the why of your actions

How can knowledge, knowing—which is consciousness—be unfeeling? Even unfeeling knowing, what you call in this era “intellectual knowledge,” must have a feeling content. Every moment of your life, consciously or unconsciously, you are assuming a feeling. You can no more avoid assuming a feeling than you can avoid eating and drinking. All you can do is control the nature of your assumptions.

So, consciousness is always a feeling, an energy manifestation, whether or not you are aware of it. The power of choosing which thought to think in itself stems from strong energy movements and results in affect. Therefore consciousness must be one with energy.

The road to authentic power is always through what you feel, through your heart. The way of the heart is one of compassion and emotional perception. Therefore, it is never appropriate to suppress an emotion, or to disregard what you feel.

Most of us are so attached to our ego personalities that we are immune to recognizing the LIGHT that is our true essence. That which you have come to think you are you are not! Everything in nature has an animating force behind it which, as Lao Tzu explains in the Tao Te Ching, “does nothing, yet leaves nothing undone.” There is no doer that you can see or touch that opens the flowers or keeps the planets in alignment or allows you to breathe. You know that it is there, yet it is impervious to your senses and your entire personality.

It is only as we are in touch with our emotions and our desires that we are able to analyze them and make wise decisions about our behavior. What we experience through the five senses, we interpret. We are thinkers. Always look at all experiences as a learning experience.

Behind human behavior is always our sensory experience, then our interpretation of that experience, our feelings, and our desires. If we want an understanding of why we do the things we do, it will be found in becoming more aware of these all important aspects of ourselves.

The relationship between emotion and cognition is important for any account of reason and rationality. While the importance of the emotions for rational deliberation and decision-making has been acknowledged. At the heart of these views lies a division of our mental lives into cognitions and feelings.

Cognitions are representational thoughts. They are often regarded as rational because they are capable of representing the external world and therefore they provide us with access to the external world, based on the best available evidence. So, according to this view of rationality, when I think that there is a book on the table, based on my available evidence, and there really is one, then my thought is rational. But our rational capacity mirrors the quality of our desires & feelings. However, if I am hallucinating that there is a book on the table, my thought that there is a book might also be rational because the available evidence points towards this thought. In order to make sure that our thoughts represent reality correctly, we require an account of what counts as good evidence. Feelings are some of the non-representational attitudes one can have towards the objects of the representations of our thoughts. For example, when a person thinks about her daughters, she has a cognition which represents her daughters. The objects of her thought are her daughters and her thought picks them out among various objects and subjects in the world. There are several ways in which these objects can be picked out: one can simply have the thought that one has two daughters or one's thought can be “coloured” with love and affection. This “colouring” of thought is often regarded as an affect. Together with the thought, it accounts for an emotion. So, the emotion of love, for example, is the thought of the object of love plus an affect. The affect is non-representational and regarded as a “mere” feeling.

Interpretation of the Experience:

“Take Control-By changing the meaning of the experience.

When you change the meaning of your experience, you shift from just expressing how you feel about what has happened, to interpreting what that experience says about or means to you, make it a learning experience. In other words, look for what the experience holds for you so you can grow as an individual. What could of you of done to have made the experience better. Effectively, you need to shift from looking at what caused your pain or plight to how you can use it to grow in a way that is healthy for you.

The reason it’s important to not stay stuck in expressing the negative emotion is simple: the negative emotion gains power and does not allow you to heal. Once you begin to interpret your experience differently, you become motivated to take charge of your life in a more productive way.

In order to change the meaning of your experience, you have to focus on your value or the value you would like to create in your life. When you look at the value you really have, you begin to see the world as your oyster because you will have the power to create the life you want. Ask yourself ...“What is the lesson of this experience? What can I do to improve myself?”

Our motivations and thoughts in life is totally under our control and is, in fact, the only thing we can control. If you don’t believe me, think about the unpleasant emotions we easily assign to our experiences: “(jinnie cristerna)

Take frustration — Frustration is a friend. You can make it a friend by courageously and intelligently wishing to explore its meaning and allowing it to be your teacher and your therapist, as it were. This will bring you to the next step on this ladder, which is the discovery of the meaning. The answer, the meaning, will always astound you. The realization of how necessary this lesson is, what you gain from it in new strength, wisdom, liberation, will already alter your outlook toward frustration, so that when another such lesson comes you will be much less afraid of it, much more confident of its meaningfulness for you and much less resistant to repeat the steps. It will give you a new trust in life and a new vision of the consciousness behind all things, even behind the frustration.

Mistakes or problems should be considered areas of learning and improvement. Consequences of choices that you make and the emotions that you feel affect others wherever they are.

Once you begin to focus your attention on the feelings, noticing what the desire is behind them, recognition becomes very simple, indeed.

✅ Putting it Together

Pull everything together, how you perceive the experience, yourself, your feelings & intent, then........

Use your WILL, understanding and intentions in deciding how to respond. Clarify your motives first. Separate the wrong motives from the good ones in one and the same action/reaction pattern.

The first step is always to recognize the meaning of your various desires, motives, and feelings, moods. Only by examining your feelings, by listening into your emotions can you get the answer. A daily review should be done of your interactions, seeing where one can improve, pinpointing the specific areas.

From there on, the path becomes easier. This is awareness, you know how you should respond, even if you can’t quite control it yet. This all takes time and one will never get it right every time. Keep trying, that is the key. Inner change is best indicated by the changes in your reactions to troubles and difficulties.

Daily Review: A daily review should be done of your interactions, seeing where one can improve, pinpointing the specific areas. You ought to review your day and examine your own reactions to the various incidents that have taken place during the day. One also needs to look back further for typical personality trends and patterns that needs adjustment. There are many facets, possibilities, individual pseudo-solutions combining all sorts of mutually exclusive trends. All this has to be found individually. This takes honesty, willpower, and effort plus it is not an easy path to take. A path of inner discipline, self-knowledge, and self-search. It is of great importance that you find in yourself the part where you desire freedom without self-responsibility. A few possible example areas to look at. What are some indirect manifestations of negativity? To name a few: lack of energy, anxiety, depression, hopelessness, illness, frustration, failures, feelings of inadequacy, pleasurelessness, listlessness.

For if you can solve your inner problems and errors, as you can only do on this path, you must eventually also solve your outer problems. Self-development cannot be done without self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is the only thing that really counts.

Thoughts shape our perception. Perceptions form feelings. Feelings create behavior.

Live consciously: Savor the present moment in its entirety. Be here in this moment and do not let your mind wander elsewhere.
Let go of your ego: remember that you are not defined by your job, nor your riches. When you live from within, from that spiritual being that focuses solely on how you are as a person, without any labels, or belongings, that’s when your well-being starts to flow from within you.
Leave perfection aside: Know that you don’t have to be perfect. Human beings aren’t perfect and you don’t need to be perfect in order to be happy.
Know that you are not defined by your reputation: If we live our lives according to what others think of us, we’ll lose our freedom. Everyone is free to think what he or she wants, but the thoughts of others shouldn’t affect our decisions, actions or our way of life. Reputation is something invisible that others create about you. It’s something that we shouldn’t give much importance to. What’s really important is not what happens on the outside, because that’s not where you live. What’s most important is what happens within you.
Listen to yourself, without judgement: When we make decisions, our ego tends to interfere. Our perfectionist and judgmental side comes out into the light. It reminds us that “the normal” thing is for us to do this or the other. When we activate the side of us that’s free of interference, everything flows more naturally and is filled with positive feelings. It is here where our true dreams and desires reside.

Choice

control your intentions, feelings and actions, control your inner world, which determines your reaction to the outer world.

Your choice

Understanding who and what you really are gives you the insight & the tools to thrive.

✅Reprograming

Once you become aware of this information, you can begin to apply it to reprogram your behavior. Reprogramming with the 4 Agreements

Consider the human body as a television set.

“You are the image on the screen. But your image did not come from inside the television. Your identity is an environmental broadcast that was received via an antenna. One day you turn on the TV and the picture tube has blown out. Your first reaction would be, “Oh, #*$?!! The television is dead.” But did the image die along with the television set? To answer that question you get another television set, plug it in, turn it on, and tune it to the station you were watching before the picture tube blew out. This exercise will demonstrate that the broadcast image is still on the air, even though your first television “died.” The death of the television as the receiver in no way killed the identity broadcast that comes from the environment. In this analogy, the physical television is the equivalent of the cell. The TV’s antenna, which downloads the broadcast, represents our full set of identifying receptors and the broadcast represents an environmental signal. Because of our preoccupation with the material Newtonian world, we might at first assume that the cell’s protein receptors are the “self.” That would be the equivalent of believing that the TV’s antenna is the source of the broadcast. The cell’s receptors are not the source of its identity but the vehicle by which the “self” is downloaded from the environment. When I fully understood this relationship I realized that my identity, my “self,” exists in the environment whether my body is here or not. Just as in the TV analogy, if my body dies and in the future a new individual (biological “television set”) is born who has the same exact set of identity receptors, that new individual will be downloading “me.” I will once again be present in the world. When my physical body dies, the broadcast is still present. My identity is a complex signature contained within the vast information that collectively comprises the environment.
Supporting evidence for belief that an individual’s broadcast is still present even after death comes from transplant patients who report that along with their new organs come behavioral and psychological changes.
While the TV analogy is useful, it is not a complete one because a television is only a playback device. In the course of our lives, what we do alters the environment. We change the environment simply by being here. So a more complete way of understanding our relationship to Spirit is to compare a human to the Martian rovers “Spirit” and “Opportunity” or the other NASA landers we have sent to the Moon and Mars. Humans are not yet able to go physically to Mars, but we really want to know what it would be like to land on Mars. So we send up the equivalent of a human explorer. Although the Mars rovers don’t physically resemble a human, they have functions of humans. These vehicles have cameras, which are the “eyes” that see the planet. They have vibration detectors, which are “ears” that hear the planet. They have chemical sensors, which “taste” the planet, etc. So the lander is designed with sensors that can experience Mars somewhat as a human would experience it. But let’s look a little more closely at how the Mars rovers work. The rovers have antennas (“receptors”) that are tuned to receive information broadcasts by a human being in the form of a NASA controller. The earthbound controller actually sends information that animates the Mariner on Mars. But the information is not a one-way street. The NASA controller also learns from the lander, because the vehicle transmits information about its Mars experiences back to Earth. The NASA controller interprets the information about the lander’s experiences and then applies that new awareness to better navigate the Martian terrain. You and I are like “Earth landers” who receive information from an environmental controller/Spirit.
As we live our lives, the experiences of our world are sent back to that controller, our Spirit. So the character of how you live your life influences the character of your “self.” This interaction corresponds to the concept of karma. When we understand it, we must take heed of the life we live on this planet because the consequences of our life last longer than our bodies. What we do during our lifetime can come back to haunt us or a future version of ourselves. In the end, these cellular insights serve to emphasize the wisdom of spiritual teachers throughout the ages.
Each of us is a spirit in material form. A powerful image for this spiritual truth is the way light interacts with a prism. When a beam of white light goes through a prism, the prism’s crystalline structure refracts the exiting light so that it appears as a rainbow spectrum. Each color, though a component of the white light, is seen separately because of its unique frequency. If you reverse this process by projecting a rainbow spectrum through the crystal, the individual frequencies will recombine, forming a beam of white light. Think of each human being’s identity as an individual color frequency within the rainbow spectrum. If we arbitrarily eliminate a specific frequency, a color, because we don’t “like it,” and then try to put the remaining frequencies back through the prism, the exiting beam will no longer be white light. By definition, white light is composed of all of the frequencies.”~Bruce Lipton-the biology of belief

The rest of this article is more in-depth discussion of the spirit, mind, & ego.
We repeat material from several sources, hoping that showing various perspectives, or being differently worded, will trigger just one “ah ah” moment of clarity for you. We examine science and the scientific data in relation and what it all points to about us and our universe, etc.....
So, this next section of this lesson is for those that really want to acquire more knowledge. This is for the person that wants to really understand the human owner manual.

And now the rest of the story

Beyond the 4 Agreements

"The spiritual journey does not consist in arriving at a new destination where a person gains what he did not have, or becomes what he is not. It consists in the dissipation of one’s own ignorance concerning one’s self and life, and the gradual growth of that understanding which begins the spiritual awakening. The finding of God is a coming to one’s self.”~Aldous

The all-important factor is whether or not one believes in, and understands, the spiritual nature of things.

The recognition that the Spirit thinks through our thought and expresses Itself through our act must necessarily create an intimacy which makes Divine communion more real and more beneficial than would any concept based on the thought of God as separate from our lives.

We must believe that love, goodness, truth and beauty are at the center of everything, therefore at the center of the person, the condition or situation which we designate in our treatment.

We must believe that Love is God, infinite, eternal and ever present.
We cannot escape Love.
We exist in Love and are One with It. We live by, through and in It.
It motivates our entire thought, purpose, plan and action. Everything we see, we see with the eyes of Love. Everything we hear, we hear with the ears of Love.
We see God everywhere; wherever we look we see Him, wherever we go we find Him.

Man's business is God's business and God's business is man's business, which is the business of life.

We do not deny the physical universe; we affirm that it is Mind in form. The physical body exists that the soul may function on this plane. Body is not an unreality; quite the reverse. It is a divine and perfect reality when rightly understood. We are compelled to think of Spirit either as apart from us or within us. If apart from us, there is no way to find It.

If within us, there is no escaping the divine fact. Unfoldment and not search is what we need. Unless mind healing becomes spiritual, it degenerates into the process of exchanging one negative idea for another. How can we expect any result to rise higher than its cause?

Hence, all true mind healing is spiritual; it rests upon a deep inner realization of the Divine Goodness.

[Mind healing or treatment is knowing, realizing and living as one with the spiritual universe]

For since the Divine Spirit and Law is the only Actor, the true Saviour, the All in All, It has no opposition, no competition, no otherness.

A consciousness of God should run through our entire treatment.

This can operate for us only by operating through our belief; hence we limit It to such belief. We must know that the body of God, the body of our patient and the body of our affairs are one and the same thing.

The winning or losing of what we call a demonstration lies entirely in one's state of thought or consciousness, in whether or not he is able to perceive more good than evil.

Our work rests entirely upon demonstration. If the thought is not manifesting rightly in our experience, we should work until it does. We should have a deep realization of the Divine Presence, and out of the spiritual power generated in this realization speak our word with complete conviction. When we give a treatment we must believe, for this is the power of the treatment.

First, let us begin with the thought that we are all united with an Invisible Force which is creative, and that we are already One with a Universal Mind which can do anything.
Next, let us consider that we are centers within this Mind, and that the sum total of all our thoughts is either silently attracting Good to us or repelling It from us.
And third, let us know that we can change our thinking and, in so doing, cause the Law of Good to act affirmatively for us instead of negatively.

One needs a deep spiritual sense of things. A subtle emanation of Spirit should flow through all the statements which he makes, for every statement must be based on the proposition of One God, One Man, and One Universe-a spiritual system which is complete, Divinely organized, spiritual not only in its origin but also in its manifestation.

Spirituality is one's recognition of the Universe as a Living Presence of Good, Truth, Beauty, Peace, Power, and Love. And to this should be added Happiness, Joy, Enthusiasm, and Universal Harmony, which, like the great rhythm of Life, flows through everything.

Spirituality cannot be taught, but it can be felt, it can be practiced, it can be embodied. Each in his own consciousness must experience it in his own way, and his way will always be best for him. Indeed it will be the only way he could do it, because, in the secret precinct of the mind which is alone with God, nothing else can enter.

God is not only the final Reality, he is the only present Reality.

Everything that is real is of Him. Our own being is God manifest as personality. There is a Presence pervading all, an Intelligence running through all, a Power sustaining all, binding all into One Perfect Whole.

The Universe is a spiritual system

There are not two minds; there is but One Mind which is God.

The out-push of the Mind of God through the mind of man is the Self-Realization of Spirit seeking a new outlet for Its own expression.

One must emphasize the Unity of God and man; it teaches us that in such degree as our thought becomes spiritualized it actually manifests the Power of God.

One must believe there is an Intelligence in the universe which is not only creative, giving rise to objective form, but It is immediately responsive to our consciousness; and being universal, It is omnipresent; and being omnipresent, It is not only where we are but It is what we are.

So that means the cosmos is reflected in, or manifested by or through, the individual. One cannot say, "Why is man?" any more than one can say, "Why is God?"

Intelligence exists and man interprets It.

Therefore man is Its mouthpiece; man is a personification of the Infinite, governed by the same laws.

Man is consciousness.

So, if there is an infinite Creative Intelligence which makes things out of Itself by Itself becoming the thing that It makes, and if man exists and is conscious, then the Creative Genius of this Universal Mind is also the creative genius of Its individualization, which we call man.

What God thinks, He energizes. The Universe is God's thought made manifest. The Ideas of God take innumerable forms. The manifest universe springs from the Mind of God.

So as to man…. what you think directs the outcome of your experiences

✅ Merging thoughts of love with the intellect’s perception through wisdom. By free will and choices

One believes in the eternality, the immortality, and the continuity of the individual soul, forever and ever expanding.

There is an absolute union of man with his Source. So complete is this union that the slightest act of human consciousness manifests some degree of man's Divinity.

Man is not God, but he has no life separate from the Divine; he has no existence apart from his Source. He thinks God's thoughts after Him.

He is Divine neither by will nor through choice, but by necessity.

The whole process of evolution is a continual process of awakening. It is an understanding of this indwelling union which constitutes the Spirit of Christ.

Spirit is the conscious and active aspect of God, the passive, receptive, and form-taking aspect. Spirit imparts motion through Law and manifests Itself in form. Thus, the ancients said that Spirit uses matter as a sheath.

Mind operates through our thought, through our faith and conviction, and most effectively through an attitude of Love, of compassion, and of sympathy constructively used.
It is impossible to make the highest use of the Mind without basing such use of this upon inward spiritual perception, upon a conscious realization of the Union of man with God.
No matter what the mistakes of our yesterdays may have been, we may transcend both the mistake and its consequence through imbibing the Spirit of Truth, which is the Power of God.
We must transmute hate into Love, fear into faith, and a sense of separation into conscious Union with Good.
When we have done this, the entire record of the past is blotted out and we are again free-free with that freedom which the Almighty has ordained, and which man may claim as his own.

Again

It’s merging heart & mind, our Love & Wisdom

One truth, one perception, One Love, one mind, one life…

The intelligent person to know that the entire planetary system manifests intelligence and organization; that is, it manifests intelligence plus direction, and intelligence plus direction means consciousness. It implies both will and representation; both an Infinite Will and an Infinite Manifestation. There is within each of us a deep awareness, a subjective and a spiritual consciousness which by pure intuition knows that the Universal Intelligence which we call God exists. We do not need to turn to the Bible for such declarations, for the real Bible is inscribed on the walls of our own consciousness and is the true light which lighteth every man that cometh into the world.

The inner consciousness of our union with Good is Supreme. Not only is it the highest hope and inspiration of the human mind, but it has ever been its greatest realization. It is self-evident that we exist because we experience existence. It is self-evident that an Infinite Mind exists, since we can think. It is self-evident that this Mind is a Unity, since as individuals we recognize each other. It is self-evident that we can commune with this Infinite Mind, since we can commune with each other. We cannot disbelieve these self-evident propositions, for we must accept that which it is impossible to deny.

Now everything starts from this certainty of our own being. It is the only fact in the entire Universe of which we are absolutely certain. Man's whole being consists in thinking, and if his thinking is based on knowing, this knowing must be built upon a consciousness of his own existence and of his relationship to the Infinite.

✅ Feelings-Know Yourself

GingerRRT — Sun, 07 Sep 2025 17:14:03 GMT

THE POWER YOU GIVE AWAY

What if I told you that no one truly has power over you unless you hand it to them?

Not through their words. Not through their opinions. Not through their illusions of control.

Every emotional chain you’ve ever felt… was forged in your own mind.

And the moment you recognize that, you can melt it in an instant.

The universe operates by consent of energy.

When you allow someone’s anger, jealousy, or judgment to enter your field, you give them access to your inner kingdom.

But when you stand in awareness calm, centered, unmoved their projections fall away like shadows before the dawn.

The Hermetic path teaches that all power begins and ends within.

It is not about resisting others or building walls.

It is about remembering that your mind is the architect of experience, and your heart is the throne upon which the soul sits.

So when others try to provoke you, remember: they cannot touch you without your permission.

When the world tries to break you, remember: it can only reach the parts of you that still seek validation from it.

Withdraw that permission. Reclaim your energy.

And suddenly, the same situations that once enslaved you will bow before your awareness.

You are not here to be ruled—you are here to remember your sovereignty.

The real freedom is not political, social, or material… it is energetic.

It is when you stand as the observer—calm in the storm, untouched by the noise—knowing deeply that everything outside of you is only a reflection of what you’ve agreed to feel within.

The moment you stop giving your power away, you realize you never lost it in the first place.

✨🙌🏾💫

This material is from other authors

We do not claim copyright of any of their material. The Toltec books are from don Miguel Ruiz. Other authors' copyrighted works is also quoted for teaching purposes only. We have links and encourage you to buy and read the full books to fully understand their story and message.. If we do not have them listed then let us know as we used many sources and may not have all of them listed. This is not an infringement of their copyright, used for learning purposes only. A little is mine like the owners manual but even then it still the four agreements and other Toltec books and other books are the main tools and messages used. So please buy and read their books. The 5 Agreements are the main tools used in this educational format. We added some articles to help explain the concepts for a hopefully better understanding of the ego and the steps needed to improve your emotional intelligence. We have expanded lessons to expand on the Toltec book on love, adding excerpts from other books and authors listed. We tried to put and merge the authors material together only in what I hope is an improved format for better teaching and comprehensive understanding of the main teaching objectives.

Relentless
The Four Agreements - website
The 5th Agreement
“Lost Lesson” notes
The Untethered Soul
The Mastery of Love
Love is a Decision
The Road Less Travelled
Paul Selig
A Course in Miracles

Read Relentless

Other Toltec books

Course Outline

Main Objective: PART I
Awareness of the Ego and the 4 Agreements
Giving you awareness of these 3 topics
Understanding only you control your world. Which is the inside world of your mind. Your beliefs, emotions, feelings, and choices. Choices of ego fear, and unforgiveness or truth and love? The outside world doesn’t matter. It only matters how you respond from your inside world.
Understanding the ego human behavior you can now see and understand that they live in their personal ego dream world or movie. To understand basic human ego behavior, and see it in others. To see how the ego tries to control their outside world with emotions of anger, conflict, accusing, blaming, attacking, judging, I’m right you’re wrong, I’m special, you are not, etc..
The 4 Agreements and companion lessons, gives you easy explanations and everyday tools to implement your awareness and understanding of the basic human nature and the ego thought system.
Assignment:
Read the Relentless book
Read the 4 Agreements book, The Energy Bus, The Let Them Theory, Mastery of Love book and Ego section
See Owners Manual section read and take your time to figure out who you are and want to be. Focus more on the inner values and characteristics you want to develop and have.This is where you make sure you know what you want, who you are, and who you want to be. Integrity, honor, self-respect. Likes, dislikes, inner goals, and outer goals, etc…
Read God’s Knowledge Thought System in the Knowledge section
Now there is no excuse of ignorance
The rest is up to you. It’s your choice! Are you ready to learn more about being both the teacher and the student. Do you want real power? This not for the lazy person. This is where you must have the want & willpower to improve your emotional intelligence.
Laziness is the original sin.
PART II
Your 2nd choice takes the willingness & willpower to improve emotional self-control …
By practicing self-discipline, responsibility and implementing the 4 Agreements you can effectively improve communication skills. (along with developing self-love, knowing who you really are and what you want, improving your foundation, or updating your owner’s manual)
You can now brush off their words or actions because you now have knowledge of their personal ego’s control. You get angry or upset less often, and you can now respect their ego dream or movie. You see how the ego only protects your ego personality, not the real you, your inner heart or soul. You have the everyday tools to communicate more effectively and deal with their ego opinion and any possible conflicts. You have the improved ability to control your emotional reactions and now you respond in the present instead of reacting. You are not trying to control them or any other outside event or interaction. This is where you pull it it all together with this new knowledge of these 3 key areas. This gives you a great advantage in your personal and business life.
You don’t hate or judge them anymore. You still don’t have to like them or even associate with them if possible.(discernment) You now understand it’s God’s role to judge your brothers and sisters, not you….
….you become Bulletproof
Use the 4th Agreement… practice, repeat, practice, repeat….
…you become Relentless
Assignment:
A… Read the Awareness & Emotions section
B… Reed the Love section, The 5th Agreement & Belief Section
Implementing the 4 Agreements is the start of awareness. Seeing how the ego controls them. Look for the signs and their real intention behind their words. By being the observer of your thoughts and emotions. By not automatically reacting, getting frustrated or mad, saying or doing something dumb. You wait to respond with wisdom or choose to say nothing or to agree. Now many people won’t say anything because they don’t want to have a conflict or other reasons why they don’t reply. That’s not awareness.
END OF BASIC COURSE

STALKING EMOTIONS

Improving Emotional Maturity

To know yourself is to have a foundation on firm ground

The 2nd part of Awareness

Attention and Focus

It is learning and knowing of the self, in the grit of one’s daily life experience: relationships, family, job, sexuality, bodily health, emotional wellbeing, personal identity, etc. But the person is not limiting the perspective to just these outer roles and identities.

To connect to your heart one must be self-aware of your feelings and to perceive their meaning. Meaningful reflection of the soul comes from the heart or inside yourself.

These are all energies of self, and in reaching upward, the lower ends need to be accepted, balanced, and integrated into the self. Understanding of…. and then the Self control of emotions, feelings words, and actions.…. https://positivepsychology.com/emotional-intelligence-skills/ and https://thepleasantmind.com/emotional-maturity/

Self-concept of yourself is everything that you believe to be true.

And everything that you believe to be true about yourself has landed you precisely where you live and breathe every day of your life.

Your beliefs about yourself are like the ingredients in a recipe that you use to create your self-concept.

Each person wishes for personal power, power to control, and the power to shape destiny, and this is your right, my friends, this is your obligation. Yet know that the first and greatest power is given to you in the act of surrender, for the heart that has surrendered can hear the song that will lead you.

There is no thought that does not have an emotion attached to it.

Feelings, When Organized and Directed, Is Creation

THAT WHICH is felt cannot be taught, while that which is taught may be felt. WHAT IS it that must be felt in practice, the feeling that is beyond words, statements, and phrases?……..

It is the essence of Life, the Spirit of the thing from which the mind automatically draws an intellectual conclusion. This feeling results in words which are an activity of the feeling, the enforcement of the Principle back of it.

In this way, the Word becomes Spirit and Life.

You are a broadcasting station, and messages are going out from you in all directions, perhaps even while you are asleep-messages that have an influence on your environment and the people around you! And since everything moves in circles, the messages you broadcast will come back to you.

Fears, tend to make an imprint on our environment. We are also receiving sets, but it does not follow that we must tune in to every program being broadcast. When we want to listen to a certain program we tune our radios to its wavelength.

The program already is within the ether in the room, but it does not affect our instrument until we tune in to it. It is fascinating to think that we are both mental broadcasting stations and receiving sets. And it will be even more wonderful when we learn to broadcast only the kind of messages that we wish to have returned.

Importance of Awareness

Consciousness is awareness and awareness is paying attention.

Your conscious mind is the awareness you have only in the current moment. It's aware of our body, environment, and time. This is your awareness of your current surroundings, your current thoughts and emotions, the physical sensations in your body, whether or not you’re hungry, etc...

Your mind changing shape is not the problem – changing direction is the problem.

Fix the direction for your life all by yourself. Fix your direction, whatever this direction may be. After that, it should not change every day. The most fantastic aspect of the human mind is it can change shape at any moment, in any way.

That only becomes a problem if you mistake shape for direction.

That is what is happening in people’s lives. If you fix your direction, you can let your mind change its shape any number of times without any problem.

Once the direction is fixed, changing the shape of the mind will lead to creativity.

✅ The End Game

The belief of your mind is the thought of your mind—that is simple—just that and nothing else.

You will notice that at times the ideas related to thinking precede those related to perceiving, while at other times the order is reversed. The reason is that the order does not matter.

Thinking and its results are simultaneous, for cause and effect are never separate.

Ultimately it’s having the wisdom, rationality, and will to have only desires or intentions from the heart or soul. Then to stay the course and create with the mind from what the heart truly wants. The body then experiences the creation that the heart relates to the mind.

This is where awareness, living in the moment, or being aware of our conscious decisions comes into play. Not to let old unconscious and outdated automated programs run us.

The key is to become aware of the soul or heart

Learning to think from your heart.

Merging your thoughts and your heart to create true love.

To get the mind to use the soul's desires or playbook in the game.

Not to let the physical world or selfish ego mind be the quarterback, but to bench him in favor of the soul or love-based aspect of being the quarterback.

TrueSelf

Your ideas of who you are, in most cases, were claimed in this lifetime through appropriation and agreement to your surroundings, your culture, and those things you see that would define you that you attend to daily. When you go beyond this lifetime to the well that is always there, you can access truth that is not limited by the life that you live. The truth of your being extends well beyond a lifetime, and well before, as well.

Stop pretending you are not who you are. Stop lying to yourself and saying you are your pain, you are your suffering, you are your fear. Stop saying to yourself that you have no right to claim the Kingdom. That is a claim of fear. We are saying this for you now, wherever you are, whoever you are, whatever you think you have done or could be accused of. Whatever you have named yourself as in limitation, we say this to you. You permit the will itself to go into accord with the vibration of truth, and then the vibration of liberation.

The will itself, the aspect of you that knows what it needs, or assumes it knows what it needs, must be met and responded to by the True Self for integration to occur. “Thy will, not mine, be done” has been a claim you have heard. It is a true claim, but the “not mine” actually signifies that the small self’s will is now being assumed by the Divine Self and not operating in opposition to it. “I won’t get my way, thy will be done, I can’t fix it anymore” is how you have known surrender.

But the braiding of the will, the small and the true, and the assumption of the will by the Divine Self is what claims will in expression without the kind of thinking that the small self has used to define its requirements in codified ways.

Now when you are willing to know yourself in a higher way—“I know who I am in truth”—you claim a possibility that the aspect of you that knows, the True Self that knows, will support this acclimation of the will to its true source.

To realize the True Self means to be unafraid of what you have done, or has been done to you, because everything can be comprehended as opportunities to learn. Self-justification, we would say, is always the small self-seeking to be right. When you release that need, the need to be right and for another to be wrong, you move toward a kind of liberation in your relationships. You are no longer bartering for who is right. You are no longer playing games of power. You are no longer deciding that your well-being is dependent upon another’s behavior. Nobody has to be right, nobody has to be wrong, but everybody has the right to be.

You cannot have self-deceit and realization at the same time.

This aspect of you, the True Self as you, is in fact boundless. He has no edges, she holds no limitations, and her awareness of herself in a small way is no more challenging to her than her awareness of herself in a vast way. Imagine that the light you are, the Divine Self that you are, is now expanding and increasing in value and vibration. As you expand, everything that you encounter and is known by you is known by you in truth. You are the free one and, consequently, have the right to announce herself before all she sees to claim the liberation that is inherent in the divinity of all matter. The Divine as you expand beyond this space you sit in, beyond the walls of the space you sit in, beyond the county lines, across the rivers, across the continent, across the oceans, around the globe, and beyond that as well. Imagine that the being that you are in vibration is holding itself in love, and all that it includes in its vibration….

In obedience to love, you learn the lessons of love. In obedience to truth, you claim a world in truth. And joy, we would suggest, is as available to learn through as any other ideal or way of being.

Kidz https://positivepsychology.com/self-control-for-kids/#techniques

Life is desire, what you love

Feelings are a choice, Love is a choice

Despite the words being used interchangeably, emotions and feelings are two different but connected phenomena.

Emotions originate as sensations in the body.
Feelings are generated from our thoughts that are influenced by the experience and associated real-time emotions

Emotions are real-time data sparked by sensations in the body. Feelings can be more biased, and altered by mental misconceptions.
Developing emotional awareness can help prevent reactivity and false beliefs.

Our emotions are like the engine of the car; our feelings are the frame.

You wouldn’t tune up your car and skip over the engine, right? The same goes for our emotions, which can give us a more accurate diagnosis of how we’re doing at the moment.

Emotions are the raw data, a reaction to the present reality, whereas feelings can be diluted by stories we’ve created in our head based on events of the past or fears of the future—not necessarily the truth of the situation. Listening to our bodily emotions, informed by our sense perception, helps us connect to the reality of our present experience rather than to stories made of potentially inaccurate beliefs. From our truth, we can make decisions that are right for us.

It is interesting to know that the best psychological balance is the balance between the intellect and the emotions, the conscious mind and the feelings.

Difference between Feelings and Emotions:

Feelings and emotions are not the same, but they can be related. If a particular bad feeling is allowed to fester, it can eventually grow into a negative emotional state. The difference is that one can be more easily controlled than the other. Unchecked negative feelings can eventually lead to an uncontrollable emotional outburst. Although we may harbor feelings of anger, dislike, or distrust for others, we do not have to allow those feelings enough power to change our mental state. If we keep working to change negative feelings, we can prevent them from growing into negative emotions and possible outbursts. There is nothing wrong with good or bad feelings as long as we remain in control of them.

Attitude

Attitude is the combined thought and feelings with the end action you have attached to each wish, subject, person, experience, etc...

How To

¥KEY POINT>~

“To become a master of our emotions, thoughts, and feelings”(which is how we master our energy, which is how we master our environment, which is how we master our destiny.)

This can all be taught to kids and teens

It’s the unseen inner world, the inner self which we do not teach our kids enough of.

We focus too much on the outer world and our outer personality, our outer goals.

Life and true reality is the inner world. Love merged with Wisdom is key.

Start with recognizing the emotional triggers and the 4 Agreements

Emotional Self-Control & Effective Communication

A key step is to harmonize your heart brain to your mind brain

The Heart-Brain Connection - an exercise in self-control

Heart Lock-In® Technique

Step 1. Focus your attention on the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual.

Step 2. Activate and sustain a regenerative feeling such as appreciation, care, or compassion.

Step 3. Radiate that renewing feeling to yourself and others.

Accessing intuition takes managing emotional energy and learning to pay more attention to your heart’s promptings. Otherwise, the mind and emotions tend to override the heart’s often subtle promptings. As we learn to attune to our heart feelings, our natural intuitive connection can develop and grow. One of the biggest benefits of learning to follow my heart’s promptings has been the ability to bring my mental and emotional faculties into greater alignment with my true self.

Spot the emotional trigger: EMOTIONS R KEY

The senses are the gateway to your perception. How you sense, how you see, hear, feel, taste, and touch are the ways that you access information. In any event, conversation or interaction, the key is not to overreact.

Following your emotions/feelings shows you how you are thinking

When you first start to feel an emotional reaction, feeling warm or hot, anger, frustration, etc… your key trigger(s)

Do the following (or any other mental or physical act) to keep you from saying or doing something stupid in the moment, to bring you back to the moment, to say, HEY, it’s their Ego talking, their dream has nothing to do with me.

Shift awareness into the heart, by physically touching your heart. Then….
Shifting awareness to Slow your breathing, take slow big breaths. Concentrate on the breathing
At the same time Smile Within.. Feel the feeling of one of the following emotions - compassion, gratitude, joy, caring, love, joy, happiness… and smile into your heart and with your eyes…..
Don’t talk or react wait until you are not upset-keep emotions out of conversations is key
Understand the emotion, why it appears, and what was the trigger. Was it pride, wanting to be right, or not getting your way? Etc…

Add the “inner smile” exercise as a quick way to change your attitude or remind yourself not to say something stupid. At the same time tap your chest (heart) to assist in keeping calm…. Along with the deep breathing focus on your deep breathing until you gain control…(Thinking of a happy thought of importance to you.) With the thoughts of Love, Joy & Happiness.

Adjust to your style and what helps you the most…..

Adding the 4 Agreements

Practice and mastering the 4 Agreements plus understanding the ego will eventually help you from getting angry or upset in conflicts.

Using The Four Agreements to change your actions–reactions. Every choice you make has a consequence or result. When you change the action, you change the result, and you change the dream of your life.

It is well to combine the intellect and (heart)feeling and to use both the head and the heart, for the intellect gives a definite form to the feeling.

But unless the feeling is there, the intellect will merely have provided the empty mold.

We want not only to feel but to think. We wish not only to think but also to feel.

Be certain, then, that in all your work you combine this subtle essence with the conscious word you speak until the two become one.

How to merge Heart & Brain

How to harmonize your heart to your mind brain...

Higgs field/chi or wisdom/violet light....

Learn to Think with Your Heart Brain...

Mysteries of the heart…

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How to Video

"Thinking with your heart" the heart center—the center of oneness, wholeness, creativity, and where the soul and heart intersect with the unified field—and bring to the center elevated emotions such as gratitude, joy, inspiration, love, etc...think of an experience of one of these and focus on this emotion. The heart is the biggest electromagnetic organ in our physical mind/body.

By re-setting our attention and creating an elevated emotion within our hearts, we begin to change the energy field surrounding our bodies.

Heart Intelligence Lessons:

Go to:

https://experience.heartmath.com/

The energy of the soul conveyed by the heart

“L” energy or Chi/Qi…. Gods life force

Heart-math: Be still, lighten up, shut up, resonate, and feel, listen for what your heart is telling you about living, loving, and working.

Parenting lessons… https://www.heartmath.org/resources/parenting/

Pdf - https://tinyurl.com/2vhpb8wv

Our soul and spirit are made of intelligent energy and you need to grow your soul & spirit with wisdom and love from the universal violet light energy

The 2nd brain

Chi

Changing a habit has a three-step pattern:

A reminder or trigger that initiates a response
The routine, the response then follows
A reward for the response

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Follow your Feelings

One of the most powerful tools in emotion regulation is simply identifying and naming the emotion you are feeling.

✅Once you understand the ego thought system, should help you understand why and where you get your feelings. The good and the bad.

Primary emotions are often completely natural reactions to things around us, like being sad when a loved one dies, or angry when someone is rude to us. However, secondary emotions are more dangerous and more within our control; we generally have more of a choice about how to respond to the fact that we are sad when someone dies.

Secondary emotions can push us towards behaviors that are destructive and maladaptive, making it essential to learn how to accept your primary emotion without judging yourself for feeling it.

Recognize that in every situation you have three options:

approach
avoidance and
attack

While it may feel as though your choice of behavior is out of your control, it's not. Your feelings may sway you more toward one path, but you are more than those feelings.

Become aware of your emotions. Do you feel like running away from a difficult situation? Do you feel like lashing out in anger at someone who has hurt you?

Monitor your body to get clues about how you are feeling if it is not immediately obvious to you. For example, a rapidly increasing heart rate may be a sign that you are entering a state of rage or even experiencing a panic attack.

You have to stalk your reactions; you have to work with yourself every moment. It takes a lot of time and courage because it’s easier to take things personally and react the way you always react. And that leads you to a lot of mistakes, to a lot of suffering and pain, because your reactions only generate more emotional poison and increase the drama. If you can control your reactions, you will find that soon you are going to see, meaning to perceive things as they are.

The mind normally perceives things as they are, but because of all the programming, and all the beliefs we have, we make interpretations of what we perceive, of what we hear, and mainly of what we see. There’s a big difference between seeing the way people see in the Dream and seeing without judgment, as it is. The difference is in the way your emotional body reacts to what you perceive. For example, if you are walking on the street and someone who doesn’t know you says, “You are so stupid” and walks away, you can perceive and react to that in many ways. You can accept what that person said and think, “Yes, I must be stupid.” You can get mad, feel humiliated, or simply ignore it. The truth is that this person is dealing with his emotional poison, and he said that to you because you were the first person to cross his path. It has nothing to do with you. There is nothing personal there. If you can see that truth, the way it is, you don’t react. Your reaction comes from a belief that is deep inside you. The way you react has been repeated thousands of times, and it becomes a routine for you. You are conditioned to be a certain way. And that is the challenge: to change your normal reactions, to change your routine, to take a risk and make different choices. If the consequence is not what you want, change it again and again until you finally get the result you want.

Once we have awareness, we have a choice. If we could have that awareness all the time, we could change our routines, change our reactions, and change our entire lives. Once we have the awareness, we recover free will. When we recover free will, at any moment we can choose to remember who we are. Then, if we forget, we can choose again, if we have the awareness. But if we don’t have the awareness, we have no choice. Becoming aware is about being responsible for your own life. You are not responsible for what is happening in the world. You are responsible for yourself. You didn’t make the world the way it is; the world was already the way it was before you were born.

You didn’t come here with a great mission to save the world, to change society, but surely you come with a big mission, an important mission.

The real mission you have in life is to make yourself happy and to be happy, you have to look at what you believe, the way you judge yourself, and the way you victimize yourself. Be completely honest about your happiness.

Don’t project a false sense of happiness by telling everyone, “Look at me. I’m a success in life, I have everything I want, I am so happy,” when you don’t like yourself. Everything is there for us, but first, we need to have the courage to open our eyes, to use the truth, and to see what is.

Humans are so blind, and they are blind because they don’t want to see.

If we open our eyes and see life as it is, we can avoid a lot of emotional pain. It doesn’t mean we don’t take a risk. We are alive and we need to take risks, and if we fail, so what? Who cares? It doesn’t matter. We learn and we move on without judgment. We don’t need to judge ourselves or others; we don’t need to blame ourselves or others or feel guilt. We just need to accept our truth and intend a new beginning.

If we can see ourselves the way we are, that is the first step toward self-acceptance — toward stopping the self-rejection. Once we can accept ourselves just the way we are, everything can start changing from that point forward. ~ Miguel

The base-level feelings are vulnerability, fear, aloneness, and bracing against change. The most basic emotions are agitation and frustration, so we want to be very aware of these energies within the body.

Look to see what the underlying feeling is that produced the question in the first place.

✅ Once that feeling is let go, the answer will present itself automatically. That’s the hard part not reacting to your feelings, just to let it happen and then release it. Not saying or doing something stupid….

Identifying with feelings

The base-level feelings are vulnerability, fear, aloneness, and bracing against change.

The most basic emotions are agitation and frustration, so we want to be very aware of these energies within the body. For most identifications, the most lucrative way to harvest food is to make an individual so uncomfortable that the individual starts trying to escape the present moment by projecting into the future or the past through imagination and thinking, which is psychological time. As the individual reacts to agitation, Soul energy is siphoned off by the identification, which when full goes into a state of torpor and ceases to agitate for a time.

Emotional tendencies come from associating emotion with the self. A person may have unconsciously associated himself or herself with being a kind person. In such a case, that individual has created an emotion-identification called kindness, which produces a weak energy projection around the body attracting those who would wish to take advantage of that weakness. Kindness then uses our bodies like puppets to express itself and cause disharmony. How is that bad? Kindness makes it difficult for the individual to say, “No” when “No” is the most appropriate answer. This then causes a tremendous amount of stress on the individual, which feeds the identification.

When resolved to Soul there is naturally love, gentleness, and service, but there is also the capacity to draw a line when one needs to be drawn because the energy is stable. All of the traumas of our lives are emotion-identifications. The bigger the trauma, the more powerful the identification. These identifications create such strong emotional urges when they rise, out of torpor, that resisting them may be nearly impossible.

An extreme example of this sort of trauma identification is when a young child has been sexually molested. Oftentimes when the child matures they gain a very unhealthy sexual expression that may result in wanting to be sexually dominated or the opposite. Many individuals who were sexually abused as children may not even remember it because the trauma was so overwhelming that it was blocked out of accessible memory. Even if they can’t recall the abuse, they still carry the trauma that acts out through unhealthy sexuality.

Weaker identifications may come out in common relationship arguments amplifying distrust, judgmentalism, and aggression. Here is a common example I hear regularly: “I know that making that negative comment to my partner is not going to help, but I say it anyway, and we end up in an argument. The funny thing is, I am aware enough to know that I shouldn’t say it, but often enough I end up saying it anyway. And when I say it, it even kind of feels good — like I scored a point or won. Of course, my partner gets upset, and we end up in a terrible argument.” This situation perfectly exemplifies what I mean when I say the individual was unconscious. They were not actually in control of themselves; they were in the passenger’s seat. Their control was usurped by emotional identifications well before they said that hurtful thing.

Signs of an identification coming out of torpor need to be noticed at a very early stage before the identification fully awakens. Otherwise, it’s often too late and the odds of successfully piloting harmoniously through the situation are greatly diminished. It may have been just one identification or several that urged the individual to say something hurtful, but regardless of how many created the urge, certainly many identifications fed off of both individuals during the argument. Identifications are not concerned with marital happiness; they are concerned only with feeding and will do whatever it takes to get us to act or react in negative ways.

Sensing, emotion, thought, imagination, and memory work synergistically to make up the matrix of the mind, which keeps one from being present. Whenever we go into judgment or comparisons about the self or others; whenever we fail to forgive ourselves or others; whenever we get nostalgic for the past or look forward to the future, we are stepping out of the present. Each time we allow the mind to leap forward or backward in time for emotional reasons, it binds the Soul into darkness. The darkness takes on an identity of its own and now needs us to feed it. Each time we slip into distraction, willfulness, or brace against the moment, we feed something.

Anytime we aren’t fully present and tuned to unconditioned love, something is siphoning off our energy. Nothing can steal our energy unless we wrongly give it through an inappropriate response. So, it’s useless to go into blame, which is yet another identification. The way to properly manage one’s energy is to remain present, calm, and tuned to the frequencies of consciousness while taking total authority over and responsibility for one’s energy. The solution begins right now, within each of us, by tuning to an unconditionally loving, stable, and peaceful state as often as possible. When we collapse out of consciousness and into the mind, we take notice and open back up again. The more we do this, the freer we all are.

✅ Emotions are key in stopping the cycle of the Ego

You have but two emotions, love and fear

One is changeless but continually exchanged, being offered by the eternal to the eternal. In this exchange, it is extended, for it increases as it is given.

The other has many forms, for the content of individual illusions differs greatly. Yet they have one thing in common; they are all insane. They are made of sights that are not seen and sounds that are not heard. They make up a private world that cannot be shared. For they are meaningful only to their maker, and so they have no meaning at all. In this world, their maker moves alone, for only he perceives them.

Love shares & extends itself

Ego projects

The Field or Chi

There cannot be a thought that does not also contain a feeling

The creation is consciousness, and that consciousness is pure emotion, not pure intellect. Infinite intelligence expresses itself within humans as a deep and abiding emotion.

This is not to be confused with the body’s emotions. While emotions are not the correct term to describe God's original energy thought and what we are, it’s as close as we can come to using language to communicate

Thus, as one feels love pouring through one, one is fulfilling one’s fundamental and major mission upon our Earth sphere, and that is to be a radiant being, a light to many, not by action, but by the vital energy, the sweetness of soul, and the expressions of love which move through the one (seeker) who has opened the door to deep emotion.

What is the function of emotion? It is intelligence that produces profound and fundamental transformation. Only the heart, when released from stricture, may do so. The approach of intellect, the approach from the outside in, the approach of believing this or that, is most frequently fruitless.

It is the opening of oneself to free-floating and abstract faith, the faith that all is as it was planned to be, the faith that that which was planned is helpful and full of love. Forgiveness is an emotion, not a mental process, and it is the key to the advancement of the self.

Gut instinct, the inner heart, and what others call the prompting of the still, small voice within, the higher self, or by whatever name you choose to relate itself to a wider, wiser intelligence. This intelligence is emotion.

Each of you is unique, and the emotions that are your deeper intelligence are unique to you, their balance is unique to you, and the fruit of that balance in service is unique to you. Thus, one should establish a great respect for the intuition and emotion that are the essence of intelligence.

More and more, as you realize, recognize, and respect your inner wisdom as a portion of the creation, as you continue to meditate faithfully, then you may be undisturbed, insofar as it is possible, by the painfulness of change.

The things that move us belong to our Love - feelings
The things we think about belong to our Wisdom- intelligence -, self-control

What are your loves?

What are your fears, insecurities, etc…?

What are your ego-based emotions?

What is the purpose of emotion? The purpose of emotion within is to engage the mind, the heart, and the soul of the person who seeks it so that it becomes more and more aware of the depth and breadth of each present moment and the possibilities for loving within each moment.

Needless to say, we do not speak of the clinging, dependent [type of] love.

Each of you will go through many definitions of the word, love, as you experience various facets of conditional and unconditional love. Your goal and it is a difficult one, is to use the deep wisdom of the intuition and choice-making nature of the intellect in harmony to move in the direction that you and the Creator have set for yourself this day.

In that regard, we would say that it is not well to create in the mind that which one desires unless one is sure that one desires it and will never regret having it.

Every emotion that you feel is real. It is true. It comes directly from the integrity of your spirit. You cannot fake what you feel. You can try to justify or repress your emotions, you can try to lie about what you feel, but what you feel is authentic.

• The voice of knowledge can make you feel ashamed of your feelings, but there is nothing wrong with whatever you feel. There are no good emotions or bad emotions. Even if what you feel is anger or hate, it comes from your integrity. If you feel it, there is always a reason for feeling it.

• Everything you perceive causes an emotional reaction. You perceive not only your feelings, but your knowledge — your thoughts, judgments, and beliefs. You perceive the voice in your head, and you have an emotional reaction to that voice.

• Every time you lie to yourself judge yourself, or reject yourself, you have an emotional reaction, and it isn’t pleasant. If you don’t like the emotional reaction, it’s not about repressing what you feel; it’s about cleaning up the lies that cause it. All of your emotions change when you no longer believe in lies because the emotions are the effect, not the cause.

• Our emotions are real; the voice of knowledge that makes us suffer is not. Our suffering is true, but the reason why we suffer may not be true at all.

• Humans are possessed by knowledge, by a distorted image of ourselves. That is why we are no longer free.

• Emotional pain is a symptom of being abused; the pain is letting you know that you have to do something to stop the abuse. Emotions are the most important part of your story because they tell you how you are doing in your life. By following your emotions, you can change your circumstances.

How can knowledge, knowing—which is consciousness—be unfeeling? Even unfeeling knowing, what you call in this era “intellectual knowledge,” must have a feeling content.

Every moment of your life, consciously or unconsciously, you are assuming a feeling. You can no more avoid assuming a feeling than you can avoid eating and drinking.

All you can do is control the nature of your assumptions.

The power of choosing which thought to think in itself stems from strong energy movements and results in effect.

So, consciousness is always a feeling, an energy manifestation, whether or not you are aware of it. Therefore consciousness must be one with energy

Everything you perceive causes an emotional reaction. When you perceive beauty, your emotional reaction is wonderful; you feel great. When you perceive what you believe is not beauty, your emotional reaction is not so great. But you perceive not just the outside world; you perceive the virtual world you create in your head. You perceive not only your feelings, but your knowledge — your thoughts, judgments, and beliefs. You perceive the voice in your head, and you have an emotional reaction to that voice.

The implications of E=mc2 are profound. For centuries, scientists have considered energy and mass to be completely distinct and unrelated to each other.

Einstein showed that in fact, energy and mass are different forms of the same thing. Einstein himself was surprised by the finding, calling it "amusing and enticing" and wondered "whether the Lord is laughing at it and has played a trick on me."

It shows us that matter and energy are one.

Just as energy does not energize mass but is mass (or energy in form), so in our science there is considered to be no difference between the thought and the thing thought of or about. One becomes the other.

What we change is not the Reality but our perception of it

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Without free will, your beliefs control your attention

When you control your attention from the inside, you decide your attention has been hooked by the outside and you recover free will.

Once you recover free will, your awareness or attention controls your beliefs

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It needs to be clear that all freedom is a matter of love, even to the point that love and freedom are the same thing. Since love is our life, freedom is also essential to our life. Every pleasure we experience comes from our love; there is no other source of pleasure. Acting for the sake of the pleasure of our love is acting in freedom, because pleasure leads us along, the way a river bears its burdens quite naturally along its current.

Since we have many loves, some of which agree with each other and some of which disagree, it follows that we likewise have many kinds of freedom.

One truth is

You only have control over three things in your life

the thoughts (intention)you think,
the images you visualize,(emotion) and
the actions you take.

Love is an act of will—namely, both an intention and an action. Or willingness. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love.

Thought, Emotion, and Action are the sacred triad. These are the Generative forces that transform spirit into matter, the unseen into the seen and manifest the immaterial into form.

This is the true Trinity of creation; When we think a Thought, If that thought stirs Emotion, if we truly care, we move toward it with Action and through this process, all things are brought into reality. This is how creation unfolds. This is the presence of God within us.

They keep you focused outside yourself your whole life with school, religion, bills, food, Netflix, social media—the list is endless. They do this to prevent you from connecting with your inner self.

They can’t let you realize that your inner world is manifesting your external world because, once you figure that out, why would you need them to govern you? Why would you pay the church when you discover that Christ is within you? The only way out is in.

~ St. Bobby Black

The Mastery of Love, Intent, or Life

Intention: [energy or consciousness] Every thought, every, idea, every reason, and desire should be based only on the knowledge of goodness & love [from within].

God's main ingredient is acted on by our thought and free will, producing acts in service to self(ego) or making the choice to multiply the output of energy more towards service to others.

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There cannot be proper circulation in the mental body unless the spiritual body, to which the mental is attached, circulates through the mental;

that we cannot even be physically whole until there is a
circulation of the spirit through the mind, and
the mind through the body.

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Every response you make to everything you perceive is up to you because your mind determines your perception of it.

Only insofar as you love, accept, and refuse to judge yourself can you be compassionate in such wise to others. Only in compassion, as you see that treasure within you and within all, can you truly serve in a love that is without condition and that demands no return.

Emotions of Love or Fear

You have but two emotions, one you made and one that was given to you. Each is a way of seeing, and different worlds arise from their different sights.

See through the vision that is given you, for through Christ’s vision He beholds Himself. And seeing what He is, He knows His Father. Beyond your darkest dreams, He sees God’s guiltless Son within you, shining in perfect radiance that is undimmed by your dreams.

And this you will see as you look with Him, for His vision is His gift of love to you, given Him of the Father for you

Emotions are off or from the body and it’s 5 senses from the outside world interactions

Feelings are of the mind, our inner world interpretation of these outer world emotions.

There are two fundamental soul attitudes:

1. love(heart/soul)… being conscious

2. fear(personality)… the unconscious ego mind

Feelings are your slaves and the art of self-discipline is like the art of slave-owning. Feelings come from the mind. (ego) selfishness….

This takes self-discipline. Not arrogance. Genuine love, with all the discipline that it requires, is the only path in this life to substantial joy. Genuine love is self-replenishing. The more I nurture the spiritual growth of others, the more my spiritual growth is nurtured. I am a selfish human being. I never do something for somebody else but I do it for myself. And as I grow through love, so grows my joy, ever more present, ever more constant. ”It is not what I think of you but what you think of yourself.”

All human interactions are opportunities either to learn or to teach (to give or receive therapy) and when they neither learn nor teach in interaction they are passing up an opportunity. Respect or Honor is the heart. We don’t have the power to change someone else, but we can influence them. Influence means having sway over someone. I love you, but I won’t subject myself to this treatment. I want you to work on this issue with me so that it doesn’t happen again.” This approach is proactive rather than reactive.

Proactive people keep their freedom, and they disagree and confront issues all the time in marriage. But they can hold on to the love they have for their spouse, and they do not get caught up in an emotional storm. They have worked through their reactive stage. Some couples are divided into the “active” spouse and the “passive” one. One spouse takes more initiative, sets goals, and confronts problems. The other waits for his spouse to make a move first, then responds. In a good marriage, spouses value each other’s differences and treat them with respect. They understand each other, listen, reason, compromise, and give up their wishes sometimes. Because “twoness” exists, oneness can develop.

It is only listening to the feelings and the thought forms involved in the translation of physical effects into the feelings and sensations of the body. A happy heart is more helpful than a good diet. A peaceful mind is more helpful to them than exercise.”

One of the pillars of the Mastery of Self is learning to spot the triggers and maneuver the traps that are waiting to hook you, and nothing can help you more in this process than becoming aware of your emotions. Understanding Your Emotions Our emotions are wonderful tools. Being in touch with them allows us to experience life to the fullest. When we are aware, our emotions can teach us a variety of things. They can show us what we like and don't like, what's important to us as opposed to what isn't, and they can provide a wonderful guide to discovering the work we are meant to do in the Dream of the Planet.

For instance, when you are faced with an important decision and you are unsure of which course of action to take, one thing that can help you is to focus on how you feel about the options presented instead of being consumed with the stories your narrators are spouting. As you get to know yourself better, this type of discernment becomes a very effective tool for recognizing what you want. In popular vernacular, this would be referred to as “listening to your heart instead of your head,” but it's the Mastery of Self in action.

Your emotions can also show you where you are still holding on to attachments and reveal any remaining fears and self-doubts from past domestications that you haven't yet released.

Sometimes you won't even realize you have an attachment until an event triggers an emotional reaction in you. Anytime you feel a burst of anger, frustration, guilt, shame, or any number of other negative emotions, that's your cue to look within and see what is happening. Ask yourself questions like, Where is this feeling coming from? When have I experienced this before? What is the source of this feeling? Once you are aware of what's happening inside, you can calm yourself and stop the downward spiral before you lose control. While anger is a common emotional reaction, it is by no means the only one. Shutting down, being defensive or passive-aggressive, feeling guilty or remorseful, or any unhelpful reactions in between are additional ways in which you can react emotionally and lose awareness of your Authentic Self.

Whether your tendency is to be consumed with anger and rage or to sulk silently in the corner, the underlying cause of all of these emotional reactions is always fear, the tool of conditional love. When fear overtakes you and sparks an emotional reaction, your attachments and domestications are now running the show, and unconditional love is cast to the wayside.

Becoming a Master of Self is about noticing when you begin to have an emotional reaction and asking yourself immediately, “What am I afraid of?” The quicker you can identify and release the fear, the faster you become re-grounded in the Authentic Self. Any emotional reaction you experience is yours, not anyone else's, and consequently, it is here to teach you something about yourself. The Master of Self sees this as an opportunity to learn and grow, and in doing so you can deal with these emotions before they lead to an outburst that causes harm to your Dream or the Dream of the Planet.

To save energy you need to change your routines, change those agreements, and no longer react with those emotions. If your spouse wants to fight, and you don’t fight, then you still have that energy. You just eat your breakfast quickly, and leave the room. It’s up to you whether you will allow yourself to spend all your energy on your emotions. You don’t have to be the victim of your emotions.

The emotions that drain you are the emotions that come from fear; the emotions that give you more energy are those that come from love. Most people spend all their energy on personal importance, on defending their image, on defending their opinions and what they believe. They spend a lot of energy trying to be right and making everybody else wrong.

Our body, reduced to its essential state, is a localized bundle of energy and information in a universe of energy and information. We are localized bundles of consciousness in a conscious universe. The word “consciousness” implies more than just energy and information —it implies energy and information which is alive as thought. Therefore we are bundles of thought in a thinking universe. And thought has the power to transform.

Remember this: the soul creates, and the mind reacts.

Feelings are the language of the soul, but you must make sure you are listening to your true feelings and not some counterfeit model constructed in your mind.

Some feelings are true feelings—that is, feelings born in the soul—
And some feelings are counterfeit. These are constructed in your mind

In other words, they are not “feelings” at all—they are thoughts. Thoughts masquerading as feelings.

These thoughts are based on your previous experience and the observed experience of others. You see someone grimace when having a tooth pulled, you grimace when having your tooth pulled. It may not even hurt, but you grimace anyway. Your reaction has nothing to do with reality, only how you perceive reality, based on the experience of others or on something that’s happened to you in the past.

The greatest challenge as human beings is to Be Here Now, to stop making things up!

Stop creating thoughts about a present moment (a moment you “sent” yourself before you had a thought about it). Be in the moment. Remember, you sent yourself this moment as a gift. The moment contained the seed of a tremendous truth. It is a truth you wish to remember. Yet when the moment arrived, you immediately began constructing thoughts about it. Instead of being in the moment, you stood outside the moment and judged it. Then you reacted. That is, you acted as you did once before.

Now look at these two words:

REACTIVE

CREATIVE

Notice they are the same word. Only the “C” has been moved! When you “C” things correctly, you become Creative, rather than Reactive.

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All Love does is to undo

Take nothing personally

Love cancels out the interference with what has been done. It does not add but merely takes away. And what it takes away is long since gone, but being kept in memory appears to have immediate effects. This world was over long ago. The thoughts that made it are no longer in the mind that thought of them and loved them for a little while.

Love shows the past is gone, and what has truly gone has no effects. Remembering a cause can produce illusions of its presence, not effects.

It’s their dream or movie. It is nothing personal because they are dealing only with themselves, not with me. It’s their ego talking, not their true energy. Everyone is going to have their own opinion according to their belief system, so nothing they think about me is really about me, it is only about them, the star of their movie. So, I don’t take it personally. ~4 Agreements

The only difference between “feedback” and “criticism” is the way you hear it.

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✅ How To

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Human desire has the strongest and highest electricity, metaphysically speaking, which is available on the planet Earth at this time. Desire with the feelings attached….

“To become a master of our emotions, thoughts, and feelings”(which is how we master our energy, which is how we master our environment, which is how we master our destiny.)

Love is

your desires(thought with feeling)

your thought

your intentions

your Life

Desire

This principle is simply the original concept of the Creator being expressed through all of its parts, for this concept remains undiminished. For this reason, you will find that you will achieve what you desire only if you are to serve the rest of the creation. This is a natural law. This law is the creation. The strength of desire is the measure of the result of desire.

Human desire has the strongest and highest electricity, metaphysically speaking, which is available on the planet Earth at this time.

When desire has been disciplined and focused, it is the most powerful force in creation. It is that energy that moves the mountain. It is that energy that creates miracles, and it becomes more and more closely allied with those mysterious words of “faith” and “will.”

Cultivating desire itself is a powerful way of developing the will.

What you love you desire.

Desire is an energy that wants, moves, and seeks its fulfillment. Whether in the desire to reach or the desire to be reached, the strength of any given desire will channel the will to fulfill itself and achieve its intended aim. This is why desire must be carefully, consciously cultivated, and aimed toward serving others and seeking the One for those upon the positive path.

As with muscles in the body, will is a faculty that is strengthened by repeatedly using and invoking it. To use and strengthen the will, one must focus on it. There is but one technique for this growing or nurturing of will and faith, and that is the focusing of the attention.

The attention span of those you call children is considered short. The spiritual attention span of most of your people is that of the child. Thus it is a matter of wishing to become able to collect one’s attention and hold it upon the desired programming. This, when continued, strengthens the will. The entire activity can only occur when there exists faith that an outcome of this discipline is possible. It is thus a practicing of pure will by bringing the power of the will under the direction of the conscious mind. On the positive path this is done not for self-domination but with the heart opened in the steady, balanced, witnessing awareness of equanimity. The more that the will is exercised over time consistently and consciously, the more it reflects discipline, an activity necessary for the path of the adept.

Intention, desire, dreams, thoughts, energy

The Seven Faces of Intention (thinking from the heart)~WDyer

1. Be Creative

This means trusting your purpose and having an attitude of unbending intent in your daily thoughts and activities.
Staying creative means giving form to your intentions.

2. Be Kind

All that is manifested is brought here to thrive. It takes kind power to want what it creates to thrive and multiply.
It’s through giving that we receive.
Be kind toward yourself.
Be kind towards others.
Be kind towards all of life.

3. Be Love

You were intended out of love, you must be love to intend.
Love is cooperation rather than competition.
Love is the force behind the will of God (it’s the spiritual vibration that carries divine intentions from formless to concrete expression).

4. Be Beauty

As you awaken to your divine nature, you’ll begin to appreciate beauty in everything you see, touch, and experience.
Life, truth & beauty are all symbols of the same thing, as an aspect of the God-force.

5. Be Ever-Expansive

The all-emerging universal force that intended you into being and commences all life is always growing and perpetually expanding.
By being in an ever-expanding state and growing intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually, you are identifying with the universal mind.

6. Be Abundant

The field is endlessly abundant.
There is no scarcity in the universal invisible world of Spirit.
We become what we think about.
It is all about having an inner picture of abundance, thinking in unlimited ways, being open to the guidance that intention provides when you are in a state of rapport with it – and then being in a state of ecstatic gratitude and awe for how this whole thing works.

7. Be Receptive-willing

The universal mind is ready to respond to anyone who recognizes their true relationship with it.
Stay connected and know you’ll receive all that this power is capable of offering.
The nature of the universal mind is peaceful.

Original Desire

The faculty of free will or pure desire

When the conscious and subconscious minds were partitioned, the most significant result was the arising and the development of will or pure desire. It seems that the essence of this pure desire is the same as the Original Desire, “that entities seek and become One.”

This desire is a yearning, and it is also the seed idea or fundamental premise of the individual self: that it is separate and thus must find the Creator.

When the conscious mind was set apart, the conscious self seemed to become displaced.

When a self is displaced, alone, and cut off from its resources and deeper self, there is the potential to yearn to come back home.

In its higher forms, this yearning expresses the need to transcend the separate self and realize oneness with the Creator through healing and forgiveness.

All beings in existence carry this yearning and will be driven by it one way or another, though few on our planet are conscious of their true aim.

Those who awaken, harness, and center their beings on this pure desire are known as mystics. Mystics may perhaps be defined as those who, having become aware of their true desire, realize that it was this desire hiding at the center of every illusion pursued in the misguided attempt to find satisfaction. Thus, from groping in the moonlight they move closer to grasping the light of the sun.

Will’s strength = awareness of inner light and ability to tap the inner light.

What is the inner light? Your heart of being. Your true nature. So as you become aware of your “heart of being,” the very heart of who you are, you become aware of the will inherent in your being.

You become aware of the Original Desire.

This is manifested in your desire. Your thirst. Your focus. Your intensity. Your sheer perseverance and fidelity to the path over the years and the tests. The longer you keep true to the original desire to persist in seeking the One in the face of distraction, confusion, dissipations of energy, needed periods of rest, etc., the more that the inner light itself, the heart of your being, is developed and strengthened.

The origin of all energy is the action of Free Will upon Love. The nature of all energy is Light.

The vibration of our own will is, right now, intelligently shaping circumstances to conform to that which we seek and desire.

The more conscious our desires, the more conscious this process is.

The more our desires are unknown to us, or conflicted, or fragmented, the more that life experience will unfold accordingly.

But that which is pulled to us doesn’t generally appear as some amorphous energy. Rather, that upward-spiraling light arrives at our doorstep in the guise of other selves, situations, and opportunities.

Not all of those attracted—i.e., desired—opportunities will be pleasant.

They may involve loss, limitation, sacrifice, or some difficult facing of the self. The more that we strengthen the inner light, the more that the situations we attract are asking us to sacrifice our separate identities to be born into our true natures:

No experience is not purchased by effort of some kind, no act of service to self or others which does not bear a price, to the entity manifesting, commensurate with its purity. All things in manifestation may be seen in one way or another to be offering themselves so that transformations may take place upon the level appropriate to the action.

The END

And now the rest of the story

Beyond the 4 Agreements

All things are one. Whether a star or a microbe, a cat-a rock, a resident of this, or the next octave, there is only one being in all the infinite universes. That one being, the Creator, experiences itself in infinite forms, infinite entities, infinite situations—all of equal, sacred value—but remains ever One. And you are that. We are that.

You are everything, every being, every emotion, every event, every situation. You are unity. You are infinity. You are love/light, light/love.

We are one….

You were not born to die. You cannot change, because your function has been fixed by God.

There is no death because the living share the function their Creator gave to them. Life’s function cannot be to die.

It must be life’s extension, that it be as one forever and forever, without end.

With faith activated, the sight lifts. You see that you are not a nationality, an ethnicity, a gender, or whatever outer (but still meaningful) social role you may play, or costume you may wear. You see that you are not European or African, not white or brown, not old or young, male or female, healthy or ill, successful or failing, advanced or slow up the ladder.

You see that you and all things are the Creator experiencing itself. If you are lucky enough, you begin to consciously experience the Law of One.

*What is God but energy? We are part of God, thus we are energy. What God created is real. Anything God creates is of energy. It is unchangeable and eternal. We are energy residing in a temporary body.

Consciousness which has been disciplined by will and faith is that consciousness which may contact intelligent infinity directly.

Every person has to discover God in their way, but always within himself.

✅The universe itself is an emotion, it is consciousness, it is love. A Spiritual Universe

As you wish to love each other, know that the universe is, in essence, an emotion.

It is consciousness. Consciousness does not necessarily think. Consciousness allows Itself to avail Itself of that infinite source of information within. It is in this way that you are attempting through the balancing of the day’s extreme emotions, to give to yourself that which cannot be done without some aid.

For Gods Love or emotion to be considered the deeper intelligence, a new concept must be created, a word which is not within your working language, to indicate not the emotion of the easy joys and the easy sorrows but those emotions which move deeply within the roots of mind, moved by the tides of many, many past experiences and choices made, moved by the guidance of whatever you wish to call that spirit that comforts and supports when all of humankind seems to have failed us.

The primal energy of love of all that is is emotion, the deepest intelligence of all, infinite, without flaw, without distortion, the carrier wave of consciousness.

There is, for instance, no possibility of a person being able to cogitate, ruminate, ideate, and manifest love. Indeed, such a person can manifest a universal and very real compassion, but love engages being, love sets on fire the desire to help, love causes soil of the heart to become fallow, that seeds may spring therein which flower out into the tree of manifestation of love with its many blossoms, its beautiful aroma, and its faithful use.

The truth is that whose center is everywhere and whose circumference is nowhere.

It is self-evident that all things come from the Invisible, are projected by It, and remain within It.

Our thought is an activity of this invisible energy.

Thought is a vibrational energy that is everywhere and done instantly.

When one realizes that everything is either Mind in an absolute state or mind in a concrete form, there is no difficulty in rearranging thought positively instead of negatively.

This is exactly what a seeker does. He does this deliberately and consciously.

Connecting to the inner heart….

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Love & Wisdom

Thinking with your Heart

The intellect, we must realize the intellect is not the creative factor in the Universe.

Rather, it is feeling that is creative

God speaks to the heart through a language of feeling, an affirmative feeling.

It is well to combine the intellect and feeling and to use both the head and the heart, for the intellect gives a definite form to the feeling.

But unless the feeling is there, the intellect will merely have provided the empty mold.

It is interesting to know that the best psychological balance is the balance between the intellect and the emotions, the conscious mind and the feelings.

We want not only to feel but to think.
We wish not only to think but also to feel.

Life is Love or Feelings that come from your Love

The things that move us belong to our Love - feelings- heart or soul
The things we think about belong to our Wisdom- intelligence -, self-control

The quality of our love determines the quality of our wisdom and the quality of our wisdom the quality of our love.

Be certain, then, that in all your work you combine this subtle essence with the conscious word you speak until the two become one.

As a seeker, you will put these qualities together until they fuse into one, and then the head will speak through the heart and the heart will feel through the intellect.

Love is the substance(desires, intentions) & Wisdom is the ability(intellect) to use love as the form(perception) of all things, resulting in love-based actions.

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Wisdom has nothing to do with knowledge; it has to do with freedom. When you are wise, you are free to use your mind and run your own life. The freedom to choose your desires or love and the freedom to use your intellect or perception in what to do with your desires. Your intentions, are to produce love towards yourself or more towards others.

Free Will, Thought & Energy

Live is about choice. God granted us free will.

While in our natural state, we know we are part of God's energy system which is unconditional love.

But while encased inside a human body we are cut off from God's original energy and can’t recognize or see this overwhelming energy of love and that we are a part of it.

As humans, with our free will, we (re-create) distort the original energy through our desire or intentions(thoughts) into our subpar conditional love or choose to further distort the energy into human fear, or up into unconditional love.

The World Consists of an Unseen Interconnected Spiritual Energy

We are just a small ball of God's eternal energy of love. God created earth and humans.[This temporary body] The body creates natural barriers, and along with the ego[or fog], we can’t fully connect as to who or what we are.

The purpose of life is to have fun, to clear the fog, and to remember or re-know that we are all one, part of God and his unchanging Eternal Spiritual World.

The function of thought comes from God and is in God. As part of His Thought, you cannot think apart from Him. Everything is accomplished through life, and life is of the heart or our soul.

As a man thinketh, so does he perceive. Therefore, seek not to change the world, but choose to change your perception(beliefs/thoughts) about the world. How do we do this?

Change your thoughts, with your consciousness changed, the experience will change.

The Spiritual Inner World

✅ Mind and the Source of Power

God & Company

There is One Universal Mind which each person individualizes to a greater or lesser degree
The universe consists of pure Spirit which is Infinite Knowingness, and a limitless Substance that forever takes the form of creation. Itself never changing, although It is forever taking temporary form per our free will and intentions.
The universe consists of Pure Spirit which has an irresistible urge toward self-expression, which is the servant of the eternal Spirit throughout the ages. Man's place in this creative order is to reproduce, on the scale of the individual life, the same creative function which the Spirit exercises in the life of the Cosmos. A man is ignorant of his true nature because of our standard ego thought system
These words can only assist anyone to change their perspective, who wants to become aware of his true nature and world. Since the Infinite energy of the Spirit never can be in opposition to Itself, (otherwise It would be self-destructive) Its fundamental nature is beneficence, goodness, truth, and beauty(Love). Only in such degree as the individual life imbibes this Nature, does it have real power.
There is an irresistible urge within us to be happy, to be whole, and to express life in a less limited way. This urge is Cosmic, therefore it is Divine. This latent divinity stirs within our imagination and, because of Its insistent demand, impels and compels our evolution. To grow and learn….

Continuously draw upon Spirit as the Source of our power.

Mind is the agency through which this power flows, and from which it emanates.

God is good. Whatever is good God made. The power of Love or the invisible goodness/energy of God.

OUR Mind is power, and power is Mind.

There is no necessity for pleading, begging, or agonizing.

We merely RECOGNIZE power, and open the consciousness to the very fullest capacity to receive it, and to allow it to flow.

When one recognizes that Spirit saturates every atom in the universe, and incidentally flows into his own body, his business, his home, and all his external affairs, then he can realize that this source of life is sending power through all these experiences, by and through the Law of Mind.

The Law of Mind, being neutral, never argues against our desire, but always seeks to fulfill it. Therefore, when our thought is in accord with the Divine Harmony and when we have complete faith and conviction in Its power, then there will be no question whatsoever.

Then there must be the realization that we are co-workers with God.

Man's place in the creative order is to reproduce the Cosmos on the plane of the individual, to think God's thoughts after Him, and to create his world. If this seems too good to be true, let us stop and ask ourselves the question: "How does anything come into being?" We are certain to be led back to the one simple fundamental proposition -- the physical universe is the thought of God in form.

Man's mind is the Mind of God.

Man is an individualized center of Good consciousness.

Hence man's thought is creative: consequently, man's world is a product of his thought.

Our minds are the connecting link between that which we conceive and that which we achieve. Mind is both omnipresent and Omnipotent.

Spiritual power is available to fill our mind, this is the source and the mind is the tool to start every thought with the intention of the spiritual goodness of God.

It is the Spirit that is at the very center of all life which we must train our minds to perceive and accept.

It is impossible to account for anything visible without first understanding that it must have an invisible cause. It stands to reason that every effect must have a cause.

If we are starting with the supposition that the universe is a spiritual system, governed by laws of thought, then it follows that discordant thought will produce discordant conditions. The outer will always be a reflection of the inner.

One must realize that no problem can be solved which is external to consciousness.

We believe that IGNORANCE alone is its cause, and ENLIGHTENMENT, or realizing the truth alone will heal it. This is not only a sensible attitude it is equally a scientific one.

Deal with the cause, not the effect….. Deal with the inner world.

Reprogram by Practicing and Repeating

Yesterday is gone

Tomorrow has not arrived yet

But today is here right now

✅ To think is to create, this is the doorway to wisdom and power

This energy force is neutral. You know to shape it towards the love of others more than towards yourself. Whatever is Good and Right…

This must be the new perspective, the new belief. I have true power. The power of desire, of thought. This is my true self and my true power. My attitude. One of goodness and Love…

Once you can change your perspective to one truth of love. Using the tools and skill sets, you know who you are, and where you operate from. You know who and what you are. And that you only are here to Love…

You are this power, this consciousness, this eternal energy. A part of God. You are this unseen energy in a temporary body. In a world that as a human you can only access a limited perspective of the real universe. Unlimited power. As an individual, this energy becomes personal to each person through their experiences in this human experience. God's will is ultimately your will, but you must choose it. Happiness, peace, freedom, self-expression, harmony, abundance anything good and loving.

You only have to desire, think, and then do whatever you want to achieve your desire or love.

Spirit and Life are one. Our Unity With God. Truth is changeless. Truth is Eternal

This inflowing power or energy field is there waiting for us to use. All we must do is choose to use it wisely in goodness and love. Truly we all can be Relentless. Unlimited. We must switch from the more personal selfish ego to a spiritual ego more towards goodness and love, balanced more towards others.

One needs self-love, self-worth, unity with God's will, Hope, enthusiasm, Attitude, and the energy of love and goodness…

True personality is one of the spirit. Unity with God's mind is all anyone is capable of. Many of us are just ignorant that we think with an individual mind. What we have is free choice. But eventually, we all have to come to the same conclusion we are made of God and it is within us to do God's will, as it is our will too. One just has to realize it.

It need not mean being the same as anyone else. We can’t, we are each unique.

Feeling or desire is what acts on this unseen energy, our consciousness. That’s why it’s so important to choose our desires and feelings. Any expression of life has some emotion or feeling which is thought, behind it. Intellect is not the creator it’s the desire or feeling that creates.

The feeling is what acts on this inflow of love and wisdom. Your soul or heart. Your true feelings and desires flow from here not your head mind, your heart mind. You must use intellect to give your feelings or desires form. Form it only into goodness and of love.

Combine the conscious rational mind and feelings from the heart …

BALANCE

Merging wisdom with love

Balance towards the self more or toward others.

Where you on this scale of balance are you? To get there you must realize you cannot get away and that we must join in unity with God's mind. We have free will, but do you let the urges of the self override your deeper knowledge in the unity of love we all desire and express? We all desire to share our lives. But you can’t unless you agree to give. What you give you shall receive back.

This Spiritual World seems self-evident. We may use It for any purpose that increases livingness, joy, constructive self-expression, happiness, peace, and wholeness. Just as light overcomes darkness merely because it is light, so a realization of our unity with good erases negative experiences. It is a basic principle, that the idea of good will always destroy the idea of evil, whereas the idea of evil has no power over good.

Good remains supreme, unviolated.

The tools that one uses are thoughts. These thoughts have a power equal to his conviction and will always manifest themselves at the level of his consciousness, whether he is speaking his word for himself or someone else.

The whole philosophy assumes that we are living in a Spiritual Universe governed by laws of thought and that thoughts of destruction will finally destroy their embodiment and consume themselves while constructive thought must, because of its nature, heal any condition which comes under its beneficent influence.

It is your attitude toward the Truth, for there is a Truth, which is known, becomes demonstrated. There is a freedom which, to a degree, we may prove to be active in our own experience. It would have been a complete waste of your valuable time to have studied these principles and to fail to make conscious use of them.

Since the only place you can start is within yourself, begin at once to use the Power that already is within you. Do not wait for a greater understanding, for the use of law is the only thing that broadens one's knowledge of it.

The laws of Mind are no different from other laws of nature they exist but must be used.

Feel that your word is the enforcement of this Law and that wherever, whenever, and for whatsoever, or whomsoever you speak your word, the living Creative Power swings into action, ready, willing, and able to create and to recreate.

Never confuse this with willpower. Never feel that you must hold thoughts or concentrate either mind or mental attention on anything. Spiritual treatment is an active mental presentation of your thoughts, of your inner conviction. This mental presentation must be so formed as to have a definite action in the direction in which you give it.

Intention or thoughts - Believe - Faith - Feeling - Putting it into action - Repeat - Till you Make it a habit

Let’s make this clear:

There is only one mind - God. God is eternal. We are a part of God. We are eternal. We live because God lives within us. We can think only because God's mind is within us.

Love and Truth must exist together

Life as a human is about change and choices, and realizing the truth of the real us and of the real things that don’t change, the eternal creations of God…. We are Love.

The eternal must also be added to love & truth, as must freedom is also truth……

Reality is changeless. It is this that makes it real, and keeps it separate from all appearances. Reality has no past, and only illusions can be forgiven. Perception is interpretation, always changing, an illusion.

True love requires nothing of anyone. To love another is to agree to the Source of all things that present as him and any agenda you hold for the one before you must be understood as a mandate from the small self. We cannot escape Love.

God's Unconditional love is an absolute truth. God only sees and recognizes love because that is what he is and everything that he has created. God does not recognize fear, evil, or bad. These are distortions of the energy we use as humans. He views these as mistakes or errors, a distortion of his original energy. As humans, we view them as right or wrong, good or evil, or sin.

[see love & truth vs fear]

[See “Thought is Energy” note]

✅ Power not Control or Force

There is but one final Power and Presence in the Universe, which is God; there is but one final Law in the Universe, which is Good; and there is but one final Impulsion in the Universe, which is Love.

It is only through Love that we find the Presence in Its greatness and can use the Power in Its fullness.

We cannot use It while our minds are filled with doubts and uncertainties about It. Love is a feeling. Faith is the key to using this feeling.

Love has nothing in It that could hurt anything; faith has nothing in it that can deny any good.

This is the starting point; a Love that cannot hurt and a faith that will not be denied. First of all, we must realize that the Power exists and that it operates from the center of our being, in our minds; next, we must approach it in Love; and then, we must use it affirmatively.

The Road Less Traveled

GingerRRT — Sun, 07 Sep 2025 14:47:36 GMT

This material is from other authors

Relentless
The Four Agreements - website
The 5th Agreement
“Lost Lesson” notes
The Untethered Soul
The Mastery of Love
Love is a Decision
The Road Less Travelled
Paul Selig
A Course in Miracles

Read Relentless

Other Toltec books

Course Outline

Main Objective: PART I
Awareness of the Ego and the 4 Agreements
Giving you awareness of these 3 topics
Understanding only you control your world. Which is the inside world of your mind. Your beliefs, emotions, feelings, and choices. Choices of ego fear, and unforgiveness or truth and love? The outside world doesn’t matter. It only matters how you respond from your inside world.
Understanding the ego human behavior you can now see and understand that they live in their personal ego dream world or movie. To understand basic human ego behavior, and see it in others. To see how the ego tries to control their outside world with emotions of anger, conflict, accusing, blaming, attacking, judging, I’m right you’re wrong, I’m special, you are not, etc..
The 4 Agreements and companion lessons, gives you easy explanations and everyday tools to implement your awareness and understanding of the basic human nature and the ego thought system.
Assignment:
Read the Relentless book
Understand ONLY YOU control your real world, the inner world of your mind
Read the 4 Agreements book, The Energy Bus, The Let Them Theory, Mastery of Love book and Ego section
See Owners Manual section read and take your time to figure out who you are and want to be. Focus more on the inner values and characteristics you want to develop and have.This is where you make sure you know what you want, who you are, and who you want to be. Integrity, honor, self-respect. Likes, dislikes, inner goals, and outer goals, etc…
Read God's Knowledge Thought System in the Knowledge section
Now there is no excuse of ignorance
The rest is up to you. It’s your choice! Are you ready to learn more about being both the teacher and the student. Do you want real power? This not for the lazy person. This is where you must have the want & willpower to improve your emotional intelligence.
Laziness is the original sin.
PART II
Your 2nd choice takes the willingness & willpower to improve emotional self-control …
By practicing self-discipline, responsibility and implementing the 4 Agreements you can effectively improve communication skills. (along with developing self-love, knowing who you really are and what you want, improving your foundation, or updating your owner’s manual)
You can now brush off their words or actions because you now have knowledge of their personal ego’s control. You get angry or upset less often, and you can now respect their ego dream or movie. You see how the ego only protects your ego personality, not the real you, your inner heart or soul. You have the everyday tools to communicate more effectively and deal with their ego opinion and any possible conflicts. You have the improved ability to control your emotional reactions and now you respond in the present instead of reacting. You are not trying to control them or any other outside event or interaction. This is where you pull it it all together with this new knowledge of these 3 key areas. This gives you a great advantage in your personal and business life.
You don’t hate or judge them anymore. You still don’t have to like them or even associate with them if possible.(discernment) You now understand it’s God’s role to judge your brothers and sisters, not you….
….you become Bulletproof
Use the 4th Agreement… practice, repeat, practice, repeat….
…you become Relentless
Assignment:
A… Read the Awareness & Emotions section
B… Read the Love section, Read the 5th Agreement and Belief section
Implementing the 4 Agreements is the start of awareness. Seeing how the ego controls them. You understand its their ego movie, they are the creator, producer and star, it has nothing to do with you, it’s their image of you. Look for the signs and their real intention behind their words. By being the observer of your thoughts and emotions. By not automatically reacting, getting frustrated or mad, saying or doing something dumb. You wait to respond with wisdom or choose to say nothing or to agree. Now many people won’t say anything because they don’t want to have a conflict or other reasons why they don’t reply. That’s not awareness.
END OF BASIC COURSE

The Ego is almost always the problem

This is a never-ending exercise, a daily and life long process. You must have the desire or want. All are invited but few accept.

This lesson is all from the book The Road Less Traveled, please read it.

I feel it is important to mention at the outset two assumptions that underlie this material.

One is that I make no distinction between the mind and the spirit, and therefore no distinction between the process of achieving spiritual growth and achieving mental growth. They are one and the same.
The other assumption is that this process is a complex, arduous, and lifelong task.

Self-discipline (mind discipline) is the basic set of tools we require to solve life’s problems. Without discipline we can solve nothing. With only some discipline we can solve only some problems. With total discipline we can solve all problems.

When we teach our children discipline, we are teaching them and ourselves how to suffer and also how to grow. What are these tools, these techniques of suffering, these means of experiencing the pain of problems constructively that I call discipline?

There are four:

delaying of gratification,
acceptance of responsibility,
dedication to truth, and
balancing.

As will be evident, these are not complex tools whose application demands extensive training. To the contrary, they are simple tools, and almost all children are adept in their use by the age of ten.

Delaying gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with. It is the only decent way to live. The feeling of being valuable—“I am a valuable person”—is essential to mental health and is a cornerstone of self-discipline.
Problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain, forever a barrier to the growth and development of the spirit. we must accept responsibility for a problem before we can solve it. We cannot solve a problem by saying “It’s not my problem.” We cannot solve a problem by hoping that someone else will solve it for us. I can solve a problem only when I say “This is my problem and it’s up to me to solve it.”The difficulty we have in accepting responsibility for our behavior lies in the desire to avoid the pain of the consequences of that behavior.
Dedication to Reality/updating reality or…. Transference (the outdated map)is that set of ways of perceiving and responding to the world which is developed in childhood and which is usually entirely appropriate to the childhood environment (indeed, often life-saving) but which is inappropriately transferred into the adult environment. Truth or reality is avoided when it is painful. We can revise our maps only when we have the discipline to overcome that pain. To have such discipline, we must be totally dedicated to truth. That is to say that we must always hold truth, as best we can determine it, to be more important, more vital to our self-interest, than our comfort. Conversely, we must always consider our personal discomfort relatively unimportant and, indeed, even welcome it in the service of the search for truth. Mental health is an ongoing process of dedication to reality at all costs.

The exercise of discipline is not only a demanding but also a complex task, requiring both flexibility and judgment. Courageous people must continually push themselves to be completely honest, yet must also possess the capacity to withhold the whole truth when appropriate. To be free people we must assume total responsibility for ourselves, but in doing so must possess the capacity to reject responsibility that is not truly ours. To be organized and efficient, to live wisely, we must daily delay gratification and keep an eye on the future; yet to live joyously we must also possess the capacity, when it is not destructive, to live in the present and act spontaneously. In other words, discipline itself must be disciplined. The type of discipline required to discipline discipline is what I call balancing, and it is the fourth and final type that I would like to discuss here.

Balancing is the discipline that gives us flexibility. Extraordinary flexibility is required for successful living in all spheres of activity. To use but one example, let us consider the matter of anger and its expression. Anger is an emotion bred into us (and into less evolved organisms) by countless generations of evolution in order that our survival may be encouraged.

It is necessary that the higher centers of our brain (judgment) be able to regulate and modulate the lower centers (emotion). To function successfully in our complex world it is necessary for us to possess the capacity not only to express our anger but also not to express it. Moreover, we must possess the capacity to express our anger in different ways. At times, for instance, it is necessary to express it only after much deliberation and self-evaluation. At other times it is more to our benefit to express it immediately and spontaneously. Sometimes it is best to express it coldly and calmly; at other times loudly and hotly. We therefore not only need to know how to deal with our anger in different ways at different times but also how most appropriately to match the right time with the right style of expression.

A flexible response system is required. It is no wonder, then, that to learn to handle our anger is a complex task which usually cannot be completed before adulthood, or even mid-life, and which often is never completed. To a greater or lesser degree, all people suffer from inadequacies of their flexible response systems.

Mature mental health demands, then, an extraordinary capacity to flexibly strike and continually restrike a delicate balance between conflicting needs, goals, duties, responsibilities, directions, et cetera. The essence of this discipline of balancing is “giving up.”

Balancing is a discipline precisely because the act of giving something up is painful.

The life of wisdom must be a life of contemplation combined with action.

Awareness is possible only when I have digested and compensated for the biases and prejudices that are the residue of my personal history. Awareness of what presents itself to me involves the importance of attention.

I must be sufficiently aware of my preconceived ideas and characteristic emotional distortions to bracket them long enough to welcome strangeness and novelty into my perceptual world. This discipline of bracketing, compensating, or silencing requires sophisticated self-knowledge and courageous honesty. Yet, without this discipline each present moment is only the repetition of something already seen or experienced.

For us to develop a new and better idea, concept, theory or understanding means that an old idea, concept, theory or understanding must die.

Discipline has been defined as a system of techniques of dealing constructively with the pain of problem-solving—instead of avoiding that pain—in such a way that all of life’s problems can be solved.

Four basic techniques have been distinguished and elaborated:

delaying gratification
assumption of responsibility
dedication to the truth or reality, and
balancing

Discipline is a system of techniques, because these techniques are very much interrelated. In a single act one may utilize two, three or even all of the techniques at the same time and in such a way that they may be indistinguishable from each other.

The strength, energy and willingness to use these techniques are provided by love.~Scott Peck