Everyone wants to be loved. But first, we must make ourselves lovable.

We must prepare ourselves to be loved. We do this by becoming loving, disciplined human beings. If we seek to be loved – if we expect to be loved – this cannot be accomplished; we will be dependent and grasping, not genuinely loving.

Love is Self-Discipline

Discipline itself must be disciplined. The type of discipline required to discipline discipline is what I call balancing, and it is the fourth and final type that I would like to discuss here. Balancing is the discipline that gives us flexibility. Extraordinary flexibility is required for successful living in all spheres of activity.

To use but one example, let us consider the matter of anger and its expression. Anger is an emotion bred into us (and into less evolved organisms) by countless generations of evolution in order that our survival may be encouraged. We experience anger whenever we perceive another organism attempting to encroach upon our geographical or psychological territory or trying, one way or another, to put us down. It leads us to fight back. Without our anger, we would indeed be continually stepped on, until we were totally squashed and exterminated. Only with anger can we survive. Yet, more often than not, when we initially perceive others as attempting to encroach on us, we realize upon closer examination that that is not what they intend to do at all. Or even when we determine that people are truly intending to encroach on us, we may realize that, for one reason or another, it is not in our best interests to respond to that imposition with anger. Thus the higher centers of our brain (judgment) must be able to regulate and modulate the lower centers (emotion). To function successfully in our complex world it is necessary for us to possess the capacity not only to express our anger but also not to express it. Moreover, we must possess the capacity to express our anger in different ways. At times, for instance, it is necessary to express it only after much deliberation and self-evaluation. At other times it is more to our benefit to express it immediately and spontaneously. Sometimes it is best to express it coldly and calmly; at other times loudly and hotly. We therefore not only need to know how to deal with our anger in different ways at different times but also how most appropriately to match the right time with the right style of expression. To handle our anger with full adequacy and competence, an elaborate, flexible response system is required. It is no wonder, then, that to learn to handle our anger is a complex task which usually cannot be completed before adulthood, or even mid-life, and which often is never completed. To a greater or lesser degree, all people suffer from inadequacies of their flexible response systems.

Self-discipline is a self-enlarging process. The pain of giving up is the pain of death, but the death of the old is the birth of the new. The pain of death is the pain of birth, and the pain of birth is the pain of death. For us to develop a new and better idea, concept, theory or understanding means that an old idea, concept, theory, or understanding must die.

The energy for the work of self-discipline derives from love, which is a form of will. It follows, then, not only that self-discipline is usually love, translated into action, but also that any genuine lover behaves with self-discipline and any genuinely loving relationship is a disciplined relationship.

If I truly love another, I will obviously order my behavior in such a way as to contribute the utmost to his or her spiritual growth.

Self-discipline does not mean the squashing of one’s feelings into nonexistence.

Among the feelings that must be so disciplined is the feeling of love. As I have indicated, this is not in itself genuine love but the feeling associated with cathexis. It is to be very much respected and nurtured for the creative energy it brings, but if it is allowed to run rampant, the result will not be genuine love but confusion and unproductivity.

Because genuine love involves an extension of oneself, vast amounts of energy are required, and, like it or not, the store of our energy is as limited as the hours of our day. We simply cannot love everyone.

When I genuinely love I am extending myself, and when I am extending myself I am growing. The more I love, the longer I love, the larger I become. Genuine love is self-replenishing. The more I nurture the spiritual growth of others, the more my own spiritual growth is nurtured. I am a totally selfish human being. I never do something for somebody else but that I do it for myself. And as I grow through love, so grows my joy, ever more present, ever more constant.

Self-discipline develops from the foundation of love. But this leaves unanswered the question of where love itself comes from. And if we ask that, we must also ask what the sources of the absence of love are.

DELAYING GRATIFICATION

Delaying gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with. It is the only decent way to live.

RESPONSIBILITY

WE CANNOT SOLVE life’s problems except by solving them. This statement may seem idiotically tautological or self-evident, yet it is seemingly beyond the comprehension of much of the human race. This is because we must accept responsibility for a problem before we can solve it. We cannot solve a problem by saying ‘It’s not my problem.’ We cannot solve a problem by hoping that someone else will solve it for us. I can solve a problem only when I say ‘This is my problem and it’s up to me to solve it.’ But many, so many, seek to avoid the pain of their problems by saying to themselves: ‘This problem was caused by other people, or by social circumstances beyond my control, and therefore it is up to other people or society to solve this problem for me. It is not really my personal problem.

But when we nurture ourselves and others without a primary concern of finding reward, then we will have become lovable, and the reward of being loved, which we have not sought, will find us. So it is with human love and so it is with God’s love. ~The Road Less Travelled

In another article, we explained what wasn’t love and what is love. Now we will further explain in THE BALANCE of LOVE: True love is perfect Balance, both within one’s self and extended to one’s fellow man, whether that fellow man is one’s sweetheart, husband, wife, father, mother, child, friend, or business associate.

Self-Love

Until a person “finds” himself, and is truly happy within himself, he cannot be happy with anyone. It was Polonius in Shakespeare’s Hamlet who said:

“This above all: to thine own self be true, and it follows, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.”

Philosophers through the ages have told man this same truth, but man has not understood the great importance of this statement. It has, therefore, remained an abstract statement instead of becoming a vital living philosophy.

Love is a selfless quality of Being. It knows none of the negative qualities of selfishness, envy, or jealousy. The negative qualities are the destructive qualities that have no part in the living of love. The true secret of holding romance, is to be loved by living the values of love. We die within if we do not live love; man’s very purpose on earth is to become in tune with all life and live, joyously.

Our lifelong search could be put into one word - ROMANCE.

Giving

The great secret of how to attract romance is to do only that which makes you loved. And what is doing only that which makes you loved?

The answer is very simple - live love.

Life is ATTITUDE… the attitude of love, the desire to give, with no expectations to receiving anything in return.

True love is placing the loved one before oneself.

When you truly love, you do this naturally. Love automatically. You think first of the loved one. By so doing, you are fulfilling the first great law of the universe which is GIVING.

There is no selfishness in love. Desire to give must be without motive other than the desire to give. This is the greatest—and most difficult—lesson of Life.

FEAR is the opposite of LOVE

LOVE IS COURAGE

The only thing that Life can give to us is that which we first give to it. God’s creations are all based on energy and giving, the creation of love. There is no selfishness in love. Desire to give must be without motive other than the desire to give. Love is energy, as it is an action, a choice. God’s energy is about balance. An equal amount of Positive balances the Negative, Good balances the Bad…

The only sin on earth lies in not knowing. When a man does not know, it means that his Mind has not yet awakened to an awareness of either good or evil.

Thus true love is a perfect balance of giving. Love is a selfless quality of being. It knows none of the negative qualities of selfishness, envy, or jealousy. The negative qualities are the destructive qualities that have no part in living a life of love. “This is the human ego’s selfish thought system.”

One Law of Balance

It is an equally true picture of YOU and YOUR LIFE.

You cannot live without constantly interchanging something with somebody or something every moment of your waking hours whether it be with your wife, your husband, your friend, your grocer, your doctor, or your tax collector, or with the earth, the atmosphere, or the sun. You are forever giving something of yourself to your environment, or taking something for yourself from yourself, with or without equal re-giving, all of the time in all your waking hours even though they are merely thoughts and not things.

The sum total of your equal givings and re-givings, or your takings without givings, is what you have made yourself EQUALLY DIVIDED AND EQUALLY UNITED principle which completes a wave cycle of God’s creative thinking.

The entirety of the universe is a continuing expression of the Love principle, which God is. It is a ceaseless, endless continuity of giving and regiving. Man’s life is given over to the purpose of learning how to give and regive EQUALLY. That is man’s problem. That is civilization’s problem. Man’s entire present life, and thousands of lives before the present one, is spent in learning that one lesson.

BALANCE IN POLARITY - CAUSE & EFFECT

Every created thing in this universe is SELP-created and that SELF within each creating thing is GOD. The law respecting the giving principle is that what one gives he always has whether or not he is regiven, but he who gives is regiven in kind.

This universe of love is a universe of law, for love is law. He who works with the law of love is working with the universe, and the universe is working with him.

Love is the foundation of the universe. Thus love is the foundation of your character. There is no selfishness in love. The desire to give must be without motive other than the desire to give.

God’s universe is balanced. That is why it is unified and continuous. That is why it will endure forever and cannot fall. Man’s universe is badly unbalanced. That is why it is disunited and transient. That is why it must repeatedly fall.

God is LOVE. The foundation of love is BALANCE.

God’s universe is balanced by the two opposite pulsations which manifests love.

You cannot see the invisible universe. That is why man ignores it, yet the invisible universe absolutely controls the visible universe. You cannot see gravity, electricity, balance or truth, yet you are controlled by all of them. They command you, and you either obey them and find harmony, or you disobey them and create discord. If you defy truth by telling a lie you hurt yourself. If you defy gravity you destroy yourself. If you defy balance in any respect you punish yourself in the measure of your defiance.

All cause or unbalance stems from the Mind.

His free will or self-expression if God’s energy is what God gave man. He has the right to his action but God holds the right to the reaction—and they must balance, no matter what the agony may be to him who has to balance an unlawful action.

The Balance of Love

You get what you give…. The law of unbalance or cause and effect

According to the Bible this is love: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love....Love never fails.

Long term relationships

He who withholds his giving deprives himself alone of the gifts of his desiring. There is no selfishness in love. Desire to give must be without motive other than the desire to give. There should be no expectations of return gifts from any given gift in most relationships. But in a long-term relationship, there are certain things given that one should expect a return for a gift that is at least near the given.(Or it should be mutual… respect, affection, etc…) Scientifically, the reaction always equals the action. Why, because of the law of Cause and Effect. If received or returned love is extremely unbalanced, it may not be TRUE LOVE, be careful. You will KNOW love when you realize what love is not…. You must first possess this quality or desire to give, then you must be aware if your partner possesses this key characteristic. Again awareness is key.

Self-knowledge is of vital importance for everyone, since our purpose is to know the perfection of a balanced life. Our own lives must, therefore, become balanced so that we can extend balance to our fellow man. The purpose of making a transition from sensing to knowing, by & teaching students to think and know, instead of to remember and repeat.

An education based solely upon reasoning through sensed observation gradually undermines the power to think within and tends toward the creation of a robot civilization. When one is unbalanced in love this becomes non-loving actions and sometimes evil. This only happens because we have free will. We are not perfect. It happens more in some because of their personality, their character, or their attitude toward life or love.

God’s universe is built on balance but he gave us humans free will. Did God know the earth’s human world would be unbalanced? If not, because of Adam and Eve, it did. So what did he do? He left it, why? To learn from our mistakes and bring us back into balance as much as possible. We are not perfect like him. We need to relearn and remember who we really are. To grow our souls,(character) in his knowledge of love. To become more God-like since we are a speck of his eternal energy, of his likeness.

Based on God’s true love: There is no selfishness in love. Desire to give must be without motive other than the desire

Our summary of what Love is:

Love is: Selfless giving, Balance, Awareness, Attention, Choice, Action, Courage, Commitment, Respect, Listening, and Self-Discipline. It is living love, having an attitude of love.

Love is Balance

True love is perfect Balance, both within one’s self and extended to one’s fellow man, whether that fellow man is one’s sweetheart, husband, wife, father, mother, child, friend, or business associate.

Love is a selfless quality of Being. It knows none of the negative qualities of selfishness, envy, or jealousy. The negative qualities are the destructive qualities that have no part in the living of love. (Major ego characteristics)

The true secret of holding romance, is to be loved by living the values of love. We die within if we do not live love; man’s very purpose on earth is to become in tune with all life and live, joyously.

Love is Giving

There is no selfishness in love. The desire to give must be without motive other than the desire to give. Love is expanding…..This is the greatest—and most difficult—lesson of Life.~Russell

The Bible’s key characteristics of love:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love....Love never fails

Love is a choice, a decision

Genuine love, implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom. When we are concerned for someone’s spiritual growth, we know that a lack of commitment is likely to be harmful and that commitment to that person is probably necessary for us to manifest our concern effectively.

I have defined love as the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.

The keyword in this distinction is “will” (choice).

Genuine love is volitional rather than emotional. The person who truly loves does so because of a decision to love. This person has committed to being loving whether or not the loving feeling is present. If it is, so much the better; but if it isn’t, the commitment to love, the will to love, still stands and is still exercised.~Peck

You will KNOW love when you realize what love is not

When love is unbalanced….

Love is NOT a feeling…

We have but one basic purpose, and that purpose is to for you to know your true Self, your relationship to your Creator, and your relationship to your fellow man. When you comprehend these things, you will understand your purpose on earth and desire to fulfill it.

Not only Updating our owners manual but our Map of reality

Our view of reality is like a map with which to negotiate the terrain of life. This is where if you choose to go further down the rabbit hole. Past just updating your owner's manual. You start to ask questions like, Am I the body, do I live forever, is this really the truth? Who am I really? This is where you decide if your initial map is what you believe in. Do you want change things, add or delete certain aspects? What is life about, why am I here, what is my purpose?

If the map is true and accurate, we will generally know where we are, and if we have decided where we want to go, we will generally know how to get there. If the map is false and inaccurate, we will generally be lost. While this is obvious, it is something that most people to a greater or lesser degree choose to ignore. Many get busy or sidetracked with the outside worlds, forget or they ignore it because our route to reality is not easy.

The Awareness of who you are, the Ego & God

Become like a child again

A child, is actually born with full knowledge of his purpose and destiny for it is in his very seed and Soul.

Every man’s destiny is based upon the gradual discovery of his Self, his purpose, and his destiny. As children grow older and farther away from God, and talk more to man as man, and less to God, they lose their contact with Him as they sail out on the sea of physical experience.

In other words, all of the qualities of the invisible Mind-universe are in him at birth, but as his body grows and asserts itself more and more strongly in the “ survival-of-the fittest” body-world, he gradually loses his awareness of those spiritual qualities, of God’s unseen world. They are there in him, however. They still center his Soul-seed until some sudden flash of the cosmic Light severs his consciousness from his sensed body. His body experiences wean him away from spiritual awareness of his cosmic purpose.

Awareness or the lack of: A child also weans himself away from awareness of his cosmic identity for he begins to view God from the viewpoint of body rather than of Mind. As he gets older and is taught the ego thought system and his body experiences more and more physical sensations, his senses convince him that his body is his identity.

A lot of parents don't teach the importance of the balance between the inner and outer worlds…

A child comes to see the outer world as his main world as he grows and is indoctrinated in our selfish, materialistic world. In his outer-sensed world of physical activities, all that is cosmically omniscient in him lies dormant within his sleeping consciousness until, suddenly, some great flash of God-awareness awakens the Light in him and he is at last transformed into his inner world or mind-identity.

Plus, it is rarely taught or stressed that in reality, we are an energy being.

What kind of person are you and how did you become that way? Let us give thought to it. As a child, your mother taught you things. Your father taught you things. Your entire environment taught you things. You became a composite being, a composite thinker. Your mother’s and father’s thoughts affected your thoughts. Your environmental companions affected your thoughts. Their personalities were in you and yours in them. You later went to school and your teachers were in you. Their thoughts were your thoughts to the extent that you accepted their teachings.

You grew up. You studied Shakespeare—Kant, and Socrates. You loved them. They became a part of you. You read Twain—Dickens—Hans Andersen—Balzac, and Tolstoy. They fascinated you. They became a part of you. You entered the spiritual environment of your church. That affected you. Your personality changed to that extent. You studied the teachings of Jesus. To the extent that you accepted them into your being, Jesus became a part of you. You loved fine music, the music of Beethoven— Mozart—Rachmaninoff, and Grieg. These masters also became a part of you.

You disliked jazz. It did not become a part of you for you rejected it. In the making of your own personality, you become what you loved and accepted as pleasing to you. And that is the kind of person you are today, a very composite being composed of ideas which reflected your own desires but were strongly affected by the personalities of hundreds of others. And so it always will be if you continue to become a composite of other people.

As a child grows, his body experiences wean him away from spiritual awareness of his cosmic purpose. As one grows his body experiences more and more physical sensations, and his senses convince him that his body is his identity. The ego shields our mind from our true identity. Plus many forget to teach the importance of the balance between the inner and outer worlds, or the person’s tendencies help him forget what he has been taught, as he gets wrapped up in the outer materialistic world.

He comes to see our outer materialistic world as his only, main world. One of always wanting more, one of competition and the needs of the self. Me, me, me… using the automatic ego thought system.

In his outer-sensed world of physical activities, all that is cosmically omniscient in him lies dormant within his sleeping consciousness until, suddenly, some great flash of God-awareness awakens the Light in him and he is at last transformed into his inner world or mind-identity.

How we get to this awareness and the truth, and why many don't get there, differs greatly among us.

Awareness and Truth are also interconnected, surprise, surprise….

TRUTH

Truth is something we have touched on (but I don’t think in this context).

THE LAST TOOL of discipline or technique of dealing with the pain of problem-solving, which must continually be employed if our lives are to be healthy and our spirits are to grow, is dedication to the truth.

Superficially, this should be obvious. For truth is reality.

That which is false is unreal. The more clearly we see the reality of the world, the better equipped we are to deal with the world. The less clearly we see the reality of the world – the more our minds are befuddled by falsehood, misperceptions, and illusions – the less able we will be to determine correct courses of action and make wise decisions. Reality often is based on God's unseen world and the truth of God's love.

Our view of reality is like a map with which to negotiate the terrain of life. If the map is true and accurate, we will generally know where we are, and if we have decided where we want to go, we will generally know how to get there. If the map is false and inaccurate, we will generally be lost. While this is obvious, it is something that most people to a greater or lesser degree choose to ignore.

They ignore it because our route to reality is not easy.

First of all, we are not born with maps; our upbringing makes our initial map and at some point, we must realize that it may need some updating. And this requires effort.

THUS, THE OUTDATED MAP is another problem that needs to be fixed. Truth or reality is avoided when it is painful. We can revise our maps only when we have the awareness and discipline to overcome that pain. To have such discipline, we must be totally dedicated to truth. That is to say that we must always hold truth, as best we can determine it, to be more important, more vital to our self-interest, than our comfort. Conversely, we must always consider our personal discomfort relatively unimportant and, indeed, even welcome it in the service of the search for truth. Mental health is an ongoing process of dedication to reality at all costs. The inside word vs the outside world.

Ego's fear vs God's love

The seen world vs the unseen world

WHAT DOES A life of total dedication to the truth mean? It means, first of all, a life of continuous and never-ending stringent self-examination. We know the world only through our relationship to it. Therefore, to know the world, we must not only examine it but we must simultaneously examine the examiner. Question everything, everyone, and especially yourself with balance.(5th agreement)

How we get to this awareness and Knowledge or truth varies greatly among us.

This step is often the prelude to step 4….

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Owners Manual Summary

PART l: The importance a solid foundation: (owners’ manual updates, knowing yourself & self-love)

Knowing yourself. How do you relate to both worlds and have a healthy balance?

Since love comes from within, if your foundation doesn’t have a good base how can you freely give love and receive love? It starts with love and ends with love. Everything interconnects and is entangled back to you. Because Love only comes freely and from within you.

1. First, it starts with God’s true love. We can’t be perfect but to get as close as possible to his perfection.

2. Second, love comes from within, self-love. It starts with having a solid, balanced foundation.

Your intent, your attitude, beliefs, respect, courage, awareness, moral compass, and desire to improve yourself. (and the many other things I left out)

Every relationship is a learning or teaching tool. And it’s about the foundation of each individual.

BALANCE IN POLARITY: If one individual in any relationship becomes extreme in not freely giving at least as much as the other gives the polarity of the relationship may become unbalanced and unsustainable, more so in romantic relationships.

This universe of love is a universe of law, for love is law. He who works with the law of love is working with the universe, and the universe is working with him.

STARTS WITH AWARNESS

Knowing yourself, who you are, and who you want to be.

• The importance of BALANCE

• The importance of minimizing your EGO

• The importance of BELIEFS, being flexible not breaking

• THE importance of faith in a God

• The importance of NOT being LAZY & DISCIPLINE

• The importance of INTENT or ATTITUDE

ENDS WITH THE DESIRE TO IMPROVE YOURSELF

It starts with self-love…

• Knowing who you are or who you want to be.

• Yes, you must be at peace with your physical self but mostly with your spiritual self. Believing in a God and that you are eternal. It is not about religion, or being religious. (although that may help)

• Understanding it’s about self-control not control of others. Self-Discipline, emotional self-control, respect, moral compass and integrity. The desire to improve your operating software. Know your boundaries, your foundation, your owners manual.

• It’s simply the golden rule and the awareness to see YOUR mistakes, with the desire to improve yourself.

• NOT being LAZY

You must want to, NOT BEING ‘that person’. You must be able to look at yourself and say, “Man, I did that or said that.”

IMHO, if you can’t do the above, you don’t really love yourself.

You must want to learn from all of your mistakes.~me

When we are young we often resent advice. And even when we seek it—at any age—we seldom take it. We go on our own blundering way, and have to take the consequences of our mistakes. Actually we are the only ones who can take care of our own problems, for we are the only ones who bring them into being. No matter what our problems are or may be, we are the only ones who know their cause. We may even forget all of the issues that gave birth to them.~Russell

The Power of Conscious Awareness

3 steps of becoming your best & ↑personal power

PART I. KNOW YOUSELF, OWNER MANUAL UPDATES, SELF-LOVE

PART ll. MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS & YOU MASTER YOURSELF

PART III. MASTER YOUR EGO & YOU MASTER YOUR LIFE

Laziness and your ego are your true enemies

Love is the foundation of the universe. Balanced giving. There is no selfishness in love. The desire to give must be without motive other than the desire to give. Thus make love the foundation of your character.

Part 3 requires…A life of total dedication to the truth. A life of continuous and never-ending stringent self-examination.

We know the world only through our relationship to it. Therefore, to know the world, we must not only examine it but we must simultaneously examine the examiner. You have the desire to become a better person. Not just becoming successful in the outside world but more importantly, in your inside world.

This universe of love is a universe of law, for love is law. He who works with the law of love is working with the universe, and the universe is working with him… …Love is the foundation of the universe. There is no selfishness in love. The desire to give must be without motive other than the desire to give. Love comes from within. The law of love should be the foundation of your owner’s manual, or character. This is why your foundation is so important. It all starts with each person, their character, their attitudes, thoughts, intentions, actions, and whether they are balanced more on love or the ego.

This universe of love is a universe of law, for love is law. He who works with the law of love is working with the universe, and the universe is working with him.

This is the Game of Life

Everything in quantum physics. Everything inter-tangled. Everything must be in balance to run smoothly. In our human world, we are not meant to be a perfect world. Although we are each a perfect speck of his eternal energy, we have an ego that hides who we really are, not the body but a part of God’s eternal energy. If we become aware, our freedom of will will let us develop the desire for the truth & choose to diminish our ego, and also make an attempt to become more God-like.

A balance between two worlds:

1. Our human world of the seen, of materialism, the body, of our 5 senses, and the selfishness of our human ego thought system.

2. Verses God’s world, the unseen, and our 6th sense of his eternal loving energy. His perfectly balanced world of true love.

You may naturally possess most of what this material is about. I hope you do, but many don’t….

How much energy you use to work on yourself will depend on whether you view it as a higher priority and if you can fully recognize the severity level and number of your unbalanced character traits.😳

View life as a game you want to win, but remember to keep it balanced and have fun….

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1. Your Mind belongs to the undivided and unchanging universe of the still white Light of all-knowing.

2. The undivided is ONE — the one centering CAUSE of the divided TWO.

3. Your Mind is YOU. Nothing happens or can happen to YOU.

4. You center your thinking. Your thinking extends from YOU, but your thinking is not YOU.

5. Your thinking is divided and changing. Anything can happen to your thinking because your thinking is divided and changing. But YOU control your thinking. You can balance it and be joyous, or unbalance it and be miserable. You can make wise decisions and grow strong or unwise ones and make failures for yourself. You can steal for your greedy self and be shut away from men, or you can give of your loving self and be honored by men. Your thinking is under your control. Your thinking expresses your desires. You are what you think. You make yourself into the image of your desires. You can be whatever you desire to be. What you now are is the product of your thinking.

Likewise, you could transform yourself overnight by BALANCING YOUR THINKING.

1. Your body is a record of your thinking; therefore your body is divided and changing. Anything can happen to your body because your body is divided and changing. It is homing and dying. It is integrating and disintegrating. It is subjected to every effect arising from interchange between all other divided and changing bodies in the universe, BUT NOTHING CAN HAPPEN TO YOU.

2. You are not a “purely physical thing.” Your body is not YOU. It is but a complex state of motion. YOU are the One Spiritual Being. NOTHING HAS HAPPENED TO YOU. NOTHING CAN HAPPEN TO YOU

Complete freedom comes only when you have actually come to KNOW LOVE. When you actually know what love is you will not only know that God is love but that YOU are love.

All things on earth and heavens of this divided universe of God’s recorded thoughts are GOOD because God’s thoughts are GOOD. You may be perfectly willing to believe this statement as an abstract truth but BELIEF In it without knowing will not make you strong. You must KNOW, for knowledge alone will make you strong.

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But there is a 4th component…

PART IV: Spiritual Growth, Grace & Real Power

Unconscious Awareness

MASTER YOUR WORLD

If you really update your owner’s manual and dig into who you are and want to be as discussed above this may be a part of the above steps or separately, it depends on how you learn and how far down the rabbit hole you go. When you delve into basic human behavior, love, self-discipline, into who your true self is (eternal enrgy, not the body) etc… Why or how do we get the urge or the awareness to learn, to grow?

You soon find out that you can’t leave God and his unseen world out of the equation. (quantum entanglement) God, his laws, and love is all connected. Everything, everyone because everything is of God's energy. We really do live in a spiritual universe.

Because Love is also the will to extend oneself for spiritual growth. Genuinely loving people are, by definition, growing people. People’s capacity to love, and hence their will to grow, is nurtured not only by the love of their parents during childhood but also throughout their lives by grace, or God’s love.

This is a powerful force external to their consciousness which operates through the agency of their own unconscious as well as through the agency of loving persons other than their parents and through additional ways which we do not understand.

It is because of grace that it is possible for people to transcend the traumas of loveless parenting and become loving individuals who have risen far above their parents on the scale of human evolution. Why, then, do only some people spiritually grow and evolve beyond the circumstances of their parentage? I believe that grace is available to everyone, that we are all cloaked in the love of God, no one less nobly than another. The only answer I can give, therefore, is that most of us choose not to heed the call of grace and to reject its assistance.

THE PROBLEM: We do not come to grace; grace comes to us.

Try as we might to obtain grace, it may yet elude us. We may seek it not, yet it will find us. Consciously we may avidly desire the spiritual life but then discover all manner of stumbling blocks in our way. Or we may have seemingly little taste for the spiritual life and yet find ourselves vigorously called to it despite ourselves. While on one level we do choose whether or not to heed the call of grace, on another it seems clear that God is the one who does the choosing.

• You may have the will but it may not come to you.

• It may not be your choice, but it comes to you anyway.

• Or will you ignore or not recognize it when it comes your way?

Why do I say it is not about religion or being religious? “Being religious doesn’t mean you’re spiritual. To me being spiritual means you know you are, an energy being and a part of god, his energy and his unseen world of love.

Plus, I have seen many ‘religious’ people but they skip part 2, and some even part 1….. They are emotionally immature and/or they don’t recognize the ego in themselves and don’t minimize it. …They don’t Live Love

We all think we are so smart but do we look at our flaws and try to improve ourselves, to minimize the selfish ego parts? It’s not something most of us think about much, most of us are busy with life or maybe improving themselves for work-related reasons.

I do know that if the ego’s hold over you is stronger than your natural God-given instincts then people don’t try to improve themselves. Plus you have the lazy factor! You won’t look, you don’t look….

But ‘Listen’ to what Jesus states in the Bible, “You will find the Kingdom inside of you.” Jesus wants you to look at yourself, inside of you, to see your weaknesses, flaws, and strengths. We all can’t be Jesus but we are a part of God’s energy or love, and God’s energy wants us to at least try. Since we are a part of God, this energy speaks to us if we listen, it wants us to fight the devil’s selfish ego thought system.

A big part of self-love, of God’s love, is this instinct, this desire to improve your inner self. How do you get this awareness, of looking inside of yourself, to get in touch with God’s unseen world of love, to hear your inner urge (the holy ghost) to become more Christ-like? It varies greatly. It may just be waking one day with the urge to improve yourself. No matter how you become aware maybe this is the first step of God’s grace, in acquiring the awareness & desire to improve your inner self, & minimize the ego.

You may even think that God was not involved in the process of you deciding to become the best you can be. You may think it was all you, but we only have free will to find the balance of love or NOT. He allows us to mess it up if that’s our choice. We think we are original in our thoughts but our mind is a part of God’s mind, this is his energy of love. We are Not the body, we are pure energy, we are eternal. This is veiled or forgotten because of the dominance of our body’s 5 senses & the ego. It is this awakening or partial unveiling of God’s energy or mind in us that finally points us in the right direction, and this only comes from or is because of God.

Then it’s up to your mind, free will, willpower, or fortitude to get your body into obeying your mind to minimize the ego thoughts.

It is all intertangled because of who you really are, you soon realize God’s unseen world is the backbone of the how and the why of the whole process. This is the start of your path to real Knowledge, your inner truth. You have an advantage over most people with this Knowledge. Real Knowledge doesn’t come from books.

If real grace comes to you, even better. Having grace or partial grace does not make you better than anyone else, it just means you are further along on the start of your path in the awareness and realization of God’s Knowledge. Your true truth of who you really are.”~me

1. In examining discipline we were considering the laziness of attempting to avoid necessary suffering, or taking the easy way out.

2. In examining love we were also examining the fact that nonlove is the unwillingness to extend one’s self. Laziness is love’s opposite.

3. Spiritual growth is effortful, as we have been reminded again and again. We are now at a position from which we can examine the nature of laziness in perspective and realize that laziness is the force of entropy as it manifests itself in the lives of all of us.

Spiritual Growth/Real Power

One way or another, these concepts have been set forth before – by Buddha, by Christ, by Lao-tse, among many others. The originality of this book results from the fact that I have arrived at the same meaning through the particular individual byways of my twentieth-century life. If you require greater understanding than these modern footnotes have to offer, then by all means proceed or return to the ancient texts. Seek greater understanding, but do not expect greater detail. There are many who, by virtue of their passivity, dependency, fear, and laziness, seek to be shown every inch of the way and have it demonstrated to them that each step will be safe and worth their while. This cannot be done. The journey of spiritual growth requires courage and initiative and independence of thought and action. While the words of the prophets and the assistance of grace are available, the journey must still be traveled alone.

No teacher can carry you there. There are no preset formulas.

Rituals are only learning aids, they are not the learning. Eating organic food, saying five Hail Marys before breakfast, praying facing east or west, or going to church on Sunday will not take you to your destination.

No words can be said, no teaching can be taught that will relieve spiritual travelers from the necessity of picking their own ways, working out with effort and anxiety their own paths through the unique circumstances of their own lives toward the identification of their individual selves with God. Even when we truly understand these matters, the journey of spiritual growth is still so lonely and difficult that we often become discouraged.

The underlying law of Creation is RHYTHMIC BALANCED INTERCHANGE in all transactions in Nature. It is the one principle upon which the continuity of the universe depends. Likewise, it is the one principle upon which the continuity of man’s transactions, his health, and happiness depend. It is the manifestation of God’s two opposing desires in all processes of creation.

BALANCE is the principle of unity, of oneness. In it is the stability which lies in CAUSE. Balance is the foundation of the universe. BALANCED INTERCHANGE simulates oneness by interchange between pairs of opposites. It is the principle of equal giving between all moving pairs of unbalanced opposites that constitute this dual electric universe. In it is the instability of EFFECT. Instability is forever seeking to find stability. It can never find it, but it can simulate it by balancing its instability through equality of interchange.

AS HUMAN BEINGS grow in discipline and love and life experience, their understanding of the world and their place in it naturally grows apace. Conversely, as people fail to grow in discipline, love, and life experience, so does their understanding fail to grow.

So why may we not be looking for spirituality, you may get it, as you yearn for knowledge and growth. Most of what we originally learn is relgiuosy and comes from the Bible, religion.

The process of expansion of knowledge has been a major theme of this book. It will be recalled that in the previous section love was defined as an extension – that is, an expansion – of ourselves, and it was noted that among the risks of love was the risk of moving into the unknown of new experience. “God’s energy of love expands, it grows”….

The mark of the spiritually advanced is their awareness of their own laziness.

People often are not aware of their own religion or world view, and in the course of their religious growth it is necessary for them to become aware of their own assumptions and tendencies toward bias. Through bracketing and the attention of love we grow more aware of our beloved and of the world. An essential part of discipline is the development of an awareness of our responsibility and power of choice. The capacity of awareness we assign to that portion of the mind we call conscious or consciousness. We are now at the point where we can define spiritual growth as the growth or evolution of consciousness.

And at the end of the first section on discipline, it was also noted that the learning of something new requires giving up the old self and a death of outworn knowledge. To develop a broader vision we must be willing to forsake, to kill, our narrower vision. In the short run it is more comfortable not to do this – to stay where we are, to keep using the same microcosmic map, to avoid suffering the death of cherished notions.

The Spiritual Road

The road of spiritual growth, however, lies in the opposite direction. We begin by distrusting what we already believe, by actively seeking the threatening and unfamiliar, by deliberately challenging the validity of what we have previously been taught and hold dear.

This path lies through questioning everything. In a very real sense, we begin with science. We begin by replacing the religion of our parents with the religion of science. We must rebel against and reject the religion of our parents, for inevitably their worldview will be narrower than that of which we are capable if we take full advantage of our personal experience, including our adult experience and the experience of an additional generation of human history. There is no such thing as a good hand-me-down religion. To be vital, to be the best of which we are capable, our religion must be a wholly personal one, forged entirely through the fire of our questioning and doubting in the crucible of our own experience of reality.

Science & Religion

Some scientific key words are ‘reality,’ ‘examination,’ ‘knowledge,’ ‘distrust,’ ‘experience,’ and‘ discipline.’ These are words we have been using all along. Science is a religion of skepticism. To escape from the microcosm of our childhood experience, from the microcosm of our culture and its dogmas, from the half-truths our parents told us, we must be skeptical about what we think we have learned to date. It is the scientific attitude that enables us to transform our personal experience of the microcosm into a personal experience of the macrocosm. We must begin by becoming scientists.

Science as a religion represents an improvement, an evolutionary leap, over several other world views, in its international character. Or as being spiritual…..

Unification of religion and science is the most significant and exciting happening in our intellectual life today. (see other articles, as to God’s mathematical world)

Unconscious, the field, plasma, the God Particle?

If we identify ourselves with our self-concept or self-awareness or consciousness in general, then we must say concerning the unconscious that there is a part of us that is wiser than we are.

We are almost always either less or more competent than we believe ourselves to be. The unconscious, however, knows who we really are. A major and essential task in the process of one’s spiritual development is the continuous work of bringing one’s conscious self-concept into progressively greater congruence with reality.

We have talked about this ‘wisdom of the unconscious’ primarily in terms of self-knowledge and self-revelation. ESP, DE VA JU, DREAMS….The fact of the matter is that our unconscious is wiser than we are about everything.

We were the possessors of the knowledge all along. But what is its source, this part of us that is wiser than we are? We do not know. Jung’s theory of the collective unconscious suggests that our wisdom is inherited. Recent scientific experiments with genetic material in conjunction with the phenomenon of memory suggest that it is indeed possible to inherit knowledge, which is stored in the form of nucleic acid codes within cells. The concept of chemical storage of information allows us to begin to understand how the information potentially available to the human mind might be stored in a few cubic inches of brain substance. But even this extraordinarily sophisticated model, allowing for the storage of inherited as well as experiential knowledge in a small space, leaves unanswered the most mind-boggling questions. When we speculate on the technology of such a model – how it might be constructed, how synchronized, and so on – we are still left standing in total awe before the phenomenon of the human mind. Speculation on these matters is hardly different in quality from speculation about such models of cosmic control as God having at His command armies and choirs of archangels, angels, seraphims, and cherubims to assist Him in the task of ordering the universe.

The mind, which sometimes presumes to believe that there is no such thing as a miracle, is itself a miracle.

Thus spiritual growth is the evolution of an individual.

THE ALPHA AND THE OMEGA WE ARE STILL left, however, with the question asked at the end of the section on love:

Where does love come from? Only now it can be enlarged to a perhaps even more basic question: Whence comes the whole force of evolution? And to this we can add our puzzlement about the origins of grace. For love is conscious, but grace is not. Whence comes this ‘powerful force originating outside of human consciousness which nurtures the spiritual growth of human beings’?

Do we really know what electricity is, for instance? Or where energy comes from in the first place? Or the universe? Perhaps someday our science of answers will catch up with the most basic questions. Until then, if ever, we can only speculate, theorize, postulate, hypothesize. To explain the miracles of grace and evolution we hypothesize the existence of a God who wants us to grow – a God who loves us. To many this hypothesis seems too simple, too easy; too much like fantasy; childlike and naïve. But what else do we have? To ignore the data by using tunnel vision is not an answer. We cannot obtain an answer by not asking the questions.

If we postulate that our capacity to love, this urge to grow and evolve, is somehow ‘breathed into’ us by God, then we must ask to what end. Why does God want us to grow? What are we growing toward? Where is the end point, the goal of evolution? What is it that God wants of us?

No matter how much we may like to pussyfoot around it, all of us who postulate a loving God and really think about it eventually come to a single terrifying idea: God wants us to become Himself (or Herself or Itself). We are growing toward godhood. God is the goal of evolution. It is God who is the source of the evolutionary force and God who is the destination. This is what we mean when we say that He is the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end.

When I said that this is a terrifying idea I was speaking mildly. It is a very old idea, but, by the millions, we run away from it in sheer panic. For no idea ever came to the mind of man that places upon us such a burden. It is the single most demanding idea in the history of mankind. Not because it is difficult to conceive; to the contrary, it is the essence of simplicity. But if we believe it, it then demands from us all that we can give, all that we have.

Were we to believe it possible for man to become God, this belief by its very nature would place upon us an obligation to attempt to attain the possible. But we do not want this obligation. We don’t want to have to work that hard. We don’t want God’s responsibility. We don’t want the responsibility of having to think all the time. As long as we can believe that godhood is an impossible attainment for ourselves, we don’t have to worry about our spiritual growth, we don’t have to push ourselves to higher and higher levels of consciousness and loving activity; we can relax and just be human.

If God’s in his heaven and we’re down here, and never the twain shall meet, we can let Him have all the responsibility for evolution and the directorship of the universe. We can do our bit toward assuring ourselves a comfortable old age, hopefully complete with healthy, happy, and grateful children and grandchildren; but beyond that we need not bother ourselves. These goals are difficult enough to achieve, and hardly to be disparaged. Nonetheless, as soon as we believe man can become God, we can really never rest for long, never say, ‘OK, my job is finished, my work is done.’ We must constantly push ourselves to greater and greater wisdom, greater and greater effectiveness. By this belief, we will have trapped ourselves, at least until death, on an effortful treadmill of self-improvement and spiritual growth. God’s responsibility must be our own. It is no wonder that the belief in the possibility of Godhead is repugnant. The idea that God is actively nurturing us so that we might grow up to be like Him brings us face to face with our own laziness.

Grace

This is the meaning of our individual existence. We are born that we might become, as a conscious individual, a new life form of God. The conscience is the executive part of our total being. It is the conscious that makes decisions and translates them into action.

Were we to become all unconscious, we would be indeed like the newborn infant, one with God but incapable of any action that might make the presence of God felt in the world. As I have mentioned, there is a regressive quality to the mystical thought of some Hindu or Buddhist theology, in which the status of the infant without ego boundaries is compared to Nirvana and the goal of entering Nirvana seems similar to the goal of returning to the womb.

The goal of theology presented here, and that of most mystics, is exactly the opposite. It is not to become an egoless, unconscious babe. Rather it is to develop a mature, conscious ego which then can become the experience of spiritual power is basically a joyful one.

There is a joy that comes with mastery. Indeed, there is no greater satisfaction than that of being an expert, of really knowing what we are doing.

Those who have grown the most spiritually are those who are the experts in living. And there is yet another joy, even greater. It is the joy of communion with God. For when we truly know what we are doing, we are participating in the omniscience of God. With total awareness of the nature of a situation, of our motives for acting upon it, and of the results and ramifications of our action, we have attained that level of awareness that we normally expect only of God. Our conscious self has succeeded in coming into alignment with the mind of God. We know with God. Yet those who have attained this stage of spiritual growth, this state of great awareness, are invariably possessed by a joyful humility. For one of their very awarenesses is the awareness that their unusual wisdom has its origin in their unconscious.

They are aware of their connection to the rhizome and aware that their knowledge flows to them from the rhizome through the connection. Their efforts at learning are only efforts to open the connection, and they are aware that the rhizome, their unconscious, is not theirs alone but all mankind’s, all life’s, God’s. Invariably when asked the source of their knowledge and power, the truly powerful will reply: ‘It is not my power. What little power I have is but a minute expression of a far greater power. I am merely a conduit. It is not my power at all.’ I have said that this humility is joy.

One must have ‘the will to grow’: Although I am recognizing the extreme importance of this will to grow, I am not sure how much I will be able to contribute to its understanding, since the concept brings us once again to the edge of mystery. It will be immediately apparent that the will to grow is in essence the same phenomenon as love.

Love is the will to extend oneself for spiritual growth. Genuinely loving people are, by definition, growing people. I have spoken about how the capacity to love is nurtured in one by loving parenting, but I have also noted that parental nurturing alone fails to account for the existence of this capacity in all people.

I stated then that I doubted that I would be able to answer these questions to anyone’s complete satisfaction. I suggested, however, that some light could be thrown on these questions by consideration of the concept of grace.

I have come to believe and have tried to demonstrate that people’s capacity to love, and hence their will to grow, is nurtured not only by the love of their parents during childhood but also throughout their lives by grace, or God’s love. This is a powerful force external to their consciousness which operates through the agency of their own unconscious as well as through the agency of loving persons other than their parents and through additional ways which we do not understand. It is because of grace that it is possible for people to transcend the traumas of loveless parenting and become loving individuals who have risen far above their parents on the scale of human evolution.

Why, then, do only some people spiritually grow and evolve beyond the circumstances of their parentage? I believe that grace is available to everyone, that we are all cloaked in the love of God, no one less nobly than another. The only answer I can give, therefore, is that most of us choose not to heed the call of grace and to reject its assistance.

If we can identify our mature free will with that of God, then God will have assumed through our conscious ego a new and potent life form. We will have become God’s agent, his arm, so to speak, and therefore part of Him. And insofar as we might then through our conscious decisions be able to influence the world according to His will our lives themselves will become the agents of God’s grace. We ourselves will then have become one form of grace of God, working on His behalf among mankind, creating love where love did not exist before.

We do not come to grace; grace comes to us. Try as we might to obtain grace, it may yet elude us. We may seek it not, yet it will find us. Consciously we may avidly desire the spiritual life but then discover all manner of stumbling blocks in our way. Or we may have seemingly little taste for the spiritual life and yet find ourselves vigorously called to it despite ourselves. While on one level we do choose whether or not to heed the call of grace, on another it seems clear that God is the one who does the choosing.

I do believe that the awareness of the existence of grace can be of considerable assistance to those who have chosen to travel the difficult path of spiritual growth. This awareness will facilitate their journey in at least three ways: it will help them to take advantage of grace along the way; it will give them a surer sense of direction; and it will encourage. The paradox that we both choose grace and are chosen by grace is the essence of the phenomenon of serendipity. Serendipity was defined as ‘the gift of finding valuable or agreeable things not sought for.’ Buddha found enlightenment only when he stopped seeking it – when he let it come to him. On the other hand, who can doubt that enlightenment came to him precisely because he had devoted at least sixteen years of his life to seeking it, sixteen years in preparation?

Sudden insights, premonitions, and a whole host of synchronistic serendipitous events, all of Grace...

A major purpose of this section on grace has been to assist those on the journey of spiritual growth to learn the capacity of serendipity. And let us redefine serendipity not as a gift itself but as a learned capacity to recognize and utilize the gifts of grace which are given to us from beyond the realm of our conscious will.

Scott Peck- The Road Less Travelled

Lao Russell- Love

books excerpts—READ THEIR BOOKS

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Course Outline

Main Objective: PART I

Awareness of the Ego and the 4 Agreements

Giving you awareness of these 3 topics

1. Understanding only you control your world. Which is the inside world of your mind. Your beliefs, emotions, feelings, and choices. Choices of ego fear, and unforgiveness or truth and love? The outside world doesn’t matter. It only matters how you respond from your inside world.

2. Understanding the ego human behavior you can now see and understand that they live in their personal ego dream world or movie. To understand basic human ego behavior, and see it in others. To see how the ego tries to control their outside world with emotions of anger, conflict, accusing, blaming, attacking, judging, I’m right you’re wrong, I’m special, you are not, etc..

3. The 4 Agreements and companion lessons, gives you easy explanations and everyday tools to implement your awareness and understanding of the basic human nature and the ego thought system.

Assignment:

Read the Relentless book

Understand ONLY YOU control your real world, the inner world of your mind

Read the 4 Agreements book, The Energy Bus, The Let Them Theory, Mastery of Love book and Ego section

See Owners Manual section read and take your time to figure out who you are and want to be. Focus more on the inner values and characteristics you want to develop and have.This is where you make sure you know what you want, who you are, and who you want to be. Integrity, honor, self-respect. Likes, dislikes, inner goals, and outer goals, etc…

Read God’s Knowledge Thought System in the Knowledge section

Now there is no excuse of ignorance

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The rest is up to you. It’s your choice! Are you ready to learn more about being both the teacher and the student. Do you want real power? This not for the lazy person. This is where you must have the want & willpower to improve your emotional intelligence.

Laziness is the original sin

PART II

Your 2nd choice takes the willingness & willpower to improve emotional self-control …

1. By practicing self-discipline, responsibility and implementing the 4 Agreements you can effectively improve communication skills. (along with developing self-love, knowing who you really are and what you want, improving your foundation, or updating your owner’s manual)

2. You can now brush off their words or actions because you now have knowledge of their personal ego’s control. You get angry or upset less often, and you can now respect their ego dream or movie. You see how the ego only protects your ego personality, not the real you, your inner heart or soul. You have the everyday tools to communicate more effectively and deal with their ego opinion and any possible conflicts. You have the improved ability to control your emotional reactions and now you respond in the present instead of reacting. You are not trying to control them or any other outside event or interaction. This is where you pull it it all together with this new knowledge of these 3 key areas. This gives you a great advantage in your personal and business life.

3. You don’t hate or judge them anymore. You still don’t have to like them or even associate with them if possible.(discernment) You now understand it’s God’s role to judge your brothers and sisters, not you….

….you become Bulletproof

Use the 4th Agreement… practice, repeat, practice, repeat….

…you become Relentless

Assignment:

A… Read the Awareness & Emotions section

B… Read the Love section, Read the 5th Agreement and Belief section

Implementing the 4 Agreements is the start of awareness. Seeing how the ego controls them. You understand its their ego movie, they are the creator, producer and star, it has nothing to do with you, it’s their image of you. Look for the signs and their real intention behind their words. By being the observer of your thoughts and emotions. By not automatically reacting, getting frustrated or mad, saying or doing something dumb. You wait to respond with wisdom or choose to say nothing or to agree. Now many people won’t say anything because they don’t want to have a conflict or other reasons why they don’t reply. That’s not awareness.

END OF BASIC COURSE

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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love…..Love never fails.

Most of this lesson is from ~ Paul Selig books

The embodiment of the self as love is the goal. It is the true goal. It is the blessed manifestation of God’s gift to man, to be in accordance and congruence with the frequency of love.

Frequency is your attitude. The goal is to always have an open heart and an attitude of God's Love.

After you can see the ↓below….. Starts with awareness:

To recover awareness is to see life the way it is, not the way we want it to be. To be aware is to see what the truth is, not what we want to see to justify the lies we believe. If we practice awareness, then the time comes when we master awareness. In mastering awareness, you seek to do two things:

1. expand your perceptive capacities and then

2. use this expanded input to understand your mind differently.

This happens by noting and passing through the four levels of awareness.

Passing through four levels of awareness:

#1…Physical sensations

At this first level of awareness, you notice the flow of information coming into your senses from the outside—sight, hearing, smell, taste, and touch. What sensations are you feeling in your muscles and your bones? Breathe in and out and notice the sensations in your body as you do so. Notice the movement of your chest, the air moving in and out of your nose and mouth, and any smells or tastes in the air. Try to take a few extra moments to perceive the texture of objects when you pick them up. Are they rough or smooth? Does the material feel harsh or soft? Tune in to your body and take note of any aches that you have been ignoring. Don't try to fix them; just be aware of them.

#2…Thoughts and emotions

At this level of awareness, you begin to notice the flow of information through your mind's dream. All of the raw information that flows into your senses gets processed according to this dream. Very often, however, you forget this fact. You become numb to these thoughts and emotions or fail to be curious about them. It can help to create a visual cue to make you pause and notice your thoughts. For example, try to make a point of checking in with your emotions every time you walk through a doorway, or perhaps every time you take a sip of water. Alternatively, you can name thoughts as “thinking”—something often suggested by meditation teachers. If you can, try to notice when you are caught up in a train of thought and simply say (out loud if possible) “thinking.” This builds your awareness of the fact that you are not your thoughts.

#3…Reactions and stories

At this level of awareness, you begin to be aware of the larger framework through which you interpret your thoughts and emotions. Emotional experiences are interpreted into feelings, opinions beliefs, etc…. Like your thoughts and emotions, these are your constant companions.

Through the mastery of awareness, you begin to notice the reactions you have to others and the stories you tell yourself. In the latter case, you begin to find out if these stories are true for you.

This is the first step in learning to live life as a work of art—by choice, rather than by rote. Spend some time (one day a week) noting various habits. Engage in activities, not unlike the mapmaking you've already done regarding your inner processes. You may already have noted a few of these inner stories that pop up regularly.

#4…Unique perspective

This is the level of awareness that holds your always-shifting view of everything inside of you and in the outside world. Through building strength at this level of awareness, you increase your ability to change how you see things, to try out different contexts, and to grasp a deeper truth in paradox and the unknown. You soar up high like an eagle and gain vast perspectives. While this can be a difficult level of awareness to practice, it tends to emerge organically out of the development of the other levels described above.

Each of these levels of awareness builds on the previous one. When you check in with your physical body, your breath, and your senses, you also begin to notice your thoughts and emotions.

By observing and understanding these, you begin to notice the stories you tell yourself and find out where they came from.

This allows you to challenge and change your habitual reactions and the stories that keep you small. When you step out of the comfort of these stories, you discover a wide new world of perspective, understanding, and knowledge.

One of the most powerful tools for strengthening your awareness involves noticing how your mind tells stories. About you and others…The first mastery, the Mastery of Awareness, is the first step toward personal freedom because we cannot be free if we don’t know what we are, where we are, or what kind of freedom we are looking for. In this mastery, we become aware of the fog that is in our minds. We become aware that we are dreaming all the time, and that everybody else is dreaming. The Mastery of Awareness can also be called the Mastery of Truth. When we Master Awareness as a habit, we always see life the way it is, not the way we want to see it. Then we no longer try to put things into words and explain what we perceive to ourselves.~4Agreements

Instead, we use words to communicate with someone else, knowing that what we are communicating is just our point of view.

Another important first step is ↓

Knowing yourself

Loving yourself, understanding what you want out of life. Knowing your faults and your strengths. What are your values? What will you tolerate and is acceptable?

Order of Change:

#1… Mastery of Awareness or Truth

By understanding the EGO thought system, seeing how the EGO controls others, and you.It is the maturity of heart and mind that is essential. It comes effortlessly when the main obstacle is removed -- inattention, unawareness. In awareness you grow.

#2… Mastery of Transformation

The Master of Transformation is also a Master of Love, or we might say a Master of Intent. These are synonymous terms. The warrior learns that the truth is love. By stalking your emotions, doing inventory, to transform and gain control of your real self and your second dream/attention by unlearning and practicing, repeating, practicing, repeating, etc… DISCIPLINE and Responsibility

#3… Mastery of Intent or Love

Then you learn to become the master of your thoughts, intent(love), or your desires. Your 3rd dream/attention. By always starting all thoughts/intentions of God's energy with love or goodness. The third Mastery of Intent is the result when we are no longer the body and no longer the mind. We are no longer the soul. We are just love because love includes everything. Love is the real name of God. Love is everywhere. Everything is made of love. ATTITUDE and BELIEFS. We realize we are all a part of God's eternal energy.

This is the mastery of the spirit and the will. The Master of Intent becomes One with God. God works through the master's mouth, mind, and hands. In that state, with every action the master does, there is God.

We accumulate knowledge only to change the information on our computers. Once we change and become who we are, we no longer need knowledge. You need to cross the river of knowledge to transcend and not come back here anymore. Our knowledge closes off our intuition. Intuition leads us to the truth. Truth is alive. Everything is in evolution. Everything is biological. Everything is alive?

Love is Attitude

Love is Life

Now we will talk about different kinds of relationships today.

And we're going to start with the big one.

You. Your relationship with you.

Until you understand that you are the basis for every relationship you have, you will be in trouble. And the ignorance of this simple fact has destroyed more relationships than you can know. People assume very quickly that they are not the one in authority at any given time, when, in fact, the only way you cannot be in your authority is to abnegate your authority. And then if you do that, you are still in choice. And that means you are still the one in authority. So please, everybody, first things first.

You are at the center of all of your relationships.

Now the relationships that you manifest in your environment are created by you to know yourself, to see yourself, and to believe in your own worth through activation and transformation.

Now we will explain this:

If you have an authority in your life who you are frightened by, you have created a situation where you have to learn your own relationship to your own authority. The outrage that people experience at authority figures is usually outrage that is meant to be directed at the self for not being the one in authority, and the mirror is effective, but only to the extent that the individual sees what is truly happening.

When you don’t believe that you are the one in charge, you are leaving yourself out of the picture and out of the relationship.

“What happens if you have awareness in a relationship, a friend who is not speaking to you?”

That’s an example of choice. You are in authority. Do you pick up the telephone, do you walk around the corner and shake his hand, or do you let sleeping dogs lie? But whatever you choose to do, you stand in your authority and you are the one in choice.

Now understand this: Becoming aware of yourself in your relationships does not require anyone else to change. They will change in response to the change in your consciousness. And as that change happens, what you create has to change.

So if you are a female who has believed herself to be controlled by men and holds great anger at a paradigm that supports that kind of imbalance, and you realize finally that this gives you a great excuse to remain disempowered, you can then change your consciousness. And as you are empowered through this transition in your awareness, the paradigm changes to support your requirements for a new identity that will be reflected to you in your relationships.

You are still the one in charge. You do not change the ignorance of others by combating their ignorance. That actually enhances the ignorance because it supports a requirement for protection.

When you realign to your knowing, and others can come into their knowing through the congruence of intention, you can then change the self, and the self will then create others in their landscape who will reflect back the new choice, the new awareness, and the new reality.

Now to understand, once again, that you are the one in charge of all of your relationships forces you immediately to abandon the idea, the belief, and the investment in being one who is being victimized by anyone for any reason. Now we are not talking about physical experience right now. If you are walking down the street and somebody hits you in the nose because they are out hitting people in the nose, yes, in fact, that was created by you on an experiential level, but at the same time what we are really speaking of is the way you self-identify as a victim that brings these experiences to you.

Now it’s much easier to blame someone else for your issues than to take responsibility for them. But to the extent that you have the investment in blame, you become the victim who then cannot help to transform the circumstance that she says she wishes she would, once and for all, change.

You are born in fear, in some ways, because you operate in a field that is in agreement to fear. This is not your fault. It is not original sin, and we say that for Paul who had a question in the back of the room. But you are born in fear—not the field you hold, but the confirmation of your field within the larger intention. The manifest world has been so in agreement to fear, it is an expectation of being. The limitations that you have in your requirements for your freedom in relationships are about judgment and fear and a belief (ego thought system) that you have to adhere to certain paradigms of behavior that have been entrenched and made so out of a need, yes, to control you.

Now strife, in a personal relationship, is a reflection of a need to control on one part or another. But if there are two people in a relationship and there is strife, you can understand very quickly that control is the issue at hand. And if you can understand that all control and requirements of control are born out of a need from fear to be in charge, or whatever you want to say will be incurred by not being in charge, you can understand that fear, once again, is the culprit.

When you have a relationship that is operating well, and in your awareness you can state, “I am in my knowing in this relationship, and what this relationship brings forth is creative and wonderful and loving,” you can clearly understand that there is no battle of control, because the relationship is in congruence, and the benefits of the relationship are making themselves known very, very clearly through positive impact.

Now once you understand that every relationship you are in is your teacher, you can begin to see what is available to you through your own information about what you need to manifest yourself through your knowing as the one party to an aware and healthy relationship.

Now if you believe that if you do not behave a certain way you will not be met with love, you are creating situations where your behavior is being dictated by fear. And those people who were raised to be extremely polite were told that if they weren’t, they would not be welcomed. And, consequently, they have created fear-based behavior that dictates how they will be received by others.

Now we speak this and we hear how obvious it sounds. But at the same time a relationship which is party to several people— the individual at the center of the relationship and those she chooses to interact with— has been created by these systems for too long. And the only way to change is to become aware of your investment in what you create, how you create, and why you keep it in place to the extent that you do even though it no longer serves you at all.

Now when you have a marriage, and that is an agreement between two people— and we will talk about marriage as “agreement” and not as a piece of paper, which is also just a contract made to support systems of fear and control— you will begin to see that the agreement is made to support the individuals choosing to engage with each other.

Now we are not knocking marriage as an agreement. We are all for it. What two can achieve through united will and in their learning as a couple can be quite wonderful. But a contract that limits behavior and is for the reasons of taxation or rule over another essentially has been created in a doctrine, historically, that was a requirement of control. Marriage is an agreement between two parties who elect to conjoin to have certain experiences. And if a contract supports that, so be it.

But do understand that the contracts that you sign are always about control and a perceived belief in safety.

“If I marry my husband, he will never look at another woman.” Oh well, how often does that happen? “If I marry my husband, I will get all the money when we divorce.” Well, that’s another way of looking at something, but of course, understand that’s what contracts are for, and nothing about human experience as interchanged, interfaced, interwoven, and linked through consciousness is available in a legal contract about marriage. It does not exist there. A ceremony can be held that evokes and states all of the truisms about partnership and agreement, and that is marriage we endorse heartily, because union and availability to that in commitment is a wonderful thing. We are speaking of contracts.

“Well, a contract and a commitment are two very different things.”

Actually, they are not different but they can be operated very differently. A commitment is a choice, but it is not binding, and a contract is a binding thing that has ramifications if it is broken. It is a protection and it is a threat.

When you sign a lease on an apartment, you are stating that the apartment is yours and no one else’s for the duration of the lease. It permits you to do what you want only within the parameters of the time you have made a promise to pay for it contractually. Nobody cares, frankly, about paying rent on a home they do not live in.

Now if you look at a marriage, an agreement between two people where there is shared information and love, the idea of signing a contract “until death” is wonderful, but it’s also a big threat and invites problems. Because when you state something is finite, you actually have resistance to it as well. Now if you understood that the choice to be in an agreement in a relationship or marriage that was born in consciousness that was not tethered contractually to a basis of fear, you would find that that marriage was enhanced through the awareness that the individuals involved were always choosing to be in commitment through their consciousness and not through the dictate of an external authority system that states, “This is how you will now behave, this is what is appropriate behavior, and these are the repercussions you will have if you do not live up to the contract,” which is divorce or anything else that you can think of what can be incurred through the violation and dissolution of a contract.

The free will of individuals to be in relation to one another always has to be made in an identification of conscious choice, aware choice, and not through systematized jurisdiction by external authority.

So to go back to the original idea of what it means to be the one at the center of your relationship, what we want you to understand is that there is no one else finally choosing your life but you. And if you are welcoming others into your experience in any real way, you do this through identification, consciously, with your choice to be in relation. Period. When you are in conscious choice, you are always aware.

“What is the difference between conscious choice and unconscious choice?

I am not unconscious in my awareness in relationships of my relationships.” You absolutely are. Eighty percent of the interchanges that you have are done through programmed behavior that has very little to do with your own needs and awareness.

When you agree to walk down the block and have a conversation with someone, you are in mutual agreement and awareness of what you are choosing to do. However, when we say unconscious behavior, what we are really speaking of is the way behavior is informed by the patterning that you have inherited in your culture and through being raised with certain requirements and dictates about what is appropriate. And as you operate from that place of unknowing of what is conscious, you can delude yourself to the end of your experience by saying that you are choosing it in a conscious awareness of choice.

Here is an example: You have a child who is raised to believe that she must get married one day and have children. And that embedded belief informs her choices and she becomes aligned and goes into agreement with a self-identification that states that her worth is tied to behavior that has been created for her. And she believes it and, consequently, she creates from this place, and perhaps is happy because she is conforming to the expectations of others. Or perhaps she is miserable because her true self wants to be living on a cliff with a young man who eats grass and drinks out of a coconut. It doesn’t really matter what you choose as long as the choice is made in inherent accordance with your Divine Self. And to understand what the Divine Self requires in its relationships has to come through an awareness of what in your life has been created for you in unconsciousness, in lack of awareness, through cultural dictates, parental requirements, and now, we will say, in religion and systemized ways of controlling everyone.

Now about what that means. Everybody has a belief that they are free. And this is true to the extent acknowledge that at your essence you are absolutely the one in control. But you have gone into agreement about everything, for better and for worse, that you have created around you. And to the extent that you believe that the ceiling is low, that is the low ceiling that you all engage in experiencing. What we would intend to do with your consciousness through the experience of this text is raise the roof. Raise the roof high so that you can see the limitlessness of creation and the experience that is available to you.

But if you are operating out of systems that tell you, “This is appropriate, this is not, and the taxes are due, and the toll needs to be paid, and the contract needs to be signed so that I can be in accordance with others' beliefs,” you are operating through mutual agreement that actually is based on control.

“Are you preaching or teaching anarchism?”

No, no, no. Don’t be silly. We are teaching awareness. And we are not telling you not to sign a contract. And you should pay your taxes to the extent that you agree with that. However, you must understand that what we are asking you to do is to become conscious that you are doing these things, and not be on automatic in the disciplines that you believe, falsely, to be your freedom. “Is it my freedom to pay my taxes?” does not make a lot of sense. Well in fact, it’s true, you write the check, you put the stamp on the envelope, and you are in choice and in freedom. But the cultural choice to engage in this system is finally one that is about agreed control.

Go back to the founding of this country, which was a country that was born out of retaliation against an existing authority that decided how people should be taxed and thereby controlled. Now we will say to you that the identification of the self as the one who is in choice in her relationships, in his relationships, will actually begin to make you aware, and underline “aware,” of how you are not free in your relationships.

You are going to begin to experience yourself as operating through certain dictates that have been given to you that you have been previously unaware of, and you have ascribed your own behavior in relation to this. When you are free of those things, those creations that have limited you, then you can call yourself free. But the coming of awareness that we are promising you is about seeing where that belief has been tainted, constricted, and not been truthful. And to do this, you have to become aware of your present landscape in your relationships.

Love & Understanding

Understanding actually is a way of knowing and a process of knowing, but it is not Knowing. And once you come to Knowing on a deeper level, the process of understanding is changed. It's faith and hope and just Knowing. Gut or intution. You may actually find that as you move forward, what you thought you thought, what you think you think, and what you believe you understood will be changed because you will know. And as you Know, the constructs that have been created through false belief systems, through false understanding, through false identity, through your thought processes will dismantle and then you are left with the truth that was underneath it all along. (domestication)

An example: If you have always believed that you were a certain way and that truth that you have existed in was actually based in a misperception, once that misperception is cleared all of the behaviors that have been created in response to it will have to go away. And what you are left with, finally, is the real deal, that which lay underneath. And in this case, the best example we can give you is that you are the a part of God’s eternal energy and that the false ego self that has been made prominent is actually in the process of release. As you change your beliefs and attitude, those ego constructs of your personality are actually clearing at this time, one at a time, in ways that you can work with. But it takes your will and focus to accomplish it.

Please, in your imagination at this time imagine that a hand is being placed on your heart center and the energies coming through this hand are the energies of the Creator. And the heart is now aligning to the vibration of God's Love or Word. And as it does so, your heart explodes in a beautiful light and a flame of God that burns within you.

Knowing is God's Knowledge Thought System

Is Love an aspect of this Creator? When you understand love in its true sense, you will begin to experience it to the level that you can commit to. In most cases, you are still informed by the limitations that you have embellished the construct of love to be. It is not a pair of shoes. It is not the great apartment. It is not even the boyfriend or the child that you say you love. Love is a manifestation of the Creator that works with people, that works through vibration to call forth the action of God. And the action of God is his Word. So you cannot be without love when you are in the action of transforming the Word, the self, into the Creator’s frequency, and that is what is happening here. So love, we say to you, is a manifestation of the Creator that can be worked with. But at the same time you must believe that the self can be loved in fullness. And now we want to work with you directly on your love. When you say, “I love someone,” you actually can mean it, but at the same time you are still approving of it on a conscious level as if that is a decision. “I choose to love my husband,” or “I love my husband because he is my husband,” or “I love Max, or Seymour, or Angelica,” or name the name. In any case, you believe on a certain level that you are the one in charge of the love when in fact, of course, that is not the case. The small aspect of your true self that is part of God's energy, is the lover within you and to the extent that you decree that this love is exchanged and has to have a return invested in it, you do not really love. If you say, “I love the postman” to the extent that you say, “I love the husband,” you are getting more on the right track. Because we actually say to you, true love is not a condition.

Once you are in your knowing, you begin to accomplish things that you could not have otherwise, because understand that the level of fear that precludes you from your knowing takes up most of your energy. You all understand what it means to feel yourself as being in your knowing. To be in your knowing means that you resonate truthfully and you don’t question what you feel. It is the truth and it is unshakable in your system because you understand that.want to talk now about truth in your knowing and what this really means. When you are in your truth, you are knowing. You do not know when you are not in your truth. If you can understand as much as anything that it is raining outside and you are wet, you know you are in your truth. There is no conjecture, you are all wet. If you are crying and there are tears running down your face, you can say, “I am in my tears, I am crying.” That is a truth. Or standing on the grass. Or kissing a friend. Or holding a child. These are the truths because they are what you are engaged with fully in the moment they are being experienced. That is what you know. And your knowing must be anchored into present time for it to be valid. We gave you an example about people believing that the world was flat. And they knew the world was flat because that’s what they believed. Now that has been dismantled as a belief system. But in your case you believe what you don’t know to be true still because you accept it. So we are telling you right now, knowing happens in the present moment. You can’t know something yesterday and tomorrow. You know it in the present moment.

Go back to a time when you knew something as a truth. “I know I am a writer.” “I know I love my husband.” “I know my child is sick with the flu.” “I know that the world is a safe place.” “I know that I am loved.” You can choose your knowing. But go into that place of knowing and feel that knowing in your heart or in your energy system. It does not really matter what you choose to know. You feel it. To feel what it means to be in the vibration and experience of your knowing. Once you know this and it is expressed, you are actually bringing energy to support this fact. And when you do this, you can begin to realize what you know. Feel what you feel. Let your heart teach you. Let your knowing be present. We are taking you out of our head and into your frequency and out of the brain and into the heart center. “I am in my knowing.” Once you can begin to anchor in the experience of knowing, you can begin to work with it consciously, and once you know once, you know, period. It’s like anything else.

Try to remember the first time you met your love and you knew this was your love, you can resonate with that. The love may have passed or have been changed, but you know what it means to know. Now once you know, you can begin to act from your action in the knowing that you have. Once you do this once, you can do it again and again and again. And what we mean by this is, “I can be in my knowing and act on that knowing with purpose and understanding of who I am.” We will tell you this. When you are in your knowing, you are not afraid. You know it. You know the truth and there is no fear in that kind of truth. You will feel this in your heart. When you are in your knowing, you understand that you are safe and the actions that you take from this place of knowing will bring you benefit. You Know who you are, what you are and how to act in love and goodness. When you are acting from your fear, you create more fear and you entangle yourself in distrust and other problems that will manifest from that creation, but when you are in your Knowing, you are safe, you Know.

Free will lets each individual choose where they want to be on this frequency scale.

It is a frequency (an attitude)that is emitted that transforms that which it encounters. And it is free and it is not to be dictated as much as it is to be expressed. (by choice of intentions & emotions or feelings)

When you are a transmitter for the higher frequencies, which is what you are, your energy field becomes a tuning fork, and when you are attuned to the frequency of love, the energy of love works with you and through you to make itself known. If you are working with this still as a personality construct which intends to love someone in a special way because you choose it, you may be in an aspect of love, but you are not in the experience of love as much as the illusion of love. And there is indeed a difference. The illusion of love is a personality construct that has requirements attached to it. The belief of love as a personality construct has been a problem here for a very long time. People divorce when they fall out of love. And, in fact, falling in love is an experience of love, but it is an embellishment of love and it is not a truth in the higher sense. The truth of love moves through the system and makes itself embellished in a truthful way. It does not commit other than to say, “I am in love.” To be in love means, truly, to be in the frequency of love and not to be in the construct of love that has requirements. We believe we are making sense. But everyone here who has a belief in love still holds firm to the possibility that it will become what they intended it to be.

We are not going to discount romance and the benefits of it as an enlightening experience into the frequency of love. But true love lasts beyond the fall into love. True love extends itself perfectly into the Holy Ghost’s frequency because if you can understand this, then you will understand that this frequency is a love energy made manifest through you. And when it is made manifest through you, it has an action, and that is to love.

When you are in judgment of another for any reason, you distort your perceptions of that person and you step out of the Christ consciousness and you move out of love. When you can understand truthfully that the frequency of love implies love without any sense of judgment at all, then you will begin to move through this in an active way that is experiential to you.

You bring the frequency into the alignment that will support this transformation of what you now can begin to see. But you have to choose it, you have to choose it in consciousness, and you have to do it with the intention to see the perfection in those who present themselves to you. Period. That is clearing the fear of being seen as well. The extent that you can witness it in another is the extent that you can begin to believe that you can be perceived this way as well. Now we want to talk about love again, and when you do this with the intention to see the perfection, you are acting from a place of love, because you are operating out of judgment and judgment is fear in a disguise. Everything you judge you fear. Think about it. Everything you judge you fear. Ask yourself what you judge, and then ask yourself why you fear, and you will know this in your heart once and for all. Everything you judge you fear. And everything you judge you fear because you have an investment in a certain way of thinking, feeling, believing, or a belief that your safety and your personality self is being challenged by it in some way.

You are an amplifier and you are a transistor and a receiver of the Creator. God's energy of love works through you. You are a vessel. If you forget this and you begin to think that you are Jesus or that you are having an identity crisis and have to go join a monastery because your ego is telling you you are special, stop it now. That is not the point of this journey. To the extent that you invest in specialness, to the extent that you begin to believe that you are the vehicle and the energy that runs the car, you will have problems. You may be the car, you may be the vehicle, but the gas that runs the car is the higher frequency that comes through you. This is about your attitude or the sweetness of your heart.

Discernment

You still have to live and operate in this materialistic world. To discern something is not to judge it. If I discern that this is not a movie that I will like, I am not saying, “That’s a terrible movie.” If I am discerning that this is not the right teacher for me, or this is not the right class, or this is not the right job, I am discerning, I am not judging. We want you to stay in your discernment. To the extent that you don’t, you give your authority away and that is a recipe for disaster. You must stay in choice, and to stay in choice you must stay in discernment, otherwise how do you know what to do? So we are not taking away discernment, we are simply telling you that to the extent that you judge your fellow man, you actually lower your own frequency. You don’t judge you forgive them and see they are controlled by the ego. Their personal ego dream world. You are all loved. And when you lower your own frequency, you fall out of alignment with the higher vibration that you are now working in. You can get back there. You can raise your frequency. But to the extent that you hold another in contempt or in judgment or as less than you, you deny them their own expression as a part of God's energy. How could you believe that a Creator could favor one man over another? How could you possibly believe that God’s love is sanctioned—one is approved of, one is not? You are all perfect creations, you are all deeply loved, and the realization of this, truthfully, will and would transform this planet in a second if it were realized in its fullness. You are all perfect in your expression. The true you….

Boulders

Boulders are creations. They are creations that you have either inherited culturally, or that you have created by yourself, or that you have decided you have to have for some reason in the past that may have made perfect sense when it was created, but it is now an obstruction of great magnitude. And we must clear it. So we will say what a boulder is is an obstruction in your consciousness. A false belief that has engendered other energies to attach to it and creations to the extent that it has become very, very large and now you take it for granted and you assume it must always be there because you misinterpret it and believe that it is you. And it is you, to the extent that you have created a life that supports it. So an example of a boulder would be, “Men are terrible,” and guess what? If you believe that, that all men are terrible, they are. And that is your experience. If you believe that you can never have a lot of money because if you do it will be taken from you, or people will be angry at you, or that it will be a detriment to your spiritual growth to have things that give you pleasure, you have created a boulder. And all of these things sit in your living room, which is your consciousness, and take up a lot of space and create your experience in this life. So how do you get rid of a boulder? It’s not like taking out the trash. It has to be dismantled and cleared and we will say transmuted by the light.

Now first of all, you are used to a process that says, “Everything must be hard. Everything must take years. I need to go to the therapist and talk about this for a long time to find out why I created my boulder. And then I have to get rid of it. And I’m gonna do it with a toothpick and pick away at it until maybe it goes away. But I don’t really believe it’s gonna go, because I’m actually very attached to it.” This is the process that you engage in culturally around transformation. You all believe it’s an arduous undertaking. It’s not going to be abracadabra. A magic wand is not going to come down and tap on your boulder three times and get it out of the room. But what we are going to tell you is this. It does not need to be dismantled through an extended process that requires that you hold, hug, embrace, touch, examine, and self-identify as your boulder. That’s a bunch of junk at this point and we want you to understand why. To the extent that you create a problem and then you maintain a relationship with a problem as a living thing, as “my problem that I have to contend with,” you continue to create the problem. And you continue to add ammunition and impact and structure to that very thing you say you are trying to clear up, and this is cultural at this stage of the game.

You are going to do this with an intention to decide, once and for all, that it is your divine right to be without this thing that has created your pain, or that you give power to in such a way that it creates your pain. The boulder itself is a creation. And there are many aspects to creation other than one thought. For example, your belief that you are unattractive may have been compounded by your mother and your friends and what you see on television and what your culture believes. And so the pain that you feel around your visual self, or how you are perceived, is a big deal because it’s reflected back at you every time you feel ashamed or ugly or unloved, or every time you see an image that reminds you of what you feel about your physical self. Do you understand? It’s compounded by a lot of thoughts, but the thoughts in the past that have created this can be cleared in the present and we are not going to do microscopic surgery on this boulder. We are going to blast it, as it were, and transmute it. But to understand, first of all, that there are many things that contribute to the creation of a large pattern of pain, and that is the reason most people don’t know how to address it in consciousness. It’s not as simple actually as just going back to a time when something was created. That works, and we gave you examples of that, but what we do say is that going back to that time with an understanding that there have been add-ons and other ways that the pattern has become cemented will show you that when you work on this, you have to work on it in several levels.

One step is to actually create a frequency of a high enough level that you can begin to clear the pattern in its cell memory of the body that you are in, which is also the attachment and the embellishment of it on many, many levels. We must create the justification and the belief that this could be cleared and we let go of attachments to the boulder that may be unconscious or ways that we may use the boulder to protect us. For example, if I have a belief that I will not be loved, and that is the boulder in my room, I get benefits from that. I don’t have to get too close to people, I can affirm my solitude, I can do lots of things, and it’s a wonderful excuse. However, the dividend of pain that I am ultimately paying for that belief is large. So yes, it is a creation and it is a boulder, so let’s get rid of it.

The process of experience for you will be one of saying, “I see it. I release it. I see it. I release it. I release it. I release it. It is gone.” You must forgive yourself maybe someone else. See what you did wrong. Learn from the experience. It won't vanish overnight, you have to deal with it on a level of consciousness, when the issue rises and presents itself.anything can be healed. Anything can be changed. There are no miracles too small or too grand for the Creator. It is extended by you to the extent that your belief systems must respond in an elastic way to what you have required to come to you. Say, for example, you are requiring a great deal of change at one time, but you do not believe that such a thing can be possible. Guess what? You are putting the brakes on and you are limiting the Creator and you are limiting the benefits that would otherwise be available to you in your consciousness.

In order for you to begin to express yourself in the consciousness of God's energy or Word, you have to elasticize the belief system to embrace and experience wonder. Once you do that, you create room for possibilities. Focus and commitment and change can happen faster then you think. Will others notice? Maybe maybe not, but you will. And once you do that, things change. Only you control your world your mind your energy or attitude…..

This is not as much an intellectual exercise, it’s an energetic one. A life long commitment.

When we talk about Christ, we will be clear now, we talk about Christ as a creation of the God Self inhabiting man in its fullness. We do not say, “You are Jesus” any more than we say you are a thing, or a that, or a light thing that can be called Jesus. Jesus is a personage of the Christ, a manifestation of the Christ in fullness, and there are others as well who have ascended to this level of understanding and frequency. We speak of the Christ in terms of consciousness, and the vibration of the Christ, (holy ghost)which would bring about the change in consciousness.me. Period. Once you understand that on a higher level your frequency is one with your Creator, everything seems to change. Once you understand that the availability of this energy that we will call the Christ is available to you, to all, everything changes. Once you understand that the Son-ship, your Son of God Self, is who you truly are, everything changes. If you are aware of this already on a minor level, you can get an understanding that the heavens are about to open to you. When you believe that you (that everyone )are one with the Christ, everything is changed. When you you align to its vibration.(attitude) To recognize the self in its divinity as one with the Creator without the separation of self that the ego process would keep in place to keep you separate and in its control.

First things first: Begin to understand that every relationship you are in has an exchange of energy attached to it.

When you vibrate at a frequency, that is the frequency that you are aligned to, and when you are aligned to a frequency, that is what you call to you. That is your experience of yourself and you’re experienced by others in this way as well.

Where are you liberated in the energies that you experience in this relationship, and where are you depleted? Where do you feel constricted, and where do you not feel honored? Now if you can begin to ask yourselves these questions, you can begin to discern why this is so. And then you can understand why you choose to be in engagement with others in ways that make you feel constricted and depleted and not free.

Now when you do this, you become conscious and aware of things that have always been there. “I am always polite.” “I always open the door,” “I’m always cranky when I don’t get my way,” whatever it might be, is what you need to understand about the capability and the structure of the relationships that you have created. And yes, we will say again, your relationships have been created for you to learn who you are. That sounds selfish, but in fact, everyone is doing the same thing, and it is a construct that is agreed upon, and everybody is being taught through their interactions.

“I am listening to myself, now, in a new way that will support my awareness of myself in relation to my fellows. I am seeing clearly where I am required to learn from the mirrors that are presenting themselves to me in my relationships with others.

Now the responsibility has just been relegated to your own Higher Self, the Creative Self, to support you in bringing this to you in your awareness. As you stay in your awareness, you begin to understand what is before you, how you create what you create, and what investment you have in the dynamic that you have created.

“I always feel weak in my relationships.” “Nobody ever loves me the way that I want them to.” “I am always in control and everyone acknowledges this even though they don’t like it.” Whatever it may be that you call to yourself in the form of experience will be brought to you in your discernment. And what you require now is the awareness that will support you in processing this information and making it operate in ways that will be creative for you in your experience of appropriation and acclimation as and to your own Divine Self.

Here’s a little thing to know: When you operate from your Divine Self, and we will get there eventually, the relationships that you create will be in congruence with it. Every relationship in your life right now, without exception, is in congruence with your vibration, with your frequency, and the constructs that you have created that are now being out-pictured. This is what you call yourself through your consciousness. And when your consciousness changes, your relationship changes in accordance with it. Period. Period. Period.

When you go into love and awareness, and you understand that the congruence of the actions that you take that are born out of love will always be for your highest good and the highest good of those around you, you can begin to trust more effectively that the reason you are in charge of your congruence is because you have become one with your own knowing in love.

The body knows already that it is made in the image and likeness of God. That is in the DNA of the body. The body knows that it is a vehicle for the spirit. The ego self, the false self, is the one that decides what can happen when in this regard. And it will actually tell the body, “You’re fat and old,” or “You don’t need this,” or “It can’t happen anyway,” and then the body goes back and says, “Okay.” But on a true level, the body is in understanding already that it can be transformed. It needs to be repatterned, it needs to be accepted, and it needs to be allowed to come into its form at a higher frequency. Once you have a higher frequency that vibrates through the physical form, the physical form begins to change to appropriate the mold that is created on the etheric level, and that is a perfect form.

So once you say, “I am willing to believe I can inhabit this form,” you can begin to change it. You decide. You decide that you can be in the form as much as you decide that you can have what you want in a higher frequency and conform to the belief that this is so. So that was decision one.

Decision two is a different kind of decision. It’s a decision about the willingness to acquire the ability to emerge from this process with a new attitude that you will hold in consciousness that will then be translated into your experience in the physical realm.

FEAR

Now to discuss fear in a relationship must signify that there is a relationship to discuss. So we will take two people right now and have a little talk about them. There is a young man and a young female who are living together in a relationship. The female desires the male to stand by her when she has issues that she does not like. And she requires him to support her through these issues to feel safe, to feel defended, to feel right. Now he can say,

“I am standing by you,” and he can stand by her. But for him to go into agreement with her issue is to compromise himself frequency. Now we will give you an example of what this means. This young woman has a job where she hates her boss, and she never likes what he says to her. She wants his approval, but he never gives it, she works harder to get the approval, and she gets angry at how hard she has to work to please this man who will never be pleased.

And she comes home at the end of the long day of exerting on someone’s behalf and says to her partner, “You have to agree with me that he’s a terrible boss,” or “I work too hard for him for not enough money,” or creates a scenario in discussion that the scene we provided you could concur with. Now he could say to her, “Yes, I know, you do work too hard,” and then he is in his authority, and he is stating a truth from his place of understanding and knowing. To the extent that he says, “You have a terrible boss, you are too good for the job, you should get out of there,” he is actually condoning her behavior, which is wrong-minded. Her first effort is to contend with her own issue of requiring others’ approval to feel validated. And once she does that, she will be in the right job, and the boss will not be the issue.

But to require a partner to go into an agreement with her issues creates congruence in absolutely the wrong way.

If you are in a relationship with someone and they say, “You have to convert to my religion to be in a relationship with me,” and the other person says, “That’s wonderful, I would love to do that for you, that’s a wonderful religion,” and makes that choice, there is no issue. But when someone else sacrifices their own identity or those things that they require to make them feel true to themselves for the benefit of another, you are not supporting integrity in your relationship. Period.

“Okay, I get all this. What is this about really?”

This is about truth. This is about claiming truth in your relationships. In order to claim truth, you have to see what is there already, and then you have to move from it. So today, if you would, look at your primary relationships in your life, the big ones, the partnership, the children, the boss, the friendship, whatever makes itself apparent to you first, and isolate the ways that you have compromised your own knowing to go into agreement with someone else’s issue. By “issue” we mean a construct of their requirements for their reality to be out-pictured in a certain way.

Now if you have a friend who engages in behavior that you know is self-destructive, you can choose to love that person with the behavior intact. That is the appropriate thing to do. You do not withhold love from someone because they are being destructive.

However, to agree with a behavior—“I understand why you do that, that must be okay, because it’s you and I love you anyway”—is a horrible thing to do to someone that you love. And we say “horrible,” because you are supporting them in a lesson that they are choosing that is self-destructive.

Now if someone is about to throw themselves down the stairs, you can grab them, you can let them go, but how awful to say, “What a lovely thing, to throw yourself down the stairs.” It is dishonest, and frankly, you are engaging in that behavior through your own fear of being released by the one you say you care about.

“If I tell him to stop drinking, he’s not gonna be happy, so I’m not gonna say that.” Well, telling him is one thing. Deciding within yourself that you are no longer going to be in a relationship where you are having to go into agreement with someone else’s behavior that you cannot ideally support in truth is the right thing to claim.

And from that position, you can begin to heal yourself.

“Are you only asking us to discern what relationships we have that are destructive to us?”

We are not saying that, really. We are asking you to discern about yourself where you move out of truth, where you move out of your integrity, and where you align with someone else’s truth in a way that bypasses your own sense of truth. Period.

Once you understand this, then you can recreate the relationship in your consciousness.

There is nothing wrong with compromise and there is nothing wrong with doing for another. You know this well. But where there is a problem is when someone distorts their true self to get it to fit a mold that will embrace the requirements of another. Now this is always done when two people engage in courtship, there is always a kind of navigation that happens back and forth through dialogue and through frequency about whose needs are going to be met, and how they are going to be shared, and where there are going to be compromises, and there is nothing wrong with that to the extent that everything is done in truth and in consciousness.

When you abnegate your authority from a belief of fear—“He will leave me if I do this,” “She will not love me if she knows this,” “I will not be allowed home if I tell her that I did that”—You are creating new constructs that have been born out of fear. And as you create out of fear, you create more fear. And this misaligns, misinterprets, and demands more fear.

Because that is the action of fear: to create fear.

So to the extent that you stay in your truth and you operate from your knowing, you can be in your choice.

“Does this mean we never lie in our relationships?”

We are going to tell you this:

You should never lie at all. Lying is always, without exception, based on control. And that control is born out of fear or selfishness, which is of course a creation of fear. So when you lie, you create a new structure, born in fear, that will then have to be untethered, uncreated, before it moves on and does more damage.

We will tell you this: A white lie is not white. It is a lie being disguised with something pretty. Now we will not tell you to be harmful. To say, “I’m sorry, but I don’t want to go out with you because I find you unattractive,” is not a nice thing to say, and there is no need to be directly blunt in that interaction. You can just as easily say, “I’m sorry, I’m not going out with you, I’m not available.”

You are not available. You are speaking the truth. However, if you say, “You know, I’d love to, but I’m really busy and I actually think I might be going on a trip that week,” you are being ridiculous and you are also being harmful. You are sending out an energetic construct to this other person that is born in deceit and asking them to accept that.

“How about talking about things that are not available to discussion normally?” “How do we talk about the hard stuff in honesty when we are frightened of the ramifications of the results of the discussion?” How do you tell someone that you are leaving them in a way that is not harmful? How do you tell someone you do not feel in alignment with them to move forward in a relationship?

Now lying, of course, is not the appropriate way to be in discussion. The way to be in discussion always is from an awareness of the Divine Self within you and within the partner, or the person, or the friend, or whoever you are discussing this with. When you can move into truth at this level and witness the divine perfection in that one that you see before you, you can begin to engage them in a level of divine truth. And the ego, which is that aspect of the self that would control, gets bypassed.

You can be wonderfully honest in love and not in fear. This sounds hard, but in fact, the doing of it is very easy. “I am in my knowing. I am in my knowing of what is required of me in this conversation. I am in my knowing of my truth, and I am expressing my truth in ways that are loving and honest. And I am doing this with a true awareness of the requirements of the one I am discussing with. I am in my responsibility as I choose to discuss, to speak, to say what my heart requires.

That’s a nice way of avoiding a hard discussion. Imagine, that you have a husband who is leaving his wife for someone else. That’s an awful thing for people to go through. It’s painful, it’s disgusting in the emotional charge that can be released to the one being left. But there are ways of having this discussion as well that are high, and not about fear and not about release.

But if you can understand, please, that if there was deception in this relationship that supported the affair, then you have a big issue that has been undermined by a lie. So of course, if there had been honesty operating all the way through the system of the relationship up through the ending and dissolution of it, the issue would not be that awful. It would be understood. And both parties would have had the opportunities to be in their awareness, to be in their congruence with their knowing, and then make choices higher than they would have if the cat was let out of the bag a year into a process of deception of a mate. Do you understand the difference?

You are always trying to protect what you have, and sometimes the need to protect someone else’s feelings is extremely selfish. Now again we are not talking about a cruel discussion, it is overly blunt, but to tell the truth lovingly will support growth. To keep someone in a position of illusion, or of being disempowered in their own choices because they are being dealt with through deception, is much, much more difficult.

Now we will talk about something else for a minute. And this is about knowing in terms of who you are with.

Signals are being exchanged between two people in any interaction. And when one person is speaking their truth, and another person is navigating from a place of self-deception or deception of others, you have an incongruence in the merging of the energies.

If one person is saying, “I love you,” and another person is saying, “I love you too,” but really they want to run for the hills, that’s not a very healthy situation. If someone says, “I love you but . . .” and the “but” goes unexpressed, it’s going to create a new energy.

And this is an energy that will build until it is addressed directly. So the point we want to make right now is, how you learn to talk with your partner, with your friend, with those close to you must now be informed by the proposal we gift you with a statement to use….

“I am now choosing to stand in my knowing and to speak only truth in my interactions. I am now choosing to know my truth and to honor my truth in all of my relationships. I am no longer willing to compromise my integrity for the sake of making someone else feel safe in their illusions, or feel better about themselves at the cost of a truth that needs to be told. I am learning now to heal the requirement to engage in deception on any level that presents itself in my life, and I am doing this through this intention.”

The responsibility now becomes yours. And please understand that as you go about your business and you feel inclined to engage in old patterns of deception, whatever they may be, you will feel very, very uncomfortable. And this is the situation that causes it:

When you bring about new behavior of any kind, the habituated self, and the self that believes that she requires the behavior, go into response and attempt to hold at bay the change that you would incur through the decree you have stated.

If you have always gone fishing on Sundays, you are used to getting the rod out and going over to the water, and throwing the pole and the line in. You do this naturally. If suddenly on a Sunday you learned you had to do something different, your body and your system would still be attracted to the old. It self-identifies as the old, and it believes itself to know itself through its behavior.

We only mean to say that as you go forward and change, you will now have to deal with the consequences of those changes. When one decides that one is going to be in a relationship with someone and makes that decision in their truth, that truth will bring forth results.

There is always free will in relationships.

When parties come together and then they disassociate for whatever reasons when energy changes or requirements of energy change. So when you know yourself fully in your power, you can relearn how to be engaged in love with people who will support your frequency.

When someone holds you in love, they are holding you in a vision of themselves in perfection.

There is no harm in love. But you must understand, still, that people use the word “love” in very different ways. And there are people, still, who use the word to simply state affection or control. If you tell someone that you love them as a way of keeping them close, you are simply tying them to you for a reason that may be unconscious. When we say, “I am in love,” we are always speaking of this: “I am in the frequency of love, I am learning my love in frequency.” The lesson is to now disengage with the romantic belief in love as something that will call to you a certain kind of experience. That is an experience that is blessed, it can come, but if you narrow the scope and the frequency of love to a limitation, you will not be happy. How love comes in frequency is how love comes.

We will give you an example: If you are sitting on a hill, and you decide to call to your love, and you say “love,” you can claim love comes to you, and the form that it comes in will be the perfect form for you. You can call the love of an animal, or a friend, or a partner.

Now if you decide that what you really require to experience in love is mutual partnership, you can call that to you as well, but that is only one form that love takes. And to discount other forms of love that come when love is called, because it does not look right, or feel like, or seem like what you thought you wanted, actually creates a dam, and that dam blocks the love that would touch you at your heart in a real way.

So we say to you, all of you now who are desirous of romance, to release the structure of love as a paradigm that looks a certain way, to allow the water to flow, to be in the ocean of love as we stated, to merge with the frequency of it, and then to begin to align to the possibility that what you call to you will be in love, and what you ask for may be there already. You just have not been able to see it because you expected it to look a certain way.

The controls that you have and that have been placed on man are responsible for individual distortions.

Understand this, please… The child who has been raised in cruelty becomes cruel or becomes too afraid to operate in this world. And the reason the child was raised in cruelty had to do with someone else’s perception of control, or their requirements for releasing their rage upon someone else. All of these distortions that you have experienced in your own life were born out of control. Someone else’s fear. And fear is manifested through control, through action. And that has been what has distorted individual consciousness.

Now we have given you examples thus far in awareness about those things that present themselves in consciousness that serve as obstacles to your ability to perceive yourself as lovable. But we have not yet addressed your own resistance to standing in your love as the lover, as the one who benefits others through the responsibility and through the action of acting as love.

This is important. When you are love, when you are love incarnate, when you have manifested the self to the degree that we now say you are capable of and aligned to love, what you bring forth is the manifestation of love.

When people tell you they love you, they are probably saying they have a feeling for you, but they may be saying they love you, and if they are really saying it, they are holding you in love, they see you as love and they are love incarnate when they are doing that. When you love someone in a real way, you are incarnating as love. And the love bypasses judgment or criticism and there can be no fear in love.

And those that are with you, that are in your presence, will be activated frequency-wise in their vibration through this interaction. It cannot be otherwise. You are magnifying the frequency of love as embodied. And that impacts structures and energy frequency. Your emotions are ways that you know yourself. You know how you feel, and you consequently understand yourself based on those responses. And you have partially created your identity in your response to those feelings. “I feel really good when I do this, so I’m gonna do it some more” is actually a healthy response. So we are saying that your feelings are your allies. However, love is not a feeling. Love can be felt, but it is not a feeling. Love is a frequency. It is the action of God expressing himself through you as love. God’s love is unconditional. Understand this, please. It is unconditional. It is manifested as you, as an aspect of you, and if you want to believe that you can experience yourself as love, you can attune to it. But you have to do this through your intentions.

Again it is you attitude your outlook on life and your energy. We are not saying to ignore things and act like some doped-out 1960s hippie. But use common sense and stay true to yourself. Not thinking with the ego. You see how their own ego personal dreams control them. You develop boundaries and know who and what you see and can tolerate, not expecting perfectness, but not tolerating disrespect or non-loving actions.

Now the relinquishing of control of who you thought you were until this time is part of the passage that you are undergoing. The ego has an investment in running the show still, and your fear that you will not be taken care of by the light, by the Divine Self that you truly are, is what is keeping you at bay from full manifestation.

Now it’s not a simple thing. It’s not like you’re opening up a wad of bubble gum and there, underneath the paper, is the solution.

This is much more complex because the systems that the ego has created to define herself as the one in charge have surmounted those things that you can identify with as your True Self.

CHOICE

Willpower & Change

So the work you put in, finally, is about your responsibility to the choices that you would make as an operative in this frequency of love.

Aligning to it, which means becoming it, in congruence, in frequency, gifts you with the latitude you need to bring forth the response that is required of this work.

We talked about resistance to this, in the self, and where that resistance is born out of is what we would like to address now. We can call it the ego, or we can call it the lower self, or we can call it that aspect of the self that believes itself to be in full separation from Source and has done the best it has known how to do without the information it required to bring itself to a higher state of knowing.

All of those aspects of you are in alignment with the frequency of fear. What is fear? Fear is an eminent action of a lower frequency.

It is what it does, which is to maintain itself as the truth, as the ruler, as the systemized way of operating. Please understand that when we speak of a grid of light, or we talk about the planet transforming, what we are actually talking about is disassembling this matrix of lower frequency so that it cannot rule.

Cultural paradigms have been created throughout time to protect those things that could not be fully understood, or to explain things in ways that simple minds could understand and operate from. So no, we are not talking about

Satan, we are not talking about anything like that. We would not. It is not part of the construct that is taught. What we tell you, though, is that there is energy in the ego's lower frequency that seeks to dominate and seeks to hold, and this energy needs to be reformed and brought into the light.

When you release an aspect of the self that has been held in darkness, opening a closet, as it were, you liberate that energy, you liberate that darkness, and it is transformed by the light it is exposed to. When you bring forth the word of Love in frequency, it informs structures much in the same manner. You are turning the light on, and that which has been held in darkness is suddenly revealed for what it is: a simple creation of fear that is time to move on.

Now these things that you have invested in greatly as who you are or where you live in terms of your consciousness may not be very mobile. They are happily entrenched. If you can imagine a behavior pattern, for lack of a better word, that sits back in a reclining chair with its feet up because it has been so comfortable for so long in terms of running the show, you can imagine that it takes a lot of light to bring that up and to clear it.

In fact, once you can identify it as what it is, it loses eighty percent of its power. You see it as the imposter. “Oh my gosh, this thing that I’ve been operating from all this time is only a construct created by my beliefs that is operating with the sole purpose of sustaining itself and keeping me from my liberation.

This is not about abandoning the self that you are. It’s about reclaiming the self that you are. Love…

Now freedom as we speak of it begins in consciousness. Can you believe for a moment what it would feel like not to be frightened of anything? Can you imagine that for a moment? How amazing would that be?

The map is a funny one. The map does not look like a map, because the map is your consciousness. And while you would prefer a cookbook and a bunch of recipes that will tell you what the cake will be, we cannot give you that in those practical terms, quite simply, because you are the recipe, you are the ingredients, and you are the cake come into form in your majesty. And this happens through you individually as you attend to your knowing in consciousness. As you create in your knowing, what you bring forth is truth. That is lesson number one. As you create in your knowing, what you bring forth is truth.

Now the fear structures that have contained you are all about control, and as you know already, control is born out of fear. So how you begin to identify the fears that are in fact keeping you from your freedom is an exercise that we would like to take you in.

Now this is familiar to many people, but we will tell you this:

Becoming aware is a process.

And writing on a piece of paper everything that frightens you that you can imagine will be an exercise for you to see how much of your time and energy is invested in protecting yourself from fear or worrying about what could happen. So make the list. Let it be a long list. Let it include the silly things, the radical things, and the things that you might feel ashamed of. But then write it down and see it before you.

Now then, what you will do is you will look at it and see it for what it is: an out-picturing of your consciousness, a map of those things that are tethering you to fear.

Freedom, we will tell you, is freedom from fear. Understand this, please. Freedom is freedom from fear. When you are operating from your fear, you are not free. And ninety percent of how you operate is unconscious and much of it is motivated by fear.

Being who I really am.

Now we want to talk about prescribed behavior for a moment, and what is appropriate and what is inappropriate.

Take the example of the ideal of political correctness which was born out of a place of unity, but it has created division and it is being used again as a tool of separation. And language, we want to say to you, is one of your primary ways that you can transform. “If I am not inclusive in my language, I must be doing something wrong,” or “If I am oppressing someone through my language, I must be terrible.” Guess what, everyone?

Choose your words well.

When you are in consciousness, believe it or not, much of what you believe to be separation disappears automatically, and creating divisions based on political correctness that are about idealizing things can cause trouble.

An example:

Yesterday I spoke to a friend who said, “I hated that someone said that this was not an inclusive panel, and everyone on the panel got very frightened that they were not being inclusive in their language or in their gender, and in that moment began to shift into fear.”

Now we will tell you this:

When you are propagating fear, one of the easiest ways to do it is to tell someone that they are wrong. “You are wrong” immediately puts someone on the defensive. But wrong and right are divisions, and wrong and right behaviors are always systematized culturally. It is not wrong to eat the explorer in the Amazonian jungle where that is practiced. It’s very wrong to eat your neighbor in Manhattan. Do you understand the difference?

Now cannibalism is a bad example, but if you can look at cultural dictates and how they are prescribed from block to block, from neighborhood to neighborhood, from country to country, you can see that there are vast differences. “When in Rome do as the Romans,” is an example. The Romans used to feed the Christians to the lions. That is a funny example too in how much change occurs culturally over time. And what is appropriate one week, or one century, is vastly different than what is appropriate today. So your prescriptions for behavior are all based upon principles that are vastly changing and will continue to change.

The extent to which you do not perceive yourself to be at one with your brother or one with your sister is the extent to which you are perceiving yourself in separation. And this is the extent to which you have rules and parameters to shut you down from that knowing. “I am not allowed to smile at the woman on the bus; she might think I am doing something wrong.” “I am not able to laugh too loudly; they will think I am silly.” “I am not willing to raise my hand because people might laugh at me if I say the wrong thing.” “I am not willing to go to the dance; my clothes are not good enough, or someone might disapprove of the fact that I am clumsy on my feet.” “I will not go to the store and look at what’s in the window because I could never afford it and I would not be welcomed.” Do you see these things?

They’re all about control, they’re all about fear, they’re all about behavior, and they are all about prescriptions to cultural norms. You are free to be anywhere you want, you are free to laugh as loud as you need to, you are free to raise your hand and have an answer, “right” and “wrong” outside of math is always subjective, and you are allowed to be in your glory and in your magnificence as a Divine Being.

Self-identification as yourself at this level in your knowing is the job of the day.

You are one with the power and the frequency and the energy that created you, whether or not you believe it. You cannot be outside of God. However, you can hold your consciousness at a low frequency through wrong thinking, through wrong belief systems, or through a belief in damnation that will keep you out of the light. You cannot believe that you have been damned and not act as if it’s true. Guess what? It is not true. Nobody is outside of the light. They only believe they are. And that is man's great tragedy.

Reaching this frequency or attitude of love, by

The 4 agreements plus you need forgiveness if you feel they wronged you.

To hold this being in love does not require you to go out to dinner with them, nor make a phone call, nor to talk to them about what happened in the past to create the problems. You are working at a consciousness level to heal your relationship with this person on one level, but you are also blessing them in the frequency of Divine Love. By stating your intention of love…. “I am Word or Love through the one before me” assumes that they are moving through the energies and frequencies of Word. “I am Love through the one I see before me” brings the action of love, that aspect of the Creator that operates as love, through that being as well. You may feel this yourself as a warmth through your body. The energy of love feels warm and beautiful as experienced in frequency. And we are not talking about the love you feel from your boyfriend or your cat, but that feels warm, too. We are talking about the frequency of love that you attune to when you say, “I am love.” STATING “I am Love through the one before me” allows the love that is moving through you, that is as an aspect of the Creator incarnating as you, to be witnessed and expressed and received by the one you see before you. And if you have someone that you have had difficulties with, and you can truly experience them in love, “I am in love with this person,” you will then begin to feel the true gifts of the spiritual journey that you are on.

Earlier we said to you, if you could do this, many of your problems would vanish, and we are telling you that that is so. You say that you are love and then you understand that that is more than a concept, that it is not just an attitude, that it is way of being and operating in a frequency. And in a funny way, that then takes the responsibility away from you on ego level to be love because love is you. So in a funny way, you get out of the way enough to allow love to be love activating and operating and expressing itself through you in perfect ways

When you can achieve this level of consciousness, you can understand fully the level of manifestation that is yours, that is your heritage as a child of God. You are acting as the Creator, and you are loving as the Creator loves, without condition, you are love incarnate. “I love the man who hurt me” is not a personality construct. “I love the one who harmed my possessions,” “I love the one who left me behind” or “betrayed me” or “took my things.” You can do this through your consciousness. To love someone else in this way requires no return. It does not require beauty, it does not require action on their part, it does not require that you know them or have even heard of them. You can love someone on the other side of the planet as perfectly as you love your brother when you embark on this journey fully and in your awareness as a being of God's energy.

The miracle of this, in truth, is that you are beginning to see with eyes of Christ. You are beginning to see and experience the world with the wonder that you have acclimated to and the knowing that you have declared as your divine birthright. As you become love, you become in your awareness a vehicle for the higher frequencies to work with. And you will begin to find that you are led and directed and supported in those things that you need to do to support you, and this wonderful work will be made clear to you.

Telsa 3-6-9

When you tune to these frequencies:

1296Hz activates your Oversoul impulse

2592Hz harmonizes your field (and reveals distortions)

3888Hz seals the loop, completes the spiral, and returns you to Source integrity

Improving and practicing your MIND & HEART PILLARS— prayer, belief, choice, and love.

These simple applications can make a world of difference in the quality of life we will experience.

The Frequency of Love

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Human desire has the strongest and highest electricity, metaphysically speaking, which is available on the planet Earth at this time. Desire with the feelings attached….

“To become a master of our emotions, thoughts, and feelings” (which is how we master our energy, which is how we master our environment, which is how we master our destiny.)

It’s your attitude, stupid! Your energy…..

Read the Untethered Soul

Apply the 4 Agreements with the their respective perspectives/dialog to see how these assist you.

The Real Mind, The Heart Mind

Consciousness and mind are not the same. The truth about beauty is that it comes from consciousness, not the mind. When we look at beauty through the mind, the mind begins to dissect it, to analyze it, and — worse still — to acclimate to it. You could have the most beautiful woman in the world at your side, but sooner or later she will be just normal to you if you are looking at her only through the mind. The mind will find a way to sap the magic out of everything if you feed it. God's mind is consciousness. Connect to this energy source, not your conscious self…

Everything is accomplished through life, and life is of the mind and in the mind. The body neither lives nor dies because it cannot contain you who are life. If we share the same mind, you can overcome death because I did. (Holy Ghost) Death is an attempt to resolve conflict by not deciding at all. Like any other impossible solution the ego attempts, it will not work. Only the mind is real because only the mind can be shared. The body is separate, and therefore cannot be part of you. To be of one mind is meaningful, but to be one body is meaningless. By the laws of mind, then, the body is meaningless.

While we are saying mind, Mind is not the physical brain.

[Mind is the heart mind, your soul. The Holy Spirit, which is the connection to God's energy of love and all his creations.] Consciousness more precisely the subconscious, (as a pure energy being both are combined.)

True learning is constant, and so vital in its power for change that a Son of God can recognize his power in one instant and change the world in the next. That is because, by changing his mind, he has changed the most powerful device that was ever given to him for change. This in no way contradicts the changelessness of mind as God created it, but you think that you have changed it as long as you learn through the ego. This places you in a position of needing to learn a lesson that seems contradictory;–you must learn to change your mind about your mind. Only by this can you learn that it is changeless.

The Holy Spirit is in the part of the mind that lies between the ego and the spirit, mediating between them always in favor of the spirit. To the ego this is partiality, and it responds as if it were being sided against. To spirit this is truth because it knows its fullness and cannot conceive of any part from which it is excluded.

Spirit knows that the awareness of all its brothers is included in its own, as it is included in God. The power of the whole Sonship and its Creator is therefore spirit’s own fullness, rendering its creations equally whole and equal in perfection. The ego cannot prevail against a totality that includes God, and any totality must include God. Everything He created is given all His power because it is part of Him and shares His Being with Him. Creating is the opposite of loss, as blessing is the opposite of sacrifice. Being must be extended. That is how it retains the knowledge of itself. Spirit yearns to share its being as its Creator did. Created by sharing, its will is to create. It does not wish to contain God, but wills to extend His Being.

The extension of God’s Being is spirit’s only function. Its fullness cannot be contained, any more than can the fullness of its Creator. Fullness is an extension.

There cannot be a thought that does not also contain feeling

The creation is consciousness, and that consciousness is pure emotional intellect. Infinite intelligence expresses itself within humans as a deep and abiding emotion.

This is not to be confused with the body’s emotions. While emotions are not the correct way to describe God's original energy thought and what we basically are, it’s as close as we can come to using language to communicate.

• We speak of a love that is beyond all of the boundaries and limits of human feeling.

• We speak of love that creates and destroys.

• We speak of love that changes things.

If you can imagine a Thought that has the power to create the universe, then in your imagination you have seen love in its full meaning.

To call the Creator love, however, is to limit that entity, for the creative principle is a mystery beyond the plumbing of any, including ourselves.

For emotion to be considered the deeper intelligence, a new concept must be created, a word that is not within our working language

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Mastery has 3 Stages:

being

Knowing

doing

To indicate not the emotion of the easy joys and the easy sorrows but those emotions which move deeply within the roots of the mind, moved by the tides of many, many past experiences and choices made, moved by the guidance of whatever you wish to call that spirit that comforts and supports when all of humankind seems to have failed you.

The primal energy of love of all that is is emotion, the deepest intelligence of all, infinite, without flaw, without distortion, the carrier wave of consciousness.

Thus, as one feels love pouring through one, one is fulfilling one’s fundamental and major mission upon our Earth sphere, and that is to be a radiant being, a light to many, not by action, but by the vital energy, the sweetness of soul, and the desires and expressions of love which move through the one (seeker) who has opened the door to deep emotion.

What is the function of God's energy? It is intelligence that produces profound and fundamental transformation. Only the heart, when released from stricture, may do so. The approach of intellect, the approach from the outside in, the approach of believing this or that, is most frequently fruitless.

It is the opening of oneself to free-floating and abstract faith, the faith that all is as it was planned to be, the faith that that which was planned is helpful and full of love.

Gut instinct, the inner heart, and what others call the prompting of the still, small voice within, the higher self, or by whatever name you choose to relate itself to a wider, wiser intelligence. This intelligence is God's original thought.

Thought combined with the desire of the inner self or soul. This is what the veil is hiding. This is what we automatically are when not residing in this temporary body. In our original state, we are this consciousness of pure love.

Each of you is unique, and the emotions that are your deeper intelligence are unique to you, their balance is unique to you, and the fruit of that balance in service is unique to you. Thus, one should establish a great respect for the intuition that is the essence of our human intelligence.

Forgiveness is an emotion, not a mental process, and it is the key to the advancement of the self.

As you wish to love each other, know that the universe is, in essence, an emotional intelligence. It is consciousness. Consciousness does not necessarily think. Consciousness allows Itself to avail Itself of that infinite source of information within. It is in this way that you are attempting through the balancing of the day’s extreme emotions, to give to yourself that which cannot be done without some aid.

There is, for instance, no possibility of a person being able to cogitate, ruminate, ideate, and manifest love. Indeed, it is possible for such a person to manifest a universal and very real compassion, but love engages being, love sets on fire the desire to help, love causes soil of the heart to become fallow, that seeds may spring therein which flower out into the tree of manifestation of love with its many blossoms, its beautiful aroma, and its faithful use.

More and more, as you realize, recognize, and respect your inner wisdom as a portion of the creation, as you continue to meditate faithfully, then you may be undisturbed, insofar as it is possible, by the painfulness of change.

✅ What is the purpose of this deep unseen power? The purpose of God's energy that flows within is to engage the mind, the heart, and the soul of the person who seeks it so that it becomes more and more aware of the depth and breadth of each present moment and the possibilities for loving within each moment.

Needless to say, this is not the clinging, dependent [type of] love.

The universe itself is an emotional intelligence beyond words, it is consciousness, and it is love. Each of you will go through many definitions of the word, love, as you experience various facets of conditional and unconditional love.

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Love is a frequency. When you think of love, you invest in the frequency that can then transform your feelings because the feeling of love that you might think is a feeling is the expression of love through you.

When you are experiencing love, the frequency of love is you. Because you identify through feelings you assume love is a feeling. But love is not a feeling. Love overrides feelings because it is an active expression of God operating as and through you. So as you align to the frequency of love, you call to love. You become love and fear is defeated by the light.

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Silent knowledge is the deep, innate wisdom that is in all things. It comes from the interconnectedness of all beings and creatures. It is the wisdom of the universe.

Silent knowledge never carries the energy of hate, resentment, or revenge. If any message you get originates from this type of energy, then you know that this is not silent knowledge, but coming out of the mind's addiction to suffering instead.

Another means for accessing silent knowledge is to pay attention to your emotions. When it comes to making decisions, our emotions can sometimes be better indicators than our discerning minds. For instance, let's say you are trying to decide a situation and one choice may seem correct logically, but you have a nagging feeling that something isn't right. Let's say you've been offered a new job with better pay, but when you visit with your potential employer, you get a negative vibe inside that you can't explain. Rather than dismiss those sensations, it would be wise to recognize them as clues from the realm of silent knowledge. This doesn't necessarily mean the answer is a “no” and you shouldn't take the job, but rather that you should do more investigating before making a final decision.

Your goal and it is a difficult one, is to use the deep wisdom of the intuition and choice-making nature of the intellect in harmony to move in the direction that you and the Creator have set for yourself this day.

In that regard, we would say that it is not well to create in the mind that which one desires unless one is sure that one desires it and will never regret having it.

For your thoughts are powerful things. And as you gain in power as a being you are ever more capable of creating metaphysical hurt or healing by the thoughts that you think. Therefore, we ask you to be aware of your thoughts and to patrol them with love and compassion. And when you find yourself being cynical, petty, judgmental, or foolish—and we will allow that word to be what it means to each of you—we ask you to remember that one of the things you came here to do was vigorously and relentlessly to go after consciousness itself and find ever more fully that joy that comes from knowing who you are and why you are here.

You are the force that plays with your mind and uses your body as its favorite toy to play and have fun with. That is the reason you are here: to play and have fun. We are born with the right to be happy, with the right to enjoy life.

How can knowledge, knowing—which is consciousness—be unfeeling? Even unfeeling knowing, what you call in this era “intellectual knowledge,” must have a feeling content.

Every moment of your life, consciously or unconsciously, you are assuming a feeling. You can no more avoid assuming a feeling than you can avoid eating and drinking. All you can do is control the nature of your assumptions.

The power of choosing which thought to think in itself stems from strong energy movements and results in effect.

So, consciousness is always a feeling, an energy manifestation, whether or not you are aware of it.

*Therefore consciousness must be one with energy

The implications of E=mc2 are profound. For centuries, scientists have considered energy and mass to be completely distinct and unrelated to each other.

Einstein showed that in fact, energy and mass are different forms of the same thing. Einstein himself was surprised by the finding, calling it "amusing and enticing" and wondered "whether the Lord is laughing at it and has played a trick on me."

It shows us that matter and energy are one.

Just as energy does not energize mass but is mass (or energy in form), so in our science there is considered to be no difference between the thought and the thing thought of or about. One becomes the other.

However, we must realize that back of all forms or at the center of all creation there must be a Divine Pattern which is the Reality of that thing.

What we change is not the Reality but our perception of it

The only way to enhance one’s power in the world is by increasing one’s integrity, understanding, and capacity for compassion. Compassion is the doorway to Grace, to the final realization of who we are and why we are here, and the ultimate source of all existence.

One truth is

You only have control over three things in your life

1. the thoughts you think,

2. the images you visualize, and

3. the actions you take.

Love is an act of will—namely, both an intention and an action. Or willingness. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love.

The Mastery of Love, Intent, or Life

Intention: [energy or consciousness] Every thought, every, idea, every reason, and desire should be based only on the knowledge of goodness & love [from within].

God's main ingredient is acted on by our thought and free will, producing acts in service to self(ego) or making the choice to multiply the output of energy more towards service to others.

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There cannot be proper circulation in the mental body unless the spiritual body, to which the mental is attached, circulates through the mental;

That we cannot even be physically whole until there is a

1. circulation of the spirit through the mind, and

2. the mind through the body.

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If you can gaze at the scope of your life experience, you can see a definite progression and coherent trail of emotions that are difficult and wonderful. Both kinds of emotions have cropped up within the life experience in response to the difficulties and challenges of the incarnation and in response to the gifts and joys that are spontaneously given to the heart, whether it be the song of a bird, the smile of a child, a thought that is read in a favorite book or any other thing which has enlarged joy and encouraged faith within you as a spiritual seeker. For the most part, it may well seem that the difficult emotions—anger, guilt, remorse, fear, grief, jealousy, pride, alienation—are very much in the majority and that the joyful emotions are given out with the miser’s hand. And, indeed, this seems unfair. What is the justification for the surfeit of suffering that each awakening spiritual seeker seems to face?

Life is energy. Progress within life is a shift in energies. Everything that you do and everything that you think creates a certain vibrational energy, and the summation of all of these processes of energy changes and exchanges within your life represents an energy system or field that has a certain strength.

To an awakened seeker who is pursuing the way of wisdom, these energies move spontaneously and the seeker’s goal is, more or less, to allow them to proceed. This allows the seeker to remain relatively peaceful and comfortable. However, this also creates stiffness and resistance within the process of transformation, and this is where we get into what emotions are.

If the way of wisdom contains a linear structure so that one can follow one’s processes and talk logically about them, it also holds the energy within the higher chakras or energy centers.

Working with wisdom is not working with [the]heart [energy center] or with the lower energies but, rather, largely, the indigo-ray, and to some extent, the blue-ray energy centers.

While it is good to do work in consciousness in this manner it is also somewhat imbalanced because there is no encouragement of the flow of energy through the system but, rather, the holding of energy in the higher chakras.

Conversely, when one is working in the way of the open heart one is constantly faced with the entire spectrum of self, from the lowest and most primitive emotion, the desire for survival, the desire for sexual reproduction, the desire for food and safety, upwards throughout the system, touching all of the energy centers, rising as high as indigo ray, but again and again springboarding from the heart. So that instead of the seeker moving into and maintaining a steady state of reliance on the higher chakras, the seeker in the way of love has released the preference for work in the higher energy centers and has accepted the self as a full energy system and reconfigured the goal from staying in the higher energies to accelerating the flow of energy throughout the entire system. Instead of a safe but somewhat turgid and slow-moving path of energy refinement, the brothers and sisters of the open heart are attempting to take the whole self as it is and, through blind faith alone and the processes of self-acceptance and self-forgiveness, blessing, forgiving, redeeming, transforming and offering every emotion and sensation to the one infinite Creator.

This invigorates, energizes, and enlivens the entire system. It is as if the owner of an automobile began running the engine through its paces in such a way that it began to burn off the carbon from the valves. The way of wisdom collects detritus, shall we say, the carbon on the valves that is not easily dealt with by the way of wisdom. The way of love is a rough and tumble way in comparison, but it also is the faster and cleaner way to use the energy system of the body, mind, and spirit. For the emotions that are the responses to catalyst are the shadows, symbols, or increasingly as one progresses, the essence of deep and purified rivers of energy that abide within what your psychologists would call the unconscious mind. At the roots of consciousness lie rivers of purified emotion that are as gems, perfectly and regularly refracting from the white light of unlimited energy the colorations of energy which are called emotion, express essences that the Creator has previously learned about Itself. These essences are as great truths into which the seeker taps, however imperfectly and however distortedly, as it moves through catalyst and encounters difficulties and meets challenges.

Each has felt those moments when a tiny thing triggered a massive flood of emotion. And when this occurs it is an excellent signal from the self to the self that here is a gift that is imperfectly seen, perhaps, but that is real. This moves into the experience as a done thing, as something that is felt, not created.

Emotions are messages from the unconscious or deeper self to the conscious self.

Now, there are various levels of messages and various layers of emotions. It is not a simple practice to enter into one’s emotions and to attempt to come into a deeper understanding of the heart of those emotions, not simply what triggered the emotion, but what kind of emotion it essentially is and what challenges it represents. In this wise, it is often helpful to think of the centers of energy within the physical body, for difficult emotions often can be placed within certain energy centers and can be seen as messages expressing to the heart the need for working with those aspects of those emotions which are disturbing in such a way as to be able to balance and clarify those feelings. For there is a deeper truth within each emotion. The key to working on emotions is to realize the seat of emotion, shall we say, as being the green-ray energy center or heart chakra.

If one attempts to work with blocked and negative emotions from the energy in which they originate without moving into the heart chakra there is little chance or opportunity for self-forgiveness.

Therefore, while it is very important to assess and evaluate such negative emotions as probably stemming from certain energy centers it is well to model the working with these essential and energetic nexi which are emotions with the model of keeping the energy in flow, moving again and again into the heart chakra and resting in that primary emotion which is called faith.

There is a deep well of emotion whose basic goal is to move all entities into unconditional love. It is towards unconditional love that the path of your spiritual evolution is irresistibly moving. This unconditional love is the most universal and powerful emotion and, indeed, is all that there is. In other words, the Logos Itself, the one great original Thought, is a purified emotion. It is not a thought precisely. A thought is linear. An emotion is global, universal, round, three-dimensional. It does not climb. It rolls. It does not fall. It continues to roll. Nothing can knock out the force of emotion. Indeed, it is that to which each must come to be able to graduate into the density of love which is your next experience.

Consequently, it is simply more efficient to choose the way of the heart, in our opinion, and to see the goal, when working with difficulty, [to lie] not in achieving happiness, peace, or contentment, but rather, simply in continuing to accelerate the pace of spiritual and mental evolution.

The energy of the open heart is open-ended. It does not attach [itself to] an outcome. It simply seeks greater openness of self and a greater ability to allow these rising emotions to do the work of the refiner’s fire. The seeker who has faith in the way of love has faith that no matter what comes she will be able to survive it. No matter how much various difficulties cause suffering and pain she will be able to use those difficulties to refine those rivers of emotion that are rising to consciousness.

It is a bumpier and rougher ride to seek the way of the open heart than to seek the way of wisdom. It is a way that invokes faith without proof, reason, or logic. There is no attempt to justify hardship, but neither is there an attempt to disempower hardship by rising above it. Rather, the way of the open heart is the way of vulnerability, of remaining open and weak in the face of strong and sometimes painful feelings. And, yet, because it sees the whole of imperfect selfhood as a beautiful and perfect thing in all its paradox, it is the wiser path for your density. There is time enough to learn wisdom once you have learned to love fearlessly and to meet each moment with an open and unguarded heart.

Everyone has experienced two pure emotions that they consciously know of: grief and love. Neither experience shall ever be forgotten. When the seeker touches the heart of an emotion and it resonates purely, it is a life-changing event. Never again will grief lay waste to this instrument as it did before it experienced pure grief. And we might say that this is so for each shade of emotion, each tributary of each river of purified essence.

When each of you staggers under a load of difficult emotion, we can only ask you to think about what you believe to be true about your incarnational experience. If you believe that your life makes sense, and this we truly believe is so, then you can see that each difficult emotion is a gift from the self to the self of the truth of what that self is processing at the moment and of its relationship to the deeper truths within. If the seeker can believe that life makes sense, then that faith can be called upon, that faith that says, “My life does make sense. These difficulties have a reason for being there. They are my way of learning past this moment.” Then the seeker has a reason to work with these challenging feelings, to allow and even to encourage their movement through the energy system.

It may help, as it does this instrument, to think of the heart as a seat which contains deity so that there is, in emotions brought to the heart, a place where they can be laid [down] and given away to the one infinite Creator. Many times emotions are overpowering and there is no way to do anything with them except to offer them up. But if they are offered up in faith, this, too, is working with emotions in the heart center and is part of work well done.

For all does come from love. All exist in love. All is pointed towards love. The examined life is that life that can get a glimpse of this truth from time to time in the process of examining, balancing, and accepting each emotion as it moves through your being and points towards each heart.

When you ask questions in love, when you make a claim in love, when you choose in love, you claim love. It is always the answer. To know the self in love is indeed to know the self in alignment with the truth of your being. When you have a vendetta, when you seek an action against another, you are always in a low vibrational field, and the claims of justice made in such a way perpetuate a low alignment. This is true in a culture, a civilization, and, yes, at the cost of the Divine that would now be seen.

When you perceive injustice, or you perceive someone acting in fear, you must begin to see it as an opportunity to know the truth in the face of the lie that is being perpetuated by the one acting in fear. The one acting in fear has lost her mind, has lost his sense of self, or alignment to love and truth, and to reconcile them is to be as love in deep forgiveness for what an imagined wrong might be. Now, we said imagined wrong intentionally. The imagination will conjure anything, and even your idea of justice is born with a misconception of right and wrong. Indeed, ownership itself, as you prescribe meaning to it, is an illusion. The bodies you have, while yours to care for, are not your bodies. They are of God. The air is of God, and the property you think you own is of God. When this is fully understood, the walls will come tumbling.

To embody love is to be loved in transmission, and the acclimation to love that you undergo is an acclimation to a province that few have truly known. To become as love is to reside in the vibration of truth.

Because emotion itself is enormously valuable. As you can purify the emotions of anger, love, discouragement, despair, grief, jealousy, and so forth, you begin to enter archetypal rivers that flow deep within your mind, taking you to truer and truer places within your being and to places where power is gathered as water is gathered into a cistern.

You can blunt your emotions by holding on to patterns and creations in your life into which you have poured energy, time, talent, and will previously. Therefore, emotion itself is something to be examined, just as you intellectually examine your abstract thoughts.

Allow your heart to examine the quality and the shape of your emotions. See what you can do to get past the cyclical ups and downs of your personality so that that which drives you emotionally is as stable and as true to yourself as your ideals.

What you focus on in your intention, regardless of the emotional impact you imagine you are creating, is impacted by your focus. That is clear. “If I am focusing on something with the intention to be angry, the subject of my focus is changed and is altered by the frequency of my intention.” That is a clear ideal that you must begin to understand as you evolve in your own frequency.

Energy interacts with other energies, and as you energize an emotion and you send it out, you are impacting that thing which you are intending. We will say that this is done intentionally and unconsciously, depending on where you are operating from in your awareness of your surroundings and your interactions with those you encounter. You can be passive or active, but you are still projecting your emotion on the object you focus on.

Now if you are operating at a high frequency and someone is sending you negativity, believe it or not, you will not be in congruence with it. It cannot hurt you because you are aligned at a higher frequency that will not accept a distortion of frequency at a lower objectification in energy. So this is very simply understood to say that when we say, “Love cannot be distorted,” we are saying love, in its truth, is a high frequency, and the high frequency will ennoble itself to support a system from negativity.

Now the individual who sends the energy and the frequency of love to that which is before her is, of course, benefiting the subject of her focus through this intention. Now this has always been the case and, to an extent, what we are saying now is an explanation of what has always happened in your experiences, but you have not been given language for it. As you are loved by someone in a true way, you are healed by them, and this has always been the case.

When you love someone from an objectification and a support in love as “I am seeing the one before me as love. ”That person is changed through frequency. Now we will give you simple examples so that you can understand what we mean. When you have a toy and you are young and you invest that toy with love, the toy becomes different. It has endowed properties in your imagination because you have embedded it in the frequency of love. When you have a person in your life who is operating in frequency who you are in love with—and we will say “in love” not in a romantic way, but in a way that is about frequency and an intention to love—you understand that that person may be transformed through this exchange.

Now when you have an object that you are endowing with love, the object transforms. You give it value; you give it the responsibility of your creation to be in love with it. Now you can do this with your pet, with anything you choose to state, “I am in love.” But you understand that how you have identified love in the past—as an idealized directive that you would gift yourself with—has very little to do with the actuality of love.

If you can understand that on a very basic level, that in a true vibrational sense is the action of love transforming matter and you can begin to understand how people can be realigned through the focus of love.

“I am in my love.” This is a simple statement. To state that you are in your love activates you as your frequency in the field of love. “I am in love” states that you are in the frequency of love. Well, we are speaking on a frequency level. And you are looking to have an emotional response that is familiar to you through the description of love that you have imagined it should feel like. You won’t feel it.

When an individual states, “I am in love, I am in my love,” the individual is activating oneself as frequency, and the object of that frequency is to do it, to be in the frequency and action of love. As this happens, what the manifestations are in that individual’s world begin to support the frequency that she is. “I can be in my love and I can have an experience in love, in my experience of myself in action in my world.” Period.

LOVE

With experience and consciousness, you can understand that stating “I am in my love” will do something very similar in frequency. Now we want to describe what love is in a way that you can hear and work with.

The energy of love is uncompromised by love, as love, in love, and is the action of the Creator in this frequency. The energy of love is uncompromised by love, as love, in love, and is the action of the Creator in this frequency. Were you expecting a Hallmark card, a saying: “Love is a tenderness.” Love is not a tenderness. Love is a frequency that only knows itself in love. And as it is in love, what it creates is more love. Now you have an imagination that we would like to use for a moment to set this up for you in a way that you can begin to hold. If you can idealize love outside of a valentine to be an ocean, a veritable ocean of wonder, and goodness, of clarity, and of perfect union with the aspect of God that is goodness, you can begin to get a semblance of what we mean by the action of love. And what we are saying to you is your aspect, individualized as love, is in the ocean and creating through that wonder, through that frequency that is God in perfect compassion and love.

I will say this again. You have made love small. You have made love an ideal that is stuffed with candy and rests in a box. You have made love a discerning issue. “I will give my love to this guy because he’s got what I want,” or “I will give my love to my child because my child deserves my love,” or “I will love the couch I just bought because it’s a great couch,” or “I will love my job because if I don’t, somebody else is gonna take it from me.”

Guess what, everybody? None of that, in truth, is love. They are all aspects of ego seeking to control or to dictate a frequency that, in truth, cannot be dictated. You can no longer create love from a cookie cutter that excludes the fabric that is around it. You can no longer love John and not love Fred. You can no longer love Frances and hold Jonathan outside of love. You can no longer hold your culture in love while claiming that another culture cannot be in love because you disapprove of their actions. You cannot do this, anymore.

The decision to love, to be in the action of love, in the truth of love as the water, as the ocean, as an aspect of that frequency and the conduit of it realized in form, is the manifestation of Christ's consciousness.

If you can understand, that what you are truly doing is embodying Source and acting as Source in the action of love, you will understand that you are indeed a vessel. And the love that flows through you cannot be contained by a seal, by a decision, by a mandate that anything or anyone is excluded. If you exclude this frequency, you turn the faucet off, and you put yourself, ultimately, in a kind of separation from the frequency that is, in fact, ever-present and always there. We are speaking of an ocean of love that is present now and, in a lot of ways, the work that we do with you is to unblock, un-create the resistance to aligning to that frequency once again to remember who you are as an aspect of the Creator. When you work in love, what is changed is the frequency of your energies. The energies that you operate from design themselves, and redesign themselves, based on your consciousness.

Closing your heart

What is it about the structure of the heart center that permits it to close? What you will find is that the heart closes because it becomes blocked by stored, unfinished energy patterns from your past. You need only examine your everyday experiences to understand this. As events take place in this world, they come in through your senses and have an impact on your inner state of being. The experience of these events may bring up some fear, some anxiety, or maybe some love. Different experiences happen inside because of how you take in and digest the world as it passes through you. When you take in the world through your senses, it is energy that is coming into your being. The form itself does not come into your mind or heart. The form stays outside, but it is processed by your senses into energy patterns that your mind and heart can receive and experience. Science explains this sensory process to us. Your eyes are not windows through which you look out into the world. Your eyes are cameras that send electronic images of the world to you. This is true of all your senses. They sense the world, convert the information, transmit the data through electrical nerve impulses, and then the impressions get rendered in your mind. Your senses are, indeed, electronic sensing devices. But if the energy patterns that are coming into your psyche create disturbance, you will resist them and not allow them to pass through you. When you do this, the energy patterns get blocked within you.

This is very important. To better understand what it’s like to have these energies stored within you, let’s first examine what it would be like if nothing was stored. What if everything just passed right through you? For example, when you’re driving down a highway, you probably pass thousands of trees. They don’t leave impressions on you. They’re gone as soon as they’re perceived. While you’re driving you see trees, you see buildings, you see cars, and none of these make lasting impressions on you. There’s just a momentary impression that allows you to see them. Though they do come in through the senses and make impressions upon your mind, as quickly as the impressions are made, they are released. When you have no personal issues with them, impressions process freely. This is how the overall system of perception is meant to work. It’s meant to take things in, allow you to experience them, and then let them pass through so that you’re fully present in the next moment. While this system is in a working, operative state, you are fine and it is fine. You’re simply having experience after experience. Driving is an experience, trees passing by are an experience, and cars passing by are an experience. These experiences are gifts that are being given to you, like a great movie. They are passing into you, awakening and stimulating you. They are having a profound effect on you. Moment after moment, experiences are coming in and you’re learning and growing. Your heart and mind are expanding and you are being touched at a very deep level. If experience is the best teacher, there’s nothing that comes close to the experience of life.

What it means to live life is to experience the moment that is passing through you, and then experience the next moment, and then the next. Many different experiences will come in and pass through you. It’s a phenomenal system when it is working properly. If you could live in that state, you would be a fully aware being. That is how an awakened being lives in the “now.” They are present, life is present, and the wholeness of life is passing through them. Imagine if you were so fully present during each experience of life that it was touching you to the depth of your being. Every moment would be a stimulating, moving experience because you would be completely open, and life would be flowing right through you. But that’s not what happens inside most of us. Instead, it’s more like you’re driving down the street, here come the trees, here come the cars, and it’s all passing right through you with no trouble.

Then, inevitably, something comes in that doesn’t make it through. There was this one car, a light blue Ford Mustang, that looked like your girlfriend’s car. But as it passed by, you noticed two people hugging in the front seat. At least it looked like they were hugging, and it sure looked like your girlfriend’s car. But it was a car just like all the other cars, wasn’t it? No. It wasn’t just like all the other cars to you. Let’s look carefully at what happened. Surely for the camera of the eyes, there’s no difference between that car and the others. There’s light bouncing off of objects, passing through your retina, and making a visual impression on your mind. So at the physical level, nothing different is going on. But at the mental level, the impression didn’t make it through. When the next moment comes, you no longer notice the rest of the trees. You’re not seeing the rest of the cars. Your heart and mind are fixated on that one car, even though it’s gone. You’ve got yourself a problem here. There’s a blockage, an event that got stuck. All the subsequent experiences are trying to pass through you, but something has happened inside that has left this past experience unfinished. What happens to that experience that didn’t make it through? Specifically, what happens to the image of the girlfriend’s car if it doesn’t just fade away into deep memory like everything else? At some point, you’ll have to stop focusing on it to deal with something else—like the next stoplight. What you don’t realize is that your entire experience of life is about to change because of what didn’t make it through you. Life must now compete with this blocked event for your attention, and the impression does not just sit in there quietly. You will see that you tend to think about it constantly. This is all in an attempt to find a way to process it through your mind. You didn’t need to process the trees, but you need to process this. Because you resisted, it got stuck, and now you have a problem. You see the thoughts start up: “Well, maybe it wasn’t her. Of course, it wasn’t her. How could that possibly have been?” Thought after thought goes on inside. It drives you crazy in there. All that inner noise is just your attempt to process the blocked energy and get it out of the way. Long term, the energy patterns that cannot make it through you are pushed out of the forefront of the mind and held until you are prepared to release them. These energy patterns, which hold tremendous detail about the events associated with them, are real. They don’t just disappear. When you are unable to allow life’s events to pass through you, they stay inside and become a problem. These patterns may be held within you for a very long time. It is not easy to keep energy together in one place for long. As you willfully struggle to keep these events from passing through your consciousness, the energy first tries to release by manifesting through the mind. This is why the mind becomes so active. When the energy can’t make it through the mind because of conflicts with other thoughts and mental concepts, it then tries to release through the heart. That is what creates all the emotional activity. When you resist even that release, the energy gets packed up and forced into deep storage within the heart. In the yogic tradition, that unfinished energy pattern is called a Samskara. This is a Sanskrit word meaning “impression,” and in the yogic teachings, it is considered one of the most important influences affecting your life. A Samskara is a blockage, an impression from the past. It’s an unfinished energy pattern that ends up running your life.

Self Love

Not to love the self is an act of selfishness. Period. It is an act of selfishness because you have decided on some level that the self that you are is not worthy of love. And frankly, who are you to decide that, in truth? It makes you God. And as we said to you earlier, the aspect of you that is God is part of the larger Source.

But to differentiate yourself by saying, “I don’t deserve love,” is saying what you said to your neighbor who you don’t feel deserves love, either. And as we explained already, the object of that is to turn off the faucet so that the love does not flow. You are keeping yourself out through a decision, a false belief that you are not worthy and that you are so terrible, or so changed by your experience on this plane, that God could not work through you.

Now this is true for everybody who has decided, for whatever reasons, that they cannot be in love, that they cannot be blessed, and that they cannot be aligned in truth to the Creator. We have some news for you now. We said it was selfish, and that is accurate. But you have to understand that it is a motivation of fear that keeps you in this belief in your separation from Source.

And whatever it is, be it guilt, be it a belief in unworthiness, be it a belief in past patterning or cultural dictates that say “Because you are this kind of person, you could not be in love,” you have to understand that this is all fear being created to stop you from your realization of yourself in Christ, in Divine Love, in the movement and in the action of the Creative Self that is inheriting the kingdom through this choice to embody.

So we go back to our original ideal: Once you have the faucet on, you are in your energized state and you are operating from this aspect of the self as and through love to transform and recreate that which you see before you in frequency. We said you would be winning the prize with this one, and you will be. You will begin to identify yourself through your discernment, as you understand it, that you are an aspect of the Creator in love and honestly expressing herself, himself, as this frequency. The action of love in this life to become itself and to be realized on this plane is long overdue. It is being done always, and many walk around in their ability to recruit others into their frequency because their love is that powerful. When you seek to be in love, you have to believe that the worth is present, that your alignment is present, and that that which keeps you from your alignment will be revealed to you to release it in fullness.

Now once you are no longer operating as fear and you are operating as love, what you act on transforms. You are no longer acting on selfishness because selfishness is entirely born out of fear and the fear in lack that there will not be enough for you, so you have to shield or horde your life, your goods, your love, and your energies and your intentions.

Once that is gone, you become infinitely available as a tool, as a symbol of the action of Christ embodied and doing the work as love.

Now we are not talking about “symbol” in an iconic way, we are talking about frequency and consciousness. And what we say is, that your energy system in its amplification as love brings about that which it requires in order to do what it needs for the highest good of all. Period.

It demands that you become the self that you truly are. And how that self realizes herself in regard to the self’s mission and purpose in this life.

✅ Changing Frequency

You must understand and have the realization that everything you choose, by agreement or by vibratory accord, is made manifest in this field, this collective field that you share.

❤️The brain is the center of consciousness and awareness,

the heart—the center of oneness, wholeness, and our connection to the unified field—has its brain.

People can regulate their internal states of care, kindness, peace, love, gratitude, thankfulness, and appreciation, as their hearts become more coherent and balanced, they send a very strong signal to the brain, causing the brain to become more coherent and balanced.

This is because the heart and the brain are in continuous communication with each other. The heart sends more information to the brain than the brain sends to the heart, the more coherence you can achieve through the elevated emotions of the heart, the more the brain and the heart synchronize. This synchronization produces measurable effects not only within the body but also the electromagnetic field surrounding the body—and the bigger the field we produce around our body, the more we can affect others in a nonlocal way. An invisible field exists upon which information is communicated.

This field links and influences all living systems, as well as our collective human consciousness. Because of this field, information is communicated nonlocally between people at a subconscious level through the autonomic nervous system.

In other words, we are bound and connected by an invisible field of energy, and this energy field can affect everyone’s behaviors, emotional states, and conscious and unconscious thoughts. Because all frequency carries information, the magnetic fields produced in the hearts of the body act as carrier waves for this information.

When you are in energetic accord to those things—a-c-c-o-r-d, a-c-h-o-r-d as on a piano—and, because you are in accord, what you claim is operating in coherence, in some way, with what you have chosen to experience or learn. Now, if you understand that opportunity comes in very different ways, that every opportunity may not look like one, but is the gift of progression, you will begin to perceive your life in some ways as a series or sequence of opportunities.

If you dismantle the structure of the small self—and by this we simply mean understand it for what it is, a confabulation of ideas, things, ways of being known, things that have been agreed to—you can also understand that what lies beneath that is the essence of your being.

When a chord is played on a piano, several notes are played at once to bring a desired resonance or tone. Say the new agreement, the claim to agree, is a note on a piano, or a note sung by you in energetic accord. Adding another agreement has a different note sung in its energetic accord. As those notes are played in simultaneity, they are expressed as you. Each note has meaning, may be played independently, and may be sung independently, but when they are all played at once the vibration or tone is rather different. When a chord is struck, the resonance of the chord is in vibration and informs everything that it touches. This is experienced in the energetic field.

If we were to sing to you now without language, but in tone, the vibration of voice would instill within you in the field you hold, even in the body, the texture and feeling of the sound. When the chord is played through invocation or speech—the claim is made in the resonant field, the chord struck, the bells rung, and the implicit action of the tone in significance is to align and attune you to the meaning of these claims.

The realization that everything you choose, by agreement, is also by vibratory accord, is made manifest in this field, this collective field that you share.

Thus your body that you have taken, in its divine expression, operates in resonance or vibrational accord with everything else that exists in a like form, which means all else in manifestation.

Depending on where you are in the balance between the self and others, your agreements will resonate at a higher or lower tone according to where you are in your choices. The one you claim this for, or the thing you may claim it to, will respond in an energetic vibratory echo that may be experienced by you. In other words, the thing or person will respond. What you bless, blesses you in return.

The resonance of your field is present no matter what you think. We all see this as attitudes….

Now, when you decide things, you are operating in your mastery. At whatever level of engagement you have aligned to, you are the master of your choices and therefore accountable to what you choose, and the ramifications of choice are very often your teachers. When you choose in fear, when you operate in fear, you claim fear, and the legacy of the choice will always be fear.

The opportunity here today is to re-decide that how you choose may be in alignment with your True Self, the Eternal Self, whichever name you wish to give it. This is done in two ways.

The first thing you need to know is that you are always choosing in agreement with what you conceive of as possible, and the list of possibilities that the small self acknowledges is in all cases born in your comprehension of history, what has been available, not what is now. Imagine you sit down to dine and you take yesterday’s menu because you are used to it. They may have added items. There may be a delicious dish you have never tasted, but you will not know it because you are looking at yesterday’s offerings. The gift of the day is always the choice of the day. Underline that, friends. The gift of the day is always the choice of the day.

You move to conversation with God as experience, beyond language, but in tone and field.

You must be in accord or alignment to receive what you desire or make an agreement to. Everything you see is in tone and vibration, you meet it in the tone you express through.

Every choice made in love calls forth love, and the lineage of love is forever after. Every choice made in fear claims more fear until the fear is withstood and reclaimed in a new way. In truth, a lie will not be held, and fear, the liar, would seek to have its way with you. Any choice in fear will not be made in a high octave, because the gift of the high octave we intend to see you in is that fear does not exist there. How could it not exist?

Well, back to the scale of the piano. The low tones are present, but, as you lift in octave, one upon the other, the low notes disappear. A low note in a high octave is still a high note—you understand the idea—and the notes go on well into infinity. You may play the note C on a piano, but if the scale went to infinity, if the piano keys extended throughout the universe, you would be playing each middle C in every octave here until the end of time. You understand the teaching, yes. The opportunity to choose in the high octave as the True Self is the opportunity to claim what always is.

As you operate in the higher octave, everything that may be claimed is claimed in the high octave. Do you understand this? If you go from the cellar apartment to the twenty-fifth floor, every phone call you make is made from the twenty-fifth floor. You call for the governess, you get the governess who comes to the twenty-fifth floor, not the one who abides in the cellar. She doesn’t take that call.

Everything may be known and claimed in a new way because everything that exists in the high octave may be known by you in your alignment. The ramifications of choices made in love will be more of the same.

The ramifications in fear will be more of the same, the lower octaves. What most of you do is you claim what you think you can have, what you are allowed, what was on yesterday’s menu.

Limited

The opportunity now is to begin to conceive of the self in the high way that the True Self knows itself.

Unlimited

Would you close your eyes, please, wherever you may be, and imagine for a moment that you are beyond time, that time itself, as an idea, as an illusion, has no power over you.

And, in this place of infinity, anything may be known, anything may be chosen, and anything that was prescribed by time is no longer here. “I can have it next Tuesday, when I am ready, when I know more when I love myself a bit, when I don’t hate my partner, when I am done worrying.” All of those ideas predicate themselves in an awareness of a clock. Later. One day. Someday.

In infinity, the infinite now, these things do not exist.

You are only as you are, and, as you are, you be.

To agree to something new means…. The release of the old or the known that is a requirement here is a very simple one. You must not only become willing to release the ideas that you have predicated your experience on, but also your investment in what you believe to be so.

Your true expression, which is the energetic field propelled forth in consciousness, is expressed by your attitude.

To know the rock is solid in the moment you stand in is to idealize the rock as it is in the moment.

To comprehend the rock as of God, and the rock being the shape the rock has taken, the name the rock has used, the being that you see yourself in accord to the rock, is also to comprehend that the rock is only a rock because that is how you know it, perceive it, and claim relation to it.

When the rock becomes dust, your relationship to the rock has also been transformed. If the dust itself is made of the same stars that you are, is of the same water and air that you are, you are not so different than the rock, although the form you have taken heralds a different song. Everything is in tone in the universe. Everything is in motion. There is no stasis here. And your perception of stasis, that the rock is solid, that the stars in the sky are solid, are a limited objective or view you may hold.

As you comprehend that you are tone, and tone in vibration as expressed as you, and them begin to operate in a landscape that is higher in tone, one more in the image of the Divine Self in vibration, actually alters the fabric of reality that the small self has known.

Now, agreement is vibrational accord, and you are always in agreement to what you see. And the consciousness you hold is always informing what you see and throwing things at it that confirm the identity you would have it be.

Touch your face. Feel your face, please. Take a moment now and understand that what you feel holds vibration. The solidity of what you feel is, in fact, an illusion. Everything is in motion. Everything is in vibration. And everything you see before you can be re-comprehended as vibration in a higher octave. The transition you make from low vibration to high is in many ways the journey of the soul in remembrance to her origin, his origin. And the origin of the soul, is as of God, an aspect of God that has chosen to learn through expression, in reconciliation with its Source, through the passage of lifetimes that you undertake to know the self, to comprehend the self and all manifestation as a part of God. Now, nothing is separate from Source. Understand that.

And any identity you can hold, any way of knowing the self in form, is transitional within God. So you area part of God as Paul, or as Philip, or as Alice, or as Joan. You are the Divine who has come in recollection of itself in the aspect you have chosen to express through. Now, what the soul is is a codification of vibration, with an identity, a soul echo, a remembrance of its vibration, its awareness of what it is. This is you the Divine Self, eternal energy of Love.

The soul itself in comprehension with God is the manifestation of lineage, and the lineage of God is everything it knows itself through. Everything that can be known or even imagined is of God because nothing is outside it.

Now, the aspect of soul that you comprehend yourself through we will speak to as of God in distinct ways. The manifestation of the Divine as God must be comprehended as such.

The implicit Divine in this plane of expression, the grass, the trees, the lakes, are all in vibration and concurrently exist in multiple octaves that can be experienced.

Most perceive love to be an emotional expression, a desire met, how you feel. When you comprehend what love is, which is the expression of God as all things, you move to the light with much ease.

And the path of love for most of you will be the highest service that you can provide, and that simply means being as love, being the expression of the Divine that expresses as you in love. “I am in love, in the vibration of love, and in the expression of love.”

Now, to trust this teaching in any way, shape, or form is to be accountable to the teaching and perceive yourself as operating in frequency. If you don’t perceive yourself as operating in frequency, this will be a figment, an impossibility.

But if you understand that there is all vibration in all things, and you are an expression in vibration or tone, you can begin to understand that as the tone is lifted to the higher, reconciliation occurs—the Divine as you beyond separation, in union with all things—and then you may meet all things in this awareness.

This is an act of love

The act of one who knows what matter is, and can reclaim it in an altered form. Underline altered. Because energy is always present and it cannot be decided against, it must be transformed. It will not be eliminated. It is matter. It is tone. It is vibration. It will always be there, but can be known in a higher way. Now, you understand alchemy as a spiritual principle, first and foremost, because that is why we instruct it this way. It is a spiritual principle. It is not trying to make gold out of other substance. It’s about re-knowing what is as of Spirit that has been condensed or limited in lower vibration through language, name, and history, the meaning things have been given.

It is your energy, your attitude, your attention of your intentions. You decide what frequency or tone you come from. You are the only one who can control your energy.

What soul is is the manifestation of the aspect of God that expresses in vibration in an understanding of independence in consort with the realization of Source. And the aspect of you that seeks to be re-known, or the Christed Self in manifestation as you, is of soul, but distinct from it.

As you understand it, nothing is outside of God, and soul cannot be outside of God. The Christed Self, or the aspect of God that seeks its realization as you, is of soul, but it is not the soul because the soul itself is in progression, while the Christed Self, in its realization, is not non-progressive, but is not here to learn.

It is here to realize—the Christ in realization through the form that you have taken. And the soul is of the spirit and the spirit is God is the journey you undertake.

#2. Don’t Take Anything Personal

Let’s explore this by first looking at a basic human tendency. When something painful touches your body, you tend to pull away instinctively. You even do this with unpleasant smells and tastes.

The fact is, your psyche does the same thing. If something disturbing touches it, its tendency is to withdraw, to pull back, and to protect itself. It does this with insecurity, jealousy, and any of the other vibrations we’ve been discussing.

In essence, you “close,” which is simply an attempt to put a shield around your inner energy. You can feel the effects of this as the sensation of contracting within your heart. Somebody says something displeasing, and you feel some disturbance in your heart. Then your mind starts talking: “I don’t have to put up with this. I’ll just walk away and never talk to them again. They’ll be sorry.” Your heart is attempting to pull back from what it’s experiencing and protect itself so that it doesn’t have to experience that feeling again.

You do this because you can’t handle the pain you’re feeling. As long as you can’t handle the pain, you will react by closing in order to protect yourself. Once you close, your mind will build an entire psychological structure around your closed energy. Your thoughts will try to rationalize why you’re right, why the other person’s wrong, and what you should do about it. If you buy into this, it will become a part of you.

For years the pain will remain inside and actually become one of the building blocks of your entire life. It will shape your future reactions, thoughts, and preferences. When you deal with a situation by resisting the pain it causes, you will have to adjust your behavior and thoughts in order to protect yourself. You will have to do this so that nothing aggravates what you have held inside about the incident. You will end up building an entire protection structure around the closure.

If you have the clarity to watch this happen, and understand the long-term consequences, you will want to be free of this trap. You will never be free, however, until you get to the point where you are willing to release the initial pain instead of avoiding it. You must learn to transcend the tendency to avoid the pain.

Somebody can say something to you that can cause your heart to react and catch fire, but then it passes.

It’s a temporary experience. Let it go…..

Understand they are talking with their ego. It’s their movie, not mine. Respect their movie but don’t put or inject their scenes into your movie…. Agreement #2……

Most people can hardly imagine what it would be like to be at peace with inner disturbance. But if you do not learn to be comfortable with it, you will devote your life to avoiding it. If you feel insecurity, it’s just a feeling. You can handle a feeling. If you feel embarrassed, it’s just a feeling. It’s just a part of creation. If you feel jealousy and your heart burns, just look at it objectively, like you would a mild bruise. It’s a thing in the universe that is passing through your system. Laugh at it, have fun with it, but don’t be afraid of it. It cannot touch you unless you touch it.

Breaking Free of FEAR 😧

The structure of fear, the claim of fear, the mandate of fear, is indeed separation, and as you move beyond fear as a system of agreement—something you expect, anticipate, align to—you are liberated in ways you can’t understand.

As we often say, the action of fear is to claim more fear, but to be free from fear is to be free from the agreements that you have made in fear and anticipate without even knowing. Now, the structure of your world in all ways was claimed by you as a collective to comprehend reality through, and you understand yourselves as a collective within an octave of expression. Because the octave has been so invested in fear, it is as if the fear is playing as music in a dark, low key at such a pace that you don’t even know it. It is just there, informing your sight, causing your relationships to fail, denying the Divine in this and that, without even comprehending that you are party to it. You are party to it by agreement and accord, and the lifting beyond fear, beyond the idea that fear must be there, is beyond comprehension. “A lion fights me. I will lose the fight. I am fearful of the lion.” “The relationship ends. Who am I without the relationship? I am fearful of losing the relationship.” You idolize fear in some ways. It becomes a thing you pray to, in observance, the action of fear that would encourage you to do as you have in order to maintain a reality or idea of self that you have been agreeing to. When you understand what we are really teaching you, it does not mean you don’t run from the lion. It does not mean you don’t support a healthy relationship. But what it does mean is that the action of fear, which is not self-preservation—that is a high act, to run from the lion, to maintain the body is a high act—but to comprehend that the investment you have had in maintaining fear has been through the collective, and done in ignorance, will begin to support your release of it.

The lower octave is informed by fear. It is ever present.

By now being in a higher vibration.

You are no longer afraid of the aspects of yourselves that you have shielded or hidden. You have aligned them to the light. You are no longer groping for outcome, demanding things be as they should through the small self’s eyes. You have been liberated, and you have been liberated from one thing—the act of fear that would invite you to separation.

It is realization of the omnipresence of the Divine and your ability to transmute the old vibrational field with your encounter to it, which simply means the light that you are not only transforms the darkness that it encounters, it actually re-creates in the higher that which has been damned to the lower. And we use those words intentionally.

What has been damned is what has been put outside of God. It’s so simple. What is blessed is known in the presence of God. And as you become this light, incorporated, manifest, in agreement to the inherent Divine in all, the claim that is made by your energetic field.

When you look at another with love, the person is not only reflected in love, they are re-known in love. When you perceive another in love, they are changed by that act. To see the Infinite in its true state. And its true state is the love that is here to be known in you and through all things.

Vibration of Love

There is one sound, one note, being played all the time, at varying degrees or decibels, levels of oscillation, that is all that you see.

The consciousness that pervades all things, that is implicit in all matter, that is God itself in articulation, is what we call the Divine, or the omnipresent.

The Christed Self/Holy Spirit (the soul/heart) that operates within you and within all beings is present always, but, again, shrouded or hidden. It is this aspect of self that knows God, sees God, and dances with God.

To release the idea of self, as you have known self, to agree to the higher requires you to release the ideas of assessment through the old means—the comprehension of who and what you are through statistics, through outlines, through the understanding others hold of who you are, based on their preconceptions or outlines or ideas of what should be. (This where the 5 Agreements used as everyday tools come into play)

When you move to the new, you are actually moving to a higher template, and one that expresses free from the fear that has been accrued in the lower vibrational field. You have become the tone, the finite one tone of God that has expressed as you and realizes itself in all things. Again, underline all.

You are accountable to your language, to your acts, and to your thoughts, because you have become creative at a level of vibration where what you think may be invoked, and what you speak may be called into being. It is a level of vibrational accord, as in Source in a unified state, where what is needed is simply claimed, not through request, but by acceptance. As you understand this, you become more accountable to what you think, how you think it, and it becomes easier because the threshold you have crossed from the old to the new, wherein the new stands firm in its awareness, does not subject you to the temptation of old, the old ways of deciding in fear or need for retribution. When none of you are claiming war, there is no war. When none of you are in fear, there is no fear. And the gift of this teaching, a world made new, is in fact the evidence that you will find unfolds before you as you walk this earth as you truly are.

Realization, true realization, is always of the moment, and only in the moment of experience.

You will not be planning for this. You will encompass the agreement that you have made through your vibrational field. In some ways, you see, what you are becoming is the self with no name, beyond language, and even beyond the mandate for form. When you realize that the physical body is no longer a limitation, your experience of the vastness of consciousness can and will be explored. You can remain in body and travel the universe. You can see God in anything and everything, because you are witness to the Divine through your own inherent nature.

To be in a unified state is to be active in surrender. Do you understand this? You become active in surrender. The unified will, in a truly expressed state, directs you intentionally in its surrender to the high will. Unified with Gods will.

To be Truth or Love—and underline the word be—is to be the expression of it. This is not done in small ways. This is done in a huge way, in a vibrational octave that you accrue in alignment that supersedes the low-level vibration that you have known yourself in. And, in the demonstration of this—and, again, demonstration must mean realization of it—the reality that you know yourself through is completely addressed in the new octave.

Now, to be operating in truth must be done in a great awareness of what you are not, and what you are not is the small self seeking attention, claiming benefit, moving into idolatry of her own spiritual nature.

What you are not is limited.

But what you are is of God, and that is the limitation that has no boundary. To be as God simply means to be of it, and the parameters you express as, with, and through are the necessary ones that come from form and expression as you vibrate in the higher octave you have chosen.

When we teach you what limitation means, we must understand that all of you seek to define the truth in parameters and ways that you may discuss and claim obedience to. In fact, the Divine in its expression is limitless, and your manifestation as the Divine is also boundless, but it is the Divine that is boundless and not your identification with it.

And you must understand this:

To be re-created and re-known in this way is to accept, in great humility, the fabric of manifestation that contains all things, as you are of it, as is all. You co-created Gods love, to extend this love to others. You are not the creator, just an aspect of.

At this level of vibration, freedom is present because you even understand that every action you take is in awareness of union, and to be in union indeed is to be free.

The will has been aligned in a higher order, seeks to claim itself through every act and every encounter. This does not mean, that you are not enjoying your life, the pleasures of the senses. It means the pleasures of the senses are even heightened because your alignment now is to omnipresence, that which claims all things, informs all things.

To claim separation is to deny your true nature. To realize the wholeness in union with the Source of all things is to align to the agreement of what can only be so. Everything else is a mystery.

This how you operate in consciousness. No, this is not about love, this is about learning who you are so that you can begin to choose love where you have chosen other actions in the past.

And you have to understand now that so much of what you do is predicated on an emotional response that you have that gives you a feeling that causes you to take actions in response. And of course, as we have stated, fear is the primary responder to those things that make you feel uncomfortable.

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Love is a frequency. When you think in love, you invest in the frequency that can then transform your feelings because the feeling of love that you might think is a feeling is actually the expression of love through you.

When you are experiencing love,the frequency of love is you. Because you identify through feelings you assume love is a feeling. But love is not a feeling. Love overrides feelings because it is an active expression of God operating as and through you. So as you align to the frequency of love, you call to love. You become love and fear is defeated by the light.

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Any action taken in love has a residual affect into eternity. Any act in love is an eternal act, and progresses love as a force. It is only love, and will always be love.

Say, you were harmed as a child and you hold the scar of the incident, the re-knowing of the incident is not about forgetting about it or denying that it happened. It is there for re-knowing it and reclaiming the self that was in experience that intended to deny the light to be restored.

Imagine there is an aspect of you that hides in the cellar, crouched in darkness, with her old pain, his old shame, his old confusion, in this denial of God through experience. When the light shines upon the child and the child is restored to the light, the old patterns, the moss, if you wish, the spiderwebs, if you wish, the old ideas that have accrued as the result of experience, are also re-known. Imagine a thread in a quilt being pulled. The idea of the quilt itself is released when the threads release the patterning that have been sewn through prior incident. You are made new through your own agreement to be made new.

And any historical data that you might use or others might use to refute God, or the omnipresence of the vibration of the consciousness that is and always will be God, is made known anew through these claims. You are made new through your agreement to the omnipresence. You are claimed as new in the decree. You are aligned to the new in a beneficent way by the agreement to what is always so. Underline always.

God must be present or can never be present. And the realization of that presence in equivalency in your own data accrued in the energetic field is what is liberated. You are free by knowing of what is always true.

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HOW WE DO THIS

God & Company

Our mutual mind with God & the constant inflow of potential energy

Substance or Main Ingredient

It all starts with the intention.your desire(s) - one of balance, one of Love or Fear. From the heart mind or the ego mind. Free will, gives us freedom of choice.

Thought comes before the creation

Quality Control

BALANCE, life is about balance

Even though love and wisdom seem to be two separate things, essentially they are distinguishably one.

The quality of our love determines the quality of our wisdom and the quality of our wisdom the quality of our love.

It must be done in the unity of Love & Wisdom, based on

One Truth, One Perception, One Love, One Mind….

Manufacturing Process

It is further shaped (form) by our intellect,(wisdom) Rational or irrational thought and how we perceive; towards either end of Loves polarity of ego thought system vs. Gods Knowledge Thought System. The final form is based from his feelings, beliefs or faith, opinions. His attitude. All unique to the individual and either his ignorance or level of wisdom.

The final product can before you act, still be changed if you want to….

Follow your feelings as this leads to what is your intentions, what do you want this to be? Which end of the spectrum of Love do you choose? YOUR CHOICE!

PAUSE, STOP and really think with your heart!

Perception, true perception produces the end product, the real truth. This produces the final product of your output energy in words and actions….

The End Product

Your own personal dream world

It’s your movie. You’re the producer, director and star….

Your creation

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God & Company

The Holy Spirit wants to share my mind with you because we are of one Mind, ours. See only this Mind everywhere, because only this is everywhere and in everything. It is everything because it encompasses all things within itself. Blessed are you who perceive only this, because you perceive only what is true.

Come therefore unto me, and learn of the truth in you. The mind we share is shared by all our brothers, and as we see them truly they will be healed. Let your mind shine with mine upon their minds, and by our gratitude to them make them aware of the light in them. This light will shine back upon you and on the whole Sonship, because this is your proper gift to God. He will accept it and give it to the Sonship, because it is acceptable to Him and therefore to His Sons. This is true communion with the Holy Spirit, Who sees the altar of God in everyone, and by bringing it to your appreciation, He calls upon you to love God and His creation. You can appreciate the Sonship only as one. This is part of the law of creation, and therefore governs all thought.

You can be perceived with meaning only by the Holy Spirit because your being is the knowledge of God. Any belief you accept apart from this will obscure God’s Voice in you, and will therefore obscure God to you. Unless you perceive His creation truly you cannot know the Creator, since God and His creation are not separate. The Oneness of the Creator and the creation is your wholeness, your sanity and your limitless power. This limitless power is God’s gift to you, because it is what you are. If you dissociate your mind from it you are perceiving the most powerful force in the universe as if it were weak, because you do not believe you are part of it.

Perceived without your part in it, God’s creation is seen as weak, and those who see themselves as weakened do attack. The attack must be blind, however, because there is nothing to attack. Therefore they make up images, perceive them as unworthy and attack them for their unworthiness. That is all the world of the ego is. Nothing. It has no meaning. It does not exist. Do not try to understand it because, if you do, you are believing that it can be understood and is therefore capable of being appreciated and loved. That would justify its existence, which cannot be justified. You cannot make the meaningless meaningful. This can only be an insane attempt.

Allowing insanity to enter your mind means that you have not judged sanity as wholly desirable. If you want something else you will make something else, but because it is something else, it will attack your thought system and divide your allegiance. You cannot create in this divided state, and you must be vigilant against this divided state because only peace can be extended. Your divided mind is blocking the extension of the Kingdom, and its extension is your joy. If you do not extend the Kingdom, you are not thinking with your Creator and creating as He created.

In this depressing state the Holy Spirit reminds you gently that you are sad because you are not fulfilling your function as co-creator with God, and are therefore depriving yourself of joy. This is not God’s choice but yours. If your mind could be out of accord with God’s, you would be willing without meaning. Yet because God’s Will is unchangeable, no conflict of will is possible. This is the Holy Spirit’s perfectly consistent teaching. Creation, not separation, is your will because it is God’s, and nothing that opposes this means anything at all. Being a perfect accomplishment, the Sonship can only accomplish perfectly, extending the joy in which it was created, and identifying itself with both its Creator and its creations, knowing They are One.

Whenever you deny a blessing to a brother you will feel deprived, because denial is as total as love. It is as impossible to deny part of the Sonship as it is to love it in part. Nor is it possible to love it totally at times. You cannot be totally committed sometimes. Denial has no power in itself, but you can give it the power of your mind, whose power is without limit. If you use it to deny reality, reality is gone for you. Reality cannot be partly appreciated. That is why denying any part of it means you have lost the awareness of all of it.

The ego’s picture of you is deprived, unloving and vulnerable. You cannot love this. Yet you can very easily escape from this image by leaving it behind. You are not there and that is not you. Do not see this picture in anyone, or you have accepted it as you. All illusions about the Sonship are dispelled together as they were made together. Teach no one that he is what you would not want to be. Your brother is the mirror in which you see the image of yourself as long as perception lasts. And perception will last until the Sonship knows itself as whole. You made perception and it must last as long as you want it.

Mind is too powerful to be subject to exclusion. You will never be able to exclude yourself from your thoughts.

Merging Will

You are the Will of God. Do not accept anything else as your will, or you are denying what you are.

Deny this and you will attack, believing you have been attacked. But see the Love of God in you, and you will see it everywhere because it is everywhere. See His abundance in everyone, and you will know that you are in Him with them. They are part of you, as you are part of God. You are as lonely without understanding this as God Himself is lonely when His Sons do not know Him. The peace of God is understanding this. There is only one way out of the world’s thinking, just as there was only one way into it. Understand totally by understanding totality.

Improving and practicing your MIND & HEART POWER PILLARS— prayer, belief, choice, and love.

Cornerstone

Heart Intelligence - the energy of the soul conveyed by the heart

“L” energy or Chi/Qi…. Gods life force

Life is Attitude

The central work for a Player is to come ever more fully into the open heart. This is always the first priority. Upon this work of returning again and again to the open heart hangs the Game.

The open heart has an attitude

This attitude informs all our outer work and helps us make our choices well.

All outer work takes second place to this central focus of dwelling in an inner atmosphere of unconditional love.

Whatever is true is eternal, and cannot change or be changed. Spirit is therefore unalterable because it is already perfect, but the mind can elect what it chooses to serve. The Ego’s fear or God's love and goodness.

We need to do three things In order to come into our open hearts

1. We need to get to know ourselves, even our worst faults.

2. We need to forgive ourselves completely.

3. We need to accept ourselves unconditionally, just as we are.

This process is our leap into faith.

In order to stay in our open hearts, we need to repeat the process daily, looking within to be sure that we remain self-forgiven and self-accepted. Forgiving and accepting other selves is simply an extension of forgiving and accepting ourselves.

The secret is but this: that you are doing this unto yourself

No matter what the form of the attack, this still is true. Whoever takes the role of enemy and of attacker, still is this the truth. Whatever seems to be the cause of any pain and suffering you feel, this is still true… .they are acting from their ego, their movie.

They are still one with you and God.

For you would not react at all to figures in a dream you knew that you were dreaming. Let them be as hateful and as vicious as they may, they could have no effect on you unless you failed to recognize it is your dream….take nothing personal…….their dream has nothing to do with you.~4 Agreement’s

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All Love does is to undo

Take nothing personally

And thus it cancels out the interference to what has been done. It does not add, but merely takes away. And what it takes away is long since gone, but being kept in memory appears to have immediate effects. This world was over long ago. The thoughts that made it are no longer in the mind that thought of them and loved them for a little while.

Love but shows the past is gone, and what has truly gone has no effects. Remembering a cause can but produce illusions of its presence, not effects.

• It’s their dream or movie. It is nothing personal, because you are dealing with yourself, not with me. It’s their ego talking, not their true energy. Everyone is going to have their own opinion according to their belief system, so nothing they think about me is really about me, but it is only about them, as the star of their movie. So, don’t take it personally. ~4 Agreements

If it applies to the event or experience, the only difference between “feedback” and “criticism” is the way you hear it.

The innocent heart does not seek to punish, does not seek to rule, does not seek to gain at the cost of another’s loss.

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We are each at our own level of awareness, tolerance, ability to accept and forgive. Compassion is important.

Knowing is a shallow thing. Asking the heart is the beginning of Wisdom

https://keithrosen.com/2018/06/the-buddha-the-angry-man-and-the-gift/

The Hearts-Love Energy

It isn’t knowledge that will lead us to ourselves; it is wisdom. We have to make a distinction between knowledge and wisdom, because they are not the same.

The main way to use knowledge is to communicate with each other, to agree on what we perceive. Knowledge is the only tool we have to communicate, because humans hardly communicate heart to heart. What is important is how we use our knowledge, because we become the slaves of knowledge and we are no longer free.

Wisdom has nothing to do with knowledge; it has to do with freedom. When you are wise, you are free to use your own mind and run your own life.

Our love acts in our mind the same way our heart acts in our body. Further, just as everything in the body depends on the heart for its origin and for its motion, everything in the mind depends on Love for its origin and its life.

Love is the essence of life. The love that is the essence of life, further, comes from the Lord alone.

By looking at the heart and its extension in the body through arteries and veins, we can learn that love is our life. This is because things that correspond to each other act in the same way, the only difference being that one is physical and the other spiritual.

There are many forms or images of love that have been given their own names because they are derivatives, such as desires, cravings, appetites, and their gratifications and delights.

When you become wise, you respect your body, you respect your mind, you respect your soul. When you become wise, your life is controlled by your consciousness soul/heart, not your unconscious ego voices. You no longer sabotage yourself, your own happiness, or your own love.

You no longer carry all that guilt and blame; you no longer have all those judgments against yourself, and you no longer judge anyone else. From that moment on, all the beliefs that make you unhappy, that push you to struggle in life, that make your life difficult, just vanish. Change your perception, one truth, one mind, one perception, one law-LOVE….

There are many forms of wisdom, too, like perception, knowledge, reflection, memory, thought, and focus on a subject.

Further, there are many forms that come from both love and wisdom, such as agreement, decision, and resolve to act, among others. All of these belong to both [love and wisdom]. For wisdom and light are one.

Even though love and wisdom seem to be two separate things, essentially they are distinguishably one. The quality of our love determines the quality of our wisdom and the quality of our wisdom the quality of our love.

Maturity, depends on your capacity and willingness to love

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Love & Wisdom

Thinking with your Heart

Turning to love is turning to the heart of self, for the self, at its foundation, is the creature of love.

The intellect, we must realize the intellect is not the creative factor in the Universe.

Rather, it is feeling that is creative

God speaks to the heart through a language of feeling, a feeling which is affirmative. To Love is a choice as is how to love, from true perception or Wisdom

It is well to combine the intellect and feeling and to use both the head and the heart, for the intellect gives a definite form to the feeling.

But unless the feeling is there, the intellect will merely have provided the empty mold.

It is interesting to know that the best psychological balance is the balance between the intellect and the emotions, the conscious mind and the feelings.

• We want not only to feel but to think.

• We wish not only to think but also to feel.

Life is Love, or the Feelings that come from Love

1. The things that move us belong to our Love - feelings- our heart or soul

2. The things we think about belong to our Wisdom- intelligence - learning self control

The quality of our love determines the quality of our wisdom and the quality of our wisdom the quality of our love.

Be certain, then, that in all your work you combine this subtle essence with the conscious word you speak until the two become one.

As a seeker you will put these qualities together until they fuse into one, and then the head will speak through the heart and the heart will feel through the intellect.

Love is the substance(desires,intentions) & Wisdom is the ability(intellect) to use love as the form(perception) of all things, resulting in love based actions.

A person needs to marry a clear intention (coherent brain) with an elevated emotion (coherent heart). HMI’s research has proven that by combining an intention or thought (which, as you have read, acts as the electrical charge) with a feeling or emotion (which you already understand acts as a magnetic charge), we can change our biological energy—and when we change our energy, we change our lives.

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Wisdom has nothing to do with knowledge; it has to do with freedom. When you are wise, you are free to use your own mind and run your own life. The freedom to choose your desires or love and the freedom to use your intellect or perception in what to do with your desires. Your intentions and perception, to produce love towards yourself or more towards others.

Developing the ability to merge mind and heart

Receiving the love offerings of others is the greatest gift you can give and is won by giving in service to others. When you reach the point at which there is no difference between receiving and giving absolute and unreserved love, then shall you be ready to learn the ways of wisdom.

The end game is to merge intellect(mind) with the heart… love with wisdom…

Only insofar as you love, accept and refuse to judge yourself can you be compassionate in such wise to others. And only in compassion, as you see that treasure within you and within all, can you truly serve in a love that is without condition and that demands no return.

Each person wishes for personal power, power to control, the power to shape the destiny, and this is your right, my friends, this is your obligation. Yet know that the first and greatest power is given to you in the act of surrender, for the heart that has surrendered can hear the song which will lead you.

The Heart’s Code ~Persall

Learn to think with the Spiritual Heart

The field of neurocardiology, scientists have discovered that the heart possesses its own intrinsic nervous system—a network of nerves so functionally sophisticated as to earn the description of a “heart brain.” Containing over 40,000 neurons, this “little brain” gives the heart the ability to independently sense, process information, make decisions, and even to demonstrate a type of learning and memory. In essence, it appears that the heart is truly an intelligent system.

Research has also revealed that the heart is a hormonal gland, manufacturing and secreting numerous hormones and neurotransmitters that profoundly affect brain and body function. Among the hormones the heart produces is oxytocin—well known as the “love” or “bonding hormone.”

Science has only begun to understand the effects of the electromagnetic fields produced by the heart, but there is evidence that the information contained in the heart’s powerful field may play a vital synchronizing role in the human body—and that it may affect others around us as well.

Research has also shown that the heart is a key component of the emotional system. Scientists now understand that the heart not only responds to emotion, but that the signals generated by its rhythmic activity actually play a major part in determining the quality of our emotional experience from moment to moment.

These heart signals also profoundly impact perception and cognitive function by virtue of the heart’s extensive communication network with the brain. Finally, rigorous electrophysiological studies conducted at the HeartMath Institute have even indicated that the heart appears to play a key role in intuition. Although there is much yet to be understood, it appears that the age-old associations of the heart with thought, feeling, and insight may indeed have a basis in science.

The heart has been mostly left out of the alliance between the brain and its body, its pumping power admired even as its circulatory function is often overextended and abused by an ever-demanding brain. The heart’s own delicate way of thinking and feeling about the world and the info-energetic cellular memories with which it may be uniquely conversant are often ignored by cardiologists trained to think about the heart but not about how the heart might think. There is a different way to think and different place from which most think from.

The brain never shuts up. The brain is self-protective and territorial. Its code is “I, me, mine.” We respect the magnificence of the brain while considering that it is a remarkable partner with, but not the master over, the body and heart. The brain is primarily designed as a reactive health maintenance system, not as a contemplative, feeling system. The thinking centers of the brain have been evolutionally crumpled up and crammed in above the more dominant and primitive brain systems that tend to take up most of our cerebral time. Our more rational higher brain is often taken hostage by the hypersensitive lower brain, resulting in a lowering of any emotional intelligence the brain inherits from our heart.

The brain is more protectively reptilian, paleomammalian, and immaturely emotional than it is reflective, considerate, and patient. The brain thinks and seems to know it thinks, but thinking is not its primary evolutionary imperative. Rational thinking comes second to the brain’s reactive survival instincts, and enhancing the self takes precedence over regard for the welfare of others. The implication drawn by the brain is that one can control one’s own life only by a complete, constant, and ever-vigilant attempt to regulate the outside world as much as possible.

The brain has a tendency toward chronic blaming. The brain tends to consider itself a very powerful and clever controller of other brains and very “self-effective.” It thinks it can be smart enough to get other people to change, to move in the directions it desires. For the impatient brain, frustration of its objectives quickly leads to anger. The primary mission of the brain is to keep us alive and to make our individual life as physically pleasurable as possible. Type A brain….

Connection, loving, and caring are the brain’s second thoughts usually seeping through the din of its urgent energy as expressions of the heart’s code. The heart is the silent background brain that one must learn to hear and listen for.

Emotional Self Control

Staying centered and calm in conflicts

A key step is to harmonize your heart brain to your mind brain…

Heart Lock-In® Technique

Step 1. Focus your attention in the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual.

Step 2. Activate and sustain a regenerative feeling such as appreciation, care, or compassion.

Step 3. Radiate that renewing feeling to yourself and others.

Accessing intuition takes managing emotional energy and learning to pay more attention to your heart’s promptings. Otherwise, the mind and emotions tend to override the heart’s often subtle promptings. As we learn to attune to our heart feelings, our natural intuitive connection can develop and grow. One of the biggest benefits of learning to follow my heart’s promptings has been the ability to bring my mental and emotional faculties into greater alignment with my true self.

Spot the emotional trigger: EMOTIONS R KEY

The senses are the gateway to your perception. How you sense, how you see, hear, feel, taste, touch are the ways that you access information. In any event, conversation or interaction, the key is not to over react.

Following your emotions/feelings shows you how you r thinking

When you first start to feel an emotional reaction, feeling warm or hot, anger, frustration, etc… your key trigger(s)

DO the following (or any other mental or physical act) to keep you from saying or doing something stupid in the moment, to bring you back to the moment, to say, HEY, it’s their Ego talking, their dream has nothing to do with me.

1. Shift awareness into the heart, by physically touching your heart.

2. Then shift awareness and Slow your breathing, take slow big breaths. Concentrate on the breathing

3. At the same time, Smile Within.. Feel the feeling of one of the following emotions - compassion, gratitude, joy, caring, love, joy, happiness… and smile into your heart and with your eyes…..

4. Don’t talk or react wait until you are not upset-keep emotions out of conversations is key

INNER SMILE TOOL

Add the “inner smile”exercise as a quick way to change attitude or remind yourself not to say something stupid. At the same time tap your chest (heart) to assist assist in keeping calm…. Along with the deep breathing and focus on your deep breathing until you gain control…(Thinking of a happy thought of importance to you.) With the thoughts of Love, Joy & Happiness.

Adjust to your own style and what helps you the most…..

Adding the 4 Agreements

As Foundation Pillars

Practice and master the 4 Agreements plus understanding the ego will eventually help you from getting angry or upset in conflicts.

Heart Intelligence Lessons:

The energy of the soul conveyed by the heart

“L” energy or Chi/Qi…. Gods life force

Heart-math: Be still, lighten up, shut up, resonate, and feel, listen for what your heart is telling you about living, loving, and working.

Go to: https://experience.heartmath.com/

If you have a HeartMath store account, you can use the same LOG IN

lessons… https://www.heartmath.org/resources/parenting/

Pdf - https://tinyurl.com/2vhpb8wv

The Heart-Brain Connection Tool

an exercise in self-control

Technique to heart-mind coherence to acquire new intentions change old habits or creat new

Close your eyes, allow your body to relax, and bring your attention to your heart. Start breathing in and out from the heart center, and continue to do this more slowly and deeply. When your mind wanders, keep returning your attention and awareness to your chest, your heart, and your breath.

Next, while you rest your attention in your heart center, bring up some elevated emotions while continuing to breathe in and out of your heart center. Once you feel these heartfelt emotions in your chest area, send that energy out beyond your body and marry it with your intention. Continue to broadcast that energy and intention all around you. Start with 10 minutes and try to extend the time you practice every day.

The ability to build and sustain resilience is related to self-management and efficient utilization of energy resources across four domains: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual (Figure 2.1).

• Physical resilience is basically reflected in physical flexibility, endurance and strength, while

• Emotional resilience is reflected in the ability to self-regulate, degree of emotional flexibility, positive outlook and supportive relationships.

• Mental resilience is reflected in the ability to sustain focus and attention, mental flexibility and the capacity for integrating multiple points of view.

• Spiritual resilience is typically associated with commitment to core values, intuition and tolerance of others’ values and beliefs.

Most people would agree it is the ability to adjust and self-regulate one’s responses and behavior that is most important in building and maintaining supportive, loving relationships and effectively meeting life’s demands with composure, consistency and integrity. The ability to adjust and self-regulate also is central to resilience, good health and effective decision-making.

It is a key for success in living life with greater kindness and compassion in all relationships. If people’s capacity for intelligent, self-directed regulation is strong enough, then regardless of inclinations, past experiences or personality traits, they usually can do the adaptive or right thing in most situations. Because emotions exert such a powerful influence on cognitive activity, intervening at the emotional level is often the most efficient way to initiate change in mental patterns and processes. Our research demonstrates that the application of emotion self-regulation techniques along with the use of facilitative technology (emWave®, Inner Balance™) can help people bring the heart, mind and emotions into greater alignment. Greater alignment is associated with improved decision-making, creativity, listening ability, reaction times and coordination and mental clarity.

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STEP 1 — Focus your attention in the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out through your heart or chest area, and breathe a little slower and deeper than usual.

STEP 2 — Activate and sustain a regenerative feeling, such as appreciation, care or compassion.

STEP 3 — Radiate that renewing feeling to yourself and others.

This, of course, requires practice and effective skills, in much the same way that it takes techniques and practice to learn and develop mental or athletic skills.

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Learn to Think with your Heart Brain....

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"Thinking with your heart" the heart center—the center of oneness, wholeness, creativity, and where the soul and heart intersects with the unified field—and bring to the center elevated emotions such as gratitude, joy, inspiration, love, etc...think of a past experience of one of these and focus on this emotion. The heart is the biggest electromagnetic organ in our physical mind/body.

By re-seting our attention and creating an elevated emotion within our heart, we begin to change the energy field surrounding our bodies.

When we are in heart coherence, we can access the “heart’s intelligence,” which we define as: The flow of awareness and insight that we experience once the mind and emotions are brought into balance and coherence through a self-initiated process. This form of intelligence is experienced as direct, intuitive knowing that manifests in thought and emotions that are beneficial for ourselves and others.

Heart coherence begins with the steady, coherent drumbeat of the heart through cultivating, practicing, and sustaining elevated emotions; such emotions include gratitude, appreciation, thankfulness, inspiration, freedom, kindness, selflessness, compassion, love, and joy. The benefits of that coherent beat are felt throughout all systems of the body. Consciously or unconsciously, many of us practice feeling unhappy, angry, or fearful each day. So why not practice creating and maintaining joyful, loving, altruistic states instead? Wouldn’t that eventually create a new internal order, resulting in overall health and happiness? When your heart becomes coherent, your nervous system responds by increasing the brain’s energy, creativity, and intuition, which has a positive effect on virtually every organ in the body.

Now the heart and the brain are working together, causing you to feel more whole, connected, and content—not only within your own body, but also with everything and everybody.

When you are in a heart-centered state, the wholeness you feel consumes any feelings you may have of want and lack. From this creative state of wholeness and oneness, magic begins to happen in your life because you’re no longer creating from duality or separation—you’re no longer waiting for something outside of you to provide relief from the internal feelings of lack, emptiness, or separation. Instead, you are becoming more familiar with your new, ideal self and creating new experiences of yourself. If you keep activating your heart center properly enough times during the creative process each day, in time you will feel more like your future has already happened.

Another factor that makes the heart unique is that it contains nerves from both branches of the ANS, which means any and every change in both the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems affects the way the heart works on a beat-to-beat basis. This is important because whether we are conscious of it or not, every emotion we experience influences our heart rhythm, which gets communicated directly through the central nervous system. In this way, the heart, the limbic brain, and the ANS have a very intimate relationship because balance or imbalance in one affects the other. (As a side note, the limbic brain—the seat of the autonomic nervous system—is also called the emotional brain, so when you change your emotions, you affect your autonomic functions.) the heart is an energy expander, and when you rest your attention in your heart to create and sustain elevated emotions, that coherent energy causes your heart to beat like a drum. It’s that coherent, rhythmic beating that creates a measurable magnetic field around your heart, and thus your body. Just like the focused beat of a drum that produces a measurable sound wave, the stronger the coherent rhythm of the heart, the more expanded your field becomes.

When you are feeling hurt, anger, stress, jealousy, rage, competition, or frustration, on the other hand, the signal from the heart to the brain becomes incoherent, and this triggers the release of approximately 1,200 chemicals into the body equal to those feelings. This chemical dump lasts approximately 90 seconds to two minutes. In the short term, these stressful feelings are not harmful; in fact, if they’re resolved they improve your resilience. However, the long-term effects of unresolved survival emotions put the entire body into a state of incoherence, making you vulnerable to stress-related health challenges. These survival emotions draw from the field around your body, causing you to feel separate and materialistic because you are putting most of your focus and attention on matter, your body, the environment, time, and of course, the source of your problems.

Among the most significant findings is that what we feel on a minute-to-minute, second-to-second basis influences the heart, and that our feelings and emotions are a key aspect of unlocking “heart intelligence.” Because feelings and emotions are energies that emit powerful magnetic fields, the stronger the elevated feelings, the stronger the magnetic field. In fact, the heart produces the strongest magnetic field in the body—five thousand times greater in strength than the field produced by the brain.

In 1991, the pioneering work of J. Andrew Armour, M.D., Ph.D., showed that the heart literally has a mind of its own. With as many as 40,000 neurons, the heart has a nervous system that functions independently of the brain. The technical term coined for this system is the intrinsic cardiac nervous system, more commonly known as the “heart-brain.”

Emotions and feelings originating in the heart play an important role in the way we think, process information, feel, and understand the world and our place in it. Once the heart center is activated, it acts as an amplifier to jump-start the brain, enhance its activity, and create balance, order, and coherence throughout the body.

When you feel gratitude, abundance, freedom, or love, all of those emotions welcome corresponding thoughts. Those heart-centered emotions open the door to the subconscious mind so that you can program your autonomic nervous system equal to the thoughts of your new intention.

We also know that if you live in the feeling of fear or lack but try to think you’re abundant, you can’t produce a measurable effect, because change can only happen when thoughts are in alignment with the emotional state of the body. You can think positively all you want, but without a corresponding feeling or emotion equal to that thought, the message cannot be felt or understood throughout the rest of the body. So you could repeat the affirmation I am fearless until you’re blue in the face, but if it’s fear you’re actually feeling, the thought I am fearless never makes it past the brain stem, which means you’re not signaling the body and ANS into a new, specific destiny. The feeling is what produces the emotional charge (energy) to stimulate your ANS into a different destiny. Without the feeling, a disconnect remains between your brain and body—between the thought of health and the feeling of health—and you can’t embody that new state of being.

It’s only when you change your energy that you can produce more consistent effects. If you sustain these elevated emotions on a daily basis, eventually your body, in its innate intelligence, begins to make relative genetic changes in the way I described earlier. That’s because the body believes that the emotion you are embracing is coming from an experience in your environment. So when you open your heart center, practice feeling an emotion before the experience occurs, and marry it with a clear intention, the body responds as if it’s in the future experience. That heart-mind coherence then influences your body chemistry and energy in a series of ways. If coherence between the heart and the brain can originate in the heart, and their synchronization results in optimal performance and health, then you should be taking time every day to focus on activating your heart center. By intentionally choosing to feel the elevated emotions of the heart rather than waiting for something outside of yourself to elicit those emotions, you become who you are truly meant to be—a heart-empowered individual.

By repeatedly practicing the regulation of heightened emotional states, in time the constant feeling of elevated emotions creates a new emotional baseline. This baseline then begins to continuously influence a new set of thoughts equal to the heightened feelings. The summation of those novel thoughts creates a new level of mind, which then produces more corresponding emotions equal to those thoughts, further sustaining that baseline. When this feedback loop between the heart (body) and mind (brain) occurs, you are in an entirely new state of being—the consciousness of the unlimited mind and the energy of profound love and gratitude.

• The brain is the center of consciousness and awareness,

• the heart—the center of oneness, wholeness, and our connection to the unified field—has its own brain.

People can regulate their internal states of care, kindness, peace, love, gratitude, thankfulness, and appreciation, as their hearts become more coherent and balanced, they send a very strong signal to the brain, causing the brain to become more coherent and balanced.

This is because the heart and the brain are in continuous communication with each other. The heart sends more information to the brain than the brain sends to the heart, the more coherence you can achieve through the elevated emotions of the heart, the more the brain and the heart synchronize. This synchronization produces measurable effects not only within the body, but also within the electromagnetic field surrounding the body—and the bigger the field we produce around our body, the more we can affect others in a nonlocal way. an invisible field exists upon which information is communicated.

This field links and influences all living systems, as well as our collective human consciousness. Because of this field, information is communicated nonlocally between people at a subconscious level through the autonomic nervous system.

In other words, we are bound and connected by an invisible field of energy, and this energy field can affect everyone’s behaviors, emotional states, and conscious and unconscious thoughts. Because all frequency carries information, the magnetic fields produced in the hearts of the body act as carrier waves for this information.

Our soul and spirit are made of intelligent energy and you need to grow your soul & spirit with wisdom and love from the universal violet light energy

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The heart that dwells in this opened love or the heart that is open to this love and willing to allow it to run through that heart and into the world of manifestation has done healing work for the planetary energy, the local energy and the energy of self.

Never be ashamed of those times when we have not assessed ourselves as meeting the moment with an open heart. Seek, rather, to return to the open heart as soon as possible, with no judgment or recrimination. Those of Hatonn say:

Keep in touch with the true self. Do not be discouraged when you cannot find it. It is only misplaced; it has not been lost. Just simply continue persistently and faithfully, although every instinct tells you that you are making no progress. Those instincts are incorrect, because each honestly made attempt to be of service lightens you and everyone around you.

The energy of the open heart is open-ended. It does not attach [itself to] an outcome. It simply seeks greater openness of self and a greater ability to allow these rising emotions to do the work of the refiner’s fire. The seeker who has faith in the way of love has faith that no matter what comes she will be able to survive it. That no matter how much various difficulties cause suffering and pain she will be able to use those difficulties to refine those rivers of emotion that are rising to consciousness.

It is a bumpier and rougher ride to seek the way of the open heart than to seek the way of wisdom. It is a way which invokes faith without proof, reason or logic. There is no attempt to justify hardship, but neither is there the attempt to disempower hardship by rising above it. Rather, the way of the open heart is the way of vulnerability, of remaining open and weak in the face of strong and sometimes painful feelings. And, yet, because it sees the whole of imperfect selfhood as a beautiful and perfect thing in all its paradox, it is the wiser path for your density. There is time enough to learn wisdom once you have learned to love fearlessly, to meet each moment with an open and unguarded heart.

Heart

The heart is the most powerful muscle in the human body. The heart is uniquely composed of “L” energy and communicates and conveys it in its own form but also “piggybacked” on the electromagnetic field (EMF) created by the heart.

The heart’s EMF is five thousand times more powerful than the electromagnetic field created by the brain and, in addition to its immense power, has subtle, nonlocal effects that travel within these forms of energy. Superconducting quantum interference devices, magnetocardiograms, and magnetoencepholograms that measure magnetic fields outside the body show that the heart generates over fifty thousand femtoteslas (a measure of EMF) compared to less than ten femtoteslas recorded from the brain.

The way of the heart is much less environmentally deterministic than the brain and is based on a view of the universe as essentially a friendly place. The heart knows “you can’t really change people, but you can change how you think about people.” The deeper heart. The soul has the more subtle energy or chi. This is what we must learn to think with. We go to school to learn to “use our head,” but what if all of us were required to use our heart to sense the subtle “L” energy all around us? The heart is not easily dissuaded from its mission of balancing the brain and body interaction. This most powerful, mysterious, muscular pump that seems to pump not only the biochemical nutrients that keep us alive but perhaps the spiritual energy that represents our soul. The heart and not the brain is where our most basic thoughts, feelings, fears, and dreams are gently but profoundly mediated.

The heart and not just the brain is what holds this system together by a form of spiritual info-energy, in a temporary and ever-changing set of cellular memories we refer to as “the self.” This “self” is the dynamic gestalt of information that might be considered the code that constitutes our soul.

The key to connect is one needs to just sit down, shut up, and let the energy flow from the deeper heart mind. We can learn to decipher the heart’s code by silencing the brain, quieting ourselves, focusing on our heart, and sensing what it has to say and what memories it may bring forth from the cells that store it. The heart has its own form of wisdom, different from that of the rational brain but every bit as important to our living, loving, working, and healing. This is the connection of who we truly are-eternal formless energy in a temporary mass or body. Heart’s more subjective, intuitive code.

1. Be Patient. Be still, tolerant, enduring, and open enough to be available to become sensitive to “L” energy.

2. Be Connected. Try to “unite” more than “control,” and to do “our thing” rather than “your own thing.”

3. Be Pleasant. Go along! Like a heart transplant recipient must do, learn to get along with your heart.

4. Be Humble. Realize that your idea of “self” is your brain’s illusion of separateness. We are all connected and mutually dependent as participants in a universal system. Ignore the brain’s selfish prodding and try to override its individualistic force, the “cellular xenophobia” we all have, which is an evolutional cellular memory.

5. Be Gentle. Take it easy, take your time, and take what comes. Using our heart to moderate and instruct the brilliant brain with its wisdom, we have to start learning to want what we have instead trying to have what we want.

• Energy and information are the same thing. Everything that exists has energy, energy is full of information, and stored info-energy is what makes up cellular memories.

• What we call mind, consciousness, or our intentions are really manifestations of information-containing energy.

• The heart is the primary generator of info-energy. The heart is constantly sending out patterns of info-energy that regulate organs and cells throughout the body. Every cell in the body is literally bathed in the info-energy conducted from and by the heart. Since the heart is a primary generator and transmitter of info-energy, it is central to our system’s recollection of its life—its cellular memory.

• Because we are manifestations of the info-energy coming to, flowing within, and constantly being sent out from our total cellular system, who and how we are is a physical representation of a recovered set of cellular memories. Because of the heart’s code and the cellular memories with which it deals, every cell in our body becomes a holographic or complete representation of our energetic heart.

Albert Einstein showed us that matter (M) is an expression of energy (E); cardio-energetics suggests that energy (E) is interchangeable with information (I). That matter, energy, and information may all be the same quantum stuff is a starting point for understanding how the heart might be a cellular mass that is at the same time an info-energetic wave and buzzing bundles of particles.

Matter, energy, and information combine to be communicated as “L” energy. “L” energy is nonlocal and everywhere all the time, it still seems to sometimes also function by some of the rules that affect the other forms of energy. It seems to more easily permeate living tissue and cells and seems to radiate more strongly from things that are alive. The heart, because of its immense energy potential, is the primary center of “L” energy conduction.

The “L” energy seems to be a creative, connecting energy. Instead of burning things out, it seems to hold them together. It seems to be one of the strongest integrating, connecting forces in the universe.

Although it is not typically revealed to the see/touch world, “L” energy occasionally reveals itself in various observable ways, such as spirals, a cloud surrounding the body (aura), glowing, etheric webs, etc. “L” energy seems to be “sticky” in the sense that an invisible stream of energy will always connect any two objects that have been connected in any way in the past.

The heart may convey “L” energy along with its electrical activity.

While the normal frequency range of the electrical activity in the brain is between 0 and 100 cycles per second (CPS), most of the brain’s electrical activity hovers between 0 and 30 CPS.

The heart’s normal frequency is 250 CPS. Since “L” energy can travel within other forms of energy, the heart may be the most powerful sender and receiver of that energy. All life is both biorhythmic and info-energetically rhythmic, and scientists know that rhythmic energy contains information, every oscillation of our heart represents the resonance of nature’s code within us.

The heart is the body’s primary organizing force.

The heart resonates with information-containing energy. Energy, matter, and information are one and the same. The heart is the body system’s core. Because of the heart’s central location in our body and the extensive connection it has to all of the cells within our body, its energy transmission becomes highly influential for our body and all of the bodies around us.

The heart, is the main center of all the energy centers. It is seen as our primary energy connection station, mediating between the lower physical (“earthly”) and higher energy centers. It is seen as the transitional point where our physical essence connects with heaven, or the cosmos.

1. Energy and information are the same thing. Everything that exists has energy, energy is full of information, and stored info-energy is what makes up cellular memories. Based on theories and research from the field of biology and other sciences, all living systems are by their nature manifestations of energy that contains the information (memory) of what they are and how they function. To scientists, the word “system” refers to a set of interactions between inseparable units. From the interactions between the tiniest parts within a single cell to the exchange of information between family members at dinner to the energy bouncing back and forth between the stars and planets, everything exists in a continuous info-energetic relationship. Since all systems are information-containing energy “stuff,” all systems constantly exchange memories.

2. What we call mind, consciousness, or our intentions are really manifestations of information-containing energy. Based on the lessons learned from modern physics, information and mind seem to be one and the same. What I am calling “L” energy is the basic code of life and what our “system” remembers as “who” we are. Energy is the ability to do work and a force that conveys our personal life code (our systemic memory) along with the information it contains. Information is what gives a system its form and structure, and energy is the force or function that moves a system, connects all aspects of a system, and helps systems communicate and connect. Since all systems are connected and share forms of the same energy, all systems share common memories.

3. The heart is the primary generator of info-energy. The heart is constantly sending out patterns of info-energy that regulate organs and cells throughout the body. Every cell in the body is literally bathed in the info-energy conducted from and by the heart. Since the heart is a primary generator and transmitter of info-energy, it is central to our system’s recollection of its life—its cellular memory.

4. Because we are manifestations of the info-energy coming to, flowing within, and constantly being sent out from our total cellular system, who and how we are is a physical representation of a recovered set of cellular memories. Based on cellular biology, we know that certain molecules have very good memories because they are particularly good at storing complex coded information. For example, DNA is a nucleic acid found in all cell nuclei that contains genetic information that determines to a yet to be determined extent not only how we look but what diseases we might develop, whether or not we are grouchy or cheerful in temperament, and even how long we live. All cells have energy, so all cells contain and share information. All cells store info-energetic memories, and our heart, by nature of its immense power, millions of cells throbbing in unison, and central location in our body, is the central organ that constantly pulsates info-energy from, between, and to all other organs and cells. Because of the heart’s code and the cellular memories with which it deals, every cell in our body becomes a holographic or complete representation of our energetic heart. It may take extraordinary individuals such as the little girl above and the heart transplant recipients you will read about, or at least individuals willing to learn to employ the abilities all of us have, to be able to make our implicit cellular memories explicit. If any one of us can do it, than any of us also has the potential to be a cellular memory recoverer.

Energy keeps us together

The basic unit of all life, the cell, exists only because it is held together by energy. The atoms and molecules that make up a cell also exist because their various parts are held together by bonds of energy. Surgeon Sherwin Nuland, who describes himself as mechanistic in his orientation and not at all a proponent of the existence of a vital spiritual energy, writes, “It is energy . . . that keeps a human being in one piece.” The cardio-energetics hypothesis that energy and information are interchangeable may mean that even the four categories of energy science is willing to accept contain a code that represents who we are. If who we are is at least in part a representation of our soul, then all types of energy are “vital” forms of the life force.

There cannot be a thought—that does not also contain feeling

Embrace the Power of the field .... (Wayne Dyer)

The Field—not as something you do—but as an energy you’re a part of. We’re all intended here through the invisible power of intention. Look at intention as a field of energy that you can access to begin co-creating your life with the power of intention. You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are. The heart is the biggest electromagnetic organ in our physical mind/body.

Activating your power is a process of connecting with your natural self and letting go of total ego identification.

The process takes place in four stages:

1… Discipline – building strong habits and realign with your body. Do the things you know you should do (i.e. exercise, eat well etc). Live with integrity to your ideal self! Controlling your outbound emotions.

2… Mind with Wisdom is the second stage - Wisdom combined with discipline fosters your ability to focus and be patient as you harmonize your thoughts, your intellect, and your feelings with the work of your body. We send children off to school telling them: Be disciplined and use your head, and call this education, but it falls short of mastery.

3… Love is the third stage - It starts with the energy of love. After disciplining the body with wisdom, and intellectually studying a task, this process of mastery involves loving what you do and doing what you love. In the world of sales, I call it falling in love with what you’re offering, and then selling your love or enthusiasm to potential customers. When learning to play tennis, it involves practicing all of the strokes while studying strategies for playing the game. It also involves enjoying the feeling of hitting the ball and of being on the tennis court—and everything else about the game.

4… Surrender is the fourth stage - This is where your body and your mind aren’t running the show and you move into intent. “In the universe there is an immeasurable, indescribable force which shamans call intent, and absolutely everything that exists in the entire cosmos is attached to intent by a connecting link,” is the way Carlos Castaneda describes it. You relax, grab the trolley strap, and allow yourself to be carried by the same power that turns acorns into trees, blossoms into apples, and microscopic dots into humans. So grab that trolley strap and create your own unique connecting link.

Starting with love means your end energy will also be of love. Absolutely everything in the entire cosmos includes you and your disciplined, wise, loving self, and all of your thoughts and feelings.

When you surrender, you lighten up and can consult with your infinite soul.

Then the power of intention becomes available to take you wherever you feel to go.

The intellect, we must realize the intellect is not the creative factor in the Universe.

Rather, it is feeling that is creative

God speaks to the heart through a language of feeling, a feeling which is affirmative.

It is well to combine the intellect and feeling and to use both the head and the heart, for the intellect gives a definite form to the feeling.

But unless the feeling is there, the intellect will merely have provided the empty mold.

It is interesting to know that the best psychological balance is the balance between the intellect and the emotions, the conscious mind and the feelings.

• We want not only to feel but to think.

• We wish not only to think but also to feel.

Be certain, then, that in all your work you combine this subtle essence with the conscious word you speak until the two become one.

As a seeker you will put these qualities together until they fuse into one, and then the head will speak through the heart and the heart will feel through the intellect.

Mindful Guided Decisions:

this is where concentrated focus and will power comes into play….

Intention, triggers transformation of energy and information. Intention organizes its own fulfillment. The quality of intention on the object of attention will orchestrate an infinity of events to bring about the outcome intended, provided one follows the other spiritual laws of success. This is because intention in the fertile ground of attention has infinite organizing power. We see the expression of this infinite organizing power in every blade of grass, in every apple blossom, in every cell of our body. We see it in everything that is alive...

The quality of love. Merging the heart and mind. Thinking with your heart.

There are seven faces of intention. If you could have magical binoculars that you could focus and look at this field of intention, you would see what the source of all things looks like.

It’s a source of love and kindness and beauty and creativity, and it’s a source that excludes nothing and it’s a source of unlimited abundance. It’s a source that never rests. It’s always in a continuous state of creating and it is kindly toward everything that it creates.

Every time we have a thought that’s inconsistent with that — if we have a thought that’s not a thought of kindness towards others — then we’ve left the field and, therefore, lost the power of the field, as well.

The whole idea is to connect yourself back to this field from which all things emanate, to return to your source and watch it in every thought that you have. Then you’ll be able to do everything that your source can do, because you and your source are never separate. Your task is to contemplate the energies of life, love, beauty, and kindness. Every action that’s in harmony with this originating principle of intention gives expression to your own power of intention. An intention is a directed impulse of consciousness that contains the seed form of that which you aim to create. Like real seeds, intentions can’t grow if you hold on to them. Only when you release your intentions into the fertile depths of your consciousness can they grow and flourish. Harmonize your heart.

Embrace the Power of the field .... (Wayne Dyer)

The Seven Faces of Intention (thinking from the heart)..

1. Be Creative

• Means trusting your own purpose and having an attitude of unbending intent in your daily thoughts and activities.

• Staying creative means giving form to your personal intentions.

2. Be Kind

• All that is manifested is brought here to thrive. It takes kindly power to want what it creates to thrive and multiply.

• It’s through giving that we receive.

• Be kind toward yourself.

• Be kind towards others.

• Be kind towards all of life.

3. Be Love

• You were intended out of love, you must be love in order to intend.

• Love is co-operation rather than competition.

• Love is the force behind the will of God (it’s the spiritual vibration that carries divine intentions from formless to concrete expression).

4. Be Beauty

• As you awaken to your divine nature, you’ll begin to appreciate beauty in everything you see, touch and experience.

• Life, truth & beauty are all symbols for the same thing, as an aspect of the God-force.

5. Be Ever-Expansive

• The all-emerging universal force that intended you into beingness and commences all life is always growing and perpetually expanding.

• By being is an ever-expanding state and growing intellectually, emotionally and spiritually, you are identifying with the universal mind.

6. Be Abundant

• The field is endlessly abundant.

• There is no scarcity in the universal invisible world of Spirit.

• We become what we think about.

• It is all about having an inner picture of abundance, thinking in unlimited ways, being open to the guidance that intention provides when you are in a state of rapport with it – and then being in a state of ecstatic gratitude and awe for how this whole thing works.

7. Be Receptive-willing

• The universal mind is ready to respond to anyone who recognises their true relationship with it.

• Stay connected and know you’ll receive all that this power is capable of offering.

• The nature of the universal mind is peaceful.

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Tao

3 brains - 3 hearts - 3 self-aspects

Chi is our life-force. This makes it unique as an object of meditation. When you use your mind power (thought), eye power (senses), and heart power (organs) to focus on your life-force itself, you not only gain control of your mind, you learn to control your life as well. All these powers combine to become the highest state of consciousness, which Taoists call Yi.

The Universal Tao approach accumulates, circulates, and refines life-force energy to enhance all bodily functions, including the production of spiritual energies that derive from our organs and glands. Instead of silencing the mind, this system uses it to increase the flow of Chi throughout the body, enhancing our health and our spiritual growth?

Chi is our life force. When you use your mind power (thought), eye power (senses), and heart power (organs) to focus on your life force itself, you not only gain control of your mind, you learn to control your life as well. Using some of this helps one get rid of negative attitudes, emotions or otherwise negative energy. The universe is all energy. Tao lets you focus on the good. Use it along with prayer in helping you to be more grounded. The mind leads and the Chi follows; the Chi leads and the body follows.” Because Chi is at the midpoint between the body and mind, directing the Chi enables us to make changes in both body and mind.
The most important “thing” inside us that we need to accept is the chi field itself. It is a super-intelligent energy field inside us that is connecting the superficial and deep layers of our self. It supplies the energy that we shape into our biological, psychological, and soul structure. The chi field is the energy field of all possibility. If you are scientific you can call it “bioenergy”, and think of it as part of the quantum field. If you are religious you can call it the Holy Spirit and believe it is the divine field of God. There is a human tendency to project the Divine as being a sphere of existence separate from Humanity, located somewhere far beyond the earth plane. This neo-platonic belief in a separation between heaven and earth unfortunately perpetuates and amplifies human suffering on earth.

With the Healing Tao system, you learn to depend completely on your senses, glands, and organs—the inner universe, by which you can make the connection in the outer universe. You can also maintain your family, career, and lifestyle while learning the same practices that the masters had to struggle for. Once you have the concept of the Tao, it will create your desire to do your daily Taoist practice. And that is the only way you will get the results you are looking for (Concept, Desire and Manifestation). This is how our human body functions, because our mental (concept) body controls our emotional (desire) body and our emotional (desire) body controls our physical (manifestation) body.

Difference between Feelings and Emotions:

Feelings and emotions are not the same, but they can be related. If a particular bad feeling is allowed to fester, it can eventually grow into a negative emotional state. The difference is that one can be more easily controlled than the other. Unchecked negative feelings can eventually lead to an uncontrollable emotional outburst. Although we may harbor feelings of anger, dislike, or distrust for others, we do not have to allow those feeling enough power to change our mental state. If we keep working to change negative feelings, we can prevent them from growing into negative emotions and possible outbursts. There is nothing wrong with good or bad feelings as long as we remain in control of them.

The heart point is the seat of love and can be used to connect with the loving energies of the Universal Love. It works like a cauldron to combine all the virtues into compassion. Taoists say that the heart stores our spiritual essence in its unawakened state.

Compassion

When the virtues are combined into compassion, the spirit awakens like a seed, which grows into a tree to bear fruit. When the heart point is opened too early, however, before the other points are opened and connected, one becomes susceptible to external influences, and loving energies can be lost.

Combining the Virtues into Compassion: Compassion is the highest expression of human emotion and of virtuous energy. It is a level of development that takes hard work and serious meditation before it can blossom in a person’s life. It is not a single virtue, but the distillation and culmination of all virtues, expressed at any given moment as a blend of fairness, kindness, gentleness, honesty and respect, courage and love. The power to express any or all of these virtues at the appropriate moment indicates that the person has internally unified himself or herself into a state of compassion.
Compassion is often misunderstood to be based on sympathy, which is actually a weakness individuals show when they are easily affected by the emotions of others. In fact, the combined strengths of the virtues produce an energy more closely related to empathy, which is a superior state that can acknowledge the emotional outpourings of others without being thrown off balance by them. The difference between empathy and compassion, however, is that compassion is not an emotion or a feeling, but a higher state of consciousness that naturally radiates the best human qualities. Taoists regard compassion as the finest form of chi; it is very easy to refine and transform into life force. Students begin absorbing and transforming energy for the development of the physical, energy, and soul bodies. Cultivating the virtues and compassion is the other half of the practice, which refines the relationship among these bodies. The more virtuous energy you develop, the more easily you will be able to clear your channels of any blockages to your energy flow as you transform and refine your energy.

The heart manifests the positive qualities of respect, love, and joy, but when its virtuous Chi is disrupted, the heart becomes the doorway for cruelty, hatred, arrogance, and impatience. Heavenly Chi or the Universal Force, is the most ethereal of the Three Pure Ones. It corresponds and is linked to our spirit, or Shen, which encompasses our consciousness, thoughts, and emotions. The Heart and Shen. The heart is considered the coordinator or ruler of all the various aspects of mind, consciousness, and spirit. For this reason, in traditional Chinese it is often referred to as the Emperor or Master Controller.

The heart regulates and coordinates all the functions of consciousness mediated through the five organs; it directs and processes our intention, willpower, thought, memory, and nervous and sensory input in reaching life decisions. It must be emphasized that all the organs contribute to this higher meaning of Shen, not just the heart. The nervous system, the blood—in fact, virtually every cell of the body—are connected to Shen. Recent scientific research has indicated that the chemical components for consciousness exist not only in the brain but in cells throughout the body. This creates the biochemical potential for consciousness virtually anywhere in the body. The heart is particularly related to memory. In contrast to the kidneys, the heart is more related to long-term memory. This distinction is often seen in people with Alzheimer’s disease, many of whom have excellent long-term memory (strong heart function)

• The Heart Controls Our Spirit/ Consciousness.

• The Spleen Controls Our Intelligence.

• The Kidneys Control Our Willpower.

“The mind leads and the Chi follows; the Chi leads and the body follows.” In ancient Taoist writings, the term Heaven is often used to mean the ordering principle of the universe, or universal law, the law the ten thousand things have to follow. Sometimes Heaven is even used as a synonym for Tao. Heaven is the Yang principle of the universe…..
Qi science treats the entire body as the heart-mind (xin). The brain and its sensory openings is controlled by five vital organ intelligences, with the heart as ruler. Three dantian or energetic brains, gather qi from the collective field and feed it into a network of meridians to shape our human reality. The brain is just physical hardware. The heart’s electro-magnetic field is thirty times greater than that of the brain, and sends more signals to the brain than vice versa
(Heart Math, 2002). Vital organ qi is the software that shapes the violet sensory, feeling, and thought data running through the brain. When a Daoist speaks of Qi, it is intelligent and purposeful. The qi field governs the personal and impersonal (ren and feiren) in patterns that can be known and navigated by a skilled Dao adept. All matter is alive and conscious. The body of Nature is the expression of mind of Dao. Trees, humans, mountains, planets, stars are living entities. Humans are a microcosm of the divine field, and have a special salvational and hence religious role in harmonizing their personal destiny with the qi field of Heaven, Earth and the Five Directions.

The Dao qi field
consists of three forces: yin, yang, and yuan, essentially negative, positive, and neutral. They are governed by an operating system of five forces: fire, water, earth, gold, and wood.

1. 3brains

   1. Our first brain is in our head(self awareness,ego), the ego and rational brain. frontal cortex brain (self-awareness & upper brain)… connects to violet light of intelligent energy..unconscious mind

   2. Our second brain the gut and (low brain), Intuition is also part of the gut …. reptilian brain (gut instinct & low brain) activate the 2nd brain. “gut feelings” are actually low-brain signals that may over ride feelings and thoughts from our heart and head brains. For Taoists, life is a process, a dialogue between jing (body-sexual essence in our belly) and shen (spirit-self awareness in our head), all mediated by Qi from the heart-ruler (xin).https://www.healthline.com/health/mesentery... awareness brain

   3. Our third brain, The heart and (mid brain) is the biggest electrical magnetic field in our body….. limbic brain (heart feelings & mid brain). Control of your mind brain determines your heart mind… It all starts and ends with thoughts. Thoughts or your mind controls your heart or your emotions. The hearts Emotions, always follow the minds Thought; thus the heart-mind connection. This is your choice to organize the energy of love or fear into thoughts which results into the emotions or feelings that follow. These emotions or feelings is what usually controls your actions. …

The Tao view is we also have three concentric and interactive levels of heart:

1. Physical heart: fleshy, beating, organ that pumps blood to whole body through artery and vein system.

2. Energetic heart (xin, heart-mind): heart is the ruler that regulates feelings and thoughts via organ meridians.

3. Spiritual “inner heart” (ling, soul): local heart shen resonates with Original Spirit (Yuan Shen) in our body’s core channel, linking us to the heart of the cosmos, taiyi (Great Oneness).

When our spiritual heart opens fully, we connect directly the cosmic flow of love and creativity. Many people are only awake in one level of their heart…

– important to understand the heart connection!

3 Loves

1. Primordial (Original) Qi = Divine Love (Universal Force – impersonal) – God

2. 2. Pre-natal Qi = Unconditional Love (soul as spark of the Divine) – Higher Self or Cosmic Force

3. Post-Natal Qi = Conditional Love (personal, ego fluctuates Yin-Yang) – Earth force
   Healing Tao inner alchemy meditation help us shift smoothly or integrate the 3…..

http://qi-encyclopedia.com/?article=Qi-is-love

Our Inner Sage is composed of three equal parts

– yet another alchemical Taoist trinity:

1. our physical body-mind (ego): (xin, heart-mind)

2. our soul or personal Energy Body: (ling, inner heart essence)

3. our impersonal oversoul or collective Spirit Body: (da shen, great spirit)

All three aspects of Self are needed to lovingly embrace and make tangible our relationship with Source/Tao.

Our self-awareness (shen or spirit) ….

infuses this network of Qi flow with various ancestral and astrological qualities that illuminate and drive our personality and its shadow (unconscious) aspects.

These three alchemical treasures – Jing-Qi-Shen – sustain our fluid ability to perceive, feel, and act in the physical world.

1st) mind-brain…. Violet light the mind is as can gather intelligent light, programmable to give commands to the heart and activate unconditional love…

2nd) mind brain-heart…. is connected to unlimited light or unconditional love. The violet light is what transforms our love into wisdom and knowledge… the heart can multiply this energy….

3rd) mind brain- stomach area….is the power plant..tan tien .. https://www.sciencealert.com/it-s-official-a-brand-new-human-organ-has-been-classified

Every day you need to activate the eyes, mind, heart, spirit and soul and then focus. This is how you develop consciousness.

Finds balance and awareness/focus in the moment by being conscious with these TAO energy meditations.

Feeling angry or impatient smile into your heart your liver to multiply love joy happinesses.. calm yourself down….Delete the feeling… be like water – silent and letting the moment pass, only respond to what is actually necessary .

Most of us have already learned the hard way that we cannot change the outer world or other people against their will. It is pointless to go against others own natural path of unfoldment. But if we change ourselves, the world and all the people in it are automatically changed without any outer struggle.

This happens for two reasons.

1. “the outer world” is really just a set of perceptions we carry around inside our own mind.

2. our personal chi field (our mind) is part of the cosmic chi field (or universal mind). If our personal energy field changes, the larger chi field has to also change. Nature is just the playground (chi field) where we can go through our life changes. Harmony means we can play freely in the chi field of our personal-cosmos or the world-cosmos.

All that is needed is openness to our innate smiling impulse to access the chi field. Once we claim our peaceful, smiling inner body-mind space, a series of transformative energetic shifts is naturally activated. If we stay relaxed, our inner smiling will continue its natural process until we feel we are back in a state of harmony. If we get uptight, we can simply remind ourselves by inner smiling again. Negative consciousness cannot be “killed”. That is because all consciousness is a part of the universal chi field, and you can’t kill any part of the field without killing the whole field. You can only change its shape. This is the whole purpose of chi kung science – to learn the practical methods of changing the shape of your personal chi field.

Taoism recognizes both the development of virtuous energies and the cultivation of life force to create the soul and spirit bodies as important aspects of spiritual growth. Both approaches are related, because retaining and recycling internal energy into life force can help open and pacify our minds and hearts, bringing forth love, joy, happiness, respect, and honor. These virtues then bring forth other virtuous energies, such as kindness, gentleness, courage, openness, and fairness. The heart is like a cauldron that can be used to combine all the virtues into the energy of compassion, which is the ultimate virtue and a necessary attribute for our spiritual being. At the same time, our spiritual essence and life essence can be combined into one force, giving birth to the energy body (the vehicle) and the spirit body (the captain). We can train these subtle bodies to connect our consciousness to our source. We can reestablish our virtues and become self-regulating individuals, able to make decisions and control our destinies. Dao is a lot about transforming internal energy which promotes a higher vibratory rate and enhances our spiritual growth… Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures. Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being. Patient with both friends and enemies, you accord with the way things are. Compassionate toward yourself, you reconcile all beings in the world.

To Taoists, one major aspect of the spirit is one’s attitude, one’s emotional energy. This idea is not foreign to the Western world. People often remark, “Well, you’re in good spirits today,” or “Let’s have some team spirit!” We also speak of a “spirited performance” or a “spirited horse.” Qigong principles of harmony and balance are very similar to the Christian teachings on love, they are just expressed in a more concrete energetic form. I don’t see any difference between the idea of universal qi and Holy Spirit… yep

1…Be aware of the ego

2…Think in the present consciousness not in the automatic unconscious ego thoughts

3…Link your deepest feelings of your heart and soul of God's love to your intentions, thoughts(attitude of love) and actions.

prayer, belief, choice, and actions

Mastery of Intent, Life, or Love

Love can only exist if the foundation for it is prepared through self-understanding & self-development.

These notes and books do not aim at teaching the meaning of love, for that is beyond what can be taught. It does aim, however, at removing the blocks to the awareness of love’s presence, which is your natural inheritance.

The opposite of love is fear, which a large part can be attributed to the ego thought system.

We cannot experience more than we can accept, but we can expect more than we have been experiencing.

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Love is giving, you are simply choosing to do something for their benefit. “Give, and it will be given to you.”

https://5lovelanguages.com/start/

To refuse to give is to refuse to live to the fullest extent. To refuse to give love is to refuse to receive love. That which we refuse to give out not only closes the door on the giving but on the receiving as well.

The universe itself is an emotion, it is consciousness, it is love. Each of you will go through many definitions of the word, love, as you experience various facets of conditional and unconditional love.

Love is an act of will—namely, both an intention and an action. Or willingness. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love.

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When it comes to Love, most know the existence of love is a given but the nature of love is a mystery.

We cannot know what our life is unless we know what love is.

Love shares & extends itself

Ego projects

The principle of perfect love, and knowing that death is only a transformation. For perfect love does not destroy but only transforms and changes.

Any choice made in love will guarantee an outcome in love. True love holds no necessity for ramifications other than love. True love requires no recompense. True love requires no agreement because it is its own accord. Anybody who tells you that you should love them back is operating in need.

Love is the ability to consciously merge energetically with anyone, anything, any space, any situation, any process, without losing one’s center and free will.

Love-as-merging allows us to energetically expand our sense of Self, without losing our core authenticity or self-identity and our free will. We might choose to lovingly join ourselves into something greater than us, but that merging remains a moment-to-moment free will choice. We can choose to merge with something or someone different at any time.

The right concept of love, on the highest level, is always and necessarily, “I love, regardless of whether or not you love me.”

The Divine Love that flows through you may be expressed in many ways. The love of a mother to the child is Divine Love. It is not maternal love; it is love that holds no judgment and no contingency. “If he treats me well, I will love him” has nothing to do with love. Do you understand this?

When you can love another with no expectation of a return, you know love.

When you think you know love, you think you know love.

Understanding what isn’t Love - is just as important, as knowing what Love is

The heart of humankind’s existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another

All this material is a simple message, a message which you know as a message of Love, the experience of Love, the recognition of Love, the living of Love, the giving of Love.

Love is that force that binds all that is into the one great being that we serve and call the Infinite Creator. We speak of Love for there is nothing else of which we can speak. The Love that is the source of your very being surrounds you each moment of every day that you experience upon this planet.

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Unity is what we all yearn for, yet; most push it away

Understanding, Realizing Love

• The hallmark of love is not loving ourselves but loving others and being united with them through love.

• The hallmark of love is also being loved by others because this is how we are united.

• Truly, the essence of all love is to be found in the union, in the life of love that we call joy, delight, pleasure, sweetness, blessedness, contentment, and happiness.

The essence of love is that what is ours should belong to someone else.

Feeling the joy of someone else as joy within ourselves—that is loving.

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You have but two emotions, love and fear

God’s Knowledge of Love:

One is changeless but continually exchanged, being offered by the eternal to the eternal. In this exchange, it is extended, for it increases as it is given.

Love can NOT attack

Only the light of love remains, for only this has meaning and can live in light. Everything else must disappear. When you are in judgment of another for any reason, you distort your perceptions of that person and you step out of the Christ consciousness and you move out of love. When you can understand truthfully that the frequency of love implies love without any sense of judgment at all, then you will begin to move through this in an active way that is experiential to you. You have to choose it in consciousness, and you have to do it with the intention to see the perfection in those who present themselves to you.

That is clearing the fear of being seen as well. The extent that you can witness it in another is the extent that you can begin to believe that you can be perceived this way as well. Now we want to talk about love again, and when you do this with the intention to see the perfection, you are acting from a place of love, because you are operating out of judgment and judgment is fear in a disguise. Everything you judge you fear. Think about it. Everything you judge you fear. Ask yourself what you judge, and then ask yourself why you fear, and you will know this in your heart once and for all. Everything you judge you fear. And everything you judge you fear because you have an investment in a certain way of thinking, feeling, believing, or a belief that your safety and your personality self is being challenged by it in some way.

The Ego Fear & Separation:

The ego thought system has many forms, for the content of individual illusions differs greatly. Yet they have one thing in common; they are all insane. They are made of sights that are not seen and sounds that are not heard. They make up a private world that cannot be shared. For they are meaningful only to their maker, and so they have no meaning at all. In this world, their maker moves alone, for only he perceives them.

Life is Balance

Feeling our joy in others, though, and not theirs in ourselves is not loving. That is loving ourselves, while the former is loving our neighbor. These two kinds of love are exact opposites on the balance scale.

True, they both unite us; and it does not seem as though loving what belongs to us, or loving ourselves in the other, is divisive. Yet it is so divisive that to the extent that we love others in this way, we later harbor hatred for them. Step by step our union with them dissolves, and the love becomes hatred of corresponding intensity.

Can anyone fail to see this who looks into the essential nature of love? What is loving ourselves alone, really, and not loving someone else who loves us in return? This is more fragmentation than union.

✅ Love’s union depends on mutuality, and there is no mutuality within ourselves alone.

If we think there is, it is because we are imagining some mutuality in others. We can see from this that divine love cannot fail to be and to be manifested in others whom it loves and who love it. If this is characteristic of all love, it must be supremely characteristic, infinitely characteristic, of love itself.

God & Company

All people are born with a predetermined desire to express Life, to come to self-fulfillment through love and accomplishment, and to live creatively. This is inherent and fundamental in man, in animals, and in all nature. The Divine Spirit, in Perfect Life.

✅ But we would add this other thought: Everyone is in partnership with Life, with Love, with God, with Truth, with Beauty.

Truth & Reality

To create is to love. Love extends outward simply because it cannot be contained. Being limitless it does not stop. It creates forever, but not in time. God’s creations have always been because He has always been. Your creations have always been because you can create only as God creates.

Eternity is yours because He created you eternal.

The ego, on the other hand, always demands reciprocal rights, because it is competitive rather than loving. It is always willing to strike a bargain, but it cannot understand that to be like another means that no bargains are possible. To gain you must give, not bargain. To bargain is to limit giving, and this is not God’s Will.

To will with God is to create like Him. God does not limit His gifts in any way. You are His gifts, and so your gifts must be like His. Your gifts to the Kingdom must be like His gifts to you. What you believe you are determines your gifts, and if God created you by extending Himself to you, you can only extend yourself as He did.

These creations or gifts are LOVE

https://expressiveegg.substack.com/p/love

Love is a permanent state in the soul. But as humans you need to learn how to tap into this energy

Love can only exist if the foundation for it is prepared through self-understanding & self-development.

✅Love is Energy - Life is Love

Love is a frequency. When you think of love, you invest in the frequency that can then transform your feelings because the feeling of love that you might think is a feeling is the expression of love through you.

When you are experiencing love, the frequency of love is you. Because you identify through feelings you assume love is a feeling. But love is not a feeling. Love overrides feelings because it is an active expression of God operating as and through you. So as you align to the frequency of love, you call to love. You become love and fear is defeated by the light. To be in love is to be in grace and the awareness of the presence of the Divine. Imagine a wind that is as you, that is love expressing through you and claiming what it encounters in a like field.

This is how you operate in consciousness.

No, this is not about love, this is about learning who you are so that you can begin to choose love where you have chosen other actions in the past.

And you have to understand now that so much of what you do is predicated on an emotional response that you have that gives you a feeling that causes you to take action in response. And of course, as we have stated, fear is the primary response to those things that make you feel uncomfortable.

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Love is a frequency. When you think of love, you invest in the frequency that can then transform your feelings because the feeling of love that you might think is a feeling is the expression of love through you.

When you are experiencing love, the frequency of love is you. Because you identify through feelings you assume love is a feeling. But love is not a feeling. Love overrides feelings because it is an active expression of God operating as and through you. So as you align to the frequency of love, you call to love. You become love and fear is defeated by the light.

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Vibration of Love

There is one sound, one note, being played all the time, at varying degrees or decibels, levels of oscillation, that is all that you see.

The consciousness that pervades all things, that is implicit in all matter, that is God itself in articulation, is what we call the Divine, or the omnipresent.

✅Consciousness is always a feeling, an energy manifestation, whether or not you are aware of it...

The power of choosing which thought to think in itself stems from strong energy movements and results in effect. Therefore consciousness must be one with our real energy.

There’s a vibratory action to your thoughts, your feelings, and your body. You can consciously change the energy and informational content of your own quantum mechanical body and therefore influence the energy and informational content of your extended body. As a frequency, Love is a powerful energy. Love is the energy of the soul, and, therefore, the experience of giving and receiving love, of living a life of love. It is not so obvious that Love must result from an act of will motivated by intelligence. So love is certainly intelligence. Think from the heart.

One way to help understand emotional maturity is one's ability to start all thoughts with love.

Energy interacts with other energies, and as you energize an emotion and you send it out, you are impacting that thing which you are intending. We will say that this is done intentionally and unconsciously, depending on where you are operating from in your awareness of your surroundings and your interactions with those you encounter. You can be passive or active, but you are still projecting your emotion on the object you focus on. Thinking from the heart, not the ego mind.

Now if you are operating at a high frequency and someone is sending you negativity, believe it or not, you will not be in congruence with it. It cannot hurt you but because you are aligned at a higher frequency it will not accept a distortion of frequency at a lower objectification in energy.

The higher you rise in frequency, the stronger your energy field becomes and the less ability lower frequency has to hold you. So this is very simply understood to say that when we say, “Love cannot be distorted,” we are saying love, in its truth, is a high frequency, and the high frequency will ennoble itself to support a system from negativity. Because you self-identify through feelings, you assume that love itself is a feeling. But love is not a feeling. Love overrides feelings because it is an expression, an active expression of the divine operating as and through you. The energy of love is uncompromised by love, as love, in love, and is the action of the Creator in this frequency.

Now the individual who sends the energy and the frequency of love to that which is before her is, of course, benefiting the subject of her focus through this intention. It is a frequency that is emitted that transforms that which it encounters. And it is free and it is not to be dictated as much as it is to be expressed. In reality, Love is a frequency that only knows itself in love.

And as it is in love, what it creates is more love. This is creation, the creation of love, love always extends.

When you are love, you are yourself as love and operating in frequency. You become truly you in frequency. And then what you call to you will be in that frequency, in resonance, and your experiences radically, change. But as you vibrate at this frequency, your abilities are aligning themselves in new ways as well. When you are resonating as love, you are doing that but not from an ego level. You are supporting others in rising to that frequency. When you resonate as love, you are the gift of love to others. When you work in love, what is changed is the frequency of your energies.

If you truly look at any single issue in the full scope it deserves, you will have to conclude that hatred is ignorant, no matter how justified it may appear. It is a lack of intelligence. Darkness is ignorance. Light is wisdom and love.

There are many other experiences, perceptions, and sensations, some of which you do not even know exist, that are indications and expressions of love. They reflect your state of consciousness, whether it is already enlightened and loving or still unenlightened, defensive, hating, and fearful. What you focus on your intention, regardless of the emotional impact you imagine you are creating, is impacted by your focus. That is clear. “If I am focusing on something with the intention to be angry, the subject of my focus is changed and is altered by the frequency of my intention.” That is a clear ideal that you must begin to understand as you evolve in your frequency. The energies that you operate from design themselves, and redesign themselves, based on your consciousness. By feeling for the improved thought, in time, and usually in a short time, you will feel the harmony of your inner soul; and you will know the appropriateness of your behavior. We would not look for the long lists of right and wrong, but instead, we would feel the emotion of alignment with Love.

Our soul is always good, always true, always loving. It's the real truth of our being. Our soul is deeper than the personality psyche; it is the core or essence of our being. The soul is only potential until one can figure out how to tap into this inner resource.

But begin to understand that every relationship you are in has an exchange of energy attached to it.

Where are you liberated in the energies that you experience in this relationship, and where are you depleted? Where do you feel constricted, and where do you not feel honored? Now when you do this, you become conscious and aware of things that have always been there. “I am always polite.” “I always open the door,” “I’m always cranky when I don’t get my way,” whatever it might be, is what you need to understand about the capability and the structure of the relationships that you have created. And yes, your relationships have been created for you to learn who you are.

Your current vibration is simply your expression at this level or tone, your attitude.

“Love is an element which though physically unseen is as real as air or water. It is an acting, living, moving force . . . it moves in waves and currents like those of the ocean.” It is much more than loving your family, friends, and favorite things because love is not just a feeling: love is a positive force. Love is not weak, feeble, or soft. Love is the positive force of life! Love is the cause of everything positive and good. There are not a hundred different positive forces in life; there is only one. Love is the cause of all the good things in your life, and a lack of love is the cause of all the negative things and all the pain and suffering. Tragically, a lack of knowledge and understanding of the power of love is clear in people’s lives across the planet today–and in the entire history of humanity. To be in love is to be in the vibration of love, not to categorize what is lovable and not. To know love is to be as love. And to be in love with another is to claim him or her as of love as well.

You will not judge the one you love, because loving is not judgmental.

You will not deny the one you love, because love accepts and does not deny. To judge another, to find fault in him or her, is not to remedy a situation. It’s to create a distance, where love seeks to find itself and know itself and to fulfill its destiny, which is to be. If all are in love, all are in freedom. Do you hear these words? When you are in love, you are free, because when you are in love, you cannot fear. And when you do not fear, you don’t judge. Do you hear those words? When you love another, you cannot judge him or her. To deny another is to deny love, and that implicitly requires you to judge, to make yourself right in the small self’s estimation of what is permissible and what cannot be. To love another is to realize them, and the claim “I know what you are,” as claimed for another, is the realization of form as them beyond what they may have ascribed to. To love another is to know the form of God. To realize the self or the True Self as of God is to claim love as well. To deny God is to say, “I should be right, I must be heard, you must agree,” because in a should, you are in separation and presumption of outcome.

When you decide things based on history, you accrue evidence of the outcome. “This is what I will expect based on what I have known, this is how I will choose,” predicting an outcome that you foresee born in your agreement to what you have known. A life of “should”… A decision born in knowing does not rely upon the old. The True Self, the aspect of self who knows, will accrue the evidence to support knowing.

Love wishes to be known, completely understood, and shared. It has no secrets; nothing that it would keep apart and hide. It walks in sunlight, open-eyed and calm, in smiling welcome and in sincerity so simple and so obvious it cannot be misunderstood.
Its communication, unambiguous and plain as day, remains unlimited for all eternity

And God Himself speaks to His Son, as His Son speaks to Him. Their language has no words, for what They say cannot be symbolized. Their knowledge is direct and wholly shared and wholly one.

Love offers everything forever

True love is God. It is knowing. It is compassion. It is the act of creation itself. It is not an emotion, although you confuse it as such. Love is the action of God as love, but love is also present in wisdom and truth. There are many faces of the Divine and many ways it can be accessed. To know God as love is to know love incarnate. You are not God but in becoming love you are as close as you can. One perception. One Truth. One Love. One Mind.

Love Is the Power That Connects Everything

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✅Love & Wisdom is Consciousness

Consciousness permeates all beings, all creation, all existence that is. Consciousness is a creator of energy and energy must contain consciousness—various aspects of consciousness, perhaps “variations” of consciousness, as well as degrees. The universe is an energy system permeated by consciousness, or, rather, energy and consciousness are one, although this is a difficult concept for us to understand. It flows into all of us and resides in your aura. When you shift the level of your consciousness, you shift the frequency or vibration of your Light. It is at that level that the cause and effect of your intentions, the way that you choose to shape your energy, influences others. How does this happen? Light consists of energy and the corresponding level of its frequency or vibrancy. You are a system of Light, as are all beings. The frequency of your Light depends upon your consciousness. When you shift the level of your consciousness, you shift the frequency of your Light. It means shifting yourself to a completely new dimension of experience and perception. You are not a human being having a spiritual experience. You are a spiritual being having a human experience.

1. First, there was a marriage of goodness and truth in the universe and absolutely everything in it that the Lord created.

2. Second, this marriage was broken up in us after creation.

3. Third, it is a goal of divine providence that what has been broken apart should become a whole and therefore that the marriage of goodness and truth should be restored.

There is nothing but a love that embraces all desires for what is good and therefore a wisdom that embraces all perceptions of what is true.

Further, since everything good and true comes from the Lord and the Lord is love itself and wisdom itself, it follows that we are an image of him……..

Being moved and thinking come from life. Being moved has to do with love, and thinking has to do with wisdom.

Both have to do with life because love and wisdom are life.

Constantly being streamed through our conscious thoughts & always present in the quietness of our unconscious soul and heart.

“If you raise your intellectual faculty even a little higher, you will see that love and wisdom do not exist unless they have a source somewhere.

Their source is love itself and wisdom itself, and therefore life itself.

Love & Wisdom are God and flow into us from God.”

Love is the essence of life.

Life consists of your desires which are the same as your loves.

Life and feelings are one. Where there is one, there must be the other.

Feelings arise from divine love and thoughts from divine wisdom.

People think that wisdom is what differentiates, but wisdom comes from love. It is love’s form, for love is the underlying reality of life and wisdom is the manifestation of life from this underlying reality. Wisdom/light is the manifestation of life which occurs when it has been impressed with the warmth of love. This inner light is the guiding star of the self....

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It needs to be clear that all freedom is a matter of love, even to the point that love and freedom are the same thing. Since love is our life, freedom is also essential to our life. Every pleasure we experience comes from our love; there is no other source of pleasure. Choice…. Acting for the sake of the pleasure of our love is acting in freedom, because pleasure leads us along, the way a river bears its burdens quite naturally along its current.

Since we have many loves, some of which agree with each other and some of which disagree, it follows that we likewise have many kinds of freedom.

You only have control over three things in your life - the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take. Three distinctive, major facets are direct manifestations of life or our consciousness.

They are: love, perception, and free will...

It is because of these abilities that we are human and are distinguished from animals. The reason we have these abilities is so that we can become spiritual instead of earthly.

1. We can discern what is true and what is good.

   This ability is called “rationality,” and is an ability of our judgment or discernment(perception with or without judgment) depending on our degree of Wisdom…..one perception, one truth.

2. We can do what is true and what is good.

This ability is called “freedom,”(free will, choice) and is an ability of our heart-mind. We can choose our energy. Feelings of Love, intent & desires, based on the balance scale of love… More feelings towards goodness, one truth, one perception and service to others(divine love), or self-service (ego love) and leaning more toward Fear and separation?

1. Because of our rationality, we can think what we want to think, either in favor of God or against God, in favor of our neighbor or against our neighbor. Thought, perspective, Wisdom, Truth, Goodness…

2. We can also intend and do what we are thinking, when we see something evil(fear) and are afraid of the penalty, we can use our freedom to refrain from doing it. Desire, Choice(Free will)Love, Feelings, Attitude….

Wisdom is using the knowledge thought system, not the ego thought system (one perception, one truth)

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Without free will, your beliefs control your attention.

If you control your attention from the inside, when you decide your attention is hooked by the outside… you recover free will.

Once you recover free will, your attention controls your beliefs

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Freedom is creation because it is love.

Definition Discernment

When we judge someone or ourselves, we are including ideas of right and wrong, morality and immorality, about what should or should not be.

Discernment is different. When it comes to engaging with others, discernment is a vital tool. With discernment, we are simply taking account of the facts and making a decision based on them alone; there is no morality involved.

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You need love because we breathe it. After all, it is all things real and may be expressed through anyone, any being who knows who she is.

Love is never gone when it is true. It cannot be gone.

#1… The reason for being is to be in love. It’s what you all need. It’s what you all ask for

#2… And the reason of being, to be loved and in love, is comprehended with the depth of the entirety of your soul.

#3… The moment you stop thinking that love is an emotion, because what it is, is truth as love, truth as God, the truth. period… period… period.

#4… True love requires nothing of anyone. Do you understand that? If your idea of love is mandated by another’s behavior, you are mandating in fear of the loss of love.

• God & his love and its meaning are obscure to anyone who thinks that love can change.

• He does not see that changing love must be impossible.

• And thus he thinks that he can love at times, and hate at other times.

• He also thinks that love can be bestowed on one, and yet it is withheld from others.

Romantic Love

Romance itself is an idealization that is primarily based on desire and the ideal of longing. We are not bypassing true love as it has been expressed in the storybooks, just simply reminding you that you detail things by prescribed patterns that may or may not serve you. At this time, elevate your consciousness to a broad sense of true love to incorporate all and everyone that you see before you. There are such things, of course, as soul mates and there are those people that you have gone into agreement with to learn and to share from.

But please understand, that you dictate that something should last forever is primarily a construct born out of fear of losing something. What is true in love is everlasting and that will always be the case. You all have choices. You all have responsibilities and the requirements of this time, very simply, are that you become conscious of them.

Perhaps you think that different kinds of love are possible. Perhaps you think there is a kind of love for this, a kind for that; a way of loving one, another way of loving still another.

To believe these things of love is not to understand it.

✅Love or Consciousness and God is One

Love is the force of God, the thought of creation. It is almost impossible to conceive a thought powerful enough to create this infinite universe. Yet such a thought exists, and you are that thought.

Accepting the self as you are, without fear as your companion, without(ego) fear as your armor, without fear as the expectation of your life, permits you to know your True Self while in this temporary human form. We are all a part of this eternal energy.

One truth, One perception, We are all part of God's mind, LOVE, Unity… Love doesn’t change thus it’s Eternal; which means we are eternal….

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God is here. God is living inside you as life, as love, but you have to see that truth, or there is nothing.

Real love is what you were born with. Real love is what you are. Look at small kids. Love is a choice. Love is freedom. Love is inclusion. Love is sharing. Love your brother as yourself. Love is the positive force of life! Love is the cause of everything positive and good.

There are not a hundred different positive forces in life; there is only one.

Love is the cause of all good things in your life, and a lack of love is the cause of all negative things and all the pain and suffering.

Love is changeless but continually exchanged, being offered by the eternal to the eternal. Vibration itself, which you will all come to understand one day, implies resonance and coherence and will be the language of science in the coming decades and thereafter.

True love is God. It is knowing. It is compassion. It is the act of creation itself.

Love is not an emotion, although you confuse it as such. Love is the action of God as love, but love is also present in wisdom and truth. There are many faces of the Divine and many ways it can be accessed. To know God as love is to know love. To become Love. To be free of blame, judgment, criticism, and condemnation towards any of God’s children.

Types of Love

I. Selfish or Ego Love

• Love of self (power, feeling superior, thinking only of yourself)

• Love of material things (wealth, possessions, etc)

II. Human Love, that is, a love that changes and varies:

‘I love you when you please me, and I hate you when you disappoint me.’ ‘My love for you is strong and unquestioned this morning, but it fades as the day progresses depending on how I feel and the circumstances surrounding us.’

Ill. Spiritual Love, that is, a love that varies, but never changes. This is the kind of love often reserved for our immediate family members, especially our children and parents:

‘It doesn’t matter how much you disappoint me, my love for you is eternal and changeless.’ ‘My love for you, eternal though it may be, can be hot and cold, again oftentimes dependent upon how you are behaving today, or how I am feeling.’

IV. Divine Love. This is a love that never changes and never varies:

The kind of love that our source of being has for us.

Love, Wisdom, and Truth

✅ The Mastery of Love, Intent or Life

From the Toltec point of view, love or intent is that part of life that makes the transformation of energy possible.

It is Life itself; it is unconditional love.

Everything is made with love because everything comes from God or Life.

When we master love, we master the dream of our life, and when all three masteries are accomplished, we reclaim our divinity and become one with God.

Then every action we take is an expression of the One Being. This is the goal.

Make sure unconditional love is your truth! This is an absolute Truth, God's unconditional Love. The one True Law. The one True Perception.

One function of the brain is to transform material energy into emotional energy. Transform all negative energy or ego-fear-based energy of emotions and feelings into the energy of Love.

• Emotions are the fuel for our words and actions and the body

• Our brain or mind is the factory turning emotions into feelings.

• Feelings turn into attitudes, opinions, and beliefs

• Thoughts from the heart and mind are connected to God's love and where we need to think. Learning how NOT to let the ego be in control

• Start all thoughts, intentions, desires, wants, and dreams….. based on LOVE this will produce feelings of love which turn into actions of love.

Practicing this change is needed for successful implementation. Be a “Cleaner” of your life!

One believes in and understands, the spiritual nature of things. We must believe that love, goodness, truth, and beauty are at the center of everything, therefore at the center of the person, the condition or situation which we designate in our treatment.

We exist in Love and are One with It. We live by, through, and in It. It motivates our entire thought, purpose, plan, and action. Everything we see, we see with the eyes of Love.

Everything we hear, we hear with the ears of Love. We see God everywhere; wherever we look we see Him, wherever we go we find Him. We must believe that Love is God, infinite, eternal, and ever-present. We cannot escape Love.

• One must learn to merge the heart with the intellect. Combining love and wisdom is key. The quality of love is only as good as the quality of wisdom, and vice versa.

Teach only love, for that is what you are.

Anything that is good or of goodness is Love.

Intent from the Toltec point of view is that part of life that makes transformation of energy possible; it is the one living being that seamlessly encompasses all energy, or what we call “God.” Intent is life itself; it is unconditional love.

The Mastery of Intent is therefore the Mastery of Love. The Mastery of Life~4 Agreements

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Utilizing The Tool Box and Skill Sets

The Four Agreements or tools help us align with our integrity & God's unconditional love. To improve our emotional self-control and effective communication skills.

#1… The first agreement, the impeccability of the word, is completely aligned with our integrity. Communicate only from our soul or heart.

#2 & 3… The second and third agreements, don’t take anything personally and don’t make assumptions, (clarify, ask questions) give us immunity to the Ego’s judgment and to everybody’s personal ego dream world that surrounds us. We realize it’s the Ego in control, not Love. With that immunity, we realize they act from their ego thought system. We respect their dream. We don’t have to agree. We don’t have like them. But we can see ourselves and God in them. They are still our brother or sister united in God's Love. We may have to agree to disagree, in areas of no compromise.

#4… And the fourth agreement, always do your best, is the engine that moves us forward; it is the action. We may fail often, but we keep trying and striving.

Keep focusing your attention on your integrity, and make choices that don’t go against yourself.

The Golden Rule…

Realizing your personality or who you think you are is most likely comprised of things mostly related to the external world. Realizing you need to see the inner you, the spirit. What do you want, who you truly are? What all of us deep down want. Acceptance & Love, etc…

Realizing what the Ego is and isn’t

1. We realize how the Ego Thought System operates

2. We are aware of our feelings & trigger points

3. We utilize the heart-mind connection tools

4. We learn to control our inner self, not trying to control those outside us

5. We don’t argue

6. We don’t defend

7. We don’t assume

8. We don’t attack

9. We don’t constantly criticize

10. We don’t judge, we discern

11. We learn to respond in Love, not react from the Ego

We can see how we constantly

Accuse

Prosecute

Judge

Convict and

Sentence ….. people

A system of trying to control the outside world. A system of selfish protection of our ego material world personality….

By focusing your attention and following your integrity, you can measure your choices by your action-reaction.

• This choice comes from love; that choice comes from fear.

• This choice makes me happy; that choice makes me suffer.

Realize what love is and isn’t

LOVE is a frequency, not a feeling

The feeling of LOVE comes from being in the frequency of LOVE

The reason for being - is to be in LOVE

And to find someone to LOVE us in return is what we all yearn for

And the reason of being, to be LOVE and in LOVE, is comprehended with the depth of the entirety of your soul.

The goal is to always have an open heart

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Anchoring your own love of self in the physical body, in the physical experience that you stand in.

The reason for this is that it is impossible, in truth, to give love when you do not have it to give.

Three key components of intimate love

1. passion(body-emotions)

2. commitment (rational mind)

3. intimacy(heart feelings - interpretation)

Passion refers to those drives that lead to feelings of romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation. This is primarily a neurochemical bodily reflex, and without the brain to reflect on it and the heart to give it meaning, it alone is not fulfilling and is not likely to maintain a relationship, particularly at times of stress and challenge to that relationship.

The second component of love, commitment, is the rational decision to stay with a lover in the short and long term. This is primarily the work of the intellectual brain seeking support in its struggles through life. Without the thrill from the body’s connection with another body or the intimacy of the heart’s energetic connection, commitment alone leads to what Sternberg calls an “empty,” and cardio-energetics calls an “energy-less,” love.

The third component of loving is intimacy, which is feelings in a relationship of closeness, bonding, and intimate connection. These feelings are similar to the three loving habits of the heart — connecting, nurturing, and integrating. Where passion is the work of the body and commitment is the job of the brain, intimacy is an affair of the heart. Without the heart to coordinate our love, we have only what Sternberg calls infatuated, empty, and unrealistic or romantic love. When we put our heart into our loving by being more cardio-sensitive, we love “Mind to Mind,” as two trinities of brain/ heart/ body energetically connected. When such a profound connection occurs, our heart is made happy and content as we find meaning together in the chaos of living.

5 Rules of Love

1. Allow the other to do what they want not what you want. Have no expectations or assumptions and never demand...

1. Relationships are a variable. Never are they absolute. They take great attention and the right intentions.

2. There is no right person, we all have our nonsense... The fact their normal is not your normal is very normal...

3. Love is not external, it is the sweetness of your heart, your emotions. The source is within you, not from or because of others...

4. Do not love, be love. Being in the state of love means being in a state of complete alignment with your soul's vibration. When you are in a state of love, there is no active resistance within you... No one can fulfill your expectations. You cannot continue to focus on unpleasant thoughts without keeping the thoughts active within you and therefore holding yourself out of alignment with the solutions and relationships that you desire. In short, you just cannot get to where you want to be by pointing at the evidence of that which is unwanted.

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Definition - Judgment and Discernment

When we judge someone or ourselves, we are including ideas of right and wrong, morality and immorality, about what should or should not be.

Discernment is different. When it comes to engaging with others, discernment is a vital tool. With discernment, we are simply taking account of the facts and making a decision based on them alone; there is no morality involved.

Life is relationships

We may have to say this is not something I can live with, this isn’t who I am, or someone I can live with or choose to be around, There are no moral judgments, no right or wrong. Just this isn’t what I want or I can’t compromise my values, my integrity, or what I want out of life.

Personal tastes, boundaries, and compatibility issues are valid concerns, and decisions must be made in personal or intimate relationships before & sometimes after long-term commitments are made. You may have to make a tough choice, as you can still love them, just not in an intimate type of relationship, or in some relationships sometimes it may be from afar.

You are only responsible for your 1/2 of any relationship

People assume very, very quickly that they are not the one in authority at any given time, when, in fact, the only way you cannot be in your authority is to abnegate your authority. And then if you do that, you are still in choice. And that means you are still the one in authority.

So please, first things first. You are at the center of all of your relationships. Every relationship you are in has an exchange of energy attached to it. Where are you in the energies that you experience in these relationships?

Now to understand, once again, that you are the one in charge of all of your relationships forces you immediately to abandon the idea, the belief, and the investment in being the one who is being or been victimized by anyone for any reason.

When you choose love, what comes to you is love. And if you have anything that stands in the way of your reception of love, any belief in unworthiness, undesirability, or belief that you could not be loved for any reason at all, it will become clear to you.

• If you can love and think with your heart, not your mind.

• If you practice the 4 agreements.

• If you did and tried your best.

• If you only control yourself, you can’t control anyone else

That’s all you can do

It’s up to the other 1/2 to how they perceive you

Everyone creates, directs & stars in their dream world or movie of themselves.

Learn from all relationships

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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love…..Love never fails.

Miracles occur naturally as expressions of love. The real miracle is the love that inspires them. In this sense, everything that comes from love is a miracle.

✅Love is giving and receiving

By giving you receive

By giving you receive. But to receive is to accept, not to get. It is impossible not to have, but it is possible not to know you have. The recognition of having is the willingness to give, and only by this willingness can you recognize what you have.
What you give is therefore the value you put on what you have, being the exact measure of the value you put upon it. And this, in turn, is the measure of how much you want it.
Never forget, then, that you set the value on what you receive, and price it by what you give. To believe that it is possible to get much for little is to believe that you can bargain with God. God’s laws are always true, fair, and perfectly consistent. To give and to receive are one in truth.

Understanding brings appreciation and appreciation brings love. Nothing else can be understood because nothing else is real, and therefore nothing else has meaning.

The symbols of hate against the symbols of love play out a conflict that does not exist. Symbols stand for something else, and the symbol of love is without meaning if love is everything. True giving is creation. It extends the limitless to the unlimited, eternity to timelessness, and love unto itself. It adds to all that is complete already, not in simple terms of adding more, for that implies that it was less before. It adds that letting what cannot contain itself fulfill its aim of giving everything it has away, securing it forever for itself.

We cannot experience more than we can accept, but we can expect more than we have been experiencing. To refuse to give is to refuse to live to the fullest extent. To refuse to give love is to refuse to receive love. That which we refuse to give out not only closes the door on the giving but on the receiving as well.

Love wishes to be known, completely understood, and shared. It has no secrets; nothing that it would keep apart and hide. It walks in sunlight, open-eyed and calm, in smiling welcome and in sincerity so simple and so obvious it cannot be misunderstood.

Every human being contains a built-in mechanism that makes receiving quite impossible when the soul withholds its innate capacity and yearning to give. Since in reality giving and receiving are the same flow and movement, one cannot exist without the other. The more you receive the more you can give, and the more you give the more are you capable of receiving. It is then that giving and receiving become one.

Even in only taking love there is the act of giving it out. If you have something to give another and it is not wanted, not taken, it hurts. But when the other takes it, this person gives it to you. Since in reality giving and receiving are one, you cannot give to others without also giving to yourself. Conversely, by withholding from others, you inevitably withhold from yourself. In the viewing of yourself, the frustration resulting from not sufficiently receiving has been overemphasized in the last decades, while the frustration of not sufficiently giving has been very much neglected.

Sometimes the far worse pain is caused by the frustration of not giving what you have. Both of these cause problems and vary in degree. One must also acknowledge that every universal law, refers back to The Universal Law of Balance; It is about healthy balances of the two forces!

We all hesitate to give at times. There are innumerable occasions in people’s daily lives when they stand at a point of decision whether to hold back the self or give. The issue itself may not be important, but the underlying attitude is. What is the feeling or attitude behind not wanting to give? Fear of letting go means that the real self cannot manifest. The self can manifest only as a spontaneous expression. Such spontaneity exists, for example, when knowledge manifests intuitively from within yourself, not through a learning process introduced from outside.

One must find the real reason and deal with it. Those who are caught in guardedness and defensiveness and who are constantly watching themselves so that these forces cannot manifest, numb themselves and the relationship. To the degree you let go and give up a self-centered or destructive attitude, fear of self automatically decreases. Something new begins to happen from within. The creative powers begin to function. Thus, you will no longer thwart yourself. You will no longer inflict frustration and therefore pain upon yourself because the immense pleasure of following the natural movement will fill your being. The pleasure of giving and receiving will become fully possible.

You cannot receive as long as you remain in the old position of refusal and isolation. As long as you fail to let go of the self-imposed restrictions, you not only make your giving very difficult or impossible, but you make receiving equally as hard.

Before you can truly reveal yourself to God, you have to learn to reveal yourself to another beloved human being. And when you do that, you reveal yourself to God too. Many people want to start by revealing themselves to God directly, to the personal God. And, deep in their heart, it is only a subterfuge because it is abstract and far. What they reveal, no other human being can see or hear. One is still alone. One does not have to do the one thing that seems so risky and that needs so much humility and thus appears humiliating. By revealing yourself to another human being, you accomplish so much that cannot be accomplished by revelation to God who knows you anyway, and who does not need your revelation. By finding the other soul and meeting it, you fulfill your destiny. And when you find another soul, you also find another particle of God. And if you reveal your soul, you reveal a particle of God and give something divine to another person.

Potential partners should possess a loving personality that seeks not to control, but to nurture, not to dominate, but to empower. Someone whose words and actions consistently exhibit the intelligence and clarity to form their intentions mostly from their soul; empathy, forgiveness, humbleness, and tenderness-creating true love-based energy. Their character should show that their Light is shaped by the goodness of Love and compassion that is guided by the truth of Wisdom...

Giving love is the law that applies to everything in your life. And giving love is the law of relationships.

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Compassion

Is beyond empathy accepting their pain without judging and without attachment to the outcome.. holding the focus for a greater outcome

sympathy is acknowledging their pain.. empathy is feeling their pain…

Unconditional Love Reflects Compassion

Compassion is the highest expression of human emotion and virtuous energy. It is a level of development that takes hard work and serious meditation before it can blossom in a person’s life. It is not a single virtue, but the distillation and culmination of all virtues, expressed at any given moment as a blend of fairness, kindness, gentleness, honesty and respect, courage and love. The power to express any or all of these virtues at the appropriate moment indicates that the person has internally unified himself or herself into a state of compassion.

Compassion is often misunderstood to be based on sympathy, which is a weakness individuals show when they are easily affected by the emotions of others. The combined strengths of the virtues produce energy more closely related to empathy, which is a superior state that can acknowledge the emotional outpourings of others without being thrown off balance by them. The difference between empathy and compassion, however, is that compassion is not an emotion or a feeling, but a higher state of consciousness that naturally radiates the best human qualities.

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Love makes requests, not demands

Unconditional Love

Like water, love has no shape of its own; both morph to fit the container that holds them. The energy that moves your body and determines the state of your mind also exists in a state of flow. Purification then is the application of unconditional love that removes blocks and allows for the natural flow of emotions and energy through your body, heart, and mind. Unconditioned love, though, has no vulnerabilities; it defuses disharmonious intention and behavior, and, therefore, it’s always appropriate. Love does not attack.

Activation of unconditional love

✅ Thinking with your heart

No one can teach what unconditional love is because it’s not of the mind. Unconditioned love can only be inspired.

We cannot create it because it’s innately present yet typically inactive. What we can do is tune to it and activate it, which will bring us into the frequency of unconditional love, the great alchemical agent that purifies and unveils.

Consider this African proverb: “When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.” An individual who is stabilized in unconditioned love sufficiently has a field of protection around them that wards off malicious intent. The effect is such that the would-be attacker’s body refuses to launch the attack, feeling fear as their dark intent is mirrored back at them. This is the natural effect of unconditioned love. This protection remains so long as the individual is centered in unconditioned love. (The Toltec wisdom books help in daily application.)
If we are going to actualize unconditional love in our lives, we must realize the difference between consciousness and the thinking mind; otherwise, we will habitually be tuning into our minds and, therefore, suffering.

• Love illuminates the essence of and, therefore, the lovability of others. This is because love opens the heart.

• Instead of perception, which perceives, the heart knows. The mind thinks and argues, but the heart knows and continues.

• So even when people make mistakes, we love them. Thoughts tell us one thing, but the heart tells us something else.

• The mind can be critical and disagree, but the heart is loving no matter what. The heart does not put any conditions on what’s out there. Only the mind does that.

Imagine that being in this love is like relaxing endlessly in a warm bath that surrounds and supports your every movement so that every thought and feeling is permeated by it. You feel as though you are dissolving into love. This love is part of you; it is always flowing through you. It’s like the subatomic texture of the universe, the dark matter that connects everything.

When you tune in to that flow, you will feel it in your own heart—not your physical heart or your emotional heart, but your spiritual heart, the place you point to in your chest when you say, “I am.” This is your deeper inner heart, your intuitive heart.

It is the place where the higher mind, pure awareness, the subtler emotions, and your soul identity all come together and you connect to the universe, where presence and love are.

Unconditional love exists in each of us. It is part of our deep inner being. It is not so much an active emotion as a state of being. It’s not “I love you” for this or that reason, not I love you if you love me. It’s love for no reason, love without an object. It’s just sitting in love, a love that incorporates the chair and the room and permeates everything around.

The thinking mind is extinguished in love. If I go into the place in myself that is love and you go into the place in yourself that is love, we are together in love. Then you and I are truly in love, the state of being in love.

That’s the entrance to Oneness.

Like water, love has no shape of its own; both morph to fit the container that holds them. The energy that moves your body and determines the state of your mind also exists in a state of flow.

Emotions are your map of emotional self-control

When you start to feel flush, feel anger, disappointment, etc….

Heart Lock-In® Technique

Step 1. Focus your attention on the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual.

Step 2. Activate and sustain a regenerative feeling such as appreciation, care, or compassion.

Step 3. Radiate that renewing feeling to yourself and others.

Accessing intuition takes managing emotional energy and learning to pay more attention to your heart’s promptings. Otherwise, the mind and emotions tend to override the heart’s often subtle promptings. As we learn to attune to our heart feelings, our natural intuitive connection can develop and grow. One of the biggest benefits of learning to follow my heart’s promptings has been the ability to bring my mental and emotional faculties into greater alignment with my true self.

The Ego Dream is a perceptual temper tantrum

Happiness and Joy

Happiness is an attribute of love. It cannot be apart from it. Nor can it be experienced where love is not. Love has no limits, being everywhere. And therefore joy is everywhere as well. This is the light that shows no opposites, and vision, being healed, has the power to heal. This is the light that brings your peace of mind to other minds, to share it and be glad that they are one with you and with themselves. The light heals because it brings a single perception, based upon one frame of reference, from which one meaning comes. To give and to receive are one in truth.

There cannot be a thought—that does not also contain a feeling

You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don’t have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success—none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here. Imagine that being in this love is like relaxing endlessly in a warm bath that surrounds and supports your every movement so that every thought and feeling is permeated by it. You feel as though you are dissolving into love. This love is part of you; it is always flowing through you. It’s like the subatomic texture of the universe, the dark matter that connects everything. When you tune in to that flow, you will feel it in your own heart—not your physical heart or your emotional heart, but your spiritual heart, the place you point to in your chest when you say, “I am.” This is your deeper heart, your intuitive heart. It is the place where the higher mind, pure awareness, the subtler emotions, and your soul identity all come together and you connect to the universe, where presence and love are.

Unconditional love exists in each of us. It is part of our deep inner being. It is not so much an active emotion as a state of being. It’s not “I love you” for this or that reason, not I love you if you love me. It’s love for no reason, love without an object. It’s just sitting in love, a love that incorporates the chair and the room and permeates everything around. The thinking mind is extinguished in love. If I go into the place in myself that is love and you go into the place in yourself that is love, we are together in love. Then you and I are truly in love, the state of being love.

That’s the entrance to Oneness.

The function of love is to unite all things unto itself and to hold all things together by extending its wholeness.

Love is not learned

Its meaning lies within itself.

And learning ends when you have recognized all it is not. Everything you learned is meaningless, replaced forever by the knowledge of love and its one meaning.

Love is an extension. To withhold the smallest gift is not to know love’s purpose. Love offers everything forever.

Love has no darkened temples where mysteries are kept obscure and hidden from the sun. It does not seek power but for relationships.

The body is the ego’s chosen weapon for seeking power through relationships.

The Treachery of Specialness

Comparison must be an ego device, for love makes none. Specialness always makes comparisons. It is established by a lack seen in another, and maintained by searching for and keeping clear in sight, all lacks it can perceive. Those who are special must defend illusions against the truth. For what is specialness but an attack upon the Will of God? The pursuit of specialness is always at the cost of peace. The pursuit of specialness must bring you pain. The special ones are all asleep, surrounded by a world of loveliness they do not see. Freedom and peace and joy stand there, beside the bier on which they sleep, and call them to come forth and waken from their dream of death. Yet they hear nothing. They are lost in dreams of specialness.

Specialness is a lack of trust in anyone except yourself. Faith is invested in yourself alone. Everything else becomes your enemy; feared and attacked, deadly and dangerous, hated and worthy only of destruction.

Human Love

We “love” another in order to get something ourselves. That is what passes for love in the dream world.

There can be no greater mistake than that, for love is incapable of asking for anything. The reason of being is to be in love. It’s what you all need and ask for and question, and very good reason.

To be in love is to be in grace and the awareness of the presence of the Divine. Imagine a wind that is as you, that is love expressing through you and claiming what it encounters in a like field. And the reason of being, to be love and in love, is comprehended with the depth of the entirety of your soul.

The moment that you stop thinking that love is an emotion, because what it is, is truth as love, truth as God.

Accepting the self as you are, without fear as your companion, without fear as your armor, without fear as the expectation of your life, permits you to know the True Self while human. As humans our emotional reactions have nothing to do with love, for love is a state of oneness with another. Love is not just an emotion that comes and goes. We mistake this for real love. What often passes for love in common human understanding is primarily attachment, dependency, and possessiveness. The symbol of love has become so distorted.

You do know love, but your prescriptions of love and what love might look like have been shadowed by the small self’s need. “I need to be loved by someone who loves me equally.” “I need to be loved by my value, by my gifts to the world.” You don’t need to be loved by those things.

You need love because you breathe it. After all, it is all things and may be expressed through anyone, any being that knows who she is. Love is never gone when it is true. It cannot be gone. You can hide from it. You can depend upon it in the old ways, as personality would.

True love is always present, just as God must always be present, even when you cannot see it or feel it. True love requires nothing of anyone. Do you understand that? If your idea of love is mandated by another’s behavior, you are mandating in fear of the loss of love.

And you cannot love another, truly love them, when you are frightened of losing their love. Do you understand this? You justify things based on idealization, what you want it to be, and you claim for another an identity in agreement to your choice of who he is—did you hear those words?—your choice of who he is, which is a mandate for another to be who you expect him to be.

NO judgment, NO accusations, NO blame.

When was there a time in my life when I loved someone with no requirement for return? If you can remember this moment of truth, you will have something to anchor you to, you will have a sense of knowing what true love is.

To love another is to agree to the Source of all things that present as him. Any agenda you hold for the one before you must be understood as a mandate from the small self.

The nature of God, you see, is all things—everything that you can imagine without exclusion. But everything that you can imagine, without exclusion, is an articulation, the substance of God known as form, known as body, known as nature, known as event or encounter at varying levels of vibration.

Love is a frequency that only knows itself in love. And as it is in love, what it creates is more love. A higher vibration…

Perhaps you think that different kinds of love are possible. Perhaps you think there is a kind of love for this, a kind for that; a way of loving one, another way of loving still another.

Love is one. It has no separate parts and no degrees; no kinds nor levels, no divergencies, and no distinctions. It is like itself, unchanged throughout. It never alters with a person or a circumstance. It is the Heart of God, and also of His Son.

Love’s meaning is obscure to anyone who thinks that love can change. He does not see that changing love must be impossible. And thus he thinks that he can love at times, and hate at other times. He also thinks that love can be bestowed on one, and yet remain itself although it is withheld from others.

To believe these things of love is not to understand it. If it could make such distinctions, it would have to judge between the righteous and the sinner and perceive the Son of God in separate parts.

Love cannot judge. As it is one itself, it looks on all as one. Its meaning lies in oneness. And it must elude the mind that thinks of it as partial or in part. There is no love but God’s, and all of love is His. There is no other principle that rules where love is not. Love is a law without an opposite. Its wholeness is the power holding everything as one, the link between the Father and the Son which holds Them both forever as the same.

Love can have no enemy. There can never be a difference between what you are and what love is. Love’s meaning is your own and shared by God Himself. For what you are is what He is. There is no love but His, and what He is, is everything there is. There is no limit placed upon Himself, and so are you unlimited as well. No law the world obeys can help you grasp love’s meaning. What the world believes was made to hide love’s meaning, and to keep it dark and secret. There is not one principle the world upholds but violates the truth of what love is, and what you are as well.

There is no judgment, no should have, no control, in unconditional Love. Change your thinking, and change your frequency, so that your experience may change.
True love requires nothing of anyone. Do you understand that? If your idea of love is mandated by another’s behavior, you are mandating in fear of the loss of love. And you cannot love another, truly love them, when you are frightened of losing their love. Do you understand this? You justify things based on idealization, what you want it to be, and you claim for another an identity in agreement to your choice of who he is—did you hear those words?—your choice of who he is, which is a mandate for another to be who you expect him to be. If you have nothing to protect, you have nothing to defend. Do you hear those words? If you have nothing to protect, you have nothing to defend. And all you are defending are the ideas of who you think you are or who others are. God does not judge. You judge.

Yet you go toward love still hating it, and afraid of its judgment upon you. And you do not realize that you are not afraid of love, but only of what humans have made of it. To love another is to agree to the Source of all things that present as him and any agenda you have for the one before you must be understood as a mandate from the small self.

We cannot escape Love. We exist in Love and are One with It. We live by, through, and in It. It motivates our entire thought, purpose, plan, and action. Everything we see, we see with the eyes of Love. Everything we hear, we hear with the ears of Love. We see God everywhere; wherever we look we see Him, wherever we go we find Him.

But God's Love is one. It has no separate parts and no degrees; no kinds nor levels, no divergencies, and no distinctions. It is like itself, unchanged throughout. It never alters with a person or a circumstance. It is the Heart of God, and also of His Son, and it is a part of you, all of you. You just have to wake up and realize it…

Love cannot judge. As it is one itself, it looks on all as one. Its meaning lies in oneness. And it must elude the mind that thinks of it as partial or in part. There is no love but God’s, and all of love is His. There is no other principle that rules where love is not. Love is a law without an opposite. Its wholeness is the power holding everything as one, the link between the Father and the Son which holds Them both forever as the same. The purpose is to emphasize that there can never be a difference in what you are and what love is.

Love’s meaning is your own and shared by God Himself

For what you are is what He is. There is no love but His, and what He is, is everything there is. There is no limit placed upon Himself, and so are you unlimited as well

No law the world obeys can help you grasp love’s meaning.

What the world believes was made to hide love’s meaning, and to keep it dark and secret. There is not one principle the world upholds but violates the truth of what love is, and what you are as well.

“God is but Love, and therefore so am I.”

This is the thought which should precede the thoughts that we review. Each one but clarifies some aspect of this thought, or helps it be more meaningful, more personal and true, and more descriptive of the true Self we share and now prepare to know again:

• “God is but Love, and therefore so am I.”

• This Self alone knows Love.

• This true Self alone is perfectly consistent in Its Thoughts; knows Its Creator, understands Itself, is perfect in Its knowledge and Its Love, and never changes from Its constant state of union with Its Father and Itself.

You don’t need to compete with anybody; you don’t need to compare yourself with anybody. You just need to be what you are, to be love, but real love, not the kind of love that possesses you and makes you believe in love. Not the love that makes you jealous and possessive of others, and puts you directly in hell with all the tortures and punishments of hell. Not the love that makes you sacrifice in the name of love, or makes you hurt yourself and hurt others in the name of love.

It starts with self-love.

Don’t confuse this with the ego’s selfish love.

Conditional Love/Human Love: or Personal Love….

Is what we feel for our family, our friends, our pets, etc. The intensity of personal love will naturally vary, depending upon the specific relationship. A nurturing mother’s feeling of love for her baby may far exceed the intensity of the love she feels for a friend. Regardless of the object of the love, it’s still personal and not unconditioned love. Someone may believe that they love their child unconditionally, but there is still a condition in that the love is exclusive to the child, which means it’s not truly unconditioned. The designs that you have created around you are there to support an experience that you intend to have as a human being operating in a body on a physical plane. That won’t change.
Relationships: We judge, we put conditions on love, should haves, you must do this or that or I won’t love you. They must conform to what my perception is of love. We are slaves to our personal dream and our body’s emotions. That doesn’t even include all of our personal preferences, likes, dislikes. In a personal relationship. While on earth much of this is needed for a boyfriend/or marriage. This being said you can still see how human love is so different and unlike God's love. But if one can get someone close to their preferences, and if one understands what love is, it should improve a relationship. Many of us don't know or forget the definition of love.

In every relationship, there are two halves of that relationship. One half is you, and the other half is your son, your daughter, your father, your mother, your friends, and your partner. Of those halves, you are only responsible for your half; you are not responsible for the other half. It doesn’t matter how close you think you are, or how strongly you think you love, there is no way you can be responsible for what is inside another person’s head.

You can never know what that person feels, what that person believes, or all the assumptions he/she makes. You don’t know anything about that person.

Love is a frequency that only knows itself in love.

And as it is in love, what it creates is more love.

Love is always kind. Fear is always unkind

✅The Opposite of Love is FEAR

You can never control the effects of fear yourself, because you made fear, and you believe in what you made. In attitude, then, though not in content, you resemble your Creator, Who has perfect faith in His creations because He created them. Belief produces the acceptance of existence. That is why you can believe what no one else thinks is true. It is true for you because it was made by you. The conflict is therefore one between love and fear. Fear is nothing and love is everything. Whenever light enters darkness, the darkness is abolished. What you believe is true for you. Faith is belief with total conviction.

Selfishness, control, and fear will break almost any relationship. Now strife, in a personal relationship, is a reflection of a need to control one part or another part. But if there are two people in a relationship and there is strife, you can understand very quickly that control is the issue at hand. And if you can understand that all control and requirements of control are born out of a need from fear to be in charge, or whatever you want to say will be incurred by not being in charge, you can understand that fear, once again, is the culprit.

Now it’s much easier to blame someone else for your issues than to take responsibility for them. But to the extent that you have the investment in blame, you become the victim who then cannot help to transform the circumstance that she says she wishes she would, once for and for all, change. The limitations that you have in your requirements for your freedom in relationships are about judgment and fear and a belief that you have to adhere to certain paradigms of behavior that have been entrenched and made so out of a need, yes, to control you. Now if you believe that if you do not behave a certain way you will not be met with love, you are creating situations where your behavior is being dictated by fear.

Emotional vulnerability and affection are often confused with unconditioned love, but both affection and emotional vulnerability are frequencies of the mind and are quite distinct from the frequencies of unconditioned love.

Emotional vulnerability is something to be shared only with the most trusted individuals in our personal lives. To share this energy openly with just anyone is likely to open us up to a lot of abuse.

Affection is an energy that will reward any state of mind, even a destructive state. If expressed at the wrong time, affection will exacerbate unstable behavior. And since no life form can be happy when emotionally unstable, to give affection at the wrong time causes psychological harm.

Because emotional vulnerability opens one to abuse and because affection rewards even destructive behavior, both of these energies need to be expressed very judiciously, so as not to cause harm.

Within the frequencies of emotion, there is a large variety encompassing both positive and negative energies. Within personal love, we have those frequencies that are for our pets, our children, our friends, and our parents. Some of these relationships will resonate at much higher frequencies than others. This is normal and natural.

Fear is the greatest obstacle to clear perception when there are so many other negative emotions to consider. Because, in most cases, fear sits at the center of all of these other emotions. The vast majority of the time, anger, hate, jealousy, regret, and virtually all other negative reactions can ultimately be traced back to fear.

Fear paralyzes us into thinking that we will repeat the mistakes of the past and overwhelms us with anxieties about the future. Fear keeps us trapped in the false belief that we are only acceptable when we live up to an unending list of expectations—we must be smart enough, pretty enough, spiritual enough, financially stable enough, accomplished enough, etc.

When we work with and learn how to recognize and deal with our fears, we often find that the other negative emotions we struggle with diminish or even evaporate at the same time.

What you have required of yourself to learn who you are without fear. And of course, this requires you to decide now that you are no longer willing to engage with it on a level of frequency.

Love does not attack. Love cannot judge. Love is not exclusion. Love is not weak, feeble, or soft. Love makes no comparisons. Love is not a feeling. Love holds no grievances…….

Love is highly complex, so complex that its various forms are without limit. Love is what makes the difference, each individual being her or his love. No individual enjoys any desire or perception so much like someone else’s as to be identical. Further, desires can bear fruit endlessly and perceptions can multiply endlessly. People are capable of many different kinds of love. With such understanding, you will come to the point when you can love without expecting it back from the same source. You will recognize that a little gesture may have a greater meaning from one person than a great gesture from another. It is so relative, and your sense of it can be cultivated.

The emotion of love is impossible without the will to move toward a loving state. If you do not wish to love, if you do not purposely express the desire to love which means to fully understand, and if you do not intend to love, you will not love. You will never be able to feel love, and you will often wonder why. Sometimes the will to love stimulates the will to understand fully, and consequently understanding grows from love. Other times the understanding occurs first and results in the awakening of the will to love.

Either way, the feeling of love cannot exist without intelligence, attention, and intention.

Love:

Without the heart or soul qualities of love, kindness, and intuition that open the road to understanding; intelligence and reason are as nothing and will bring no constructive result in any area whatsoever.

Wisdom:

On the other hand, love, kindness, and intuition, if not kindled by discrimination, which is the result of reason and intelligence, will easily be lost in the wrong channels and finally become destructive-even self-destructive.

What a treasure your hearts are when they love. I beg you to love. It does not matter that you do not love perfectly according to your judgment. It does not matter that you do not love all the time. It matters that you see your inner state of love as the cornerstone of your existence, your seeking, and your destiny. For this universe is one thing and one thing only: it is love, the creative love, the One Original Thought of love. It is within your heart that this love is reproduced so that you become creative also

From thinking with ur heart notes

Two Hearts - Two Minds

The Game is to learn to think with our hearts and minds. Our soul….

https://www.learning-mind.com/the-human-heart-mind/

The heart is the main center of all the energy centers and the biggest

#1. The Body Mind

Emotional Heart/Love

The body’s brain is primarily designed as a reactive health maintenance system, not as a contemplative, feeling system.

When we talk about the heart, it’s easy to confuse the emotional heart and the spiritual heart, because, they represent different levels of consciousness

There’s the EGO emotional heart we’re all familiar with, the one that romance and poetry are usually about (except mystic poetry).

Emotional love encompasses all the dramatic feelings of attraction and hate and jealousy and sweetness and tenderness that make your heart throb, all these emotional states. It is laden with hooks that continually create attachments and constantly affirm our egos. Most emotions like fear, anger, lust, and envy are connected to our personality and the impulses from our conscious or unconscious mind, instincts for survival and procreation.

Emotions are the language of the body

Love is part of the emotional spectrum, but it is different because it emanates from our soul. Even when it becomes confused with our ego projections, love is actually from the higher essence of our being, the part that begins to merge with the spirit and approach the One.

Emotions come into being and are interpreted in our minds, arising and dissipating. If we’re angry, we feel anger in our mind. The emotion and the external stimulus or internal impulse that triggers it (usually some frustration that leads to anger) come into the mind and stir the thoughts like a gust of wind passing through. Siddhi Ma had a great affinity for saints since childhood. She said about anger, “Once the fire starts, it will burn itself out.” If you don’t catch it at the impulse stage, it will only dissipate after causing distress for you or others.

Emotions do seem to have a life of their own, whether they come from habitual patterning or spontaneous reactions. Emotions give you multileveled information about your environment. Sensations stimulate emotions as you interact with people and situations. It’s like a wave that lifts and carries you and sets you down again. When we feel emotional love, we ride the wave, and when it recedes, we need love all over again.

Our Western psyche is built on the need for emotional love. Our mind creates a whole reality around it. We think that’s the way it is, that everybody needs emotional love, and that if we don’t get it, we are deprived or insecure.

Our minds tell us the more emotional love we get, the better off we are. Our culture treats love almost entirely in connection with interpersonal relationships and interactions. Emotional love is based on external gratification, having our love reflected in us. It’s not grounded in feeling love from the inside. That’s why we keep needing more. When we love somebody emotionally, that need for feedback creates a powerful attachment. We get so caught up in the relationship that we rarely arrive at the essence of just dwelling in love.

This is the honeymoon phase of a romantic relationship.

This lasts an average of About 2 years.

To make it last you must love with your true heart and mind. Not the body's mind.

A basic law of consciousness: We are subject only to what we hold in mind.

Emotions from the Body’s 5 senses are the language of the body.

Our Mind then turns these outside interactions into feelings, opinions, attitudes, and beliefs… are your thoughts based on love or fear? Our inner world. Our dream or movie. You are the creator, producer, director, and star…Anything based on goodness is Love.

Based on Your intentions.

You choose which heart to think with…….

Love does not overcome hate and fear by argument or force but by some subtle Power of transformation, transmutation, or sublimation, invisible but apparent through Its act. As light overcomes the darkness, as the presence of heat causes the atmosphere of the room to change until it is warm and comfortable, the radiant presence of Love and Peace dissipates fear, hate, and confusion.

You are the work of God, and His work is wholly lovable and wholly loving. This is how a man must think of himself in his heart because this is what he is.

#2. The Heart Mind

Spiritual Heart/Inner Heart/Soul

For a moment let’s call the place from which soul love emanates the spiritual heart. When one of the Indian saints, experienced the Self in the middle of his chest, it wasn’t his physical or emotional heart. It was his spiritual heart, the seat of consciousness, what the Quakers call the “still, small voice of God.”

The spiritual heart is not the ego

The inner heart is not the physical heart, and it is not the emotional or feeling heart. There is a “third heart”, just as there is a “third eye”. This inner heart is a portal to direct experience of what is called the “soul”, a concept in the West that has successfully eluded all definitions.

Our ego is a constantly changing bundle of thoughts about who we think we are. We build an edifice of thought forms and feelings that we identify with. It’s like a concept of self overlaid on a group of thoughts and emotions that we take as real. There’s nothing bad about having an ego. Those thoughts and feelings are necessary for a healthy personality. But if you identify so strongly with the ego that you think that’s all there is, that limited view can keep you from your deeper Self or deeper heart.

To witness my mind from the inside. I am aware of my eyes seeing, aware of feelings in my body. That witness consciousness is part of the spiritual heart.

The spiritual heart is awareness turned inward, awareness of the spiritual universe within, and the quality of that awareness, the feeling that accompanies it, is love. People instinctively identify with their awareness. When you ask people who they are, they point to their chest. That’s where that awareness resides, not in the thinking mind in the head. That’s the 3rd, deeper spiritual heart.

“Cognitive psychology has never been able to find the mechanism of consciousness. Our awareness is individual in us, and it is also part of the larger awareness of God. It’s not different. We are fingers or tendrils of God's consciousness.

Awareness comes from the spiritual mind.

Shifting our identification from the ego to the deeper heart-mind is the beginning of individual spiritual work. That pure awareness is the territory of the soul. One way to understand awareness or spiritual work within an individual incarnation is to see it as a process of shifting from identifying with our ego to identifying with the soul or spiritual self.

The quality of the soul is not just awareness, but also love and compassion, peace and wisdom. Awareness and love, loving awareness, is the soul. The practice of I am loving awareness turns you inward toward the soul. Souls love. That’s what souls do. Egos don’t, but souls do.

Become a soul, look around, and you’ll be amazed—all the beings around you are souls. Be one, see one. When many people have this heart connection, then we will know that we are all one, we human beings all over the planet. We will be one. One love. And don’t leave out the animals, and trees, and clouds, and galaxies—it’s all one. It’s one energy. It comes through in individual ways, but it’s one energy. You can call it energy, or you can call it love. I like to look at a tree and see that it’s love. Don’t you?” ~Ram Dass

SubConsciousness can be termed “the mind of the heart,” the “consciousness of spirit,” “cosmic awareness,” “Christ-consciousness” and “cosmic consciousness.” This subconsciousness is part of the unitary nature of the Gameboard. It writes its programs by concepts rather than by words.

Those who are relatively able to access subconsciousness within their daily lives are said to be inspired, blessed, or gifted. It is as though the user of consciousness is touched by a more spacious point of view and given a higher degree of insight. This subconsciousness does not wield power in the same aggressive sense in which the intellectual mind wields power. Its inspirations come quietly into the asking heart.

SubConsciousness will not overwrite the programming of the intellectual mind unless asked to do so. This can occur in unusual circumstances which delete the normal intellectual functions and allow subconsciousness to be substituted as the default setting. We all have access to this same subconsciousness, which is the vibration of unconditional love. It is the steady state of vibration for the entire creation. It is an ocean of potential creativity and insight into which we can enter when we have been able to balance and clear our lowest three energy centers.

We have a fair grasp of what our intellects can do. The intellect solves problems. It uses logic and expects to stick close to the facts of what the senses can ascertain and what the authorities, usually scientists, tell us is so. It is a good, competent tool as far as it goes. It is good to use the intellect when its powers of analysis and organization can help to solve a problem.

SubConsciousness is quite another kind of mind. Indeed, its basic nature is that of the soul or spirit within us. Insight, intuition, purified emotions, “knowing” or gnosis, and inspiration are its hallmarks. Its power to inspire is limited only by our ability to take our intellects off-line and clear the way for access to this “mind of the heart” that we call consciousness.

Our intellects will die when our bodies die. Our consciousness will not even break stride.

SubConsciousness—the mind of the heart and soul—works well on the Gameboard. SubConsciousness can use the intellect, and we need both faculties working together to be an effective Player.

We live in both worlds simultaneously as we play the Game of Life. We need to be able to use both faculties and integrate the two streams of information and thought as we go.

Play on the (spiritual) Gameboard starts on the gameboard of every day, the commonplace events of our living being the incoming catalyst. We receive this catalyst with our intellect and also with the surface emotions which are part of the response system of our physical bodies. We examine the catalyst. Many catalysts are ethically neutral.

Some catalyst is charged with the potential for making an ethical choice. We as Players detect the incoming catalyst which involves an ethical decision.

We invite our subconsciousness to join our intellect in the consideration of this catalyst. We use all the faculties of subconsciousness such as guidance, insight, and intuition to find our way to the most informed ethical decision. We set our intention to offer our highest and best response. In doing so, our work on the Gameboard is done. Then we mentally toggle back down to the flat gameboard, where we express and manifest our response in the context of our everyday lives.

Because without our heart centers being open, we cannot access the subconsciousness that is our higher or metaphysical mind. Therefore, as we have discussed the various energy centers and their issues, keep in mind that the goal, in dealing with each energy center and the issues with which it deals, is to bring each energy center into a sufficient state of balance so that our feelings are not caught up in a way that hinders the flow of vital energy through the energy center.

The Thought Of Love in a human’s body

Many people think about love as an activity or an action. Love can manifest in many ways, and in a clear and conscious person, the manifestations of love are clear and unmistakable.

However, that is not love; that is a reflection of love. No matter how beautiful the action or how admirable the act is, actions are not love but merely a reflection or a manifestation of the power of love.

Love is the force of God, the thought of creation. It is almost impossible to conceive a thought powerful enough to create this infinite universe. Yet such a thought exists, and you are that thought.

We do not say that you have been stamped out of a mold although all of you are love, for you have fashioned yourselves as channels, as vases to hold and offer the delicate flavor of love. Such are you: each different, each complex, each still unmanifested as a perfect part of love.

As you attempt to manifest love never chide yourself because of actions but only because you may have forgotten to allow your being to fill itself with the unquenchable love within you.

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Love & Wisdom

Thinking with your Heart

The intellect, we must realize the intellect is not the creative factor in the Universe.

Rather, it is feeling that is creative

God speaks to the heart through a language of feeling, an affirmative feeling. To Love is a choice as is how to love, from true perception or Wisdom

It is well to combine the intellect and feeling and to use both the head and the heart, for the intellect gives a definite form to the feeling.

But unless the feeling is there, the intellect will merely have provided the empty mold.

It is interesting to know that the best psychological balance is the balance between the intellect and the emotions, the conscious mind and the feelings.

• We want not only to feel but to think.

• We wish not only to think but also to feel.

Life is Love, or the Feelings that come from Love

1. The things that move us belong to our Love - feelings- heart or soul

2. The things we think about belong to our Wisdom- intelligence -, self-control

The quality of our love determines the quality of our wisdom and the quality of our wisdom the quality of our love.

Be certain, then, that in all your work you combine this subtle essence with the conscious word you speak until the two become one.

As a seeker, you will put these qualities together until they fuse into one, and then the head will speak through the heart and the heart will feel through the intellect.

Love is the substance(desires, intentions) & Wisdom is the ability(intellect) to use love as the form(perception) of all things, resulting in love-based actions.

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Wisdom has nothing to do with knowledge; it has to do with freedom. When you are wise, you are free to use your mind and run your own life. The freedom to choose your desires or love and the freedom to use your intellect or perception in what to do with your desires. Your intentions and perception, to produce love towards yourself or more towards others.

The ability to Merging mind and heart

TrueTruth

What is eternal is True. Truth is not subjective or open to changing perspectives. What is True is always true and will always be true.

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• Relentless

• The Four Agreements - website

• The 5th Agreement

• “Lost Lesson” notes

• The Untethered Soul

• The Mastery of Love

• Love is a Decision

• The Road Less Travelled

• Paul Selig

• A Course in Miracles

Read Relentless

Other Toltec books

Read the following 2 writers:

~ Scott Peck

Love is a Descion

Course Outline

Main Objective: Part I

Awareness of the Ego and the 4 Agreements

Giving you awareness of these 3 topics

1. Understanding only you control your world. Which is the inside world of your mind. Your beliefs, emotions, feelings, and choices. Choices of ego fear, and unforgiveness or truth and love? The outside world doesn’t matter. It only matters how you respond from your inside world.

2. Understanding the ego human behavior you can now see and understand that they live in their personal ego dream world or movie. To understand basic human ego behavior, and see it in others. To see how the ego tries to control their outside world with emotions of anger, conflict, accusing, blaming, attacking, judging, I’m right you’re wrong, I’m special, you are not, etc..

3. The 4 Agreements and companion lessons, gives you easy explanations and everyday tools to implement your awareness and understanding of the basic human nature and the ego thought system.

Assignment:

Read the Relentless book

Understand ONLY YOU control your real world, the inner world of your mind

Read the 4 Agreements book The Energy Bus, The Let Them Theor, and Ego section

See Owners Manual section read and take your time to figure out who you are and want to be. Focus more on the inner values and characteristics you want to develop and have.This is where you make sure you know what you want, who you are, and who you want to be. Integrity, honor, self-respect. Likes, dislikes, inner goals, and outer goals, etc…

Read God’s Knowledge Thought System in the Knowledge section

Now there is no excuse for ignorance

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The rest is up to you. It’s your choice! Are you ready to learn more about being both the teacher and the student. Do you want real power? This not for the lazy person. This is where you must have the want & willpower to improve your emotional intelligence.

Laziness is the original sin

Part II

Your 2nd choice takes the willingness & willpower to improve emotional self-control …

1. By practicing self-discipline, responsibility and implementing the 4 Agreements you can effectively improve communication skills. (along with developing self-love, knowing who you really are and what you want, improving your foundation, or updating your owner’s manual)

2. You can now brush off their words or actions because you now have knowledge of their personal ego’s control. You get angry or upset less often, and you can now respect their ego dream or movie. You see how the ego only protects your ego personality, not the real you, your inner heart or soul. You have the everyday tools to communicate more effectively and deal with their ego opinion and any possible conflicts. You have the improved ability to control your emotional reactions and now you respond in the present instead of reacting. You are not trying to control them or any other outside event or interaction. This is where you pull it it all together with this new knowledge of these 3 key areas. This gives you a great advantage in your personal and business life.

3. You don’t hate or judge them anymore. You still don’t have to like them or even associate with them if possible.(discernment) You now understand it’s God’s role to judge your brothers and sisters, not you….

….you become Bulletproof

Use the 4th Agreement… practice, repeat, practice, repeat….

…you become Relentless

Assignment:

A… Read the Awareness & Emotions section

B… Read the Love section, The 5th Agreement & Beliefs section

Implementing the 4 Agreements is the start of awareness. Seeing how the ego controls them. You understand its their ego movie, they are the creator, producer and star, it has nothing to do with you, it's their image of you. Look for the signs and their real intention behind their words. Be the observer of your thoughts and emotions. By not automatically reacting, getting frustrated or mad, saying or doing something dumb. You wait to respond with wisdom or choose to say nothing or to agree. Now many people won’t say anything because they don’t want to have a conflict or other reasons why they don’t reply. That’s not awareness.

END OF BASIC COURSE

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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love…..Love never fails.

This course does not aim at teaching the meaning of love, for that is beyond what can be taught. It does aim, however, at removing the blocks to the awareness of love’s presence, which is your natural inheritance. The opposite of love is fear, but what is all-encompassing can have no opposite.~A COURSE IN MIRACLES

Most of the below is from The Road Less Travelled..…

What is love?

You will know love when you realize what love is not.

Love: The will to extend oneself to nurture one’s or another’s spiritual growth.

First: Not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but they are ultimately indistinguishable.

Second: Love is a strangely circular process. Extending one’s is an evolutionary process. When one has successfully extended one’s limits, one has grown into a larger state of being. Thus, the act of loving is an act of self-evolution even when the purpose of the act is someone else’s growth. It is through reaching toward evolution that we evolve.

Third: this unitary definition of love includes self-love with love for the other. Since I am human and you are human, to love humans means to love myself as well as you. To be dedicated to human spiritual development is to be dedicated to the race of which we are a part, and this therefore means dedication to our development as well as ‘theirs.’ Indeed, as has been pointed out, we are incapable of loving another unless we love ourselves, just as we are incapable of teaching our children self-discipline unless we are self-disciplined.

It is impossible to forsake our spiritual development in favor of someone else’s. We cannot forsake self-discipline and at the same time be disciplined in our care for another. We cannot be a source of strength unless we nurture our strength. As we proceed in our exploration of the nature of love, I believe it will become clear that not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but that ultimately they are indistinguishable.

Fourth: the act of extending one’s limits implies effort. One extends one’s limits only by exceeding them, and exceeding limits requires effort. When we love someone our love becomes demonstrable or real only through our exertion – through the fact that for that someone (or for ourselves) we take an extra step or walk an extra mile. Love is not effortless. To the contrary, love is effortful.

Desire is not necessarily translated into action. Will is a desire of sufficient intensity that it is translated into action.

The difference between the two is equal to the difference between saying ‘I would like to go swimming tonight’ and ‘I will go swimming tonight.’ Everyone in our culture desires to some extent to be loving, yet many are not loving. I therefore conclude that the desire to love is not itself love. Love is as love does. Love is an act of will – namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love. No matter how much we may think we are loving, if we are in fact not loving, it is because we have chosen not to love and therefore do not love despite our good intentions. On the other hand, whenever we do exert ourselves in the cause of spiritual growth, it is because we have chosen to do so.

The choice to love has been made.

God is Light. God is Love.

God’s creation universe is founded on Love. It is creating with Light.

The principle of love is the desire to give.

God gives love by extending His Light.

God's love is a mirror of Light which reflects His giving of love by the regiving of love.

The law of love is rhythmic balanced interchange between all givings and re-givings.

The symbol of love is the wave of dual light which gives and re-gives equally and rhythmically.

God’s love is everywhere; His Light is a Symbol of love extend-everywhere.

God’s omniscient universe.

Evil is a product of man’s thinking.

God extends his love.

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What is LOVE, How do you LOVE?

The answer is very simple—live love.

Living love means putting others first. This will develop what some people describe as “empathy” which is an intuitive understanding of others’ moods.

However this characteristic is described, it is a combination of many things which comes from putting the feelings and desires of others first. Scientifically the reaction always equals the action; therefore, in first considering the other person, you are kindling his desire to regive to you that which YOU desire.

Love and Wisdom

As pure energy the two are combined into love and wisdom. Thus there is no way but to think and act with love.

Divine love and wisdom cannot fail to be and to be manifested in others that it has created.

The hallmark of love is not loving ourselves but loving others and being united to them through love. The hallmark of love is also being loved by others because this is how we are united. Truly, the essence of all love is to be found in union, in the life of love that we call joy, delight, pleasure, sweetness, blessedness, contentment, and happiness.

The essence of love is that what is ours should belong to someone else. Feeling the joy of someone else as joy within ourselves—that is loving.

Feeling our joy in others, though, and not theirs in ourselves is not loving. That is loving ourselves, while the former is loving our neighbor. These two kinds of love are exact opposites on the balance scale.

True, they both unite us; and it does not seem as though loving what belongs to us, or loving ourselves in the other, is divisive. Yet it is so divisive that to the extent that we love others in this way, we later harbor hatred for them. Step by step our union with them dissolves, and the love becomes hatred of corresponding intensity.

Can anyone fail to see this who looks into the essential nature of love? What is loving ourselves alone, really, and not loving someone else who loves us in return? This is more fragmentation than union. Love’s union depends on mutuality, and there is no mutuality within ourselves alone.

If we think there is, it is because we are imagining some mutuality in others.

We can see from this that divine love cannot fail to be and to be manifested in others whom it loves and who love it. If this is characteristic of all love, it must be supremely characteristic, infinitely characteristic, of love itself.

The First Step: Growing Up

Blame and Forgiveness

A big part of growing up is learning to forgive. We go through life blaming others for our pain. And blame always begins with anger.

Falling in Love

Or romantic love (which I have come to understand as a form of narcissism).

Real love, (I define as concern for the spiritual growth of another)

The whole American ideal of romantic love holds that it ought to be somehow possible for Cinderella to ride off with her prince into the sunset of endless orgasms. It is an illusion. Romantic love is preferable to what preceded it in history – namely, a culture of marriage by arrangement. Nonetheless, anyone who believes that permanent romance in a relationship is a perpetual possibility is doomed to perpetual disappointment. It is the search for God in human romantic relationships that is, I think, one of the greatest problems we have in this and other cultures. What we do is look to our spouse or lover to be a god unto us. We look to our spouse or lover to meet all of our needs, to fulfil us.

When a person falls in love what he or she certainly feels is ‘I love him’ or ‘I love her.’ But two problems are immediately apparent. The first is that the experience of falling in love is specifically a sex-linked erotic experience.

• We do not fall in love with our children even though we may love them very deeply.

• We do not fall in love with our friends of the same sex – unless we are homosexually oriented – even though we may care for them greatly.

We fall in love only when we are consciously or unconsciously sexually motivated. The second problem is that the experience of falling in love is invariably temporary. No matter whom we fall in love with, we sooner or later fall out of love if the relationship continues long enough. This is not to say that we invariably cease loving the person with whom we fell in love. But it is to say that the feeling of ecstatic lovingness that characterizes the experience of falling in love always passes. The honeymoon always ends.

Real love does not have its roots in a feeling of love. To the contrary, real love often occurs in a context in which the feeling of love is lacking, when we act lovingly even though we don’t feel loving. Assuming the reality of the definition of love with which we started, the experience of ‘falling in love’ is not real love for several reasons…

Falling in love is not an act of will. It is not a conscious choice. No matter how open to or eager for it we may be, the experience may still elude us. Contrarily, the experience may capture us at times when we are not seeking it, when it is inconvenient and undesirable. We are as likely to fall in love with someone with whom we are ill-matched as with someone more suitable. Indeed, we may not even like or admire the object of our passion, yet, try as we might, we may not be able to fall in love with a person whom we deeply respect and with whom a deep relationship would be in all ways desirable.

Falling in love is not an extension of one’s limits or boundaries; it is a partial and temporary collapse of them. The extension of one’s limits requires effort; falling in love is effortless. Lazy and undisciplined individuals are as likely to fall in love as energetic and dedicated ones. Once the precious moment of falling in love has passed and the boundaries have snapped back into place, the individual may be disillusioned, but is usually none the worse for the experience. When limits are extended or stretched, however, they tend to stay stretched. Real love is a permanently self-enlarging experience. Falling in love is not. Falling in love has little to do with purposefully nurturing one’s spiritual development. If we have any purpose in mind when we fall in love it is to terminate our loneliness and perhaps ensure this result through marriage. Certainly, we are not thinking of spiritual development. Indeed, after we have fallen in love and before we have fallen out of love again we feel that we have arrived, that the heights have been attained, that there is both no need and no possibility of going higher. We do not feel ourselves to be in any need of development; we are content to be where we are. Our spirit is at peace. Nor do we perceive our beloved as needing spiritual development. To the contrary, we perceive him or her as perfect, as having been perfected. If we see any faults in our beloved, we perceive them as insignificant – little quirks or darling eccentricities that only add color and charm.

If falling in love is not love, then what is it other than a temporary and partial collapse of ego boundaries? I do not know. But the sexual specificity of the phenomenon leads me to suspect that it is a genetically determined instinctual component of mating behavior. In other words, the temporary collapse of ego boundaries that constitutes falling in love is a stereotypical response of human beings to a configuration of internal sexual drives and external sexual stimuli, which serves to increase the probability of sexual pairing and bonding to enhance the survival of the species. Or to put it in another, rather crass way, falling in love is a trick that our genes pull on our otherwise perceptive mind to hoodwink or trap us into marriage. Frequently the trick goes awry one way or another.

The experience of real love also has to do with ego boundaries, since it involves an extension of one’s limits. One’s limits are one’s ego boundaries. When we extend our limits through love, we do so by reaching out, so to speak, toward the beloved, whose growth we wish to nurture. For us to be able to do this, the beloved object must first become beloved to us; in other words, we must be attracted toward, invested in, and committed to an object outside of ourselves, beyond the boundaries of self. Psychiatrists call this process of attraction, investment, and commitment ‘cathexis’ and say that we ‘cathect’ the beloved object. But when we cathect an object outside of ourselves we also psychologically incorporate a representation of that object into ourselves.

What transpires then in many years of loving, of extending our limits for our cathexes, is a gradual but progressive enlargement of the self, an incorporation within of the world without, and a growth, a stretching, and a thinning of our ego boundaries. In this way the more and longer we extend ourselves, the more we love, the more blurred becomes the distinction between the self and the world. We become identified with the world. And as our ego boundaries become blurred and thinned, we begin more and more to experience the same sort of feeling of ecstasy that we have when our ego boundaries partially collapse and we ‘fall in love.’ Only, instead of having merged temporarily and unrealistically with a single beloved object, we have merged realistically and more permanently with much of the world. A ‘mystical union’ with the entire world may be established. The feeling of ecstasy or bliss associated with this union, while perhaps more gentle and less dramatic than that associated with falling in love, is nonetheless much more stable and lasting, and ultimately satisfying.

Dependent people are interested in their nourishment, but no more; they desire filling, they desire to be happy; they don’t desire to grow, nor are they willing to tolerate the unhappiness, the loneliness, and suffering involved in growth. Neither do dependent people care about the spiritual growth of the other, the object of their dependency; they care only that the other is there to satisfy them.

Dependency is but one of the forms of behavior to which we incorrectly apply the word ‘love’ when concern for spiritual evolution is absent

We can love only human beings

As we generally conceive of things, it is only human beings who possess a spirit capable of substantial growth.

Consider the matter of pets. We ‘love’ the family dog. We feed it and bathe it, pet it and cuddle it, discipline it and play with it. When it is sick we may drop everything and rush it to the veterinarian. When it runs away or dies we may be grief-stricken. Indeed, for some lonely people without children, their pets may become the sole reason for their existence. If this is not love, then what is?

But let us examine the differences between our relationship with a pet and that with another human being.

1. First of all, the extent of our communication with our pets is extremely limited in comparison with the extent to which we may communicate with other humans if we work at it. We do not know what our pets are thinking. This lack of knowledge allows us to project onto our pets our own thoughts and feelings, and thereby to feel an emotional closeness with them which may not correspond to reality at all.

Love is an extension

2. Second, we find our pets satisfactory only insofar as their wills coincide with ours. This is the basis on which we generally select our pets, and if their wills begin to diverge significantly from our own, we get rid of them. We don’t keep pets around very long when they protest or fight back against us. The only school to which we send our pets for the development of their minds or spirits is obedience school.

Yet we can desire that other humans develop a ‘will of their own’; indeed, it is this desire for the differentiation of the other that is one of the characteristics of genuine love.

3. Finally, in our relationship with pets, we seek to foster their dependency. We do not want them to grow up and leave home. We want them to stay put, to lie dependably near the hearth. It is their attachment to us rather than their independence from us that we value in our pets.

This matter of the ‘love’ of pets is of immense importance because many, many people are capable of ‘loving’ only pets and incapable of genuinely loving other human beings.

Large numbers of American soldiers had idyllic marriages to German, Italian, or Japanese ‘war brides’ with whom they could not verbally communicate. But when their brides learned English, the marriages began to fall apart. The servicemen could then no longer project upon their wives their thoughts, feelings, desires, and goals, and feel the same sense of closeness one feels with a pet. Instead, as their wives learned English, the men began to realize that these women had ideas, opinions, and aims different from their own. As this happened, love began to grow for some; for most, perhaps, it ceased. The liberated woman is right to beware of the man who affectionately calls her his ‘pet.’ He may indeed be an individual whose affection is dependent upon her being a pet, who cannot respect her strength, independence, and individuality.

Probably the most saddening example of this phenomenon is the very large number of women who are capable of ‘loving’ their children only as infants. Such women can be found everywhere. They may be ideal mothers until their children reach the age of two – infinitely tender, joyously breast-feeding, cuddling and playing with their babies, consistently affectionate, totally dedicated to their nurture, and blissfully happy in their motherhood. Then, almost overnight, the picture changes. As soon as a child begins to assert its own will – to disobey, to whine, to refuse to play, to occasionally reject being cuddled, to attach itself to other people, to move out into the world a little bit on its own the mother’s love ceases. She loses interest in the child, decathes it, and perceives it only as a nuisance. At the same time, she will often feel an almost overpowering need to be pregnant again, to have another infant, another pet. Usually, she will succeed, and the cycle is repeated. If not, she may be seen avidly seeking to babysit for the infant children of neighbors while almost totally ignoring the pleas of her own older child or children for attention. For her children the ‘terrible twos’ are not only the end of their infancy, they are also the end of the experience of being loved by their mother. The pain and deprivation they experience are obvious to all except their mother, busy with her new infant.

The effect of this experience is usually evidenced as the children grow to adulthood in a depressive and/or passive dependent personality pattern. What this suggests is that the ‘love’ of infants and pets and even dependently obedient spouses is an instinctual pattern of behavior to which it is quite appropriate to apply the term ‘maternal instinct’ or, more generally, ‘parental instinct.’ We can liken this to the instinctual behavior of ‘falling in love’: it is not a genuine form of love in that it is relatively effortless, and it is not an act of will or choice; it encourages the survival of the species but is not directed toward its improvement or spiritual growth; it is close to love in that it is a reaching out for others and serves to initiate interpersonal bonds from which real love might begin; but a good deal more is required to develop a healthy, creative marriage, raise a healthy, spiritually growing child or contribute to the evolution of humanity. The point is that nurturing can be and usually should be much more than simple feeding, and that nurturing spiritual growth is an infinitely more complicated process that cannot be directed by any instinct.

The mother mentioned at the beginning of this section who would not let her son take the bus to school is a case in point. By driving him to and from school she was nurturing him in a sense, but it was a nurturing he did not need and that retarded rather than furthered his spiritual growth. Other examples abound: mothers who push food on their already overweight children; fathers who buy their sons whole roomfuls of toys and their daughters whole closetfuls of clothes; parents who set no limits and deny no desires.

Love is not simply giving; it is judicious giving and judicious withholding as well. It is judicious praising and judicious criticizing. It is judicious arguing, struggling, confronting, urging, pushing, and pulling in addition to comforting.

It is leadership. The word ‘judicious’ means requiring judgment, and judgment requires more than instinct; it requires thoughtful and often painful decision-making. No moral judgments allowed either.

Romantic Love and Sex

The body and its 5 senses is all emotions. How we process and catorize those emotions we experience in our minds is called feelings. When someone has sex with you it doesn't mean they love you. Its the feeling or meaning they have associated with sex. One assumes casual sex when the other assumes the other. Again balance. Is it more casual, self satisfaction, for men maybe a conquest, selfishness. Or more towards showing true love, not pure emotions. Sex should be reserved only if you love them. Sex or showing physical affection is the most emotional thing we do. It is the basic core of who we are. The urge to reproduce and then the need of physical touch or affection and the want to show we care for that person on the physical level. The emotional high or aspect of the physical side lasts around 2 years before it wanes.

So physical affection is not one to be flip about as the emotional aspect can be so wonderful or so devastating. It should be fun and joyful in wanting to share the joy of ones body and its sensations you create with each other. One of the most satisfying loves we humans express and strive for. Love is not an emotion or feeling, it is a frequency. You must become that frequency. Love is of the heart and also the mind, a choice…..

Not sure what romantic really means but marriage or trying to be in a committed relationship or romantic love consist of many intertwined subjects, if one is out of balance it fails. And because of the emotional associations when it fails, it will usually ends very badly.

Thus romantic love is one our main vehicles to learn and grow from

Self Love

We are Love

You must anchor your love of self in the physical experience that you stand in. Nothing is handed to you in consciousness. It all requires a declaration or a claim of worthiness. The reason for this is that it is impossible, in truth, to give love when you do not have it to give.

Love starts with Self-love

If you are receptive to love, you will greet love. If you are not receptive to love, for whatever reason, and love comes to the door, you may not let him in. Do you understand this? You may not let love in, because you have not claimed it or you have not allowed it for whatever reason. Fear of some sort.

Now we are not telling you to want things. But we are telling you that what you want you must first realize within the self. You must. It can come to you the moment you stop looking for it outside of yourself. And when you look to the self, you are also looking to the Divine Self as the source of your supply. But it is never, never, never a matter of going elsewhere. You are the source in this regard. We are specifically talking today about love and your belief that you do not receive it, so you go looking for it elsewhere.

And you believe you do not receive love because on some level you have disguised your love with fear and you have believed the fear to be what you are, which are all those reasons you have decided love could not be you.

LOVE IS NOT A FEELING

I HAVE SAID that love is an action, an activity.

This leads to the final major misconception of love which needs to be addressed. Love is not a feeling.

Many, many people possessing a feeling of love and even acting in response to that feeling act in all manner of unloving and destructive ways. On the other hand, a genuinely loving individual will often take loving and constructive action toward a person he or she consciously dislikes, actually feeling no love toward the person at the time and perhaps even finding the person repugnant in some way. The feeling of love is the emotion that accompanies the experience of cathecting. Cathecting, it will be remembered, is the process by which an object becomes important to us. Once cathected, the object, commonly referred to as a ‘love object,’ is invested with our energy as if it were a part of ourselves, and this relationship between us and the invested object is called a cathexis. Since we may have many such relationships going on at the same time, we speak of our cathexes. The process of withdrawing our energy from a love object so that it loses its sense of importance for us is known as decathecting.

The misconception that love is a feeling exists because we confuse cathecting with loving.

This confusion is understandable since they are similar processes, but there are also striking differences.

1. First of all, as has been pointed out, we may cathect any object, animate or inanimate, with or without a spirit. Thus a person may cathect the stock market or a piece of jewelry and may feel love for these things.

2. Second, the fact that we have cathected another human being does not mean that we care a whit for that person’s spiritual development. The dependent person, in fact, usually fears the spiritual development of a cathected spouse. The mother who insisted upon driving her adolescent son to and from school cathected the boy; he was important to her – but his spiritual growth was not.

3. Third, the intensity of our cathexes frequently has nothing to do with wisdom or commitment. Two strangers may meet in a bar and cathect each other in such a way that nothing–not previously scheduled appointments, promises made, or family stability-is – is more important for the moment than their sexual consummation.

4. Finally, our cathexes may be fleeting and momentary. Immediately following their sexual consummation the just-mentioned couple may find each other unattractive and undesirable. We may decathect something almost as soon as we have cathected it.

Genuine love, on the other hand, implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom.

When we are concerned for someone’s spiritual growth, we know that a lack of commitment is likely to be harmful and that commitment to that person is probably necessary for us to manifest our concern effectively. It is for this reason that commitment is the cornerstone of the psychotherapeutic relationship. It is almost impossible for a patient to experience significant personality growth without a ‘therapeutic alliance’ with the therapist. In other words, before the patient can risk major change he or she must feel the strength and security that come from believing that the therapist is the patient’s constant and stable ally. For this alliance to occur the therapist must demonstrate to the patient, usually over a considerable length of time, the consistent and steadfast caring that can arise only from a capacity for commitment. This does not mean that the therapist always feels like listening to the patient.

Commitment means that the therapist listens to the patient, like it or not. It is no different in a marriage. In a constructive marriage, just as in constructive therapy, the partners must regularly, routinely, and predictably, attend to each other and their relationship no matter how they feel. As has been mentioned, couples sooner or later always fall out of love, and it is at the moment when the mating instinct has run its course that the opportunity for genuine love begins.

It is when the spouses no longer feel like being in each other’s company always, when they would rather be elsewhere some of the time, that their love begins to be tested and will be found to be present or absent.

This is not to say that the partners in a stable, constructive relationship such as marriage do not cathect each other and the relationship itself in various ways; they do. What it does say is that genuine love transcends the matter of cathexes. When love exists it does so with or without cathexis and with or without a loving feeling. It is easier – indeed, it is fun – to love with cathexis and the feeling of love.

But it is possible to love without cathexis and loving feelings, and it is in the fulfillment of this possibility that genuine and transcendent love is distinguished from simple cathexis.

The keyword in this distinction is ‘will.’ I have defined love as the will to extend oneself to nurture one’s or another’s spiritual growth.

Genuine love is volitional (The act of making a conscious choice or decision.) rather than emotional.

The person who truly loves does so because of a decision to love

This person has committed to being loving whether or not the loving feeling is present. If it is, so much the better; but if it isn’t, the commitment to love, the will to love, still stands and is still exercised.

Conversely, it is not only possible but necessary for a loving person to avoid acting on feelings of love. I may meet a woman who strongly attracts me, whom I feel like loving, but because it would be destructive to my marriage to have an affair at that time, I will say vocally or in the silence of my heart, ‘I feel like loving you, but I am not going to.’ Similarly, I may refuse to take on a new patient who is most attractive and likely to succeed in therapy because my time is already committed to other patients, some of whom may be considerably less attractive and more difficult. My feelings of love may be unbounded, but my capacity to be loving is limited. I therefore must choose the person on whom to focus my capacity to love, toward whom to direct my will to love.

True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed, thoughtful decision.

The common tendency to confuse love with the feeling of love allows people all manner of self-deception.

Attention

Love, then, is a form of work or a form of courage. Specifically, it is work or courage directed toward the nurture of our own or another’s spiritual growth. We may work or exert courage in directions other than toward spiritual growth, and for this reason, all work and all courage is not love. But since it requires the extension of ourselves, love is always either work or courage. If an act is not one of work or courage, then it is not an act of love. There are no exceptions. The principal form that the work of love takes is attention. When we love another we give him or her our attention; we attend to that person’s growth. When we love ourselves we attend to our growth. When we attend to someone we are caring for that person. The act of attending requires that we make the effort to set aside our existing preoccupations (as was described regarding the discipline of bracketing) and actively shift our consciousness.

Attention is an act of will, of work against the inertia of our minds.

LOVE IS Listening

The most common and important way in which we can exercise our attention is by listening. We spend an enormous amount of time listening, most of which we waste, because on the whole most of us listen very poorly. An industrial psychologist once pointed out to me that the amount of time we devote to teaching certain subjects to our children in school is inversely proportional to the frequency with which the children will make use of the subject when they grow up. Thus a business executive will spend roughly an hour of his day reading, two hours talking and eight hours listening. Yet in school, we spend a large amount of time teaching children how to read, a very small amount of time teaching them how to speak, and usually no time at all teaching them how to listen. I do not believe it would be a good thing to make what we teach in school exactly proportional to what we do after school, but I do think we would be wise to give our children some instruction in the process of listening – not so that listening can be made easy but rather that they will understand how difficult it is to listen well. Listening well is an exercise of attention and by necessity hard work. It is because they do not realize this or because they are not willing to do the work that most people do not listen well.

True listening, total concentration on the other, is always a manifestation of love. An essential part of true listening is the discipline of bracketing, the temporary giving up or setting aside of one’s prejudices, frames of reference, and desires to experience as far as possible the speaker’s world from the inside, stepping inside his or her shoes. This unification of speaker and listener is an extension and enlargement of ourselves, and new knowledge is always gained from this. Moreover, since true listening involves bracketing, a setting aside of the self, it also temporarily involves a total acceptance of the other. Sensing this acceptance, the speaker will feel less and less vulnerable and more and more inclined to open up the inner recesses of his or her mind to the listener. As this happens, the speaker and the listener begin to appreciate each other more and more, and the duet dance of love is again begun. The energy required for the discipline of bracketing and the focusing of total attention is so great that it can be accomplished only by love, by the will to extend oneself for mutual growth. Most of the time we lack this energy. Even though we may feel in our business dealings or social relationships that we are listening very hard, what we are usually doing is listening selectively, with a preset agenda in mind, wondering as we listen how we can achieve certain desired results and get the conversation over with as quickly as possible or redirected in ways more satisfactory to us. Since true listening is love in action, nowhere is it more appropriate than in marriage. Yet most couples never truly listen to each other.

LOVE IS Courage

THE ACT OF love – extending oneself – as I have said, requires a moving out against the inertia of laziness (work) or the resistance engendered by fear (courage). Let us turn now from the work of love to the courage of love. When we extend ourselves, our self enters new and unfamiliar territory, so to speak. Our self becomes a new and different self. We do things we are not accustomed to doing. We change. The experience of change, of unaccustomed activity, of being on unfamiliar ground, of doing things differently is frightening. It always was and always will be. People handle their fear of change in different ways, but the fear is inescapable if they are in fact to change. Courage is not the absence of fear; it is the making of action despite fear, the moving out against the resistance engendered by fear into the unknown and the future. On some level spiritual growth, and therefore love, always require courage and involve risk. It is the risk of love that we will now consider.

Risk of loss

Risk of Independence

Risk of commitment

CONFRONTATION

THE FINAL AND possibly the greatest risk of love is the risk of exercising power with humility. The most common example of this is the act of loving confrontation.

There are, then, two ways to confront or criticize another human being: with instinctive and spontaneous certainty that one is right, or with a belief that one is probably right arrived at through scrupulous self-doubting and self-examination.

1. The first is the way of arrogance; it is the most common way of parents, spouses, teachers, and people generally in their day-to-day affairs; it is usually unsuccessful, producing more resentment than growth and other effects that were not intended.

2. The second is the way of humility; it is not common, requiring as it does a genuine extension of oneself; it is more likely to be successful, and it is never, in my experience, destructive.

To confront or criticize is a form of exercising leadership or power. The exercise of power is nothing more and nothing less than an attempt to influence the course of events, human or otherwise, by one’s actions in a consciously or unconsciously predetermined manner. When we confront or criticize someone it is because we want to change the course of the person’s life. It is obvious that there are many other, often superior, ways to influence the course of events than by confrontation or criticism: by example, suggestion, reward and punishment, questioning, prohibition or permission, creation of experiences, organizing with others, and so on. Volumes can be written about the art of exercising power. For our purposes, however, suffice it to say that loving individuals must concern themselves with this art, for if one desires to nurture another’s spiritual growth, then one must concern oneself with the most effective way to accomplish this in any given instance. Loving parents, for example, must first examine themselves and their values stringently before determining accurately that they know what is best for their child. Then, having made this determination, they also have to give great thought to the child’s character and capacities before deciding whether the child would be more likely to respond favorably to confrontation than to praise or increased attention or storytelling, or some other form of influence. To confront someone with something he or she cannot handle will at best be a waste of time, and likely will have a deleterious effect. If we want to be heard we must speak in a language the listener can understand and on a level at which the listener is capable of operating. If we are to love we must extend ourselves to adjust our communication to the capacities of our beloved. It is clear that exercising power with love requires a great deal of work, but what is this about the risk involved?

The problem is that the more loving one is, the more humble one is; yet the more humble one is, the more one is awed by the potential for arrogance in exercising power. Who am I to influence the course of human events? By what authority am I entitled to decide what is best for my child, my spouse, my country, or the human race? Who gives me the right to dare to believe in my understanding and then to presume to exert my will upon the world? Who am I to play God? That is the risk. For whenever we exercise power we are attempting to influence the course of the world, of humanity, and we are thereby playing God. Most parents, teachers, leaders – most of us who exercise power – have no cognizance of this. In the arrogance of exercising power without the total self-awareness demanded by love, we are blissfully but destructively ignorant of the fact that we are playing God. But those who truly love, and therefore work for the wisdom that love requires, know that to act is to play God. Yet they also know that there is no alternative except inaction and impotence.

Love compels us to play God with full consciousness of the enormity of the fact that that is just what we are doing. With this consciousness the loving person assumes the responsibility of attempting to be God and not to carelessly play God, to fulfill God’s will without mistake. We arrive, then, at yet another paradox: only out of the humility of love can humans dare to be God.

LOVE IS DISCIPLINED

I HAVE INDICATED that the energy for the work of self-discipline derives from love, which is a form of will. It follows, then, not only that self-discipline is usually love, translated into action, but also that any genuine lover behaves with self-discipline and any genuinely loving relationship is a disciplined relationship. If I truly love another, I will order my behavior in such a way as to contribute the utmost to his or her spiritual growth.

While one should not be a slave to one’s feelings, self-discipline does not mean the squashing of one’s feelings into nonexistence.

Feelings are your slaves and the art of self-discipline is like the art of slave-owning. First of all, one’s feelings are the source of one’s energy; they provide the horsepower, or slave power, that makes it possible for us to accomplish the tasks of living. Since they work for us, we should treat them with respect. There are two common mistakes that slave-owners can make which represent opposite and extreme forms of executive leadership.

1. One type of slave-owner does not discipline his slaves, gives them no structure, sets them no limits, provides them with no direction, and does not make it clear who is the boss. What happens, of course, is that in due time his slaves stop working and begin moving into the mansion, raiding the liquor cabinet and breaking the furniture, and soon the slave-owner finds that he is the slave of his slaves, living in chaos.

Among the feelings that must be so disciplined is the feeling of love. As I have indicated, this is not in itself genuine love but the feeling associated with cathexis. It is to be very much respected and nurtured for the creative energy it brings, but if it is allowed to run rampant, the result will not be genuine love but confusion and unproductivity.

Because genuine love involves an extension of oneself, vast amounts of energy are required, and, like it or not, the store of our energy is as limited as the hours of our day. We simply cannot love everyone. True, we may have a feeling of love for mankind, and this feeling may also be useful in providing us with enough energy to manifest genuine love for a few specific individuals. If we are fortunate enough to be in a position in which many people ask for our attention, we must choose those among them whom we are actually to love. This choice is not easy; it may be excruciatingly painful, as the assumption of godlike power so often is. But it must be made. Many factors need to be considered, primarily the capacity of a prospective recipient of our love to respond to that love with spiritual growth. People differ in this capacity.

When I genuinely love I am extending myself, and when I am extending myself I am growing. The more I love, the longer I love, the larger I become. Genuine love is self-replenishing. The more I nurture the spiritual growth of others, the more my spiritual growth is nurtured. I am a selfish human being. I never do anything for somebody else but I do it for myself. And as I grow through love, so grows my joy, ever more present, ever more constant.

Love Is

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love…..Love never fails.

Merging Science and Religion

Love

All that is, is light. Nothing is of itself alone. He who knows this greatest of all laws knows love. Love is a realization of the Oneness of the universe. Love is the ecstasy of inspired thinking. God’s thinking is ecstatic thinking.

God is love.

Until man knows from within his inner Mind this law of the Oneness of all things, it has no meaning for him. When man knows this law in his heart he will have no limitations. When man knows this law so that its reaction within the soul of man is that of ecstatic, inspired contemplation, he will then begin to know the meaning of love. His thinking will then be true thinking. All power is in true thinking.

Unlimited power will then be his.

LOVE IS SEPARATENESS

ALTHOUGH THE ACT of nurturing another’s spiritual growth has the effect of nurturing one’s own, a major characteristic of genuine love is that the distinction between oneself and the other is always maintained and preserved.

The genuine lover always perceives the beloved as someone who has a separate identity. Moreover, the genuine lover always respects and even encourages this separateness and the unique individuality of the beloved. Failure to perceive and respect this separateness is extremely common, however, and the cause of much mental illness and unnecessary suffering.

In its most extreme form, the failure to perceive the separateness of the other is called narcissism. Frankly, narcissistic individuals are unable to perceive their children, spouses, or friends as being separate from themselves on an emotional level. The first time I began to understand what narcissism is all about.…..

We each have bit of a narcissist in us. But it is always to the degree or balance… we can’t delete the ego but we can minimize it or transform it to God's true knowledge and the truth of love…

Narcissist

Five warning signs to help you spot a NARCISSIST

And the severity is always - to what “degree”

1. The first sign you're dealing with an egotistical person is if they always 'play victim.' The life coach explained that narcissists never believe they are the 'cause of anything whatsoever.' They're always the victim and they will always play the victim card,' he added.

2. Moving on to the next key, narcissists refuse to take accountability for their actions and will 'deny' being at fault.

'Number two, denial. They will always deny everything and anything that points at them as being the cause, they will never take ownership and will never take responsibility, instead they will deny,' he noted.

3. Another sign that will point to someone being a narcissist is when they attempt to turn the conversation around on you.

Number three, deflection. They will deflect away from themselves and suddenly, you'll find that the conversation is becoming about you and not about them,' he explained.

4. The fourth signal that you are in an argument with a narcissist is obvious when they begin to gaslight you.

'They will gaslight you, they will make you doubt how you perceive the situation, they'll say things like, "Oh it wasn't like that", or, "Oh I didn't mean it like this."

'They will make you doubt what you believed happened and how you recall what happened.'

5. Lastly, narcissists will become aggressive when they don't get what they want.

'When all four other options have failed, they will attack and become aggressive. This is to intimidate you and make you back off,' he said.

Marriage

Great marriages cannot be constructed by individuals who are terrified by their basic aloneness, as so commonly is the case, and seek a merging in marriage. Genuine love not only respects the individuality of the other but actually seeks to cultivate it, even at the risk of separation or loss. The ultimate goal of life remains the spiritual growth of the individual, the solitary journey to peaks that can be climbed only alone. Significant journeys cannot be accomplished without the nurture provided by a successful marriage or a successful society.

Marriage and society exist for the basic purpose of nurturing such individual journeys. But, as is the case with all genuine love, ‘sacrifices’ on behalf of the growth of the other result in equal or greater growth of the self. It is the return of the individual to the nurturing marriage or society from the peaks he or she has traveled alone which serves to elevate this marriage or that society to new heights. In this way individual growth and societal growth are interdependent, but it is always and inevitably lonely out on the growing edge.

It is from the loneliness of his wisdom that once again the prophet of Kahlil Gibran speaks to us concerning marriage:

• But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

• Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.

• Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

• Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

TRUTH AND WILL

God

Self-discipline develops from the foundation of love. But this leaves unanswered the question of where love itself comes from. And if we ask that, we must also ask what are the sources of the absence of love. It has been further suggested that the absence of love is the major cause of mental illness and that the presence of love is consequently the essential healing element in psychotherapy. This being so, how is it that certain few individuals, born and raised in an environment of nonlove, of unremitting neglect and casual brutality, somehow manage to transcend their childhood.

AS HUMAN BEINGS grow in discipline and love and life experience, their understanding of the world and their place in it naturally grows apace. Conversely, as people fail to grow in discipline, love and life experience, so does their understanding fail to grow.

Religion is man made. There is no such thing as a good hand-me-down religion.

To be vital, to be the best of which we are capable, our religion must be a wholly personal one, forged entirely through the fire of our questioning and doubting in the crucible of our own experience of reality.

That is what this material is about faith or spiritualism

SPIRITUAL GROWTH IS a journey out of the microcosm into an ever greater macrocosm. In its earlier stages (which is all this material concerns itself with) it is a journey of knowledge and not of faith. In order to escape the microcosm of our previous experience and free ourselves from transferences, it is necessary that we learn.

We must continually expand our realm of knowledge and our field of vision through the thorough digestion and incorporation of new information. The process of expansion of knowledge has been a major theme. It will be recalled that in the previous section love was defined as an extension – that is, an expansion – of ourselves, and it was noted that among the risks of love was the risk of moving into the unknown of new experience.

And at the end of the first section on discipline it was also noted that the learning of something new requires a giving up of the old self and a death of outworn knowledge.

To develop a broader vision we must be willing to forsake, to kill, our narrower vision. In the short run it is more comfortable not to do this – to stay where we are, to keep using the same microcosmic map, to avoid suffering the death of cherished notions.

The road of spiritual growth, however, lies in the opposite direction. We begin by distrusting what we already believe, by actively seeking the threatening and unfamiliar, by deliberately challenging the validity of what we have previously been taught and hold dear. The path to holiness lies through questioning everything. In a very real sense, we begin with science. We begin by replacing the religion of our parents with the religion of science. We must rebel against and reject the religion of our parents, for inevitably their world view will be narrower than that of which we are capable of.

There is no such thing as a good hand-me-down religion. To be vital, to be the best of which we are capable, our religion must be a wholly personal one, forged entirely through the fire of our questioning and doubting in the crucible of our own experience of reality.

Alan Jones has said: One of our problems is that very few of us have developed any distinctive personal life. Everything about us seems secondhand, even our emotions. In many cases we have to rely on secondhand information in order to function. I accept the word of a physician, a scientist, a farmer, on trust. I do not like to do this. I have to because they possess vital knowledge of living of which I am ignorant. Secondhand information concerning the state of my kidneys, the effects of cholesterol, and the raising of chickens, I can live with. But when it comes to questions of meaning, purpose, and death, secondhand information will not do. I cannot survive on a secondhand faith in a secondhand God. There has to be a personal word, a unique confrontation, if I am to come alive.

Spiritual growth we must develop our own personal religion and not rely on that of our parents. But what is this about a ‘religion of science’? Science is a religion because it is a world view of considerable complexity with a number of major tenets. Most of these major tenets are as follows: the universe is real, and therefore a valid object for examination; it is of value for human beings to examine the universe; the universe makes sense – that is, it follows certain laws and is predictable; but human beings are poor examiners, subject to superstition, bias, prejudice, and a profound tendency to see what they want to see rather than what is really there; consequently, to examine and hence understand accurately, it is necessary for human beings to subject themselves to the discipline of scientific method. The essence of this discipline is experience, so that we cannot consider ourselves to know something unless we have actually experienced it; while the discipline of scientific method begins with experience, simple experience itself is not to be trusted; to be trusted, experience must be repeatable, usually in the form of an experiment; moreover, the experience must be verifiable, in that other people must have the same experience under the same circumstances. The key words are ‘reality,’ ‘examination,’ ‘knowledge,’ ‘distrust,’ ‘experience,’ ‘discipline.’ These are words we have been using all along. Science is a religion of skepticism.

To escape from the microcosm of our childhood experience, from the microcosm of our culture and its dogmas, from the half truths our parents told us, it is essential that we be skeptical about what we think we have learned to date. It is the scientific attitude that enables us to transform our personal experience of the microcosm into a personal experience of the macrocosm. We must begin by becoming scientists.

The reality of God

If on thing you should out everything is have the ability to possesses the capacity to perceive the miraculous.

Any act of love is a miracle

Of this capacity it has recently been written: Self-realization is born and matures in a distinctive kind of awareness, an awareness that has been described in many different ways by many different people. The mystics, for example, have spoken of it as the perception of the divinity and perfection of the world. Richard Bucke referred to it as cosmic consciousness; Buber described it in terms of the I-Thou relationship; and Maslow gave it the label ‘Being-cognition.’ We shall use Ouspensky’s term and call it the perception of the miraculous. ‘Miraculous’ here refers not only to extraordinary phenomena but also to the commonplace, for absolutely anything can evoke this special awareness provided that close enough attention is paid to it. Once perception is disengaged from the domination of preconception and personal interest, it is free to experience the world as it is in itself and to behold its inherent magnificence. . . . Perception of the miraculous requires no faith or assumptions. It is simply a matter of paying full and close attention to the givens of life, i.e., to what is so ever-present that it is usually taken for granted. The true wonder of the world is available everywhere, in the minutest parts of our bodies, in the vast expanses of the cosmos, and in the intimate interconnectedness of these and all things. . . . We are part of a finely balanced ecosystem in which interdependency goes hand-in-hand with individuation. We are all individuals, but we are also parts of a greater whole, united in something vast and beautiful beyond description. Perception of the miraculous is the subjective essence of self-realization, the root from which man’s highest features and experiences grow.

The unconscious

If we identify our self with our self-concept or self-awareness or consciousness in general, then we must say concerning the unconscious that there is a part of us that is wiser than we are. We have talked about this ‘wisdom of the unconscious’ primarily in terms of self-knowledge and self-revelation.

Take the word ‘recognize’ itself. When we are reading a book and come across an idea or theory that appeals to us, that ‘rings a bell’ with us, we ‘recognize’ it to be true. Yet this idea or theory may be one of which we have never before consciously thought. The word says we ‘re-know’ the concept, as if we knew it once upon a time, forgot it, but then recognized it as an old friend. It is as if all knowledge and all wisdom were contained in our minds, and when we learn ‘something new’ we are actually only discovering something that existed in our self all along. This concept is similarly reflected in the word ‘education,’ which is derived from the Latin educare , literally translated as ‘to bring out of’ or ‘to lead forth.’ Therefore when we educate people, if we use the word seriously, we do not stuff something new into their minds; rather, we lead this something out of them; we bring it forth from the unconscious into their awareness. They were the possessors of the knowledge all along. But what is its source, this part of us that is wiser than we are? We do not know. Jung’s theory of the collective unconscious suggests that our wisdom is inherited. Recent scientific experiments with genetic material in conjunction with the phenomenon of memory suggest that it is indeed possible to inherit knowledge, which is stored in the form of nucleic acid codes within cells. The concept of chemical storage of information allows us to begin to understand how the information potentially available to the human mind might be stored in a few cubic inches of brain substance.

But even this extraordinary sophisticated model, allowing for the storage of inherited as well as experiential knowledge in a small space, leaves unanswered the most mind-boggling questions. When we speculate on the technology of such a model – how it might be constructed, how synchronized, and so on – we are still left standing in total awe before the phenomenon of the human mind. Speculation on these matters is hardly different in quality from speculation about such models of cosmic control as God having at His command armies and choirs of archangels, angels, seraphims and cherubims to assist Him in the task of ordering the universe. The mind, which sometimes presumes to believe that there is no such thing as a miracle, is itself a miracle.

For hundreds and even thousands of years before the scientific conceptualization of such things as immune globulins, dream states, and the unconscious, this force has been consistently recognized by the religious, who have applied to it the name of grace. What are we to do – we who are properly skeptical and scientific-minded – with this ‘powerful force originating outside of human consciousness which nurtures the spiritual growth of human beings’? We cannot touch this force. We have no decent way to measure.

Yet it exists. It is real.

Are we to operate with tunnel vision and ignore it because it does not fit in easily with traditional scientific concepts of natural law? To do so seems perilous. I do not think we can hope to approach a full understanding of the cosmos, of the place of man within the cosmos, and hence the nature of mankind itself, without incorporating the phenomenon of grace into our conceptual framework.

Yet we cannot even locate this force. We have said only where it is not: residing in human consciousness. Then, where does it reside? Some of the phenomena we have discussed, such as dreams, suggest that grace resides in the unconscious mind of the individual. Other phenomena, such as synchronicity and serendipity, indicate this force to exist beyond the boundaries of the single individual. It is not simply because we are scientists that we have difficulty locating grace. The religious, who, of course, ascribe the origins of grace to God, believing it to be literally God’s love, have through the ages had the same difficulty locating God.

1. There are within theology two lengthy and opposing traditions in this regard: one, the doctrine of Emanance, which holds that grace emanates down from an external God to men; the other,

2. the doctrine of Immanence, which holds that grace immanates out from the God within the center of man’s being.

To explain the miracles of grace and evolution we hypothesize the existence of a God who wants us to grow – a God who loves us. To many this hypothesis seems too simple, too easy; too much like fantasy; childlike and naïve. But what else do we have? To ignore the data by using tunnel vision is not an answer. We cannot obtain an answer by not asking the questions. Simple though it may be, no one who has observed the data and asked the questions has been able to produce a better hypothesis or even really a hypothesis at all.

It is God who is the source of the evolutionary force and God who is the destination. This is what we mean when we say that He is the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end.

Again Knowing Your Self

Self-Love versus Self-Esteem

Humility is a true knowledge of oneself

Integrity

Update your owners manual

Laziness

BEING ABOUT SPIRITUAL growth, this material is inevitably about the other side of the same coin: the impediments to spiritual growth.

Ultimately there is only the one impediment, and that is laziness. If we overcome laziness, all the other impediments will be overcome. If we do not overcome laziness, none of the others will be hurdled. So this is also a book about laziness. In examining discipline we were considering the laziness of attempting to avoid necessary suffering, or taking the easy way out. In examining love we were also examining the fact that nonlove is the unwillingness to extend one’s self. Laziness is love’s opposite. Spiritual growth is effortful, as we have been reminded again and again. We are now at a position from which we can examine the nature of laziness in perspective and realize that laziness is the force of entropy as it manifests itself in the lives of all of us.

Laziness is the original sin

• First, I have come to conclude that evil is real.

It is not the figment of the imagination of a primitive religious mind feebly attempting to explain the unknown. There really are people, and institutions made up of people, who respond with hatred in the presence of goodness and would destroy the good insofar as it is in their power to do so. They do this not with conscious malice but blindly, lacking awareness of their own evil – indeed, seeking to avoid any such awareness. As has been described of the devil in religious literature, they hate the light and instinctively will do anything to avoid it, including attempting to extinguish it. They will destroy the light in their own children and in all other beings subject to their power. Evil people hate the light because it reveals themselves to themselves. They hate goodness because it reveals their badness; they hate love because it reveals their laziness. They will destroy the light, the goodness, the love in order to avoid the pain of such self-awareness.

• My second conclusion, then, is that evil is laziness carried to its ultimate, extraordinary extreme.

Ordinary laziness is a passive failure to love. Some ordinarily lazy people may not lift a finger to extend themselves unless they are compelled to do so. Their being is a manifestation of nonlove; still, they are not evil. Truly evil people, on the other hand, actively rather than passively avoid extending themselves. They will take any action in their power to protect their own laziness, to preserve the integrity of their sick self. Rather than nurturing others, they will actually destroy others in this cause. If necessary, they will even kill to escape the pain of their own spiritual growth. As the integrity of their sick self is threatened by the spiritual health of those around them, they will seek by all manner of means to crush and demolish the spiritual health that may exist near them. I define evil, then, as the exercise of political power – that is, the imposition of one’s will upon others by overt or covert coercion – in order to avoid extending one’s self for the purpose of nurturing spiritual growth. Ordinary laziness is nonlove; evil is antilove.

• My third conclusion is that the existence of evil is inevitable, at least at this stage in human evolution.

Given the force of entropy and the fact that humans possess free will, it is inevitable that laziness will be well contained in some and completely uncontained in others. As entropy, on the one hand, and the evolutionary flow of love, on the other, are opposing forces, it is only natural that these forces will be relatively in balance in most people, while a few at one extreme will manifest almost pure love, and a few at the other extreme pure entropy or evil. Since they are conflicting forces, it is also inevitable that those at the extremes will be locked in combat; it is as natural for evil to hate goodness as it is for goodness to hate evil.

• Last, I have come to conclude that while entropy is an enormous force, in its most extreme form of human evil it is strangely ineffective as a social force.

I myself have witnessed evil in action, viciously attacking and effectively destroying the spirits and minds of dozens of children. But evil backfires in the big picture of human evolution. For every soul it destroys – and there are many – it is instrumental in the salvation of others. Unwittingly, evil serves as a beacon to warn others away from its own shoals. Because most of us have been graced by an almost instinctive sense of horror at the outrageousness of evil, when we recognize its presence, our own personalities are honed by the awareness of its existence. Our consciousness of it is a signal to purify ourselves. It was evil, for instance, that raised Christ to the cross, thereby enabling us to see him from afar. Our personal involvement in the fight against evil in the world is one of the ways we grow.

The mark of the spiritually advanced is their awareness of their own laziness.

People often are not aware of their own religion or world view, and in the course of their religious growth it is necessary for them to become aware of their own assumptions and tendencies toward bias. Through bracketing and the attention of love we grow more aware of our beloved and of the world. An essential part of discipline is the development of an awareness of our responsibility and power of choice. The capacity of awareness we assign to that portion of the mind we call conscious or consciousness. We are now at the point where we can define spiritual growth as the growth or evolution of consciousness.

The fight between the ego and the true knowledge of God's Love.

When we become aware of a new truth, it is because we recognize it to be true; we re-know that which we knew all along.

Therefore, might we not conclude that to become conscious is to know with our unconscious? The development of consciousness is the development of awareness in our conscious mind of knowledge along with our unconscious mind.

We still have not explained how it is that the unconscious possesses all this knowledge which we have not yet consciously learned. Here again the question is so basic that we have no scientific answer. Again we can only hypothesize. And again I know of no hypothesis as satisfactory as the postulation of a God who is intimately associated with us – so intimately that He is part of us. If you want to know the closest place to look for grace, it is within yourself. If you desire wisdom greater than your own, you can find it inside you. What this suggests is that the interface between God and man is at least in part the interface between our unconscious and our conscious. To put it plainly, our unconscious is God. God within us. We were part of God all the time. God has been with us all along, is now, and always will be.

If the reader is horrified by the notion that our unconscious is God, he or she should recall that it is hardly a heretical concept, being in essence the same as the Christian concept of the Holy Ghost or Holy Spirit which resides in us all. I find it most helpful to understand this relationship between God and ourselves by thinking of our unconscious as a rhizome, or incredibly large and rich hidden root system, which nourishes the tiny plant of consciousness sprouting visibly from it.

In my vision the collective unconscious is God:

• the conscious is man as individual; and

• the personal unconscious is the interface between them.

Being this interface, it is inevitable that the personal unconscious should be a place of some turmoil, the scene of some struggle between God’s will and the will of the individual. I have previously described the unconscious as a benign and loving realm. This I believe it to be.

But dreams, though they contain messages of loving wisdom, also contain many signs of conflict; while they may be pleasantly self-renewing, they may also be tumultuous, frightening nightmares.

It is because our conscious self resists our unconscious wisdom that we become ill. It is precisely because our consciousness is disordered that conflict occurs between it and the unconscious which seeks to heal it.

In other words, mental illness occurs when the conscious will of the individual deviates substantially from the will of God, which is the individual’s own unconscious will.

The Ultimate Step: In Search of a Personal God

The ultimate goal of spiritual growth is for the individual to become as one with God.

Learn to think with God’s mind.

TRUETRUTH

We are not the body but God's eternal energy, not God but a part of God.

One with free-will but still a part of God's eternal world. We are eternal energy. Only are body die. We are here in this body to learn and evolve. Free will to choose the ego or the truth and knowledge of Gods love.

Since the unconscious is God all along, we may further define the goal of spiritual growth to be the attainment of godhood by the conscious self. It is for the individual to become totally, wholly God. Does this mean that the goal is for the conscious to merge with the unconscious, so that all is unconsciousness? Hardly. We now come to the point of it all.

The point is to become God while preserving consciousness. If the bud of consciousness that grows from the rhizome of the unconscious God can become itself God, then God will have assumed a new life form. This is the meaning of our individual existence. We are born that we might become, as a conscious individual, a new life form of God. The conscious is the executive part of our total being. It is the conscious that makes decisions and translates them into action. Were we to become all unconscious, we would be indeed like the newborn infant, one with God but incapable of any action that might make the presence of God felt in the world.

As I have mentioned, there is a regressive quality to the mystical thought of some Hindu or Buddhist theology, in which the status of the infant without ego boundaries is compared to Nirvana and the goal of entering Nirvana seems similar to the goal of returning to the womb. The goal of theology presented here, and that of most mystics, is exactly the opposite. It is not to become an egoless, unconscious babe.

Rather it is to develop a mature, conscious ego which then can become the ego of God. If as adults, walking around on two legs, capable of making independent choices that influence the world, we can identify our mature free will with that of God, then God will have assumed through our conscious ego a new and potent life form. We will have become God’s agent, his arm, so to speak, and therefore part of Him. And insofar as we might then through our conscious decisions be able to influence the world according to His will our lives themselves will become the agents of God’s grace. We ourselves will then have become one form of grace of God, working on His behalf among mankind, creating love where love did not exist before..

Real Power

It is the capacity to make decisions with maximum awareness. It is consciousness. Most people most of the time make decisions with little awareness of what they are doing. They take action with little understanding of their own motives and without beginning to know the ramifications of their choices.

The experience of spiritual power is basically a joyful one. There is a joy that comes with mastery. Indeed, there is no greater satisfaction than that of being an expert, of really knowing what we are doing. Those who have grown the most spiritually are those who are the experts in living.

The journey of growth requires courage and initiative and independence of thought and action. Whether or not we succeed, ‘it is your personal responsibility.’

Each one of us must make his own path through life. There are no self-help manuals, no formulas, no easy answers. The right road for one is the wrong road for another. The journey of life is not paved in Tarmac; it is not brightly lit, and it has no road signs. It is a rocky path through the wilderness.

Tier 1: Comfort & curiosity

Tier 2: Emotional & values-based

Tier 3: Deep personal truth

When ‘Falling in love’

The questions to trigger neurochemicals.

Dopamine (desire)

Serotonin (feel good)

Oxytocin (bonding)

Your brain starts to associate that person with safety, thrill, and connection.