Once you understand how the ego acts you realize that the ego you is not the ‘real you.’

Educational summary of the book Ego~ Lise Bourbeau

Loving yourself means giving yourself the right to be what you are for the time being. It’s the only way for an inner and outer transformation to manifest itself.

Suffering/The Victim

All of us are affected by at least four of the five common wrongs most humans feel. We all suffer at some point from what we see as….

1. rejection

2. abandonment

3. humiliation

4. betrayal and injustice

The only wound everyone seems not to have is humiliation.

Abandonment is hidden behind betrayal and rejection behind injustice, though we don’t experience them to the same degree. I suggest that you remember this whenever you feel injustice or betrayal. When trying to find what you are afraid of in a hurtful situation, you will discover that the fears of being rejected and being abandoned are the scariest and cause the most suffering.

Balance: and the law of cause and effect

Most people admit they have at least two of the four wrongs or wounds that are more apparent and cause more suffering. On the other hand, if we look back at the changes we have gone through in our lives, we can say that some wounds seem to have faded, while others have become more intense. We need to deal with these wrongs at some point.

Sometimes these feelings, say, like abandonment, may be very true. These wrongs may be true wrongs and sometimes they are from the ego.

Most of us live on the ego autopilot; it’s just our everyday life and our ego thoughts about trying to control the outside world and not getting what we want. (And we feel injustice)

What is the Ego

Ego is entirely a human creation and feeds off our mental energy to survive.

It is an AUTOMATIC thought, belief & reaction system

Based on fear, self-doubt, & insecurities

Maybe inherited as a survival mechanism. Maybe partially left over from when real danger threatened us in the old days. But in today’s modern world, the threat of real-life danger is minimal.

Maybe it’s more that we are not taught any differently. That we were not taught God’s Knowledge Thought System.

A competition. It’s me against everyone else. I must win. Never enough, always wanting and feeling you need more to be successful. Always worrying about the future, whether you will have enough money for food, but really more about luxuries. The wants, the more, more, more, or should I say the me, me, me.

Maybe it’s that we weren’t taught how to be consciously aware. Is it teachable?Suppose our ego thought system is partially inherited and taught. Wouldn’t the best way be if parents could teach their child to fight this natural inclination? By teaching them to stay more present,(paying attention, focus.) Education on the ego, and on the alternative of God’s Knowledge Thought System of love… But most parents don’t know this either. Plus, that is a lot of work to ask of parents….

The Past

The ego relies solely on everything that has been learned in the past. For example, any situation that is believed to be a hazard when it was experienced in the past will continue to be considered a hazard forevermore, as long as we allow it to. It constantly seeks to stop things in their tracks, while denying change in every possible way.

Suffering is one of its specialties. Always the Victim.

It cannot live in reality, because it compares everything to the world it created. The past…. It is convinced its own world is the real world. How many times have I heard adults tell me about hard times they experienced in childhood, all the while convinced they were real? After checking with their family, they realized their perception was false, that no one else had lived and perceived the situation the same way. The suffering these events caused stayed with them for many years because their ego led them to perceive things in its own way rather than see reality.

Ego causes much more damage, because it has its own will to live and survive. It lives in constant fear of dying, disappearing, as if it knew that, in fact, it is short-lived and not real, just as we ourselves are. At the same time, it is unaware of this, and that is why it strives to convince itself of its existence. The same goes for the ego that always attempts to convince itself it exists, though, in fact, it is but an illusion. The ego weakens you, because it saps your mental energy. Every time you allow it to control you, your energy wanes.

Only you can decide whether or not you are going to continue feeding your ego. Sadly, it’s not that easy, because we’ve given it a great deal of power throughout numerous lifetimes. It has found subtle ways of tricking us and making us believe we make the decisions in our lives, when in fact we let our ego take over.

Most of us live our lives on the ego autopilot

The ego: the total of your beliefs

Voices

You’ve certainly noted hundreds of these little voices talking incessantly to you, scaring you, causing you to doubt yourself or others, making you feel guilty, preventing you from taking action, making you distort reality, etc. Every little voice is linked to one of your beliefs. The more you keep them going by caving into them, the more importance they gain. In short, the ego is the total of these beliefs that prevent you from being yourself. When I refer to a part of the ego, I am referring to one of the beliefs that make up your ego.

The ego is a belief system

A belief is a mental attitude or state in which a person accepts something as true, real, or likely to be the case, often without requiring absolute proof at the moment of acceptance.

Your energy, perception, or attitude = your beliefs, opinions, experiences, fear, or love

We react with excitement and pleasure. Others, seeing the same scenery, imagine extreme hardship and loneliness and react in fear. Where some see tranquility, others see disturbance. If we were taught to be afraid, we will likely continue to be afraid. If we believe that unfamiliar things are dangerous, we will avoid new experiences.

We were taught to interpret what we see. We were told what to believe and believed what we were told. We’ve been guided by private and public opinion since we were born. Reality is made of impressions and experiences to which we give personal meaning and value. It changes constantly, of course, since events keep changing.

Our personal perception of reality is affected by our opinions and our fears.

Many beliefs encourage fear. Many beliefs are influenced by fear. Fear has had a big effect on the way we learned to view the world. Physical fear is natural and essential to our survival, but it’s important to remember that irrational fear is not. It is irrational to be afraid of what doesn’t exist. In fact, it can cause actual harm. And yet we’ve learned to let irrational fear shape our reality. We’ve learned to react emotionally in ways that other people do and to fear what we only imagine.

These reactions took time and practice to perfect. We followed the rules of our families and cultures. Our parents and teachers showed us how to behave in a world of humans, and we took those lessons with us into adulthood. Now we tell ourselves how to behave in much the same way. We follow the rules of society, but we’ve applied most of society’s rules to our own lives. We rule ourselves through self-made laws, personal judgments, and mental intimidation.

As children, we observed how our own family and our local community were governed. We followed the protocols of the school, the church, and the front office. Going against the rules usually resulted in a loss of respect among our peers. Sometimes the losses were far greater. We obeyed the rules of our city and state governments and the laws of our nation’s government. Breaking those rules meant paying bigger penalties. All of this influenced the way our minds work, and so you could say the way we run ourselves mirrors the way things run in the world.

It’s no surprise that we all have a little government operating in our heads. Preprogrammed as a child, taught, and learned from observation. Partly our personality, home life, and childhood experiences.

The mind is the government that sets the rules, and the physical body follows those rules. We’re willing to pay real penalties for breaking the rules we put in place-and, very often, we make someone else pay as well.

Like most governments, the mind tries to impose its laws on other bodies.

When we are aware of the way the mind functions, we can alter the way we rule ourselves. When we see how our own little government works, we can change it. We can amend our own laws. Whatever we can imagine for our own sake we can create. We can become better caretakers of our bodies and allow ourselves more freedom of expression. We can end the strict penalties we’ve inflicted on ourselves-penalties that make it impossible to experience the love we deserve.

Ego is A Program of Fear

It is an automatic thought, belief & reaction system

• A program based on fear, conflict, selfishness, and your insecurities. Defensive and reactionary in nature

• Programmed, for self-preservation for your ego thoughts only, it lets you believe it’s about protecting you, but it’s NOT. It's not your ego talking, you're perfect! But your ego can surely point out the other person’s ego bad habits in others… that’s how sneaky your ego is. It uses your ego thoughts to blame & attack others. A program of conflict. Reactionary not responsive. It hides inside you for what it claims is self-preservation and protection of you. Claiming it’s selfishness is the real you….

• A program that tries to make you believe you can control the outside world.

• A program in a belief, that it’s never your fault, I’m right, they’re wrong. Thus a program of blame. It’s always the outside world that is the problem.

• A program in the control of YOU, which only keeps the ego safe. The ego feeds the chaos with its blame & selfish reactions and then the ego gains power from your fears and insecurities.

• A program of misdirection, as that way you won’t think for yourself if you keep believing in your ego and using your automatic preprogrammed ego thought system. That way you won’t look for who you really are, because that’s when you will become aware of what the ego really is.

• A program of belief of always wanting, getting, or even taking. Of unbalanced giving….

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Part 1 & Part 2: MASTER THE SELF

Part 1: The Power of Conscious Awareness

Part 1 is further subdivided into 2 parts….

STARTS WITH SELF-AWARENESS, ATTENTION, & FOCUS

Being in the present moment, or the “here and now” means that we are aware and mindful of what is happening at this very moment. We are not distracted by ruminations on the past or worries about the future, but centered in the here and now. All of our attention is focused onk the present moment. Living in the present moment. We have no control over the experience, any relationships, or the outside world. We do have control of our inner world. It’s our internal interpretation or perspective of the experience that results in our attitudes, opinions, and habits that form our behavior. Start on understanding your emotions which continues in Part 2…

The Red Car Theory

While you’re driving to work every day, can you tell me how many red cars you saw? Until you decide to look for or at something, you aren’t aware of it or don’t realize it.

This is awareness, attention to the present and focus on a specific problem.

So after ego education if someone or something triggers an ego habit. An ego educated person if called out on it by someone or if they are halfway present should notice it and try to fix it? That’s my theory… plus ego education should help a person to look at excessive ego traits in potential partners…. Ignorance is no longer an excuse🤪

Being conscious, thinking with the soul/heart, and God’s energy of Love. Not the unconscious mind feelings /ego and body’s emotions... It’s how we respond not react.

SELF-LOVE & KNOW YOURSELF

Part of self-love is wanting self-improvement

Everyone wants to be loved. But first, we must make ourselves lovable. We must prepare ourselves to be loved. We do this by becoming loving, self-disciplinedhuman beings. If we seek to be loved – if we expect to be loved.

• You’ve got to like and love yourself first…. Because love comes from within. What is your attitude to life? This goes hand in hand with…

• Know yourself.… What are your inner goals and outer goals? This is more about inner goals, but it’s about balance between the two, so include both. What rules won’t you break, which ones can you bend a little? Are there some things (beliefs, rules)you don’t need or need to add? Discipline. Character, integrity, honor, respect, and self-respect. Your character. What are your boundaries, deal breakers, passions, etc?… this is all part of your owner’s manual.

The difficulty of regaining control

Why is it so difficult to regain control of our lives and not allow the ego to control us?

Lack of Awareness

1. The main reason is the lack of awareness that each of us has.

We are aware of only between 5% and 10% of what is going on inside of us. That means we are barely conscious of the many times when the hundreds of beliefs we possess manage our lives. See the awareness section.

• If you want to know someone’s mind listen to their words.

• If you want to know someone’s heart look at their actions.

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It starts with Emotions

Know Yourself - Emotions are key

Emotions become like waves: they rise, they pass, and you remain standing. The ego produces a lot of emotions and feelings. So the ego is a very big part of our emotional self-control.

When you learn to observe your feelings rather than be consumed by them, they lose their power over you.

That shift in perspective changes everything.

We all need to have the self-awareness to….

Easily recognize when your ego has taken over

1. By remembering that as soon as you have judged or accused someone else, you think back in the past or in the future while feeling uneasiness, be it fear, worry, guilt, apprehension, indecision, doubt, anger, to name a few, you know that it has taken control.

2. Step two: discovering the emotions felt. Emotions are the key to emotional self-control.

The questioning continues:

• What do I feel in this situation?

• Where are these emotions in my body? Emotions are the key to emotional self-control, especially the negative ones.

• What am I afraid of personally?

You cannot begin to heal discomfort if you are not even aware that you feel this discomfort. From experience, I know that most people struggle to answer these questions. People who have learned to feel what is happening inside them are few and far between. Most parents have not been able to impart this skill in their children, because they didn’t know how to do this for themselves.

• anger

• upset

• frustration

• defensive

• annoyed

• anxious

These↑ are just a few of the many negative emotions generated by the ego….

3. Step three: judgments, accusations, reactions

Who am I judging or accusing in this particular situation?

• When you judge yourself especially out of fear, the reaction to the wound of rejection and/or abandonment is the culprit.

• When you judge yourself out of shame, it is a reaction to the wound of humiliation.

• Was it because I didn’t get my way? Why am I angry? (injustice)

• When you accuse a member of the opposite sex out of anger, the wound of betrayal is at issue, and you’re wearing the controller mask.

You can either vent your reaction of anger or revolt or hold it inside yourself, that is an indication that you have not forgiven yourself yet. So do not insist and please give yourself more time to do it before speaking to the person again. (emotional self-control)

There’s no doubt we are happy to think that someone can learn something at the same time as us and that this exchange helps them be at peace with themselves. However, this must not be the goal of our exchange. When the person doesn’t want to share, they are often too emotional or too awkward in expressing themselves. We mustn’t come into this with expectations. They will go about forgiving themselves gradually, whether consciously or not. Like you, they have the right to take the time they need to get there.

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Since the ego does not want to recognize that we have the power to create our lives, it prefers to believe that problems come to us from the outside. It is systematically programmed to find a solution outside ourselves.

a. The first part is to understand the ego.

Awareness

It is an automatic thought, belief & reaction system. A program based on fear, conflict, selfishness, and your insecurities. Defensive and reactionary in nature. Programmed, for self-preservation for the ego thoughts only, it lets you believe it’s about protecting you, but it’s NOT. A program that tries to make you believe you can control the outside world. A program in a belief, that it’s never your fault, thus a program of blame. A program of misdirection, as you won’t start thinking for yourself if you continue believing in your ego and using your automatic preprogrammed ego thought system. That way you won’t look for who you really are, because that’s when you will become aware of what the ego really is. A program in the control of YOU, which only keeps the ego safe. By feeding the chaos with its selfish reactions the ego gains power from your fears and insecurities. A program of beliefs of always wanting or getting or even taking. Of unbalanced giving….

b. We have to become self-aware

c. Get the urge or want to better ourselves. (self-love)The ability to look at our faults.

d. The awareness to see the ego in yourself….

e. And then to do the work to minimize it.

You must want to change your perspective and beliefs on life

We have to change our belief system as the ego thought system is a belief system built on fear, extreme self-protection, and selfishness, not in the protection of you but of your ego thoughts.

Laziness

• It takes a lot of work, most of us are lazy.

We have to RELEARN a whole new thought system and practice a lot to make it the new automatic thought and response system, not a reaction-based system.

• You can only try to minimize and transform it as much as possible.

God’s universe won’t let you delete it, just update it to a different system. Transform it, to gain a different perspective on life, to your true self.

Most of us can do it most of the time, not perfectly. (Use the 4 agreements)

Spirit means life, and life is the truth of what we are. We are spiritually mature when we are in a close relationship with life—when we can tell the real from the unreal. Wonderful relationships can’t happen when we’re obsessed with me and all things that concern me. Peace won’t happen as long as we’re waging wars within us and around us.

God’s Knowledge Thought System

A whole new belief system based on love. It starts with your initial thoughts, desires, or intentions based on love. Your energy or attitude. A system based on thoughtful response, not reaction. A program of self-love, self-discipline, and emotional self-control….

• One of Love

• One of balance

• One of giving, there is no selfishness in love. The desire to give must be without motive other than the desire to give.

It must come from your true self, your heart, or your soul. You shouldn’t expect a response. If there is a response it will come back in kind if the responder is also love-based. (Read the love folder)

From the unseen world of God’s energy of LOVE….

…We also need to find this energy or ATTITUDE. It’s there we just have to find it.

First, it’s understanding and being aware that the ego is fear-based and extremely self-centered. Then, by wanting to minimize the ego in yourself… this IMHO is a big part of self-love. The wanting or urge to be the best we can be.

The ability to self-examine yourself to see the ego faults in yourself and the will to fix them…. To do so, you must bear in mind that the ego, the little me, only thinks of itself and that it will continue to exist throughout its continual thoughts of ME, MYSELF, AND I. That is its way of proving it exists. It seems to believe it is alone in its battle with the entire world. Always defending itself and attacking. It never goes away. It’s a lifelong battle.

Why is the Ego Insane?

The ego thinks it can control the outside world. Its main goal is NOT the protection of you but only of itself, self-preservation, of its self-centered thoughts. The Ego’s main goal is defending only your ego thoughts(itself), not in defending the real you. Reactions based on fear and selfishness, not one based on reason or self-disciplined, love-based thoughts. A main goal is the control of YOU, which keeps it safe. Feeding the chaos with its selfish reactions and gaining power from your fears and insecurities….

The ego’s fear actually works against you in becoming the best you can be in the outer materialistic world and in your inner world, your character, the true you…

Understanding the following is important.

Knowing yourself, Knowing love & your character are your friends.

Self-love is also wanting inner self-improvement, to be the best YOU

ONLY YOU control your thoughts…

YOU create your inner world

YOU control your desires, intentions, beliefs; and your life

YOU can’t control the outer world but……

It’s how you respond from your inner world to the outer world.

Your inside world is what controls the outside world….

…..It’s how you respond from your inner world to the outer world. That’s what you control, YOU, ONLY YOU….

Our inner world is where we reside and live. Your perspective, energy, ATTITUDE, attention, desires, intentions, and beliefs are yours to control.

Understand the power of your mind & your attitude.

Perspective: how you view life in general and specifically, yourself, others, etc… your mindset, your attitude, your energy, beliefs. Realize that laziness and your ego are major enemies, the real devil.

My input, not the authors

Most are unaware that the ego is our automatic thought and reaction system.

How many people just wake up and say I’m going to work on my inner self? I want to work on my inner self-improvement.

How does one acquire this awareness? That’s the hardest part as discussed in other articles. An emotional punch in the stomach or heart? Even then people refuse to become consciously aware. Some even ignore Grace….

From birth, we are trained to prioritize protecting our ego and being right—even if that forces us to commit to an incorrect position or keep repeating the same counterproductive mistake.~AMD

Ego Education

The ego is vaguely taught by parents. When you were a child, “don’t do that”, “that was selfish”. Or “that was mean”, etc…

I don't remember getting any real education on what the ego. Nor did I teach my kids. So IMHO, people need to be educated on what the ego really is.

We all think our opinion is right. We are all selfish to various degrees, but why do we say and react the way we do in our relationships? Education on how the ego acts in controlling us. How the ego is a thought, and reaction system that is always about increasing conflict, with blame, attacking, being the victim, etc… The ego is about the protection of the EGO self, (the always right you). NOT the real you…

This is where I hope this can help people start their journey to become aware of their ego. If one reads the ego section articles.

If they are at least aware of the ego and it is our preprogrammed automatic thought and reaction system.

Adults with no education or knowledge, the ones who really need to read this won’t ever consider any of this. They just get angry if you bring it up. Usually makes matters worse. But maybe if people could get some ego education, maybe it would nudge them just enough to increase or help kick-start awareness of the ego in them?

Education on how the ego acts in controlling us. How the ego thought and reaction system is always about increasing conflict, with blame, attack, being the victim, etc… The ego is about the protection of the EGO self, the always right you. NOT the real you… Maybe the light will go on and they say, “ That’s me, I did that, I say stuff like that. Oh my God, that is me! I remember that education I got on the ego…. Or is their ego so strong that they still refuse to believe it could be them? That their blame and attacks actually make the interaction worse, escalating it into a conflict, just as their ego demands…

The Red Car Theory

While you’re driving to work every day, can you tell me how many red cars you saw? Until you decide to look for or at something, you aren’t aware of it or don’t realize it.

This is awareness, attention to the present, and sometimes focus.

So after ego education if someone or something triggers a ego habit. An educated person if called out on it by someone or if they are half way present should notice it and try to fix it? That’s my theory… plus after education on the ego this also helps a person to look at excessive ego traits in potential partners…. Ignorance is no longer an excuse.

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How do we actually start to control, our emotions and our ego? After gaining awareness, it starts with…

Part 2: Power of Self-Responsibility

Even if you feel someone else is at fault it is only how we respond that matters. And it is possible you could have a better or more right opinion. But when you understand how the ego thought, and reaction system operates. You realize most of the time by continuing to let your ego control thoughts, defensive posture, blame game & arguments in trying to change the other’s opinion or perspective, only makes things worse…

We start work to emotional self-control/self-discipline

MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS & LAZINESS, MASTER YOURSELF

This is the start of mastering your ego as a lot of your emotions are ego based…

The 4 Agreements

1. You are in charge of how you respond

You’re not the victim. Even if you really are a victim you can’t change what they did or change them or their opinion.

It’s only about what you say or what you do. (We all live in our inside world you control the outside world only in how you respond to the actions of others or any outside event. Not in trying to control them or blame them or change their opinion or perspective) What is your attitude? More based on love or the Ego?

2. Don’t take it personally

Why?

Because it’s their movie, you are only a guest star, maybe only a secondary character or extra in their movie. They are the creator, producer, director & star of their movie. Everyone is different maybe the ego doesn’t control them as much, but it won’t take long for you to find out, again depending on the situation…… This might be hard when it gets personal with certain remarks. Sometimes you may need to hear or really listen to what they say and evaluate...is that true, did I say or do that? Is it that just their movie opinion or is that really me?

3. Don’t assume

Is the statement clear and is there no room for you to misinterpret what they are saying and meaning? Is it a situation where you can ask questions to clarify what they are really saying? What is the real meaning behind the words? Is it just what they said or is it implying something different? Lastly is it maybe more about their fears, insecurities, their ego talking?

To be in charge of your movie, you have to minimize the ego emotions that are in charge of you now.

Don’t you want to be the REAL ONE IN CHARGE OF YOU? Not the self-centered, always-right ego emotions, part of you. Even if you really feel you’re more right, why always increase the conflict with the EGO blame, accusations, and attacking others? It does no good in most situations. Minimize your ego emotions, do the work. You can change. It’s all about your energy, your attitude on life…..

4. Always try your best and keep trying, practice makes perfect. Just like learning to ride a bike….

Awareness, real attention, and focus

Learn to curb that initial urge to react, identify the emotions or feelings that may trigger your urge to respond, or want to voice your opinion. Always wanting to be right or maybe blame or defend your ego self, your ego thoughts… It’s emotional self-control, self-discipline.

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Part 3: MASTER YOUR LIFE

LOST LESSONS: POWER UNLIMITED 12-Step Program

• So many people don’t know who they are

• Many don’t know the power they have to become whoever they want to be

Update Your Owner’s Manual

After you start seeing positive results, you want to keep getting better. To do it well. After you master emotional self-control or while in the process you may realize you may need to look at how much the ego really controls you. You decide to completely Master the Ego and your life…. MASTER YOUR EGO

This is where you look at all your faults. Are there other areas you need to improve? While your ego is a lot of your problems you may need to, look at all of your problem areas. This is where you decide you really want to become the best you can be in all areas of life. In the outside world and the inside world. Always done with love, balance, and an open heart….

Apply All 12 POWER UNLIMITED STEPS

To really love youself, to really know who you are and what you want to be. To be the real you, not the ego you. Continue working on parts 1 & 2. You decide to completely Master the Ego, all your faults, Love, Awareness and you become Master of Your Life.

Emotional self-control, Self-discipline, Character

Only You Control You

The ego thought system is about trying to control the outside world…you can’t get rid of ego but you can transform or minimize the ego…not only by recognizing it, but wanting to minimize it in you…

In recognizing your ego, you also need to become aware of the following ego traits

The ego uses criticism

When our heart guides us, we stop criticizing. We take advantage of every experience to learn to love even more.

The ego uses a very subtle ruse to control us and give us importance by often directing criticism to others and passing it off as observations. You read a few examples in the last few pages. The ego likes to find fault with others to convince itself that it is better and more important than others. When we are aware of criticizing, we think the person deserves it, because, in our estimation, they are really the ones who are wrong.

For every example of criticism, whether verbalized or in thought, I have added some egotistical thoughts.

• Did you see how fat she has gotten? Does she not have a mirror at home? (I would never let MYSELF get that way. I have more willpower than she does).

• He never stops talking. He just takes over the floor. Doesn’t he realize that the others would also like to talk? (I am more discreet and attentive to other people’s needs).

• What’s that fool doing on the road? He cut ME off and almost plowed into ME. How come he has a driver’s licence? (I drive a lot better than that – I’d never do that).

• Poor thing, it’s one problem after another, and she is becoming more and more of a victim. (I take charge of MY life, I don’t seek attention through MY problems. I don’t take advantage of other people as she does).

• I’m fed up with always having to repeat things. Seems to ME what I’m saying is clear! (I listen better, I’m more attentive and quick to catch on to everything).

• I just don’t get why she keeps acting this way, even though she knows I don’t like it. (I take into consideration what she likes – it’s the least I can do to show MY love for her).

• I hate calling an administrative office. First of all, we have to spend several minutes talking to a machine, and when we finally get through to a person, they ask us all the same questions. It’s just so time-consuming. (If I were the one in charge, I’d think about the customers and I’d change the entire system. I’m sure I’d find one that would be better).

• Why do you ask me for my opinion when you never like any of MY answers and you just go on doing what you want to do anyway? (I’m not egotistical like that. I’m more flexible and I don’t waste other people’s time).

• How can a man put up with doing such a dirty job? (I think too much of myself to allow MYSELF to do something like that. I’m worthy of a more honourable trade).

• How come it is taking so long for ME to be served? There aren’t many people in the restaurant. Are the servers on strike? (If I were the owner, you could bet that service would become a priority.)

The ego uses superlatives

Every time we exaggerate, the ME, MYSELF, and I are seeking even greater recognition. It uses superlatives such as always, never, or any other form of exaggeration.

• You are ALWAYS busy at work, even at home, and you’re NEVER there when I need you.

• I NEVER eat dessert.

• You’re ALWAYS late. • I no longer have any fears. • You NEVER understand anything. I ALWAYS have to repeat myself.

• MY son ALWAYS lies to me.

• I’M ALWAYS the one who has to work overtime.

• You NEVER talk to me. When you come home from work, you ALWAYS plunk yourself down in front of the TV before and after dinner.

The ego uses “I have to” or the conditional tense

Whether in thought or words, the ego uses expressions such as I HAVE TO or verbs in the conditional tense such as I should or I would like to, it would be nice, etc.

The ego does this because these formulations are expressions of fear, even though they are hidden.

By limiting us in this way, the ego is convincing us once again to listen to its fears.

Let’s look at a few examples:

I HAVE TO stop eating so much or I HAVE TO stop smoking.

The ego wants to instill fear and control, once again, to feel it exists and that it is powerful. It does not know that we always have a choice in life. It especially doesn’t know that when we make a decision based on fear, we are feeding into that fear, and it ends up manifesting itself more and more. It does not realize it is asking us to control ourselves to avoid something.

However, the control is the best way for this something to manifest itself rather than disappear. All of these expressions in the conditional tense conceal an unconscious fear.

I SHOULD tell my colleague at work that I am fed up with his disparaging remarks about me. Would I ever LIKE TO be able to answer him in the same tone of voice? Several fears can be hiding behind that desire phrased in the conditional tense. If the person weren’t afraid, they’d say instead, That’s it. I’ve decided that I’ll be talking to my colleague tomorrow. I need to straighten things out with him to have a better working relationship.

The ego identifies with “having” and “doing.”

Because the ego identifies with what it has and does, it wants to own everything that feeds it and makes it feel secure, such as things and people. It does not want to lose anything, because it believes it is losing a part of itself. Another instance is when someone makes every attempt to squeeze into a conversation what they own or by showing it off in every way imaginable.

The ego doesn’t listen

The following is a list of examples, showing another very common characteristic of the ego – the inability to listen. It jumps to conclusions.

It takes over the conversation when we are talking to someone or it interrupts to take over the floor.

• Someone asks your sister how many hours she sleeps at night. She answers, and you hasten to add, “ME, I sleep about seven hours a night.”

The ego justifies itself and defends itself

The ego is convinced it must defend itself against everything and everyone. It readily shifts to the defensive. The ego thinks it’s always someone else’s fault and seeks to pin the blame on someone.

Here are a few examples to help you become more alert and cue into how many times we can be inclined to justify ourselves and seek out someone to pin the blame on.

• I was waiting in line at the airport in another country to go through customs. After a half-hour wait, I noticed I was standing in the wrong line – the one I was in was for residents. Oh no! How come these things happen to ME? If they had put their signs in the right place, I wouldn’t have ended up in the wrong line.

• When you come in late, have you noticed you have already prepared your excuse even before arriving? You’re even ready to lie to avoid getting caught. Every lie stems from the ego and hides one or several unconscious fears.

There Is No Viable Path to Peace: Every attempt to resolve conflict, to address concerns, to rebuild connection is met with deflection, blame-shifting, or re-ignition of the argument. You are left with a binary choice: perpetual conflict or silent surrender. A relationship with no exit from conflict is a war of attrition.

The ego can’t exist in the present. The ego cannot live in the present – all it knows is the past. It keeps playing the same film over and over.

When you talk about or think about incidents in the past, or have regrets or dream about the future, hoping that things will get better than they are now, you’re not centered and not in your heart.

The ego strives to feel important over what has happened or what could happen in the future.

• If only I had the energy I had when I was young, life would be better.

• If I hadn’t lost MY job, everything would be different today.

• Wait until I get MY medical degree. You’ll see. I’ll be making big money and MY life will be different.

The ego makes comparisons

When you make comparisons involving yourself or others for better or worse, the ego is always the driving force.

• How come I’m not as pretty as my sister? It’s not fair.

• I may not have as many degrees as my work colleague, but MY love life is much better than hers.

• I don’t understand why he doesn’t want to listen to MY advice. It seems to ME he could follow it very easily.

• Life was far more straightforward in MY day.

The ego believes it’s able to make other people happy

The following will probably surprise you – every time you worry for others, when you want to help them even though they didn’t ask for help – it’s an indication that your ego is taking over your life. It won’t like that statement and will subtly tell you, Don’t believe a word of it. You know full well you are worried for loved ones because you’re a good person and you are only looking out for their happiness.

I agree that you’re a good person if you are concerned about the happiness of people close to you. The message I want to get across is that you’re going about it the wrong way. Your wanting to do everything for others rarely goes over well with them. They could even feel offended that you are sticking your nose into something that is none of your business by telling them what to do, when they haven’t asked you for anything, and when you yourself have problems to solve. They could even take it as a put-down when you don’t think they can ask for help.

I suggest that you proceed with caution whenever you worry about someone else. Every time you try to help without being asked to, you will discover you fear for yourself if that person does not follow your advice. Your ego is afraid, and it also believes it is becoming more important if the other person succeeds thanks to the advice and the help you provided.

Arrogance

Our ego is never satisfied, and the more importance it acquires over time, the more it fears losing this importance and the more it seeks to gain.

Our ego even manages to develop arrogance, which is also described as having a big ego. Arrogance is ego at its apex. Arrogance is an exaggerated feeling of one’s own value, an overestimation of oneself that tends to place a person above others. Arrogant people want to win at all costs and to be right.

Here are a few examples of arrogance in action:

• When are you going to stop smoking? You know it’s not good for your health. I managed to stop, and so should you, just like I did.

• MY husband doesn’t want to follow ME and take personal development courses. He is no longer at the same level as ME. I’m afraid it is affecting our relationship. • How come you’re not able to put everything away as you go, as I do? Can’t you see that it is a smarter way of doing things?

• Don’t you realize that your way of raising children is the wrong one? You are too permissive. You should try MY method. It gets far better results.

• It’s your fault I’m mad – you’re the one who started it. Arrogance can be manifested either intellectually or spiritually. An arrogant intellectual especially uses their knowledge to boost their standing.

Someone acting arrogantly symbolizes someone who is seriously lacking in self-confidence. That is why they seek to compare themselves favourably to others. Their lack of self-esteem means they cannot feel self-confident, pay themselves compliments, or even love themselves. That is where their need for the outside comes in, particularly their search for love and other people’s approval in order to be happy. Someone who adopts arrogant behaviours has embarked on an idealistic quest for perfection. An idealist is the opposite of a realist. Consequently, if you see yourself as someone who is rarely ever satisfied and who must start everything over and often review what you have done to ensure that it’s perfect, it means your ego is terrified of being rejected. Unfortunately, the ego can’t know that perfection only exists in a spiritual world, not in the material world, since the ego has absolutely no idea that the spiritual world even exists.

With all of the examples provided, I do hope you are more aware of the effect your ego has on your life. My intent is not to discourage you. All I want to do is have you become aware of it.

No change can be made for as long as you are not aware of what you want to change

As years go by, it becomes increasingly urgent and important to recognize the extent of the power we have given to our ego, not only in this life but also in many previous lives. The ego has realized since time immemorial that it has been instrumental in maintaining our fear of being wounded (the five wrongs or wounds of the soul). Only when you develop your awareness one day will you be able to regain power over your life and allow the tremendous power you have within, which knows the needs of your soul, to regain its rightful place.

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steps of forgiveness of self & others

1. BECOME AWARE OF EMOTIONS AND ACCUSATIONS

2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

This step is achieved when you discover that the fear residing within is being fuelled by your ego and when you realize and admit that this fear is distorting reality. This fear is also why you had expectations of the person in the situation in question. Being responsible is admitting that no one in this world is in your life to meet your expectations which stem from a lack of love for yourself. The responsibility step may take some time, but please don’t give up – your heart wants to get there. The more serious the wound, the greater the grip your ego has, and the more effort you’ll need to see the situation with the eyes of your heart.

3. RECONCILING WITH THE OTHER PERSON

Now that you have felt the fear inside you and recognized your expectations, reconciliation – the next step – will be easier. Seeing the other person as your mirror image is a great way to achieve this. You are probably already familiar with this method that we have been teaching for more than 30 years now, but I feel obliged to repeat it as often as I can. I have often seen people who were convinced they were going about this method the right way, only to discover several years later that they had misinterpreted some steps. Their ego was clearly getting in the way, terribly fearful of disappearing if they completed all of the suggested steps.

To give you a better grasp of the mirror method and make it part of your approach, let’s look at one of the examples we cited earlier:

• I’m fed up with always having to repeat things. Seems to me what I’m saying is clear! (I listen better, I’m more attentive and quick to catch on to everything). Let’s pretend that Mary is at her wits’ end about having to repeat everything to her daughter Abby. Mary is convinced her daughter often lets on that she has not heard anything or forgotten, because she’s reacting to her mother. Abby is doing this because she finds her mother is much more demanding with her than with her brother.

4. SELF-FORGIVENESS

This is the most important step and the one that guarantees that you will never relive this kind of situation with this person the same way. This step is so miraculous that if the unsettling situation were to recur, we would describe it differently and experience it differently without any pain. The reason is that we have managed to see this through our heart, not through our ego and our wound. To get to this point, Mary must simply give herself the right to be upset with her daughter, while acknowledging that this was caused by her fear and her unfulfilled expectations. She must also admit that since her wounds have not healed, she sometimes is like Abby whom she has accused so many times. In this example, the wounds of rejection and injustice were active in Mary and Abby. As a result, they donned their withdrawer and rigid masks.

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Example

If Mary wants to cope with this type of situation without activating any wounds, she has to go through every one of the steps of the forgiveness process.

1… In order to take the first step explained earlier, it is preferable that Mary sit down, relax, breathe calmly, and take a drink of water. She then should ask herself how she feels, what she is accusing her daughter of with respect to who she IS, what she is afraid of for herself, and she should write down what comes to mind. After making note of her answers and taking the time to come to grips with what is happening inside, Mary then moves on to the next step.

2…She takes responsibility by accepting the fact that her emotions and her fear are brought on by the expectations she has of her daughter. Being responsible is admitting that her daughter is a reflection of what is in her, what belongs to her. If she looked in the mirror and saw that she had pimples, she’d know they are hers, not the mirror’s. Mary needs a mirror because her ego prevents her from seeing that she’s sometimes like her daughter and that she doesn’t accept it. The ego is convinced the only way not to suffer is to see the unacceptable states of being only in others, not in oneself. The mirror method only works with accusations regarding the state of being and not what the other does.

Let’s assume that, in this example, Mary:

a) Is accusing her daughter of being unfair, selfish, and ungrateful, no matter what she tries.

b) Feels rejected, unappreciated, and unloved.

c) Fears being judged a bad mother, a meanie; and

d) Acknowledges that she is expecting very much that her daughter prove her love for her.

Only when Mary assumes her responsibility will she know that Abby is accusing her mother of the same things, feels the same way, and has the same fear for herself in this situation. She will realize that her daughter also has expectations and that she is reacting, because her expectations have not been met.

3… To be successful at reconciliation, the third step, Mary must put herself in her daughter’s shoes and get a good feel for what she is experiencing. By opening up her heart, she will have a great deal of compassion for Abby. She’ll then write: I know now that Abby accuses me of being unfair, selfish, and ungrateful for everything she does for me. She also feels rejected, unappreciated, and unloved, as I do. Her expectations are not being met either, because she’s afraid of being labeled a bad and mean daughter.

4… Mary accepts the fact that she is human, that she has wounds that are readily activated. She admits she is seeking the love of her daughter, because she doesn’t love herself enough. The more she learns to love herself and accept that she is not always a good mother according to her daughter’s expectations, the fewer expectations she will have of her daughter. Self-acceptance, though, is not necessarily easy. The main reason is that when we assume our responsibility, this can open our wound of rejection. Canta could whisper the following in Mary’s ear: You’re not a good mom. Here you’ve been accusing her all this time when, in fact, you’re just like her. Abby really has good reasons to reject you. Why haven’t you realized that she is there to reflect how you are? You’re so dumb. What a poor mother you are! If Mary keeps wearing her withdrawer mask, she’ll feel increasingly worse. She won’t be able to make her way through all of the steps and talk to her daughter. Her ego, which has been given a boost, will find other good reasons to sidetrack her from the process. Mary must recognize her humanity, her wounds, her fears, and that she give herself the time she needs to get through this step and all of the others. She will gradually feel compassion for the little girl within who is suffering out of fear of not being loved. When she comes to realize she has been saddled with this fear for years, she will not have to give any excuses for acting this way with Abby. She will know down deep that she couldn’t have done any different, as she was not even aware of this fear she had.

The benefits of true forgiveness

One of the benefits of self-forgiveness is the significant improvement in our relationship with the person in question. We discover them from another angle We can see numerous qualities in them that escaped us because of the accusations we levelled at them, and we no longer feel ill at ease at the idea of seeing the person and talking to them. Another benefit is that by not allowing your ego to trump your heart, you will regain your natural energy that was thwarted every time you donned a mask. Since this energy could not circulate, you had to dip into your energy reserve.

When you manage your life yourself, you will discover the happiness that comes with using your energy to manifest your desires and your needs. In our example with Mary, she had to be courageous and humble to forgive her mother and daughter, but the reward is such that she will feel like doing this again at other times. She has applied a balm to her wounds of rejection and injustice, which has helped reduce their effect. The same applies to each one of us when we listen to our needs. Every small or major decision made with our heart will diminish our wounds. Every act of love to ourselves will boost our energy and lift a weight off our shoulders.

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5. THE DESIRE TO EXPRESS WHAT WE DISCOVER

I strongly suggest that we express what we discover. This is the step where we can determine whether we’ve really forgiven ourselves. In Mary’s example, she visualizes herself sharing with her mother and daughter everything she has discovered about herself through the unpleasant situations she has lived with them. Canta may dissent and tell her: No way. Don’t tell them all that. They won’t understand. They don’t know what true forgiveness is all about, and they probably won’t want to listen to you anyway. They could even turn against you and tell you that you were at fault, not them. They will tell you they don’t live this kind of fear and that it’s your thing, that it has nothing to do with them. This type of resistance shows that Mary has not yet forgiven herself. Still scarred by her wound of rejection, she is still allowing her ego to influence her by wearing her withdrawer mask. Instead of accepting herself and recognizing her fears and her wounds, she is still mad at herself and continues to believe she is at fault, that she hurt her daughter and her mother, as was mentioned in step four.

6. SEEING THE PERSON AND EXPRESSING YOUR POSITION

Mary can elect to share what she has discovered and meet with her daughter and her mother at the same time or separately. She can tell them she has something very pleasant to share with them, a great lesson of life she has been taught thanks to them. By using what she discovered and resorting to the mirror technique to express herself, she can then speak of the link she has been able to establish between her daughter and her mother. When you go through these steps, I suggest you check with the person to find out whether they have ever noted the same fear. If you feel they are receptive, you can keep them talking about what they felt and ask them whether they judged you the same way you did them and whether they felt the same as you did. When the other person doesn’t want to speak to you about their feelings, don’t insist. What you are sharing is an important step FOR YOU alone. It is the final step in the process to help you find out down deep inside whether you have forgiven yourself. If the other person refuses to speak to you or they react by trying to defend or justify.

All human beings have a hardwired need for control.

We all have an innate desire to control everything about our lives: our time, our thoughts, our actions, our environment, our plans, our future, our decisions, and our surroundings. Feeling in control makes you feel comfortable and safe, so naturally you try to control everyone and everything around you—oftentimes, without even realizing it.

But the fact is, there is one thing you will never be able to control. No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to control or change another person. The only person you are in control of is you. Your thoughts, your actions, your feelings.

‘If your friends are not inviting you out to brunch this weekend, Let Them. If the person that you’re really attracted to is not interested in a commitment, Let Them. If your kids do not want to get up and go to that thing with you this week, Let Them. So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations. And the truth is, if somebody else—a person you’re dating, a business partner, a family member—if they’re not showing up how you need them to show up, do not try to force them to change. Let Them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just Let Them and then you get to choose what you do next.’ ~Mel Robbins - READ THE BOOK

Master the Let Them Theory, and you’ll stop exhausting yourself trying to control the uncontrollable. This isn’t just about feeling better. It’s about redesigning how you live your entire life.

FEAR:

The urge to control things comes from a very primal place: fear.

Fear of being excluded, of not being liked, of things falling apart if we’re not steering the ship. And it shows up in all kinds of ways. We hover over our kids, making sure they make the “right” decisions. We try to influence our partner’s habits, worrying that if we don’t step in, they’ll somehow get it wrong. We even impose our opinions on friends, believing we know better than they do about how their lives should unfold.

Real Power:

True power lies in our response. Let Them… When you say Let Them, you’re not giving up or walking away. You’re releasing that grip you have on how things should go and allowing them to unfold the way they will go. You’re freeing yourself.

You’re making an active, empowered choice to release control you never truly had. You stop giving power to other people and forces outside of you, and you reclaim it for yourself. When you say Let Me you unleash your strength by focusing on your response.

The beauty of Let Them and Let Me is that it helps you master these practices, so you can start living a more peaceful, powerful, and intentional life. Other people hold no real power over you, unless you give them that power. And every time you say Let Them, you choose to take it back.

Let Me

Let Them is just the first half of the equation. You cannot stop there. There is a second, critical part to the theory—Let Me.

The source of your power is not in managing other people; it’s in your response. When you say Let Me, you’re tapping into that power by taking responsibility for what you do, think, or say next. Let Me makes you realize that you are in control of what happens next and that life is more fun and fulfilling when you’re not sitting alone in your superiority.

Let Me Is the Power Move

That’s why the theory only works if you say both parts. When you say Let Them, you make a conscious decision not to allow other people’s behavior to bother you. When you say Let Me, you take responsibility for what YOU do next.

What I love about Let Me is that it immediately shows you what you can control. And there’s so much you can control: Your attitude. . . your behavior. . . your values, your needs, your desires, and what YOU want to do in response to what just happened.

It’s the opposite of judgment. Let Me is all about self-awareness, compassion, empowerment, and personal responsibility. Discernment…. Your friends who went away aren’t better than you. And you aren’t better than them.

When you say Let Them, you stop trying to control what someone else is doing. When you say Let Me, you take responsibility for how you respond to it, which is not always obvious.

Every situation is different and learning how to choose what type of response is worth your time and energy, and what isn’t, will change your life. I have a story that will help you understand how to choose the right response for you.Every situation will be different based on how you feel, what’s going on in your life right now, how much time you have, how important the issue is to you, what your values are, and what the most effective approach is.

Let Me is an opportunity for you to put your time, energy, and values at the center of your life. It’s where you get to choose what’s worth your attention and what isn’t. How do you decide what’s right for you? Particularly when it’s a really stressful situation? Great question.

I find it helpful in these stressful moments to just say Let Them, take a pause, and consider: Is this going to bother me in an hour? Is this going to bother me in a week? Or is this something that just bothers me right now?

If I’m still thinking about it an hour from now, I should do something. If it’s going to matter in a week or a year, then I definitely need to do something. In most cases, you will know what is right for you. It's your choice….. We always have the power to decide what energy we feed, what battles we fight, and how we create change.

What it does mean is that you get to choose what impacts you and to what extent. You get to choose what you participate in and what you don’t. You get to choose when a job or relationship or issue is worth fighting for, and when it’s time to leave. You get to choose, and that is why you are always in control of what happens next.

Balance:

It’s about balance. It’s about making room for both you and someone else. It’s about giving other people the space and the grace to live their lives—and then giving yourself the same. The point is learning how to put your needs first as you’re balancing what works for you with the expectations and feelings of other people. In life, you don’t want to be a doormat, but you also don’t want to be an inconsiderate bulldozer. It’s a balance.

The Let Them Theory has two essential steps:

1. Let Them and

2. Let Me

These steps must go hand in hand. You cannot simply say Let Them and stop there. Many people forget the second step, Let Me—and this is a major mistake because Let Me is where your real power lies. It’s in Let Me that you take responsibility for your next move, for creating the life, relationships, and connection you want. Without this step, you’ll find yourself disconnected rather than empowered.

Do you want this person in your life? If you do, the Let Them Theory will create the space for it. What I’ve found in my own experience and in researching this book and hearing about the experiences of so many other people, is that when you give people the space to come to their own conclusions—and you focus on showing up as your full self in a loving and compassionate way—over time, people often change their opinions on their own.

So, as hard as it may sound, Let Them have their opinions and focus on how you are going to respond. What I love about this idea of stepping into someone else’s Frame of Reference is that understanding where someone is coming from may not change their opinion or yours, but it will deepen the connection that you have while you navigate your relationship. It helps you create space for two things to be true at once, and that space is where love can exist. You have to decide whether or not you’re going to accept people as they are (your family or stepfamily especially) or create the distance that you need. All it takes is one person to change the way they show up in a family, and the entire system can change for the better. And that person is you.

I mean it. You are so much more powerful than you believe.Accepting the reality of your situation doesn’t mean you’re surrendering to it. Instead, it’s about reclaiming your power to shape your future. Learn how to let adults be adults and accept people as they are. Then decide how to make the best of it, and I promise you your family dynamics will get better.

This acceptance allows you to see your family with compassion, and more importantly, it allows you to see yourself as an individual who has their own unique Frame of Reference and path in life.

Then you move to the second part, which is Let Me.

Let Me figure out what kind of relationship I want to create, based on the kind of person I want to be and the values that I have.

This could mean spending time with your family not out of guilt, but because it matters to you. That might mean defining your own traditions even though it upsets your family. That might mean being one that always makes the effort even when it is not returned. It might mean saying “I love you” or “I understand” or “I forgive you” for the first time.

• When you say Let Them, you give other people the space to feel their emotions without needing to fix them.

• When you say Let Me, you do what’s right for you, even if it upsets someone, which is how you take responsibility for your own life.

It’s time to stop being manipulated by someone else’s guilt, anger, or disappointment. Other people’s emotional reactions are not your responsibility to manage.

Most Of Us Are All Just Eight Years Old

So I was talking to Anne about this person and she said something that changed everything: “Mel, most adults are just eight-year-old children inside of big bodies. The next time you’re with this person and you feel yourself getting triggered by something they say or some way that they act, I want you to just imagine the fourth-grade version of them present in the room with you. Because what you’re describing is someone who has the emotional maturity of an eight-year-old. And, like it or not, that’s most adults.”

Honestly, as I sat there and processed what she was saying, it made a lot of sense. It’s true. Most people don’t know how to process their emotions in a healthy way, much less communicate their needs in a direct and respectful fashion. I know I certainly didn’t. It’s because adults, at their core, are just as emotional as children. The difference is, they are better at hiding it. . . most of the time.

But here’s what’s beautiful about the Let Them Theory: It doesn’t make you more judgmental—it makes you more compassionate. Instead of getting frustrated, you begin to understand that most people simply don’t have the tools to handle their emotions maturely.

The truth is that no one has been taught how to do this. To handle your emotions, you have to understand them and know how to process them in a healthy way. And in my experience, most people have no idea how to do this. I know I certainly didn’t.

Emotional maturity isn’t something you’re born with or that just happens. It’s a skill that takes time, practice, and a desire to learn. Most people you meet still act like an eight-year-old child when they don’t get what they want or when they feel uncomfortable emotions.

But now, with the Let Them Theory, you’ll learn to respond with compassion, set your boundaries, and stop letting other people’s emotional immaturity run your life. And you’re going to need this tool because the connection between adults and childlike behavior is irrefutable:

It’s your responsibility to help a child create space to process their own range of emotions. But it is not your responsibility to manage another adult’s emotional reactions.

Let Them. Anytime an adult acts like an eight-year-old child, Let Them.First, it’s never your job to manage another adult’s emotions. When someone pulls the silent treatment on you, or plays the victim, or erupts in frustration, Let Them. And then I want you to visualize an eight-year-old trapped inside their body. When you do that, something wild happens. You don’t feel scared of this person. You actually pity them. You feel compassion instead of contempt.

You will also realize that their inability to process normal human emotions like sadness, insecurity, disappointment, anger, fear, and rejection is not your fault. And it’s also not your problem to solve. This has been happening to this person since they were a child.

It is not your responsibility to manage their emotions or try to fix them. Your responsibility is to protect yourself from their emotional spiral, and to see it for what it is: A person who has no idea how to handle or express their emotions in a healthy way.

Let Them go silent. Let Them erupt. Let Them play the victim. Let Them sulk. Let Them deny that it happened. Let Them make it all about them.

Then, Let Me. Let Me be the mature, wise, and loving adult in this situation. Let Me decide if I want to address this directly or not at all. Let Me remind myself that managing another person’s emotions is not my job. Let Me remove myself from any text chain, dinner table conversation, relationship, or friend group where this is happening. Instead of expecting other people to change, demand the change of yourself. Hold yourself to a higher standard. When you recognize that you are dealing with someone who has a lot of internal work to do, you can draw healthier boundaries around the amount of time and energy you are willing to give to them.

Because until this person does the work to build the skills of emotional intelligence, they will always pull the silent treatment, play the victim, or be passive aggressive. This isn’t a personality trait, it’s a pattern.

Emotions & Self Control:

You cannot control your emotions from rising up. Trying to is a waste of your time. The better strategy is learning to just Let Them rise up and then fall without reacting. There is also nothing you can do that will ever allow you to control the emotional reactions in another human being, no matter how hard you try.

Emotions are also contagious. Seeing someone else sad, afraid, disgusted, or angry can cause you to experience these same emotions in your own body. This explains why someone else’s tone of voice, their shift in energy, their bad mood, and their body language can immediately trigger you to feel on edge.

And one more thing to understand is that whenever you or another person are hungry, or tired, or stressed-out, or under the influence, or lonely, or angry, or hurt, you’ll be even more emotional. I say this because whenever I do or say something I later regret, there is usually stress, alcohol, or hunger involved. Knowing all this helps me to make the changes to better manage my emotions and helps me stay in control of what I say, do, and think.

That’s one of my biggest takeaways from using the Let Them Theory: You will never be able to control what is happening around you. You will also never be able to control your emotional responses, because they are automatic—just like how your stress response turns on automatically.

But you can always choose what you think, say, or do in response to other people, the world around you, or the emotions that are rising up inside of you. That’s the source of all your power.

Learning how to let other adults manage their own emotions will change your life. So will learning how to let your own emotions rise and fall while still communicating what you need to, even when it is very painful to do so. And there will be times when making the right decision for yourself is going to be one of the hardest things you have to do in life.

The most important part of the Let Them Theory is understanding that you are responsible for your own happiness. You are responsible for the energy you bring and how you show up. You are responsible for waking up every day and doing the work to make progress on what matters. You are responsible for defining what matters to you. You are responsible for telling the truth even when it’s really hard. You are responsible for paying for your life. Nobody owes you anything, but you owe yourself everything.

If you’re not where you want to be, the great news is: It’s not your fault. Just like me, you’ve been unknowingly giving your power away. The even better news is: The second you choose to, you can change it.

The book also has a section on love….

Look at the person’s energy, don’t rush things and let them show you who they really are. Mutual respect, affection, communication, compromise without compromising values, for conflict resolution. Sometimes agreeing to disagree. Is is something or someone that you can make it work long term for your goals or values and what you want at this point in your life. If there is a possible deal breaker, make a choice on what to do, can you live with it (quit bitching, let them and let me)or is it time to move on. Listen to your gut, intuition, your heart and some common sense.

Emotions are a given, (good and bad)but don't let them run your life or they may ruin your life.

Course Outline

Main Objective: PART I

Awareness of the Ego and the 4 Agreements

Giving you awareness of these 3 topics

1. Understanding only you control your world. Which is the inside world of your mind. Your beliefs, emotions, feelings, and choices. Choices of ego fear, and unforgiveness or truth and love? The outside world doesn’t matter. It only matters how you respond from your inside world.

2. Understanding the ego human behavior you can now see and understand that they live in their personal ego dream world or movie. To understand basic human ego behavior, and see it in others. To see how the ego tries to control their outside world with emotions of anger, conflict, accusing, blaming, attacking, judging, I’m right you’re wrong, I’m special, you are not, etc..

3. The 4 Agreements and companion lessons, gives you easy explanations and everyday tools to implement your awareness and understanding of the basic human nature and the ego thought system.

Assignment:

Read the Relentless book

Understand ONLY YOU control your real world, the inner world of your mind

Read the 4 Agreements book, The Energy Bus, The Let Them Theory, Mastery of Love book and Ego section

See Owners Manual section read and take your time to figure out who you are and want to be. Focus more on the inner values and characteristics you want to develop and have.This is where you make sure you know what you want, who you are, and who you want to be. Integrity, honor, self-respect. Likes, dislikes, inner goals, and outer goals, etc…

Read God’s Knowledge Thought System in the Knowledge section

Now there is no excuse of ignorance

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The rest is up to you. It’s your choice! Are you ready to learn more about being both the teacher and the student. Do you want real power? This not for the lazy person. This is where you must have the want & willpower to improve your emotional intelligence.

Laziness is the original sin

PART II

Your 2nd choice takes the willingness & willpower to improve emotional self-control …

1. By practicing self-discipline, responsibility and implementing the 4 Agreements you can effectively improve communication skills. (along with developing self-love, knowing who you really are and what you want, improving your foundation, or updating your owner’s manual)

2. You can now brush off their words or actions because you now have knowledge of their personal ego’s control. You get angry or upset less often, and you can now respect their ego dream or movie. You see how the ego only protects your ego personality, not the real you, your inner heart or soul. You have the everyday tools to communicate more effectively and deal with their ego opinion and any possible conflicts. You have the improved ability to control your emotional reactions and now you respond in the present instead of reacting. You are not trying to control them or any other outside event or interaction. This is where you pull it it all together with this new knowledge of these 3 key areas. This gives you a great advantage in your personal and business life.

3. You don’t hate or judge them anymore. You still don’t have to like them or even associate with them if possible.(discernment) You now understand it’s God’s role to judge your brothers and sisters, not you….

….you become Bulletproof

Use the 4th Agreement… practice, repeat, practice, repeat….

…you become Relentless

Assignment:

A… Read the Awareness & Emotions section

B… Read the Love section, Read the 5th Agreement and Belief section

Implementing the 4 Agreements is the start of awareness. Seeing how the ego controls them. You understand its their ego movie, they are the creator, producer and star, it has nothing to do with you, it’s their image of you. Look for the signs and their real intention behind their words. By being the observer of your thoughts and emotions. By not automatically reacting, getting frustrated or mad, saying or doing something dumb. You wait to respond with wisdom or choose to say nothing or to agree. Now many people won’t say anything because they don’t want to have a conflict or other reasons why they don’t reply. That’s not awareness.

END OF BASIC COURSE

Concept of yourself is everything that you believe to be true. And everything that you believe to be true about yourself has landed you precisely where you live and breathe every day of your life. Your beliefs about yourself are like the ingredients in a recipe that you use to create your self-concept.

Those ingredients or beliefs fall into two specific categories: your outer self-concept and your inner self-concept.

Here are the three primary maps of the mind:

1. Self-image ― how we see ourselves

2. Social status ― what others expect of us

3. Beliefs ― what we believe to be true

The most important agreements are the ones you made with yourself. In these agreements you tell yourself who you are, what you feel, what you believe, and how to behave. Most only see and feel the body.

We believe and that is who I Am.

We live and worry in the game of survival, this material world we have co-created

Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.

• Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being.

• Patient with both friends and enemies, you accord with the way things are.

• Compassionate toward yourself, you reconcile all beings in the world.

Virtue does not imply moral superiority, it implies authenticity and innate power. Our innate power arises from within our authentic (original) self and expresses itself functionally.

To connect to your heart one must be self aware of your feelings and to perceive their meaning. Meaningful reflection of the soul comes from the heart or inside yourself.

Soul

Everything and everyone has a soul.

Soul is the image-free energy within each individual. Soul is immortal and timeless. Soul cannot be bought or sold, nor can it be killed or destroyed. Soul can be likened to water in that it is formless as a gas but mutable as a liquid. Like the way frozen water maintains the form of its container, Soul also takes on the dimensions of its container. Soul provides the possibility of unfoldment.

When Soul energy is used responsibly, in alignment with its pure nature, great love, integrity, and service are possible. Soul is not the self, although the self is constructed of Soul energy.

Your soul, manifests in your emotional life, in your feelings and in your subconscious.

The entanglement of the soul/Spirit, mind and body makes it hard to separate. So again we talk and use the words interchangeable. Everything in the uniiverse has a soul, but only life-forms have spirits. The soul is the image-free energy that is in each individual. Plants and animals, planets and stars have souls. Humans also have a soul. The soul is immortal and timeless, and each individual is responsible for its own soul. A soul cannot be bought or sold, nor can it be killed or destroyed. When the soul’s energy is used responsibly, with love and integrity, great service to other souls is possible. The soul is not the self. It’s only when one sees through the self that the true power of the soul begins to shine through. The ideal of your soul, the thing that it yearns for, is not more knowledge. It is not interested in comparison, nor winning, nor light, nor ownership, nor even happiness. The ideal of your soul is space, expansion, and immensity, and the one thing it needs more than anything else is to be free to expand, to reach out and to embrace the infinite. Why? Because your soul is infinity itself. It has no restrictions or limitations—it resists being fenced in—and when you attempt to contain it with rules and obligations, it is miserable. Self-concept, one that is inspired by your soul. You have a body, it expresses as you in form, and the soul that you exist through is in expression as it.

Spirit

Spirit permeates form and is form itself.

The spirit is the self-image-template of the individual life-form within the multiverse. When the physical body dies, there is still a personal image that one perceives. This image looks very similar to the body. This gives the ability to see the similarity between the spirit and the physical appearance of the old body.

The spirit, like the self, is entirely made up of Soul energy. We could say that spirit and Soul are different phases of the same energy.

We can think of the self as a temporary construct that serves functionality within the immediate incarnation. Because the self is meant to serve functionality in the world, it contains much more detailed information than does the spirit.

The self is found entirely in physical memory. The spirit contains overarching themes such as incarnational memory, incarnational/unfoldment trajectory, virtues, vices, talents, passions, et cetera.

By contrast, the self contains much more specific information that is subject to rapid change relative to the information held in the spirit. The information of the self includes your personal name, likes, dislikes, proclivities, specific knowledge, tastes, preferences expressed in the five senses, and so on.

But... Any profound change will only come about by the identity/ego committing itself to wanting the change, and trusting in the processes of the involuntary spiritual self to bring it about. What is needed first, awareness of the soul, and then awareness of the spirit, the inner most aspect of your soul....

Every decision that you make either moves you toward your true personality, or toward your soul. It is about awareness of your soul and thinking within yourself or from your heart or souls personality not outwardly or from your ego personality.

Ultimately it’s having the wisdom, rationality and will to have only desires or intentions from the heart or soul. Then to stay the course and create with the mind from what the heart truly wants. The body then experiences the creation that the heart related to the mind. This where awareness, living in the moment or being aware of our conscious decisions comes into play. Not to let old unconscious and outdated automated programs run us. To be aware of the soul or heart. To get the mind to use the souls desires or playbook into the game. Not to let the physical world or selfish ego mind be the quarterback, but to bench him in favor of the soul or love based aspect in being the quarterback.

It is not about change. It's about transformation.

“There is a world within–a world of thought and feeling and power; of light and beauty, and although invisible, its forces are mighty.” Charles Haanel

• The spiritual self: becoming conscious

“You are not a human being having a spiritual experience. You are a spiritual being having a human experience.” ~WDyer

Your higher self is that aspect of your soul that is in you, but it is not the fullness of your soul. It is a smaller soul self. Therefore, “higher self” is another term for “soul,” yet the soul is more than the higher self.

Picture a cup, a gallon, and a water tank

• The water tank is the soul

• An aspect of the soul becomes a gallon. That gallon is still soul, but not the fullness of the soul. It is that part of the soul that is on mission, so to speak.

• The personality is the cup

The cup contacts the gallon, the higher self soul, but not the full-bodied water tank.

Communication between the personality and its soul is an in-house intuitive process. It is a process that is organic to your own internal system. For example, decision making, which is your process, can be an intuitive process in which you pull data from your mind, your heart, and your intuition, relying upon the guidance of your higher self. Each of these sources is part of your own system of energy.

It is invisible and is the connection to the light, the field of intention, to God. etc... Self awareness allows us access to this part. Only an awareness of your feelings can open your heart. Thinking with the heart not the mind or intellect. We need our intellect to deal with the ego and help us make decisions in our survival while in the physical world. But the wisdom of our spirit/soul or heart should be our primary choice in our thought and response in all of our goals and relationships. Conscious mind is also where the thought, free will, self will and rationality resides. So the mind (with reason)must eventualy understand and relenquish control of the mind and body over to the heart or soul.

Spirituality has nothing to do with religion and it does not reject any religious beliefs either. Spirituality is about a person’s identity based on their values, and desires. It may be helpful to think of the emotional and mental self as the feelings and thoughts of the physical person. The spiritual self is the doorway or interconnectedness of those thoughts and feelings to your spirits feelings & thoughts that only consist of the goodness and truth of love. The spiritual self resides directly within the realm of feelings. In order to know something spiritually, you must experience it, there is no other way—you cannot simply think your way to a new awareness or transformation. You must experience it, and the only vehicle you have for directly experiencing a new and higher vision for yourself are your feelings.

One cannot grasp the truth of this from the light of the physical world, because this light does not reveal to us the laws of the divine design. Nothing comes into being from itself, but rather from something prior, so everything comes from one primary entity. Everything constantly continues to exist in the same way that it came into being, because continued existence is a perpetual coming into being. Inflow happens according to the divine design. This makes it possible for us to see that everything is continuing to exist from the primary and underlying reality, because it came into being from that underlying reality. Every bit of life flows in from that primary underlying reality because that is its source.

Intuition, the conscience and love reside in our soul. Intuition is perception beyond the physical senses that is meant to assist you. It is that sensory system which operates without data from the five senses. When you leave your body, you will leave behind the intuitional system that was developed for you, as you will leave behind your personality, because it will no longer be necessary. Intuition serves many purposes. Intuition serves survival. It prompts you to pursue that which has no apparent reason in order to survive. Hunches about danger, for example, about what is risky and what is not, about which street is safe to walk and which is not, or about checking the car under the hood, help you to remain in the physical world. Intuition serves creativity. It tells you what book to buy for your project. It tells you where to meet the colleague that you need to meet, and which ideas from one field will complement which ideas from another. Intuition serves inspiration. It is the sudden answer to a question. It is the meaning that takes form in the fog of confusion. It is the Light that comes to the darkness. It is the presence of the Divine. Intuition can be thought of as a type of wiring that can be used by various sources. One of these sources is the soul. Intuition is a walkie-talkie, so to speak, between the personality and the soul. This happens through the higher self. In the creation of a personality, the soul calibrates parts of itself, reduces parts of itself, to take on the human experience.

Our soul is always good, always true, always loving. It's the real truth of our being. Our spoul is deeper than the personality psyche; it is the core or essence of our being. The soul is only potential, until one can figure out how to tap into this inner resource.

The spirit usually has at least some subtle influence on the personality and psyche, but it is quite possible for a person to go through life without ever really being conscious of the inner soul.

The majority of the time the self-will, selfish “I” in us, the little ego, think and act with many other earthly desires other than Love.

Consciousness is awareness and awareness is paying attention.

Your conscious mind is the awareness you have only in the current moment. It's aware of our body, environment and time. This is your awareness of your current surroundings, your current thoughts and emotions, the physical sensations in your body, whether or not you’re hungry, etc...

Your mind changing shape is not the problem – changing direction is the problem. Fix the direction for your life all by yourself. Fix your direction, whatever this direction may be. After that, it should not change every day. The most fantastic aspect of the human mind is it can change shape any moment, in any way. That only becomes a problem if you mistake shape for direction.

That is what is happening in people’s lives. If you fix your direction, you can let your mind change its shape any number of times without any problem. Once the direction is fixed, changing the shape of the mind will lead to creativity.

Your higher self is a piece of an all-loving, all-embracing creative Source. Your higher self is just what it says: higher than your false self, higher than your material physical self. It is the part of you that is aligned with your very Source of being. The ego is all about protection, self-serving, ownership, winning, judging, and so on.

The higher self is about serving, loving, and being in a nonjudgmental state of peace. Spiritual living, feeling, being, and inner experience is an altogether different matter, and can be experienced only after the inner world of feeling has been explored and understood. The inner world is the only reality that counts. It determines your material life just as much as your spiritual life, as you will find out more and more on this path. You can see clearly, as a consequence of this work, that your inner problems are responsible for your outer ones. In your analysis you will realize that you must apply spiritual values, which to now you have applied more to actions and thoughts than to feelings, to your inner life. In order to spotlight the feelings without courting the dangers of self-judgment, more substantial growth has to take place.

True development is indicated when your inner life corresponds to what you all know to be right, good, true, and loving. However, since feelings cannot be controlled by an effort of will, you cannot simply influence and control them as you do actions and thoughts.

Only if and when you completely understand your unconscious reactions and therefore control them, can you safely take a spiritual approach to your emotions. This path you are taking is bound to bring to the fore all distorted motives, no matter how deeply hidden and unconscious. Thereby, your soul will become healthy and free. This, in turn, will enable you to experience the truth you need to have and to know, rather than accepting it with your intellect only.

Experience and concepts are activities in consciousness: (SIFT) sensation, images, feeling, thought. Thought is interpretation of the experience which then forms a perception/mind or memory. Consciousness eternally modifies itself as experience in the form of matter/energy. Mind, body, universe. This is who we are...infinite possibilities.

Human beings who function harmoniously have developed the physical, mental, and emotional sides of their nature. This part is more on understanding the emotional side. It includes, first of all, the capacity to feel. The capacity to experience feeling is synonymous with the capacity to give and receive happiness.

One must identify with a deeper, broader, and more effective aspect of the self in order to even believe in the possibility of such a change.........

"Thinking with your heart" the heart center—the center of oneness, wholeness, creativity, and where the soul and heart intersects with the unified field—and bring to the center elevated emotions such as gratitude, joy, inspiration, love, etc...think of a past experience of one of these and focus on this emotion. The heart is the biggest electromagnetic organ in our physical mind/body.

By re-seting our attention and creating an elevated emotion within our heart, we begin to change the energy field surrounding our bodies.

The normal process for spiritual evolution is two steps forward, one step back. The creation is set up to test our awareness cyclically. Once we have pursued and learned a lesson of love once, whether it be patience, faith, the right use of will or whatever other lesson is ours. We Players can count upon being tested repeatedly. There is no promise of any sort of once-gained- permanent-forever enlightenment. We will be working with our catalyst, improving our polarity and our balance, right up to our last breath. It will never be effortless to remain in our open hearts. But it will be increasingly easy to do so.

Self-Strength

The universe is full of love. Truth is love and love is truth. The freedom of your own spirit will be found in truth and love.

True love and true faith come out of strength, self-reliance, and self-responsibility. All these are attributes of emotional maturity.

And only with strength, self-reliance, and self-responsibility are true love, involvement, and faith possible.

Perception & Changing Beliefs

The perception of goodness is not knowledge, but the denial of the opposite of goodness enables you to recognize a condition in which opposites do not exist. And this is the condition of knowledge. Without this awareness you have not met its conditions, and until you do you will not know it is yours already. You have made many ideas that you have placed between yourself and your Creator, and these beliefs are the world as you perceive it. Truth is not absent here, but it is obscure. You do not know the difference between what you have made and what God created, and so you do not know the difference between what you have made and what you have created. To believe that you can perceive the real world is to believe that you can know yourself. You can know God because it is His Will to be known. The real world is all that the Holy Spirit has saved for you out of what you have made, and to perceive only this is salvation, because it is the recognition that reality is only what is true.

When you perceive the real world, you will recognize that you did not believe it. The Bible tells you to become as little children. Little children recognize that they do not understand what they perceive, and so they ask what it means. Do not make the mistake of believing that you understand what you perceive, for its meaning is lost to you. Yet the Holy Spirit has saved its meaning for you, and if you will let Him interpret it, He will restore to you what you have thrown away. Yet while you think you know its meaning, you will see no need to ask it of Him.

Remember what was said about the frightening perceptions of little children, which terrify them because they do not understand them. If they ask for enlightenment and accept it, their fears vanish. But if they hide their nightmares they will keep them. It is easy to help an uncertain child, for he recognizes that he does not understand what his perceptions mean. Yet you believe that you do understand yours. Little child, you are hiding your head under the cover of the heavy blankets you have laid upon yourself. You are hiding your nightmares in the darkness of your own false certainty, and refusing to open your eyes and look at them.

You do not know the meaning of anything you perceive. Not one thought you hold is wholly true. The recognition of this is your firm beginning. You are not misguided; you have accepted no guide at all. Instruction in perception is your great need, for you understand nothing. Recognize this but do not accept it, for understanding is your inheritance. Perceptions are learned, and you are not without a Teacher. Yet your willingness to learn of Him depends on your willingness to question everything you learned of yourself, for you who learned amiss should not be your own teacher. No one can withhold truth.

The Holy Spirit uses your perception and rational mind to show you the truth. But you must be open and willingly to learn. The Holy Spirit will answer every specific problem as long as you believe that problems are specific. His answer is both many and one, as long as you believe that the one is many.

Everything you perceive as the outside world is merely your attempt to maintain your ego identification, for everyone believes that identification, their personality is who they are.

Yet consider what has happened, for thoughts do have consequences to the thinker. You have become at odds with the world as you perceive it, because you think it is antagonistic to you. This is a necessary consequence of what you have done. You have projected outward what is antagonistic to what is inward, and therefore you would have to perceive it this way. That is why you must realize that your hatred is in your mind and not outside it before you can get rid of it; and why you must get rid of it before you can perceive the world as it really is.

You have been told not to make error real, and the way to do this is very simple. If you want to believe in error, you would have to make it real because it is not true. But truth is real in its own right, and to believe in truth you do not have to do anything. Understand that you do not respond to anything directly, but to your interpretation of it. Your interpretation thus becomes the justification for the response. That is why analyzing the motives of others is hazardous to you. If you decide that someone is really trying to attack you or desert you or enslave you, you will respond as if he had actually done so, having made his error real to you. To interpret error is to give it power, and having done this you will overlook truth.

There is but one interpretation of motivation that makes any sense. And because it is the Holy Spirit’s judgment it requires no effort at all on your part. Every loving thought is true. Everything else is an appeal for healing and help, regardless of the form it takes. Can anyone be justified in responding with anger to a brother’s plea for help? No response can be appropriate except the willingness to give it to him, for this and only this is what he is asking for. Offer him anything else, and you are assuming the right to attack his reality by interpreting it as you see fit. Perhaps the danger of this to your own mind is not yet fully apparent. If you believe that an appeal for help is something else you will react to something else. Your response will therefore be inappropriate to reality as it is, but not to your perception of it.

It is surely good advice to tell you not to judge what you do not understand. No one with a personal investment is a reliable witness, for truth to him has become what he wants it to be. If you are unwilling to perceive an appeal for help as what it is, it is because you are unwilling to give help and to receive it.

There is nothing to prevent you from recognizing all calls for help as exactly what they are except your own imagined need to attack. It is only this that makes you willing to engage in endless “battles” with reality, in which you deny the reality of the need for healing by making it unreal. You would not do this except for your unwillingness to accept reality as it is, and which you therefore withhold from yourself.

If you would look upon love, which is the world’s reality, how could you do better than to recognize, in every defense against it, the underlying appeal for it? And how could you better learn of its reality than by answering the appeal for it by giving it? The Holy Spirit’s interpretation of fear does dispel it, for the awareness of truth cannot be denied. Thus does the Holy Spirit replace fear with love and translate error into truth. And thus will you learn of Him how to replace your dream of separation with the fact of unity. For the separation is only the denial of union, and correctly interpreted, attests to your eternal knowledge that union is true.

Overcoming Perceptual Biases

The 4 Agreements is the best method used with the heart-mind exercises

As human beings we suffer from a number of unconscious biases that can greatly distort our perception of ourselves, others, society, and the world. Generally speaking, we suffer from three primary categories of bias:

1. instinctive negativity bias

2. emotional bias

3. value bias

To improve the quality of our lives, we are wise to become aware of these biases and how they affect our perception and reactions.

Instinctive Negativity Bias:

The human being has an unconscious bias toward negative awareness, which is to say we are much more motivated to avoid a loss than we are motivated to gain something. Simply put, people are more motivated to express negativity than to express positivity.

Emotional Bias:

Alongside the tendency to prioritize negativity over positivity, people also engage in emotional bias, which complicates matters even more. If, for example, we are in a very positive emotional state, such as when someone tells us something we really want to hear, we tend to notice only the positive things around us and overlook the negativity. But if we are in a very negative emotional state, we hyperfocus on whatever is perceived as negative around us, no matter how trivial, and tend to miss anything that could be perceived as positive.

Recall a time when you were conversing with someone who said something that threw you off balance. You might recall not having been able to recover quickly enough to respond graciously to the person. When we are in the emotional refractory period, there is a phase when we are gripped by emotion, which causes our emotional filters to focus on whatever fits with our current emotion. People who are in love, for example, are typically unable to see the shortcomings or failings of their lovers. Another example is when you are inspired to buy a new car ― how your mind is likely to justify to you all the great things about that car while glossing over its negatives.

Value bias:

Each individual has a hierarchical set of values that determines, to a large extent, how they see and judge the reality around them. Most people assume that they have chosen their value hierarchy, but in reality the value hierarchy is largely unconscious. It stems from the momentum of the past expressing through us via genetics, personality, childhood influences, culture and ideologies we embraced without question, trauma, and other stuck emotional energies. All of these forces converge to construct the hierarchy of unconscious values that governs our lives.

Becoming aware of your highest unconscious value is vital to improving your quality of life. Whatever yours may be, it is the most dominant, motivating inner force. The key to discovering the highest of your values is to note which one, when pressured by other values, wins out. For example, if we are willing to lie for money, then we know that wealth or societal status takes higher priority in your unconscious value pyramid than does being honest. Many people say that honesty is their highest value, but in truth, there are very few individuals for whom honesty is actually their highest value. Most people will be dishonest to be kind, for example, which shows that kindness has more power within the individual than honesty.

The value you place on things is the value that it is given and that it holds. Once you change how you value things, your experience of your surroundings and those objects that you hold begins to change as well. Now we are talking right now about value of things.

But please understand that the idea of value extends far beyond things and finally becomes the system with which you navigate worth and the idea of worth. And understand that as you work with this idea, you extend it out even farther to commerce and to industry. So everything goes back, finally, to value. What kind of price do you accord something? How is it valued? Value is subjective and ninety percent of the time you are being told what you are supposed to value.

Perceptual Biases:

Notice how you may have a tendency to negatively speculate about the motives of other people who appear to have done you wrong. These negative speculations about others can happen in a flash. For instance, you might be driving along the road and have someone cut you off or drive past a stop sign out of turn. In that instant, your mind might be saying something bad about that person or their motivations. When that happens, pause and note that you have not always been a perfect driver. Recall that others have probably falsely accused you of motivations that did not reflect your reality. Maybe you accidentally went through a four way stop out of turn, absent any intention to cheat. Remind yourself that you have no way of knowing what the other person’s situation is unless they have explicitly told you about their situation and motivation.

The mind is fertile ground for concepts, ideas, and opinions. If someone tells us a lie and we believe it, that lie takes root in our mind and can grow big and strong, like a tree. One little lie can be very contagious, spreading its seeds from person to person when we share it with others.

• Knowledge goes into our mind and reproduces a structure inside our head, which is everything that we know. With all that knowledge in our head, we only perceive what we believe; we only perceive our own knowledge. And what is it that we know? Mostly lies.

• Once the Tree of Knowledge is alive in our mind, we hear the fallen angel talking very loudly. That voice never stops judging. It tells us what is right and what is wrong, what is beautiful and what is ugly. The storyteller is born inside our head, and survives inside our head because we feed it with our faith.

• Heaven exists when our spiritual eyes are open, when we perceive the world through the eyes of truth. Once lies hook our attention, our spiritual eyes are closed. We fall from the dream of heaven and begin to live the dream of hell.

• Heaven belongs to us because we are the children of heaven. The voice in our head doesn’t belong to us. When we are born, we don’t have that voice. Thinking comes after we learn — first the language, then different points of view, then all the judgments and lies. The voice of knowledge comes as we accumulate knowledge.

• Before we eat the lies that come with knowledge, we live in truth. We speak only truth. We live in love without any fear. Once we have knowledge, we judge ourselves as no longer good enough; we feel guilt, shame, and the need to be punished. We begin to dream lies, and we separate from God.

• In the moment when we separate from God, we begin to search for God, for the love we believe we don’t have. Humans are continually searching for justice, for beauty, for truth — for the way we used to be before we believed in lies. We are searching for our authentic self.

Most people around the world believe that there is a great conflict in the universe, a conflict between good and evil. Well, this is not true. It’s true that there is a conflict, but the conflict only exists in the human mind, not in the universe. It’s not true for the plants or the animals. It’s not true for the stars or the trees, or for the rest of nature. It’s only true for humans. And the conflict in the human mind is not really between good and evil.

The real conflict in our mind is between the truth and what is not the truth, between the truth and lies. Good and evil are just the result of that conflict. The result of believing in the truth is goodness, love, happiness. When you live your life in truth, you feel good, and your life is wonderful. The result of believing in lies and defending those lies creates what you call evil; it creates fanaticism. Believing in lies creates all of the injustice, all of the violence and abuse, all of the suffering, not only in society but also in the individual. The universe is as simple as it is or it is not, but humans complicate everything.”

All of the drama you suffer in your personal life is the result of believing in lies, mainly about yourself. And the first lie you believe is you are not: You are not the way you should be, you are not good enough, you are not perfect. We are born perfect, we grow up perfect, and we will die perfect, because only perfection exists. But the big lie is that you are not perfect, that nobody is perfect. So you start to search for an image of perfection that you can never become. You will never reach perfection in that way because that image is false. It’s a lie, but you invest your faith in that lie, and then you build a whole structure of lies to support it.”

“The truth needs to be experienced. Humans have the need to describe, to explain, to express what we perceive, but when we experience the truth, there are no words to describe it.

Whoever claims, ‘This is the truth,’ is lying without even knowing it. We can perceive truth with our feelings, but as soon as we try to describe it with words, we distort it, and it’s no longer the truth.

It’s our story! It’s a projection based on reality that is only true for us, but still we try to put our experience into words, and this is something wonderful, really. It’s the greatest art of every human.”

If you are an artist, a painter, you try to express what you perceive through your art. What you paint may not be exactly what you perceive, but it is close enough to remind you of what you perceive. Well, imagine that you are very lucky and you are Pablo Picasso’s friend. And because Picasso loves you, he decides to make a portrait of you. You pose for Picasso, and after many days, he finally shows you your portrait. You will say, ‘This is not me,’ and Picasso will say, ‘Of course it is you. This is how I see you.’ For Picasso, this is true; he is expressing what he is perceiving. But you will say, ‘I don’t look like that.’ “Well, every human is the same as Picasso.

Every human is a storyteller, which means that every human is an artist. What Picasso does with colors, we do with words. Humans witness life happening inside us and all around us, and we use words to make a portrait of what we witness.

Humans make up stories about everything we perceive, and just like Picasso we distort the truth; but for us, it is the truth. Of course, the way we express our distortion could be something other people enjoy. Picasso’s art is highly valued by many people. “All humans create their story with their own unique point of view.

Why try to impose your story on other people when for them your story is not true?

When you understand that, you no longer have the need to defend what you believe. It’s not important to be right or to make others wrong. Instead, you see everybody as an artist, a storyteller.

You know that whatever they believe is just their point of view. It has nothing to do with you.”

There is a conflict in the human mind between the truth and what is not the truth, between the truth and lies. The result of believing in the truth is goodness, love, happiness.

The result of believing and defending lies is injustice and suffering — not only in society, but also in the individual.

• All of the drama humans suffer is the result of believing in lies, mainly about ourselves. The first lie we believe is I am not: I am not the way I should be, I am not perfect. The truth is that every human is born perfect because only perfection exists.

• We humans have no idea what we really are, but we know what we are not. We create an image of perfection, a story about what we should be, and we begin to search for a false image. The image is a lie, but we invest our faith in that lie. Then we build a whole structure of lies to support it.

• Faith is a powerful force in humans. If we invest our faith in a lie, that lie becomes truth for us. If we believe we are not good enough, then thy will be done, we are not good enough. If we believe we will fail, we will fail, because that is the power and magic of our faith.

• Humans can perceive truth with our feelings, but when we try to describe the truth, we can only tell a story that we distort with our word. The story may be true for us, but that doesn’t mean it is true for anyone else.

• All humans are storytellers with their own unique point of view. When we understand this, we no longer feel the need to impose our story on others or to defend what we believe. Instead, we see all of us as artists with the right to create our own art.

We co-create with God, with life. God creates what is real, and I create the virtual reality inside my mind. Through light, life sends all of that information into my eyes, and I make a story about what I perceive. The story is how I qualify, justify, and explain what I perceive. If I see a tree, I don’t just see the tree; I qualify the tree, I describe the tree, I have an opinion about the tree. I like the tree or I don’t like the tree. I may feel that the tree is beautiful or not, but my point of view, my opinion about the tree, is a story of my own creation. Once we interpret, qualify, or judge what we perceive, it is no longer real; it is a virtual world. This is what the Toltec call dreaming.

The dream is a world of illusion made by images of light, and the mind dreams when the brain is both asleep and awake.

“Every head is a world,” and it’s true. You live in your own world, and that world is so private. Nobody knows what you have in your world. Only you know, and sometimes even you don’t know. Your world is your creation, and it’s a masterpiece of art.

There is only one way to change our story, and that is by changing what we believe about ourselves.

You are the only one who can change your story, and you do this by changing your relationship with yourself. You are dreaming the story of your life, and I can assure you that it’s an art. Your art is the art of creating stories and sharing stories. If I met you today, I would see the real you behind your story. I would see you as the force of life creating art through you.

Your story could be the best screenplay for any movie because all of us are professional storytellers. But I know that whatever you tell me is just a story. I don’t have to believe your story, but I can listen to your story and enjoy it. I can go to the movies to see The Godfather, and I don’t believe it, but I can enjoy it, right?

The denial of the Divine, the only true problem humanity has ever faced, has been its own creation. But it has been so real, and continues to be so real for many of us, that we reinforce it by our agreement to it.

Masks

The idea of narrative and the recycling of history is, in fact, an attribute of the small self that can only know itself through history. In other words, the small self or the mask only understands what it has been taught prior. When you begin to release the mask you have worn, which is the idea of self, and just the idea, the evidence that the small self has accrued to maintain identity is actually relinquished in offering. The release of the mask, which you will undergo, is a challenging process because the mask has been hiding much. You don’t want your neighbors to know how you feel. You don’t want your husband to know what you did. You don’t want that memory to become public knowledge. The aspect of self that seeks to maintain the mask actually claims itself in shadow, because the shadowed nature of uncertainty continues itself in agreement to a denial of the light.

Now, when the light comes and all things are made new, this must be inclusive of any aspect of self that you have denied, chosen to agree to in fear, to sublimate or repress or deny. When the mask is released, what the mask has held will move towards liberation. And when these things happen you are often confronted with the realization that who you thought you were, what you thought you were, in any regard, was an illusion. The idea of self, finally, is illusion. It is a useful mandate for transaction. “My illusion meets your illusion. We have an illusory conversation about what we believe to be important.” But you also understand that you are not the mask, and that the True Self as you, finally, is who and what is expressing in any situation.

New beliefs

Everything taught thus far has been in agreement to one truth. You are not separate from God, but believe yourselves to be.

And the process of alignment, in sequence, through energetic attunement, has been brought to you in a design that you may attend to, each step of the way, through your own agreement to what exists, and who, in fact, you are in agreement to that in a higher accord.

Dominion at the level we teach surpasses what you were taught otherwise. “I should get what I want.” Instead, you become the recipient of the Kingdom. You move to grace, because you are in supply in agreement to the Source of all things. And because you now operate in knowing, and knowing means realization, the claim is made for you through your alignment to your own inherent nature.

When you are truly being, you are expressing in infinite time, in the mode of infinity, in the awareness of the clock to understand where you are in relation to others, but well beyond it. In other words, friends, the Infinite Self is known beyond time, and your agreement to form, in manifestation, supports you in being able to attend to this while embodied.

The changes you undertake are, in many ways, the realization that what you thought was real, or perhaps righteous, or perhaps necessary, was not at all.

The idea of God as all things does not supplant the idea that there may not be a God that can be known in a deeply personal way. In fact the God of all that is, is also the call of the owl, or the spirit that comes in an invocation of love. You are not dismantling your old ideas, except simply releasing the meaning things have been given so you may move to a reception of what exists beyond the old, the codified, or the historic.

Imagine a light that begins to burn in the center of your heart. The illumination from that flame begins to spread through the fiber of your being to consume all aspects of self that would negate it. The light is love, but the light is also fire, transforming what it touches in a blaze of beauty. As you become this great light, as you align as this great light you are taught through, you become the vehicle of the Divine. Your realization of another is the light itself being perceived in the one who has perhaps denied it.

The consequence of denying God, the fundamental denial of the Divine, “God cannot be,” is the cause of the chasm. And that chasm was created through different things, the fear you have known, the lack of love, the lack of worth, that you attend to.

But in some ways the chasm is the direct result of idolatry. Now, we will explain idolatry to you.

This is not a religious teaching. It’s a very simple thing. What is placed before God denies God. It’s truly that simple. And what you have made your gods, be it religion, be it the economic structures you’ve known, be it the desires you hold that contribute to your denial of the Divine, whatever these things may be, they circumvent the music, or they align you to the idea of separation. Now, you know a teaching, “Thou will have no other gods before me” or “I am a jealous God.” God cannot be jealous, nor could it be angry. These are illustrations of what becomes of one who creates a false god, puts it on a small altar, and demands his or her way be done.

You are as of God because you cannot be separate from God. You can believe yourselves to be, but to know yourself as of God must imply that everyone and everything is operating in the same fashion.

The egoic structure—“Give me what I want when I want it”—is the action of fear seeking to usurp a high teaching. The fallen religions, those that have passed from these planes, held truth, yes, but also claimed hierarchy. And any church that holds a hierarchy, that one’s salvation become dependent on one teacher or on one master, is scaled in a lower frequency. All great teachings are in truth. And what is true is always true, eternally true. You would seek to limit this teaching by claiming it as a religion, or a discipleship to a master that is telling you what to do. I do not tell you what to do.

Any religion that damns another is not operating in truth. Any religion that condones the harm of another is not acting in truth. But all a religion is, is a structure to hold beliefs that may have been spoken in truth, but the walls built around them, with their murals and parapets, may have been corrupted by the fear of humanity that would seek to encase God in a temple, a church, or a mosque. Most western religions teach we are made in His likeness. We have still been taught we are still separate from God, from each other, from all things, etc…

God is in all places, and any place you know of as holy is your temple, your church.

Agree and believe or not. It matters not to me…. All are here to learn in very different ways.

There is no human being higher than the next. You have come to learn. And the highest common denominator that you will ever experience is the love of your brother with no mandate for outcome or receipt or return. To love another is to know them of Source. When one is truly loved, one is healed. But because you don’t believe you are lovable—your sinful natures perhaps, your challenging upbringing, how you were treated by this one or that one—the negation of the Divine and your ability to receive it has claimed you in a world where you’ve challenged yourself even to remember your innate divinity.

The small self, you see, who predicates his experience upon fact, what he believes to be so, will seek to find himself in any information that confirms his idea of self. Now, idea of self is the key to this, your idea of who you are, based upon what you’ve experienced and what you have been taught to agree to. Our acknowledgment of fear, that it is present, we have learned through it, been taught hard lessons by it, is also useful.

You are moving beyond things with an awareness of what you have endured and what you have learned through.

The opportunity to transcend what you have agreed to prior comes at the cost of the old, and as you align to the higher octave there is a release that ensues—discomforting, yes, but a requirement of the new.

LOVE

You perceive love to be an emotional expression, a desire met, how you feel.

When you comprehend what love is, which is the expression of God as all things, you move to the light with much ease. And the path of love for most of you will be the highest service that you can provide, and that simply means being as love, being the expression of the Divine that expresses as you in love. “I am in love, in the vibration of love, and in the expression of love.”

Now, to trust this teaching in any way, shape, or form is to be accountable to the teaching and perceive yourself as operating in frequency. If you don’t perceive yourself as operating in frequency, this will be a figment, an impossibility. But if you understand that there is all vibration in all things, and you are an expression in vibration or tone, you can begin to understand that as the tone is lifted to the higher, reconciliation occurs—the Divine as you beyond separation, in union with all things—and then you may meet all things in this awareness.

This is an act of love, and the entirety of this teaching is an act of love, if you understand the consequence of this material. This is a teaching of being. It is not a teaching of getting your way, putting more cash in your pocket, getting the man of your dreams to do what you want.

This is the teaching of alignment and reception to the Source of all things, so you serve as its conduit. Now, as its conduit, you are always agreeing, just as the faucet agrees to the water that passes through it. You are not challenged by it.

Energy Alignment

Now, if you imagine that there is music playing somewhere, but the ears cannot hear it, there may as well be silence. But we are here to teach you that the music is playing, it is playing fully, and what has prohibited you from dancing to this music is the mistaken idea that it cannot be so. Now, once you lift in vibration to a level of agreement where you can even concede that there must be something more than the form you have taken or the pain you have known, once you can agree to the possibility of God, all things may be made new, in the increments that you can hold, at the level of adjustment or attunement that you can hold, to align to the music that is ever present.

Everything exists in multiple octaves. The tone of anything in its most reduced form, that which appears concretized in your vibrational reality, still exists in the etheric world, or it is ether or spirit, manifest in form.

True love is God. It is knowing. It is compassion. It is the act of creation itself. It is not an emotion, although you confuse it as such, it is so much more. Love is the action of God as love, but love is also present in wisdom and in truth. There are many faces of the Divine, and many ways it can be accessed. To know God as love.

When you ask questions in love, when you make a claim in love, when you choose in love, you claim love. It is always the answer. To know the self in love is indeed to know the self in alignment with the truth of your being. When you have a vendetta, when you seek an action against another, you are always in a low vibrational field, and the claims of justice made in such a way perpetuate a low alignment. This is true in a culture, a civilization, and, yes, at the cost of the Divine that would now be seen.

When you perceive injustice, or you perceive someone acting in fear, you must begin to see it as opportunity to know truth in the face of the lie that is being perpetuated by the one acting in fear. The one acting in fear has lost her mind, has lost his sense of self, or alignment to love and truth, and to reconcile them is to be as love in deep forgiveness for what an imagined wrong might be. Now, we said imagined wrong intentionally. The imagination will conjure anything, and even your idea of justice is born in a misconception of right and wrong. Indeed, ownership itself, as you prescribe meaning to it, is an illusion. The bodies you have, while yours to care for, are not your bodies. They are of God. The air is of God, and the property you think you own is of God. When this is fully understood, the walls will come tumbling.

Hatred can never be of God, because God cannot hate. And the love that is God can reclaim even hatred by one who has embodied as love. To embody as love is to be love in transmission, and the acclimation to love that some of you will now undergo is an acclimation to a province that few have truly known. To become as love is to reside in the vibration of truth.

What has actually happened is that this new level of agreement you hold, which means vibrational accord, has been moved to a new level of frequency, alignment, and expression. This new attitude or belief. You are now aware that the vibrational field you have taken, is claiming itself in this new agreement. You understand and realize the rock, the grass, you, your neighbors, the tree is one with or is also a part of God.

Your own perception, becomes, in a way, an assessment of your own vibrational tone….

Lies

A lie can only hold when there are ears to receive it and senses to agree to it, or a moral code born in agreement to fear that would support it. When you understand that a lie can only be told in fear, even a lie perpetuated upon a people, you will begin to understand that the Divine Self holds a capacity that the small self never could. The small self will condone a lie, perpetuate a lie, if it is more convenient to know the lie than to accept the truth. The Divine Self cannot align to a lie. It is impossible. So as the Divine Self in a risen state, you are actually immune to a lie. It cannot hold you because there is nothing for it to be held by. The action of fear, to claim more fear, can only be perpetrated upon one who holds the vibration of fear in herself.

There is no fear in love.

You Just Know

The Choice

The belief, the choice to embody as the True Self, the Divine as who and what you are, must be comprehended by you as a choice in love. There is no fear in this choice, because there is no fear in God. The trials you have faced historically for devoting the self to Source, were the cause of much of the fear you hold now. But the prior ways of expressing, the old doctrines, are no longer holding you, and you are in fact free to lift beyond the idea of church, or religion, or doctrine that would tell you you are not allowed. To lift beyond the old, to truly be free, which you come to through the alignment of will in love. Now, to understand will is to comprehend choice and the manifestation of choice.

What is chosen in love will not defile you, cannot even harm you. The trajectory of love is love itself, and the path of love, the path of the True Self, holds for itself great promise. To deny the Divine in the self, or in anyone, is to move out of love and to claim the self in shadow. Once this occurs, you find yourself bound to your prior creations. The very things you have damned or denied the Divine in are the anchors to the lower realm. To release these anchors is to comprehend the freedom that comes in forgiveness.

Now, many of you think forgiveness is an act of weakness. “She must know what she did to me; she cannot be forgiven.” “He must pay for what he did; penance will be paid.” The old doctrines, an eye for an eye, are in an equation to an idea of karma that is born in retribution. To comprehend that like attracts like—what ye measure so shall ye mete—the alignment to the Divine calls to it its own benefit. The rising beyond the law of karma, as you have often misunderstood it, is the gift of this new attitude. This does not mean that you are not accountable to your acts. Far from it. But it does mean that your acts are now chosen in love, or quite simply the awareness of the omnipresent Divine—omnipresent, always and ever present.

The legacy of pain, historical data that informs your expectations, what you expect to experience, can indeed be cleared, as well as the memory of oppression. You are not erasing the blackboard, saying it never was. These have been your lessons and it is important not to forget them. But it is important to understand that holding a memory in Source translates not only the memory, but the act that the memory was born through.

Again: To know the Divine where the memory was held not only translates the memory, but re-creates the relationship to the impetus or event that caused the memory. In other words, you are translating the environment that has claimed you in expectations. Now, reclamation, an imperative understanding—that which has been put outside of God must now be re-known in God—must be the alignment to the present moment where God can be known.

Any memory occurs in the present moment. And all time may be known through this present moment because the Eternal Self actually exists beyond the template of time. Beyond the template of time means it is not bound to historical data. It exists beyond it, and consequently can reclaim anything in higher order—the Divine as all things, inclusive of memory, inclusive of pain, resurrected and, indeed, re-known.

The True Self as you in a newly articulated state becomes the presence of this as it can and will be held in form. Now, the denial of the Divine in the body itself is particularly destructive to humanity. A cat knows she’s holy. She doesn’t know what God is as you would know God, but she knows she is of the whole, and her body in many ways is her ideal expression. She is not trying to fix herself. If she has a wound, she will tend to it. If she is hungry, she will eat. She will defecate as needed, but live the life in the body in an awareness that it is who she is at this level of expression.

The realization of who one is, beyond a narrative that you have superimposed on the lives you have lived, releases you in all ways from an idea of self that is claimed in shadow. Re-articulation or manifestation in this higher octave reclaims identity beyond falsity, beyond the ideas of scarcity or lack, because you have gone into an agreement with the True Self, who knows far more than you were taught as a small child.

It becomes the state of being where you know, and in your knowing you act, and in this act the expression of God is known through you. Underline the word through. The self as conduit, the self as expression, the self as aligned to true purpose in love.

What stands before you is eternity. What stands before you is always ever one thing, the presence of the Divine in any form it has taken. And any experience you have in a lifetime must be understood as opportunity to know the Divine. Now, when we use the term know the Divine, we mean realize, claim, the inherent Source of all things. We do this without the religious terminology that some of you dislike, but in fact we find useful because we reclaim language as it was initially intended, and not as it has been misused by religion. To comprehend that all things are of one Source is a universal claim. It is true in every reality you could ever interact with.

The elasticity of our reality is far more than we know, and there is nothing solid in form that appears solid, and even the sky is more than sky. The sky is God, the earth is God, the air you breathe the substance of God in one form exhaled in another, the Divine as all things.

We seek to categorize our world—what is good, what is evil, what should be there, what should not. But once you Know: all things are of God—you will know the self in separation. Now, it is not a great leap as you might presuppose.

The idea of Source and substance in a unified state can be understood by you intellectually, the intellect knows but it does not understand Knowing. Logic will fail here. Faith, Hope and Love will not. This the your new foundation. Wisdom combined with Love. It is the experience that will qualify you, in your own Knowing, to Know the self as of God. And Knowing means realization. When you go to the God within, you will find the answers there.

Comprehension of a reality. Understand that phrase—to comprehend something, to give it meaning in understanding, a relational way of being in engagement. To comprehend a reality also implies that there are other realities that may be comprehended, and this is where we take you now.

Now, choice is essential. You can not disregarding past experience. We are actually utilizing it. You are not forgetting who you were. You are re-knowing who you are. And the information from history that is necessary for you will always be available, but far less available will be your attachment to it—what should be, what must be, in order to conserve an identity or a template of reality that you are now becoming. One foot in this materialistic world and one in the realm of love. Your identity is the same but yet different.

You know you are eternal energy. We are all a part of God. Everyone and everything he has created…. We are all one.

True service is the expression of the Divine in whatever form it takes. Now, to do the duty of the Divine, if you wish to use that phrase, is simply to accept it, because at this level of vibration you have moved into your knowing, and when you are in your knowing you know what to do. You know the answer before the question is asked. The gift of knowing is the primary gift, and the awareness of the Divine Will that is available to you because you have aligned to it takes questioning, in some ways, out of the equation.

This light was always present, but was precluded by the ego fog. In this way, you begin to understand that you are not the light, but the vehicle for the light’s expression. And the denial of the Divine cannot be held by the light. Visibility means that your encounter with darkness, or what has been held in shadow, will release darkness. The tone you sing at, the vibrational echo of your resonant field, can and will be anywhere that you are taken. This is not just the walk to the post office, where what you encounter is re-seen. Where your attention is, you are, at the level of vibration. And the agreement to be where you are called, to lift what you see or is there for you to claim, by nature of presence.

You are summoned to that level of vibration. You think of a trip. You imagine yourself where you go. But at this level of tone, the vibrational field you now hold, which is consciousness, is going where it is required, and its echo is translating expression to the higher tone in now holds.

Understand, that the light does not decide upon what it shines. It simply is. And at this new level of tone, you have made yourself available for this action. To be in multiple ideas of reality simultaneously is not so far off from your current experience. You have an idea of who you are that informs each walk you take, calls each thing you see into agreement with the consciousness you have held. You have dreams where you are broken free of the limitations of the physical realm. And you understand that your alignment to Source claims now you in a higher octave. All of these are ways of operating in multiple realities, although these realities are filtered by you through the brain to a level you can comprehend. You understand that every day is this opportunity for a higher level of expression. Fear is vanquished, Love is the new normal.

Truth means what is always true. The idea of oneness, or pluralization, becomes a principle that you are adhering to. Now, a principle is not an idea, as taught here, but a fundamental truth. And the truth of plurality is that you are all of the same stuff, no matter how hard you deny it. Some of you believe that you do charity, acts of good, to serve the soul’s progression. And while this is true at a certain level, in any act of charity you are being reminded of the gift of being that is always extended to another through a realization of unity or oneness. To move into this level of consciousness—unity or oneness—requires a realization that the old ideas, useful as they have been in navigating this world that you have known, are not nearly as applicable in the other. Realization of the inherent Divine in yourself claims the inherent realization of all. Realization is knowing.

When one knows who she is, the requirements of being are translated. One is no longer seeking to prove herself. One is no longer acting out of fear, or seeking to justify her acts. One is knowing and allowing. And allowing the self to be, at this level, is to become the principle, or the Word in action.

Coming to this new level of Knowledge and your recalibration of the energetic field or higher vibration. Your sense of worth, and requirements for knowing self, have moved beyond any act of generosity or craft or skill. You simply become who and what you are. And how you are perceived by another does not need to fit a descriptor that would be attached to you for the comfort of the known. The desire to align to Divine Will is Divine Will in accord with your true nature. You have become who you truly are. You are no longer aspiring to it. You may be the only that knows you are changed, and….

This is FREEDOM.

Living the Truth.

“Why did this happen?” “How did I undergo that?” “What was the purpose of this event or that one?” Everything you undergo in a life—high, low, in-between—is party to the evolution of the soul. It does not mean you chose it. It simply means you aligned and agreed to it. When you are lifting from the old, the things that you will encounter are those creations that were known by you that had residual affect on the perceptions you now hold. In some ways, what you are doing is seeing to re-see, unknowing to know. Now, to un-know, in this example, is simply to decide that the assessment that you made at one time of what something meant can be replaced by a higher knowing. There are ways you understand yourselves through events in life—the death of the parent, the birth of the child, the markers that claim you in a new trajectory. But even these things, whatever they may be, are often misunderstood.

The trajectory of a life has a patterning to it, and the soul in all ways is the keeper of this pattern, which simply means that what you have come to learn will be presented to you because you are in alignment to it. And these events of a life, which are there to support learning, will contribute to the full evolution of the soul. “Full evolution of the soul—what does that mean?”. Well, each soul undergoes a process from the time of its inception. In many ways, the learning it undergoes while in form is to contribute to the whole, the vast awareness or collective consciousness that humanity has claimed. Imagine you are one light in a million lights. Your small light contributes to the whole. And your own experiences, which seem to be in isolation, are never in isolation, because every life currently lived on this manifest plane is contributing to the whole. You believe yourselves to be separate. You are not separate. You are in an illusion of separation.

Now, to become awake does not make you more awake than the one beside you. It simply means that you are no longer obstructed by the ideas of separation. The ideas may remain in some ways, but they are not obstructive. While you maintain a body and an experience of singularity, your presence on this plane will always hold an idea of separation. But now with this new attitude and Knowledge you can overcome this and realize you are not separate from God. You respond instead of reacting from your ego. You don't defend yourself or blame and attack other people.

Use the 10 Agreements. Listen to their opinions, their ego dream, realize it's theirs not yours. It has nothing to do with you. It is their movie and they are the star of their movie not you. Look at the real reason behind their words.

You understand you are the creator, producer, and star of your movie. Still look at your actions, did you do something wrong or very selfish? If so try better next time. If required or possible apologize and fix it. Don't take their words personally. Don't judge but use discernment. Don't Assume. If you acted according to your owner's manual and in love and goodness, that's what mattered.

Ego is the real Devil

Who do I want to be? And: What path will I take? (Quod vitae sectabor iter.) The ego we see most commonly goes by a more casual definition: an unhealthy belief in our own importance. Arrogance. Self-centered ambition. It’s that petulant child inside every person, the one that chooses getting his or her way over anything or anyone else. The need to be better than, more than, recognized for, far past any reasonable utility—that’s ego. It’s the sense of superiority and certainty that exceeds the bounds of confidence and talent. We think something else is to blame for our problems (most often, other people). PRIDE, POWER, GREED. Will you use these words or ones like humbleness, love, honor, forgiveness. Which are you practicing now? What’s fueling you? What is your purpose? What are you here to do? Because purpose helps you answer the question “To be or to do?“ quite easily. Purpose, you could say, is like passion with boundaries. Realism is detachment and perspective. I have observed that those who have accomplished the greatest results are those who “keep under the body”; are those who never grow excited or lose self-control, but are always calm, self-possessed, patient, and polite. RESTRAINT

The novelist Anne Lamott describes that ego story well. “If you are not careful,” she warns young writers, “station KFKD (K-Fucked) will play in your head twenty-four hours a day, nonstop, in stereo.” Learn to shut the noise out…

It is not “Who do I want to be in life?” but “What is it that I want to accomplish in life?” Setting aside selfish interest, it asks: What calling does it serve? What principles govern my choices? If what matters is you—your reputation, your inclusion, your personal ease of life—your path is clear. Do I need this? Or is it really about ego?

We must prepare for pride and kill it early—or it will kill what we aspire to. We must be on guard against that wild self-confidence and self-obsession. “The first product of self-knowledge is humility,” Flannery O’Connor once said. This is how we fight the ego, by really knowing ourselves. Don’t believe or tell yourself stories.

I never look back, except to find out about mistakes . . . I only see danger in thinking back about things you are proud of. ~ELISABETH NOELLE-NEUMANN

You learn through your experiences and you learn by your choices. What you choose creates experience, which becomes your instruction.

~ Ego is the ENEMY

This is a lesson in why most of us act and react the way we do. The understanding of this is paramount in learning how to increase communication skills and also in learning to control your reactions.

I hope this note clarifies the ego and the point that the ego is also a thought system.

TrueTruth

What is eternal is True. Truth is not subjective. What is True is always true and will always be true.

To understand & SEE that we are all dreaming our dreams.

That MY dream is largely controlled by our standard operating system of the ego self. The Ego system consists of only MY perception or partial interpretation that is based on MY biased beliefs & opinions.

Perception always changes, thus it’s not eternal or true.

The Ego is a system of trying to control everything and everyone in MY outside world.

A system that produces many of the negative emotions, and feelings. A system of judgment and one of I’m right & you’re wrong. A system in the self-protection of only MY EGO, not the real me. Always ready to attack and defend MY selfish actions.

A feeling of specialness and pridefulness. A system of conditional Love… NOT one of unconditional Love, one Perception, one Truth.

Various degrees of ego control…

Specialness is a lack of trust in anyone except yourself. Faith is invested in yourself alone. Everything else becomes your enemy; feared and attacked, deadly and dangerous, hated and worthy only of destruction. Whatever gentleness it offers is but deception, but its hate is real. In danger of destruction it must kill, and you are drawn to it to kill it first. And such is guilt’s attraction. Here is death enthroned as savior; crucifixion is now redemption, and salvation can only mean destruction of the world, except yourself.

When you know who you are, which is your teaching, “I know who I am in my truth,” you are unafraid and you are not harmed by the judgment of others, by their perceptions of you, and you are not controlled by the edicts of a culture that says you are not allowed to express yourself in this manner.

This is the educational part you need to understand & see.

Plus to SEE what is needed, a better system to control only MY inside world.

That is what all of this is about…….

“When you’re a seer, humans are extremely predictable. You can see that all humans in the dreams of the victims are possessed by the main character of their story. This is their point of view — their only point of view. The way they see life is very narrow, and it’s narrow because their beliefs act like a mirror that only shows them what they believe, and it’s obvious that it’s not true at all.

They project what they believe on you, and you perceive what they project on you, but you don’t take it personally because you don’t assume that what they are projecting is true. You know that what they project is what they believe about themselves, and you know that because you used to do the same thing.

Once you become a seer, you see everything that other artists do to themselves, but your point of view is completely impersonal. The process of unlearning takes you to a place where there’s no longer a judge and a victim in your story. It’s just a story, and you know that it’s your creation, but it’s just as if it’s happening to somebody else. You see all the stories; you see all the symbols; you see how people play with all of that, but it does not affect you. It doesn’t offend you, because you are completely immune. You see faces, you love the faces, but you are also aware that there’s something that doesn’t belong to your dream. It’s the personal dream that other artists are dreaming, and you have complete respect for their dream, for their creation.

Respect is about the complete acceptance of everything that exists just the way it is, not the way we want it to be. This is more or less one meaning of the word respect. Once you accept yourself just the way you are, you no longer have any judgments about yourself. Once you accept everybody else just the way they are, you no longer have any judgments about them. Then something incredible happens in your world: You find peace. You are not in conflict with yourself, and you are not in conflict with anyone else. All of the conflict that exists in humanity is because there is no respect. Every war is because we don’t respect the other artists’ way of life.

The truth is happening right in front of you. To experience life is to experience truth. To see the truth makes a huge difference in your world; to become the truth is the real goal because that is the real you. What is not the truth is not important. Your desire for the truth, and your love for the truth, is what is important, and that is the real teaching.”~The 5th Agreement

The human form is not the form of the physical body; it’s the form that our mind takes. It’s the structure of our beliefs about ourselves, about everything that helps us make sense of our dreams. The human form gives us our identity, but it’s not the same as the frame of the dream.

The frame of the dream is the material world as it is, which is truth. The human form is the belief system with all the elements of judgment. Everything in that belief system is our truth, and we judge everything according to those beliefs, even if those beliefs go against our inner nature.

…..1st you need to see it in conversations with other people - to be aware.

*Whenever we perceive something, we always perceive differences only. Whether it be heat or cold, light or darkness, quiet or noise we always compare two relative quantities. We have no absolute measure of anything as far as our daily reality is concerned.

Your reality, your dream, is just your perception or interpretation. Your opinion.

As is everyone else’s dream

Our personal dream or movie is controlled by the ego thought system.

The Toltec books describe the ego as the following….

When we talk about the Toltec path to freedom, we find that they have an entire map for breaking free of domestication. They compare the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system to a parasite that invades the human mind. From the Toltec point of view, all domesticated humans are sick. They are sick because there is a parasite (the ego)that controls the mind and controls the brain. The food for the parasite is the negative emotions that come from fear. If we look at the description of a parasite, we find that a parasite is a living being who lives off of other living beings, sucking their energy without any useful contribution in return, and hurting their host little by little.

The Judge, the Victim, and the belief system fit this description very well. Together they (the ego)comprise a living being made of psychic or emotional energy, and that energy is alive. Of course, it is not material energy, but neither are emotions and material energy. Our dreams are not material energy either, but we know they exist. One function of the brain is to transform material energy into emotional energy.

Our brain is the factory of the emotions. And we have said that the main function of the mind is to dream. The Toltecs believe that the parasite — the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system — has control of your mind; it controls your dream. The parasite dreams through your mind and lives its life through your body. It survives on the emotions that come from fear and thrives on drama and suffering.

The ego parasite creates a defense of judging others and yourself (the victim) and and an offense of blame and attack. A whole system of fear-based actions. This is your default automatic ego thought system instilled in you as you were growing up.

The freedom we seek is to use our mind and body, to live our own life, instead of the life of the ego belief system.

When we discover that the mind is controlled by the Judge and the Victim and the real “us” is in the corner, we have just two choices. One choice is to keep living the way we are, to surrender to the Judge and the Victim, to keep living in the dream of the planet. The second choice is to do what we do as children when parents try to domesticate us. We can rebel and say “No!” We can declare a war against the parasite, a war against the Judge and the Victim, a war for our independence, and a war for the right to use our minds and our brains.

That is why in all the shamanic traditions in America, from Canada to Argentina, people call themselves warriors, because they are in a war against the parasite in the mind. That is the real meaning of a warrior. The warrior rebels against the invasion of the parasite. (the ego)The warrior rebels and declares war. But to be a warrior doesn’t mean we always win the war; we may win or we may lose, but we always do our best and at least we have a chance to be free again. Choosing this path gives us, at the very least, the dignity of rebellion, and ensures that we will not be the helpless victim of our own whimsical emotions or the poisonous emotions of others. Even if we succumb to the enemy — the parasite — we will not be among those victims who would not fight back.

As a society, we don’t call the ego a thought or belief system. The above Toltec summary describes the EGO….. and it is the standard operating thought system we are all raised with.

It is a belief system largely instilled by parents, church, school, and our social system. What they call domestication. We make it personal by adding our personalities likes, dislikes, emotions, personal interpretations, opinions, experiences, etc….but the majority isn’t ours, it's the programmers. All inter-tangled.

Awareness comes first….

After gaining awareness, understanding the above statements, and recognizing the ego thought system from the book and this note. I’m not worried about your belief system at this point… and if you are breaking agreements/beliefs yet. While it may be part of the process, 1st the importance is in understanding the ego and its control. In the ability to see it…

This should immensely help you recognize why so many people are always attacking, angry, pride, specialness, defensive actions, judgment, and emotional outbursts originate from. Always trying to control or influence others.

With the tools via the 4 Agreements and this new understanding of how most of us think and react… presto…. better understanding and improvement of your communication skills and emotional self-control…..

Don't worry about breaking agreements or beliefs until later, focus on the education and awareness of the ego to start with….

How this material is utilized and the extent it is incorporated into your thought or belief system is up to the person. Anything else you get from this material is just a bonus. No matter what level your ego controls you, one can at the very least gain one helpful insight.

It is not learning that is the hard part. It’s the unlearning that is the difficult task…

It’s your choice or not, to listen to the intent behind the symbols presented here! But now, to be ignorant or unaware in my opinion shouldn’t be any excuse or part of their vocabulary.

ReTrain the Brain

As always, IMHO, peace, ❤️ & of course: play and have fun….

“Humor is a prelude to faith and laughter is the beginning of prayer.” ~ Niebuhr

END of Introduction

The Story of You

“Humans are born with the power of creation, and we are constantly creating stories with the words that we learned. Every one of us uses the word to form our opinions and to express our points of view. Countless events are happening all around us, and using our attention, we can put all these events together in a story.

We create the story of our own life, the story of our family, the story of our community, the story of our country, the story of humanity, and the story of the entire world. Every one of us has a story that we share, a message that we deliver to ourselves, and everyone and everything around us.

You were programmed to deliver a message, and the creation of that message is your greatest art. What is the message? Your life. With that message, you create mainly the story of you, and then a story about everything you perceive. A movie with you as the main and most important character.

Human love, a love, full of conditions. You did that. You didn’t do this. A life of judging, blaming, or attacking someone. A life of always defending oneself to someone. An emotional life of anger and frustration.

You create an entire virtual reality in your mind, and you live in that reality.” ~Miguel Angel Ruiz

https://www.thefouragreements.com/the-story-of-you/

Dreams

In your ego dream, you do not realize you are attacking, trying to triumph over life and make it serve you.

Dreams are perceptual temper tantrums, in which you scream, “I want it thus!” And thus it seems to be. And yet the dream cannot escape its origin. Anger and fear pervade it.

Dreams show you that you have the power to make a world as you would have it be and that because you want it you see it. And while you see it you do not doubt that it is real. Yet here is a world, clearly within your mind, that seems to be outside.

You do not respond to it as though you made it, you react, nor do you realize that the emotions the dream produces must come from you. It is the figures in the dream and what they do that seem to make the dream. You do not realize that you are making them act out for you, for if you did the guilt would not be theirs, and the illusion of satisfaction would be gone.

The body is the central figure in the dream of the world. There is no dream without it, nor does it exist without the dream in which it acts as if it were a person to be seen and believed. It takes the central place in every dream, which tells the story of how it was made by other bodies, born into the world outside the body, lives a little while, and dies, to be united in the dust with other bodies dying like itself.

In the brief time allotted it to live, it seeks other bodies as its friends and enemies. Its safety is its main concern. Its comfort is its guiding rule. It tries to look for pleasure and avoid the things that would be hurtful. Above all, it tries to teach itself its pains and joys are different and can be told apart.

The “hero” of this dream will never change, nor will its purpose. Though the dream itself takes many forms and seems to show a great variety of places and events wherein its “hero” finds itself, the dream has but one purpose, taught in many ways. This single lesson does it try to teach again, and still again, and yet once more; that it is cause and not effect. And you are its effect, and cannot be its cause.

Thus are you not the dreamer, but the dream? And so you wander idly in and out of places and events that it contrives. That this is all the body does is true, for it is but a figure in a dream. But who reacts to figures in a dream unless he sees them as if they were real? The instant that he sees them as they are they have no more effects on him, because he understands he gave them their effects by causing them and making them seem real.

“... early in life, an impenetrable barrier is erected within the psyche itself. A barrier of inhibition is built up between the unconscious and the conscious thinking self—a barrier of prejudices, false moral concepts, infantile notions, pride, and egotism. So profound is this armored barrier that our best attempts to get past it, around it, or through it are utterly impotent. We become cut off from our roots ...”~Israel Regardi

What do you want your story to be?

The author calls the 4 Agreements “a code of conduct” to live by.

I also see it as a communication course. The understanding of ego-based communications/ human behavior and the application of its tools will improve your overall base foundation.

These common sense principles provide a straightforward framework that can help all of us navigate and adjust to life more adaptively and functionally. They support the emotional development and well-being of any student.

We highly recommend the 5th agreement as it further clarifies the Toltec theory.

The knowledge presented may help you or not…..

You must have the want, the will, and the discipline……

4 Agreements-Course Link

https://amber-allen-publishing.mykajabi.com/login

‘I have invented the world that I see’

¥KEY POINT>~

The Four Agreements, other tools and skill sets you must implement help us align with our integrity & God's unconditional love. To improve our emotional self-control and effective communication skills. To break free of the ego.

#1… The first agreement, the impeccability of the word, is completely aligned with our integrity. Communicate only from our soul or heart.

#2 & 3… The second and third agreements, don’t take anything personally and don’t make assumptions, (clarify, ask questions) give us immunity to the Ego’s judgment and to everybody’s personal ego dream world that surrounds us. We realize it’s the Ego in control, not Love. With that immunity, we realize they act from their ego thought system. We respect their dream. We don’t have to agree. We don’t have like them. But we can see ourselves and God in them. They are still our brother or sister united in God's Love. We may have to agree to disagree, in areas of no compromise.

#4… And the fourth agreement, always do your best, is the engine that moves us forward; it is the action. We may fail often, but we keep trying and striving.

Keep focusing your attention on your integrity, and make choices that don’t go against yourself.

The Golden Rule…

Realizing your personality or who you think you are is most likely comprised of things mostly related to the external world. Realizing you need to see the inner you, the spirit. What do you want, who you truly are? What all of us deep down want. Acceptance & Love, etc…

Realizing what the Ego is and isn’t

1. We realize how the Ego Thought System operates

2. We are aware of our feelings & trigger points

3. We utilize the heart-mind connection tools

4. We learn to control our inner self, not trying to control those outside us

5. We don’t argue

6. We don’t defend

7. We don’t assume

8. We don’t attack

9. We don’t constantly criticize

10. We don’t judge, we discern

11. We learn to respond in Love, not react from the Ego

We can see how we constantly

• Accuse

• Prosecute

• Judge

• Convict and

• Sentence ….. people

A system of trying to control the outside world. A system of selfish protection of our ego material world personality….

By focusing your attention and following your integrity, you can measure your choices by your action-reaction.

• This choice comes from love; that choice comes from fear.

• This choice makes me happy; that choice makes me suffer.

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Realize what love is and isn’t

LOVE is a frequency, not a feeling

The feeling of LOVE comes from being in the frequency of LOVE

The reason for being - is to be in LOVE

And to find someone to LOVE us in return is what we all yearn for

And the reason of being, to be LOVE and in LOVE, is comprehended with the depth of the entirety of your soul.

The goal is to always have an open heart

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Most of the material presented here is based/from ~A Course in Miracles

What is a Thought System?

The broader term is, that your mind is the thought system, that determines each agreement, belief, or opinion. In our discussion of Thought Systems, we are talking about the process of the parts that create an individual belief or opinion. Which becomes the very end product, your actions.

As the Toltecs put it hundreds of “agreements” or beliefs you have made or that were programmed into you.

Simply put, a system is an organized collection of parts (& subsystems) that are highly integrated to accomplish an overall goal. The system has various inputs, which go through certain processes to produce certain outputs, which together, accomplish the overall desired goal for the system. A system can be simple or complex.

Everything we learn goes into our minds by agreement.

We act and live according to this system of intentions, interpretations, emotions, and feelings. Our thoughts become our personal opinions, or beliefs that we are “in agreement” with and this results in our actions…

This is what makes up our thought system… all of these different parts interacting with each other, are complex. A high-functioning system continually exchanges feedback among its various parts to ensure that they remain closely aligned and focused on achieving the goal of the system. What is your goal?

We are a world with billions of people, each person with a different self-centered ego view and personal kingdom. A world made of conflict & greed. Billions of control hungry, little me, me, me, poor me’s. Billions of humans distort all those symbols in their heads and deliver distorted messages.

It is the emotions that control the behavior of the human, not the human who controls the emotions.

• A few lucky ones, don’t seem to need much help. For whatever reason they seem more naturally aware not to be so selfish or self-centered.

• Most of us go through life never questioning, wanting, or realizing anything else but our little selfish ego world. A majority on the surface don’t seem that bad and can hide the level of how much their ego controls them until you get to know and interact with them.

• There are multitudes of levels or degrees in the ego’s control over human behavior.

The worst ego-controlled people are the narcissistic, extremely selfish types.

Most of us seem angry, resentful, grudged, defensive, blaming, judging, and convicting in our personal dream world of view/opinions and beliefs.

Never their fault. So unaware and immersed in the fog of their dream. No clue, no idea, and again, no attempt at reasoning will help the situation, often making it worse. These people have no regard for their deeper spiritual self, which is what allows us to see beyond our ego self and include others as part of the same field of collective human consciousness.…. https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes

What is The Ego - The Service to the Self

The Mind of the Body

The Self-identification of your thoughts and emotions is who you think you are. This is who you are in form or thought, the objects of your daily life, of the outside world. A world of continuous thoughts, change, chaos, drama, and conflict, a world of doing. A life of suffering, the unhappiness of wanting, etc…

Who we are is the silent consciousness. A world of eternity, oneness, peace, joy, and God's love. The gap between thoughts is who you are.

The ego is difficult to define because the ego isn’t one specific thing. It is made up of many different beliefs that a person acquires over their life. Many inter-tangled. Those beliefs can be diverse and even contradictory. To further complicate it, each person’s ego is different. If someone were to identify and describe all the parts of their ego and what it drives them to do, you might not get a good description of what yours looked like. The challenge of becoming aware of what your ego looks like becomes more difficult because our culture doesn’t reward us for directing our attention inward and noticing such things.

The ego’s definitions of anything are childish and are always based on what it believes the thing is for.

He does not perceive its source as his ego identification, and he always tries to handle it by making some sort of insane “arrangement” with the world. He always perceives this world as outside himself, for this is crucial to his adjustment. He does not realize that he makes this world, for there is no world outside of him.

The death penalty never leaves the ego’s mind, for that is what the ego always reserves for you in the end. You will think that death comes from God and not from the ego because, by confusing yourself with the ego, you believe that you want death.

The world you perceive is a world of separation. If you could separate yourself from the Mind of God you would die.

The intellect or ‘ego’ (ego being just another word for the intellect since the Concise Oxford Dictionary defines ‘ego’ as ‘the conscious thinking self’ (5th ed, 1964)) became ‘centered’ or focused on the need to justify itself—so people became ego-centric, selfishly preoccupied aggressively competing for opportunities to prove he is good and not bad, to validate his worth, to get a ‘win’; to essentially eke out any positive reinforcement that would bring him some relief from his criticizing instincts. He unavoidably became self-preoccupied or selfish, and aggressive and competitive.

It can be difficult to see because it hides behind opinions that appear true – our attachment to the descriptions of our identity – and because we haven’t practiced looking

The Ego always speaks in judgment, and always defends itself

The easier way to spot the ego is by the trail of emotional reactions it leaves behind: Anger at a loved one, a need to be right, a feeling of insecurity in certain situations, feelings of jealousy that are unexplained, the need to impress someone, and so on.

These emotions can be attributed to the false beliefs that comprise the ego. In the beginning, it is easier to see the symptoms of resulting emotions and drama, rather than the ego that caused it.

One of the most deceptive aspects of the ego is that it generates powerful emotional reactions and then blames us for how it made us feel. The anger we react with comes from ego-based beliefs of being right and “knowing better” than someone else. Perhaps there is also a victim interpretation of betrayal or injustice underneath. After we overreact with anger we might feel bad for what we expressed.

The ego shifts to a “righteous self” that “knows better” and berates us for overreacting with anger. At the same time, it assumes the identity of being the “stupid idiot” who didn’t know any better and takes the blame for overreacting. All these attitudes, thoughts, and beliefs take place in the mind, and even though they are completely different, we assume all of them come from us. If they were expressions coming from our genuine selves, they wouldn’t contradict, and we would be able to stop them.

To the unaware person, it is difficult to discern the difference between which is the ego and what is it. They are left to wonder, “What came over me that I reacted that way?” Even their post-emotional analysis lacks the consideration to see the different parts of their belief system at work as separate from themselves. As a result, everything they express is blamed on them by the condemning voices in their head. In effect, the ego hijacks the analysis and turns it into a self-criticism/blame process.

When the ego controls the self-reflection processes you have no chance of seeing the root cause of your emotional dramas, as the ego reaffirms itself and hides in the self-criticism. “Having an ego” is usually associated with arrogance and is a term used to describe someone who thinks they are better than others.

Yet this is only one part of IT. It is possible to have some positive self-esteem and some negative self-esteem – we are aware of these different beliefs at different times. The negative beliefs about ourselves make up our negative self-esteem, while our positive thoughts comprise our positive self-esteem. Together, the negative and positive esteem form our ego.

Quite often, these two aspects of our personality are nearly equal in magnitude and offset each other emotionally. A person who is very hard on themselves with their inner critic may have feelings of worthlessness. This is a painful emotion to live with and to mask the pain, they might cover it up with bravado, projecting an image of security and confidence, all the while struggling with feelings of insecurity, worthlessness, and inadequacy.

Arrogance is markedly different from the confidence that doesn’t come from ego. A person can be completely confident in their ability, skill, or self-acceptance, without letting it “go to their head” and impacting their interactions with others. And while humility may often be mistaken for shyness and insecurity, a person of true humility is fully present and at peace with themselves and their surroundings.

Confidence without arrogance, humility without insecurity, these are manners of personality that are without the self-image dynamics of the ego.

Produced by fear, the ego reproduces fear. The ego’s picture of you is deprived, unloving, and vulnerable.

The principle of negativity is a principle that intensifies the illusion of separation which is implicit within all creation. The illusion of separation is then used by those who have gained a knowledge of the negative polarity to dominate those who are not

Illusions are investments. They will last as long as you value them. Values are relative, but they are powerful because they are mental judgments. And the world we live in…

Because of its multiple aspects, it’s not practical or effective to dissolve all of the ego at once, nor is it likely that you could do so.

Much like a tree or large bush that is overgrown in the yard, you don’t just lift it out and throw it away – you cut off manageable pieces instead. The same approach is effective in letting go of the false beliefs that make up the ego. You begin by detaching from individual thoughts that reinforce it, then let go of beliefs, separating yourself from the false identity of your ego.

We have spent years building our ego self-images, living inside of them, and reinforcing them. Extracting our genuine selves out of this matrix of false beliefs will take more than a few days. Yes, it will take a while… so what? It also took a while to learn to read, do math, walk, and develop proficiency in any valuable skill. Things worth doing take time and practice. What better thing do you have to do than let go of what is causing you unhappiness?

The ego’s goal is quite explicitly ego autonomy. From the beginning, then, its purpose is to be separate, sufficient unto itself, and independent of any power except its own. This is why it is the symbol of separation.

The ego analyzes, it judges, it protects itself, the ego…. not the real you….

The ego believes that power, understanding, and truth lie in separation, and to establish this belief it must attack. The ego focuses on error and overlooks truth. Selective perception chooses its witnesses carefully, and its witnesses are consistent.

Judgment and love are opposites

• Specialness is of the Ego

• No one is more special than the other…

Personal judgment is based on perception that is reinforced by belief and prior programming, all of which are held in place by the pay-off of the negative energies of the ego. The ego just ‘loves’ suffering a ‘wrong’, being the martyr, being misunderstood, and being the endless victim of life’s vicissitudes. It thereby gets an enormous pay-off, not only from the positionality itself but also from sympathy, self-pity, entitlements, importance, or being ‘center stage’ in which the self is the hero or heroine of the melodrama. The ego hoards ‘slights’ and injuries, nurses ‘hurt feelings’, and stockpiles grievances in this inner melodrama of injustice collecting. To this end, the collective ego milk ‘rights’, which can be summoned up and rationalized for any positionality or extremist viewpoint. The battle over ‘rights’ is the mainstream of the media and contentious social strife termed ‘politics’, for which truth is willingly sacrificed for gain and for which millions die.

The dualistically structured ego propagates itself by a positionality that tends to see everything in terms of perpetrator/victim. By an arbitrary positionality, it splits events into opposites, and the consequent blame that occurs may be directed inwardly as guilt or projected outwardly as hate and paranoia. Thus, the ego is judgmental and unwittingly becomes its victim. If it hates, it feels unconsciously guilty for violating the truth and may repress the accumulated guilt, which adds more energy to the projected hatred.

Who am I

“The ego is exactly what it pretends it isn't. Far from being the free center of personality, it is an automatic mechanism implanted since childhood by social authority, with—perhaps—a touch of heredity thrown in.

The universe is at its root a magical illusion and a fabulous game, and there is no separate "you" to get something out of it as if life were a bank to be robbed.

The only real "you" is the one that comes and goes, manifests, and withdraws itself eternally in and as every conscious being. For "you" is the universe looking at itself from billions of points of view, points that come and go so that the vision is forever new. What we see as death, empty space, or nothingness is only the trough between the crests of this endlessly waving ocean.

It is all part of the illusion that there should seem to be something to be gained in the future, and that there is an urgent necessity to go on and on until we get it. Yet just as there is no time but the present, and no one except the all-and-everything, there is never anything to be gained—though the zest of the game is to pretend that there is.” ~Alan Watts…

The ego is a thought system.

We all start with the standard automatic default system.

Which also, consists of or resides in the unconscious mind, which stores your habits.

The Ego Thought System:

As our automatic default thought system…

Your brain interprets everything you perceive according to the meaning you give to every word, according to the structure of your language, according to all of the knowledge that was programmed in your mind.

Everything you perceive is being filtered through your unique personal belief system.

And the result of interpreting everything you perceive by using everything you believe is your dream, an entire virtual reality in your mind. The world we think we see outside of us is actually inside of us. It’s just images in our imagination. Become aware that we are living in a dream that we artists are creating.

The Dreamworld of Egos perception is the world of time, of change, of beginnings and endings. It is based on interpretation, not on facts. It is the world of birth and death, founded on the belief in scarcity, loss, separation, and death. It is learned rather than given, selective in its perceptual emphases, unstable in its functioning, and inaccurate in its interpretations.

Yet what you see is only what you made it. You give the “wrong against you” the power. You keep the past alive, by reliving it. You like the suffering! You only live in the present. You give the past too much meaning and control over you. As you do the future, which is anticipation.

The miracle of life is ageless, born in time but nourished in eternity

✅ You see what you believe is there, and you believe it there because you want it there. Perception has no other law than this.

The world you see is but a judgment of yourself. It is not there at all. Yet judgment lays a sentence on it, justifies it, and makes it real. Such is the world you see; a judgment on yourself, and made by you. This sickly picture of yourself is carefully preserved by the ego, whose image it is and which it loves, and placed outside you in the world. And to this world must you adjust as long as you believe this picture is outside, and has you at its mercy. This world is merciless and were it outside you, you should indeed be fearful. Yet it was you who made it merciless, and now if mercilessness seems to look back at you, it can be corrected.

The world you look at is the answer that it gave you, and you have given it the power to adjust the world to make its answer true. It is your world of blame, judgment, defending yourself, and conflicts

Subjective to each individual

The world of ego’s perception is made by the belief in opposites and separate wills, in perpetual conflict with each other and with God. What perception sees and hears appears to be real because it permits awareness only of what conforms to the wishes of the perceiver. This leads to a world of illusions, a world that needs constant defense precisely because it is not real. When you have been caught in the world of perception you are caught in a dream. You cannot escape without help, because everything your senses show merely witnesses to the reality of the dream. The world we see merely reflects our internal frame of reference–the dominant ideas, wishes, and emotions in our minds. “Projection makes perception”

We look inside first, decide the kind of world we want to see, and then project that world outside, making it the truth as we see it

We make it true by our interpretations of what it is we are seeing.

If we are using perception to justify our own mistakes–our anger, our impulses to attack, our lack of love in whatever form it may take–we will see a world of evil, destruction, malice, envy, and despair.

“What perception sees and hears appears to be real because it permits into awareness only what conforms to the wishes of the perceiver.” The world we see merely reflects only our internal frame of reference–the dominant ideas, wishes, desires, and emotions in our minds. We make it true by our interpretations of what it is we are seeing.

There has been much confusion about what perception means because the word is used both for awareness and for the interpretation of awareness. Yet you cannot be aware without interpretation, for what you perceive is your interpretation.

We are using our subjective interpretation/perception to justify our own mistakes–our anger, our impulses to judge, blame & attack. Jealousy, Envy, and Pride. Pride is huge. Thinking we are more important than anyone else. Specialness….

We look inside first, decide the kind of world we want to see, and then project that world outside, making it the truth as we see it. This is what we relate to as me. The self-image. My personality. Who I am. My goals, my beliefs, my opinions, my likes, my dislikes, my everything. Do you see the main theme of the ego thought system- ME, ME, ME

Protection

A major function of the ego is always to protect itself. It’s always looking for a threat. So when it isn’t judging, blaming, or attacking someone, it is always defending itself against someone…..

A belief, agreement, opinion, or perspective is only true as long as you say yes or agree with it. There is nothing in the world you see that will endure forever. Some things will last in time a little while longer than others.

But the time will come when all things visible will have an end…. Except for what God has created.

The ego’s perceptions are aligned with conquest and gain

The ego is against communication, except insofar as it is utilized to establish separateness rather than to abolish it. The communication system of the ego is based on its thought system, as is everything else it dictates. Its communication is controlled by its need to protect itself, and it will disrupt communication when it experiences a threat. This disruption is a reaction to a specific person or persons. The specificity of the ego’s thinking, then, results in spurious generalization which is not abstract at all. It merely responds in certain specific ways to everything it perceives as related.

Illusions/Dreams

“Each one peoples his world with figures from his past, and it is because of this that private worlds do differ. Yet he figures that he sees were never real, for they are made up only of his reactions to his brothers, and do not include their reactions to him.

Therefore, he does not see he made them, and that they are not whole.

For these figures have no witnesses, being perceived in one separate mind.”

From such a twisted reference point, what could you see?

• All seeing starts with the perceiver, who judges what is true and what is false.

• And what he judges false he does not see.

• You who would judge reality cannot see it, for whenever judgment enters, reality has slipped away.

Therefore It is not real……

Illusions or the fog will not last.

Their death is sure and this alone is certain in their world. It is the ego’s world because of this.

What is the ego dream? But a dream of what you are. A thought you are apart from your Creator and a wish to be what He created not. It is a thing of madness, not reality at all. A name for namelessness is all it is. A symbol of impossibility; a choice for options that do not exist. We name it but to help us understand that it is nothing but an ancient thought that what is made has immortality.

But what could come of this except a dream which, like all dreams, can only end in death? What is the ego? Nothingness, but in a form that seems like something. In a world of form, the ego cannot be denied for it alone seems real.

Yet could God’s Son as He created him abide in form or a world of form? Who asks you to define the ego and explain how it arose can be but he who thinks it real, and seeks by definition to ensure that its illusive nature is concealed behind the words that seem to make it so. There is no definition for a lie that serves to make it true. Nor can there be a truth that lies conceal effectively. The ego’s unreality is not denied by words nor is its meaning clear because its nature seems to have a form. Who can define the undefinable? And yet there is an answer even here.

Every Mind is a World

“If we can understand what the human mind is, and what the human mind does, we can begin to separate reality from virtual reality, or pure perception, which is truth, from symbology, which is art.

Self-mastery is all about awareness, and it begins with self-awareness. First to be aware of what is real, and then to be aware of what is virtual, which means what we believe about what is real. With this awareness, we know that we can change what is virtual by changing what we believe.

What is real we cannot change, and it doesn’t matter what we believe.” ~The 5th Agreement

Beliefs of the ego cannot be shared, and this is why they are unreal.

During all the education we receive, which means all the knowledge that is programmed in our mind, we create the concept of the I am. Everything we believe we are, everything we know about how to be a human is the I am.

Most people spend all their energy on personal importance, on defending their image of who they think they are, on defending their opinions and what they believe. They spend a lot of energy trying to be right and making everybody else wrong.

• I know that I’m right because …

• their people are usually wrong because …

• I need to prove that I’m right because …

• It’s important to defend my opinions and my point of view because …

This nonsense behavior is funny when you see it from the outside, but it becomes a big drama when you are in the middle of it. That drama drains our energy. To believe what we believe, to keep all these agreements alive, we have no energy left.

Emotions are the Roadmap:

Everything you perceive causes an emotional reaction. When you perceive beauty, your emotional reaction is wonderful; you feel great. When you perceive what you believe is not beauty, your emotional reaction is not so great. But you perceive not just the outside world; you perceive the virtual world you create in your head. You perceive not only your feelings, but your knowledge — your thoughts, judgments, and beliefs. You perceive the voice in your head, and you have an emotional reaction to that voice. https://www.thefouragreements.com/emotions-are-real-the-voice-of-knowledge-is-not-real/

Anger, frustration, dissatisfaction etc…. Ask yourself why am I feeling this. Didn’t get your way? Feel someone mistreated you? Didn’t do what you think they should do? Etc…

✅ Emotions are key in stopping the cycle of the Ego

You have but two emotions, love and fear

One is changeless but continually exchanged, being offered by the eternal to the eternal. In this exchange, it is extended, for it increases as it is given. The other has many forms, for the content of individual illusions differs greatly. Yet they have one thing in common; they are all insane. They are made of sights that are not seen and sounds that are not heard. They make up a private world that cannot be shared. For they are meaningful only to their maker, and so they have no meaning at all. In this world, their maker moves alone, for only he perceives them.

Love shares & extends itself

Ego projects

Ego’s Judgment

The ego cannot survive without judgment

It has been estimated that 99% of the average person’s thoughts and actions are judgmental.

Perception involves partial awareness.

Judgment is the process on which perception but not knowledge rests.

Perception is your interpretation……

We judge everyone else’s behavior to our perspective or interpretation

Suspend judgment entirely. Judgment always rests on the past, for experience is the basis on which you judge. Judgment becomes impossible without the past, for without it you do not understand anything. For here is time denied, and past and future are gone. “I need to do nothing” Who needs to do nothing does not need time. To do nothing is to rest, and make a place within you where the activity of the body ceases to demand attention. Into this place the Holy Spirit comes, and there abides. He will remain when you forget, and the body’s activities return to occupy your conscious mind.

You would not attempt to judge because it would be quite apparent to you that you do not understand what anything means. You are afraid of this because you believe that without the ego, all would be chaos. Yet I assure you that without the ego, all would be love.

When you have learned to look at everyone with no reference at all to the past, either his or yours as you perceived it, you will be able to learn from what you see now. For the past can cast no shadow to darken the present, unless you are afraid of light.

To be born again is to let the past go, and look without condemnation upon the present. To become like children…..

All healing is a release from the past. That is why the Holy Spirit is the only Healer. He teaches that the past does not exist, a fact which belongs to the sphere of knowledge, and which therefore no one in the world can know.

It would indeed be impossible to be in the world with this knowledge. For the mind that knows this unequivocally knows also it dwells in eternity and utilizes no perception at all. It therefore does not consider where it is, because the concept “where” does not mean anything to it. It knows that it is everywhere, just as it has everything, and forever.

To judge anything rightly, one would have to be fully aware of an inconceivably wide range of things; past, present and to come. One would have to recognize in advance all the effects of his judgments on everyone and everything involved in them in any way. One would have to be certain there is no distortion in his perception so that his judgment would be wholly fair to everyone on whom it rests now and in the future. Who is in a position to do this? Who except in grandiose fantasies would claim this for himself?

Remember how many times you thought you knew all the “facts” you needed for judgment, and how wrong you were! Is there anyone who has not had this experience? Would you know how many times you merely thought you were right, without ever realizing you were wrong? Why would you choose such an arbitrary basis for decision-making?

Wisdom is not judgment; it is the relinquishment of judgment

Make then but one more judgment.

It is this: There is Someone with you Whose judgment is perfect.

He does know all the facts; past, present and to come. He does know all the effects of His judgment on everyone and everything involved in any way. And He is wholly fair to everyone, for there is no distortion in His perception.

God says there is no death; your judgment sees death as the inevitable end of life. God’s Word assures you that He loves the world; your judgment says it is unlovable. Who is right? For one of you is wrong. It must be so.

Anger, judgment, defending, attacking… all done to protect who you think you are, the main job of the Ego, is to protect itself

I can escape from the world I see by giving up attack thoughts. The idea for today contains the only way out of fear that will ever succeed. Nothing else will work; everything else is meaningless. But this way cannot fail.

Now strife, in a personal relationship, is a reflection of a need to control one part or another part. But if there are two people in a relationship and there is strife, you can understand very quickly that control is the issue at hand.

Judgment, blaming, attacking, criticism, wanting or having to be right, is about control and part of the ego self. Specialness must be defended. The ego always thinks it is being attacked or it attacks to defend itself. A lot of should have’s, what if…..

Egos Anger

Let’s look at an emotional routine like getting angry.

Perhaps it will be helpful to remember that no one can be angry at a fact. It is always an interpretation that gives rise to negative emotions, regardless of their seeming justification by what appears as facts. Regardless, too, of the intensity of the anger that is aroused. It may be merely slight irritation, perhaps too mild to be even clearly recognized. It may also take the form of intense rage, accompanied by thoughts of violence, fantasized or acted out. It does not matter. All of these reactions are the same. They obscure the truth, and this can never be a matter of degree. Either truth is apparent, or it is not.

Anger in response to perceived magic thoughts is a basic cause of fear. Consider what this reaction means, and its centrality in the world’s thought system becomes apparent. A magic thought, by its mere presence, acknowledges a separation from God. It states, in the clearest form possible, that the mind which believes it has a separate will that can oppose the Will of God, also believes it can succeed.

It can be learned and taught, but it requires patience and abundant willingness. Given that, the lesson’s manifest simplicity stands out like an intense white light against a black horizon, for such it is. If anger comes from an interpretation and not a fact, it is never justified. Once this is even dimly grasped, the way is open. Now it is possible to take the next step. The interpretation can be changed at last. Magic thoughts need not lead to condemnation, for they do not have the power to give rise to guilt. And so they can be overlooked, and thus forgotten in the truest sense.

Remember, then, that anger recognizes a reality that is not there; yet is the anger certain witness that you do believe in it as fact. Now is escape impossible, until you see you have responded to your interpretation, which you have projected on an outside world.

Anger is fear with a mask, and at a certain point in your interaction with someone, you are afraid and get angry. Your anger pushed that person away, he left you alone, and you found that getting angry worked. The same situation happened again and again, and anger became a routine. It became an agreement with yourself that you need anger to feel safe. Why did you get angry? Maybe you didn’t get your way? Did you feel someone mistreated you? Etc….

Later you discover that anger pushes people away even when you don’t want it to, and you are alone. People don’t like you because of your anger, but by then you forget why you were angry in the first place. You don’t know why anger has become a normal reaction for you or why every time you are afraid you get angry. The routine has been repeated thousands of times and it becomes a normal reaction for you; you are conditioned to behave that way.

That is the challenge: to be aware, to change the routine, to change the action. Again, the first step is always to be aware and to practice awareness until you master awareness. Without awareness, there is no way for you to change your choices or change your actions. With awareness, you focus your attention, put repetition into action, and change your agreements and routines.

You consider it “natural” to use your experience as the reference point from which to judge the present. Yet this is unnatural because it is delusional. When you have learned to look at everyone with no reference at all to the past, either his or yours as you perceived it, you will be able to learn from what you see now. For the past can cast no shadow to darken the present, unless you are afraid of light.

The ego’s use of projection must be fully understood before the inevitable association between projection and anger can be finally undone. The ego always tries to preserve conflict. It is very ingenious in devising ways that seem to diminish conflict because it does not want you to find conflict so intolerable that you will insist on giving it up. The ego therefore tries to persuade you that it can free you of conflict, lest you give the ego up and free yourself. Using its warped version of the laws of God, the ego utilizes the power of the mind only to defeat the mind’s real purpose. It projects conflict from your mind to other minds, in an attempt to persuade you that you have gotten rid of the problem.

Constant Conflict and Control

Because of trying to have control over the outer world

A lot about not getting what you want

And if you can understand that all control and requirements of control are born out of a need from fear to be in charge, or whatever you want to say will be incurred by not being in charge, you can understand that fear, once again, is the culprit.

Until you understand that you are the basis for every relationship that you have, you’re going to be in trouble. And the ignorance of this simple fact has destroyed more relationships than you can know.

For relationships, to the ego, mean only that bodies are together. It is always this that the ego demands, and it does not object to where the mind goes or what it thinks, for this seems unimportant. As long as the body is there to receive its sacrifice, it is content.

To the ego the mind is private, and only the body can be shared. Ideas are basically of no concern, except as they bring the body of another closer or farther.

And it is in these terms that it evaluates ideas as good or bad.

Whenever you are angry, you can be sure that you have formed a special relationship which the ego has “blessed,” for anger is its blessing. Anger takes many forms, but it cannot long deceive those who will learn that love brings no guilt at all, and what brings guilt cannot be love and must be anger.

All anger is nothing more than an attempt to make someone feel guilty, and this attempt is the only basis the ego accepts for special relationships.

Guilt is the only need the ego has, and as long as you identify with it, guilt will remain attractive to you. Yet remember this; to be with a body is not communication.

Understand that you do not respond to anything directly but to your interpretation of it. Your interpretation thus becomes the justification for the response. That is why analyzing the motives of others is hazardous to you.

If you decide that someone is trying to attack you desert you or enslave you, you will respond as if he had done so, having made his error real to you. The relationship of anger to attack is obvious, but the relationship of anger to fear is not always so apparent. Anger always involves projection of separation, which must ultimately be accepted as one’s responsibility, rather than being blamed on others.

1. Anger cannot occur unless you believe that you have been attacked, that

2. your attack is justified in return, and that

3. you are in no way responsible for it.

Given these three wholly irrational premises, the equally irrational conclusion that a brother is worthy of attack rather than of love must follow. What can be expected from insane premises except an insane conclusion? The way to undo an insane conclusion is to consider the sanity of the premises on which it rests. You cannot be attacked, attack has no justification, and you are responsible for what you believe.

The Ego Pride

Pride can easily become Arrogance

As long as you think that you have a self that you need to defend you shall be working with spiritual pride, and so entities for the most part are working with this no matter how persistently and purely and devotionally they have sought year after year, yet still there is the sense of “I” am searching. “I” am looking. “I” am seeking to become the best that “I” can be.

Sometimes we can hold pride before us like a shield:

To gaze at the pride within an entity is to gaze upon that portion of the self that has been created by the self for self-defense. That is, one who has pride has attempted to discover a good, right, or noble way to think behave or speak. Then one adopts the most efficient mask, most in line with the desired making of an impression on others. It is as though a man with a modest garden were to put a wall twenty feet high about the garden, certainly more than the garden needs to be a protected plot.

This wall, however, we may see it in ourselves, is of our making. The question is, how can we become courageous enough to let down the wall:

The final goal of all of these true spiritual paths is humility and a willingness to surrender that clay, the pride, the arrogance, the unworthiness, and fear, to surrender all these emotions utterly to the power and peace of knowing that you are love.

Power or Force

Every response you make to everything you perceive is up to you because your mind determines your perception of it.

Every thought you have makes up some segment of the world you see. It is with your thoughts, then, that we must work if your perception of the world is to be changed.

Perception:

Selective perception chooses its witnesses carefully, and its witnesses are consistent.

Perception is a function of the body and therefore represents a limit on awareness. Perception sees through the body’s eyes and hears through the body’s ears. It evokes the limited responses that the body makes. The body appears to be largely self-motivated and independent, yet it responds only to the intentions of the mind. If the mind wants to use it for attack in any form, it becomes prey to sickness, age, and decay.

Our sense of inadequacy, weakness, and incompletion comes from the strong investment in the “scarcity principle” that governs the whole world of illusions(the fog & the parasite, ego dream). From that point of view, we seek in others what we feel is wanting in ourselves. We “love” one another to get something ourselves. That is what passes for love in the dream world. There can be no greater mistake than that, for love is incapable of asking for anything. The “little I” seeks to enhance itself through external approval, external possessions, and external “love.”

Perception, however, is always specific, and therefore quite concrete.

Perception is a continual process of accepting and rejecting, organizing and reorganizing, shifting and changing. Evaluation is an essential part of perception because judgments are necessary to select.

All perception is unnecessary.

You may ask how this is possible as long as you appear to be living in this world. That is a reasonable question. You must be careful, however, that you understand it. Who is the “you” who are living in this world?

Perception is a choice of what you want yourself to be; the world you want to live in, and the state in which you think your mind will be content and satisfied. It chooses where you think your safety lies, at your decision. It reveals yourself to you as you would have you be. And always is it faithful to your purpose, from which it never separates, nor gives the slightest witness unto anything the purpose in your mind upholdeth not.

Perception is a part of what it is your purpose to behold, for means and end are never separate. And thus you learn what seems to have a life apart has none. You do not know the meaning of anything you perceive. Not one thought you hold is wholly true. The recognition of this is your firm beginning.

Perception involves interpretation, and this means that it is not whole or consistent

Awareness is needed to see the Ego

Questioning illusions or your ego dream is the first step in undoing them.

Since perceptions change, their dependence on time is obvious. How you perceive at any given time determines what you do, and actions must occur in time.

You do not know the meaning of anything you perceive. Not one thought you hold is wholly true. The recognition of this is your firm beginning. You are not misguided; you have accepted no guide at all. Instruction in perception is your great need, for you understand nothing. Recognize this but do not accept it, for understanding is your inheritance. Perceptions are learned, and you are not without a Teacher. Yet your willingness to learn of Him depends on your willingness to question everything you learned of yourself, for you who learned amiss should not be your teacher.

Ego's Role is protection of the Ego

But, do not be afraid of the ego. It depends on your mind, and as you made it by believing in it, you can dispel it by withdrawing belief from it. Do not project the responsibility for your belief in it onto anyone else, or you will preserve the belief. When you are willing to accept sole responsibility for the ego’s existence you will have laid aside all anger and all attack.

The more you learn about the ego, the more you realize that it cannot be believed. The incredible cannot be understood because it is unbelievable. The meaninglessness of perception based on the unbelievable is apparent, but it may not be recognized as being beyond belief, because it is made by belief.

The communication system of the ego is based on its thought system, as is everything else it dictates.

Its communication is controlled by its need to protect itself, and it will disrupt communication when it experiences a threat.

This disruption is a reaction to a specific person or persons. The specificity of the ego’s thinking, then, results in spurious generalization which is not abstract at all. It merely responds in certain specific ways to everything it perceives as related.

That you do listen to the voice of your ego is demonstrated by your attitudes, your feelings, and your behavior. Yet this is what you want. The communication system of the ego is based on its thought system, as is everything else it dictates. Its communication is controlled by its need to protect itself, and it will disrupt communication when it experiences a threat.

The ego’s purpose is fear because only the fearful can be egotistic. If the ego is the symbol of separation, it is also the symbol of guilt. Guilt is more than merely not of God. It is the symbol of an attack on God. This is a meaningless concept except to the ego, but do not underestimate the power of the ego’s belief in it. This is the belief from which all guilt stems.

The ego is the part of the mind that believes in division. How could part of God detach itself without believing it is attacking Him? We spoke before of the authority problem as based on the concept of usurping God’s power. The ego believes that this is what you did because it believes that it is you. If you identify with the ego, you must perceive yourself as guilty. Whenever you respond to your ego you will experience guilt, and you will fear punishment. The ego is quite literally a fearful thought. However ridiculous the idea of attacking God may be to the sane mind, never forget that the ego is not sane. It represents a delusional system and speaks for it. Listening to the ego’s voice means that you believe it is possible to attack God, and that a part of Him has been torn away by you. Fear of retaliation from without follows, because the severity of the guilt is so acute that it must be projected.

Whatever you accept in your mind is a reality for you. It is your acceptance of it that makes it real. If you enthrone the ego in your mind, your allowing it to enter makes it your reality. This is because the mind is capable of creating reality or making illusions. I said before that you must learn to think with God. To think with Him is to think like Him. This engenders joy, not guilt because it is natural. Guilt is a sure sign that your thinking is unnatural. Unnatural thinking will always be attended with guilt because it is the belief in sin.

The ego does not perceive sin as a lack of love but as a positive act of assault. This is necessary for the ego’s survival because, as soon as you regard sin as a lack, you will automatically attempt to remedy the situation. And you will succeed. The ego regards this as doom, but you must learn to regard it as freedom. The ego speaks in judgment, and the Holy Spirit reverses its decision, much as a higher court has the power to reverse a lower court’s decisions in this world. The ego’s decisions are always wrong because they are based on the error they were made to uphold. Nothing the ego perceives is interpreted correctly. Not only does the ego cite Scripture for its purpose, but it even interprets Scripture as a witness for itself. The Bible is a fearful thing in the ego’s judgment. Perceiving it as frightening, it interprets it fearfully. Being afraid, you do not appeal to the Higher Court because you believe its judgment would also be against you.

Perception is a continual process of accepting and rejecting, organizing and reorganizing, shifting and changing. Evaluation is an essential part of perception because judgments are necessary to select. Only perception involves partial awareness.

A basic law of consciousness:

Defensiveness invites attack

Always Defending & Attacking

The whole defense system of the ego evolved to protect the separation from the light. The ego is always alert to threats, and the ego part of the mind is very anxious to preserve its reason, as it sees it. It does not realize that it is insane. And you must realize just what this means if you would be restored to sanity.
The insane protect their thought systems, but they do so insanely. And all their defenses are as insane as what they are supposed to protect. The separation has nothing in it, no part, no “reason,” and no attribute that is not insane. And its “protection” is part of it, as insane as the whole. The special relationship, which is its chief defense, must therefore be insane. You have but little difficulty now in realizing that the thought system of our special relationship protects, is but a system of delusions.

Arrogance is the denial of love because love shares and arrogance withholds. Do not underestimate the intensity of the ego’s drive for vengeance on the past. It is completely savage and completely insane. For the ego remembers everything you have done that has offended it, and seeks retribution of you. The fantasies it brings to its chosen relationships in which to act out its hate are fantasies of your destruction. For the ego holds the past against you, and in your escape from the past it sees itself deprived of the vengeance it believes you so justly merit. Yet without your alliance in your destruction, the ego could not hold you to the past. Yet in this special relationship with the ego, you are allowing your destruction to happen.

Taking dualistic positions creates polarization, which then creates opposition and division.

Time

The present merely reminds it of past hurts, and it reacts to the present as if it were the past. The ego cannot tolerate release from the past, and although the past is over, the ego tries to preserve its image by responding as if it were present. It dictates your reactions to those you meet in the present from a past reference point, obscuring their present reality. Unless you learn that past pain is an illusion, you are choosing a future of illusions and losing the many opportunities you could find for release in the present. The ego would preserve your nightmares, and prevent you from awakening and understanding they are past.

The ego teaches that your function on earth is destruction, and you have no function at all in Heaven. It would thus destroy you here and bury you here, leaving you no inheritance except the dust out of which it thinks you were made. As long as it is reasonably satisfied with you, as its reasoning goes, it offers you oblivion. When it becomes overtly savage, it offers you hell.

The ego has a strange notion of time, and it is with this notion that your questioning might well begin. The ego invests heavily in the past, and in the end, believes that the past is the only aspect of time that is meaningful. Remember that its emphasis on guilt enables it to ensure its continuity by making the future like the past, and thus avoiding the present. By the notion of paying for the past in the future, the past becomes the determiner of the future, making it continuous without an intervening present. The ego regards the present only as a brief transition to the future, in which it brings the past to the future by interpreting the present in past terms.

“Now” has no meaning to the ego. The present merely reminds it of past hurts, and it reacts to the present as if it were the past. The ego cannot tolerate release from the past, and although the past is over, the ego tries to preserve its image by responding as if it were present. It dictates your reactions to those you meet in the present from a past reference point, obscuring their present reality. In effect, if you follow the ego’s dictates you will react to your brother as though he were someone else, and this will surely prevent you from recognizing him as he is. And you will receive messages from him out of your past because, by making it real in the present, you are forbidding yourself to let it go. You thus deny yourself the message of release that every brother offers you now.

The shadowy figures from the past are precisely what you must escape. They are not real, and have no hold over you unless you bring them with you. They carry the spots of pain in your mind, directing you to attack the present in retaliation for a past that is no more. And this decision is one of future pain. Unless you learn that past pain is an illusion, you are choosing a future of illusions and losing the many opportunities you could find for release in the present. The ego would preserve your nightmares, and prevent you from awakening and understanding they are past. Would you recognize a holy encounter if you are merely perceiving it as a meeting with your past? For you would be meeting no one, and the sharing of salvation, which makes the encounter holy, would be excluded from your sight. The Holy Spirit teaches that you always meet yourself, and the encounter is holy because you are. The ego teaches that you always encounter your past, and because your dreams are not holy, the future cannot be, and the present is without meaning. The Holy Spirit’s perception of time is the exact opposite of the ego’s. The reason is equally clear, for they perceive the goal of time as opposed. The Holy Spirit interprets time’s purpose as rendering the need for time unnecessary. He regards the function of time as temporary, serving only His teaching function, which is temporary by definition. His emphasis is therefore on the only aspect of time that can extend to the infinite, for now is the closest approximation of eternity that this world offers. It is in the reality of “now,” without past or future, that the beginning of the appreciation of eternity lies. Only “now” is here, and only “now” presents the opportunities for the holy encounters in which salvation can be found.

The ego, on the other hand, regards the function of time as one of extending itself in place of eternity, for like the Holy Spirit, the ego interprets the goal of time as its own. The continuity of past and future, under its direction, is the only purpose the ego perceives in time, and it closes over the present so that no gap in its continuity can occur. Its continuity, then, would keep you in time, while the Holy Spirit would release you from it. It is His interpretation of the means of salvation that you must learn to accept if you would share His goal of salvation for you.

You, too, will interpret the function of time as you interpret yours. If you accept your function in the world of time as one of healing, you will emphasize only the aspect of time in which healing can occur. Healing cannot be accomplished in the past. It must be accomplished in the present to release the future. This interpretation ties the future to the present and extends the present rather than the past. But if you interpret your function as destruction, you will lose sight of the present and hold on to the past to ensure a destructive future. And time will be as you interpret it, for of itself it is nothing.

If you believe you understand something of the “dynamics” of the ego, let me assure you that you understand nothing of it. For yourself, you could not understand it. The study of the ego is not the study of the mind. The ego enjoys studying itself and thoroughly approves the undertakings of students who would “analyze” it, thus approving its importance. Yet they study forms with “meaningless” content.

Summary

The deification of the egoic structure—“Give me what I want when I want it”—is the action of fear seeking to usurp a high teaching.

We cannot make a definition of what the ego is, but we can say what it is not. And this is shown to us with perfect clarity. It is from this that we deduce all that the ego is. Look at its opposite and you can see the only meaningful answer.
The ego’s opposite in every way,–in origin, effect, and consequence–we call a miracle. Or Love. And here we find all that is not the ego in this world. Here is the ego’s opposite and here alone we look at what the ego was, for here we see all that it seemed to do, and cause and its effects must still be one. Remember the Ego always speaks in judgement…..

After this review of the ego mind: You should recognize, at least in general terms, that the ego is insane. Yet the special relationship still seems to you somehow to be “different.” Yet after having looked at it far closer than we have at many other aspects of the ego’s thought system. While this one remains, you will not let the others go.

This one is no different. Retain this, and you have retained the whole…

“the ego thought system is insane.”

The ego creates a different undivided world in each person. Not a united mind of the one true light energy of love.

Once we understand we operate from the ego thought system of me, me, me

Can you see it in conflict or conversations with others? Observing it first.

Realizing the emotions and control everyone has in their actions and words. Then you may also see to what degree the Ego controls them. Recognize the emotions of the ego in them and then in you.

The awareness of the ego added to the tools from the 4 Agreements, is a good system of emotional self-control. But now you must practice repeat and repeat. Practicing to see the triggers and/or seeing the emotions of the ego and not reacting but responding without anger, frustration, or saying or doing something you may regret….

This is when you need the Will and discipline and wanting to do this…. To be aware of your emotional triggers and the self-control of your reactions. Keep doing it until it is imprinted into your subconscious.

Making it a natural response or habit…..

Where are you on the EGO BALANCE Scale

Self <——————> Others

With Self-Love, Awareness, Lost Lessons & the 4 Agreements

✅ The Dream, Your Story, Your Movie &

The Warrior and Seer

When you’re a seer, humans are extremely predictable. You can see that all humans in the ego dream of the victims are possessed by the main character of their story. This is their point of view — their only point of view. The way they see life is very narrow, and it’s narrow because their beliefs act like a mirror that only shows them what they believe, and it’s obvious that it’s not true at all. They project what they believe on you, and you perceive what they project on you, but you don’t take it personally because you don’t assume that what they are projecting is true.

You know that what they project is what they believe about themselves, and you know that because you used to do the same thing. Once you become a seer, you see everything that other artists do to themselves, but your point of view is completely impersonal.

The process of unlearning takes you to a place where there’s no longer a judge and a victim in your story. It’s just a story, and you know that it’s your creation, but it’s just as if it’s happening to somebody else. You see all the stories; you see all the symbols; you see how people play with all of that, but it does not affect you. It doesn’t offend you, because you are completely immune. You see faces, you love the faces, but you are also aware that there’s something that doesn’t belong to your dream. It’s the personal ego dream that other artists are dreaming, and you have complete respect for their ego dream, for their creation.

Respect is a beautiful word, and it’s one of the most important symbols that we can understand. Imagine that you had never heard the word before, and let’s make it up and agree on a meaning, because just like any other symbol, we need to agree with the symbol or it won’t work for us.

Respect, like many of the symbols, begins with ourselves, and then it goes out to everyone and everything around us. If we don’t respect ourselves, how can we respect anyone or anything else? When you respect yourself, this means you accept yourself just the way you are. When you respect other people, this means you accept them just the way they are. When you respect everything in nature — the animals, the oceans, the atmosphere, the earth — this means you accept the entire creation just the way it is. We are also aware that there’s something that doesn’t belong to your dream.

It’s the personal “ego” dream that other artists are dreaming, and you have complete respect for their dream, for their creation. Respect makes it possible for all dreamers to live in harmony, to live in peace.

You are the one in charge of your life! This is your life.

All people live in their minds, in their world. They are in a completely different world from the one you live in. What others say and do is a projection of their world; their opinions about you concern the character who lives in their OWN Ego world, not in yours. Whatever people think of you is really about the image they have of you, and that image isn’t you. This is their self-centered imagined world and how they see things.

It is not yours

If you want to change the world, your world, your dream, your movie, the way to do it is by changing the main character of your story.

If you change the main character, then just like magic, all the secondary characters will start to change also.~4th Agreement

Change the energy of your world from the Ego-fear-based energy to your true you and the Love-based energy system from God.

Do not be surprised by the strength of the Ego, its defense system is tenacious. Impossible to delete the ego program, but it can be minimized, with hard work. The energy of the Ego can be changed to the energy of Love.

Personal Life Goals

• Do you want to establish good communication skills that can improve your work and any personal relationships?

• End conflicts and strife. End the negative and upsetting emotions from conflicts in stressful situations!

• Balance: is important in the balance of anything. Spend too much time, on anything and it will throw life out of balance…

• Don’t you want to be a “Cleaner” in Life?

Seven Steps for Overcoming Ego’s Hold on You~WDyer

Here are seven suggestions to help you transcend ingrained ideas of self-importance.

All of these are designed to help prevent you from falsely identifying with the self-important ego.

1. Stop being offended. The behavior of others isn’t a reason to be immobilized. That which offends you only weakens you. If you’re looking for occasions to be offended, you’ll find them at every turn. This is your ego at work convincing you that the world shouldn’t be the way it is. But you can become an appreciator of life and match up with the universal Spirit of Creation. You can’t reach the power of intention by being offended. By all means, act to eradicate the horrors of the world, which emanate from massive ego identification, but stay in peace. As A Course in Miracles reminds us: Peace is of God, you who are part of God are not at home except in his peace. Being offended creates the same destructive energy that offended you in the first place and leads to attack, counterattack, and war.

2. Let go of your need to win. Ego loves to divide us up into winners and losers. The pursuit of winning is a surefire means to avoid conscious contact with intention. Why? Because ultimately, winning is impossible all of the time. Someone out there will be faster, luckier, younger, stronger, and smarter—and back you’ll go to feeling worthless and insignificant. You’re not your winnings or your victories. You may enjoy competing, and have fun in a world where winning is everything, but you don’t have to be there in your thoughts. There are no losers in a world where we all share the same energy source. All you can say on a given day is that you performed at a certain level in comparison to the levels of others on that day. But today is another day, with other competitors and new circumstances to consider. You’re still the infinite presence in a body that’s another day (or decade) older. Let go of needing to win by not agreeing that the opposite of winning is losing. That’s the ego’s fear. If your body isn’t performing in a winning fashion on this day, it simply doesn’t matter when you aren’t identifying exclusively with your ego. Be the observer, noticing and enjoying it all without needing to win a trophy. Be at peace, and match up with the energy of intention. And ironically, although you’ll hardly notice it, more of those victories will show up in your life as you pursue them less.

3. Let go of your need to be right. The ego is the source of a lot of conflict and dissension because it pushes you in the direction of making other people wrong. When you’re hostile, you’ve disconnected from the power of intention. The creative Spirit is kind, loving, and receptive; and free of anger, resentment, or bitterness. Letting go of your need to be right in your discussions and relationships is like saying to your ego, I’m not a slave to you. I want to embrace kindness, and I reject your need to be right. I’m going to offer this person a chance to feel better by saying that she’s right and thank her for pointing me in the direction of truth. When you let go of the need to be right, you’re able to strengthen your connection to the power of intention. But keep in mind that ego is a determined combatant. I’ve seen people willing to die rather than let go of being right. I’ve seen people end otherwise beautiful relationships by sticking to their need to be right. I urge you to let go of this ego-driven need to be right by stopping yourself in the middle of an argument and asking yourself, Do I want to be right or be happy? When you choose the happy, loving, spiritual mode, your connection to intention is strengthened. These moments ultimately expand your new connection to the power of intention. The universal Source will begin to collaborate with you in creating the life you were intended to live.

4. Let go of your need to be superior. True nobility isn’t about being better than someone else. It’s about being better than you used to be. Stay focused on your growth, with a constant awareness that no one on this planet is any better than anyone else. We all emanate from the same creative life force. We all have a mission to realize our intended essence; all that we need to fulfill our destiny is available to us. None of this is possible when you see yourself as superior to others. It’s an old saw, but true: We are all equal in the eyes of God. Let go of your need to feel superior by seeing the unfolding of God in everyone. Don’t assess others based on their appearance, achievements, possessions, and other indices of ego. When you project feelings of superiority, that’s what you get back, leading to resentment and ultimately hostile feelings. These feelings become the vehicle that takes you farther away from your intention. Specialness always makes comparisons. It is established by a lack seen in another, and maintained by searching for and keeping clear in sight, all lacks it can perceive.

5. Let go of your need to have more. The mantra of the ego is more. It’s never satisfied. No matter how much you achieve or acquire, your ego will insist that it isn’t enough. You’ll find yourself in a perpetual state of striving, and eliminate the possibility of ever arriving. Yet in reality, you’ve already arrived, and how you choose to use this present moment of your life is your choice. Ironically, when you stop needing more, more of what you desire seems to arrive in your life. Since you’re detached from the need for it, you find it easier to pass it along to others, because you realize how little you need to be satisfied and at peace. The universal Source is content with itself, constantly expanding and creating new life, never trying to hold on to its creations for its selfish means. It creates and lets go. As you let go of your ego’s need to have more, you unify with that Source. You create, attract to yourself, and let it go, never demanding that more come your way. As an appreciator of all that shows up, you learn the powerful lesson St. Francis of Assisi taught: “ . . . it is in giving that we receive.” By allowing abundance to flow to and through you, you match up with your Source and guarantee that this energy will continue to flow.

6. Let go of identifying yourself based on your achievements. This may be a difficult concept if you think you are your achievements. God writes all the music, God sings all the songs, God builds all the buildings, and God is the source of all your achievements. I can hear your ego loudly protesting. Nevertheless, stay tuned to this idea. All emanates from Source! You and that Source are one! You’re not this body and its accomplishments. You are the observer. Notice it all; and be grateful for the abilities you’ve been given, the motivation to achieve, and the stuff you’ve accumulated. But give all the credit to the power of intention, which brought you into existence and which you’re a materialized part of. The less you need to take credit for your achievements and the more connected you stay to the seven faces of intention, the more you’re free to achieve, and the more will show up for you. It’s when you attach yourself to those achievements and believe that you alone are doing all of those things that you leave the peace and the gratitude of your Source.

7. Let go of your reputation. Your reputation is not located in you. It resides in the minds of others. Therefore, you have no control over it at all. If you speak to 30 people, you will have 30 reputations. Connecting to intention means listening to your heart and conducting yourself based on what your inner voice tells you is your purpose here. If you’re overly concerned with how you’re going to be perceived by everyone, then you’ve disconnected yourself from intention and allowed the opinions of others to guide you. This is your ego at work. It’s an illusion that stands between you and the power of intention. There’s nothing you can’t do unless you disconnect from the power source and become convinced that your purpose is to prove to others how masterful and superior you are and spend your energy attempting to win a giant reputation among other egos. Do what you do because your inner voice—always connected to and grateful to your Source—so directs you. Stay on purpose, detach from the outcome, and take responsibility for what does reside in you: your character. Leave your reputation for others to debate; it has nothing to do with you. Or as the book title says: What You Think of Me Is None of My Business!

And now the rest of the story

Beyond The 4 Agreements

We can’t destroy the ego but we can minimize it.

After you see the ego in yourself at some point you may want to change to ….

The alternative thought system to the Ego

Knowledge Thought System

By using your perception we can change to an improved thought system

The short answer is thinking with love from your heart.

Only thoughts & intentions of love, merging love & wisdom..

one perception, one truth, one law, one shared mind of God

Love shares and extends itself

Love never changes, thus Eternal

We are Love

One meaning, one emotion, and one purpose

The peace of one true perception

True perception fosters love

True perception is the basis for knowledge, but knowing is the affirmation of truth and beyond all perceptions.

True Knowledge never involves comparisons

The Ego Projects

What you project you disown, and therefore do not believe is yours. You are excluding yourself by the very judgment that you are different from the one on whom you project. Since you have also judged against what you project, you continue to attack it because you continue to keep it separated. By doing this unconsciously, you try to keep the fact that you attacked yourself out of awareness, and thus imagine that you have made yourself safe.

Yet projection will always hurt you. It reinforces your belief in your split mind, and its only purpose is to keep the separation going. It is solely a device of the ego to make you feel different from your brothers and separated from them. The ego justifies this because it makes you seem “better” than they are, thus obscuring your equality with them still further. Projection and attack are inevitably related because projection is always a means of justifying an attack. Anger without projection is impossible. The ego uses projection only to destroy your perception of both yourself and your brothers. The process begins by excluding something that exists in you but which you do not want and leads directly to excluding you from your brothers.

The Alternative to Projection or the Ego thought system

Any split in mind must involve a rejection of part of it, and this is the belief in separation. The Wholeness of God, which is His peace, cannot be appreciated except by a whole mind that recognizes the Wholeness of God’s creation. By this recognition, it knows its Creator. Exclusion and separation are synonymous, as are separation and dissociation. We have said before that the separation was and is dissociation, and that once it occurs projection becomes its main defense, or the device that keeps it going. The reason, however, may not be as obvious as you think.

The Holy Spirit begins by perceiving you as perfect. Knowing this perfection is shared He recognizes it in others, thus strengthening it in both. Instead of anger, this arouses love for both because it establishes inclusion. Perceiving equality, the Holy Spirit perceives equal needs. This invites Atonement automatically because Atonement is the one need in this world that is universal. To perceive yourself this way is the only way in which you can find happiness in the world. That is because it is the acknowledgment that you are not in this world, for the world is unhappy. How else can you find joy in a joyless place except by realizing that you are not there? You cannot be anywhere God did not put you, and God created you as part of Him. That is both where you are and what you are. It is completely unalterable. It is total inclusion. You cannot change it now or ever. It is forever true. It is not a belief, but a Fact. Anything that God created is as true as He is. Its truth lies only in its perfect inclusion in Him Who alone is perfect. To deny this is to deny yourself and Him since it is impossible to accept one without the other.

The perfect equality of the Holy Spirit’s perception is the reflection of the perfect equality of God’s knowing. The ego’s perception has no counterpart in God, but the Holy Spirit remains the Bridge between perception and knowledge. By enabling you to use perception in a way that reflects knowledge, you will ultimately remember it. The ego would prefer to believe that this memory is impossible, yet it is your perception the Holy Spirit guides. Your perception will end where it began. Everything meets in God, because everything was created by Him and in Him.

God created His Sons by extending His Thought and retaining the extensions of His Thought in His Mind. All His Thoughts are thus perfectly united within themselves and with each other. The Holy Spirit enables you to perceive this wholeness now. God created you to create. You cannot extend His Kingdom until you know of its wholeness.

Thoughts begin in the mind of the thinker, from which they reach outward. This is as true of God’s Thinking as it is of yours. Because your mind is split, you can perceive as well as think. Yet perception cannot escape the basic laws of mind. You perceive from your mind and project your perceptions outward. Although the perception of any kind is unreal, you made it and the Holy Spirit can therefore use it well. He can inspire perception and lead it toward God. This convergence seems to be far in the future only because your mind is not in perfect alignment with the idea and therefore does not want it now.

The Holy Spirit uses time but does not believe in it. Coming from God He uses everything for good, but He does not believe in what is not true. Since the Holy Spirit is in your mind, your mind can also believe only what is true. The Holy Spirit can speak only for this because He speaks for God. He tells you to return your whole mind to God because it has never left Him. If it has never left Him, you need only perceive it as it is to be returned. The full awareness of the Atonement, then, is the recognition that the separation never occurred. The ego cannot prevail against this because it is an explicit statement that the ego never occurred.

The ego can accept the idea that return is necessary because it can so easily make the idea seem difficult. Yet the Holy Spirit tells you that even return is unnecessary because what never happened cannot be difficult. However, you can make the idea of return both necessary and difficult. Yet it is surely clear that the perfect need nothing, and you cannot experience perfection as a difficult accomplishment, because that is what you are. This is how you must perceive God’s creations, bringing all of your perceptions into the one line the Holy Spirit sees. This line is the direct line of communication with God and lets your mind converge with His. There is no conflict anywhere in this perception because it means that all perception is guided by the Holy Spirit, Whose Mind is fixed on God. Only the Holy Spirit can resolve conflict because only the Holy Spirit is conflict-free. He perceives only what is true in your mind, and extends outward only to what is true in other minds.

The difference between the ego’s projection and the Holy Spirit’s extension is very simple. The ego projects to exclude, and therefore to deceive. The Holy Spirit extends by recognizing Himself in every mind and thus perceives them as one. Nothing conflicts in this perception, because what the Holy Spirit perceives is all the same. Wherever He looks He sees Himself, and because He is united He offers the whole Kingdom always. This is the one message God gave to Him and for which He must speak, because that is what He is. The peace of God lies in that message, and so the peace of God lies in you. The great peace of the Kingdom shines in your mind forever, but it must shine outward to make you aware of it.

The Holy Spirit was given to you with perfect impartiality, and only by recognizing Him impartially can you recognize Him at all. The ego is legion, but the Holy Spirit is One. No darkness abides anywhere in the Kingdom, but your part is only to allow no darkness to abide in your mind. This alignment with light is unlimited because it is in alignment with the light of the world. Each of us is the light of the world, and by joining our minds in this light we proclaim the Kingdom of God together and as one.

One True Perception

A common purpose is the only means whereby perception can be stabilized, and one interpretation given to the world and all experiences here. In this shared purpose is one judgment shared by everyone and everything you see. You do not have to judge, for you have learned one meaning has been given everything, and you are glad to see it everywhere.

It cannot change because you would perceive it everywhere, unchanged by circumstance. And so you offer it to all events, and let them offer you stability.

Escape from judgment simply lies in this; all things have but one purpose, which you share with all the world. And nothing in the world can be opposed to it, for it belongs to everything, as it belongs to you.

With this one united goal, this becomes possible. LOVE

God uses our intelligence or reason to change our perception from the ego thought system to the knowledge thought system on our way to unite with God's mind.

When fully vested in the faith and truth of who we truly are, perception is not needed. Knowledge doesn’t use interpretation, perception, judgment, or emotions of anger.

Perception is the medium by which ignorance is brought to knowledge. Yet the perception must be without deceit, for otherwise it becomes the messenger of ignorance rather than a helper in the search for truth. It is not possible to convince the unknowing that they know. From their point of view, it is not true. Yet it is true because God knows it.

These are opposite viewpoints on what the “unknowing” are. To God, unknowing is impossible. It is therefore not a point of view at all, but merely a belief in something that does not exist. It is only this belief that the unknowing have, and by it, they are wrong about themselves. They have defined themselves as they were not created. Their creation was not a point of view, but rather a certainty. Uncertainty brought to certainty does not retain any conviction of reality.

Knowledge

Knowledge does not do anything. It can be perceived as an attacker, but it cannot attack. What you perceive as its attack is your vague recognition that knowledge can always be remembered, never having been destroyed.

Knowing is not open to interpretation

Knowledge doesn’t use interpretation, perception, judgment, or emotions of anger.

True Knowledge transcends the laws governing perception because partial knowledge is impossible.

Knowledge is all one and has no separate parts. In the presence of knowledge, all judgment is automatically suspended, and this is the process that enables recognition to replace perception.

The oneness of God’s Knowledge is free of conflict.

If you speak from spirit you have chosen to “Be still and know that I am God.” These words are inspired because they reflect knowledge.

If you speak from the ego you are disclaiming knowledge and are thus disspiriting yourself. Ego believes in separation.

Spirit reacts in the same way to everything it knows is true, and does not respond at all to anything else. Nor does it make any attempt to establish what is true. It knows that what is true is everything that God created. It is in complete and direct communication with every aspect of creation because it is in complete and direct communication with its Creator. This communication is the Will of God. Creation and communication are synonymous. God created every mind by communicating His Mind to it, thus establishing it forever as a channel for the reception of His Mind and Will. Since only beings of a like order can truly communicate, His creations naturally communicate with Him and like Him.

This communication is perfectly abstract since its quality is universal in application and not subject to any judgment, any exception, or any alteration.

God created you by this and for this. The mind can distort its function, but it cannot endow itself with functions it was not given.

That is why the mind cannot lose the ability to communicate, even though it may refuse to utilize it on behalf of the being, who is using the ego. You cannot be aware without interpretation, for what you perceive is your interpretation.

Knowledge Thought System

Your perception must be straightened out before you can know anything.

To know is to be certain. Uncertainty means that you do not know. Knowledge is power because it is certain, and certainty is strength.

Perception is temporary. As an attribute of the belief in space and time, it is subject to either fear or love. Misperceptions produce fear and true perceptions foster love, but neither brings certainty because all perception varies. That is why it is not knowledge.

True perception is the basis for knowledge, but knowing is the affirmation of truth and beyond all perceptions. Knowledge never involves comparisons. That is its main difference from everything else the mind can grasp.

What do you want? Light or darkness, knowledge or ignorance are yours, but not both. Opposites must be brought together, not kept apart. For their separation is only in your mind, and they are reconciled by union, as you are. In union, everything that is not real must disappear, for truth is union. As darkness disappears in light, so ignorance fades away when knowledge dawns.

Abstract thought applies to knowledge because Knowledge is completely impersonal, and examples are irrelevant to its understanding. Knowing is not open to interpretation.

You may try to “interpret” meaning, but this is always open to error because it refers to the perception of meaning.

Knowledge transcends the laws governing perception because partial knowledge is impossible. It is all one and has no separate parts. You who are one with it need but know yourself and your knowledge is complete. To know God’s miracle is to know Him.

Rational Thought-Seeking Truth

Truth or True Knowledge

Realize to Believe; [to understand, to feel it] to experience it….

Knowledge is that your mind is part of God and one with God. This is the absolute truth. God and everything he makes is eternal. God is Love and thus you are Love. Realizing who you truly are and then changing your thought system to Love. This is knowing, realizing, and true Knowledge.

1. To Know – that we are all, a part of God. Made in his image, with his energy of love. It is who we are. We are all the same. Life is of the mind and in the mind, not the body. The body is only for communication. To understand, to Know, we are all one. Everything God has made is one light energy of love, just at different vibrations. Everything he has made is eternal.
   That there is one truth of Love. One law of Love. One perception of Love. With this there is no judgment, no control, no should have.

2. To Realize, that we must become one mind with God or Love.

a) To overcome the Ego's dominance. You can’t destroy ego, but we can control or minimize it. We must become one mind of the spirit. This is done by Love. Every interpretation you would lay upon a brother is senseless. Let the Holy Spirit show him to you, and teach you both his love and his call for love. Neither his mind nor yours holds more than these two orders of thought. This leads to part

b)- All your thoughts, desires, and intentions should start with…… Love

1. To Understand, because of our human perception, we must forgive all, for us to be forgiven. To Know – With God – That there is no sin just errors. Errors can be undone. Every loveless thought must be undone, a word the ego cannot even understand.

Your whole world is created within your mind. You and your brother will yet come together in my name, and your sanity and split minds will be restored.

The ego has so many perceptions or truths. The Spirit but one. The world we have created makes the ego mind dominant until we choose the truth in God's energy of love.

It is through the activation of consciousness in awareness and congruence with the Divine Self that one manifests from a place of knowing. Truth is not subjective. Opinions are subjective. What is true is always true and will always be true. What is eternal is true. And the idea of factions, each one touting a separate truth, must be understood as a masquerade. Knowledge comes from the altar within and is timeless because it is certain. To perceive the truth is not the same as to know it.

At some point, you might realize you may want to go beyond the 4 agreements and change your beliefs and operating thought system to God's Knowledge System.

This will come most likely from experience. And you probably won’t even need or want any of this material.

Re-read all the Lost Lessons files from me… and the Toltec books and “The Power of your Subconscious Mind.” “Living the Science of Mind” and other any book recommendations that may speak to you.

Because most aren’t also taught or fully understand

• We all are one with God and a part of God

• We are an ETERNAL Energy System

• Thus, We are eternal

• The universe is a Spiritual Universe

• The Truth of God Knowledge thought system or the law of Love

But you most likely won’t unless a catalyst or life experience makes you want to change or look at your major beliefs.

This part can’t be taught from these words in the Game folder. These words can only help to push, lead you there, or assist you.

You must have the willingness to want to change major beliefs and thought patterns. You must be able to answer the call, to hear and see from God's Mind or energy.

You most likely must have an experience or experiences to want to change. You must feel or have a feeling in wanting the changes you undertake.

• Life is feelings…. YOU choose these feelings, no one else. You must control your feelings. Do not let your feelings control you.

• YOU believe what you feel

• YOU choose your energy. No one can choose what your feelings are, you are the only one who chooses by your attitude, beliefs, your intentions

• YOU have free will into how and what you form and make God's neutral energy into….. Goodness and Love or the many faces of our human Fear

• God doesn’t make or acknowledge evil/sin. God views it as an error or mistake in the use of our free will while in the temporary human body. A distortion of his energy of universal Love

• YOU must have or develop complete belief or faith in all of this to learn the TRUTH

• YOU have to understand we are all made of love and are part of God

• While here YOU must learn how to FORGIVE and love yourself 1st.

• 2nd to have the same as everyone else in this world you know or don’t know

• Heaven or hell is what’s inside of you, the real you is NOT this temporary body. The energy of Love. The sliver each of us has of God's energy we are made of….

• CHOICE: YOU choose…..LIFE IS A CHOICE. Heaven or hell is a choice! Love or Fear is a choice. Your Feelings is a choice.

Choosing depends on learning. And the truth cannot be learned, but only recognized. In recognition its acceptance lies, and as it is accepted it is known.

However, knowledge is beyond the goals we seek to teach within the framework of this material. Ours are teaching goals, to be attained through learning how to reach them, what they are, and what they offer you.

Decisions are the outcome of your learning, for they rest on what you have accepted as the truth of what you are, and what your needs must be.

Errors

To the ego, it is kind and right and good to point out errors and “correct” them. This makes perfect sense to the ego, which is unaware of what errors are and what correction is. Errors are of the ego, and correction of errors lies in the relinquishment of the ego. When you correct a brother, you are telling him that he is wrong. He may be making no sense at the time, and it is certain that, if he is speaking from the ego, he will not be making sense. But your task is still to tell him he is right. You do not tell him this verbally if he is speaking foolishly. He needs correction at another level because his error is at another level. He is still right because he is the Son of God. His ego is always wrong, no matter what it says or does.

If you point out the errors of your brother’s ego you must be seeing through yours, because the Holy Spirit does not perceive his errors. This must be true since there is no communication between the ego and the Holy Spirit. The ego makes no sense, and the Holy Spirit does not attempt to understand anything that arises from it. Since He does not understand it, He does not judge it, knowing that nothing the ego makes means anything.

When a brother behaves insanely, you can heal him only by perceiving his sanity in him. If you perceive his errors and accept them, you are accepting yours. If you want to give yours over to the Holy Spirit, you must do this with his. Unless this becomes the one way in which you handle all errors, you cannot understand how all errors are undone. How is this different from telling you that what you teach you learn? Your brother is as right as you are, and if you think he is wrong you are condemning yourself.

You cannot correct yourself. Is it possible, then, for you to correct another?

Your brother’s errors are not of him, any more than yours are of you. Accept his errors as real, and you have attacked yourself. If you find your way and keep it, see only truth beside you for you walk together. The Holy Spirit in you forgives all things in you and your brother. His errors are forgiven with yours. Atonement is no more separate than love. Atonement cannot be separate because it comes from love. Any attempt you make to correct a brother means that you believe correction by you is possible, and this can only be the arrogance of the ego. Correction is of God, Who does not know of arrogance.

The Holy Spirit forgives everything because God created everything. Do not undertake His function, or you will forget yours.

Forgiveness through the Holy Spirit lies simply in looking beyond error from the beginning, and thus keeping it unreal for you. Do not let any belief in its realness enter your mind, or you will also believe that you must undo what you have made to be forgiven. What has no effect does not exist, and to the Holy Spirit, the effects of error are nonexistent. By steadily and consistently canceling out all its effects, everywhere and in all respects, He teaches that the ego does not exist and proves it.

What has been forgotten appears to be fearful, but only because the dissociation is an attack on truth. You are fearful because you have forgotten. And you have replaced your knowledge with an awareness of ego dreams because you are afraid of your dissociation, not of what you have dissociated. When what you have dissociated is accepted, it ceases to be fearful. To identify with the ego is to attack yourself and make yourself poor. That is why everyone who identifies with the ego feels deprived. What he experiences then is depression or anger, because what he did was exchange Self-love for self-hate, making him afraid of himself. He does not realize this. Even if he is fully aware of anxiety he does not perceive its source as his ego identification, and he always tries to handle it by making some sort of insane “arrangement” with the world. He always perceives this world as outside himself, for this is crucial to his adjustment. He does not realize that he makes this world, for there is no world outside of him.

Definition: THE EGO

Illusions will not last. Their death is sure and this alone is certain in their world. It is the ego’s world because of this. What is the ego? But a dream of what you are. A thought you are apart from your Creator and a wish to be what He created not. It is a thing of madness, not reality at all. A name for namelessness is all it is. A symbol of impossibility; a choice for options that do not exist. We name it but to help us understand that it is nothing but an ancient thought that what is made has immortality. But what could come of this except a dream which, like all dreams, can only end in death?

What is the ego? Nothingness, but in a form that seems like something. In a world of form, the ego cannot be denied for it alone seems real.

Yet could God’s Son as He created him abide in form or a world of form? Who asks you to define the ego and explain how it arose can be but he who thinks it real, and seeks by definition to ensure that its illusive nature is concealed behind the words that seem to make it so.

There is no definition for a lie that serves to make it true.

Nor can there be a truth that lies conceal effectively.

The ego’s unreality is not denied by words nor is its meaning clear because its nature seems to have a form. Who can define the undefinable? And yet there is an answer even here.

This was the ego–all the cruel hate, the need for vengeance and the cries of pain, the fear of dying and the urge to kill, the brotherless illusion and the self that seemed alone in all the universe.

We cannot make a definition of what the ego is, but we can say what it is not. And this is shown to us with perfect clarity. It is from this that we deduce all that the ego is. Look at its opposite and you can see the only meaningful answer.

The ego’s opposite in every way, in origin, effect, and consequence–we call a miracle (or love)And here we find all that is not the ego in this world. Here is the ego’s opposite and here alone we look at what the ego was, for here we see all that it seemed to do, and cause and its effects must still be.

Truth

CHOICE

Perception

Time

Our basic, automatic, selfish ego thought system or God's love thought system? Once we understand basic human behavior, we have a choice.

BALANCE between the self and others.

Understanding what the ego thought system is and then being able to…..

1. First, see the ego in others

2. 2nd, see the ego in you

LIFE IS BALANCE

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If you wish a shortcut and starting point….

The short answer is to learn and implement the 4 Agreements in your life…

The whole defense system the ego evolved to protect the separation from the Holy Spirit was in response to the gift with which God blessed it, and His blessing enabled it to be healed.

This blessing holds within itself the truth about everything. And the truth is that the Holy Spirit is in close relationship with you, because in Him is your relationship with God restored to you.

The relationship with Him has never been broken, because the Holy Spirit has not been separate from anyone since the separation. And through Him have all your holy relationships been carefully preserved, to serve God’s purpose for you.

Everything happens for a reason. And you must learn and see the lesson from any experience, good or bad.

Everything. Your highs. Your lows. Your happiest moments and the most painful ones. Your failures and your successes. Your losses and your gains.

Just remember - people can't come in and out of your life for no reason. The lessons you learn and the growth that you experience are never spontaneous. It's always meant to be. There's a higher purpose. A goal. A final destination, or a peak in your journey that you will have no idea of until you reach it. But for that, you need to climb the mountain. For that, you need to look for a deeper meaning. For that, you need to pay attention to everything and everyone around you, especially those who love you and leave you.

There are some lessons that only people and their existence can give you. There are some lessons that only pain can bring out. There are some lessons that the biggest joys of your life will reveal to you. And there are some lessons that you never knew were lessons until they walked out of your life.

Think about it - only then will you stop treating your growth as an accident and start appreciating it as the most beautiful journey created just for you. ~ unknown

You move beyond karma when a lesson is learned. If there is a lesson to be learned, you may meet it quickly in your knowledge. You are not seeking to figure out what went wrong. You are realizing what went wrong, or what claimed you in difficulty, what aspect of you, what behavior you incurred, what action you took, that claimed that situation(or event). This is not magic. The realization is made with benefit, but it is not the get-out-of-jail-free card. In other words, if you broke the window, replace the window. Don’t expect God to replace the window.

The lesson was:

… Don’t throw a rock at the window; you may have to pay for it.

You are the teacher and the student

Recognize the difference between sleeping and waking, so you will understand you need not be afraid of dreams. And so when bad dreams come, you will themselves call on the light to dispel them.

Teaching is a lesson in remembering and unlearning. I said before that teaching is remembering and forgetting(or unlearning), but the forgetting is only to make the remembering consistent. You forget to remember better. You will not understand while you listen to two ways of interpreting them. Therefore, you must forget or relinquish one to understand the other. This is the only way you can learn consistency so that you can finally be consistent. The knowledge is not taught, but its conditions must be acquired, for it is they that have been thrown away. You can learn to bless, and cannot give what you have not. If, then, you offer blessing, it must have come first to yourself.

You cannot see the invisible. Yet if you see its effects, you know it must be there. By perceiving what it does, you recognize its being. And by what it does, you learn what it is. You cannot see your strengths, but you gain confidence in their existence as they enable you to act. And the results of your actions you can see. The thoughts the mind of God’s Son projects or extends have all the power that he gives to them. The thoughts he shares with God are beyond his belief, but those he made are his beliefs. And it is these, and not the truth, that he has chosen to defend and love.

God's lesson in simplicity with the fundamental teaching that truth is true. This is the hardest lesson you will ever learn, and in the end, the only one. Simplicity is very difficult for twisted minds. Consider all the distortions you have made of nothing; all the strange forms and feelings and actions and reactions that you have woven out of it. Nothing is so alien to you as the simple truth, and nothing is less inclined to be listened to. The contrast between what is true and what is not is perfectly apparent, yet you do not see it. The simple and the obvious are not apparent to those who would make palaces and royal robes of nothing, believing they are kings with golden crowns because of them.

The study of the ego is not the study of the mind. The ego enjoys studying itself, and thoroughly approves the undertakings of students who would “analyze” it, thus approving its importance.

Yet they study with meaningless content. For their teacher is senseless, though careful to conceal this fact behind impressive-sounding words, but which lack any consistent sense when they are put together.

This is characteristic of the ego’s judgments. Separately, they seem to hold, but put them together, and the system of thought that arises from joining them is incoherent and utterly chaotic.

The truth is true.

Nothing else matters, nothing else is real, and everything besides it is not there. Let Me make the one distinction for you that you cannot make, but need to learn. Your faith in nothing is deceiving you.

Offer your faith to God, and I will place it gently in the holy place where it belongs. You will find no deception there, but only the simple truth. And you will love it because you will understand it.

We need to remember only that whoever attains the real world, beyond which learning cannot go, will go beyond it, but in a different way. Where learning ends, there God begins, for learning ends before Him Who is complete where He begins, and where there is no end. It is not for us to dwell on what cannot be attained. There is too much to learn. The readiness for knowledge still must be attained.

Love is not learned. Its meaning lies within itself. And learning ends when you have recognized all it is not. That is the interference; that is what needs to be undone. Love is not learned, because there never was a time in which you knew it not. Learning is useless in the Presence of your Creator, Whose acknowledgment of you and yours of Him so far transcend all learning that everything you learned is meaningless, replaced forever by the knowledge of love and its one meaning. The truth makes no decisions, for there is nothing to decide between.

The knowledge of love and its one meaning. The truth makes no decisions, for there is nothing to decide between.

Nothing the Son of God believes can be destroyed. But what is truth to him must be brought to the last comparison that he will ever make; the last evaluation that will be possible, the final judgment upon this world. It is the judgment of the truth upon illusion, of knowledge on perception: “It has no meaning, and does not exist.” This is not your decision. It is but a simple statement of a simple fact.

This material's only purpose is to teach what is the same and what is different, leaving room to make the only choice that can be made.

Faith is essential to a solid foundation

Your learning potential, properly understood, is limitless because it will lead you to God. You can teach the way to Him and learn it if you follow the Teacher Who knows the way to Him and understands His curriculum for learning it. The curriculum is totally unambiguous because the goal is not divided, and the means and the end are in complete accord. You need to offer only undivided attention. Everything else will be given to you. For you want to learn aright, and nothing can oppose the decision of God’s Son. His learning is as unlimited as he is.

Knowledge is not the motivation for learning this course. Peace is.

This is the prerequisite for knowledge only because those who are in conflict are not peaceful, and peace is the condition of knowledge because it is the condition of the Kingdom. Knowledge can be restored only when you meet its conditions.

God created you for Himself, but He gave you the power to create for yourself so you would be like Him. That is why your mind is holy. Can anything exceed the Love of God? Can anything, then, exceed your will? Nothing can reach you from beyond it because, being in God, you encompass everything. Believe this, and you will realize how much is up to you.

Choice

…You chose to come here. You were chosen to come here.

As I entered this physical realm, I brought with me two things:

…My mission and free will.

I am free to choose happiness, enlightenment, and higher thought, no matter what circumstances challenge me to this day.

When love alone acts as your compass, your life is always right on course.

…Free will is our right to make our own decisions and choices…..

As humans and the current world we have, we must still use perception, but realize that it must be based on truth or love, to serve us properly.

The CHOICE to serve the Ego or the Truth…..

“Well, I don’t have to like people,” and you’re correct. But like is a personality structure. It is a simple preference. “I prefer my coffee black.” “I prefer mine with cream.” You have your ideas for one another, and that is how you negotiate a reality. While we realize they are our brothers or sisters, they are acting from their ego.

The Power in Choice

Even our perspectives originate from our conscious choices. Great consideration is necessary, for tremendous responsibility is inherent in the major life choices we make. From our choices, our quality of life manifests. From our choices, other people's lives are influenced, for better or worse, as well. In the end, we are the choices we make in life.

A component of everyone's divine mission on Earth is to choose to be pure of heart and to remain true to the cause of righteousness. Holding steadfast to

The promise of goodness and the principles of truth in the face of adversity is the sacred path of the spiritual hero.

Imagination

In being given the power of choice, we are also given the gift of imagination. Conscious and constant application of this potent combination guarantees that we become the masters of our fate. As we exercise our power of choice through the magic of imagination, we perfect our skill as the sole architects of the personal world we wish to design. Our lives will be as beautiful and abundant as we choose to create them.

Our imagination and perception manifest our reality. What we choose to believe becomes the mirror of our existence. Harnessing the power of our imagination then becomes a driving force, giving us the ability to rise

above the everyday events that appear to control our lives. Therefore, our experience of life is limited only by the cap we place upon our imagination. This brings the point full circle — to be responsible.

Life is the sum of our choices, predicated upon the responsibilities we willingly take on. This allows our imagination to seek the greatest possible variety of options available for the fulfillment of our spiritual destiny.

To live a life of excellence is to personify virtue in action. Therefore, it is our divine responsibility to choose wisely based on the counsel of a virtuous heart.

Your daily experiences are a reflection of the thought patterns you hold in your mind. What you think about yourself, others, and the world are the ones what influences the types of experiences you have.

Your mind has extraordinary creative powers. You can use this power to your benefit or your detriment. We are connected with everything, and we affect everything through our intent.

Our intent is a different part of our mind than our reason.

Always begin with Love and end with Goodness or Love

With the Mastery of Dreaming, we gain control over the energy that goes into dreaming this "Fixed reality" day in and day out. Once we start using the etheric energy at our disposal, "... there are no limits to the explorations we can make into other realities using what can be called etheric or astral traveling. When we perceive etheric (LOVE)energy, we perceive a greater portion of the totality of being than when we perceive (only) physical energy."

Ego vs Knowledge (truth or love)

Everyone identifies himself with his thought system, and every thought system centers on what you believe you are. If the center of the thought system is true, only truth extends from it. But if a lie is at its center, only deception proceeds from it.

No one who learns from experience that one choice brings peace and joy while another (ego choice)brings chaos and disaster needs additional convincing.

Guilt feelings are the preservers of time. They induce fears of retaliation or abandonment and thus ensure that the future will be like the past. This is the ego’s continuity. It gives the ego a false sense of security by believing that you cannot escape from it. But you can and must.

Associate misery with the ego and joy with the spirit and truth. You have taught yourself the opposite. You are still free to choose, but do you want the rewards of the ego in the presence of the rewards of God's knowledge thought system? Your mission is very simple. You are asked to live to demonstrate that you are not an ego.

The communication system of the ego is based on its own thought system, as is everything else it dictates. Its communication is controlled by its need to protect itself, and it will disrupt communication when it experiences a threat. This disruption is a reaction to a specific person or persons.

The ego, which is not real, attempts to persuade the mind, which is real, that the mind is the ego’s learning device, and further, that the body is more real than the mind is. No one in his right mind could believe this, and no one in his right mind would believe it.

The meaninglessness of perception based on the ego's unbelievable is apparent, but it may not be recognized as being beyond belief, because it is made by belief.

Two ways of looking at the world are in your mind, and your perception will reflect the guidance you have chosen….

In contrast, the (spirit) knowledge thought system reacts in the same way to everything it knows is true, and does not respond at all to anything else. Nor does it make any attempt to establish what is true. It knows that what is true is everything that God created. It is in complete and direct communication with every aspect of creation because it is in complete and direct communication with its Creator. This communication is the Will of God.

Creation and communication are synonymous. God created every mind by communicating His Mind to it, thus establishing it forever as a channel for the reception of His Mind and Will. Since only beings of a like order can truly communicate, His creations naturally communicate with Him and like Him. God created you by this and for this.

Existence as well as being rests on communication. Existence, however, is specific in how, what, and with whom communication is judged to be worth undertaking. Being is completely without these distinctions. It is a state in which the mind is in communication with everything real. To whatever extent you permit this state to be curtailed, you are limiting your sense of reality.

The Holy Spirit, who leads to God, translates communication into being, just as He ultimately translates perception into knowledge. You do not lose what you communicate. The ego uses the body for attack, pleasure, and pride. The insanity of this perception makes it a fearful one indeed. The Holy Spirit sees the body only as a means of communication, and because communicating is sharing, it becomes communion. Perhaps you think that fear as well as love can be communicated, and therefore can be shared. Yet this is not so real as it may appear. Those who communicate fear are promoting an attack, and an attack always breaks communication, making it impossible. Egos do join together in temporary allegiance, but always for what each one can get separately. The Holy Spirit communicates only what each one can give to all. He never takes anything back, because He wants you to keep it. Therefore, His teaching begins with the lesson:

To have, give all to all

Thoughts increase by being given away. The more who believe in them, the stronger they become. Everything is an idea. How, then, can giving and losing be associated?

Choice & Perception

Perception is not Knowledge, but it can be transferred to Knowledge, or crossed over into it. Become aware of the knowledge that lies beyond perception. Use the thought system of love and true truth….. Minimize the ego…. You must choose to hear one of two voices within you. One you made yourself, and that one is not of God.

But the other is given to you by God, Who asks you only to listen to it. The Holy Spirit is in you in a very literal sense. His is the Voice that calls you back to where you were before and will be again. It is possible even in this world to hear only that Voice and no other. It takes effort and a great willingness to learn.

The Holy Spirit is part of you. Created by God, He left neither God nor His creation. He is both God and you, as you are God and Him together. For God’s Answer to the separation added more to you than you tried to take away. He protected both your creations and you together, keeping with you what you would exclude. And they will take the place of what you took in to replace them. They are quite real, as part of the Self you do not know. They communicate to you through the Holy Spirit, and their power and gratitude to you for their creation, they offer gladly to your teaching of yourself, who is their home. You who are hosts to God are also hosts to them. For nothing real has ever left the mind of its creator. And what is not real was never there.

You have a choice by perception in the ego or by knowledge in the truth of love.

With perception’s fundamental law: You see what you believe is there, and you believe it is there because you want it there. Perception has no other law than this. The rest stems from this: to hold it up and offer it support. This is perception’s form, adapted to this world, of God’s more basic law; that love creates itself, and nothing but itself.

How can a misperception be a sin? The choice of God's knowledge thought system considers all of egos thoughts as errors or misperception.

The Maker of the world of gentleness has perfect power to offset the world of violence and hate that seems to stand between you and His gentleness. It is not there in His forgiving eyes. And therefore it need not be there in yours. Sin is the fixed belief perception cannot change. What has been damned is damned and damned forever, being forever unforgivable. If, then, it is forgiven, sin’s perception must vision sin cannot encroach, for sin has been corrected by His sight.

And thus it must have been an error, not a sin. For what it claimed could never be, has been. Sin is attacked by punishment, and so preserved. But to forgive it is to change its state from error into truth.

God’s laws do not apply directly to a world perception rules, for such a world could not have been created by the Mind to which perception has no meaning. Yet are His laws reflected everywhere. Not that the world where this reflection is, is real at all. Only because His Son believes it is, and from His Son’s belief, He could not let Himself be separate entirely. He could not enter His Son’s insanity with him, but He could be sure His sanity went there with him, so he could not be lost forever in the madness of his wish.

Perception rests on choosing; knowledge does not. Knowledge has but one law because it has but one Creator. But this world has two who made it, and they do not see it as the same. To each, it has a different purpose, and to each, it is a perfect means to serve the goal for which it is perceived. For specialness, it is the perfect frame to set it off; the perfect battleground to wage its wars, the perfect shelter for illusions which it would make real. Not one but it upholds in its perception; not one but can be fully justified.

The Holy Spirit is your Guide in choosing. He is in the part of your mind that always speaks for the right choice because He speaks for God. Because we are energy, not the body. We are eternal. Part of God's energy. We know what God creates is eternal. That is the truth. We are the energy of love.

The only aspect of time that is eternal is now.

The perception of goodness is not knowledge, but the denial of the opposite of goodness enables you to recognize a condition in which opposites do not exist. And this is the condition of knowledge. Without this awareness you have not met its conditions, and until you do you will not know it is yours already.

This is a very simple course. Perhaps you do not feel you need a course which, in the end, teaches that only reality is true. But do you believe it? When you perceive the real world, you will recognize that you did not believe it. Yet the swiftness with which your new and only real perception will be translated into knowledge will leave you but an instant to realize that this alone is true. And then everything you made will be forgotten; the good and the bad, the false and the true. For as Heaven and earth become one, even the real world will vanish from your sight. The end of the world is not its destruction, but its translation into Heaven. The reinterpretation of the world is the transfer of all perception to knowledge.

The Bible tells you to become as little children. Little children recognize that they do not understand what they perceive, and so they ask what it means. Do not make the mistake of believing that you understand what you perceive, for its meaning is lost to you. Yet the Holy Spirit has saved its meaning for you, and if you will let Him interpret it, He will restore to you what you have thrown away. Yet while you think you know its meaning, you will see no need to ask it of Him.

You do not know the meaning of anything you perceive. Not one thought you hold is wholly true. The recognition of this is your firm beginning. You are not misguided; you have accepted no guide at all. Instruction in perception is your great need, for you understand nothing. Recognize this but do not accept it, for understanding is your inheritance. Perceptions are learned, and you are not without a Teacher. Yet your willingness to learn of Him depends on your willingness to question everything you learned of yourself, for you who learned amiss should not be your own teacher

Children perceive frightening ghosts and monsters and dragons, and they are terrified. Yet if they ask someone they trust for the meaning of what they perceive, and are willing to let their own interpretations go in favor of reality, their fear goes with them. When a child is helped to translate his “ghost” into a curtain, his “monster” into a shadow, and his “dragon” into a dream he is no longer afraid, and laughs happily at his own fear.

You may complain that this course is not sufficiently specific for you to understand and use. Yet perhaps you have not done what it specifically advocates. This is not a course in the play of ideas, but in their practical application. Nothing could be more specific than to be told that if you ask you will receive.

Fear(ego) vs love or goodness

Understanding is light, and light leads to knowledge. You must learn to think with God. To think with Him is to think like Him. Only what God creates is irreversible, unchangeable, and always true. What you made can always be changed because, when you do not think like God, you are not thinking at all. Delusional ideas are not real thoughts, although you can believe in them. But you are wrong. The function of thought comes from God and is in God. As part of His Thought, you cannot think apart from Him. The first step in the undoing is to recognize that you actively decided wrongly, but can as actively decide otherwise. Be very firm with yourself in this, and keep yourself fully aware that the undoing process, which does not come from you, is nevertheless within you because God placed it there. Your part is merely to return your thinking to the point at which the error was made and give it over to God. When God created you, He made you part of Him. That is why an attack within the Kingdom is impossible.

God does not teach. To teach is to imply a lack, which God knows is not there. God is not conflicted. Teaching aims at change, but God created only the changeless. The separation was not a loss of perfection, but a failure in communication. A harsh and strident form of communication arose as the ego’s voice. It could not shatter the peace of God, but it could shatter yours. God did not blot it out, because to eradicate it would be to attack it. Being questioned, He did not question. He merely gave the Answer. His Answer is your Teacher. Like any good teacher, the Holy Spirit knows more than you do now, but He teaches only to make you equal with Him. You had already taught yourself wrongly, having believed what was not true. You did not believe in your perfection. Would God teach you that you had made a split mind when He knows your mind only as a whole? What God does know is that His communication channels are not open to Him, so He cannot impart His joy and know that His children are wholly joyous. Giving His joy is an ongoing process, not in time but in eternity. God’s extending outward, though not His completeness, is blocked when the Sonship does not communicate with Him as one. So he thought, “My children sleep and must be awakened

Ego Fear & Guilt

The ego is the symbol of separation, just as the Holy Spirit is the symbol of peace. The ego’s purpose is fear because only the fearful can be egotistic. Every disordered thought is attended by guilt at its inception and maintained by guilt in its continuance. Guilt is inescapable for those who believe they order their thoughts and must therefore obey their dictates. This makes them feel responsible for their errors without recognizing that, by accepting this responsibility, they are reacting irresponsibly.

Judgement

The ego speaks in judgment, and the Holy Spirit reverses its decision, much as a higher court has the power to reverse a lower court’s decisions in this world. The ego’s decisions are always wrong, because they are based on the error they were made to uphold. Nothing the ego perceives is interpreted correctly. Not only does the ego cite Scripture for its purpose, but it even interprets Scripture as a witness for itself. The Bible is a fearful thing in the ego’s judgment. Perceiving it as frightening, it interprets it fearfully. Being afraid, you do not appeal to the Higher Court because you believe its judgment would also be against you.

There are many examples of how the ego’s interpretations are misleading, but a few will suffice to show how the Holy Spirit can reinterpret them in His Own light.

“ As ye sow, so shall ye reap” He interprets to mean what you consider worth cultivating you will cultivate in yourself. Your judgment of what is worthy makes it worthy for you.

“ Vengeance is mine, saith the Lord” is easily reinterpreted if you remember that ideas increase only by being shared. The statement emphasizes that vengeance cannot be shared. Give it therefore to the Holy Spirit, Who will undo it in you because it does not belong in your mind, which is part of God. “ I will visit the sins of the fathers unto the third and fourth generation,” as interpreted by the ego, is particularly vicious. It becomes merely an attempt to guarantee the ego’s own survival. To the Holy Spirit, the statement means that in later generations He can still reinterpret what former generations had misunderstood, and thus release the thoughts from the ability to produce fear.

“ The wicked shall perish” becomes a statement of Atonement, if the word “perish” is understood as “be undone.” Every loveless thought must be undone, a word the ego cannot even understand. To the ego, to be undone means to be destroyed. The ego will not be destroyed because it is part of your thought, but because it is uncreative and therefore unsharing, it will be reinterpreted to release you from fear. The part of your mind that you have given to the ego will merely return to the Kingdom, where your whole mind belongs. You can delay the completion of the Kingdom, but you cannot introduce the concept of fear into it.

You need not fear the Higher Court will condemn you. It will merely dismiss the case against you. There can be no case against a child of God, and every witness to guilt in God’s creations is bearing false witness to God Himself. Appeal everything you believe gladly to God’s Own Higher Court, because it speaks for Him and therefore speaks truly. It will dismiss the case against you, however carefully you have built it up. The case may be fool-proof, but it is not God-proof. The Holy Spirit will not hear it, because He can only witness truly. His verdict will always be “thine is the Kingdom,” because He was given to you to remind you of what you are.

When I said “I am come as a light into the world,” I meant that I came to share the light with you. Remember my reference to the ego’s dark glass, and remember also that I said, “Do not look there.” It is still true that where you look to find yourself is up to you. Your patience with your brother is your patience with yourself. Is not a child of God worth patience? I have shown you infinite patience because my will is that of our Father, from Whom I learned of infinite patience. His Voice was in me as It is in you, speaking for patience towards the Sonship in the Name of its Creator.

You are of one mind and spirit with Him. Excluding yourself from the Atonement is the ego’s last-ditch defense of its own existence. It reflects both the ego’s need to separate, and your willingness to side with its separateness. This willingness means that you do not want to be healed. CHOICE

Attacking is of the Ego

The ego always attacks on behalf of separation. Believing it has the power to do this, it does nothing else because its goal of autonomy is nothing else. The ego is confused about reality, but it does not lose sight of its goal. It is much more vigilant than you are because it is perfectly certain of its purpose. You are confused because you do not recognize yours.

You must recognize that the last thing the ego wishes you to realize is that you are afraid of it. For if the ego could give rise to fear, it would diminish your independence and weaken your power. Yet its one claim to your allegiance is that it can give power to you. Without this belief you would not listen to it at all. How, then, can its existence continue if you realize that, by accepting it, you are belittling yourself and depriving yourself of power?

The ego can and does allow you to regard yourself as supercilious, unbelieving, “lighthearted,” distant, emotionally shallow, callous, uninvolved and even desperate, but not really afraid. Minimizing fear, but not its undoing, is the ego’s constant effort, and is indeed a skill at which it is very ingenious. How can it preach separation without upholding it through fear, and would you listen to it if you recognized this is what it is doing?

The ego analyzes; the Holy Spirit accepts. The appreciation of wholeness comes only through acceptance, for to analyze means to break down or to separate. The attempt to understand totality by breaking it down is clearly the characteristically contradictory approach of the ego to everything. The ego believes that power, understanding, and truth lie in separation, and to establish this belief, it must attack.

To the ego, it is kind and right and good to point out errors and “correct” them. This makes perfect sense to the ego, which is unaware of what errors are and what correction is. Errors are of the ego, and correction of errors lies in the relinquishment of the ego. When you correct a brother, you are telling him that he is wrong. He may be making no sense at the time, and it is certain that, if he is speaking from the ego, he will not be making sense. But your task is still to tell him he is right. You do not tell him this verbally if he is speaking foolishly. He needs correction at another level because his error is at another level. He is still right because he is the Son of God. His ego is always wrong, no matter what it says or does.

If you point out the errors of your brother’s ego, you must be seeing through yours, because the Holy Spirit does not perceive his errors. This must be true since there is no communication between the ego and the Holy Spirit. The ego makes no sense, and the Holy Spirit does not attempt to understand anything that arises from it. Since He does not understand it, He does not judge it, knowing that nothing the ego makes means anything.

When you react at all to errors, you are not listening to the Holy Spirit. He has merely disregarded them, and if you attend to them, you are not hearing Him. If you do not hear Him (God/ Holy Spirit), you are listening to your ego and making as little sense as the brother whose errors you perceive. This cannot be corrected. Yet it is more than merely a lack of correction for him. It is the giving up of correction in yourself.

It is not up to you to change your brother, but merely to accept him as he is. His errors do not come from the truth that is in him, and only this truth is yours. His errors cannot change this and can have no effect at all on the truth in you. To perceive errors in anyone, and to react to them as if they were real, is to make them real to you. You will not escape paying the price for this, not because you are being punished for it, but because you are following the wrong guide and will therefore lose your way.

Your brother’s errors are not of him, any more than yours are of you. Accept his errors as real, and you have attacked yourself. If you find your way and keep it, see only truth beside you for you to walk together. The Holy Spirit in you forgives all things in you and your brother. His errors are forgiven with yours.

Atonement is no more separate than love. Atonement cannot be separate because it comes from love. Any attempt you make to correct a brother means that you believe correction by you is possible, and this can only be the arrogance of the ego. Correction is of God, Who does not know of arrogance.

The Holy Spirit forgives everything because God created everything. Do not undertake His function, or you will forget yours. Accept only the function of healing in time, because that is what time is for. God gave you the function to create in eternity. You do not need to learn that, but you do need to learn to want it. For that, all learning was made. This is the Holy Spirit’s use of an ability that you do not need, but that you made. Give it to Him! You do not understand how to use it. He will teach you how to see yourself without condemnation by learning how to look at everything without it. Condemnation will then not be real to you, and all your errors will be forgiven.

You may let your mind misperceive, but the Holy Spirit lets your mind reinterpret its own egos' misperceptions. The ego made the world as it perceives it, but the Holy Spirit, the reinterpreter of what the ego made, sees the world as a teaching device for bringing you home.The ego cannot hear the Holy Spirit, but it does believe that part of the mind that made it is against it. It interprets this as a justification for attacking its maker. It believes that the best defense is attack, and wants you to believe it. Unless you do believe it you will not side with it, and the ego feels badly in need of allies, though not of brothers. Perceiving something alien to itself in your mind, the ego turns to the body as its ally, because the body is not part of you. This makes the body the ego’s friend. It is an alliance frankly based on separation. If you side with this alliance you will be afraid, because you are siding with an alliance of fear.

The ego uses the body to conspire against your mind, and because the ego realizes that its “enemy” can end them both merely by recognizing they are not part of you, they join in the attack together. This is perhaps the strangest perception of all, if you consider what it really involves. The ego, which is not real, attempts to persuade the mind, which is real, that the mind is the ego’s learning device; and further, that the body is more real than the mind is. No one in his right mind could possibly believe this, and no one in his right mind does believe it.

Teach attack in any form and you have learned it, and it will hurt you. Yet this learning is not immortal, and you can unlearn it by not teaching it.

Accepting you are not the body but a part of God because He created you. Temporarily using the body as a learning device.

The body is the symbol of what you think you are. It is clearly a separation device, and therefore does not exist. The Holy Spirit, as always, takes what you have made and translates it into a learning device. Again as always, He reinterprets what the ego uses as an argument for separation into a demonstration against it. If the mind can heal the body, but the body cannot heal the mind, then the mind must be stronger than the body. Every miracle of love demonstrates this.

I have said that the Holy Spirit is the motivation for miracles. He always tells you that only the mind is real, because only the mind can be shared. The body is separate, and therefore cannot be part of you. To be of one mind is meaningful, but to be one body is meaningless. By the laws of mind, then, the body is meaningless.

The mind that accepts attack cannot love. That is because it believes it can destroy love, and therefore does not understand what love is. If it does not understand what love is, it cannot perceive itself as loving. This loses the awareness of being, induces feelings of unreality and results in utter confusion. Your thinking has done this because of its power, but your thinking can also save you from this because its power is not of your making. Your ability to direct your thinking as you choose is part of its power. If you do not believe you can do this you have denied the power of your thought, and thus rendered it powerless in your belief.

The ingeniousness of the ego to preserve itself is enormous, but it stems from the very power of the mind the ego denies. This means that the ego attacks what is preserving it, which must result in extreme anxiety. That is why the ego never recognizes what it is doing. It is perfectly logical but clearly insane. The ego draws upon the one source that is totally inimical to its existence for its existence. Fearful of perceiving the power of this source, it is forced to depreciate it. This threatens its own existence, a state which it finds intolerable. Remaining logical but still insane, the ego resolves this completely insane dilemma in a completely insane way. It does not perceive its existence as threatened by projecting the threat onto you, and perceiving your being as nonexistent. This ensures its continuance if you side with it, by guaranteeing that you will not know your own safety.

The ego cannot afford to know anything. Knowledge is total, and the ego does not believe in totality. This unbelief is its origin, and while the ego does not love you it is faithful to its own antecedents, begetting as it was begotten. Mind always reproduces as it was produced. Produced by fear, the ego reproduces fear. This is its allegiance, and this allegiance makes it treacherous to love because you are love. Love is your power, which the ego must deny. It must also deny everything this power gives you because it gives you everything. No one who has everything wants the ego. Its own maker, then, does not want it. Rejection is therefore the only decision the ego could possibly encounter, if the mind that made it knew itself.

The ego believes that power, understanding and truth lie in separation, and to establish this belief it must attack. Unaware that the belief cannot be established, and obsessed with the conviction that separation is salvation, the ego attacks everything it perceives by breaking it into small, disconnected parts, without meaningful relationships and therefore without meaning. The ego will always substitute chaos for meaning, for if separation is salvation, harmony is threat.

The ego’s interpretations of the laws of perception are, and would have to be, the exact opposite of the Holy Spirit’s. The ego focuses on error and overlooks truth. It makes real every mistake it perceives, and with characteristically circular reasoning concludes that because of the mistake consistent truth must be meaningless. The next step, then, is obvious. If consistent truth is meaningless, inconsistency must be true. Holding error clearly in mind, and protecting what it has made real, the ego proceeds to the next step in its thought system: Error is real and truth is error.

The ego makes no attempt to understand this, and it is clearly not understandable, but the ego does make every attempt to demonstrate it, and this it does constantly. Analyzing to attack meaning, the ego succeeds in overlooking it and is left with a series of fragmented perceptions which it unifies on behalf of itself. This, then, becomes the universe it perceives. And it is this universe which, in turn, becomes its demonstration of its own reality.

Do not underestimate the appeal of the ego’s demonstrations to those who would listen. Selective perception chooses its witnesses carefully, and its witnesses are consistent. The case for insanity is strong to the insane. For reasoning ends at its beginning, and no thought system transcends its source.

Love

The relationship of anger to attack is obvious, but the relationship of anger to fear is not always so apparent. Anger always involves projection of separation, which must ultimately be accepted as one’s responsibility, rather than being blamed on others. Anger cannot occur unless you believe that you have been attacked, that your attack is justified in return and that you are in no way responsible for it.

All who believe in ego separation have a basic fear of retaliation and abandonment. They believe in attack and rejection, so that is what they perceive teach and learn. These insane ideas are the result of dissociation and projection.

Once you have developed a thought system of any kind, you live by it and teach it. Your capacity for allegiance to a thought system may be misplaced, but it is still a form of faith and can be redirected.

Ego projection will always hurt you. It reinforces your belief in your split mind, and its only purpose is to keep the separation going. It is solely a device of the ego to make you feel different from your brothers and separated from them. The ego justifies this because it makes you seem “better” than they are, thus obscuring your equality with them still further. Ego projection and attack are inevitably related because projection is always a means of justifying an attack. Anger without projection is impossible. The ego uses projection only to destroy your perception of both yourself and your brothers. The process begins by excluding something that exists in you but which you do not want and leads directly to excluding you from your brothers. The ego does not regard itself as part of you. Herein lies its primary error, the foundation of its whole thought system.

The Holy Spirit extends and the ego projects. The difference between the ego’s projection and the Holy Spirit’s extension is very simple. The ego projects to exclude, and therefore to deceive.

Every idea begins in the mind of the thinker. Therefore, what extends from the mind is still in it, and from what it extends it knows itself. The word “knows” is correct here, because the Holy Spirit still holds knowledge safe in your mind through His impartial perception. By attacking nothing, He presents no barrier to the communication of God. Therefore, being is never threatened. Your Godlike mind can never be defiled.

The ego never was and never will be part of it, but through the ego you can hear and teach and learn what is not true. You have taught yourself to believe that you are not what you are. You cannot teach what you have not learned, and what you teach you strengthen in yourself because you are sharing it. Every lesson you teach you are learning.

That is why you must teach only one lesson. If you are to be conflict-free yourself, you must learn only from the Holy Spirit and teach only by Him. You are only love, but when you deny this, you make what you are something you must learn to remember. I said before that the message of the crucifixion was, “Teach only love, for that is what you are.” This is the one lesson that is perfectly unified, because it is the only lesson that is one. Only by teaching it can you learn it. “As you teach so will you learn.” If that is true, and it is true indeed, do not forget that what you teach is teaching you. And what you project or extend you believe.

The only safety lies in extending the Holy Spirit, because as you see His gentleness in others your own mind perceives itself as totally harmless. Since you cannot not teach, your salvation lies in teaching the exact opposite of everything the ego believes. This is how you will learn the truth that will set you free, and will keep you free as others learn it of you. The only way to have peace is to teach peace. By teaching peace you must learn it yourself, because you cannot teach what you still dissociate. Only thus can you win back the knowledge that you threw away. An idea that you share you must have. It awakens in your mind through the conviction of teaching it. Everything you teach you are learning. Teach only love, and learn that love is yours and you are love.

Knowledge and Truth

The Holy Spirit extends by recognizing Himself in every mind and thus perceives them as one. Nothing conflicts in this perception, because what the Holy Spirit perceives is all the same.

Knowledge never changes, so its constellation is permanent. The idea of part-whole relationships has meaning only at the level of perception, where change is possible. Knowledge needs no correction. Ego's Perception changes constantly.

Teach only love, for that is what you are.

This is the one perfectly unified lesson because it is the only lesson that is one. Only by teaching it can you learn it. “As you teach so will you learn.” If that is true, and it is true indeed, do not forget that what you teach is teaching you. And what you project from the ego or extend from love as you believe.

Anything that God created is as true and eternal as He is. Its truth lies only in its perfect inclusion in Him Who alone is perfect. It is forever true. It is not a belief, but a Fact. To deny this is to deny yourself and Him since it is impossible to accept one without the other.

We are here temporarily in this body. We are all a speck of God, not God but made in his image. One of his eternal conscious energy of love. We are all eternal beings made of his spirit energy. One mind or consciousness of God's (spirit)energy. Yet what has once been is so now, if it is eternal. When you remember or awaken, you will know that what you remember is eternal, and therefore is now.

You will remember everything the instant you desire it. Only when you have the desire to waken and be glad. Dreams will be impossible because you will want only truth, and being at last your will, it will be yours.

Teach only love, and learn that love is yours and you are love. The universe of love does not stop because you do not see it, nor have your closed eyes lost the ability to see.

The Second Coming is merely the return of sense. The awareness of truth.

Only at the altar of God will you find peace. And this altar is in you because God put it there. Heart-Mind and Soul merged with God's love. Because you are made of this eternal energy. If you will accept only what is timeless as real, you will begin to understand eternity and make it yours.

The very real difference between perception and knowledge becomes quite apparent if you consider this:

There is nothing partial about knowledge. Every aspect is whole, and therefore no aspect is separate. You are an aspect of knowledge, being in the Mind of God, Who knows you. All knowledge must be yours, for in you is all knowledge. Perception, at its loftiest, is never complete. Even the perception of the Holy Spirit, as perfect as perception can be, is without meaning in Heaven. Perception can reach everywhere under His guidance, for the vision of Christ beholds everything in light. Yet no perception, however holy, will last forever.

Perfect perception, then, has many elements in common with knowledge, making transfer to it possible. Yet the last step must be taken by God, because the last step in your redemption, which seems to be in the future, was accomplished by God in your creation. The separation has not interrupted it. Creation cannot be interrupted. The separation is merely a faulty formulation of reality, with no effect at all. The miracle, without a function in Heaven, is needful here. Aspects of reality can still be seen, and they will replace aspects of unreality. Aspects of reality can be seen in everything and everywhere. Yet only God can gather them together, by crowning them as one with the final gift of eternity.

This is the miracle of creation; that it is one forever. Every miracle (love)you offer to the Son of God is but the true perception of one aspect of the whole. Though every aspect is the whole, you cannot know this until you see that every aspect is the same, perceived in the same light and therefore one. Everyone seen without the past thus brings you nearer to the end of time by bringing healed and healing sight into the darkness, and enabling the world to see.

The ego does not regard itself as part of you. Herein lies its primary error, the foundation of its whole thought system.

When God created you He made you part of Him. That is why attack within the Kingdom is impossible. You made the ego without love, and so it does not love you. You could not remain within the Kingdom without love, and since the Kingdom is love, you believe that you are without it. We are all part of God's energy of love.

This enables the ego to regard itself as separate and outside its maker, thus speaking for the part of your mind that believes you are separate and outside the Mind of God. The ego, then, raised the first question that was ever asked, but one it can never answer. That question, “What are you?” was the beginning of doubt. The ego has never answered any questions since, although it has raised a great many. The most inventive activities of the ego have never done more than obscure the question, because you have the answer and the ego is afraid of you.

You cannot understand the conflict until you fully understand the basic fact that the ego cannot know anything. The Holy Spirit does not speak first, but He always answers. Everyone has called upon Him for help at one time or another and in one way or another, and has been answered.

Since the Holy Spirit answers truly He answers for all time, which means that everyone has the answer now.

The answer is silent Knowledge

The ego cannot hear the Holy Spirit, but it does believe that part of the mind that made it is against it. It interprets this as a justification for attacking its maker. It believes that the best defense is attack, and wants you to believe it. Unless you do believe it you will not side with it, and the ego feels badly in need of allies, though not of brothers. Perceiving something alien to itself in your mind, the ego turns to the body as its ally, because the body is not part of you. This makes the body the ego’s friend. It is an alliance frankly based on separation. If you side with this alliance you will be afraid, because you are siding with an alliance of fear.

The ego uses the body to conspire against your mind, and because the ego realizes that its “enemy” can end them both merely by recognizing they are not part of you, they join in the attack together. This is perhaps the strangest perception of all, if you consider what it really involves. The ego, which is not real, attempts to persuade the mind, which is real, that the mind is the ego’s learning device; and further, that the body is more real than the mind is. No one in his right mind could possibly believe this, and no one in his right mind does believe it.

Hear, then, the one answer of the Holy Spirit to all the questions the ego raises: You are a child of God, a priceless part of His Kingdom, which He created as part of Him. Nothing else exists and only this is real…

… Eternal energy

Belief

It is impossible not to believe what you see, but it is equally impossible to see what you do not believe. Perceptions are built up based on experience, and experience leads to beliefs. It is not until beliefs are fixed that perceptions stabilize. In effect, then, what you believe you do see. That is what I meant when I said, “Blessed are ye who have not seen and still believe,” for those who believe in the resurrection will see it. The resurrection is the complete triumph of Christ over the ego, not by attack but by transcendence. For Christ does rise above the ego and all its works and ascends to the Father and His Kingdom.

If you do not see it clearly, it is because you are interpreting against it, and therefore do not believe it. And since belief determines perception, you do not perceive what it means and therefore do not accept it. Yet different experiences lead to different beliefs and with them different perceptions. Perceptions are learned with beliefs, and experience does teach. I am leading you to a new kind of experience that you will become less and less willing to deny. Learning of Christ is easy.

The world as you perceive it cannot have been created by the Father, for the world is not as you see it. God created only the eternal, and everything you see is perishable. Therefore, there must be another world that you do not see.

What is real and try is eternal and made by God? Only loving thoughts and goodness are recognized everything else is an error in perception and thus only an illusion and not real.

You have been told not to make errors real, and the way to do this is very simple. If you want to believe in error, you would have to make it real because it is not true. But truth is real in its own right, and to believe in truth you do not have to do anything. Understand that you do not respond to anything directly but to your interpretation of it. Your interpretation thus becomes the justification for the response. That is why analyzing the motives of others is hazardous to you. If you decide that someone is trying to attack you or desert you or enslave you, you will respond as if he had done so, having made his error real to you. To interpret error is to give it power, and having done this you will overlook truth.

The analysis of ego motivation is very complicated, very obscuring, and never without your own ego involvement. The whole process represents a clear-cut attempt to demonstrate your own ability to understand what you perceive. This is shown by the fact that you react to your interpretations as if they were correct. You may then control your reactions behaviorally, but not emotionally. This would obviously be a split or an attack on the integrity of your mind, pitting one level within it against another.

Consider how well the Holy Spirit’s interpretation of the motives of others will serve you then. Having taught you to accept only loving thoughts in others and to regard everything else as an appeal for help, He has taught you that fear itself is an appeal for help. This is what recognizing fear really means.

Ego's fear and love are the only emotions of which you are capable. One is false, for it was made out of denial; and denial depends on the belief in what is denied for its own existence.

Every loving thought is true. Everything else is an appeal for healing and help, regardless of the form it takes. He acts from his ego.

Ego Time

The ego has a strange notion of time, and it is with this notion that your questioning might well begin. The ego invests heavily in the past, and in the end, believes that the past is the only aspect of time that is meaningful. Remember that its emphasis on guilt enables it to ensure its continuity by making the future like the past, and thus avoiding the present. By the notion of paying for the past in the future, the past becomes the determiner of the future, making them continuous without an intervening present. The ego regards the present only as a brief transition to the future, in which it brings the past to the future by interpreting the present in past terms.

Now” has no meaning to the ego. The present merely reminds it of past hurts, and it reacts to the present as if it were the past. The ego cannot tolerate release from the past, and although the past is over, the ego tries to preserve its image by responding as if it were present. It dictates your reactions to those you meet in the present from a past reference point, obscuring their present reality. In effect, if you follow the ego’s dictates you will react to your brother as though he were someone else, and this will surely prevent you from recognizing him as he is. And you will receive messages from him out of your past because, by making it real in the present, you are forbidding yourself to let it go. You thus deny yourself the message of release that every brother offers you now.

The shadowy figures from the past are precisely what you must escape. They are not real, and have no hold over you unless you bring them with you. They carry the spots of pain in your mind, directing you to attack the present in retaliation for a past that is no more. And this decision is one of future pain. Unless you learn that past pain is an illusion, you are choosing a future of illusions and losing the many opportunities you could find for release in the present. The ego would preserve your nightmares, and prevent you from awakening and understanding they are past.

The Holy Spirit interprets time’s purpose as rendering the need for time unnecessary. He regards the function of time as temporary, serving only His teaching function, which is temporary by definition. His emphasis is therefore on the only aspect of time that can extend to the infinite, for now is the closest approximation of eternity that this world offers. It is in the reality of “now,” without past or future, that the beginning of the appreciation of eternity lies. Only “now” is here, and only “now” presents the opportunities for the holy encounters in which salvation can be found.

Healing cannot be accomplished in the past. It must be accomplished in the present to release the future. This interpretation ties the future to the present and extends the present rather than the past.

But if you interpret your function as destruction, you will lose sight of the present and hold on to the past to ensure a destructive future. And time will be as you interpret it, for of itself it is nothing.

To perceive truly is to be aware of all reality through the awareness of your own. But for this no illusions can rise to meet your sight, for reality leaves no room for any error. This means that you perceive a brother only as you see him now. His past has no reality in the present, so you cannot see it. Your past reactions to him are also not there, and if it is to them that you react, you see but an image of him that you made and cherish instead of him. In your questioning of illusions, ask yourself if it is sane to perceive what was as now. If you remember the past as you look upon your brother, you will be unable to perceive the reality that is now. You consider it “natural” to use your past experience as the reference point from which to judge the present. Yet this is unnatural because it is delusional. When you have learned to look at everyone with no reference at all to the past, either his or yours as you perceived it, you will be able to learn from what you see now. For the past can cast no shadow to darken the present, unless you are afraid of light. And only if you are would you choose to bring darkness with you, and by holding it in your mind, see it as a dark cloud that shrouds your brothers and conceals their reality from your sight.

Christ as revealed to you now has no past, for He is changeless, and in His changelessness lies your release. For if He is as He was created, there is no guilt in Him. No cloud of guilt has risen to obscure Him, and He stands revealed in everyone you meet because you see Him through Himself. To be born again is to let the past go, and look without condemnation upon the present. The cloud that obscures God’s Son to you is the past, and if you would have it past and gone, you must not see it now. If you see it now in your illusions, it has not gone from you, although it is not there.

You would anticipate the future on the basis of your past experience, and plan for it accordingly. Yet by doing so you are aligning past and future, and not allowing the miracle, which could intervene between them, to free you to be born again.

The miracle (love)enables you to see your brother without his past, and so perceive him as born again. His errors are all past, and by perceiving him without them you are releasing him. And since his past is yours, you share in this release. Let no dark cloud out of your past obscure him from you, for truth lies only in the present, and you will find it if you seek it there. You have looked for it where it is not, and therefore have not found it. Learn, then, to seek it where it is, and it will dawn on eyes that see. Your past was made in anger, and if you use it to attack the present, you will not see the freedom that the present holds.

Judgment and condemnation are behind you, and unless you bring them with you, you will see that you are free of them. Look lovingly upon the present, for it holds the only things that are forever true. All healing lies within it because its continuity is real. It extends to all aspects of the Sonship at the same time, and thus enables them to reach each other. The present is before time was, and will be when time is no more. In it are all things that are eternal, and they are one. Their continuity is timeless and their communication is unbroken, for they are not separated by the past. Only the past can separate, and it is nowhere.

The present offers you your brothers in the light that would unite you with them, and free you from the past. Would you, then, hold the past against them? For if you do, you are choosing to remain in the darkness that is not there, and refusing to accept the light that is offered you. For the light of perfect vision is freely given as it is freely received, and can be accepted only without limit.

All healing is release from the past. That is why the Holy Spirit is the only Healer. He teaches that the past does not exist, a fact which belongs to the sphere of knowledge, and which therefore no one in the world can know. It would indeed be impossible to be in the world with this knowledge. For the mind that knows this unequivocally knows also it dwells in eternity, and utilizes no perception at all. It therefore does not consider where it is, because the concept “where” does not mean anything to it. It knows that it is everywhere, just as it has everything, and forever.

What disappears in light is not attacked. It merely vanishes because it is not true. Different realities are meaningless, for reality must be one. It cannot change with time or mood or chance.

Its changelessness is what makes it real. This cannot be undone. Undoing is for unreality. And this reality will do for you. Merely by being what it is, does truth release you from everything that it is not.

The Holy Spirit teaches thus: There is no hell. Hell is only what the ego has made of the present. The belief in hell is what prevents you from understanding the present, because you are afraid of it.

Who knows only the present, uses it to undo the fear by which the ego would make the present useless. There is no escape from fear in the ego’s use of time. For time, according to its teaching, is nothing but a teaching device for compounding guilt until it becomes all-encompassing, demanding vengeance forever.

The Holy Spirit would undo all of this now. Fear is not of the present, but only of the past and future, which do not exist. There is no fear in the present when each instant stands clear and separated from the past, without its shadow reaching out into the future. Each instant is a clean, untarnished birth, in which the Son of God emerges from the past into the present. And the present extends forever. It is so beautiful and so clean and free of guilt that nothing but happiness is there. No darkness is remembered, and immortality and joy are now.

This lesson takes no time. For what is time without a past and future? It has taken time to misguide you so completely, but it takes no time at all to be what you are. Begin to practice the Holy Spirit’s use of time as a teaching aid to happiness and peace. Take this very instant, now, and think of it as all there is of time. Nothing can reach you here out of the past, and it is here that you are completely absolved, completely free and wholly without condemnation. From this holy instant wherein holiness was born again you will go forth in time without fear, and with no sense of change with time.

Time is inconceivable without change, yet holiness does not change. Learn from this instant more than merely that hell does not exist. In this redeeming instant lies Heaven. And Heaven will not change, for the birth into the holy present is salvation from change. Change is an illusion, taught by those who cannot see themselves as guiltless. There is no change in Heaven because there is no change in God. In the holy instant, in which you see yourself as bright with freedom, you will remember God. For remembering Him is to remember freedom.

Sin is never wholly in the present.

It is only the awareness of the body that makes love seem limited. For the body is a limit on love. The belief in limited love was its origin, and it was made to limit the unlimited. Think not that this is merely allegorical, for it was made to limit you. Can you who see yourself within a body know yourself as an idea? Everything you recognize you identify with externals, something outside itself. You cannot even think of God without a body, or in some form you think you recognize.

The Two Emotions

I have said you have but two emotions, love and fear.

One is changeless but continually exchanged, being offered by the eternal to the eternal. In this exchange, it is extended, for it increases as it is given.

The other (ego)has many forms, for the content of individual illusions differs greatly. Yet they have one thing in common; they are all insane. They are made of sights that are not seen and sounds that are not heard. They make up a private world that cannot be shared. For they are meaningful only to their maker, and so they have no meaning at all. In this world, their maker moves alone, for only he perceives them.

Each one people his world with figures from his past, and it is because of this that private worlds do differ. Yet the figures that he sees are never real, for they are made up only of his reactions to his brothers, and do not include their reactions to him. Therefore, he does not see he made them, and that they are not whole. These figures have no witnesses, being perceived in one separate mind only.

Ego projection makes perception, and you cannot see beyond it.

Again and again have you attacked your brother, because you saw in him a shadow figure in your private world. And thus it is you must attack yourself first, for what you attack is not in others. Its only reality is in your mind, and by attacking others you are literally attacking what is not there.

They do not know what they do

The body is the central figure in the dreaming of the ego world. There is no dream without it, nor does it exist without the dream in which it acts as if it were a person to be seen and be believed. It takes the central place in every dream, which tells the story of how it was made by other bodies, born into the world outside the body, lives a little while and dies. The body’s serial adventures, from the time of birth to dying are the theme of every dream the world has ever had. The “hero” of this dream will never change, nor will its purpose. Though the dream itself takes many forms, and seems to show a great variety of places and events wherein its “hero” finds itself.

Most act from their ego dream, their personal dream movie. Where they are the creator, producer, director, and the STAR.

You are just a stand-in character or maybe a co-star but not the star. Do not take it personally. No one can waken from a dream the world or other person is dreaming for him. You become a part of someone else’s dream. You cannot choose to awaken from a dream you did not make. Nor can you try and wake the dreamer. Helpless you stand, a victim to a dream conceived and cherished by a separate mind.

If possible, say nothing or as little as possible, as it is their ego dream movie, their reality, not yours. The instant that you see them as they are, they have no more effect on you, because you understand you only give them their effects by making them seem real. Let no one else's dream appear to be the cause of what it is you do. For you would not react at all to figures in a dream you knew that you were dreaming. Let them be as hateful and as vicious as they may, they could have no effect on you unless you failed to recognize it is your dream.

• Make sure you don't assume.

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Vision

Do not seek vision through your eyes, for you made your way of seeing that you might see in darkness, and in this, you are deceived. Beyond this darkness, and yet still within you, is the vision of Christ, Who looks on all in light. Your “vision” comes from fear, as His from love. And He sees for you, as your witness to the real world. He is the Holy Spirit’s manifestation, looking always on the real world, calling forth its witnesses, and drawing them to you. He loves what He sees within you, and He will extend it. And He will not return unto the Father until He has extended your perception even unto Him. And their perception is no more, for He has returned you to the Father with Him.

You have but two emotions, one you made and one that was given to you. Each is a way of seeing, and different worlds arise from their different sights. See through the vision that is given you, for through Christ’s vision He beholds Himself. And seeing what He is, He knows His Father. Beyond your darkest dreams, He sees God’s guiltless Son within you, shining in perfect radiance that is undimmed by your dreams. And this you will see as you look with Him, for His vision is His gift of love to you, given Him of the Father for you.

Again you don't have to like them or be associated with them. Leave the judgment to God. The very fact that you can bring any order into chaos shows you that you are not an ego, and that more than an ego must be in you. For the ego is chaos, and if it were all of you, no order at all would be possible. Yet though the order you impose upon your mind limits the ego, it also limits you. To order is to judge, and to arrange by judgment. Therefore it is not your function, but the Holy Spirit’s

Awareness or Ignorance

As darkness disappears in light, so ignorance fades away when knowledge dawns. Perception is the medium by which ignorance is brought to knowledge. Yet the perception must be without deceit, for otherwise it becomes the messenger of ignorance rather than a helper in the search for truth.

The search for truth is but the honest searching out of everything that interferes with truth. Truth is. It can neither be lost nor sought nor found. It is there, wherever you are, being within you. Yet it can be recognized or unrecognized, real or false to you. If you hide it, it becomes unreal to you because you hid it and surrounded it with fear. Under each cornerstone of fear on which you have erected your insane system of belief, the truth lies hidden. Yet you cannot know this, for by hiding truth in fear, you see no reason to believe that the more you look at fear the less you see it, and the clearer what it conceals becomes.

It is not possible to convince the unknowing that they know. From their point of view it is not true. Yet it is true because God knows it. These are clearly opposite viewpoints on what the “unknowing” are. To God, unknowing is impossible. It is therefore not a point of view at all, but merely a belief in something that does not exist. It is only this belief that the unknowing have, and by it they are wrong about themselves. They have defined themselves as they were not created. Their creation was not a point of view, but rather a certainty. Uncertainty brought to certainty does not retain any conviction of reality.

Yet the essential thing is learning that you do not know. Knowledge is power, and all power is of God. You who have tried to keep power for yourself have “lost” it.

You still have the power, but you have interposed so much between it and your awareness of it that you cannot use it. Everything you have taught yourself has made your power more and more obscure to you. You know not what it is, nor where. You have made a semblance of power and a show of strength so pitiful that it must fail you.

For power is not a seeming strength, and truth is beyond semblance of any kind. Yet all that stands between you and the power of God in you is but your learning of the false, and of your attempts to undo the true.

This course teaches you how to escape forever from everything that you have taught yourself in the past, by showing you only what you are now. Learning has been accomplished before its effects are manifest. Learning is therefore in the past, but its influence determines the present by giving it whatever meaning it holds for you.

Your learning gives the present no meaning at all. Nothing you have ever learned can help you understand the present, or teach you how to undo the past. Your past is what you have taught yourself. Let it all go. You have one test, as sure as God, by which to recognize if what you learned is true. If you are wholly free of fear of any kind, and if all those who meet or even think of you share in your perfect peace, then you can be sure that you have learned God’s lesson, and not your own. Unless all this is true, there are dark lessons in your mind that hurt and hinder you, and everyone around you.

Remembering a cause can but produce illusions of its presence, not effects. All the effects of guilt are here no more. For guilt is over. In its passing went its consequences, left without a cause. Why would you cling to it in memory if you did not desire its effects? Remembering is as selective as perception, being its past tense. It is perception of the past as if it were occurring now, and still were there to see. Memory, like perception, is a skill made up by you to take the place of what God gave in your creation. And like all the things you made, it can be used to serve another purpose, and to be the means for something else. It can be used to heal and not to hurt, if you so wish it to be. You are so long accustomed to believe that memory holds only what is past, that it is hard for you to realize it is a skill that can remember now. The limitations on remembering the world imposes on it are as vast as those you let the world impose on you. There is no link of memory to the past. If you would have it there, then there it is. But only your desire made the link, and only you have held it to a part of time where guilt appears to linger still.

Do not be concerned about how you can learn a lesson so completely different from everything that you have taught yourself. How would you know? Your part is very simple. You need only recognize that everything you learned you do not want. Ask to be taught, and do not use your experiences to confirm what you have learned. When your peace is threatened or disturbed in any way, say to yourself: I do not know what anything, including this, means. And so I do not know how to respond to it. And I will not use my own past learning as the light to guide me now. By this refusal to attempt to teach yourself what you do not know, the Guide Whom God has given you will speak to you. He will take His rightful place in your awareness the instant you abandon it, and offer it to Him.

Egos Laws of Chaos

1. The first chaotic law is that the truth is different for everyone. Like all these principles, this one maintains that each is separate and has a different set of thoughts that set him off from others. This principle evolves from the belief there is a hierarchy of illusions; some are more valuable and therefore true. Each one establishes this for himself, and makes it true by his attack on what another values. And this is justified because the values differ, and those who hold them seem to be unlike, and therefore enemies.

2. The second law of chaos, dear indeed to every worshipper of sin, is that each one must sin, and therefore deserves attack and death. This principle, closely related to the first, is the demand that errors call for punishment and not correction. For the destruction of the one who makes the error places him beyond correction and beyond forgiveness. What he has done is thus interpreted as an irrevocable sentence upon himself, which God Himself is powerless to overcome. Sin cannot be remitted, being the belief the Son of God can make mistakes for which his own destruction becomes inevitable.

3. The third preposterous belief that seems to make chaos eternal. For if God cannot be mistaken, He must accept His Son’s belief in what he is, and hate him for it.

4. The ego values only what it takes. This leads to the fourth law of chaos, which, if the others are accepted, must be true. This seeming law is the belief you have what you have taken. By this, another’s loss becomes your gain, and thus it fails to recognize that you can never take away save from yourself. Yet all the other laws must lead to this. For enemies do not give willingly to one another, nor would they seek to share the things they value. And what your enemies would keep from you must be worth having, because they keep it hidden from your sight.

5. The final principle of chaos comes to the “rescue.” It holds there is a substitute for love. This is the magic that will cure all of your pain; the missing factor in your madness that makes it “sane.” This is the reason why you must attack. Here is what makes your vengeance justified. Behold, unveiled, the ego’s secret gift, torn from your brother’s body, hidden there in malice and in hatred for the one to whom the gift belongs. He would deprive you of the secret ingredient that would give meaning to your life. The substitute for love, born of your enmity to your brother, must be salvation. It has no substitute, and there is only one. And all your relationships have but the purpose of seizing it and making it your own.

The laws of chaos govern all illusions. Their forms conflict, making it seem quite possible to value some above the others. Yet each one rests as surely on the belief the laws of chaos are the laws of order as do the others. Each one upholds these laws completely, offering a certain witness that these laws are true. The seeming gentler forms of the attack are no less certain in their witnessing, or their results. Certain it is illusions will bring fear because of the beliefs that they imply, not for their form. And lack of faith in love, in any form, attests to chaos as reality.

From the belief in sin, the faith in chaos must follow. It is because it follows that it seems to be a logical conclusion; a valid step in ordered thought. The steps to chaos do follow neatly from their starting point. Each is a different form in the progression of truth’s reversal, leading still deeper into terror and away from truth.

The Treachery of Specialness

Comparison must be an ego device, for love makes none. Specialness always makes comparisons. It is established by a lack seen in another, and maintained by searching for, and keeping clear in sight, all lacks it can perceive. This does it seek, and this it looks upon. And always whom it thus diminishes would be your savior, had you not chosen to make of him a tiny measure of your specialness instead. Against the littleness you see in him you stand as tall and stately, clean and honest, pure and unsullied, by comparison with what you see

Summary

Guilt asks for punishment, and its request is granted. Not in truth, but in the world of shadows and illusions built on sin. The Son of God perceived what he would see because perception is a wish fulfilled. Perception changes, made to take the place of changeless knowledge. Yet is truth unchanged. It cannot be perceived, but only known. What is perceived takes many forms, but none has meaning. Brought to truth, its senselessness is quite apparent. Kept apart from truth, it seems to have a meaning and be real.

Perception’s laws are opposite to truth, and what is true of knowledge is not true of anything that is apart from it. Yet has God given answer to the world of sickness, which applies to all its forms. God’s answer is eternal, though it works in time, where it is needed. Yet because it is of God, the laws of time do not affect its workings. It is in this world, but not a part of it. For it is real, and dwells where all reality must be. Ideas leave not their source, and their effects but seem to be apart from them. Ideas are of the mind. What is projected out, and seems to be external to the mind, is not outside at all, but an effect of what is in, and has not left its source. T-26.VII.5.

God’s answer lies where the belief in sin must be, for only there can its effects be utterly undone and without cause. Perception’s laws must be reversed, because they are reversals of the laws of truth. The laws of truth forever will be true, and cannot be reversed; yet can be seen as upside down. And this must be corrected where the illusion of reversal lies.

It is impossible that one illusion be less amenable to truth than are the rest. But it is possible that some are given greater value, and less willingly offered to truth for healing and for help. No illusion has any truth in it. Yet it appears some are more true than others, although this clearly makes no sense at all. All that a hierarchy of illusions can show is preference, not reality. Illusions are illusions and are false. Your preference gives them no reality. Not one is true in any way, and all must yield with equal ease to what God gave as answer to them all. God’s Will is One. And any wish that seems to go against His Will has no foundation in the truth.

Sin is not error, for it goes beyond correction to impossibility. Yet the belief that it is real has made some errors seem forever past the hope of healing, and the lasting grounds for hell. If this were so, would Heaven be opposed by its own opposite, as real as it. Then would God’s Will be split in two, and all creation be subjected to the laws of two opposing powers, until God becomes impatient, splits the world apart, and relegates attack unto Himself. Thus has He lost His Mind, proclaiming sin has taken His reality from Him and brought His Love at last to vengeance’s heels. For such an insane picture an insane defense can be expected, but can not establish that the picture must be true.

Nothing gives meaning where no meaning is. And truth needs no defense to make it true. Illusions have no witnesses and no effects. Who looks on them is but deceived. Forgiveness is the only function here, and serves to bring the joy this world denies to every aspect of God’s Son where sin was thought to rule. Perhaps you do not see the role forgiveness plays in ending death and all beliefs that rise from mists of guilt. Sins are beliefs that you impose between your brother and yourself. They limit you to time and place, and give a little space to you, another little space to him. This separating off is symbolized, in your perception, by a body which is clearly separate and a thing apart. Yet what this symbol represents is but your wish to be apart and separate.

Forgiveness takes away what stands between your brother and yourself. It is the wish that you be joined with him, and not apart. We call it “wish” because it still conceives of other choices, and has not yet reached beyond the world of choice entirely. Yet is this wish in line with Heaven’s state, and not in opposition to God’s Will. Although it falls far short of giving you your full inheritance, it does remove the obstacles that you have placed between the Heaven where you are, and recognition of where and what you are. Facts are unchanged. Yet facts can be denied and thus unknown, though they were known before they were denied.

Salvation, perfect and complete, asks but a little wish that what is true be true; a little willingness to overlook what is not there; a little sigh that speaks for Heaven as a preference to this world that death and desolation seem to rule. In joyous answer will creation rise within you, to replace the world you see with Heaven, wholly perfect and complete. What is forgiveness but a willingness that truth be true? What can remain unhealed and broken from a unity which holds all things within itself? There is no sin. And every miracle is possible the instant that the Son of God perceives his wishes and the Will of God are one.

What is the Will of God? He wills His Son have everything. And this He guaranteed when He created him as everything. It is impossible that anything be lost, if what you have is what you are. This is the miracle by which creation became your function, sharing it with God. It is not understood apart from Him, and therefore has no meaning in this world. Here does the Son of God ask not too much, but far too little. He would sacrifice his own identity with everything, to find a little treasure of his own. And this he cannot do without a sense of isolation, loss and loneliness. This is the treasure he has sought to find. And he could only be afraid of it. Is fear a treasure? Can uncertainty be what you want? Or is it a mistake about your will, and what you really are?

Let us consider what the error is, so it can be corrected, not protected. Sin is belief attack can be projected outside the mind where the belief arose. Here is the firm conviction that ideas can leave their source made real and meaningful. And from this error does the world of sin and sacrifice arise. This world is an attempt to prove your innocence, while cherishing attack. Its failure lies in that you still feel guilty, though without understanding why. Effects are seen as separate from their source, and seem to be beyond you to control or to prevent. What is thus kept apart can never join.

Cause and effect are one, not separate. God wills you learn what always has been true: that He created you as part of Him, and this must still be true because ideas leave not their source. Such is creation’s law; that each idea the mind conceives but adds to its abundance, never takes away. This is as true of what is idly wished as what is truly willed, because the mind can wish to be deceived, but cannot make it be what it is not. And to believe ideas can leave their source is to invite illusions to be true, without success. For never will success be possible in trying to deceive the Son of God.

To use the power God has given you as He would have it used is natural. It is not arrogant to be as He created you, nor to make use of what He gave to answer all His Son’s mistakes and set him free. But it is arrogant to lay aside the power that He gave, and choose a little senseless wish instead of what He wills. The gift of God to you is limitless. There is no circumstance it cannot answer, and no problem which is not resolved within its gracious light.

Abide in peace, where God would have you be. And be the means whereby your brother finds the peace in which your wishes are fulfilled. Let us unite in bringing blessing to the world of sin and death. For what can save each one of us can save us all. There is no difference among the Sons of God. The unity that specialness denies will save them all, for what is one can have no specialness. And everything belongs to each of them. No wishes lie between a brother and his own. To get from one is to deprive them all. And yet to bless but one gives blessing to them all as one.

Your ancient Name belongs to everyone, as theirs to you. Call on your brother’s name and God will answer, for on Him you call. Could He refuse to answer when He has already answered all who call on Him? A miracle can make no change at all. But it can make what always has been true be recognized by those who know it not; and by this little gift of truth but let to be itself, the Son of God allowed to be himself, and all creation freed to call upon the Name of God as One.

Knowledge Answer to the Ego

Nothing else exists and only this is real. You have chosen a sleep in which you have had bad dreams, but the sleep is not real and God calls you to awake. There will be nothing left of your dream when you hear Him, because you will awaken. Your dreams contain many of the ego’s symbols and they have confused you. Yet that was only because you were asleep and did not know. When you wake you will see the truth around you and in you, and you will no longer believe in dreams because they will have no reality for you. Yet the Kingdom and all that you have created there will have great reality for you, because they are beautiful and true.

In the Kingdom, where you are and what you are is perfectly certain. There is no doubt, because the first question was never asked. Having finally been wholly answered, it has never been. Being alone lives in the Kingdom, where everything lives in God without question. The time spent on questioning in the dream has given way to creation and to its eternity. You are as certain as God because you are as true as He is, but what was once certain in your mind has become only the ability for certainty.

Main Objective: PART I

Awareness of the Ego and the 4 Agreements

Giving you awareness of these 3 topics

1. Understanding only you control your world. Which is the inside world of your mind. Your beliefs, emotions, feelings, and choices. Choices of ego fear, and unforgiveness or truth and love? The outside world doesn’t matter. It only matters how you respond from your inside world.

2. Understanding the ego human behavior you can now see and understand that they live in their personal ego dream world or movie. To understand basic human ego behavior, and see it in others. To see how the ego tries to control their outside world with emotions of anger, conflict, accusing, blaming, attacking, judging, I’m right you’re wrong, I’m special, you are not, etc..

3. The 4 Agreements and companion lessons, gives you easy explanations and everyday tools to implement your awareness and understanding of the basic human nature and the ego thought system.

Assignment:

Read the Relentless book

Read the 4 Agreements book, The Energy Bus, The Let Them Theory, Mastery of Love book and Ego section

See Owners Manual section read and take your time to figure out who you are and want to be. Focus more on the inner values and characteristics you want to develop and have.This is where you make sure you know what you want, who you are, and who you want to be. Integrity, honor, self-respect. Likes, dislikes, inner goals, and outer goals, etc…

Read God’s Knowledge Thought System in the Knowledge section

Now there is no excuse of ignorance

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The rest is up to you. It’s your choice! Are you ready to learn more about being both the teacher and the student. Do you want real power? This not for the lazy person. This is where you must have the want & willpower to improve your emotional intelligence.

Laziness is the original sin

PART II

Your 2nd choice takes the willingness & willpower to improve emotional self-control …

1. By practicing self-discipline, responsibility and implementing the 4 Agreements you can effectively improve communication skills. (along with developing self-love, knowing who you really are and what you want, improving your foundation, or updating your owner’s manual)

2. You can now brush off their words or actions because you now have knowledge of their personal ego’s control. You get angry or upset less often, and you can now respect their ego dream or movie. You see how the ego only protects your ego personality, not the real you, your inner heart or soul. You have the everyday tools to communicate more effectively and deal with their ego opinion and any possible conflicts. You have the improved ability to control your emotional reactions and now you respond in the present instead of reacting. You are not trying to control them or any other outside event or interaction. This is where you pull it it all together with this new knowledge of these 3 key areas. This gives you a great advantage in your personal and business life.

3. You don’t hate or judge them anymore. You still don’t have to like them or even associate with them if possible.(discernment) You now understand it’s God’s role to judge your brothers and sisters, not you….

….you become Bulletproof

Use the 4th Agreement… practice, repeat, practice, repeat….

…you become Relentless

Assignment:

A… Read the Awareness & Emotions section

B… Read the Love section, Read the 5th Agreement and Belief section

Implementing the 4 Agreements is the start of awareness. Seeing how the ego controls them. You understand its their ego movie, they are the creator, producer and star, it has nothing to do with you, it’s their image of you. Look for the signs and their real intention behind their words. By being the observer of your thoughts and emotions. By not automatically reacting, getting frustrated or mad, saying or doing something dumb. You wait to respond with wisdom or choose to say nothing or to agree. Now many people won’t say anything because they don’t want to have a conflict or other reasons why they don’t reply. That’s not awareness.

END OF BASIC COURSE

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Many people never get out of autopilot. Never wanting to live in the present. To respond from your true self, not reacting your automatic ego thought system. Never want to or looking at wanting to improve themselves. Always the other person's fault, nothing to do with themselves.

Autopilot is the unconscious ego thought program that was loaded in our upbringing. Its usually more balanced towards being more selfish and self-centered. Its degree of hold on each individual varies with the person's personality and the quality of the original programming.

You must have the want or desire…..

You need to teach yourself this:

Become a master of your energy (your inside world)of intentions, emotions, thoughts, and feelings (is how you master your outside world or environment, which is how you master your life).

No one can teach you this, I can only point you in the right direction

The teacher and learner are the same. YOU

Teaching and learning is a constant process; it goes on every moment of the day, and continues into sleeping thoughts as well.

ONLY YOU control your thoughts…

• YOU create your inner world

• YOU control your desires, intentions, beliefs; and your life

• YOU can't control the outer world but……

• How you react or respond to the outer world comes from your inner world. Our inner world is where we reside and live.

Your energy, ATTITUDE, attention, desires & intentions are yours to control. Understand the power of your mind & your attitude.

Your whole life is your inner world…

To understand we each live in our self-centered personal opinions, dream world, as the creator, producer, director & star in our movie…..

….. The Ego or the Ego Thought System - Most of us don’t think of the ego as a thought system, & that it is our automatic thought system that runs our personal dream world or movie. This is an important subject, rarely taught & should greatly improve understanding of basic human behavior.

Emotional Intelligence

Who taught you about basic human behavior? Why do people act like we do? Why do we often react with anger, frustration, and jealousy? The hard part is that you have to learn to self-develop this skill set.

Emotional IQ is an important life skill rarely even talked about

1st Update your Owner's Manual

It's about Honor, Integrity, Goals, and Dreams. Taking care of my inside world will dictate the outside world. NOT the other way around.….

Then You Need Awareness

It is about not automatically reacting in conversation to events or certain interactions.

This is one of the many hard parts of this. To be in the present, to pay attention to what you hear, how you perceive it and to respond not to automatically react. Pay attention to your emotions as you interact with people and in your conversation.

Research shows 70-90% of people operate unconsciously, trapped in neural pathways from childhood conditioning.

Your mind is programmable. Reality is shaped by your thoughts and beliefs. You are NOT the fixed identity you think you are.

Masterying Awareness

First understand that anything you experience you choose. Thoughts or intentions of love or goodness then actions.

And you choose it in two different ways. You choose it on a level of consciousness, which means you intend to get something, or you choose it through your unconscious behavior and belief systems, (the ego)which means, “It always happens to me and I don’t know why.” Now both of these things are operating concurrently, so you always have a combination of things going on: your life as you intend it and your life as you undermine it through your unconscious patternings. And the two things fight all the time. “I want a lover, why don’t I have a lover?” “I want more money, I can’t seem to keep more money.” “I want a friend, but I don’t have a friend.” You can ask all these questions and we will give you the same answer anytime: that when you have a pattern that sabotages your own life’s intentions, you have unconscious patterning that needs to be cleared. Now this is one level of understanding and we will say that this is number one.

#2… Since the beginning of time. You have believed you have been separated from Christ. You are not, we are all part of his eternal energy. You must change to higher frequency. (Your attitude)When that higher frequency becomes understood in an energy system, the energy system responds and the energy system shifts and then the personality changes that are required to bring this forth into fullness make themselves known.

Let's say, when you was very small, you ran to a bicycle, the biggest bicycle that you could find in a parade of bicycles in a nursery school setting, and you fell off the bike in front of everyone. And that created a pattern for you of believing that if you strived for public attention you would fall and be ridiculed and you would then be placated by your mother, who would comfort you. So what this does is actually create a patterning that failure will produce comfort. And that is a pattern (habit) that we will now change in you through this simple exercise.

Intention/Attitude & The Word

To change thoughts you must have an intention this is then stated, and what happens when this is stated is that an energy configuration will now begin to radiate through the energy field from the heart center and within the causal body, which is the Christ body, the created body in perfection. The divine principle, the active principle of God, if you wish, in action, is called the Word. In the beginning was the active principle, and the manifestation of it in form is the truth of who you are. The alignment to this truth is another matter entirely. You have been gifted with free will. You assume yourself to be as you want, and you confirm your reality in consort with your fellows, who would in most cases have you agree with them.

You in smaller terms also have the power of God's word. But you must back up the statement & new intentions with the 4 Agreements and in your actions.

• To do this right you must read and add the 5th Agreement.

• Read the belief section in this substack. To be in the present not thing from your automatic ego thought system.

• To see how the ego controls other people.

• Then if you have the want and willpower to see it in yourself.

It is not easy as we are just a small part of God's (in his likeness) eternal energy in human form. We must use discipline and wisdom in learning to break old ego habits. To see with his eyes. To merge our inner heart or soul (Gods love) with our mind. This isn't for the lazy person. It's a life long task to minimize the ego.

“Oh, look at that terrible thing.” “Look at that lovely man or woman.” “We will tell you what to desire, who you should be, and what you should agree to.”

The True Self exists beyond conformity, and conformity is always to one thing—history. You are conforming to history by your acquiescence to it. By acquiescence we mean agreement again. “I will agree that this is a Sunday. Everybody says it’s Sunday. I will not be the only one wrong.” Your decisions are based in history on your domestication. “I should have this kind of a job, this kind of a practice, this kind of a mate. I should be seen in these ways because, if I am not, I am not in agreement to the history that I know myself through.”

True Freedom and Breaking Free of the Ego & Domestication

This is what the Toltec books talk of and is domestication. Things, ideas and beliefs instilled, taught or programmed into us all as a child. This isn’t bad it’s just what happens. Each of us different because of different personalities, parents, teachers, religion, etc. Much of this comes from a belief of being separate from God. A life of not having enough, always wanting and desiring more and never having enough. A world of scarcity. A world of protecting the ego self.

Much of the below is from Paul Selig's books

I Am Free

When you understand that the claim and statement of the words “I am free, I am free, I am free” transforms history by a new agreement, you can operate through this claim and begin to express as the True Self . This does not make you Jesus. We are not saying you are going to walk on water. But you are going to know your relationship to the divine person that is inherent in all manifestation. - We are all a part of God's eternal energy.

And this statement and new belief and habits will radiate to dismantle and transmute and clear the old patterning or habit that was inhabiting the auric field, and the auric field holds your consciousness.

What we are doing is cleaning a window so the light may shine through the window, and this is a dirty window that requires some cleaning. So this pattern has now been eradicated in consciousness. What this means for you is that you no longer need to create from it in order to feel like yourself. Because when you create from an old pattern or old ego habit, what you are actually doing is making yourself feel at home, as how you pretend to be, because that is how you were told you are and because that is the behavior you have acted on since your childhood.

We will also tell you this. Once a behavior has been eradicated in consciousness, the physical body will have to stop the patterning that it holds that wants it to move where it has always gone. If you can imagine someone that no longer smokes but still feels the need to put the cigarette in his mouth, now this is not just a physical sensation and requirement, this is, again, through the consciousness in an old pattern of behavior, but it’s one of the reasons that people revert to old patterns (habits)even when they know they don’t have them anymore or they have quit. Now in this case, when we say that something is eradicated in consciousness, we are actually saying that it is done and the only thing that can bring it back into being is choice to re-inhabit a pattern. Period. If you clear something, if you divorce something, you still have the choice of reclaiming it, or remarrying it, or at least going on a little date with your ex to see how it feels. Well, guess what? To the extent that you do that, you actually recreate patterning. You call it back into being and you recreate it as if from a mold. It has a place, you know where it goes and you know what it gets you, even if it’s painful and you are used to it.

Now what you have just done is set an intention that you will not reclaim the patterning, and consequently you have just manifested a real change in your consciousness. And what you have just done is created a system that withholds old behavior in consciousness from returning to become one with the self. The image one sees in his mind’s eye is of a small bay that is protected by a jetty from the larger ocean. And what we have done is essentially erected this jetty around a behavior to protect the self from re-incurring what is essentially nothing more than a crappy habit of knowing the self in a wrong-minded way.

The True Self does not judge. She does not fear. She does not speak ill of her fellows. She does not speak ill of her small self, either. Why would she? How would she be a friend and an ally if she did such a thing? The entire idea of separation is an idea that you have manifested, believed to be true, but it has never been true.

You all have ways in which you know the self that you hate, that make you crazy, that you wonder why you continue to perpetuate, because it makes you feel awful or it makes you feel frightened or it keeps you stuck. You all say to yourselves, “I know, I know, I know, I know. I know I love myself, sort of, but I don’t, really, otherwise why would I keep doing this? Why would I create a bad relationship? Why would I do this on my job? Why wouldn’t I lose the weight?” or whatever you want to say to yourself. Everybody has these things.

We want to address one thing that you can do right now in order to transform yourself in a different way than the one example we just gave you. You actually have choice as thinkers about what you think, and how you think and when you think. You all have choice, and the disclaiming of this choice is part of what keeps you in habits that have been perpetuated by unconscious behavior. It’s why you always say, “Here I go again.” “Here I do it again.” “I don’t want to do it, but I’m doing it.” “I am thinking that way, I am doing that thing that I say I can’t do, because I know it makes me unhappy.” And yes, we are speaking about your thinking and patterning around thinking that takes hold. Everybody has thoughts. Everybody has issues. No one is exempt.

And we’re going to teach you now a simple way to reclaim your thinking from the lower self, the lower self being the false self, the ego self, the one that perpetuates the worry and the fear at this time. This is not something that can be done once. This is about a new pattern or habit, and like any new pattern it needs to be ingrained in consciousness and in behavior for it to become fully realized in your life. But this is a simple action that we will adjust you to now. If you would state this intention: “I am now in dominion over my thinking. I am now realizing myself fully as the one in control of my thinking. I am now choosing to think only those thoughts that will bring me benefit and anchor in this new way of thinking fully into my consciousness.” (or something similar)

Now once this is stated, once again, you bring energy to a conscious intention, and when this is so, this intention is set and created by you and it is done to the extent that you align to it and allow it to be done. Yes, this does mean you do not have to continue to think in the old way. Period. But it does not mean that the habit’s still not there and must be recreated through your own intention. So you have to create a follow-up, or repeat the saying, that will assist you in your thinking as you go through your day. Once you set the intention to release the old patterning, you go about the business of cleaning house. And cleaning house means, very simply, doing what you need to do to ensure that on a habitual level you don’t start reverting because you get bored, or because it’s easy, or because you feel silly if you don’t have your worry. You do not call forth a new pattern without having to inhabit it. But when you inhabit it, you actually have to take responsibility for yourself in the new patterning.

You must be able to have the intentions of love and follow through actions to break free of the ego control. To look at your old beliefs and update them with facts like you are an eternal energy being in a temporary body. You are eternal as a tiny speck of God's energy.

If you change the pattern, then you have a different response and a different way of existing in the world. If you believe that things will always be the way they have been, that is what you will create.

1. Once you have stated an intention and to change,

2. then you have to acclimate to it. And that means to respect it and to believe it and to honor it. (the 4th agreement) You cannot set out an intention to clean your apartment and then throw a bottle of garbage on the floor and sit back and expect it to be cleaned. You have to take the actions that correspond to the intentions. But that doesn’t mean blind action. It simply means staying conscious and present as your intention and follow through. When we say acclimate, we simply mean you have set the intention and now you have to let it settle in, and honor it, and believe it, and trust that it is coming into fruition. Again, you must have follow through with you actions. That is part two.

3. The third part is reception: “I am in my reception of my intentions, reaping the benefits of that which I am trying to change. Enjoying your new attitude and benefits.

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Ego’s Fear

The requirement of fear has always been to be what it is in any form it can take. The masks that fear wears are already known to you in obvious ways, but the significant ways that it can sneak in are occasionally misunderstood. You don’t understand that manipulation is fear, but manipulation takes many forms, including acts of kindness that are only present for one to get what he or she needs. You don’t understand that fear may mask itself as glorious. The victor decides who wins and crushes the one who is defeated, but the idealization of the victor comes at a cost.

Some of you decide that what it means to be a man or woman is to be in fear because you were taught by those who encouraged fear. If you are not afraid, you will be harmed. “Stay alert, stay on guard, be very careful who you speak to, who you let close.” “Do not go into the light. You may be burned by the sun.” These are teachings in fear, and if you have adhered to them thus far, you have paid the price for them.

The way to bypass fear is to lift above it to the self that cannot agree to it, nor ever will. You are the one who has to choose it, and anything else that is chosen in this life, in this way, is chosen by you, no matter what you give of by way of authority to another, you are the one in choice. No one else can choose for you. No one else can change you. No one else can heal you in the beliefs that you hold. We can only honor you and give you instruction to vibrate with the frequencies or attitudes that will allow you to make the changes you require to transform yourself and your thinking and your consciousness as and into the frequency of love.

It is time for you to understand that your feelings are an aspect of the self that you actually can control. And when you align your feeling self to the higher frequency, that self begins to inform how the feelings can change, so that you are not ruled by lower frequencies when you feel frustrated or alarmed or depressed because you will understand that your feelings can be transformed through your intentions of love and new actions as much as anything else can.

When you decide that you can know yourselves in love, you will no longer harm one another. When you can decide that you don’t need fear to be your teacher, you can move beyond the agreements you have made to it, but you have made many agreements in fear that you don’t even know.

Take a moment now and think of four things that you were taught to be fearful of—what your mother said, or the church said, or your teacher said, or the married partner said—what you agreed to in fear. And then ask yourself another question: “How has my life manifested by agreeing to these things?” You will be very surprised at what you see. Some of you still don’t talk to strangers. Some of you still fear that if you step on a crack on a sidewalk, your mother will be broken. Some of you still think that if you tell the truth, you will be hurt, and that it is safer to tell a lie to protect yourself. But you don’t know that the repercussions of these choices are actually informing your lives and teaching you through the repercussions of them.

If you are not choosing in fear, then how are you choosing? If you are not choosing in fear, you are choosing in several ways. You are choosing out of habit—“I have always done it this way, so I expect I will continue to”—which is historical data. You are choosing out of expectation. “I am expected to be this or that, so I will act in accord to it.” Or you are choosing in reason. “If I choose this, that will occur. If I choose that, I will have that experience.”

Now as you begin to operate as the what that you are, an etertanal energy being in form and field from God, how you choose begins to transform as well. Because you are not aligning to habit out of recourse, because you are not choosing in fear.

The thunderbolt comes with the awareness that you have always been free, but your limited self, in its ascriptions to what she has been taught, has been denouncing her freedom at every opportunity. “I can’t do this. Look at that person over there. She said she was free and she lost her husband. Look at that one over there. He said he was free. He is in the madhouse. I don’t want freedom if it means losing what I have.”

True freedom is the requirement of the Divine Self, who has released the need to conform to institutional policy, rhetoric, decisions made for him or her by others that would limit the soul’s true expression. It is the release from all the alignment that you have confirmed by nature of being born in a field corrupt with fear that you have enjoyed and agreed to. The freedom that we speak of is the freedom of and from fear and all those things that it has wrought.

Stage 0: Unconscious Existence

You're trapped in loops, reacting to life's script without awareness.

95% of human behavior runs on autopilot from childhood programming.

Most people live here their entire lives, uninspired and disconnected.

Stage 1: Awakening

A moment of clarity shatters your reality.

You see how childhood "agreements" with family and society wired limiting neural pathways.

Stage 2: Self-Awareness

You become the observer of your thoughts and emotions.

Grounded in the present, you can finally see the source of past conditioning.

This is where real transformation begins.

Stage 3: Detachment

You unravel conditioning that doesn't serve you.

Your ego will fight hard to maintain its identity.

But as you release these burdens, you feel light, expansive, ready for authenticity.

Stage 4: Self-Discovery

Free from limits, you explore your true essence.

Passions, purpose, dreams - the real you emerges.

You're laying out puzzle pieces of your authentic self.

Stage 5: Design

Now you get to design the life you always intended.

Working from your purpose-driven future back to today.

This roadmap becomes your subconscious mind's target.

Stage 6: Development

You forge an unshakable mindset with daily practices.

Life designed with intention becomes a filter for distractions.

Everything aligns with your vision of success.

Stage 7: Discipline

You wield these tools to overcome all obstacles.

Neural pathways entrench with full faith in fulfilling your purpose.

You become master of your inner world.

Stage 8: Expansion

You access flow states at will.

That zone of effortless performance, full expression, deep immersion.

Productivity increases up to 500%. You're living your dream with joy and ease.

Stage 9: Transcendence

Beyond personal success, you share your gifts with the world. Connected to universal wisdom, you build a lasting legacy through service. This is living in permanent flow.

Most people get wrong about awareness:

They think it's just meditation or mindfulness. But true awareness is systematic reprogramming of your subconscious mind. It's understanding that your current reality was created by unconscious beliefs... And you have the power to consciously rewrite them. Every thought, every emotion, every reaction can be transformed.

This begins with a simple discovery:

There's a continuous stream of thoughts in your mind that narrates your life.

Sometimes it speaks as "I"

Sometimes as "you" (when you're annoyed with yourself) Most people never notice this—they think they ARE the voice. You must become the observer. The problem isn't thinking itself.

It's that most mental activity is:

• Repetitive

• Unnecessary

• Focused on problems that don't exist

People lie awake worrying about scenarios that never happen, creating suffering from thin air.

Get yourself out of the installed automatic thought program:

Learn to be in the present, not to automatically react, but respond.

Your body cannot distinguish between an actual event and a thought.

When you think fearful thoughts → your body produces stress hormones

When you imagine conflict → your nervous system activates fight-or-flight

ATTITUDE

Your Energy choice

Your predominant mental state affects:

• Who you attract into your life

• What situations do you encounter

• Your physical health outcomes

There's a correlation between inner state and outer reality.

The first step to freedom:

Be Aware of the voice.

Don't try to stop it or judge it-just notice:

"Oh, there's that thought again"

"I've been having this same worry for years"

Awareness alone begins to break the identification with thoughts.

Practice this throughout your day:

When you catch yourself in mental thought loops, ask:

• Have I had this thought before?

• Is this thought necessary right now?

• Is it creating a problem that doesn't exist?

You'll discover 80% of your thoughts are recycled worries.

Step 2:

Name what you're experiencing

"Thinking... thinking... worrying... planning..."

This labeling creates distance between you and the mental activity.

You shift from being IN the story to watching it unfold.

Step 3:

Notice the gaps between thoughts

Even in the busiest mind, there are micro-moments of silence—between breaths, between words.

Rest your attention there.

These gaps are doorways to the peace that's always present beneath the mental noise.

Becoming aware of the voice is just step one.

Without proper guidance, people often get stuck watching their thoughts for years—aware but not free.

True liberation requires understanding the deeper patterns...

People with high emotional IQ

Validate others without absorbing their emotions.

"I can see you're really hurt" doesn't mean taking on that hurt.

They're emotional witnesses, not emotional sponges. This boundary is what allows deep empathy without burnout.

Anxiety might show up as chest tightness. Excitement as stomach butterflies. Anger as jaw tension. They catch feelings at the physical level—before the mental story takes over.

Between stimulus and response, there is a space. "Emotionally intelligent people have trained that space to be wide enough for wisdom to enter. One breath can change an entire conversation's trajectory.”

Thoughts are loud, repetitive, and fear-based. Intuition is quiet, singular, and neutral.

They take responsibility without self-flagellation. Excited AND scared.

Love someone AND need space.

They might feel grateful AND sad. While others demand either/or, they live comfortably in both/and…..

……They regulate through their nervous system, not logic.

When triggered, they don't think their way out.

They might:

• Step outside

• Move their body

• Take 3 deep breaths

Body first, mind follows.

They're curious about their triggers.

Instead of: "That person is so annoying"

They ask: "Why does this specific behavior activate me?"

Every trigger becomes a teacher pointing to unhealed parts of themselves.

They know when to leave.

Conversations.

Relationships.

Situations.

They don't endure out of politeness or guilt.

Their departure isn't dramatic—just clear recognition: "This is complete for me."

Awareness of your heart or soul mind- one mind, one law

The Mind of man is some part of the Mind of God; therefore it contains within itself unlimited possibility for expansion and self-expression. The conscious mind of man is self-knowing. It knows and recognizes man's true self. It can range the entire universe to assemble knowledge of facts. It can take these facts, weigh them, balance them, and arrive at conclusions. This ability to choose between evidences, and to accept or reject them, is the result of man's conscious ability TO THINK INDEPENDENTLY OF CONDITION.

The Spirit is the only CONSCIOUS Intelligence in the universe. Because of this, It is the only DIRECTIVE Intelligence in the universe. Man's conscious mind, being part of the Mind of Spirit, is likewise directive. Thus man can mold the conditions in which he chooses to live. Since there is only one Mind in the universe we know that It must be eternal, for It was the First Cause of all there is. But that Mind functions in different ways. In its self-knowing state It is Spirit. In Its automatic impersonal creative state, corresponding to the subjective mind of man. There is only

One Mind, One Law, One Creation, the Mind, Law and Creation of God. God and man are One, on all three levels of expression. In Universal Mind is contained everything that ever was, is or shall be. That is, everything is there IN ESSENCE. This is difficult for us to grasp, because our senses tell us that things originate in different ways or through different creative processes until one sees clearly that Mind is the ONLY CREATIVE AGENCY in the universe he is going to be puzzled by apparent incongruities in his study and practice.

When he realizes that all other APPARENT creative agencies are merely MIND working in different ways he will see the singular unity running through every activity and every manifestation of Power in the universe. When he grasps the truth that things exist in the Universal Mind as ideas, and that IDEAS TAKE FORM AND BECOME THINGS as the result of the action of Mind within and upon Itself, he is getting nearer to an understanding of the entire creative process.

The invisible essence of Mind is Substance, which is an unformed stuff, energy. This energy exists everywhere throughout the universe, waiting to take form. It takes form as man makes his demand upon himself -- that is, Spirit in man is making Its demand upon Mind in man to give form to the Essence of Mind.

Substance, while ever ready to take form, is unable to do so because it lacks self-knowingness.

Man as spirit possesses self-knowingness, therefore when he makes his demand, Mind brings Its Essence(Substance) into form, and the creation or demonstration is made. All of this may seem very abstract and far removed from the settlement of daily problems. On the contrary, it is the most practical and intimate knowledge possible, and is fundamentally necessary to clear thinking. In the limitless surrounding ocean of Mind exists everything that we shall ever demonstrate, even though it lies there in an unformed state. It can flow out into form ONLY UNDER THE DIRECTIVE WORD of God and of man: God in the Great World: Man in the Little World. Thus when MAN speaks his word, the Law of Mind responds as to the directive word of God. Mind in Its unformed state, containing the potential of EVERYTHING that man ever hopes to accomplish or have, can be called forth into individual use.

The entire resources of the universe are at man's call. So, in man's little world, he gets nothing except that which he has first formed as a mental concept. Every joy he ever experiences every surge of health he ever enjoys, the home he is to own, the business he is to build, all, all exist NOW in Mind, awaiting his mental formulation of them WITHIN HIS OWN CONSCIOUSNESS.

Every bit of business we ever do, every condition of health, MUST come out of consciousness, for our mind is some part of that One Creative Mind. BOTH BODY AND SUPPLY ARE PLASTIC. THEY ARE MIND HELD IN FORM